With thanks to Alex for sharing his story. You can find out more at the below links: Alex's Facebook Page - The Right To Die With Dignity - facebook.com/groups/278597605805885/?ref=share_group_link Pegasos, the central support group in Switzerland FAQs - pegasos-association.com/faqs/
@@alexpandolfo5617 Lots an lots of weed was class. Hope you have a lot of memories still to make before you have to make final date. All the best. 🤜🏼🤛🏼🏴
@@alexpandolfo5617 Very welcome Alex appreciate reply. I’m about to partake myself a nice PG. And I don’t mean tea. 😉 Why get cremated when we can get baked brother. 🤤
So....my suffering isn't as bad as his? What about people who hang themselves because of hearing voices? Is that ending suffering too? Or is that choosing to die?
My gran chose assisted death. We are in Australia. She was very happy to go that way after fighting cancer twice and it coming back and spreading to her bones/ brain/ lymph nodes etc. She had the drink, followed it with a espresso martini, and drifted off happily 30 seconds later. Because of that experience I genuinely believe that assisted death is a blessing that everyone should have the option of
@@ariasworld9991 It costs a lot because it's uncommon. If it were made a standard practice and available everywhere, I'm sure it would be more cost effective.
@@LooselyGrope The easier and cheaper it is to do, the easier it is for people to be guilted into ending their lives as to "not be a burden". "The life-saving surgery is £35,000? Well you can die for £50."
@@toastthelightfury That would be absolutely wrong. I'm curios though, what do you think about people that reproduce, do they also force their will when they decide to make a person but more to the point, do you have any respect for other people's needs or decisions regarding themselves?
@@toastthelightfury This is like saying that you don't support the idea of criminal trials because they might result in the imprisonment of innocent people. It's not even bonkers, mate. It's just stupid.
I had a job where I was more or less a baby sitter for a man in his 60’s who had Alzheimer’s and it was eerily similar to hanging out with a friend who is high on psychedelics but if your friend never knew what psychedelics are. You do not know sadness until you’ve watched someone slowly deteriorate into a violent uncontrollable human being. Guess what they do? They put you down like a rabid dog. He used to ask me are my parents still alive and then cry when I reminded him they’ve been dead for years. The saddest disease I’ve ever witnessed up close.
Watched my dad's mom die of alzheimers. We went to visit her and she was just sitting in her wheelchair crying out for her mom for hours, her mom has been dead for decades. It's the most cruel disease I've ever witnessed. I'm hoping my dad doesn't get it, along with me and my siblings.
As a carer, with dementia clients I always tell them they’re mum, dad, husband or wife whoever is running errands. I watched a carer tell my client her husband had been dead for years and she didn’t stop crying, her heart broke all over again and kept saying she’d never been to his funeral. Just tell them they’re loved ones will be home soon because they will end up forgetting that they asked. No point in putting them through heartbreak every time.
Why would you remind him that his parents are no longer alive? Why would you make the poor gentlemen re live the pain and sorrow of loosing their parents or anyone they ever loved over and over again? That’s just cruel it’s sickening have some compassion. There’s clearly something wrong with you and I hope you no longer work in care...
This guy deserved more than 20 minutes - all of us know a loved one just hanging on with an utterly debilitating condition the sheer indignity and horror of just day to day living
@@judim5379 she’s at peace now. You never forget the trauma of watching your loved one go through that but it does get easier over time knowing they, and your family aren’t suffering anymore. Hope you’re doing okay, just think of the good memories you had together some people don’t even get to meet their grand parents we’ve been blessed with that privilege
My aunt was assisted as well. She was terminally ill and had fought for 17 years, this option provided her and my uncle from suffering at the very bitter end. We were all so happy for her to be able to leave this world on her own terms. Medically assisted death is a wonderful gift to terminally ill individuals.
The moment I saw my father less than 24 hours before his natural death from cancer still haunts me to the day 17 years later. It was not the person I knew. Mum was looking after him for 3 years, his personal dignity was gone. I wouldn't want to live through this again.
I feel your pain my grandad had Alzheimer’s, I remember as a kid wondering why my family was so upset as I had in my mind that he was just sick and he would get better. He slowly deteriorated over the 5-6 years he was a strong man so it took him a long time to go. By the end he couldn’t eat, drink or do anything by himself he was just lay in a bed with bed sores. He would make noises like groans and sometimes you would see his eyes light up when myself or my mammar or mum walked in the door. I know he would’ve wanted this, the prolonged death and depersonalisation caused far more harm that good for everyone involved including my grandad. It was incredibly sad but when he died, I didn’t know why I felt it at the time but I felt a little bit of relief followed by sadness. R.I.P Brian Horton❤️ fly high boyo I’ll see you on the other side 👼
The things you said about the last time you saw your dad instantly reminded me about what my dad said recently about seeing my grandpa less than an hour away from his natural death from prostate cancer, this in 2015... My niece asked about my dad's last moments with my grandpa before his death to him, and my dad said the exactly same thing as you... He doesn't like to remember that day bc the memories of seeing my grandpa so close to his death (he was really distressed), not looking like the person we knew anymore were too shocking to him... And those memories still haunts him to this day At that time (I was 17 back then) I was already advocating for assisted dying and dying with dignity (unfortunately this is something my country isn't ready to debate properly, which is a shame), it broke my heart to know he passed away in so much fear, distress and pain 😭 His passing only reinforced my opinions about assisted dying, choosing to die in your own terms and death with dignity (regardless of opting for assisted dying or palliative care), no one deserves to die that way 💔
@@elliottrichardson8213I feel for you. My Nan begged every one of us to kill her for months and months as she was in agony riddled with cancer and all they kept saying was she was on maximum dose pain relief. It took days of her not being able to eat or drink or go to the bathroom, split skin and sores. If you left an animal like it you'd be arrested. I too felt a huge relief when she died and it takes a long time for the last horrific memories of them to fade and be replaced by better ones. I'm sure they'd be full of love knowing we were happy the pain and indignity ended for them. I do not understand people who can watch that and think it's a better way to die. I would never put my son through that.
Your father relieved himself from many sins (as each of us has during life) through this suffering and paved his way to better after life. Jesus Christ also suffered immensely on the cross but it was worth it.
Choosing to die on your own terms with the love and support of your family or friends is a dignified and beautiful thing. How sad this isn’t offered to everyone. Much love to this brave man for sharing his story and using it as a platform to inform the conversation around assisted dying.
my aunt who had dementia often asked difficult questions. e.g. where am I? where is my sister? (she had passed). i told her that she was at a fancy hotel. Told her her sister was out buying candy. my aunt loved travel and candy. she was reassured that good things surrounded her. when someones mind has disintegrated, you look after them accordingly. no honest brutal truths. they are like children and dont understand.
This is so kind of you 💗I remember looking after a gentleman with dementia; in his 'good' moments he remembered that his wife has passed away-he talked about her some beautifully and you could just tell how much he loved and missed her. The problem was whenever his daughter would visit and his memory would go, she'd remind him time and time again that his wife was dead. The sheer horror and heartbreak in his eyes was absolutely horrible 💔 We'd tell her not to do this, but I doubt she ever stopped. I truly can't imagine going through what he did every time.
Jude my mum is the same right now and has been for 2 years. My brother passed suddenly 2 years ago and she lived with him. She asks where is he (less now but was a few times a day). There is no way we even considered telling her and do the same 😢. She also asks about family members who have passed we say they they are fine. After reading your comment I am going to tell her something lovely as well ❤❤❤. Thank you for that. X
I always called my mom by her name and not mom, as eventually they forget they had children, and it upset her that people thought she had children. I also played into her hallucinations and became part of them, like an old friend telling a joke, and she's laughing by herself. I laughed too.
My dad died of a very sudden and unexpected heart attack, it was absolutely awful for everyone at the time. But I take solace in how quick for him it was, we didn't have to do the visits in hospital and slowly watch the man we loved become something he wasn't. After reading some of your comments I feel it was one of the better ways to go.
@@plumduff3303 sorry taken me a long time to see your message, I appreciate what you said and I am terribly sorry for the situation you had to deal with, take care of yourself my man
It’s time my country (U.K.) legalises this. It isn’t fair forcing people with degenerative diseases and zero quality of life, to stay alive. Really feel for this man. Not only did he have to watch both parents suffering, he now has an incurable disease too. Kudos to this lovely man for highlighting assisted dying.
It’s why my husband and I support the dignity in dying charity. My husband is terminally ill, and I know if the time came and it was something he wanted, I would support him.
My dad had Alzheimer's and he would have chosen to end his life through medically assisted dying. By the time he was ready to go, he was no longer competent and no longer qualified for the service. He lingered for another 7 years and died of COVID.
If this revolting disease ever comes to my door, I've already made it clear to my family that a one way ticket to Dignitas is what they're to do for me. I'm not having my mind robbed from me. All the best to you Alex.
So great that you have talked to your family. I was always grateful my parents discussed death and dying opening with us, made things so much easier at the end.
Totally agree with him, My father died from alzheimer's ..it was such a cruel long torturous death.. He also became completely deaf and blind ... My mother is now dying from dementia .. Im middle age and very ill with heart failure ..and many other serious life limiting illnesses , plus bed ridden. Its a rotten life when you deteriorate slowly and painfully. ...and have no quality of life . I despair how medical science is practically forcing us to live longer ..yet wont help those who want to die with dignity. Dad was terminally ill , practically a vegetable, yet the doctors still revived him. It took a long time before they agreed a DNR. Ive saved up enough for dignitas . Ive attempted suicide twice only to suffer even more torment ..when it didnt work. As soon as my affairs are in order, im off to the next world ..one way or other .. Just a pity uk has not opted for dying with dignity . Not keen that i have to travel alone to Switzerland .. If im lucky a heart attack witll take me in my sleep. I truely hope that everyone can get a chance to die in peace . Noone should be suffering in these modern times. Like they say " animals have a much better exit being kindly and gently put to sleep " Its an funny old world isnt it...
My grandmother lost her second battle with cancer last year, The amount of pain she was in was absolutely unbelievable.. People should have a choice about death... we have plenty of choices during life..
Death is a part of life and it will happen to everyone . We need to stop making it a taboo subject and trying to hide or run from it. My grandad passed from a horrible battle with cancer. We had so many special memories with him although sometimes I find it hard to remember them without the horrible memory of how horrible the end was. His friends passing sounded so peaceful and she went on her terms. Needs to be looked into more I think . Wish the best for this man and his family
My first cousin was diagnosed with stage 4 throat cancer a couple of weeks ago. He's just 50. That's almost 3 years younger than myself. I watched my father die from cancer in 2014 and he suffered tremendously. All that said makes me question how I will deal with my end day's if I don't go suddenly. To have a party with all the people that mean the most to you and to hug,kiss and say all the things you want to before you start suffering makes the most sense to me! It's beautiful really
@liketwogrand I understand that but I really like to think that if God created us in his own image then I really believe that he is an understanding God and would forgive us. I've had a few family members that were good people take their own lives and l really hope I see them again in the end
I've been dealing with depression for as long as I can remember, and this is something that's always been in the back of my mind. If listening to his story has taught me anything, it's that I'm not quite there yet. But it's reassuring to know the option is out there.
You won’t get assisted suicide for depression. I’m glad you’re still here with us, please look for help whether it’s from god or a therapist. I know you will find your peace one of these days
My nana had lupus and dementia... horrendous !!! It was very very bad... the moments where she would be "normal" she immediately started crying casue she knew more or less that she was a burden and she was very very stubborn and prideful person. Thank you Ladbible for this interview and agree 10000% with this man ! We should be able to say - thats it im going. Only if its incurable and like he said - quality of life is degrading.
My Granny died of Alzhiemers a few years ago and it was genuinely awful to watch her go from a fully functional independent woman to spending most of her time in bed unable to move, barely able to breathe. I also remember when my Grandpa was dying of pneumonia and he was in bed constantly for what felt like eons but was more likely a few months, his suffering was unbearable to watch. I feel like this would have helped both of them an extreme amount. It would also have helped mine, my brother and my mum's mental health, knowing that they weren't suffering when they passed.
My granny too. She died slowly and it was awful to watch. Alzheimer’s takes away their dignity little bits at a time and us loved ones have to watch it happen. I’m sorry you lost your granny.
My grandmother died from Alzheimer’s at 86 in 2021. It’s a tragic fate. I wish she’d been given that option. It could’ve given her a more dignified end. Sad to see her sitting there and repeating “No Way” over and over again. Towards the end she no sense of self or recognition. The only good thing is she is reunited with my grandfather who passed in 1998 from lung cancer at 64. Their stone is emblazoned with “When Irish Eyes Are Smiling”.
My grandmother chose a medically assisted death, and I could not be more proud of her strength. She was an incredible woman, and she deserved to die with dignity. Alex, if you see this, I am wishing you comfort and peace on this journey and sending you love 🤍
I was 19 and five weeks into my first year of university when both my grandparents, who I lived with and raised me like my mum & dad were given terminal diagnosis’ of Cancer & Vascular Dementia. It ruined my life for years. I had no idea what their life expectancy was if the Christmas we spent together a few months later was going to be their last. Eventually they died when I was 25, living out long, slow and degrading deaths. My grandad was a company director, the head of his rotary chapter and a beloved person who died not even able to form a sentence. They had zero quality of life and were robbed of dignity by debilitating illnesses. I don’t think they would have chosen assisted suicide, however, having to bare witness to the two people I loved most in this world fall from grace in such a way confirmed for me that assisted death, the choice to end your own life on your own terms and the ability to do it legally and not shamefully is incredibly important. This is something that should have been reformed in the UK 20 years ago.
I have a degenerative neurological condition and I live in lots of pain every single day. I take a cocktail of pain medication just to get through each day, including morphine and fentanyl. It'll get worse too. My body is shutting down. I intend to do the same as this man when the time is closer
How old are you? I'd like to think I'd do the same if that happens to me, but it seems that the older people get..the more tightly they hold on to their stupid little lives
Oh that's horrible. I hope you live in a place that recognises you should have control over your own life. I too live with chronic pain but not at your level yet. I'm on oxycodone and the dose gets higher and higher and nothing else works and I spend half my time in a daze or asleep and I too get awful pain at times. Im so lucky I have the most wonderful sweet cuddly soft soft little doggy that just melts everything into love. She makes the bad days bearable. I hope you have something to give you comfort. If I could send you some I would. Respect to you.
My grandma passed by assisted death when i was 10. She had brain cancer, which paralyzed half her body and caused her immense pain. She applied and they let her get it. For weeks leading up to her death, doctors and psychiatrists would come in and ask her if she was sure and she always was. I would miss school days to hang out with her in her hospital room and we would watch tv and play card games. I would her my mom talk to her about her decision and my grandma sounded so at peace with it. Before her death, my family and i formed a line at her bed and each said our goodbyes. I remember her reassuring me that she was going to be fine and telling me how much she loved me. We hugged and i left the room crying. That was the last time i ever heard her voice. My mom, her siblings, and my grandpa all stayed in her room during her death. I was told that she gradually fell asleep while her favourite song was playing, September by Earth, Wind and Fire. My cousins and i all gathered in this hospital playroom and hugged each other while we cried. I remember my mom coming into the playroom 30 minutes later to tell us that she had passed. Even though i knew it was coming, i still felt my whole world crumble at those news. They let us go hug her one last time after she had passed. During her death, my and my cousins drew a picture of her as an angel and on the back, we each wrote her a message. I placed the drawing on her bed and the nurse told me that they were going to cremate the paper with her body if we wanted. We agreed and then left. My cousins had drove hours to come see her that weekend and they rented hotel rooms. After her death, i remember my cousins and i playing mermaids in the hotel pool to distract ourselves. It’s been 4 years and i still miss her everyday. Although, knowing that she was at peace with her decision comforts me.
My mother died of cancer and watching her suffer was unbearable. It absolutely broke me. If she had asked me to end her life for her I'd have done it without hesitation. I have told my father that if I am ever in an accident where my quality of life would be poor, he should switch the lift support off or if I have a terminal illness to take me to Dignitas.
I find youtube labeling this as a suicide/self harm topic and restricting it offensive. It's hugely important medical assistance that people need to know about.
I lost my grandmother in 2010 due to Dementia. It's like you're losing them twice. First, the person you know and love withers away, and then they close the final chapter by dying. It's grief and relief. I felt relieved that she no longer suffered, but also sad that someone the family loved passed away.
My grandpa died of Alzheimer’s and it’s a horrendous disease. It completely changed him. I don’t remember exactly, but I believe he did say he wanted to die. He ended up passing in an Alzheimer’s center, with my mom by his side.
I respect doctors in other countries who help people die peacefully rather than suffer for weeks, months or even years. My grandpa had dementia and there at the end he got terrible. I hated seeing him because it’s just sickening how badly their mind disintegrates. I also work with a lot of old people that are the same way and I feel just as horrible for every last one of them. Everybody no matter what the illness should be allowed to die if they choose. Politics, religion or others beliefs should play no part in anyone else’s lives. Dying physically hurts no one else other than the person doing it so it shouldn’t be anyone else’s decision.
What a total legend of a human he is♥️. His energy and ethos is mesmerising. So sad to hear what he’s gone through with his parents and that he is in a situation where by he has to make this choice but what a totally wonderful human being. I so wish he could do this here in the UK, here’s hoping one day people can. Wishing him all the best. X
This is also possible in The Netherlands (where i'm from) and I'm so glad it exists. My parents filled in forms too for this in case something happens. I think it's fair for someone to decide their own fate, to go on their own terms.
You are so lucky. That's such a good way to have things. People who have made it very clear throughout their life to their family and on medical records what they would like to happen. It's my life and I should get to choose, why does someone get to take that away from me? It's inhuman to watch people suffer like that and my worst fear is not for myself, it's that I don't want to put my son through that. I wish I could move to a more progressive country.
I watched my Grandad suffer from dementia and it was horrific, Everyone should have the right to choose when they want to end there life, It's the only thing we truly own in this world our life and we have no control over it. Thank you Alex this is one more step towards the right thing. Good luck good man from a fellow Manc xx
What a truly beautiful, inspiring soul this man is. His level of pragmatism and aura of tranquility and certainty in regards to his life decisions are qualities to be admired. He appears as though he doesn’t feel fear, or anxiety. Maybe he does in private. But he certainly exudes a stoic level of self-assuredness here in this video. I hope I can learn to master this mentality someday within my own mind.
So grateful to Alex for sharing this important message. Here in the states, many people do not live in a MAID state, since there are only 11 states that will allow it. Fortunately, Oregon did pass a non-residency option but as I understand it, it's still quite challenging to get approved. Each human being on this planet should have access to MAID. Sadly, as an End of Life Doula who lives in Texas, I've seen people suffer needlessly and it just isn't necessary when we have medications available to alleviate the suffering. Hoping that one day in the not-so-distant-future, MAID will become a right for every human.
I hope every state adopts it. I live in Alabama and if I get in the position of where I'm going to suffer until I die, I really don't want to slit my wrists and I don't want to go to another state.
As a neurosurgery/major trauma nurse in the UK I often see people suffer needlessly. I understand that it's absolutely horrible losing a loved one, however I find it cruel to prolong someone's life when you know the outcome is only gonna bring them more pain and misery. Personally, I think this should become legal everywhere. It's not to encourage suicide-trust me if somebody truly wants to go, they'll find the way, rather to give people the choice to go in a humane way, while keeping their dignity.
Fortunately, I'm from CA which is an assisted death state and if something like this happens to me, I have zero doubts that this is the direction I will take.
Got a lot of respect for this, he's very articulate and had clearly put a lot of thought into it. Strikes me as a person with a lot of empathy as he was talking about his friend who was in a similar situation to himself and is obviously on here trying to get his message across. Can really understand where he's coming from too, I've seen a few elderly relatives go now and some have defintely suffered and I think in ways I wouldn't want to myself. Defintely agree with him wanting to go on his own terms before he loses his conative faculties and arguably starts making it harder for those around him as it's never pleasant seeing someone you love deteriorate like that. Hopefully this sort of thing will become more widespread, it's about choice ultimately so why not offer people that sort of choice if they know its what they want and are certain?
This is the only interview I’ve ever watched on CZcams after seeing it on Instagram, it struck a cord as I am a live in carer and one of my regular clients (My beautiful Betty) has advanced dementia, she is the sweetest person I’ve ever know so wonderfully kind and this quite rare with dementia as clients can become aggressive or overwhelming upset But what a lovely man, he seems so genuinely kind and a great person to be around. ❤ what a brave soul
I'm so happy about living 1 hour away from Basel in Switzerland and i won't hesitate any second if i contract a disease wich cannot be cured to get there and be a part of that experience.. I don't want to suffer 5 years like his parents did..
CZcams over time has become a background noise for me for sleep or chores. But I find myself pausing these videos, or going all the way back to the beginning of your content. Thank you and every interviewee for creating something that gives me the will to live, and not something that helps me dissociate or run away from reality. Life is truly fascinating and there isn’t enough time to learn, experience or understand everything. But these videos soothe that part in my brain obsessed with the possibilities and chaos of life 🫶🏾💗.
What an incredible man. He has thought this through meticulously and hearing him talk it through, makes so much sense. Death is the only sure thing in life and, though I have no desire or need to want life to come to an end soon, the thought of having the way you leave this Earth, in your control, in your own hands, and go out peacefully and on your own terms, sounds like the most dignified way imaginable. It’s more humane than allowing someone to slowly die in agony. Absolutely thought provoking video and I wish this man the best 🥺♥️
This man is so awesome what a personality and he really understands the difficulties others can't see, please help this man achieve what he wants to achieve before he goes x
Thank you for sharing this. I've shared this thought of choice for a long while. Hearing you, and your experience, and the requirements, it makes it even more beautiful to have that choice on how to live and how to end one's life. Thank you for sharing it. I give it up for all the countries and states that support this choice.
So so so much respect for you, Alex! Having watched my own father and mother in law die, from dementia, I can empathise with how utterly heartbreaking it is to watch someone you love suffer, and they do truly truly suffer! It’s a very protracted, painful process, that I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. If I ever had that diagnosis, I’d like to think the option to choose to end my own suffering, would be available. But as you say, the people in the lower financial bracket, don’t have that choice, and that terrifies me. I would never ever want to suffer the way they did, that’s probably my biggest fear in life. I wish you the longest life you can possibly have, and when the time comes, the most beautiful, peaceful and dignified death. May your soul rest in peace and rise in glory ❤
I had a friend who suffered from schizophrenia. He hates living his life and has attempted death many times. I told him that if he CS I wouldn’t be mad at him. I would just miss him. I hope he knows he’s not alone in not wanting to live with something that makes him terrible 💔💔😖😖😖😖😖
my grandpa starved to death it took 3 months. he was ''unconcious '' we tried to feed him every day and he couldnt swollow fully because of the parkinsons. fuck laws that make loved ones suffer.
WHAT A REMARKABLE MAN. I love the sound of his laughter knowing he's facing such difficult time's. Alex will be in my thoughts for some time to come. Watching my Father die a HORRIBLE death was the hardest thing so I rejoice for Alex being able to do it his way.
Thank you for sharing your story and giving us incredible insight on assisted death. Choosing to pass away on your own terms can be so empowering for many. I hope to see many more countries legalize it for the sake of humanity. Alex, I wish you a joyous and peaceful life.
Dear Alex, thanks for sharing. I am happy for you having the chance to say goodbye the way you want it. You are a lovely person and i wish you all the best
Alzheimer’s and all forms of dementia is way more than just a lack of memory. I watch my grandmother and several other relatives die from this disease, it’s absolutely terrifying. The patients themselves are in constant terror as they lose their cognition, abilities to move, speak, walk, eat, then eventually, they end up on a respirator until they die. I watch my grandmother suffer for almost 10 years, in the early stages, when she had moments of clarity, she would beg us to kill her, because she was so terrified and in so much pain both physically and mentally. I completely agree 100% with allowing someone to ending their lives with dignity, on their terms. They do have to be regulations in place to ensure this privilege is not abused, but if we have enough compassion to put our own animals to sleep, why can’t we do the same for ourselves? I was diagnosed with a terminal illness. I would not hesitate for one second to end my life this way. I’ve already spent more than half my life in and out of the hospital thanks severe stage 4 Crohn’s disease, cancer, renal failure, severe, and absolutely crippling, anxiety and depression, plus the host of other chronic illnesses, and I’m only 55. For the moment, I fight like hell, because they were all things I can survive with, although some days I question that, I survived the unsurvivable already, but if I were to get a terminal diagnosis, I would not hesitate for one second to put an end to all this. Just being alive is not enough that’s not living. If I can enjoy life, or at least have some semblance of a quality life, I have no wish to prolong the inevitable, and I’ll never understand why people insist that we suffer for years until we die because they can’t face reality. I am a Catholic, that is my only hesitation, but at the end of the day, not even that would stop me.
In years to come we'll look back on assisted dying for severely ill people being illegal as completely absurd. It shouldn't even be a political issue, but a medical and ultimately moral one.
Alex, thank you for sharing your story and views with us. You seem like an amazing human being. I sincerely hope your days are filled with happiness, contentment and love all the way through your journey, however long or short that may be. Much love and respect. Be happy. X
@@alexpandolfo5617 I watched my dad suffer from this,it made it so bittersweet when he passed. Saw him take his last breath. Alex i pray you enjoy every moment you have left here. I pray you do not suffer. Know you are loved. Godspeed.
@@truth2vanquish Thank you for your King words . I’m sorry to hear about your dad . I understand the biter sweet . I was in a similar situation . I had watched my dad suffer for five years and death was a relief , but it’s still a loss . I always say o lost my dad twice one to dementia and five years later to death itself . You will know what I mean by suffering double loss and grief . Take care ✌️
@@alexpandolfo5617 That the truth. I know exactly what you mean. Alex. There is definitely two deaths in this awful disease I hope to God someday there’s a cure. Thank you Sir.
Wow, this one blew me away. What a thorougly nice bloke! Wish you all the best Alex. I hope that the UK can come round and start to offer people the dignified choice of choosing how they die as well as live.
This is the most thought provoking video I have ever watched. I have an illness and have many times wanted to know what options are available. Thank you for the information.
idk, im scared to die so just listening to people choose it scares me too. I know it's inevitable but the thought makes me anxious, it makes me sad, it makes me panic. there's times im scared to fall asleep because my mom passed away in hers while she was sick. there's times im scared to go out because im scared something might happen to me, shooting, car crash, ect. idk. I was going to watch this video entirely but respectfully cannot.
Don’t be scared, you go back to where you were before you were born. Dying freaks me out too but when you experience your parents, aunts , cousins friends passing, you slowly become accepting to the fact your day will also come, only thing worse than dying is living forever.
With thanks to Alex for sharing his story. You can find out more at the below links:
Alex's Facebook Page - The Right To Die With Dignity - facebook.com/groups/278597605805885/?ref=share_group_link
Pegasos, the central support group in Switzerland FAQs -
pegasos-association.com/faqs/
Thank you to everyone at LADBIBLE . More than happy to answer any questions anyone may have and thanks for the many supportive comments. ✌️
@@alexpandolfo5617 Lots an lots of weed was class.
Hope you have a lot of memories still to make before you have to make final date.
All the best. 🤜🏼🤛🏼🏴
@@bigh6109 I will do my best to make and remember memories . Thank you ✌️
@@alexpandolfo5617 Very welcome Alex appreciate reply.
I’m about to partake myself a nice PG.
And I don’t mean tea. 😉
Why get cremated when we can get baked brother. 🤤
@@alexpandolfo5617 You made smile so many times, thank you for that. I wish you all the happiness in the world mate!
He hasn’t chosen to die. He’s chosen not to suffer.
Well stated.
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Ain't that every suicidal person to ever live.
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So....my suffering isn't as bad as his? What about people who hang themselves because of hearing voices? Is that ending suffering too? Or is that choosing to die?
My gran chose assisted death. We are in Australia. She was very happy to go that way after fighting cancer twice and it coming back and spreading to her bones/ brain/ lymph nodes etc. She had the drink, followed it with a espresso martini, and drifted off happily 30 seconds later. Because of that experience I genuinely believe that assisted death is a blessing that everyone should have the option of
What a wonderful way to go happy and on her own terms
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I'm so glad she had a nice martini before sleep. God bless.
As weird as it sounds, it sounds like a utopian way to die 😅
Im glad to hear its available in Australia.
This needs to be made available in every country. Everyone should have the right to leave on their own terms with dignity
Yeah, but this costs a lot of money, and not everybody has the means for that
@@ariasworld9991 I'm aware of that. It would cost even more to pay to fly to another country though wouldn't it
@@ariasworld9991 It costs a lot because it's uncommon. If it were made a standard practice and available everywhere, I'm sure it would be more cost effective.
@@LooselyGrope The easier and cheaper it is to do, the easier it is for people to be guilted into ending their lives as to "not be a burden". "The life-saving surgery is £35,000? Well you can die for £50."
What are you smoking 🚬. This basically assisted suicide.
“People who oppose this, don’t believe in choice.” This is a quote that is 100% accurate & applies to so, so much in this world Excellent video!!
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I oppose this because they will start forcing this on disabled and crippled people, they won’t get a choice
@@toastthelightfury That would be absolutely wrong. I'm curios though, what do you think about people that reproduce, do they also force their will when they decide to make a person but more to the point, do you have any respect for other people's needs or decisions regarding themselves?
@@toastthelightfury This is like saying that you don't support the idea of criminal trials because they might result in the imprisonment of innocent people. It's not even bonkers, mate. It's just stupid.
I had a job where I was more or less a baby sitter for a man in his 60’s who had Alzheimer’s and it was eerily similar to hanging out with a friend who is high on psychedelics but if your friend never knew what psychedelics are. You do not know sadness until you’ve watched someone slowly deteriorate into a violent uncontrollable human being. Guess what they do? They put you down like a rabid dog. He used to ask me are my parents still alive and then cry when I reminded him they’ve been dead for years. The saddest disease I’ve ever witnessed up close.
I looked after my Nana after my dad died. You lose them twice.
Watched my dad's mom die of alzheimers. We went to visit her and she was just sitting in her wheelchair crying out for her mom for hours, her mom has been dead for decades. It's the most cruel disease I've ever witnessed. I'm hoping my dad doesn't get it, along with me and my siblings.
As a carer, with dementia clients I always tell them they’re mum, dad, husband or wife whoever is running errands. I watched a carer tell my client her husband had been dead for years and she didn’t stop crying, her heart broke all over again and kept saying she’d never been to his funeral. Just tell them they’re loved ones will be home soon because they will end up forgetting that they asked. No point in putting them through heartbreak every time.
I have early onset dementia. When I no longer enjoy life, I will be ending it so that my loved ones don't have to go through that.
Why would you remind him that his parents are no longer alive? Why would you make the poor gentlemen re live the pain and sorrow of loosing their parents or anyone they ever loved over and over again? That’s just cruel it’s sickening have some compassion. There’s clearly something wrong with you and I hope you no longer work in care...
This guy deserved more than 20 minutes - all of us know a loved one just hanging on with an utterly debilitating condition the sheer indignity and horror of just day to day living
Thank you✌️
Certainly, this could’ve been an hour interview easily
@@judim5379 she’s at peace now. You never forget the trauma of watching your loved one go through that but it does get easier over time knowing they, and your family aren’t suffering anymore. Hope you’re doing okay, just think of the good memories you had together some people don’t even get to meet their grand parents we’ve been blessed with that privilege
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I agree. Such a gentle man, and I mean a gentle man.
My aunt was assisted as well. She was terminally ill and had fought for 17 years, this option provided her and my uncle from suffering at the very bitter end. We were all so happy for her to be able to leave this world on her own terms. Medically assisted death is a wonderful gift to terminally ill individuals.
@@theharshtruthoutthere all get eternal life. 1 Timothy 2:4 KJV . The lake of fire is a metaphorical refining fire. Says the Holy Scriptures
My grandmother has dementia and I am grieving for someone who is still alive
The moment I saw my father less than 24 hours before his natural death from cancer still haunts me to the day 17 years later. It was not the person I knew. Mum was looking after him for 3 years, his personal dignity was gone. I wouldn't want to live through this again.
I feel your pain my grandad had Alzheimer’s, I remember as a kid wondering why my family was so upset as I had in my mind that he was just sick and he would get better. He slowly deteriorated over the 5-6 years he was a strong man so it took him a long time to go. By the end he couldn’t eat, drink or do anything by himself he was just lay in a bed with bed sores. He would make noises like groans and sometimes you would see his eyes light up when myself or my mammar or mum walked in the door. I know he would’ve wanted this, the prolonged death and depersonalisation caused far more harm that good for everyone involved including my grandad. It was incredibly sad but when he died, I didn’t know why I felt it at the time but I felt a little bit of relief followed by sadness. R.I.P Brian Horton❤️ fly high boyo I’ll see you on the other side 👼
The things you said about the last time you saw your dad instantly reminded me about what my dad said recently about seeing my grandpa less than an hour away from his natural death from prostate cancer, this in 2015...
My niece asked about my dad's last moments with my grandpa before his death to him, and my dad said the exactly same thing as you... He doesn't like to remember that day bc the memories of seeing my grandpa so close to his death (he was really distressed), not looking like the person we knew anymore were too shocking to him... And those memories still haunts him to this day
At that time (I was 17 back then) I was already advocating for assisted dying and dying with dignity (unfortunately this is something my country isn't ready to debate properly, which is a shame), it broke my heart to know he passed away in so much fear, distress and pain 😭 His passing only reinforced my opinions about assisted dying, choosing to die in your own terms and death with dignity (regardless of opting for assisted dying or palliative care), no one deserves to die that way 💔
@@elliottrichardson8213I feel for you. My Nan begged every one of us to kill her for months and months as she was in agony riddled with cancer and all they kept saying was she was on maximum dose pain relief. It took days of her not being able to eat or drink or go to the bathroom, split skin and sores. If you left an animal like it you'd be arrested. I too felt a huge relief when she died and it takes a long time for the last horrific memories of them to fade and be replaced by better ones. I'm sure they'd be full of love knowing we were happy the pain and indignity ended for them. I do not understand people who can watch that and think it's a better way to die. I would never put my son through that.
Your father relieved himself from many sins (as each of us has during life) through this suffering and paved his way to better after life. Jesus Christ also suffered immensely on the cross but it was worth it.
@@Alex-zr1wt what's with all these pathetic bible bashing bots recently
After only 20 minutes I am going to miss this man when he's gone.
I know right. What a lovely guy.
I really wish I could see him off with a bunch of weed when he chooses to go!
He didn't "choose" to die. We're all gonna die, he just chose to die without pain.
Choosing to die on your own terms with the love and support of your family or friends is a dignified and beautiful thing. How sad this isn’t offered to everyone. Much love to this brave man for sharing his story and using it as a platform to inform the conversation around assisted dying.
my aunt who had dementia often asked difficult questions. e.g. where am I? where is my sister? (she had passed). i told her that she was at a fancy hotel. Told her her sister was out buying candy. my aunt loved travel and candy. she was reassured that good things surrounded her. when someones mind has disintegrated, you look after them accordingly. no honest brutal truths. they are like children and dont understand.
This is so kind of you 💗I remember looking after a gentleman with dementia; in his 'good' moments he remembered that his wife has passed away-he talked about her some beautifully and you could just tell how much he loved and missed her. The problem was whenever his daughter would visit and his memory would go, she'd remind him time and time again that his wife was dead. The sheer horror and heartbreak in his eyes was absolutely horrible 💔 We'd tell her not to do this, but I doubt she ever stopped. I truly can't imagine going through what he did every time.
Awww, that’s real love. ❤
Jude my mum is the same right now and has been for 2 years. My brother passed suddenly 2 years ago and she lived with him. She asks where is he (less now but was a few times a day). There is no way we even considered telling her and do the same 😢. She also asks about family members who have passed we say they they are fine. After reading your comment I am going to tell her something lovely as well ❤❤❤. Thank you for that. X
I always called my mom by her name and not mom, as eventually they forget they had children, and it upset her that people thought she had children. I also played into her hallucinations and became part of them, like an old friend telling a joke, and she's laughing by herself. I laughed too.
My dad died of a very sudden and unexpected heart attack, it was absolutely awful for everyone at the time. But I take solace in how quick for him it was, we didn't have to do the visits in hospital and slowly watch the man we loved become something he wasn't. After reading some of your comments I feel it was one of the better ways to go.
Sorry for the loss of your dad pal...mine had a long one for an active person slowly dying is grim
Did you ever heard about palliative treatment?
@@plumduff3303 sorry taken me a long time to see your message, I appreciate what you said and I am terribly sorry for the situation you had to deal with, take care of yourself my man
@@PeterMaXXHorvathpeople should have the right to choose for themselves
@@soviet9366...to spare healthcare costs... murders.
It’s time my country (U.K.) legalises this. It isn’t fair forcing people with degenerative diseases and zero quality of life, to stay alive. Really feel for this man. Not only did he have to watch both parents suffering, he now has an incurable disease too. Kudos to this lovely man for highlighting assisted dying.
It’s why my husband and I support the dignity in dying charity. My husband is terminally ill, and I know if the time came and it was something he wanted, I would support him.
Good for you. Your body your choice. There should be no age limit or any reason given to receive a peaceful exit. As long as there is no coercion
What a beautiful man I loved hearing his story I wish him the best and most peace he could find thank you Alex
Thank you ✌️
You’re welcome I tried
@@alexpandolfo5617that ain’t u
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My dad had Alzheimer's and he would have chosen to end his life through medically assisted dying. By the time he was ready to go, he was no longer competent and no longer qualified for the service. He lingered for another 7 years and died of COVID.
How cruel and awful for him take care
If this revolting disease ever comes to my door, I've already made it clear to my family that a one way ticket to Dignitas is what they're to do for me. I'm not having my mind robbed from me. All the best to you Alex.
So great that you have talked to your family. I was always grateful my parents discussed death and dying opening with us, made things so much easier at the end.
What is Dignitas?
@@edl6398 It's explained in the video...
@@GeekGamer666 Thanks. I must have missed it. Will watch again.
@@edl6398 it’s a clinic in Switzerland that provide legal assisted dying to people.
Wish we could all do planned assisted death regardless of condition
I found this interview incredibly brave.
In my college speech, I did it on physician assisted suicide. The reason I did it was for people to have autonmoy and choice at the end of life.
i could listen to him for hours, he has such a beautiful soul. I hope everything goes his way, this video really touched me in so many ways.
This is insightful in more ways than one. We appreciate interviews like this. They're all an eye-opener.
I love this man! He’ll be an angel, no doubt ❤
Totally agree with him,
My father died from alzheimer's
..it was such a cruel long torturous death..
He also became completely deaf and blind ...
My mother is now dying from dementia ..
Im middle age and very ill with heart failure
..and many other serious life limiting illnesses , plus bed ridden.
Its a rotten life when you deteriorate slowly and painfully.
...and have no quality of life .
I despair how medical science is practically forcing us to live longer
..yet wont help those who want to die with dignity.
Dad was terminally ill , practically a vegetable, yet the doctors still revived him.
It took a long time before they agreed a DNR.
Ive saved up enough for dignitas .
Ive attempted suicide twice only to suffer even more torment
..when it didnt work.
As soon as my affairs are in order, im off to the next world
..one way or other ..
Just a pity uk has not opted for dying with dignity .
Not keen that i have to travel alone to Switzerland ..
If im lucky a heart attack witll take me in my sleep.
I truely hope that everyone can get a chance to die in peace .
Noone should be suffering in these modern times.
Like they say " animals have a much better exit being kindly and gently put to sleep "
Its an funny old world isnt it...
may you find peace.
My grandmother lost her second battle with cancer last year, The amount of pain she was in was absolutely unbelievable.. People should have a choice about death... we have plenty of choices during life..
Death is a part of life and it will happen to everyone . We need to stop making it a taboo subject and trying to hide or run from it. My grandad passed from a horrible battle with cancer. We had so many special memories with him although sometimes I find it hard to remember them without the horrible memory of how horrible the end was. His friends passing sounded so peaceful and she went on her terms. Needs to be looked into more I think . Wish the best for this man and his family
My first cousin was diagnosed with stage 4 throat cancer a couple of weeks ago. He's just 50. That's almost 3 years younger than myself. I watched my father die from cancer in 2014 and he suffered tremendously. All that said makes me question how I will deal with my end day's if I don't go suddenly. To have a party with all the people that mean the most to you and to hug,kiss and say all the things you want to before you start suffering makes the most sense to me! It's beautiful really
My only fear is what God would say to me on the other side.......
@liketwogrand I understand that but I really like to think that if God created us in his own image then I really believe that he is an understanding God and would forgive us. I've had a few family members that were good people take their own lives and l really hope I see them again in the end
I've been dealing with depression for as long as I can remember, and this is something that's always been in the back of my mind. If listening to his story has taught me anything, it's that I'm not quite there yet. But it's reassuring to know the option is out there.
Me too.
You won’t get assisted suicide for depression. I’m glad you’re still here with us, please look for help whether it’s from god or a therapist. I know you will find your peace one of these days
My nana had lupus and dementia... horrendous !!! It was very very bad... the moments where she would be "normal" she immediately started crying casue she knew more or less that she was a burden and she was very very stubborn and prideful person. Thank you Ladbible for this interview and agree 10000% with this man ! We should be able to say - thats it im going. Only if its incurable and like he said - quality of life is degrading.
My Granny died of Alzhiemers a few years ago and it was genuinely awful to watch her go from a fully functional independent woman to spending most of her time in bed unable to move, barely able to breathe. I also remember when my Grandpa was dying of pneumonia and he was in bed constantly for what felt like eons but was more likely a few months, his suffering was unbearable to watch. I feel like this would have helped both of them an extreme amount. It would also have helped mine, my brother and my mum's mental health, knowing that they weren't suffering when they passed.
Same bro for my grandad shits sad asf😔
My granny too. She died slowly and it was awful to watch. Alzheimer’s takes away their dignity little bits at a time and us loved ones have to watch it happen. I’m sorry you lost your granny.
My grandmother died from Alzheimer’s at 86 in 2021. It’s a tragic fate. I wish she’d been given that option. It could’ve given her a more dignified end. Sad to see her sitting there and repeating “No Way” over and over again. Towards the end she no sense of self or recognition.
The only good thing is she is reunited with my grandfather who passed in 1998 from lung cancer at 64.
Their stone is emblazoned with “When Irish Eyes Are Smiling”.
My grandmother chose a medically assisted death, and I could not be more proud of her strength. She was an incredible woman, and she deserved to die with dignity. Alex, if you see this, I am wishing you comfort and peace on this journey and sending you love 🤍
I was 19 and five weeks into my first year of university when both my grandparents, who I lived with and raised me like my mum & dad were given terminal diagnosis’ of Cancer & Vascular Dementia. It ruined my life for years. I had no idea what their life expectancy was if the Christmas we spent together a few months later was going to be their last. Eventually they died when I was 25, living out long, slow and degrading deaths. My grandad was a company director, the head of his rotary chapter and a beloved person who died not even able to form a sentence. They had zero quality of life and were robbed of dignity by debilitating illnesses.
I don’t think they would have chosen assisted suicide, however, having to bare witness to the two people I loved most in this world fall from grace in such a way confirmed for me that assisted death, the choice to end your own life on your own terms and the ability to do it legally and not shamefully is incredibly important.
This is something that should have been reformed in the UK 20 years ago.
I have a degenerative neurological condition and I live in lots of pain every single day. I take a cocktail of pain medication just to get through each day, including morphine and fentanyl.
It'll get worse too. My body is shutting down. I intend to do the same as this man when the time is closer
Holy smokes. You must be in terrible pain.
How old are you? I'd like to think I'd do the same if that happens to me, but it seems that the older people get..the more tightly they hold on to their stupid little lives
@@carolinebjerkelund767 Every single day. On a scale of 1 to 10, it never gets below a 7 or 8.
@@iHatePolitics That is bad. Plus, you feel that pain with all of those pain drugs. I don't know what to say. Maybe a internet hug for you :)
Oh that's horrible. I hope you live in a place that recognises you should have control over your own life. I too live with chronic pain but not at your level yet. I'm on oxycodone and the dose gets higher and higher and nothing else works and I spend half my time in a daze or asleep and I too get awful pain at times. Im so lucky I have the most wonderful sweet cuddly soft soft little doggy that just melts everything into love. She makes the bad days bearable. I hope you have something to give you comfort. If I could send you some I would. Respect to you.
My Mum died from Dementia and I totally understand this gentlemans decision.....Theres no words
Beautiful man. Incredibly moving ❤
My grandma passed by assisted death when i was 10. She had brain cancer, which paralyzed half her body and caused her immense pain. She applied and they let her get it. For weeks leading up to her death, doctors and psychiatrists would come in and ask her if she was sure and she always was. I would miss school days to hang out with her in her hospital room and we would watch tv and play card games. I would her my mom talk to her about her decision and my grandma sounded so at peace with it. Before her death, my family and i formed a line at her bed and each said our goodbyes. I remember her reassuring me that she was going to be fine and telling me how much she loved me. We hugged and i left the room crying. That was the last time i ever heard her voice. My mom, her siblings, and my grandpa all stayed in her room during her death. I was told that she gradually fell asleep while her favourite song was playing, September by Earth, Wind and Fire. My cousins and i all gathered in this hospital playroom and hugged each other while we cried. I remember my mom coming into the playroom 30 minutes later to tell us that she had passed. Even though i knew it was coming, i still felt my whole world crumble at those news. They let us go hug her one last time after she had passed. During her death, my and my cousins drew a picture of her as an angel and on the back, we each wrote her a message. I placed the drawing on her bed and the nurse told me that they were going to cremate the paper with her body if we wanted. We agreed and then left. My cousins had drove hours to come see her that weekend and they rented hotel rooms. After her death, i remember my cousins and i playing mermaids in the hotel pool to distract ourselves. It’s been 4 years and i still miss her everyday. Although, knowing that she was at peace with her decision comforts me.
My mother died of cancer and watching her suffer was unbearable. It absolutely broke me. If she had asked me to end her life for her I'd have done it without hesitation.
I have told my father that if I am ever in an accident where my quality of life would be poor, he should switch the lift support off or if I have a terminal illness to take me to Dignitas.
My aunt was the same (her name was Lesley actually)
I find youtube labeling this as a suicide/self harm topic and restricting it offensive. It's hugely important medical assistance that people need to know about.
I lost my grandmother in 2010 due to Dementia. It's like you're losing them twice. First, the person you know and love withers away, and then they close the final chapter by dying. It's grief and relief. I felt relieved that she no longer suffered, but also sad that someone the family loved passed away.
In Portugal is also legal. Was just approved last week.
Really?
My grandpa died of Alzheimer’s and it’s a horrendous disease. It completely changed him. I don’t remember exactly, but I believe he did say he wanted to die. He ended up passing in an Alzheimer’s center, with my mom by his side.
I respect doctors in other countries who help people die peacefully rather than suffer for weeks, months or even years. My grandpa had dementia and there at the end he got terrible. I hated seeing him because it’s just sickening how badly their mind disintegrates. I also work with a lot of old people that are the same way and I feel just as horrible for every last one of them. Everybody no matter what the illness should be allowed to die if they choose. Politics, religion or others beliefs should play no part in anyone else’s lives. Dying physically hurts no one else other than the person doing it so it shouldn’t be anyone else’s decision.
Exactly, I pray for such law in India, Dignity should never be compromised,even in death,such law is blessing
What a lovely, gracious gentleman. Loved hearing his outlook
I lost loved ones from dementia. I feel and understand every word he says.
Thankyou for covering this
Keep us updated when he has passed so we can pay tribute to him
What a total legend of a human he is♥️. His energy and ethos is mesmerising. So sad to hear what he’s gone through with his parents and that he is in a situation where by he has to make this choice but what a totally wonderful human being. I so wish he could do this here in the UK, here’s hoping one day people can.
Wishing him all the best. X
This is also possible in The Netherlands (where i'm from) and I'm so glad it exists. My parents filled in forms too for this in case something happens. I think it's fair for someone to decide their own fate, to go on their own terms.
You are so lucky. That's such a good way to have things. People who have made it very clear throughout their life to their family and on medical records what they would like to happen. It's my life and I should get to choose, why does someone get to take that away from me? It's inhuman to watch people suffer like that and my worst fear is not for myself, it's that I don't want to put my son through that. I wish I could move to a more progressive country.
I watched my Grandad suffer from dementia and it was horrific, Everyone should have the right to choose when they want to end there life, It's the only thing we truly own in this world our life and we have no control over it. Thank you Alex this is one more step towards the right thing. Good luck good man from a fellow Manc xx
What a truly beautiful, inspiring soul this man is. His level of pragmatism and aura of tranquility and certainty in regards to his life decisions are qualities to be admired.
He appears as though he doesn’t feel fear, or anxiety. Maybe he does in private. But he certainly exudes a stoic level of self-assuredness here in this video. I hope I can learn to master this mentality someday within my own mind.
So grateful to Alex for sharing this important message. Here in the states, many people do not live in a MAID state, since there are only 11 states that will allow it. Fortunately, Oregon did pass a non-residency option but as I understand it, it's still quite challenging to get approved. Each human being on this planet should have access to MAID. Sadly, as an End of Life Doula who lives in Texas, I've seen people suffer needlessly and it just isn't necessary when we have medications available to alleviate the suffering. Hoping that one day in the not-so-distant-future, MAID will become a right for every human.
I hope every state adopts it. I live in Alabama and if I get in the position of where I'm going to suffer until I die, I really don't want to slit my wrists and I don't want to go to another state.
I'm moving states to do the
same thing in America, safe
journey onward!!! 😊✌️💚
As a neurosurgery/major trauma nurse in the UK I often see people suffer needlessly. I understand that it's absolutely horrible losing a loved one, however I find it cruel to prolong someone's life when you know the outcome is only gonna bring them more pain and misery. Personally, I think this should become legal everywhere. It's not to encourage suicide-trust me if somebody truly wants to go, they'll find the way, rather to give people the choice to go in a humane way, while keeping their dignity.
Agreed it’s more humane than to suffer
This is a truly dispicabe compassionless country, everyone shouid have the right to dignity. Thank you Alex.
Thank you for your comments✌️
Fortunately, I'm from CA which is an assisted death state and if something like this happens to me, I have zero doubts that this is the direction I will take.
We have assisted death in WA also but Dementia doesn't apply it seems.
Wow California? They do this?
Good, I thought I had to go to Canada. Thanks for letting us know. I thought this was not allowed anywhere. I want this.
@@LadydogC I'm not sure but in California you have to apply and they'll only accept people under certain conditions
I live in Pennsylvania and we don’t have assisted death. I hope one day that we do.
Dementia is not considered a life-threatening illness and not eligible. They are appealing it but make sure you research that first.
Got a lot of respect for this, he's very articulate and had clearly put a lot of thought into it. Strikes me as a person with a lot of empathy as he was talking about his friend who was in a similar situation to himself and is obviously on here trying to get his message across.
Can really understand where he's coming from too, I've seen a few elderly relatives go now and some have defintely suffered and I think in ways I wouldn't want to myself. Defintely agree with him wanting to go on his own terms before he loses his conative faculties and arguably starts making it harder for those around him as it's never pleasant seeing someone you love deteriorate like that. Hopefully this sort of thing will become more widespread, it's about choice ultimately so why not offer people that sort of choice if they know its what they want and are certain?
This is the only interview I’ve ever watched on CZcams after seeing it on Instagram, it struck a cord as I am a live in carer and one of my regular clients (My beautiful Betty) has advanced dementia, she is the sweetest person I’ve ever know so wonderfully kind and this quite rare with dementia as clients can become aggressive or overwhelming upset
But what a lovely man, he seems so genuinely kind and a great person to be around. ❤ what a brave soul
Alex explained assisted dying perfectly.
I'm so happy about living 1 hour away from Basel in Switzerland and i won't hesitate any second if i contract a disease wich cannot be cured to get there and be a part of that experience.. I don't want to suffer 5 years like his parents did..
What a lovely, lovely man! May God help him, and may he not suffer when the time comes🙏🌹
Thank you Alex.. peace and happiness to you Alex
Thank you ✌️
All respect to Mr. Alex Pandolfo. What a wonderful man! Thank you for sharing your story. Good luck on your journey.
Thank you for sharing this. It needs to be talked about, not admonished but cherished as a choice xo
May peace be with you 🙏
This man is just marvellous. What an amazing character he has.
Thank you so much for showing this!
This is how civilized honest brave people deal with death
CZcams over time has become a background noise for me for sleep or chores. But I find myself pausing these videos, or going all the way back to the beginning of your content. Thank you and every interviewee for creating something that gives me the will to live, and not something that helps me dissociate or run away from reality. Life is truly fascinating and there isn’t enough time to learn, experience or understand everything. But these videos soothe that part in my brain obsessed with the possibilities and chaos of life 🫶🏾💗.
What an incredible man. He has thought this through meticulously and hearing him talk it through, makes so much sense. Death is the only sure thing in life and, though I have no desire or need to want life to come to an end soon, the thought of having the way you leave this Earth, in your control, in your own hands, and go out peacefully and on your own terms, sounds like the most dignified way imaginable. It’s more humane than allowing someone to slowly die in agony. Absolutely thought provoking video and I wish this man the best 🥺♥️
I love this gentleman's outlook on life and living.
This man is so awesome what a personality and he really understands the difficulties others can't see, please help this man achieve what he wants to achieve before he goes x
That, or i hope that his memory issues are just a result of a curable cause so he can keep spreading his words and compassion
Brave soul such a brave man
Such a brave thing to do. Wishing you all the best on your transition.❤
I am in full support of assisted death. Thank you for Sharing your story and knowledge. Peace to you kind sir.
This bloke is nails...my mate went to Switzerland had party on the way down he was 42 rip Neil old son.
Dang. He is a lovely man ! I could listen to him for days on end ! I LOVE the way he talks and his diction...beautiful-belisimo !
Thank you for sharing this. I've shared this thought of choice for a long while. Hearing you, and your experience, and the requirements, it makes it even more beautiful to have that choice on how to live and how to end one's life. Thank you for sharing it.
I give it up for all the countries and states that support this choice.
So so so much respect for you, Alex! Having watched my own father and mother in law die, from dementia, I can empathise with how utterly heartbreaking it is to watch someone you love suffer, and they do truly truly suffer! It’s a very protracted, painful process, that I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. If I ever had that diagnosis, I’d like to think the option to choose to end my own suffering, would be available. But as you say, the people in the lower financial bracket, don’t have that choice, and that terrifies me. I would never ever want to suffer the way they did, that’s probably my biggest fear in life.
I wish you the longest life you can possibly have, and when the time comes, the most beautiful, peaceful and dignified death. May your soul rest in peace and rise in glory ❤
I watched my grandma waste away from cancer, from a heavy set woman to nothing but skin and bones, it still haunts me to this day 20 years on.
I had a friend who suffered from schizophrenia. He hates living his life and has attempted death many times. I told him that if he CS I wouldn’t be mad at him. I would just miss him. I hope he knows he’s not alone in not wanting to live with something that makes him terrible 💔💔😖😖😖😖😖
People who oppose right to die should be forced to do end of life care. Some people just do not understand.
I agree. Let us pray that they can have enough wisdom to deal with life's struggles.
my grandpa starved to death it took 3 months. he was ''unconcious '' we tried to feed him every day and he couldnt swollow fully because of the parkinsons. fuck laws that make loved ones suffer.
Very eloquent, and brilliantly explained.
Thank you ✌️
WHAT A REMARKABLE MAN. I love the sound of his laughter knowing he's facing such difficult time's. Alex will be in my thoughts for some time to come. Watching my Father die a HORRIBLE death was the hardest thing so I rejoice for Alex being able to do it his way.
What a brave and inspirational gentleman. Bless you Sir. 🤍
This was one of the BEST interviews you’ve ever produced. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing your story and giving us incredible insight on assisted death. Choosing to pass away on your own terms can be so empowering for many. I hope to see many more countries legalize it for the sake of humanity.
Alex, I wish you a joyous and peaceful life.
Dear Alex, thanks for sharing. I am happy for you having the chance to say goodbye the way you want it. You are a lovely person and i wish you all the best
Alzheimer’s and all forms of dementia is way more than just a lack of memory. I watch my grandmother and several other relatives die from this disease, it’s absolutely terrifying. The patients themselves are in constant terror as they lose their cognition, abilities to move, speak, walk, eat, then eventually, they end up on a respirator until they die. I watch my grandmother suffer for almost 10 years, in the early stages, when she had moments of clarity, she would beg us to kill her, because she was so terrified and in so much pain both physically and mentally. I completely agree 100% with allowing someone to ending their lives with dignity, on their terms. They do have to be regulations in place to ensure this privilege is not abused, but if we have enough compassion to put our own animals to sleep, why can’t we do the same for ourselves? I was diagnosed with a terminal illness. I would not hesitate for one second to end my life this way. I’ve already spent more than half my life in and out of the hospital thanks severe stage 4 Crohn’s disease, cancer, renal failure, severe, and absolutely crippling, anxiety and depression, plus the host of other chronic illnesses, and I’m only 55. For the moment, I fight like hell, because they were all things I can survive with, although some days I question that, I survived the unsurvivable already, but if I were to get a terminal diagnosis, I would not hesitate for one second to put an end to all this. Just being alive is not enough that’s not living. If I can enjoy life, or at least have some semblance of a quality life, I have no wish to prolong the inevitable, and I’ll never understand why people insist that we suffer for years until we die because they can’t face reality. I am a Catholic, that is my only hesitation, but at the end of the day, not even that would stop me.
In years to come we'll look back on assisted dying for severely ill people being illegal as completely absurd. It shouldn't even be a political issue, but a medical and ultimately moral one.
Alex, thank you for sharing your story and views with us.
You seem like an amazing human being.
I sincerely hope your days are filled with happiness, contentment and love all the way through your journey, however long or short that may be.
Much love and respect.
Be happy. X
Thank you ✌️
@@alexpandolfo5617 I watched my dad suffer from this,it made it so bittersweet when he passed. Saw him take his last breath. Alex i pray you enjoy every moment you have left here. I pray you do not suffer. Know you are loved. Godspeed.
@@truth2vanquish Thank you for your King words . I’m sorry to hear about your dad . I understand the biter sweet . I was in a similar situation . I had watched my dad suffer for five years and death was a relief , but it’s still a loss . I always say o lost my dad twice one to dementia and five years later to death itself . You will know what I mean by suffering double loss and grief . Take care ✌️
@@alexpandolfo5617 That the truth. I know exactly what you mean. Alex. There is definitely two deaths in this awful disease I hope to God someday there’s a cure. Thank you Sir.
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Wow, this one blew me away. What a thorougly nice bloke! Wish you all the best Alex. I hope that the UK can come round and start to offer people the dignified choice of choosing how they die as well as live.
This is the most thought provoking video I have ever watched. I have an illness and have many times wanted to know what options are available. Thank you for the information.
When I’m old i would like to go peacefully and quick. Assisted death is the most humane you can imagine.❤
idk, im scared to die so just listening to people choose it scares me too. I know it's inevitable but the thought makes me anxious, it makes me sad, it makes me panic. there's times im scared to fall asleep because my mom passed away in hers while she was sick. there's times im scared to go out because im scared something might happen to me, shooting, car crash, ect. idk. I was going to watch this video entirely but respectfully cannot.
Don’t be scared, you go back to where you were before you were born. Dying freaks me out too but when you experience your parents, aunts , cousins friends passing, you slowly become accepting to the fact your day will also come, only thing worse than dying is living forever.
I love his way of talking and his speech kills.. so elegant and clear