How to Get Your Money Back from Someone Who Owes You
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- čas přidán 21. 07. 2024
- Chris Voss, former lead kidnapping negotiator for the FBI and author of "Never Split the Difference," knows how to get what he wants. In this episode of "Everyday Hostages," an original Moneyish series, Voss breaks down exactly how to get your money back.
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What makes me mad is that they are very quick to borrow your money but slow to pay you back
Sometimes they don't even pay you back.
Ikr my so called "friend" even stricts me for money and she never gave it back. And never will. And litterally she asks for homework too. How dumb.😒
Just like Companies there quick to take it but takes forever to get it back
i always wonder why 😩
@@babulitis Dump her then 😲
I never loan money. I never borrow money. That I how I lost all my fake a$$ friends.
Beat Advice i had Learn the hard way .
Your only have friends when you have Money.
Your best friend is your money!!!!!
cheights13 agreed
So what for you need friends?
I will follow this from now on.
Exactly they were never your friends to begin.
They are just like “it’s only 50 dollars”
I’m like, then pay it damnit. You promised you would. And then they try to give me old gift cards to fast food restaurants. It’s straight bull
But somebody took $300 from me 😭
Ikr
@@HeartistMurali same here. 320€. I Wanna challenge him in a boxing match so bad haha
Try 3000$ from a "mentor". I can't sleep well and I'm so stressed knowing he owes me this money and I have no job at the moment.
@@christianbrito2507try $5000 from your own family
Everyone in the comments probably just lost someone they thought was their friend 😔
Had a "best friend" with who I spent my vacation, we had a fight there which made her think she doesnt own me to pay for apartmant, she still didnt one year later, my parents paid for her
Me, 3 TIMES. 3 PEOPLE. DISGUSTED.
Own so called family..🤣🤣🤣
@@MilenaKoncar same situation here 🥲its been a month they said they'll pay me back after the end of the month
Or an ex !
I no longer lend anyone money, because most people who ask to borrow money (90%) do not value someone helping them out. If they valued the assistance theyd immediately reach out to you and start paying at least $5 a week until they got back on their feet. The reason 90% refuse to do that is because they only care about themselves and view what others do for them as nothing. Notice how 90% of people who borrow money, even when they do pay you back, wait for the lender to contact them at least twice a week just to get them to give you 10% of what is owed. Then if youre not careful.and call a 3rd time, theyll call the police for harassment.
So true
Unless they are parents and God fearing people never lend money to strangers or friends who have no faith in the God- creator of everything. If they deny higher power they will do everything not to pay back your money which you earned every penny by working hard.
Then you call the police first! Without telling them! Its theft
Yup learned my lesson ,will not ever again be loaning money out to anyone ……the most embarrassing part I hate is to have to ask you to please pay back because I now need this money,these people I loaned money out are just down right selfish,and we’re never really thankful for my help worst of all these are people who actually hold down good paying jobs and you see them on Instagram showing off their trips or fun they are having /latest purchases ……pathetic and embarrassing ……just pay up,my situation on money loans 😒
@@lizlom9773 they're narcissists
It's so hard to be nice to the people who borrowed money from u especially if u find out that when they have money they will go shopping first with out paying u. some of them too keep borrowing and when u ask them to pay that u need the money they will be the one who get mad.
Yes I have some trouble how to get my money back
@@mratom3390 not over 50 dollars, especially if your younger like me
I have the same problem my brother owes me $130 it's not that much in the U.S.A and European countries but in where i live it's a lot. and I am a teenager. HE told me he was gonna pay me back 3 days later after he borrowed it. when the day came he told me he is gonna give it tomorrow and now today I asked him then he got mad at me by saying 'Oh I said I am gonna pay you back why are you pushing me?' but I wasn't pushing him, all I was trying to do reminding him and how many days passed the time he supposed to pay back. Now I don't know what to do..
That wouldn't fly where I live. I'm sure it would lead to a restraining order because the criminal (who stole from u) has rights blah blah blah blah.
@@xsupport996 he is your brother just
"Never be mean to someone, who can hurt you by doing nothing"
- Woow!! :O
Yeah it's time gather some friends against them👍
If they refuse to pay and they give you attitude for asking them for it , then you have permission to knock them out from me !
What if she’s a girl?
@@josecorbera4428 get a girl to fight her then 🤷🏽♀️
@@brianaaaaaa what if she’s ur sister?
Joseph Hazel 😩🤣🤣🤣
The fact that people are so unaccountable that you have to learn and pull such tactic baffles me.
Wouldn’t it be nice if people just did what they’re supposed to?. Smh
bustednebs ikr lol
AGREED!!!
Don’t loan people money that you expect to get back. That just creates unnecessary stress.
Yeah I gave Sharon a pic of me and she said she would give me a dollar at school but she lied!
What I’ve learnt is that never lend money to friends- whosoever for whatsoever reasons.
Thank you for this video!
I might probably get it back:)
yeah same 😕
Fr
Same
With this I’m glad that my friends pay me back always
@@Nowhatsgoingon11222you have friends that respect the relationship and value you. Thank you for helping them. Everyone needs a little help sometime
"Now you've got them in a position where they got to follow through"
This guy hasn't met my friends
They are not your friends
@@DreStark Yes they are. Stop expecting friends to be more than they are. We all use each other for personal gain. It's ok that's life
So you don't have friends with values, you Know people that share interests with you. You can call that a friendship, I won't stop having real friends that want my safety and well, my happiness and Know how to love in a way, just cause someone on youtube hasn't found or searched for, the same thing, nothings the same really, just feel bad that u have 'friends' that have no problem in having and abusing your money, While they do that they probably don't care if u need to pay rent or buy food for your own survival, I knew people like that, they were not my friends, but they did enjoy my money.
@@DreStark You're going to be disappointed by friends. That's when you know who your true friends / non-blood related brothers and sisters are. I'm just saying save yourself the heartbreak and disappointment of ONLY seeking out good-hearted, honest, and empathetic friends. You know how rare they are. For example if you're a businessman; there is money to be made from networking - and you would call some of these ppl your friends, right? Yet they are out to make the most profit from you. So with that in mind use them too. It's part of the game. I have true friends and believe me, it took a lot of BS and many years to find my inner circle. Still, when it comes down to it I only have two REAL "friends", and that's my dad...and myself. That's it.
Exactly.
I made the mistake of doing the dumbest thing ever, that being lending a guy money I was sleeping with. We were good friends before and when starting to have relations our relationship got weird. I think he was always insecure on my success over him. I lended him $200, after genuinely feeling bad, then he began to duck and dodge me for months. Which was far from expected. So now I have given up and just know that he’ll continue to get his karma from screwing with me.
It comes back...ALWAYS does!!!
What pisses me off is when you do work for someone who wants the work done quickly but then take their own sweet time when it comes time to pay and you really need the money
@Belletaina Ikr! I have a business where I take people to different cities, like a transportation business and now I require any payment plans to be paid before they go.
The best lose a friend is to lend them money.
And then they be like “oh you’re so greedy all you want is money” like bruh you the one asking for money.
Fact
People talking about G's in the comments when my deal is 14$...
Lol mine is 7$
Mine is now over 1000$ , and getting bigger, my friend always takes small amounts and promises to give back the next day but he doesnt. What should i do with him
Claude Speed take him to the back tell him to look in the distance, pull it out it’s over.
20$
Just stop talking to the person, you got a scum bag out of your life for $14.
My dad always taught me to never look to get the money back (don't tell the person you're loaning the money this!) because the way some people go about dodging you and or lying about the fact that you loaned the money to them in the first place no matter how big or small the amount, will usually fuel even the most calm easiest going person to easily become a murderer of the person owing you the money in a heat of passion/rage 😶
so true
Or die of cancer, like my father. The stress caused him cancer and died. In a year and a half after the mess started. Its terrible what stress can do to you.
@@MilenaKoncar Wow! Sad. Yeah, stress will definitely do it! Too bad he chose that route. 😔
lol that's just weak and silly, leaves it open to them KNOWING they can get away with it then
My father always said..."Never loan your wife, your car, or your money to anyone".
when you loan someone money bc you’re nice and they give you their airpods to be held accountable but then steal the airpods out of your backpack right after they give them to you bc they had no intention of ever paying you back!!!! :))))) COULDNT be me.
You can still get ur money back
Whats part 2 when he's or she is dodging you
Alex Luthor yes I need this too!
same, I am about to break that guy's legs when I get to see him
Warn them about suing them, which I'm about to do.
Ask a mutual friend to invite them to a party, and then suddenly show up lol
I let my friend stay in my home because she had no where else to go and she also borrowed 200 dollars and now that am asking for them back she just ignores my calls and messages...
Go after her with friends
some people only think about themselves... they are least bothered about the person who lends the money... It is better to avoid such people in life...if you think some old friend of your is of no way useful to you better to stop trying to create relationship with them... my personal experience.
And then you look like a beggar when asking the repayment. They act big and proud as if they never ever asked you for help. Then they talk as if they are gonna do some favor on you by repaying
You are mistaken. That is not a friend. That is a leech. Get rid of it and move on and learn. It sucks I know.
Please pray for me my cousin is refusing to pay me
How about "How to get CZcams back"?
Last resort : sell the claim to nearest biker gang. Their usual pay is 50%. They’ll get it down on paper for you and payment up front. You’ll get half your money. See the other half as payment for the entertainment to see the creep sweat and get a lesson.
This was actually very good and practical advice. Will be using this...
Whenever someone doesn’t pay me I first try to charge their card on file, if it doesn’t go through I then threaten to call the local debt collection and have called before. It really scares my clients.
I’m going to try these rules. Thanks for the info
I love your video. For the first time I have come to the video that is straight and to the point. Keep it up, and thanks.
My aunt owes me 100 dollars. I now hate her
Really annoying I’m having to watch this because my sibling borrowed money from me last week said he was going to pay me back Friday
Today Saturday he ain’t never called or acknowledged me
I’m pissed I’m a single woman if a person is nice enough to let u borrow u need to have the decency to pay people back I mean it’s just common courtesy
This is me now. On a Sat waiting on my money from Friday my sibling!!! Smfh!!
my friend borrowed my shirt and is saying she can’t find it, it was $40. then i seen a pic of her on her snap story with her wearing it :/ what do i do? i confronted her and i said “why are you wearing my shirt?” she said “ummmmmm Don’t know”
I need more information on this!
Imma be like stewie where is my money
I’ve found that sending nice but firm emails and following up with phone calls gets me paid. Worked every time, no problems
If they are ready for physical violence, you can't get.
@@HeartistMurali lol
My problem is I need to borrow money sometimes but I'm always clear in my mind that i have to pay the person back on time no matter what.Either they ask or not. On the otherside i always seem to help people with 0% interest in giving me my money back. I sometimes need to make payments so i need to borrow money for a few days and i have a bad habit of testing people but i have lost alot of hard earned money by doing so.
I took a coworker to small claims court and won the case. Actually getting paid back falls on me, but "she" claimed after two months of non payment that she'd pay me her tax return. Tax season came and went and then she claimed "they took it" and walked away. Now, I am still trying to get paid back. I asked "are you still planning to pay me back?" To that she says, "I don't have it". "When are you going to pay me back?" "When I get it." Ugh! Now I have to get an attorney to write out a writ? That's even more money.
I did same and she is paying now.
What Did you have to do to get this money back?
I spent 200 dollars on my friend and it’s been 3 months now she has to pay me back, I’m littrely crying my mom said she’s using me for money and that’s true
All this does is secure an agreement...the next stage is securing the money. Once the deal is agreed often nothing materialises. Or it starts and runs for a bit but then stops.
I gave someone a 40000 loan and they haven’t repaid a dime in over a year.
Did u really loan forty thousand? Or did u type an extra zero in there by accident?
Hi
Big mistake.
Had you given that $40,000 to me well that would have been a completely different story...and you would be up on that 40G,z.
Actually we would be rich .
Hope you get all your money back.
✌😎👍
@@vanessabayardo9788
I was thinking the same thing when I read that comment.😎👍
@@gojo1970 yeah or he is just been funny. Oh the day I can say I have 40,000 to lend.
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I coulda reduced this down to 3 words......
Press em..... HARD!!!
Keep it a buck tho if I gotta ask for my bread back you can keep it.....
Just know if you ever need me again you dead on it....
My current situation now, have come to know never expect what you give 💔💔
why isn't the wall street journal free?
How many steps untill you bring in the pipe hitting negotiations?
and then go to jail?
Rule #1 NEVER LEND PEOPLE MONEY!! I’m 20 years old and I’ve borrowed people over $13000 together, I’m slowly getting this money back but I promise it’s not worth it. Learn my other peoples mistakes
Great video
at what point after they say they will pay u back next payday which comes and goes, does one take it from their property or being?
Also never be mean to someone who has nothing to loose, except what’s owed!!!
Me at the beginning of the video: hehehe look at this goofy guy
Me after realizing he’s Chriss Voss: 😮😬
What if they do say yes when you ask the initial question.. and if they still refuse or dont have the money to pay it.. whats a tactful next step?
atomicdawg100 smash his fkn face in the ground
In-resonant require people to give me their credit card number/info if they buy something from me on a payment plan, or if I loan money. Personally if I were you call debt collections, and scare the person into paying.
@@g4.b3
True say! but there can be legal repercussions and other bs with that tactic.. however if its warranted as a last resort no doubt!!.. i guess it depends on the amounts owed as well and if the costs are more than the return its self.. same goes with calling in debt collectors.. id say for petty amounts based more on principal than actual loss the initial suggestion works best, but in a professional setting dealing with larger sums the latter would be most appropriate.. depending on circumstance and whats at stake 🤷♂️.. but both are great advice, thank You 👍
@@everettvincent1688
so its best to be proactive and have steps in place before lending id imagine.. thank You for the sound advice. good know these things as life skills, id rather not find out by being burned the first time.. 👍
Get Bruno to step on their neck and kneecap until the money falls out
Lending money to a relative who said that he will pay it back in a week, now it's almost 10 months, excuses one after another, and now he stopped from calling or texting me, before he used to call and chat every weekend, it makes me so sad and disappointed from these kind of people that do not appreciate a helping hand
The lady who rented me a room (which by the way was infested, so I left on day 5) of her apartment keeps giving me excuses about not having my deposit back yet.
Take her to court.
@@seanmartin6773 thank u.
If you lend someone money, get something from them that is equal or worth more than what they are borrowing from you. Come up with a payment plan and due date. Don't accept small payments. you want them to pay you everything all at once. As long as you have collateral, they will want to give you back your money or sell the collateral to get your money back.
People sometimes forget and u just gotta remind them. No big deal.
i just cant get the message
I looked this up after my friend borrowed $2
Can someone please respond if this actually worked for them? Because if I ask my family how they plan to settle this they would say when I have the money (which is never) several years and I haven’t seen a dime. Just broken relationships and destroyed health.
how can i reach Chris Voss for advice .. is it possible ?
1:04 a plan to follow that was their idea , well that's extremely over simplistic because we might not agree to their plan because it might be so much in their favor and we're getting a bad deal
What to do if they decide they don't care about setting this reasonably?
I have a court judgment against someone who defaulted on the judgment. She even sent me three fraud checks!!! I've gone through few channels in getting my money. The police report was filed and Marshalls supposedly came out. No one was willing to help me! I'm still fighting and need Help!!
What do I do with the person who says he WILL pay back, but never does? I have too much pride and I have told him 3 times already. I don’t wanna have to tell that many times...
DAMMIT SHARON YOU MADE ME DO THIS
what do i do if they possibly say yes to the “have you given up on settling this reasonably”?
Simple. You give up on your money 😁😁😁
Good day, I am an anxious kid and I've worked hard this past year to earn my money.
And my family had borrowed all of it and I literally am left with nothing, its been weeks and they haven't paid it back yet.
I'm anxious so I've been really quiet about it and when I talk about it they say yes then dont do it anyway, then Of course, my anxious self, takes another week to muster up courage to follow up.
So does anyone have any solutions?
Without like involving this long confrontation thing.
Have you gotten it back?
A boy in my school owes me money not much like 1.50 but I'm still gonna get it back so I'm just never gonna give him money again
It's still your money brah go get it.
Lol for 1.50? Ur stupid
neither a borrower nor a lender be;
for loan oft loses both itself and friend.
Someone owes me alot of money and they are not paying back. I am just frustrated atm..
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I felt this because I gave a “friend £50 because he needed to buy a bike to travel to college he said he’d pay me back in a week, 1 month past and the guy tried delaying everything. Anyone know what I should do besides the most obvious option ?
What happened
@@iloveeverything4380 😂 called the bank n got my money back
The Best trick of denying to lend money to someone in the first place that I've learned the hard way is, when someone asks you to borrow money, for example like he asks for 10 dollars, you just laugh or be sad and say back “hey dude! | am in need of 20 dollars already, I've tried everyone i know but nobody is giving, don't know where to get it if you get your 10 from somewhere please try to arrange my 20 too, I'd really appreciate that" and you'll see him disappearing. Works everytime for me 🤗
They beg so much to borrow, in that same way they should beg to pay.
Lend money to a coworker. A month later I quit my job and moved on to another. The coworker ignored the loan l put him in small claims court
And got over half back. But he threatened me and stock me. Tried to get him arrested. Police don't care.
Never again.
Thank you for stealing my identity and 50 thousand dollars never steal from Jews thank you for listening
Still solid advice!
I sent the dude that question, and immediately got results!
He answered, No.
I asked him when.
He then sent me half of it immediately! Next half in 2 weeks, hopefully !
How to say her.she not return back my mony plses help me
the next half takes the longest
Can I take a legal action against the person who never returned my money
I am never going to lend family or friends any money anymore lol
i'm surprised at how little audience you have! is this a jealousy thing?
I am trying to use this strategy on someone that didn't borrow money from me but actually has a hold over my money and will not give it to me all together I have to tell him everything that I spend it on so for whatever he gives me he keeps telling me I have to learn to live on what I have I just want all my money back and I want to be done with him I hope this works. He's very stubborn and thinks he's doing the right thing for me so I'm not sure. He also tells me that I cannot spend the money on food every month. I go days without food
I have people sign a legal loan agreement can’t trust no one if they fail to repay me on set date they owe me 5% percent interest after the due date if they still fail to make payment I demand payment from them or get my lawyer involved.
im gonna steal all my money back from my brother and mother then i want my revenge for what they did to my money
I'm looking for legal ways to get money from someone who owes you for work you did for them. I know I can file a lawsuit but other than that if they choose not to pay in that way. I want to put on the pressure.
What if they ghost you and block you on all platforms?
What if they lie and don't do what they said they would do and try to avoid you?
Yes
My money went to unknown number 3 months completed up now not came my money what has to do
How does this help? Give examples
A cashier doesnt want to give me my money back i gave her money so she could bring a shoe from another store she ownes but she never brings the shoe and i just want my money back
I haven't watched the video yet but i hope i like get my 390 i guess that was i was giving her 5 every week or 1 everyday for 2 fricking YEARS
My sister conned me out of everything I owned then declared herself insolvent....
What do you do for a living? And what does your sister do for a living?
I want my 5grand a client owes me
(Got my money back in two instalments i tried to be more patient and just called her few times and left few msgs it took her 30 days to give back my money after due date)
I thought I won’t ever get my money back
i got someone that owes me 2G... I'm thinking of letting it go, its an expensive leasson learned the hard way for me. not really much i can do, court is time consuming and sometimes doesnt affect the person. i leave it to karma to get this person.
How did they end up owing you that much money Hunny
Natalie Stevens I did her and her family’s makeup for many events and she was suppose to pay me after all the events
Roberto Alvarado hope u get your money soon
SExisTProfIT GT im here cos 3 people owe me a sum of 7.7k
What if they don't respond to your messages at all?
Master Voss!
I had a client that owed $5k, so I sent a bunch of emails, threatening to send them to collections and called them. Got paid.
Benz Addict
Your situation has an advantage because as a business person you can send the debt to collections.
go ask alice that’s true
What really hurt is twice before she paid me back, so figured no problem. Now she takes trips and I don't have my money.
What makes me feel they are taking money out me of a sudden
this is my situation who owes me one thousand two hundred and doesn't want to pay me back
how to make them repeat the sentence thrice?
Settling reasonably by asking for more money 😒
This saved a mans life today
pay back the money you owe Pewdiepie!