in a world full of femininity coaches, wear ur natural hair.

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  • čas přidán 5. 09. 2024
  • This will likely be my first & last video about femininity... but not natural hair tho ;)
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Komentáře • 292

  • @AbiAkoms
    @AbiAkoms Před 4 měsíci +355

    It always baffles me how society has conditioned black women to think that the hair that grows out of our scalp is "unprofessional" "not feminine" etc. I loc'd my hair over a month ago and felt more beautiful than ever!

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 4 měsíci +19

      Yes I seen that! You come off more confident as well in your videos. Happy for you!

    • @askbre
      @askbre Před 3 měsíci +5

      @@EvieAswitii wonder had we never started weaves and covering up our hair would it have ended up acceptable like the other races of women

    • @Proverbs.chapter3.verses5-8
      @Proverbs.chapter3.verses5-8 Před 2 měsíci +1

      @@askbremost likely

  • @kimathis
    @kimathis Před 4 měsíci +224

    All the women are starting to look alike, it’s great to be different. Trust we are admired

  • @denyshadials5702
    @denyshadials5702 Před 4 měsíci +382

    Wear your bald head.
    Wear your short hair.
    Wear your medium length hair.
    Wear your long hair.
    Wear your hair down to your knees.
    Whatever you’re wearing make sure it’s yours. You ARE femininity.

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 4 měsíci +21

      Hello! 🏆🎀

    • @exoticallovergirl
      @exoticallovergirl Před 4 měsíci +2

      Wear it fake if you like! Wigs and weave isn't new and isn't going anywhere!

    • @vixii6230
      @vixii6230 Před 4 měsíci +42

      @@exoticallovergirlThis isn’t necessarily about not wearing wigs or weaves, it’s about wearing our natural hair out no matter the length of it. Specifically about wearing a natural tight coily/kinky hair that isn’t glamorized much in the media especially of shorter lengths.

    • @denyshadials5702
      @denyshadials5702 Před 4 měsíci +25

      @@exoticallovergirl
      It’s almost like you could’ve said this on a channel with wig content or something 🤔

    • @denyshadials5702
      @denyshadials5702 Před 4 měsíci +6

      @@EvieAswiti
      Hello Evie! Always a joy coming to this channel 🩷☺️

  • @NaturallyMe974
    @NaturallyMe974 Před 4 měsíci +139

    Natural hair is B.S. repellant..your hair is gorgeous by the way..my go to is mini twist..

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 4 měsíci +20

      BS repellant 😂 I like that! Thank youuuu

    • @user-ke7iv3gv3t
      @user-ke7iv3gv3t Před 3 měsíci +3

      Yes her natural hair is beautiful!

  • @lisa-pz2px
    @lisa-pz2px Před 3 měsíci +93

    God makes no mistakes, and he didn't start with you. He coiled every single hair on your head to perfection, he put some time into you

    • @Timetrae
      @Timetrae Před 3 měsíci +5

      💯💯💯 ….And no one can do it better than!!

    • @ibukundada3426
      @ibukundada3426 Před měsícem

      Amen!!!

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před měsícem +1

      I am so here for this! Thank you so much 🤎🤎🤎

  • @dangdeionn
    @dangdeionn Před 4 měsíci +102

    A black woman legit said on her CZcams channel that wearing your natural hair while being overweight give poverty and welfare energy and that only black women who are model slim can pull off the natural hair and exotic look.
    I hate wearing wigs and feel ugly with them despite the attention I get with them. It further invalidates me. I love my natural state. I look youthful, natural and secure.
    I wish lace wigs will die out it honestly looks insane

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 4 měsíci +12

      As long as we have options to wear our hair in peace, I’m happy!

    • @Timetrae
      @Timetrae Před 3 měsíci +25

      Sounds like she’s projecting and truly doesn’t see any beauty in natural hair which is stunning! Her disdain for natural hair runs so deep that she believes the only thing that could elevate it is being rail thin. How sad! Natural hair is beautiful regardless of how small our waist is!! SMH!!

    • @askbre
      @askbre Před 3 měsíci +4

      Everytime i buy a wig the lace doesnt look natural like the pics and videos smh and ive tried all the methods! The girlies have to be photoshopping the lace.
      Its ugly and im done

    • @sbfairy
      @sbfairy Před 3 měsíci +5

      ⁠@@askbreI’ve wondered about this. I work in a job where I am in people’s personal space. I’ve never seen a lace front where the lace was practically invisible. Even the girls who cut baby hairs into the wig-that lace is still visible. I find the color of the part and the edges really give it away.

    • @lavellans
      @lavellans Před 3 měsíci

      @@sbfairy Period

  • @so.many.obstacles
    @so.many.obstacles Před 3 měsíci +43

    I’ve never cared about the male gaze 🤷🏾‍♀️. My decision about me don’t include thinking about what a male will think about me. I did my first big chop in 08 and my mother asked me how I was going to attract a man with short natural hair. A male cousin of mine said, “you’re already dark skinned, why do you want nappy hair too?” I was unfazed.
    When we learn to center ourselves and not concern ourselves with the opinions of others, then we will be free. You will naturally attract the people that are meant for you and you will naturally repel those that aren’t.

    • @alexiabowen4035
      @alexiabowen4035 Před 3 měsíci +3

      amen sis

    • @Fearless-wi4ng
      @Fearless-wi4ng Před 2 měsíci +1

      OMG. In this day to hear this makes my brain hurt.

    • @fazziland3932
      @fazziland3932 Před dnem +1

      I agree. I swear I got love for men but I don’t GAF about their gazes too much. If I like it, ima wear it.

  • @glamglam8347
    @glamglam8347 Před 4 měsíci +212

    I feel like the whole "natural hair doesnt attract men" thing is a lie. Natural hair attracts DIFFERENT MEN. Usually black women expect the same men that love bussdowns to love natural. Its like expecting men who loves bbls to all the sudden love you with no booty. Wearing my natural mostly gets me non blk men attention.

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 4 měsíci +29

      yeah girl it’s such a lie. bold faced lie.

    • @acebutterfly2725
      @acebutterfly2725 Před 4 měsíci +16

      In regard to your last sentence, why do you think that happens? I’ve heard other naturals make the same comment.

    • @ngozinwafor
      @ngozinwafor Před 4 měsíci +55

      I agree with the non black men attention part. I think alot of non black people appreciate our unique and inherit beauty more than we do at times.

    • @glamglam8347
      @glamglam8347 Před 3 měsíci +49

      ​@acebutterfly2725 bc it's effortless. Unlike the blck community, the non-blck communities love the "effortless beauty" look. While the black community love their women looking like they've spent hours getting everything done non black communities like you looking natural in all the right places and done up in the right places

    • @CambieSweets
      @CambieSweets Před 3 měsíci +41

      @@acebutterfly2725I would say it is programming. It’s a lot of internalized racism, colorism, and featurism.

  • @glamglam8347
    @glamglam8347 Před 4 měsíci +161

    Yall dont have to go cold turkey. If you insecure about length or texture, wear kinky straight or wear 4c extentions. Also start following women with your hair type

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 4 měsíci +27

      This!

    • @dmystfy
      @dmystfy Před 4 měsíci +25

      That’s what I did. For 2 years I wore kinky bundles. But this year I realized that I have to go fully natural for my scalp health.

    • @acebutterfly2725
      @acebutterfly2725 Před 4 měsíci +20

      I think it is helpful to also go to a natural salon. They will be able to provide education on products, maintenance, and how-tos.

    • @Syndersis
      @Syndersis Před 4 měsíci +23

      Having my Pinterest/my boards filled with bw with their natural hair helps alot.

    • @girlbrittneygirl
      @girlbrittneygirl Před 3 měsíci +1

      Women wear whatever kind of extensions you want to wear! Just because someone doesn’t like their “4C” hair it doesn’t make them insecure. It’s makes them honest about themselves. Why would you tell someone to wear something that they don’t like? No other race shames women for wearing or styling their hair as they please. You don’t hear white women telling each other “ if you insecure about your kinky hair, you should get a curly wig or wear curly extensions! White women straighten their hair and no one bats an eye. No one says they’re insecure!

  • @stellafournodavlou
    @stellafournodavlou Před 4 měsíci +144

    NATURAL HAIR IS AS FEMININE AS IT GETS ❤

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 4 měsíci +12

      Purrrr 💅🏾

    • @girlbrittneygirl
      @girlbrittneygirl Před 3 měsíci

      Femininity has nothing to do with hair at all. Femininity has to do with mind.

  • @IamShanRich
    @IamShanRich Před 4 měsíci +145

    Lately I have been feeling in bondage with wigs and now even braids, I told my hubby last night I just want to be free, tension free! I am excited about saving money and getting back to my natural! Let’s go ladies ❤your natural it’s freeing and it actually looks better in my opinion

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 4 měsíci +21

      Oh to be freeeeeee 🙌🏾 also the saving money part I forgot about that. My wallet is so happy lol. Give it a try and watch your hair love you back!

    • @girlbrittneygirl
      @girlbrittneygirl Před 3 měsíci +3

      Wearing your hair however you choose to is freeing . Your preference is the way to go.

    • @girlbrittneygirl
      @girlbrittneygirl Před 3 měsíci +1

      But you’re already free regardless of how you choose to wear your hair! If you consider yourself in bondage while wear ing wigs or extensions, you deciding to go”natural” is not going make you less in bondage if you intentions were to get validation outside of yourself .

    • @rhondadenis3469
      @rhondadenis3469 Před 3 měsíci +14

      @@girlbrittneygirl if you always hide your hair under a wig or weave are you really free? It’s like saying a bald guy who always has a hat on is completely comfortable with his bald head. I don’t buy that. Yes you can wear your hair as you like but if you can’t leave your house without a weave or a wig you are not truly comfortable with yourself.

  • @MsLotusBlooms
    @MsLotusBlooms Před 4 měsíci +62

    Being authentic as a natural born woman is inherently feminine. Femininity is about attention to detail and subtleness. As long as you take care of it, it's healthy and styled well then it's feminine.

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 4 měsíci +9

      This part was said so well and eloquently. I agree ☝🏾

    • @girlbrittneygirl
      @girlbrittneygirl Před 3 měsíci

      Being born a natural woman does not automatically make you feminine. Femininity is of the mind. What you talking about is keeping yourself neat and groomed properly.

  • @SW-vn7ve
    @SW-vn7ve Před 3 měsíci +55

    Natural hair attracts men that are aware that feminine doesn't equate to long straight or curly hair. It's serves natural women well, because if you are attracting a man because you look like what he fantasizes with long hair, what happens when you remove it? A lot of men are unapologetic when you fool them into thinking you are their preference. Better to attract one who likes what you look like without it. There is someone for everyone. I have a short 4c twa, and I am ultra feminine. The men keep looking. It's all about how you carry it.

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 3 měsíci +4

      Bingo.

    • @askbre
      @askbre Před 3 měsíci

      Not to mention they wanna pull it during sex smh

  • @krystanicoleeee6022
    @krystanicoleeee6022 Před 3 měsíci +33

    What kills me about most of these femininity coaches who are obsessed with looking super fake (there is a difference between looking put together and looking ridiculously fake like can they be FR) is that they tend to NOT be married and they are selling courses for what? I always said that you should be able to be your authentic self (how ever you want to do your makeup, wear what you like, wear your hair how you want, and etc!) and be able to attract effortlessly! Like I am so over tons of these coaches wanting women to change A TON. like please be yourself ladiesss PLZ

    • @nursefulness2274
      @nursefulness2274 Před 3 měsíci +3

      I don’t get this comment. ‘They don’t tend to be married and are selling courses for what?’ Insinuates that women only pursue femininity to attract men and get married. Femininity should have nothing to do with men imo. It’s about being ‘feminine’, ‘femme’ womanly… it should be a safe space away from men. If I read ur comment wrong pls explain. Otherwise I agree with what u said about everyone looking fake and teaching others how to look just as fake

  • @Opinionatedcancer
    @Opinionatedcancer Před 4 měsíci +32

    I’ve been weave free since January and have never been happier

  • @cassandrawilson8813
    @cassandrawilson8813 Před 4 měsíci +47

    Its crazy...just a month ago I looked at a pile of wigs in the corner and just said I'm done!! Made an appointment to get the tapered cut I always wanted!! Feeling free and healthy 😊

  • @KushQueen9
    @KushQueen9 Před 3 měsíci +20

    In my country, short hair is considered extremely feminine and the women always look stunning because of their facial features. When i travelled back home, my younger cousins were rocking their short hair so well that it made me want to cut my hair because they looked incredible. I also think women need to realise that everything is not about the male gaze, and if someone doesn't like you for who you are, then you should keep it moving. I am not living to please anyone but myself. For the first time in my life, I have felt more feminine than ever before and I was able to wear my natural hair when i walked for Africa Fashion week, which made me so happy. Ahh ladies, our hair is beautiful.

  • @nicoobrowner
    @nicoobrowner Před 4 měsíci +46

    I have BEEN waiting for someone who embraces femininity while natural to speak up😢. Thanks for putting out this video! Sometimes you look at fermininity coaches and you listen to them talk about elegance, but they ALWAYS promote weaves. Its so discouraging because thats not WHO WE ARE. They are basically saying that black women don't look feminine with natural hair 😢. Please keep this up and I hope there are more of you around.

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 4 měsíci +4

      You’re so welcome. I don’t want us to feel a sense of shame in our hair. You’re right. It’s not who we are. Thanks for watching and sharing!

  • @Syndersis
    @Syndersis Před 4 měsíci +27

    I'm 16, and I've been wearing my natural hair out, such as mini braid with beads and Fulani braids with no added hair. Rn I have chunky mini braids and it's so freeing not having to fix my hair so much in the mornings. I just put on a cute headband and go about my day. I'm hoping to wear my afro out soon.

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 4 měsíci +10

      omg 16!!!??? 🥹🥹🥹 I’m happy my content reached you, my love. Continue on this journey. you’ll rock your afro in no time 😉

    • @char6081
      @char6081 Před 3 měsíci +3

      Yea I’m 17 and I went thru a phase where I wore my natural hair during 15-16 because my edges needed to breath. It’s def sad that the last 2 years all the girls at school started wearing lace wigs especially how so many of the girls look soo different without them and they be forehead-fishing

    • @KushQueen9
      @KushQueen9 Před 3 měsíci

      Love that!

    • @flourish1
      @flourish1 Před 10 dny

      @@char6081same age as you. Why are we living the same life? Everyone is now wearing lace fronts made me feel bad ash and odd for wearing natural hair or braids. Thankfully, I’ve been changing my mentality and trying to embrace my unique beauty!

  • @rhondadenis3469
    @rhondadenis3469 Před 3 měsíci +40

    The best thing a woman with natural hair can is get a haircut. Length doesn’t matter, shape does. If your hair shape flatters your face you will look Uber soft and feminine.

  • @CandidNik
    @CandidNik Před 4 měsíci +52

    I’d love the video on shrinkage. You’ve definitely inspired me to wash my hair more often & it’s been softer and more manageable.
    I actually find myself looking forward to wash day & wanting to wash my hair all the time. Id love to get to the point of washing everyday but I know that’d mean embracing shrinkage.

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 4 měsíci +8

      Oh wow I’m so proud of you! Thanks for being open minded. Happy that your hair is soft and adjusting well.
      It took me a while to embrace shrinkage. But now I am loving it!

  • @MsLotusBlooms
    @MsLotusBlooms Před 4 měsíci +30

    Natural is best. Even as a woman, I prefer to see black women natural. They seem more relatable to me and I'm sure men feel that way too. Few women can get away with fake hair. I know some women do look better with it but not many.

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 4 měsíci +8

      Yes it makes us look soft, don’t you think?

    • @MsLotusBlooms
      @MsLotusBlooms Před 4 měsíci +9

      @@EvieAswiti Yes, soft and fresh.

  • @thewisdomdivatv
    @thewisdomdivatv Před 4 měsíci +37

    What gets attention from men is a woman who loves herself in her natural state just as much as she loves herself and feels confident with enhancements or in the case of hair, wigs and weaves. I started my locs in 2016 and it was a drastic change that I fully embraced, although it wasn’t easy. In 2017 I met my husband and my locs looked like a TWA. I never felt more beautiful because I’ve never felt more myself. I think hubby would agree, but if he didn’t that would be his problem. I think men like when women are free and happy and not so focused on them.

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 4 měsíci +1

      Perioso!!!!

    • @girlbrittneygirl
      @girlbrittneygirl Před 3 měsíci

      Men are attracted to women who are their AUTHENTIC selves ! You know males are visual. This is why black women keep losing. You all keep basing your existence on what males think and like. Be you! If a man really likes you, he’s not going to try to change you.

    • @feliznavidad6958
      @feliznavidad6958 Před 3 měsíci +1

      There are a lot of insecure women out there with partners. It's not that deep for men. Are you attractive enough physically for him or does he think he can get you? Then he might try with you. He's not thinking "Does she love herself as she is?"
      Actually if men thought like that, they would never try to negg women.

    • @catlover126
      @catlover126 Před 3 měsíci

      ​@feliznavidad6958 honestly I think confidence is the most attractive thing in all men and I think many women agree would you?

    • @feliznavidad6958
      @feliznavidad6958 Před 3 měsíci

      @@catlover126 Yes women like confident men. But it's not true that men like confident women due to negging and the constant "trying to humble" women.

  • @abbeyslife
    @abbeyslife Před 3 měsíci +15

    Great video! My natural hair is my biggest flex✨ It makes me special and stand out in world where everyone is trying to look a certain way

  • @aswinspires
    @aswinspires Před 3 měsíci +12

    I just got sister locks installed and have been hiding in the house for a week because I am not used to wearing my natural 4c hair! I was always wearing wigs and other protective styles so it has been a difficult transition. Thank you SO much for this video, seriously! 🤍

  • @ncd313
    @ncd313 Před 4 měsíci +56

    Evie, I’m 23 and I love your videos. I recently did a big chop and I’m now rocking my tapered cut to work and feeling more beautiful everyday since I did it last week. Thank you for inspiring me ❤

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 4 měsíci +6

      Aw, yay!!! You’re soooo welcome 🤗

  • @theconfidentwoman3023
    @theconfidentwoman3023 Před 4 měsíci +28

    Very nice video. Natural will always be feminine.

  • @pointlessNYC
    @pointlessNYC Před 3 měsíci +9

    I shaved my head two weeks ago. It’s my 6th time, but it’s permanent due to scalp issues. I actually feel more beautiful than ever. But I can tell other black people are confronted with their own concept of beauty when they see me. Some smile and praise it, others project feelings of shame and disgust. I’m happier separating my femininity from ideals that were never mine.

  • @deerobbins1462
    @deerobbins1462 Před 3 měsíci +5

    Back in 2022 I felt God tugging on my heart about my weave wearing. I kept getting this nudge that I needed to remove my weave, and I did. I’ve never felt so good in my entire life. Over 20+ years of wearing braids and weaves, and now I can confidently walk outside without them. It’s a process to make the change, but it can be done. 🙌🏾

  • @eternitysafro1083
    @eternitysafro1083 Před 4 měsíci +96

    I wear my natural hair 24/7, and I feel the most beautiful and confident. Currently I been wearing my Afro exclusively for years, but before I used to wear mini twist exclusively too. I have 0 problems getting any attention from all men, especially not from other races of men. My man is non Black Latino, and he lovessss my hair. It actually was one of the things that attracted him to me. Do you boo.😊🤍

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 4 měsíci +18

      Hey now! Yeah, our hair is the sugar honey ice tea. idc idc idc.

  • @TheMspoodle2
    @TheMspoodle2 Před 4 měsíci +13

    Natural hair is very beautiful. In fact, it's stunningly gorgeous ❤❤

  • @ms.a806
    @ms.a806 Před 4 měsíci +19

    You are a very beautiful woman. This is an awesome and encouraging video for black women. I am so glad I decided to stop relaxing my hair a year ago and embracing my natural hair.

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 4 měsíci +4

      Thank you so much. ☺️ I want to encourage the girlies that we have options! No more bondage. Congrats on your 1 year!

  • @CallHerDayli
    @CallHerDayli Před 3 měsíci +4

    I went small microlocs and I absolutely loveeeee my hair! I feel so beautiful alll the time! And even though I am happily in a relationship, the men stay on me when i am out & about! Ladies men love natural, feminine beauty!🥰 GO NATURAL! & Take care of your bodies and skin!🫶🏽

  • @Aaliyahlovelyy
    @Aaliyahlovelyy Před 4 měsíci +18

    Oh and you’re GORGEOUS

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 4 měsíci

      Puuurrrr thank you so much! ☺️

  • @kimathis
    @kimathis Před 4 měsíci +7

    I just cut off all my hair, I feel so beautiful and it’s so liberating. I love getting in the shower & washing my hair every night

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 4 měsíci +1

      This makes me so happy. Keep it up and your scalp and hair with flourish 🥰

  • @aec6135
    @aec6135 Před 4 měsíci +17

    Love coach advise us so we can find love but if I find love wouldn’t that person love me and my hair? To me a lot of coaches are not confident with their natural hair and that’s why they give this piece of advice. I’ve been wearing my natural hair for a long time (I still wear wigs sometimes) and I’ve had no problem attracting men of all races : a lot of people have this limiting belief that natural hair stops you from attracting men. If you are confident and you style your hair in a way that suits you will attract men, period! You will not attract everybody just like you wouldn’t with a wig.
    I saw your older videos with wigs and I believe wearing your natural Afro suits you better it balances your features.

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 4 měsíci +3

      Thank you! You’re spot on about limiting beliefs. It starts with our mind first before we embrace it externally. Appreciate you so much for watching and sharing your take.

  • @gorlunion
    @gorlunion Před 4 měsíci +13

    Just started wearing my fro more and I love it life is so much for easy and it’s made my days easier which makes me happier and ig more fem

  • @dajewel1982
    @dajewel1982 Před 3 měsíci +3

    This is crazy to hear. Am natural. Had a twa in 2006 ish. Had it mini twisted. it was sharp ! Plus wore big earrings. Man, every single man could not leave me alone. Now my hair is longer ; when it is shrunken it’s on my shoulders. Still men won’t leave me alone. So am saddened to hear this. Natural hair is the epitome of femininity.

  • @LoXena
    @LoXena Před 3 měsíci +4

    Feminity isn't a hair type or a hairstyle. It's the behavior and mentality.

  • @aniyaruffin3288
    @aniyaruffin3288 Před 3 měsíci +3

    And you are soooo elegant looking and eloquently spoken. So proud of women like you, make me feel excited about the sisterhood I belong to.

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 3 měsíci +2

      I really appreciate that! thank you so much ☺️

    • @camjamcam1
      @camjamcam1 Před 3 měsíci +1

      I agree about your elegance. Your skin glows, your hair is beautiful in it's natural state, your collarbones and hands are so feminine. I love the message that you have conveyed, both verbally and visually. I have been natural for decades and appreciate your video.

  • @7mariposas775
    @7mariposas775 Před 3 měsíci +7

    I have to be honest and say I think most people would appreciate their own natural hair if it was long. That’s when natural hair is appreciated with natural hair short most men don’t desire it because they don’t understand and it’s not mesmerizing to the eye to them. To them just to see if be a fro, especially if it doesn’t seem as though it’s styled, it’s a no. I’m not saying that from my perspective because I do think natural hair is pretty in any way that it’s done as long as it’s healthy, but I really feel that’s how men view it. Especially black men

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 3 měsíci +6

      Yeah, I can see that. But that’s their own concern though. None of our businesssssss.

    • @numbingzone3559
      @numbingzone3559 Před 3 měsíci +1

      And once black women learn that they were not created for male consumption they’ll be okay.

  • @bilqis_abu
    @bilqis_abu Před 3 měsíci +3

    I’ve always longed to wear my natural hair, imagined myself rocking my own hair and I felt free with just the thought of it.
    I recently just got tired of everything extensions and wigs and I’m glad to now see this often. Rocking your own hair is a beautiful freedom💪🏽

  • @zol2415
    @zol2415 Před 3 měsíci +4

    I love this video! I don't listen to the "feminity gurus" who say natural hair isn't feminine I also don't follow the ones who don't wear their natural hair at all.

  • @LakeishaLifestyle
    @LakeishaLifestyle Před 3 měsíci +4

    So happy our sister are embracing our natural state. We are nature that's why we look like it also. Love every coil. 💜🫶🏿

  • @acebutterfly2725
    @acebutterfly2725 Před 4 měsíci +9

    Great topic. You present yourself well in both your appearance and communication. You represent naturals well. Love your defined Afro, it pairs well with your radiant skin and nice outfit 🥰

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 4 měsíci +1

      Aw, you’re so sweet! Thank you so much ☺️

  • @roseabella178
    @roseabella178 Před 4 měsíci +5

    I honestly feel like I can’t wear my hair out and feel beautiful. And I’m stuck between challenging myself to wear my natural hair or just keep finding security in a protective style.

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 3 měsíci +2

      Give it a try. Even for a week. I found it easier when I went to get my hair cut and shaped into a hairstyle to boost my confidence. You won’t die for wearing your hair out for a week. Try and see for yourself for exposure therapy.

  • @lolopcallulu3082
    @lolopcallulu3082 Před 3 měsíci +5

    Yessss wore my fro out yesterday and it was so nice. My man loved it

  • @dorrettreid64
    @dorrettreid64 Před 4 měsíci +6

    Its been 1 year now since I haven't worn wigs and I'm loving it.Yes somtimes I feel darn in my spirit to get a wig but when I look at how my hair always clean and smells great 😅 I said nahhhh.I love u.Im a follower of Christ I can tell u this,I can't say I'm fully deliverd. girl...#Jamaica 🇯🇲

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 4 měsíci +2

      Yessssss keep it going in Jesus’ Name! 🙏🏾

  • @curlieeloks3032
    @curlieeloks3032 Před 4 měsíci +7

    Yes do shrinkage embrace video plz

  • @miyasamone9399
    @miyasamone9399 Před 3 měsíci +1

    I truly appreciate your content! I completely agree we have to embrace our true authenticity! I’ll always prefer wearing my hair how it grows out of its roots than putting glue to my scalp

  • @TheCocoaClub
    @TheCocoaClub Před 4 měsíci +6

    Thank you so much for speaking about this !! Your content is great ❤️ and I hope other black wimen get on this bandwagon

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 4 měsíci

      I appreciate that thank you! I hope so too

  • @lovechimerenma
    @lovechimerenma Před 4 měsíci +8

    Dear Evie,
    I wanted to let you know that I've been loving your recent videos. Keep up the great work! 😘❤️
    I'd like to add something about attractiveness as a natural girly that might help someone out there.
    Going natural requires you to develop your character and understanding of the world. Specifically learn this: the things we are attracted to are often related to our values. From what we consider a good time to what we find beautiful, our values play a role. As you improve your values, you'll naturally be drawn to better things.
    Unfortunately, our (Black African) community has many poor values, both in Africa and in the diaspora. This might have worked in your favour when you also held poor values, even if unconsciously. However, as you grow and improve, it might not so much.
    As long as the majority of men in our communities continue to hold poor values, natural hair may not receive the reception you hope for. Instead of hiding your true self, allow yourself to keep growing. Be ready to change your perspective on the world and hold better values unapologetically. Don't waste your energy arguing with others or yourself about this.
    Finally, it's worth noting that quality men who share your values do exist. In fact, they've probably been waiting for someone like you for a long time. ❤️

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 4 měsíci +4

      Not me holding my chest reading this! 🥹🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾💕 Thank you so much. This will definitely help someone (it blessed me!) and give a deeper look into what we are really looking for in this life. A shared reality of common values with like-minded people.

    • @annesmith5443
      @annesmith5443 Před 3 měsíci +2

      Dear Chimerenma,
      As your name says, God really did well with you. You said a mouthful of truth. I'm a natural hair wearing Igbo girl and I just never realised how connected wearing our hair is to our values. Thank you so much for this. And thank you Evie for making this video.

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 3 měsíci +1

      @annesmith5443 You’re so welcome 😉

    • @lovechimerenma
      @lovechimerenma Před 3 měsíci +1

      @annesmith5443 Thank you, sis ❤️

  • @jasminer66788
    @jasminer66788 Před 14 dny

    I got a loose curly weave yesterday and had to take it out. My hair was screaming to breathe and be “shown off.” We stand out and look ultra feminine with this hair of ours ❤

  • @q.torree23
    @q.torree23 Před 2 měsíci

    I remember there was like this era of our women waking up and wearing our beautiful natural hair, no matter what texture or what length. Then someone came out with the “Lace Fronts” and it put us right back to sleep 😢 I struggled as well getting back to feeling beautiful and not like I look like a kid with my natural hair. Still working on it 👏🏾 Great video! ❤

  • @londonnatural86
    @londonnatural86 Před 4 měsíci +7

    Loved this video! You are one of my favourite CZcamsrs!! And you look stunning btw you exude femininity!
    Yes to the video on shrinkage - I would love to hear your take on that.

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 4 měsíci

      Thank you London! I gotchu covered 🥰

  • @MissAmeriNegro
    @MissAmeriNegro Před 3 měsíci +1

    I did my big chop and have been in protective styles and each wash day I love ME more and more. It’s so unique and I love it ❤! I never felt more beautiful than when I finally looked like myself the way God made me.

  • @TheMspoodle2
    @TheMspoodle2 Před 4 měsíci +3

    If the creator wanted us to have a different hair texture, he would have given us that. I love my natural hair and I don't want to be like anyone else. I could care less on whether I attract the male gaze.

  • @Raetalkss
    @Raetalkss Před měsícem

    Instantly subscribed! I wish I saw more femininity coaches wear their REAL hair!

  • @newvision101
    @newvision101 Před měsícem

    I haven't felt so good about myself and about life since I decided to wear my natural hair JUST THE WAY IT IS. I no longer wear the kinky clip ins or spend hours doing the bantu knot-outs or two strand twist -outs to make my hair into something that it's not. I have beautiful, strong 4c hair. I live in Hawaii where it is very humid. My natural hair used to laugh at all the work I would do to make it look 3a-4a. I feel more feminine now than I ever have. And I have been getting many compliments on my natural hair lately. My hair is getting longer. I'm aiming for a huge afro. Me and my 4c.

  • @cassidy158
    @cassidy158 Před 2 měsíci +1

    Quality vs quantity! I’m here for it.

  • @synolve
    @synolve Před 3 měsíci +1

    Natural hair is femininity ❤
    Men love natural beauty. We are naturally beautiful.

  • @ngozinwafor
    @ngozinwafor Před 4 měsíci +2

    This was good! I love how you touched on length. But texture is equally or even more important in this conversation. I do believe the femininity convo is more geared toward thicker coarser natural hair like mine. If its a looser curl its usually gets a pass. I dont believe in telling women how to wear their hair but I do think its concerning when I see women who constantly wear wigs, braids, weaves etc. I have been there and its exhausting!!

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 4 měsíci

      Thank you! Texture is a great take. It’s a journey of self acceptance but that looks different for everyone. You should do a video on hair texture and femininity on your channel, the girlies will love it!

  • @Davinagoddess
    @Davinagoddess Před 3 měsíci +1

    I attract the most attention from everyone when i wear my big afro or natural looking style.

  • @clipaqua8848
    @clipaqua8848 Před 3 měsíci +1

    i smiled so hard when you mentioned roundness 😊 yess you’re right. ❤
    i was in uni when i started wearing my natural hair after being bullied out of it by other black girls🙄
    i started feeling great when people, esp black women, would compliment me in public 🥹
    i think i fell into my femininity by the pure acceptance of myself because i really attracted a lot of great people during this time. i was blooming🌸😅
    i found a great guy & only really hung with him with my natural hair & minimal makeup. it felt so freeing & he made me feel so beautiful. he really helped me in seeing my value because before him, it was just my family that would say nice things about me. when he said similar things, i just believed it for sure.❤
    i decided to switch things up & surprised him with my straight hair. he thought it looked nice but was weirded out in his first impression & i remember so clearly he said it’s as if an asian girl had an afro😂 good memories

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 3 měsíci +1

      lol the asian girl afro comment is sending me 🤣 This comment warmed my heart, I’m so happy to read this! Thanks for sharing ♥️

  • @d2h655
    @d2h655 Před 3 měsíci

    So glad I came across your channel, I feel like I have a lot of un-conditioning I have to do with my upbringing. I was introduced to relaxers at the age of like 6 or 7 and at 27 now, I'm ashamed that I don't know how to properly do my own hair or even what the texture is

  • @shanilynyae
    @shanilynyae Před 3 měsíci +1

    Love it ❤ I struggle with deciding what to do with my hair because of where I work and the questions and reactions etc.. I needed to see this Thanks!

  • @aniyaruffin3288
    @aniyaruffin3288 Před 3 měsíci

    I appreciate this video, it is so hard out here for us. Oh my god. The weight of feeling masculine just for being. And knowing other races and skin tones will never experience it to the extent we have to. It effs wit me not gone lie

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 3 měsíci

      You’re very welcome. The pain is temporary ♥️

  • @AshleyEmpowers
    @AshleyEmpowers Před 3 měsíci +1

    I love everything about this!

  • @PorshiaVonne
    @PorshiaVonne Před 4 měsíci +2

    You look so beautiful 😍 natural hair is gorgeous when you take care of it 💜

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 4 měsíci +1

      you’re so kind thank you! ☺️

    • @PorshiaVonne
      @PorshiaVonne Před 4 měsíci

      @@EvieAswiti 🥰 you're welcome!

  • @quayporter4526
    @quayporter4526 Před 2 měsíci

    Your whole Ora is beautiful! Embracing your own hair is definitely a plus for feminine women!

  • @joimonae4090
    @joimonae4090 Před 4 měsíci +1

    im less than a minuet in watching the video and can tell you are feminine you look feminine with your natural hair i agree it's a state of being and you exude it

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 3 měsíci +1

      Thank you! It starts from within ♥️🎀💕

  • @thesilentbloomer7976
    @thesilentbloomer7976 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Once again, love the title. Love how you pierce through all the untruths.

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 4 měsíci

      Thank you! Keeping it witty 🤭

  • @vivimanchester2541
    @vivimanchester2541 Před 3 měsíci +1

    I love my natural hair 💜

  • @wholisticurbanite2248
    @wholisticurbanite2248 Před 3 měsíci +2

    OMG, @Evie I remember before CZcams, I knew a girl who would ask me kid she could come over my house to do her hair because she didn't her HUSBAND to see her natural hair!!! I was so confused, Im like ok, so you sleep next to this man every night in bed and he doesn't know how your natural hair looks?!?!? This is a thing.

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 3 měsíci

      Hahahaha, yes this is absolutely a thing.

  • @TionneMoore-rp2cr
    @TionneMoore-rp2cr Před 3 měsíci +3

    Why is this conversation turning into what men want ? Instead of what’s best for us ?

    • @PrettyPettyKitty
      @PrettyPettyKitty Před 3 měsíci +1

      She talked about men and self love Also, some straight women actually want male attention. You kind of need it if you want a companion.

    • @TionneMoore-rp2cr
      @TionneMoore-rp2cr Před 3 měsíci

      @@PrettyPettyKitty that’s sad “male attention”

  • @klrcreations
    @klrcreations Před 3 měsíci

    I love my nature hair. It’s been 1 1/2 years since growing out my relaxer. In terms of attention from Men and Women comments say…. I actually look younger and my hair is super full …the look I didn’t get with my relaxer. It’s been a journey but I embrace the hair growing from my scalp and wear bold hairstyles. Again I just love the volume I have in the crown of my head now!😀

  • @Kiwilises
    @Kiwilises Před 3 měsíci +1

    You are so beautiful btw with your natural hair you look amazing! 😍

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 3 měsíci +1

      You are so sweet thank you so much! ☺️

    • @Kiwilises
      @Kiwilises Před 3 měsíci

      @@EvieAswiti you’re welcome!!

  • @Aaliyahlovelyy
    @Aaliyahlovelyy Před 4 měsíci +2

    I love you !! you’re so unique and I’m glad I found your channel !!!

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 4 měsíci +1

      I love you too and welcome to my channel! The algorithm did its job well 😊

  • @The.Angel.Valentina
    @The.Angel.Valentina Před 4 měsíci

    Love this. I’ve been wearing a regular for 2 years and recently started growing my hair out and I love it. I wear my natural hair but I do enjoy coloring it, I feel blah with darker hair.

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 4 měsíci +1

      Nothing wrong with a little razzle dazzle 😉 Thanks so much for watching and sharing!

  • @angiehilary5922
    @angiehilary5922 Před 3 měsíci

    Yet, it is so feminine indeed. You look stunning !

  • @tambariw
    @tambariw Před 4 měsíci +1

    Everything you said in the first minute is truth! I wish people would accept this. Okay, back to watching the video lol.

  • @saraht1367
    @saraht1367 Před 4 měsíci +2

    you are so stunning! gosh

  • @virtuousmountainwoman
    @virtuousmountainwoman Před měsícem

    Our natural hair is beautiful and it’s our hair…🎉❤

  • @shaysogolden
    @shaysogolden Před 3 měsíci

    Omg thank you this isn’t talked about enough. I just want to feel free I big chopped for the 3rd time. I got so wrapped around quick weaves and damaged my hair.

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 3 měsíci

      I LOVED my quick weave era… until I got a bald spot with the glue and my leave out being really damaged so I can relate. My hair grew back healthy so freedom is so worth it.

  • @Amornature
    @Amornature Před 3 měsíci

    Yes I use to get sew ins & half wigs and honestly it’s so uncomfortable. I been wearing my natural hair for almost 3 years and don’t regret it.

  • @Holden_Nature
    @Holden_Nature Před 3 měsíci

    Thank you!! I’m naturally me and have been for a little more than a decade and it’s hard at times.

  • @marygumbo7958
    @marygumbo7958 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Great video! Very reassuring and to the point!!Love it!!!

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 4 měsíci

      Thank you! We need it in our community ♥️

  • @Fearless-wi4ng
    @Fearless-wi4ng Před 2 měsíci

    Just be yourself. It is the best way to live.

  • @nomessnostress
    @nomessnostress Před 3 měsíci

    I definitely get a lot of attention for it because everyone is wearing wigs but boy oh boy.... please see taking care of it as self care because it can be alot sometimes

  • @nahjacutler
    @nahjacutler Před měsícem

    I feel a lot less attractive with wigs, makeup, and straightened hair. It just never looked right on me. I really miss my thick long 4c hair. I destroyed it with colors, heat,and relaxers. For now , I will grow it back out with braids, short hair isnt for me.😅😅

  • @sheka9205
    @sheka9205 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Yes pls do a video on shrinkage

  • @Truechildofgod
    @Truechildofgod Před 3 měsíci +1

    Hey Ms.Evie!!!! I just wanted to saying being born a woman is femininity itself. We will never have to try to be feminine when the definition was created inside if us. WE SET THE STANDARD!! And I love the comment you said about our hair matching our facial feature. I noticed I use to do more makeup when I wore wigs specifically the lace fronts they never compliment my natural face as much as my natural soft feminine hairline and go figure its because lakefronts reframe your face. I really hope more of our people , more of the women from our culture stop believing the lies about our hair and truly see what God created us to be and how beautiful we are :) You look stunning Evie White is your color girl!!!Another fabulous video exposing the lies in our community 🥰 Also girl I don't want any man that doesn't accept what God naturally gave us on our head. My hair makes me feel the most womanly the wigs are something most folks do to become feminine baby if you are a woman you don't have to BECOME when you already ARE. 😆

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 3 měsíci +1

      Preaaaaaach!!!! 👏🏾

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 3 měsíci +1

      Also, thank you so muuuuuch. Always look forward to your comments 😊

    • @Truechildofgod
      @Truechildofgod Před 3 měsíci

      @@EvieAswiti You are most welcome :) Looking forward to when you drop your next video girl !!!

  • @aisoaification
    @aisoaification Před 3 měsíci

    Please please please please please do a video on shrink it would love to hear it!!

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 3 měsíci

      It’s already up! 😉
      czcams.com/video/LARPuHF6_qI/video.html

  • @NC-dk4mh
    @NC-dk4mh Před 4 měsíci +1

    Gorgeous sis ! And I agree!

  • @joanasilva7149
    @joanasilva7149 Před 2 měsíci

    Another thing that kinda annoyed me they say they don't have the time do their hair, but straight hair girlies wash their hair every 2/3 days sometimes every day and I ask myself who is really spending a lot of time with their hair here?

  • @Jademoonx
    @Jademoonx Před měsícem

    You're gonna come do my hair every day? I have things to do hunny... I like wearing knotless braids and it looks gorgeous and is easy to manage so I will continue!🙂

  • @EgyptBXO
    @EgyptBXO Před 3 měsíci

    Loved you video and messaging! You and your hair looks amazing! I love your hair style on you

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 3 měsíci

      Thanks so much love! Appreciate you 💕☺️

  • @brittneydavis7846
    @brittneydavis7846 Před 3 měsíci

    To be natural is to not get your eyebrows threaded. Wearing no makeup. No additives that doesn't naturally occur. But ik we won't talk about that.

  • @MissKlassy
    @MissKlassy Před 3 měsíci +3

    _You're hair looks nice and you're attractive! Stop listening to people many of them have bad hair White, Black men, other races their hair is not always nice just because its straight!

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 3 měsíci +1

      Thank you! And yessss this part. Encouraging the girlies who believe otherwise.

    • @true4585
      @true4585 Před 3 měsíci

      For real because who said straight hair was the standard. It’s crazy how much people worship White people like Gods. Madness!

  • @sabrinastars1284
    @sabrinastars1284 Před 3 měsíci +1

    Off topic but what lipgloss are you using? It’s so cute!!! 💗💗💗

    • @EvieAswiti
      @EvieAswiti  Před 3 měsíci +2

      Thanks! It’s a MAC lipstick with a clear gloss on top - if I remember correctly it’s in the shade “Vegas Volt”

    • @sabrinastars1284
      @sabrinastars1284 Před 3 měsíci +1

      @@EvieAswiti Thanks!!!