How To Pull Yourself Out Of A Bad Mood - Dr Peter Attia
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- čas přidán 18. 05. 2024
- Chris and Dr Peter Attia discuss how to pull yourself out of a bad mood. What does Dr Peter Attia do to pull himself out of a low mood? What type of therapy helped Dr Peter Attia the most?
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He's almost directly quoting the book "how to stop worrying and start living" by Dale Carnegie. But phrasing it like he came up with it. Such an excellent book though, helped me overcome a lot and enabled me to help a few friends too
In a world where people think that “negative” emotions are a bad thing, we have to look at them as warning signals. As Peter says step back in a nonjudgmental way and deal with it. I wrote a book “Smartphones Don’t Give Hugs “ as a guide out of the epidemic of loneliness. I compare loneliness to a light on a social energy fuel gauge. As much as we worry about the light going on we need to do the things that keep the needle as far to the right as possible.
great insight.
*Main Points*
*1.* *_Feelings exist for a reason. It happened because of ''something'' and you need to explore the root cause of that ''something''_*
*2.* *_When you get agitated, don't ignore it, neither judge it. Don't be ''just critical'' about it or ignore it. Because it will come back to you at some point, like a tightly strung rubberband._*
*3.* *_Point One is essential. Why do you feel this way? How can you prevent it? Is it caused by an outside source, or is it something lingering inside the depths of your unconsciousness?_*
*4.* *_Try to either fix these ongoing problems or practice something like meditation, or deep thinking. They will not vanish without proper understanding._*
*5.* *_Understanding these problems and emotions, opens up a path that enables you to find a solution._*
*6.* *_One of the main pillars of self improvement is your mental health. Many in the S-I Community don't put enough emphasis on that._*
*Long Story Short =* *_Find the Root cause of your negative emotions and what is triggering them, instead of ignoring them_*
*Addition:* _Don't let these negative emotions impact your relationships. Especially if they appear out of nowhere, uncontrolled. It is your duty to fix that._
Chris, I’m autistic, it’s not that autistic people have a hard time understanding feelings. We feel them too much. They are too intense and when we are young we almost feel attacked by them. Some autistic people shut down from feeling overloaded. Some like myself are lucky enough to have been trained in meditation and mindfulness. The myth that autistic people don’t have feelings needs to stop, it’s backwards.
I thought the issue was sensory overload from external stuff or put differently: having trouble ignoring external sensations. This addition of too much internal sensations makes it more general, but still on the same point. Thanks!
Is that right? I was almost sure that autistic people could have compassion but no empathy. If you're right, it would change everything for me. It's quite difficulte to really understand the complexity of autism.
@@mary-gael7633 yes autistic people are extremely empathetic. You may be confusing covert narcissism with autism.
@@boden8138 Narcissistic people have no compassion. But some people don't have the ability to understand other people's feelings and emotions, but still can have compassion for others. They just lack a skill that is empathy.
@@mary-gael7633 you are confusing Grandiose Narcissism with Covert Narcissism.
I find that anger or frustration is a subconscious cue that I need to make a change of some sort; figuring out what it is doesn't have to be difficult - it can be inspirational.
I was a professional at avoiding my feelings for the majority of my life. Letting feeling be, and then processing them, has been one of the most important, and HARDEST, skills I've endeavoured to undertake.
If we can't even process our own feelings how can we ever have empathy for anyone else?
I'm going to start using this when I feel like drinking again.
Lifting some heavy ass weight can also really help.. 🗿
Always works for me. I can at least feel accomplished in one thing and it's lifting that 225 lb bar
angry head noise lift heavy circle
I often use exercise as my anger management. Idk if it's healthy or not.
@@endgamefond better than violence toward living things, i say that’s a win
Yes. Also long distance running or building somethint with your hands. Physical activity is necessary for our minds as much as our bodies.
What they're talking about here is exactly what Vippasana teaches you.
It takes 10 days for an introduction course but it is exactly this
Great video!!
This guy is good. Thank you
Great videos !!!
More of a personal anecdote than a comment but I like the point about mindfulness in that being able to not cling to emotions whether good or bad, and using this distance to explore the emotions that do linger(like Peter brings up) definitely has helped me understand my relationship with different emotions. Using the term unskillful when dealing with emotions like anger and anxiety has also been helpful as a reminder that my time is better spent with a focus on solving those emotional puzzles rather than getting annoyed about being annoyed. Great podcast, love hearing the different approaches
Thanks a lot
One of my philosophies other than monk and Marcus Aurelius is Ted Lasso. It's easier to life when I have Ted's mindset.
Also fasting helps. Heavy weights as well. Hallelujah 🙌🏻
Two of my go to's. I also have found that cold plunging helps.
What kind of chairs are those?
Back to the Allegory of the Cave we go
Cardio and food that isn’t complete bullshit. If that still doesn’t help then maybe a little less screen time
What he is describing is mindful meditation in Buddhism
good coffee & good sativa weed. no mindgames necessary
What if sativas give you anxiety or overthink common scenarios 😮
@@joeyfaoro6308 try hybrids or indicas til u find a strain that works for u. also, i would avoid vape carts & medibles. going thru ur stomach is not the most effective or fastest way to ingest medicine. see dr weil's book 'from chocolate to morphine'. vaping is promoted by industrialists & if u hear of the JUNK they can hide in cartridges, ugh, u wont touch them. even natl public radio in l.a. did a piece on the reality of those cartridges 5 years ago. the rest of the u.s.just isnt as aware, as theyr behind the curve on coming out of the fog that greedy psych docs have spread for decades, about how their toxic pills r better than 100%NONTOXIC weed. u want REAL leaves & flowers, preferably grown by micro-growers who know how to garden w/o pesticide, herbicide, insecticide, fungicide. smoke thru a water pipe. also, see dr anthony chaffee's latest vid on how fats can make all the difference in mental states. dont be afraid of redmeat, coffee & weed & instead avoid at all cost shrinks & their prescriptions, & starchy veg diets. not working in obviously corrupt systems will do alot to lift moods. going to work everyday in mainstream media, healthcare, prison-industrial complex, police state jobs WILL depress ppl for a reason. back away from the poisons & go against the glyphosated grain
That doesn't really deal with it though. That only masks it and suppresses it for it to come out at a later time. The more you do that, the harder it tries to hit the next time.
Emotions are just the brain's survival mechanism trying to warn you about what it perceives to be a "threat".
The more you ignore, the louder it makes the signal until it expresses itself eventually with all types of aches, pains, and even diseases in the body.
The key with emotions is to just be with them, without trying to change them or avoid it while relaxing, and it sends the signal to the brain that, "Hey, this thing you're perceiving to be a threat is not that big of a deal" and over time your brain let's go of its perception of a threat around that particular thing.
Sure, drugs are the answer. Seems to be working well in America.
That’s just a mask junkies use to avoid dealing with challenges and pain, I was there before.
I looked this video and I useful for me. It's interesting. Anyway, do video fun for me😉
Welcome to chronic intractable pain. It kills people early.
Meditate heavily and you can become willingly detached from your thoughts and emotions…
A long walk or working manual labor outside.
He sounds like Alex
TIL the word equanimity
Mindfulness was not the best analogy haha
Some people can't switch on.
others can't switch off.
which is the curse you want to bear?
How are your feelings “wrong” but you proceed to do a deep dive analysis. Sounds contradictory.
Processing emotions feels gay. I know it’s not, and it’s important, but as a dude we’re taught our whole lives that emotions are for women.
Learned helplessness.
When you see society endorsing female outbursts, but demonizing male expression, this is what you get.
not really. men direct emotions towards warring. MEN'S emotions r what perpetuate wars. hence u see u.s. congress funneling billions of dollars backed by nothing more than the paper theyr printed on to waging overseas war while lone minority of congress vote against it. as ga congressWOMAN marjorie taylor said as she voted AGAINST funding war, a few saturdays ago: why isnt anyone demanding peace??
Personally I think there's a difference between not showing (a lot of) emotions and the ability to still experience them and process them in a healthy way. I also think that a lot of men hear some version of "emotions are for women" and instead of trying to learn how to deal with them and have some measure of control, they put them in a bottle and never touch them. In that regard I think society has failed men, because we're never explicitly taught how to deal with our emotions, only that they shouldn't be visible.
The guy who runs the HealthyGamerGG youtube channel also said that we have essentially lost one of our main way of processing emotions, which is idle work. He defines this as work that's repetitive and doesn't require a lot of mental capacity, which in turn frees up mental bandwidth to process negative emotions in a more healthy way. Since this often took place in groups there were also others to talk to and discuss things, something that can help with the processing. According to him this is why taking walks or exercising can be good for your mental health, because it's repeptitive actions that don't require a lot of attention and thus replaces the idle work people did back in the day. He also recommends having an hour of unstructured thoughts every day, where you just let your mind wander where ever it wants to go, as a way of clearing your head of mental clutter that might otherwise fester and grow into a potential problem.
Having gone through the process of learning to deal with my emotions, I think this is pretty spot on. And if nothing else, dealing with emotions in daily doses is much easier than dealing with the massive torrent that comes when the emotional bottle explodes.
You’re afraid to look feminine, don’t be weak, face your emotions. Avoiding them makes you weak, so face them. Look into stoicism
Emotions are just human.
The thumbnail shows Will Smith. He became a servant of his emotions and it didn’t end well. I don’t think you can feel your feelings and date a woman. The feelings will show you all the places the other is not loving you. You’ll then take action which will be like slapping Chris Rock. Something is missing here.
they describe how they try to view and reflect on the emotions rather than acting in line with them unconsciously
Feelings are signals, they’re not always right, and if your feelings are that the other person isn’t loving you the way you want to be loved, then you have a duty to tell that person how they can better love you. And they have a duty to listen to you. And if those things aren’t compatible, then find someone else who shares your values, but saying you can’t feel your feelings AND be with someone is inaccurate. Will Smith didn’t slap Chris Rock bc he loved Jada, he slapped Chris bc he FEARED losing face in front of her. The whole thing was just an example of how dysfunctional their relationship was. Honestly, I don’t even understand how you’re drawing the conclusions you’ve come to about how you can’t feel feelings and date someone. The friction is the point.
... I think that you are miscalculating the scope of feelings in dating or a relationship.
Here is how I am interpreting what you said: how can you show your feelings to a woman that you are dating if it only leaves you vulnerable to the ways that she doesn't love you.
This seems to indicate that you are trying to protect yourself. But it seems to me that, either, you have trauma or insecurities that you need to address within yourself... And, secondly, do you want to, just, have a woman that you know was, already, not respecting your feelings?
Maybe, dating should have men reveal their feelings. Maybe, some women will appreciate the authenticity and vulnerability. And they can try to reciprocate and support you.
And if they goose not to... Then you see the kind of woman that they are willing to be.
Men are not perfect. Women aren't either.
If emotional security and trust is what you think is important to you in a relationship, then I don't think that it's the worst thing to be transparent with how you feel.
Dating, getting laid, and finding a short term or long term partner aside... I think that most people would appreciate someone that they can feel safe with.
Of course, being honest does mean that people without good intentions or boundaries will reveal themselves quicker to try to hurt you, showing that they do not respect you.
I understand if you want to put on a mask and wait to open up to someone that you find is worth trusting and investing, emotionally, in.
I think that you can show feelings while dating. I don't need a woman to see my insecurities in a relationship, just, for her to realize that she doesn't want me.
I don't need to falsely advertise who I am. I don't want to waste time with someone who will waste my time and energy.
But that's just me. There is no one right way.
Will Smith looks a lot like Homer Simpson. I never noticed
No statins, ever.
Stoicism is not cool.
Really really similar to how the 12 steps teach you how to think, spot on