The Truth About Gap Years | Story Time / Q & A | University of Alabama
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Hello loves. This is a video I have been putting off for quite some time now but I felt like the timing was right and I should answer your questions. This is a very hard topic for me to talk about and I want to apologize if anything I said came off rude or is misunderstood, and for getting so emotional at times. I wanted to give you an insight into what has been going on in my life the past couple of years and be completely transparent with you all. It was very hard to finally record and then let the whole internet see. I will see you guys soon with a new video next week. Xoxo, Lauren
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Thank you all for watching and your support! I would like to add that there were some details that weren't discussed because I am not comfortable sharing them on the internet. I wanted to share as much as I could and I hope you understand that some things I would like to keep private. Thank you for hearing my story!
I would live to watch your video but I think there’s a glitch but you love you Lauren!
I cried I’m so proud and happy for you
Lauren Norris omg I relate so much, so nice seeing someone saying it sucks missing out
Girl, I’m a 32 year old senior at the University of Alabama (Bama by Distance) while working a full time job. I can’t imagine being on campus but I’m almost a decade older than you! Don’t let anyone make you feel bad or weird about being a couple years older. Everyone has their own path in life and you’re finding your way on your own time.
You go girl ! 💕
I went to college first at 19, stayed back in first grade, I didn’t do well and got kicked out. Went back at 20 and kicked out again. Went back again at 20-21 and graduated with honors and a nursing degree. Now, I’m a nurse anesthetist after getting my masters. It DOESN’T matter how old you are. Do you!!!
Nicole Kawa that is so inspiring. Thank you
Amazing story! Please tell it to many people who need the inspiration!
Girl that’s what I’m after, I’m 24 going for my BSN, considering nurse anesthesiology!
You r literally my goals, currently in my nursing bachelor's and I really hope I can do anaesthetic afterwards
This is so inspiring and gives me so much hope as well. It has been extremely difficult at uni with Covid and everything. Thank you for this!!
Normalize gap years... I didn’t start school until 21 either and I truly believe that is the best route to take!
I agree. I went to school when I was 18 and didn't know what I was going to do. I ended up with two majors that didn't suit me. Now I am 23 and going back to college again to study my true passion.
I started my program when I was 23 about to graduate at 25 with an associate degree in something I truly enjoy. I've learned to embrace my journey and recognized that it was truly the best route for me.
I graduated at 26. I know people that graduated way older than me. It’s all good. 😊
Same decided to travel as a backpacker before deciding what I wanted just to check where I belonged and what was my purpose and I'm so happy!!
did you get scholarships/some tuition paid for?
This girl did more in her gap year than I’ve done my entire 26 years of life 😭
I basically took a 12 year gap. I ended up joining the navy because I wasn't sure what I wanted to do with my life, and now I'm about to start college as a transfer freshman being older than anyone. This made me feel a little better about it. Thanks
I took a gap year after high school because I didn't know what I wanted to do with my life...and also because I missed all the college application deadlines (I'm a terrible procrastinator). Going into my freshman year I was super self conscious about being older than everyone else even though it was only by one year, and looking back now, I realize how ridiculous that was. I came to find that in each and every class I've taken there were always at least 5 or 6 people in their mid to late twenties (out of a group of 30, usually). I got to know a lot of them and it really put into perspective how little the timeline for one's educational career actually mattered. Like you, a lot of them joined the military beforehand or had children (or both) and put off school until they were ready. I ended up meeting my boyfriend (3 years my senior) freshman year who he himself had taken a 3 or 4 year gap after high school, and we're currently on the same level, credits-wise. It was so freeing to know that it doesn't matter how long it takes to get to where you want to be, as long as you get there eventually. Everybody's got their own path to take. I hope everything's going great for you in school!
This comment was really encouraging, im not planning on going to college until im around 28 because there are other things in my life that take the priority 💓 that being said, I still worry somedays that I'm waiting "too long" or "itll never happen because I didnt do it soon enough", seeing someone else do it really encourages me to not rush my life
Reading this 4 years later.... I am currently a SSG in the army, finally went to college starting last fall at 25 years old and i even rushed and joined a sorority (go ADPI!) but seeing these comments are great. Gap years or joining the military for gals like us (5 gap years actually) can really be the BEST case scenario! I love hearing other success stories about this!
It's such a blessing that you didn't end up taking out those loans. Having that much debt for an undergrad degree is almost never worth it and a huge burden after you graduate. So glad it worked out for you!
Thank you so much! And yes I completely agree, I am very very thankful
Just found your channel and I'm loving it! I am a 27 year old college junior. Life happens! Society puts so much pressure of young people to follow a specific "timeline". The reality is that there are no rules! Thanks for sharing your experience!
Yessss!! I am 28yo. At first you think it will be difficult to fit in, until you realize that each one has their own path, regardless of age. Proud to have made the decision to go to college (med school) that day, now I am so excited in my senior year!!
OMG Yes! I'm a 29 year old junior and I was worried about the huge age difference being a problem. But I'm slowly coming to terms with "I'm pursing this education for ME and NOT THEM!" I really wish I had taken gap years before starting college because I was immature and naive to realize what I really wanted in my life. I wish more people normalized that everyone has different timelines and as you said "there are no rules."
@@meaganwilliams6358 and he is in
this makes me feel so much better being 27 almost 28 myself.
I did get an associates but i cant work in the field i studied due to unforseeable injuries that happened. I am trying to figure it out but I am working my best to do what I can.
Next year, hopefully, I will be a 23 almost 24 year old freshman! Honestly, I feel a lot more mentally prepared for college. The stigma of wasting your late teen years on higher education definitely needs to be eradicated. That time should be taken to grow into yourself, to decide firmly on where your life is going.
Feel the same. I'm in community college at 20, thinking about transferring might be a 22-23 year old freshman. But taking your time is important, rather than feeling rushed to start college.
I had a gap life! Due to my father dying in high school, mentally I couldn't finish school. I completed it as an adult. I didn't go to college then either. I got married and had kids. I ended up at uni (that is college here in Australia) at the fantastic age of 40. I am now 46 and doing a Master of Social Work. The thing with 'plans' is that they can be changed. Life isn't a clear path. It looks like a drunk sailor on shore leave..... all over the place. But that is where the learning and adventures happen when you least expect it. And yeah I'm a 46 year old watching a 22 year old in college in the USA. Meh. Your life fascinates me (psychology major lol). But you are also really sweet so I think of you kind of like if I had of had a daughter I would hope she would have been like you.
I really enjoyed how real this video was, sometimes things don’t go as you expect it to but everything happens for a reason!
Don't sweat it hun, I'm just now staring college and I'm 24. Took a 5 year gap because I got married right out of high-school, and then decided to have kids. I was going to go back when I was 21 after I had my first daughter, but life happened and I became a single mom. The main point is life will happen and it hardly ever happens how we plan, but everything happens for a purpose. Better late than never right
Poor kid
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I really appreciate you telling your story publicly. It gives others hope. I’m super proud of you and everyone graduates and starts at their own pace so don’t feel bad
as a girl from the south (i'm from SC) i can confirm that they really want you to do life in that order exactly. everyone thinks i'm crazy because i don't want kids and they tell me things like i'm only 17 and i'll change my mind. that'll never happen. i want to thrive in my career and travel the world more than kids. that path isn't meant for everyone and that's ok. you'll end up where you're meant to be regardless
I’m from Georgia and SAME. Me and my husband don’t want kids either. We’re 38 now and love traveling the world and being spontaneous. It took me a long time to realize that you can be “ChildFree By Choice”. Having kids is a societal norm.
I'm from Texas so I definitely, definitely, definitely know about the pressure of trying to complete specific stages in life in the "correct" order at the "correct" time that the South brings. (Totally not saying it doesn't exist anywhere else!) I've always been the youngest in my class, I graduated high school in 2017 as well, in my line of cousins, the youngest grandchild, etc. so I put the pressure of completing college and starting a family and finding a job extremely hard on myself. I feel like I have to do things even earlier than everybody because I'm 20 now and I'm about to be a senior in college. It's such a difficult mindset to shake and we shouldn't even be thinking about trying to have the perfect schedule for ourselves when clearly it's in God's hands and He never lets us down! You got this girl!❤️
21 year old freshman seems like absolutely nothing weird to me since we had a 52 year old in my year lol. Age means nothing when it comes to following your dreams.
No, Americans don’t take gap years most of the rest of the world does, y’all need to get out your bubble, love from Tennessee !
Well.. some of us are taking gap years because of Ms Rona😂 we don't have a choice😂 universities are closed till further notice
@Ashley Horton England is chill on education apart from having to take GCSEs at age 15/16
Wdym Americans don't take gap years?
@@ntrlstar I think she means that us Americans right after high school we go straight into college/university while a lot of people take a year break or so in between
Your grandparents seem like they are such genuinely, loving, and giving people. It’s so nice to know that the Lord has a greater plan for you even when your plans don’t go according to your own timeline. 💜😇
They are the best! I love them so much
You inspire me, I am 24 and finishing up college. I don’t think there is anything wrong with gap years although I have felt embarrassed when people ask me how old I am and when I’m done with school. Everyone has their own timeline, pace, and path.
Love how you’re open to share your story.🌸🤍
Hey girl!! I just finished watching this video and when I say I cried I mean I freaking cried. I’m a 24 year old going through my second semester of Nursing school, and I have always felt ashamed and looked down upon because I’m a 24 year old college student. I felt that anxiety of not finding true friends because of my age, that I wouldn’t find those that I could relate to and form genuine friendships with. However, God always puts people in your life who are going to love you and help you be the best you you can be, so don’t give up on finding those peeps!! Your patience and faith in God and His plan for you is inspiring!! Keep the faith and always remember you’re right where you’re supposed to be!!
As someone who has had things thrown at her too, I can tell you that even though it is hard - education is for everyone, no matter what. You are doing what is what is best for you and like you say you shouldn't compare yourself to people i'v done it so many times I look at all the girls I went to school with they have done college, done University, are off married having babies etc. Then there is me age 29! In my second year of college and applying to go to university next year (I'm in England) il be nearly 30 when I start and 33 when I finish and being older makes me more focused and studious knowing what I want to do now, I thought this stuff would never happen for me either. You are doing amazing and you are doing brilliantly and don't let anyone tell you otherwise 💕
Instantly subscribed after knowing this, I’m a first year at 22 and a lot of the college/uni youtubers I’ve been watching are all younger than me. I study in Australia and most of my classmates are 18/19. It’s really nice to not be alone, thank you for being someone I can relate to
I’m so happy I’ve found your channel because I haven’t heard anyone else talk about an experience like this! When I got to college at 18, something switched in my brain and my mental health took a downward spiral, socially, I was having the time of my life, but mentally, physically, and academically, I was struggling more than I even thought was possible for me. To make a very long and complicated story short, at 21, I left that college, came home for a year, and am now starting at a new college as a transfer sophomore at 22! For the first time since high school, I’m actually excited about my education and actually have a positive outlook on my future! Thank you for sharing your story because it normalizes the idea that there’s no set schedule for life, everyone is on their own journey💛💛
This is the story of my life too! Im so happy im not alone. Wish u all the best :)
I definitely relate to feeling left out when all my friends went to college. What amazes me is how many people feel it is ok to be rude to me and tell me how to live my life because I decided college wasn’t for me.
Girl I'm so glad you shared your story. I've been really struggling with my college path and making decisions of where to go as well as what I really want. I took a year at community college this year and now I'm trying to transfer. This video made me feel so much better and I really appreciate it ❤️ you're journey is exactly the way it needs to be and God has got you!
I started community college right after high school, and after graduation I took a semester off before going to university for my bachelors degree. Even during my bachelors program I had to take another break but this was a whole year. I just turned 26 & after 8 years since graduating high school I JUST finished my final college class, ever, on Friday. It’s okay to follow your own path & do what you need to do for yourself during the “gap year(s)” 💛
Your story is definitely one of triumph and perseverance and you have every right to be proud of your gap years! You have so much to show for them, and there's no wrong way to do college. I started at 19 and graduated with a chemistry degree at 26 (a whole 7 years!). I worked nearly full time to pay for school as I went, and had a cluster of health and family challenges that set me back some as well. My program even had a woman in her 50s in the same classes as her son! After graduation, the only thing employers care about is whether you graduated lol. Not how long it took you to get there, or how long it took you to finish. And you never know what serendipity might bring - if I had graduated on time with my undergrad class I never would have met my husband! Whatever happens, seeing how you turned a setback into an opportunity shows so much character I'm sure you will be able to handle anything that crosses your path!
In many european countries is completely normal to take a gap year or two. Strange that in the US it's seen as weird to start college at age 21. I'll be graduating next summer at 23, completely normal. Don't let them take you down :)
this is so interesting to know! Thank you!😍
Girl thanks for telling this, I really needed to hear it. I'll be 20 in my freshman year so yeah.
@@sillypotato53 I’m glad I could make you feel a little better! ✨
I just came across your channel today & I honestly have to say I love your confidence and how much of a go getter you are! Definitely something I can learn from. I am also 21 & I’m not exactly on the same timeline as everyone else I graduated with. I really regret not going away to college and getting that experience and it’s definitely I still struggle with but you did it!💜
Your determination and trust in God is inspiring. It’s going to serve you so well in life. I’m 30 and started my career at 25 after taking time to find myself like you did. I’ve experienced a lot of success in those 5 years and I owe it firstly to God and also to the determined spirit that he blessed me with. Keep going girl, you’re going to do even more big amazing things.
This is so reminiscent of everything I’ve been going through the past couple years. I’ll be starting at 21 also. Thank you for making this video 🥰
I had no idea you were 21. Thank you for making this video. This was a very heartfelt and honest video. College is a process and there is no correct or incorrect timeline. Enjoy your time!
This is the best video I've seen from you! I have soo much respect for you taking those gap years and just now starting college when people are usually graduating around this age. That is not easy at all and I can't imagine being a 21 year old freshman but I respect your choices so much. Your journey is unique and so different and this is what sets you apart from other college youtubers...never forgot that! The best is yet to come! I'm a 21 year old junior in college so this was so fascinating to hear about. Keep up the great content. Roll tide!!! :)
so sweet of you! Thank you so much, roll tide!
“Many are the plans of a man’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails.”
Yes! Yes!
Thank you so much for making this video. You just popped up in my recommended and I have a similar college story and it was super encouraging to hear you talk about it.
I've been out of college for 10 years now and I completely understand what you were going through. I felt like a failure having to do college for 5 years instead of 4 because of my major and then the change of my minor junior year. I personally wish I had taken a gap year but I would probably have never met my best friend from college or literally any of my friends I made there. If I could go back I probably would do the gap year but you were right, in the south everything is on a specific timeline. I am nowhere near at 33 where 99% of my friends are now but the experiences I have had surpass anything they have experienced and I definitely don't mean that in a mean way either but its just what was on the correct path for me. Whether you're a 21 year old freshman or a 50 year old freshman, you decided whats best for you and do your timeline yourself, not for anyone else. Kudos girl, good luck at Bama!!
not everyone's journey is the same - don't be embarrassed! wishing you the best of luck :)
So proud of you for speaking about this hard topic, sending love from Michigan ❤️
love this video! love the explanation and how personal it got! would love a video of your miss Alabama experience!!!!!!
Everything always works out in the end, just keep being you and enjoy life! Gods got a plan! Love your videos girl 💜
Wow what you did during your gap year is impressive. Thanks for sharing this. I bet this will help lots of girls that feel insecure about starting later too. I think it’s great that you took some time off and got some life experience. I hope no one is making you feel bad about that . I’ve seen a couple
of your videos and you seem like such an amazing person. Keep up the good work !! I love your videos 🥰
I’m 21 now, I’ve been very ill for the past few years and have not been able to go to college. I’m going to try again next year (22 turning 23 in my first year) and I’m terrified but videos like these where I know I’m not alone help SO much
I know this is old now, but I love this video! I think you’ll be able to encourage so many young people in the years to come, not to give up if things don’t work out right away. I also love how you spent your gap years and made the most of that time!
You have the absolute sweetest soul. I was the opposite and graduated high school at 16. Went to The University of Tennessee immediately and I was WAY out of my league. I made it through, but I definitely missed the Freshman experience because of my age (and I’m from Knoxville, so I had to live at home😞). You are thriving and I so enjoy watching your channel. Keep going! You’re going to hit some big CZcams numbers if you keep it up! Just make sure your stay your sweet self.🥰
I graduated high school at 16 as well, but I’m from Nashville!
I’m turning 20 in October and I graduated high school in 2019 and now I’m finally going to college and my parents didn’t go to college until they were in their late 30s to early 40s so you do you and do your life the way you want to and don’t let anyone tell you differently
I just found your channel. I want to say I love this! Now, being 33 looking back on going to college straight out of high school I often wish I would have taken time to really figure out what I wanted to do with my life. I really had no idea what I was doing and being asked to make such a huge decision like that at 18 years old I think is nuts! I’m sure if I would have taken some real time in between my story would be so different. Good for you!! So happy for you!
I’m so glad you shared your story! Last year was my freshman year at university and I am 23. It was such an adjustment to be 5 years older than my peers and feeling left out because the people I graduated high school with were graduating college when I had just entered. Everything you said rang true, it’s really isn’t about age but rather maturity.
24 this fall and about to be a sophomore so I feel this
Thanks for sharing your experience. I also took a few gap years for several reasons. I went to college as a 22 year old freshman because I wasn’t 100% sure what I wanted to study after graduating high school and couldn’t get student loans on my own. I don’t regret spending my gap years getting some work experience under my belt and really enjoyed college once I got to go. I ended up getting married and having 2 kids while getting my degree, but I’m so glad I was able to accomplish everything I wanted to. The experiences you had during your gap years sound amazing. I’m sorry that you felt you were missing out, but I’m so glad you’ve been able to have the college experience you’ve always wanted. I recently stumbled onto your channel and I’ve really enjoyed your videos. You seem like such a kind, down to earth person.
Ah I love you girl we are all on our own pace at times I also feel very behind other people of my age, but I hope your college experience goes great, but omg you did all that in your gap year!!! You really put yourself out there and got to try things you probably otherwise wouldn't had!💕
This makes me feel so much better. I had to take a year for myself because of an illness that kept me out of education and I went to university at the age of 19 while all of my friends were at uni starting 18. They were all ahead in their life. I hated being behind, but when I got to university, I found out that there were actually more older people in my course than there were people of the age of 18. It’s crazy!! You’re smashing ittt💛
This video is touching in so many ways. I graduated high school in 2015 and decided to go to work full time and take a few classes at my local county college instead of going away to a four year university. I knew I wanted to continuing my education but had I also had to focus on working in order to afford it. It took me three years to finish community college and I was so excited to transfer to a four year college. I chose to commute to school in order to save money but I soon realized how hard it was to come into a school as a transfer/upper class-men, not knowing practically anyone, and feeling so much older then everyone else. This past spring semester I decided to go out for a sorority as a way to meet people and make friends. At first I was nervous because I was so much older then everyone but when I hear stories from other people, like yourself, who did not follow the traditional college plan and is starting their journey in their 20s makes me feel like I am not alone. And it reminds me that everyone's journey has different timelines and routes and that it doesn't make us anything less. Thank you
Thank you for making this video! I was going to go to start college this year and had everything set and ready to go, but because of Covid I decided to take a gap year. It was not at all what I thought would happen and it was a super tough decision to make. Its nice to watch videos of people who have gone through similar experiences!
This video sticks close to my heart. I took two Gap years before going to medical school. I kept telling myself that I was to old to go to medical school with people who are younger with me and the funny thing is that everyone asumes I’m their age.
I just feel so left out and behind of everyone of my friends. Everyone is getting married and having babies. But now I’m in my third year of medical school and guess everyone has their own path. Although I would love to go back to college and do more and have more of a college experience!
I'm gonna be 24 when I start med school, we can do it! :) xoxo
what’s your advice on medical school
Lauren, I love this video. I went through the same thing, (I’m sure you heard me complaining my senior year)no ones timing is ever the same as the other persons! So happy and so proud of you Miss Lady ❤️❤️
I LOVE AND MISS YOU! Thank you for your sweet comment!
So happy for you! I hope and pray you get everything you want!!!❤️
I loved this! Thank you for opening up so much and being so real about everything ❤️
Hey Lauren,
I am a 23 year old sophomore at U of A! I feel this so hard. I wasn’t able to attend school right away either because I had to pay for every dollar of tuition out of pocket. I understand how this is so emotional and it feels so wrong to have not followed the traditional southern life path. Proud of us for figuring it out on our own terms! 🤍
Thank you so much for sharing this part of your life 💜 it helped me wake up to the fact that being able to go to college is a privilege and not just an expectation
Thank you so much for making this video. My gap years lasted 6 years I had a baby and I’m currently waiting to hear of admission to a university in my state. I felt those same feelings you did of missing out and I was also heartbroken when I found out I wasn’t gonna be able to afford college when I first graduated in 2014... I got accepted into Texas A&M Corpus Christi as a senior in high school but later found out I wasn’t gonna be able to afford it . I literally cried for days and was so depressed girl.. I went down the wrong path and started working as a medical assistant. It wasn’t what I originally wanted to do ever I hate it and I want to follow my dreams again ..
and up until recently I discovered that I am finally ready to go back and get my degree because of my 3yr old . Your story is so inspirational I honestly thought I was the only one who went through this cause I feel so alone but thanks for sharing your story ! 😊
Lauren I love your channel and I love watching yours vids ! There is absolutely nothing wrong with starting school late if it means you come out of it with a degree! I’m happy for you & I wish you the best ! ❤️
I wish I would have taken a gap year right after high school. My first year of college I wasn’t in the right mind set to take it seriously. I didn’t get into my first choice university and was apathetic. I wasted so many credits by taking random classes to see if I was interested enough to major in it. I think if you’re unsure about your major going into university it’s best to experience life a bit and gain some perspective before getting into it.
This is really helpful to me because I get where she’s coming from about the whole thing or you have to go to college in your life kind of planned out for you so thank you for sharing this
I am so glad I stumbled across this video on your channel...I have so much respect for you and your story. Keep working hard and you will achieve everything you've dreamed of and more. Subscribed for life!
I graduated in 2017 as well and am turning 21 pretty soon. I took a semester off of school then moved about 2 hours away from home and started at a community college part-time. I went part-time for 3 semesters and am taking another semester off. All my friends here are in school full time and honestly I feel the same way you felt when you didn’t go off to college right away and it makes me feel SO much less alone hearing you’re starting college now. When I go back to school I’ll be in between my freshman and sophomore years
I just want to say thank you for filming this! It gave me such peace about my life and the situation I am in.
I loved hearing your story! I’m 22 and had a similar journey with college. Went to a community college out of high school and have been a freshman 3 times from transferring.
Thank you for sharing this piece of your story! While I didn't take a gap year, I can definitely vouch for the whole meltdown midway through the semester thing, haha. It's so easy to feel like you're falling behind in life, and with the added stress of school on top of that, it can be brutally overwhelming at times. But you're exactly where you need to be at this very moment! I really hope you *are* loving every minute of it, even if it's a little hard to find your place sometimes with the age gap. You got this!
you are so sweet! Thank you☺️
I was so able to connect with you and have so much respect for you and your life choices! Really inspiring 💕
omg I thought this video was going to be really sad at first but it really did a full 180, the amount of opportunities you had sound so fun and are amazing and I wish you good luck in the future!
(I'm so late to the party cuz I just discover your lovely channel today lol I hope you see this)
I never took a gap year but your video hits close to home really surprisingly...
I decided to study abroad half way through high school so I ended up spending 1 extra year in high school for language reasons... There were a LOT of excitement and difficulties studying abroad for me but also a lot for my friends being college freshmen. Sadly it was very hard to share these experiences and fellings. We eventually went our separate ways with this being the biggest reason.
It makes me happy to see you so thoroughly enjoy your college life now, making friends, making your dreams come true-because so do I
I relate to you so much. I was the opposite- I graduated high school a year early aka one of the youngest in my class. A couple weeks after I graduate from high school, my Dad is diagnosed with a terminal illness called ALS, so I last minute decide to go to the college closest to home even though it wasn't my dream school. My first week of college, my grandmother passes away. All of the stress of everything ended up with me getting sick and I was diagnosed with 2 brain tumors about a year and a half later. For that reason, my entire college experience, I was struggling and suffering, not able to take a full load of classes and no idea what I would want to do someday. I ended up being unable to go to school in person after my Dad passed because I was so ill, so I transferred to an out of state top level college that offered online bachelor's degrees. I thought being a student at a prestigious college would make me happy, but it didn't- I'm so unhappy. So I decided to just get an associate's degree at the local community college (I am graduating with that degree this semester)!!!! I never took a break to heal from all the pain I went through, so I am taking a gap year now this upcoming school year and then I will be transferring to a college in person to finish a bachelor's degree. I relate to you SO much about being sensitive about your age and where you are in your college journey vs others. Our stories are not told very often- I am from the South too and I see my friends getting married and having children, in grad school etc. and I am so upset at how little I have accomplished even though I am only in my early 20s too. Thank you for sharing your story- I finally feel less alone.
Marissa Thank you for sharing your story. You are so strong! I wish you health, love and happiness. 🤗💜
Hope things get better for u
I'm so sorry that you've gone through so much. I pray it gets better for you. 🙏🏾 Hang in there, you are strong. Sending you love and hugs! ❤️
XForevaElla Thank you for your kind words ❤️
Sheldon Thank you- right now they are getting worse. My poor bunny who was only 1 just died today and my heart is shattered. She was a connection to my Dad too. We are moving soon, so I hope getting to a new place will help turn things around
Rewatching this from your original post, if this girl (your old self) could see you now!!! She would be so so so proud 💗. Can’t wait to see you thrive in NYC!!!
Looking back I wish I took a gap year to travel for a year. I love that the universe worked out for you and your grandparents came and paid for your tuition. You look so young and could pass for a 18 year old. Don’t take that personally! Looking young is good haha
this video came on my recommended tonight and I just wanna say thank you, I want to go to school but I took time to travel the world because I had the opportunities to and my biggest fears have been going to university as a 22 year old. I just really want to say thank you because I needed this.
This is so interesting and it's amazing you're talking about it! It's so different in the Netherlands. I took a GAP year right after HS. then I went to uni but didn't like what I was studying so I took another GAP year. Now I just finished my first year and I'm 23, will be 25 when I graduate. I think it's really great you didn't force anything when it wasn't right!
When you were talking about God, I could totally relate to that! As Muslim, we are told to pray to god for anything we want. But we are also told that sometimes our prayers won't be answered because God has something better planned for us. I have experienced this feeling so many times, I wasn't able to go to the Uni I wanted to but I was able to go through a better route, god helped me so much and he enlightened me so much as well. I learnt not to blame others for my own failures and I learnt to remain strong and think positive and think big. I am so grateful to God for changing my life little by little and hopefully one day my dream to achieve so much will be granted.
As a 25 year old that took gap years and never went back for "traditional" college, you are way stronger than I am. I was offered a rodeo scholarship for Troy AL my senior year of high school and turned it down for a guy. (I'm from Mississippi). That to this day is my biggest regret. Ended up married and divorced by 21. Are we surprised? I'm not lol. I watch all of y'all's college videos still today and wish beyond anything I had gotten the full college experience. Congrats to you for having the nerve to do it. Now as a self sufficient 25 year old I'm still trying to figure out how to balance life and just getting in a nursing program at a community college.
You got this! Take your time and you will succeed in anything you try to do!
Gap year(s) are an excellent thing to do!! College is too darn expensive these days to go in so young and maybe not know who you are or what you want to do! Thx for sharing your experience so honestly!! Good for you - you are thriving no matter what situation you’re in!
Omg your “no ma’am” warmed my lil heart up🥰🥹
I’m 21 years old and I start college next month to get my bachelors in Human studies and social services to become a therapist/counselor. To be honest when I graduated from high school I didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life, and even though it hurts to know that most of the people I went to school with will be graduating from college this year I feel like I needed those 4 gap years to figure myself out. I try to look at the advantages instead of beating myself up for the wasted time. I started my business in those gap years and actually found a career that aligns with my purpose in life. Some many people out of high school just pick a major and end up doing something completely different with their lives because they didn’t take the time to figure themselves out. Ultimately I can’t beat myself up for what I didn’t know back then vs what I know now, but I’m happy to know that I am not alone in this journey. I’m truly excited! ❤️
I’m almost 22 and I’m a sophomore at Florida International University! It can be tough but I think having the will to go to college and move forward in life is something to always be proud of, embrace it!!! Sending you lots of love 💕
Thank you for bringing this up. I’m going through the same thing!! My new favorite CZcamsr❤️❤️
HEY.. I am re-watching your video. Girl... I'm 26 years old and have no idea what the heck I'm doing. I tried college and it is not something I wanted ... So, took the working route ... Then my mental health got to me. That's how I ended up in my transition program I am in right now. I'm so happy for you and how far you have come.
I definitely needed this.. it’s nice to know that I’m not the only one feeling this way!💕
Why am I a 37-year-old woman with three kids so invested into your page I love your content. You’re too cute why I thought that you were born with a Silverspoon. I am from Birmingham Alabama currently live in New Jersey and your story is so relatable so happy it worked out for you!!
I relate to you so much! College just didn't work out even though I tried and everyone made me feel so bad that it didn't work out. its very inspiring knowing you found a way bc im trying to get back into school right now, and aye last name twins!!
Transferring colleges and a gap year in between makes me older than my grade as well (hs class ‘16, college class ‘22). I’m SO glad I found your channel and found someone who relates with being slightly older. Don’t let anyone tell you that there’s a rush on school! Also, I actually joined Greek Life this past January! Sending love from a Theta in Texas 💕
same situation! transferring colleges and a gap year, honestly the more people I talk to having a few years of before or during school, or taking a few years longer is pretty normal
Hey there, also 21 here and new to UA as of last semester. Not a freshman to college but still technically a freshman at UA. If ya ever want to talk about anything, or just get a coffee sometime let me know, keep your head up😊
I know I'm late to the party as they say hahah but I really loved hearing your experience because it was the exact opposite of mine. Going to an early college HS and entering college at 18 as a junior was really challenging for me. All of my classmates were 23 or older, I was always the youngest one in my class which resulted in me making hardly any friends. Everyone I knew was either engaged, married, had kids, or even pregnant. I felt like I finished college way too quickly and I didn't even get to enjoy the full college experience. At least you are experiencing your dream now in God's timing which is awesome! Sending love from Texas!😆💕
Girl, I'm in your shoes right now. I started college this fall and I'm 21, and I'm also an International student which sets me aside even more. I definitely feel what you're feeling and it's tough but I'm so happy to see someone in the same situation as me who's thriving. Thank you for sharing your story!
Same...
I was watching your videos and thinking omg she is 23, than I look back for this video and I'M CRYING RIGHT NOW, your grandparents are angels
Love this. You worked through so much adversity, that’s what makes you unique and strong ❤️
I can totally relate to how you're feeling, like you're behind in some way and missing out. Been there myself (I'm a doctor now hehe). And lemme tell you- a year or two or even 5 or 10 or more in the big scheme of things is actually so little. I met people in their 30's, 40's and 50's who just began the path of their dream career. They will still have years and years of fullfilling career they will enjoy. Also the life experience and wisdom are invaluable and make you a better student and human 💕
Definitely about to start college at 22! I tried a year at a small college and it did not end well for me whatsoever but now that I know what I’m passionate about I’m excited to go back and finish
It’s never too late to get an education! I haven’t watched the full video yet but there’s never a wrong time to go to school. Go when you’re ready and it’s right for you.
This is exactly what I needed as a 21 year old starting over in school again as well!
💞I feel ya girl ! I’m 21 to and restarting
I just randomly found your channel and you seem so sweet. I’m curious what you ended up majoring in? Ps. I am out of college but all your videos make me wish I could go back! Would love a makeup tutorial, you’re beautiful and your skin looks flawless!
I can’t imagine the sense of grief you would have felt when you were so young and found out you couldn’t go to college 😔 but I am do glad it worked out for you. And as you get older you will find out that age literally does not matter!
I didn't know you did theatre! I knew we were kindred spirits ❤️ I also graduated from HS in 2017, love your videos!
I took a gap year and took my general Ed glasses at a community College. I do have to admit...as much as I hated waiting a full year to go to my dream school, it was the best decision of my life. Yes, I was older than my classmates and roommates BUT my roommates and the friends I’ve made have been the greatest people in my life and I’m glad I met them and have them in my life.
I totally understand how you felt. I did go to College right away BUT all my friends went to prestigious universities and I was differed from two schools, I ended up losing hope and went to my local community college which took me five years to graduate. My first semester I felt like a failure and really wanted to be with all my friends. BUT looking back it was meant to happen that way. Met my boyfriend freshman year, now husband (8 and half years later), I was able to work full time throughout college, stay next to my family etc.etc. Point being I live in Los Angeles now, worked in the entertainment industry for 4 years and now own my own clothing boutique. EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON.
xx Stef