Behind Closed Doors; India's Elderly are Abused and Neglected
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- čas přidán 20. 07. 2016
- Abandoned, beaten up and sometimes, left on the road to fend for themselves. Elderly in India lead a very different life than the ideal one we see in Hindi films. The Quint decided to investigate the complex web of issues around elderly abuse. India is ageing, but do we care enough?
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My grandmother died at 83.
She was unable to walk with bulky body due to blood pressure.
For using toilet she needed our help.
Sometimes I also cleaned her body parts after she used toilet.
But she was more than a mother to me.
She starved herself to feed me and if she had more additional life of 20 years more I wouldn't left her at any cost .
Just love them , respect them
They love you like anything so should u
I hope everyone learns from you 🙏 huge respect.
Thakut you will be blessed.
@Kingsmanso what
you are very sweet human
You are provided by God with human touch really great thing
Had some relatives who were pretty abusive when I was growing up. Now that they're elderly, their children abandoned them to live on their own. They don't write or call back, and we don't even bother contacting them either because of how they were to us in the past. I recall them telling my parents on how lonely it is, but that's the kind of bed they made. If you make an enemy of your family, don't ever expect them to be there for you when you need them.
I will never ever leave my parents in this situation because they wake up in the night for me so I can sleep well in my childhood this is my time and yours to take this as responsibility
Allways honour your Parents
Be childless and happy:)
R u married? I am sorry to ask like this but many of the sons abandon their parents due to their wifes . Wifes dont adjust with mother in law..
We took care of my mo 12 years at home. We fought, cried but took care of mom. Bless you. And am lucky ly wife loves her in laws like her own. I found my wife in my home town and mom moms choice even though we live overseas.
@dev gana you ask yourself why do you need?if u don't get a reason then u will understand "y"?
That caretaker girl.... That's an Angel from heaven..
My wish is to open a old age home and a orphanage school together and I'll do that for sure💔
Kreeti- Nice thoughts and a Wish, hope you will have success in plan. My prayers will always be there.
I will support and helps you if u don't have I will join the ur team
Same
Please, do it.
Me too
They truly deserve it. No child with sane mind would ever abandon their parents until and unless they've done something disgusting. I still remember how my mother fucked up my life which would continue to haunt me forever. I can imagine my mother at old age home.
I feel you bro. All these ignorant bastards in the comment section acting like parents are fundamentally moral people. I have been severely abused throughout my life by my so called 'parents' and all I'm waiting for is to get the fuck out and never speak to them ever again.
Everything happens for a reason, not everybody is so innocent as they seem in first glance.
Finally someone said it just cuz someone is old and looks innocent doesn't ignore all the things they did when they were well capable of abusing others.
You are guilty it seems
@@motivationstash963spoken like a guilty person
@@RX777XRthese 2 are probably just horrible to old people
Abandonment is wrong!... It's also worth to mention that in most cases parents have been abusing their children their whole lives... Not everybody's a saint who'll still take care of their parents despite this!
I was trying to control my tears but I failed😭
Same here
Same hear
Just cant imagine how cruel their own blood can be😞😞my mother is my lifeline... i can give my last drop of blood and breath for her as it is given by her to me😭😭i love her so much ... she is old now ..she needs care like a child.. i pamper her 🤗🤗just cant imagine life without her
Good to hear this, please continue this
Nope , These Parents need to understand that their child can't live with them forever They Have to be self-dependent. Donald Trump is of 70 and he is also not living with her children and Tell me if a woman left her old Parents than It is Ok but if a man do it than it Wrong ???
@@someonebig5234
Chuitya Tu Hai Tuija Pata Hai Kee Ek Enternepure ko Ketnai Ganta Kaam Kurna Puta Ha ?? Elon Musk Ek Din Mai 20 Ganta Kaam Kurta Hai !! Enternepures Ko Apnai Parents Ko Dena Kai Liya Time Nahee Hota !! Unka Parents Ko Self Independent Buna Chahiye !!
@@ramunrai383 tho tumhare maa baap agar entrepreneur hota tho kya woh b tumhe neglect karke tumhe 1year meh independent hone ko bolte. Tumhari diaper sab kon saaf karega
@@ramunrai383not everyone parents is donald trump, not everyone is elon musk. Take yourself as example a simple men with negative mindset and don't talk about independency when you couldn't afford yourself 1rs when you were only 3 year old. Just after watching successful motivational video you won't get to the top yge world. Marna tho sabko hai ek na ek din tumhara gamand b mitti meh dafega
That dadi's pick of songs werent accidental...they were straight from her broken heart
My father is the most selfish person I have come across. He left his old father alone who survived by begging in railway station & then died. We could not cremate his body even. Also my father left my mother for another woman. When I grew up & came to know what had happened in the family, I scolded my father & was tortured mentally. He declared to everyone that he did 2nd marriage as his ist wife was mad & that I was also mad as I am her son. He even took me to a doctor for mental check up. The doctor after 2 days said that I was completely normal & advised him not to force me in his decisions. He was very sad as the doctor did not declare me mad. He was usually instigated by his 2nd wife to force me to leave the house although I was dependent. Still I left & survived by doing tutions & now I am a school teacher. Now I am supporting my mother and my brother. What should be done to such demonic father's?
Stay strong ♥️
you should forgive him and try to reconcile with him.. At some point of his life he will realise his decisions, if so urs.
God Bless.
Dont forgive him.. He is evil
He took you to mental... Why wld yoh forgive him
If I were you,I won’t keep any contact with him. He must get what he gave to you and your mother. Let his second wife look after him.In my long life I have not met such an evil father in our society. In the West I have seen some fathers like him .You must believe in yourself and whatever you do I hope you continue to improve in your field.For me personally, my Father was the best person in this world and I pray daily that if there is reincarnation I would be born as his son. This may have originated from losing my Mother at the age of just over 4 yers, My father never remarried and he looked after me and my siblings giving his best to everyone .
never ever get too attach to others .....the world is a mean place .
@Talk simply with reason expectations from others is the foundation of sorrow in our life !
It's said that Parents can take care of 10 children's but 10 Childress can't take care of their Parents, sad but truth 😔😔
Why anyone would have 10 kids
Abe chutya h kya kisne kaha tha 10 karne ko
That woman who was in charge of Old Age Home is very gentle.
She oozes kindness while speaking.
हे प्रभु ये जो मैडम इनकी मदद कर रही है आप इन्हें खूब हिम्मत, शक्ति देना। और मुझे भी आशीर्वाद देना कि निकट भविष्य मैं भी इस नेक कार्य में अपना कुछ योगदान दे सकूं।
*Aise Bacchoko Unka Karm Ka fal jarur milega....😭😭😭😢😢😢*
It is not the parents who are unfortunate, it is the children who are unfortunate that they cannot live with their parents and take their blessings . So sad to see this but still we must do our bit and help the society in every possible way .
How on earth can anyone mistreat their parent like that??? Beyond belief!! One mum can look after ten sons.. yet ten sons cannot look after one mum... breaks my heart💔💔
Am extremely proud of my brothers.. They did not leave one stone unturned to get a cure for my mum.. she could not walk and they had to take her to see a doctor whose surgery was on the fourth floor and no lifts.. my brothers carried my mum on a chair all the way up to the fourth floor!!! My mum passed away and she was so happy to have had such gems in forms of my brothers..
These children who inflicts such terrible pains on their parent will never ever be happy.. It is a command from God to take care of their parents..
My heart goes out to these parents and my prayers are with them and the lovely people who are looking after them in the old age home.. bless them🙏🏽🙏🏽
@Amandeep Wahi because she sucks money of parents whole life and again after marriage sucks money of husband and create situation that her in-laws have to go to old age home.
Why can't daughters take care of parents.
To be fair, it depends on the parent... Abusive parents tend to have their children abandon them when they reach their elder years and die alone.
@@yamchayakuexactly...to get perspective
....sometimes MILs are so evil to DILs when they were young such that when they become old DILs give for tit for tat...I am not saying its always the case..but possibilities are there
Great journalism "The Quint" 👍
And my salute to that sensible caretaker lady and all other ppl taking care selflessly of these respected elders.
Who is the caretaker lady name
Where this.old.age home.loacated
In the future when I will get married I would never let my husband misbehave with his mother ...I would never ' conspire' to separate him from his mother..I don't know how ppl can do such a thing ..how will they face God with deeds like that?
When you do marry you itself leave your parents.
@Irfa Begum I just wish you never get a mean,nasty,wicked, oppressive and selfish mother in law who will see you as a "sawtan".
God bless your thinking.
There are very few girls like you. Normaly girls of these days force their husbands to maintain distance from their parents. They torture their husbands.
बहुत ही उम्मदा फिल्म है, दिल को छु गई शब्द नही है
Dear Admin,
U made me cry. 😭
Quint team, my heart ❤️ felt thanks tonu for taking initiative of collecting and uploading the video.
You guys are doing wonderful job.
God bless you your team.
This is so heartbreaking 💔uff!
My only request to people to please take care of your parents/grandparents. They have lived most of their life just to give a better life to you, now it's your time to take care of them.
They just need love and respect, nothing else.
Please🙏🙏
I'm a care worker with elderly vulnerable ones ...and yea this video opened my eyes to another world..i wish i can help them 😭😭😭😭 omg so sad to see this video
dont leave elderly...... they are base of our family. its very painful when children leave their parents.
even if you leave in a aged home, visit them and take care of their last rites.
What a depth of harshness. How we are dirty from inside. So painful so tearful. I can't apsorb it. My heart will burst out. I am praying with my tears for these beautiful souls.
Do you know how badly elders treat the younger? Do you know? What about that abuse?? It goes totally unreported.
g g True.. but these is a different case
Yes, I've also beaten my mother several times... I hate it inside me... But who cares... I'm unmarried...my mother is a severe pneumonia patient...despite being in cash crunch, I learned the treatment protocol to save her...i could not save money for my marriage...My mother also keeps arguing my father too... She talks illogical all the time... Now I find difficult to balance my love and hatred towards her...illogical talking has increased since long and repeated antibiotics courses started...
@@Anurag_Saxena You've beaten your mother? Several times? Please look at your own disgusting behaviour before complaining that she says illogical things. You need serious help, please find a therapist and NEVER use violence.
@@Anurag_Saxena i understand your situation some elderly people can be very hard to handle but you must try not to use violence. No matter how hard your situation violence is never an option. Your efforts towards taking care of your elderly parents inspite of your difficulties and the sacrifice you have made will definitely be rewarded some day. But please do not be violent towards your mother.
@@Anurag_Saxena shame on you
I love my parents so much. I can't imagine leaving them. It was hard for me just to go to college and live without them. And think there are assholes that don't want their parents. My grandma, the only alive elder, is wanted by both my mom and my aunt and we helped my other grandma until her dying breath even though she could not move.
Touched by this video .... hope their children understand their pain
You guys are doing great work .....to aware people about this....
Rakhi appreciate your help and love towards the community bless you🙏
I have a reverse situation at home.... My parents used to abuse me when I was a kid. I was brutally torchered by my mother. Now I am 31. My parents forced me to marry a girl not of my choice. They take away all my money so that I don't become independent. I wish to give them a life worst then the one shown in the video.
Brother, have patience. Indeed, You have a great reward ahead.
@Harshad
Don't hate your parents,please! But take your wife and get out of there and never come back! Don't ever mistreat your wife or leave her.
Rent a small cheap house till you save enough to buy a small agricultural land.Till the land to stay in good health.
Abuse your parents
The emotions and cinematography is just beyond expectations 🙏
I will never do this to my parents cause the didn't leave me in an orphanage when I was young so I won't leave them in an old age home when they are old.
They are the best parents ever so I should be the best child ever
Recently I lost my Dad. Alhamduillah I am so happy that I was with him till his last breath when he needed us the most. If I think of my dad life Journey now, he has never troubled us even for 1 Rs. but the last 6 month of his life he just wanted to be pamper as he has become like small baby thou he would not say but his eyes would say a lot. Parents a parents no douth. I miss him so much. Allah grant him Highest level of Jannatal Firdose. Ameen.
Those who have parents alive please do take good care of them. There are most precious Jewels. Thou they don't say anything but there eyes says a lot please try to understand them.
Please take good care of them.
You tried to understand him by just observing his eye language. Allah will always gift you.
May god bless all social services and NGOS .Thanks for all your lovely services .
This is so heartbreaking 😢
Absolutely heartbreaking!
Love care affection I truly believe that's only universal language 😢 I couldn't understand most of the words but they made my eyes filled with tears
Kudos to the people who made this video
Soo great work ♥️♥️🙏
Kindness, empathy,love,humanity 0%... selfishness,ignorance, cruelty 100%... nobody, even I will not like this attitude from my kids...As a society let's change this situation 👍
My grandmother was so badly treated by my mother,so how can I respect my mother,I had to look after my grandmother since age 16yrs
May God bless all the parents and give them peace in their hearts i love you all.
This is heartbreaking. I know about me. I do not know about the future, About the future ahead of me.
Don't ever do that to parents. I get it they become like kids but it's your patience that will make you the better person. How much, with love your parents had looked and took care of you.
This brings me to tears. :(
May God give all the patience and understanding to be there for there parents.
This is a reminder to the children all over the world, LOVE YOUR PARENTS TO THE VERY LAST OF THEIR BREATH, CARE THEM, RESPECT THEM AND DON'T ABANDON THEM BECAUSE YOU TOO WILL GROW OLD IN THE FUTURE.
A nice video. Elder care homes or senior care homes are the best for those senior citizens who want to start their second innings. Aumorto is one of the best option for all those who are eagerly waiting to start their 2nd innings. Kudos to Aumorto.
I am 25 and i don’t have a bucket list of dumb things that most of my age people do have..i just want to be a bit financially stable and then donate whatever i can for the rest of my life to orphanage and oldage homes, open a kennel, then educate poor children child.
I wish more and more people from this generation look towards nation building like this rather than having bucket lists full of shitload like scuba diving or going to vegas.
I hope whoever mistreats their parents will be left with the same fate. what goes come around. how can these people who don't care their parents, be content and happy.
Me too
Yes 100% agree!!!!!
I can see this happening with my neighbouring uncle. He used to beat his mother, he didn't take care of his father too. My mother used to give food to his parents and take care of them when they fell sick because he and his children didn't care much about them. But now the uncle is starting to get the same treatment he gave to his parents from his sons.
I have never came across a person who has send there parents to oldage homes pata nahi wo kaise log hote honge
Please tell GauRakshaks that gau se pehle Ma ko bachao! this needs more attention.
Actually if done properly will get you votes too. Still no body coming forward .
Need proper laws , awareness, and training for people and society at large.
Where are those who pride in our Great Bhartiaya Sanskriti?
Slam Quint for great work
Charity begins at home. Family members must support each other, live with love.
Children should respect the elders & elders should stay with the family with full cooperation.
I have seen instances, where the children are so understanding & give respect to the elders, but, the elders are demanding, non humanitarian & donot extend their support where required.
I love youbotom of my heart sisters who looking after these mothers and fathers God bless you you are very kind hearted
I do not understand why some human being are so lovely like you
I wish my life goes to you
May you live long
God bless you.
I got tears when watched the video
A few parents are adamant, stubborn and abusive ... someone posted whoever mistreats their parents face the same fate ... wonder what there parents must have done and how they must have treated their children ....
Please teach the kids kindness.. its equally important as modern education ... its very disturbing to witness such ...
Feeling so sad after watching this
Oh it breaks my heart to see this. Yes daughters are very very toxic at times, am a daughter and can say this for daughters and xan claim some of the best daughter in laws do better for in laws. Does anyone know which shelter is this? Id like to visit them as a daughter and give them some smiles. Pls let me know The Quint. Thanks
Every old age shelter is the same story...hope we ne er need such places
Its not about daughter, son, or daughter in law. Its about an individual character
@Amandeep Wahi And It's Wrong. It's Discrimated.
I told my parents n I'm telling all parents please keep money n property with U when required please give on the occasions ..why I told bcoz I'm not bad guy but we cannot predict future how it turns even though a good guy bcoz of wife or some other reason he had to change so which is why I advised
I'm an American & I've met several ppl from Gujarati, India, & Bangladesh. They all were lovely ppl & some even took care of their parents hers in America. This is sooo surprising to me I never would've thought this. To hear about a case or two here/there is even common in America but this many, MYYY GOODNESS 😱😳. Breaks my heart man, really 😢!
When that lady started singing, I understood why she became abandoned
For me a person from Belgium in west europe it is sad to see that India is copying our mistakes of the past...what happens now in India with elderly happened in the '50, '60, ' 70 of the previous century in Europe...why did you not learn from our mistakes dear India...we did not know any better blinded by wealth after second world war, were to busy with making money instead of taking care about our elders and put them in pitty nursing homes, left them there to die, visited ones on sunday cos others did so but for the rest of the week left them in the "care" of make belief...but what is your excuse India for making thesame mistake we have ???
We are loosing our culture of serving the needy.
Shame should cover the souls who left or abandoned their old parents.
Disgrace you do to them will return to you.
Mother's tear is so powerful - make sure that tears come out of joy & love, only… 🌟🙏🌟
I am literally crying...
I am speechless. Are their children even humans?
Shame on those people who left their parents alone ........I hope god will give them justice .....
damm, had to shed the tears after holding it in :(
Quint shows emotional stories like this that's the reason why bhakts hate it.
Its doesn't has anything to say anything about the bakhts. How they even relate? Its people who left their parents and it has nothing to do with bakhts. Grow up.
Bhakts*
They care about gau matas more than their actual matas 😭
@@R14iify absolute truth. Prime example is their idol modi who uses his mother for photo-ops and getting public sympathy.
@@Beautybypoojasharma it has to do w the bhakts because they're literally going out and killing and lynching ppl for supposedly harming their 'cow' mothers and their justification is always "wouldn't you do the same if our actual mothers were being harmed? The cows are like our mothers too." Ppl are harming and abandoning their actual mothers and theres not a peep out of them for it. It shows that it's def not a sincere concern from them at all. It's just hate driven excuse to commit violence.
India can protect cow not the elderly hope the children suffer the same fate from North East India
😢 we still living behind these closed doors
It's hard to see these things. Every elder deserve a good and healthy life. For all those who want to start their 2nd innings peacefully should look for aumorto as their second home
Very sad and heart breaking
Please send this video to Govt of India, so that there should be atleast Rs20000/ pension for all senior citizens.
This is not the image of India... Not everyone is a dog or beach.
Indians arw adopting USA life style and they realize their mistakes when they get old.
Luv to all moms n dad's
I recollect a message recently received from a friend - maa baap ki property nahi hoti, maa baap hi property hote hain.... (its not parents' property we inherit but they themselves are not less than any precious property)....quite true.... everyone pls tk best care of n give lot of love n care to ur parents n all senior citizens....
Where is this old aged home..?? Can someone give me the contact and location..?? Woukd like to go there and meet these people..
how can we help this organisation and volunteer to spend time with them?
God Bless All 🙏🏻
Can u plz tell me the address.. I don't know what I can do in financial term.. But i want to come there and serve them, help them.. Definitely 🙏
Great initiative.
Sir can You please allow me to use some portion of this video of yours in my upcoming video on parents care ???
Please reply ....
Can you please explain me a Employe who have responsiblity of his own kids , who go office at morning and come back at evening how can he take care of his old Parents ???
@@mr.anonymous8462 Is he so tight fisted to employ a caretaker???
There are two sides to every story. Nobody would do such a thing without a good reason. Humans are hardwired to be attached to their parents. It is hard to imagine that the parents did not do something bad to the children to cause this hatred. They take their children for granted as their property and expect that they will just forget everything. If they were really so loving, they would not be playing the victim and defaming their children like this, no matter how they were.
Can someone tell me more about the act for elderly?
Solution: All children assets must mandatorily have parents as joint owners. This will make elders secured. Even parents can't gift before their death.
No. Some parents are evil
But still sometimes parents are too strict this also has negative effects on child also the areas, locality and samaaj also makes a difference
We have to be patient just like they patient with us when we growing up.
Badnaseeb hain woh log jo maa ke zinda hote hwa unka Pyaar se mehroom hain
My nani also suffer those condition ...but difference is that she live in home
Painful 😥
Can anyone share the address or name of this old age home that there in the video?
that's where we all are heading, like it or not, both as children and as a parent!
Is there any way to help this organization
how can they be so cruel to parents???
I can't believe this 😭😭😭 Humanity where art thou?
I think, this is another colour of humanity?
This video cry me😢..I don't know what happen held with the younger of our country why they Sent their parents into Varidhaashram 😢
If you sell your child off at 13 what loyalty can you expect from her? Oh I could never guess why my child I sold off to a grown man before her period even started may want nothing to do with me when I need her. Pish Posh..Of course it happens to good parents as well but you never know and while you have obligation to those who cared for you we dont know the whole story and frankly if my mother had denied me as a child education, care, love and control of my body and autonomy I may deny her as an elder.
How can one volunteer full time for such people?
Can anyone guide??
Join any old age homes as a volunteer or join any groups. #spread love❤
If I come to India , I will volunteer ?
@@sunnycriti9809 sure.
I had been very abusive with my parents in my early 20's now i regret for that and i hope i could make my father proud someday indeed we develop a good bonding now a days love your father and give him whateva you can he is filled with joy deep inside but he will show u that you are wasting money ignore that give ur father first then rest excess money can be spend on your gf or spouse
I can relate.
A Indian Woman have to Put his husband first but A Husband should put his parent's first. Great Hypocrisy 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
While watching this video i was literally crying. May allah help these people.