My Coming Out Story
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- čas přidán 10. 09. 2024
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Literally the only difference I see in her personality is that she's happier
And SOOO confident. It rubs off honestly
@@iyansmit249 thats nice
Period!
Yes
@Tha Whisperer ..........what????
“Kelly, I’m gay”
“Cool, what are you gonna do about it”
“Idk, be gay”
“Cool”
I love that so much 😂
This is so amazing 😂
Oh so _thats_ what she said!! I listened back and still couldn't figure it out. Thank u kind stranger on the tube. Now I don't need to think about that anymore. 😆
Who’s Kelly?
@@lylabean6436 Kelly is one of her friends, I think she's been friends with her since high school
How she realized she was gay is the most Rachel thing I’ve ever heard. “Oh. Ok. That’s cool.” So chill and accepting.
Legit that was me...i was never afraid or weirded out that i am gay buy i am in fact scared of what my parents reactions are gonna be
@@sophia_hall i hope not..... They might be shocked but hopefully they don't get mad
@@sachien1802 yeah
Is she like les or bi?
@@Emma.511 gay woman = lesbian
"man or woman" "woman" "cool" the most Rachel and Colleen conversation to ever happen
Colleen talked about how their conversation was a bit different than how Rachel told it. Apparently, Colleen was saying "whomever you date next... Man or woman..." & Rachel interrupted and said "woman". Then colleen said, "love it." Colleen did not put Rachel on the spot and never assumed anything. She waited for Rachel to tell her. Just for clarification.
That isn’t truth she lied check out colleens new vlog
Lmao people taking this much deeper than it needs to be. Rachel never said Colleen put her on the spot, chill out
@@JustmeNici huh?
@@ellaedits9661 lmao I wouldnt say she LIED, she just didn't say it exactly haha
the fact that rachel’s coming out was so “boring” gives me so much hope for when it will be normal and almost boring to come out because of how far we will have progressed. thank you, rachel
Yesss that’s the goal
My thoughts exactly! We’ve come so freaking far it’s so beautiful ❤️
Your grammar is freaking impeccable 👌 👌
This is exactly what I was feeling listening to her story!
Rachel's coming out story: She thought she was straight until one day she was scrolling through Tik Tok and realized she wasn't. Lol
Don’t we all?😌
Same honestly though
Same as many 😂 tt is making everyone realise they are gay
yes
I also realized I'm super gay from tiktok
My sister literally told me she is gay by saying "do you want to meet my girlfriend or get food first?" And I've never felt more understood 😂
get food first and eat with girlfriend! ahhaha love this!
Eat with the girlfriend
OMG wat?
I would say food first so I’m not hangry
THIS IS WHAT IM DOING OMG
I really wish this was everyone's coming out story. No judgement, no hate, no losing family and friends and no shame in who they are.
I wish this for everyone in earth as well.
To add to that.....everyone should be surrounded by positivity and receive a feeling of safety and acceptance no matter their situation.
So one of my friends came out a few days ago and she lost her dad and all 4 of her siblings because of it and I felt really bad for her coz when I came out my friends and family were so excepting
we wouldn't even need to 'come out' we would just be ourselves.
That’s how all my queer friends came out to me, at times I feel bad that I didn’t have a huge reaction, but I’m sure they knew that their sexuality would never change how I felt about them
When my youngest son came out he was scared of how his Dad would respond. He came home before Thanksgiving like Tuesday. He asked if Dad was around. I said no he's at work but will be home at 3. And asked if the 3 of us could have a sit down when he got home. When his Dad walked in and washed up and grabbed a beer. And the 3 of us sat to talk. He just blurted it out. And he said he was seeing a nice guy. I just stood up and hugged him and his Dad asked if he was happy. And he said yes he was happy. My husband just grabbed him and hugged and kissed his forehead and said no matter what you do in life we love and support you. And he walked outside to work on my car. We eat early on Thanksgiving and he and his boyfriend were together. They've been together 4 years married for a year and a half and they have adopted a baby.
Love your story
love this!
Omg! Beautiful! Congrats to your son! I bet he felt SO much weight lifted after that! Bravo!
not me crying after this
sounds like such a beautiful family, so glad people like you guys exist
You may think that this is a “boring” coming out story, but this is one of the most beautiful coming out stories.
This was exactly my thought ❤️
@@jessicabozak5405 hey
I agree so wonderful
The dream of every one out of the lgtbq+ community
Agree 150%🥰❤
Rachel: You guys are just really nosy.
Me: she’s not wrong.
ahaha same
I mean she isn’t SKDGJGJ
Absolutely
Is it weird that the number of likes on this comment is 6 6 6...
I read this as she said it-
"tiktok is the reason i realized i was gay" welcome to the club bestie
AHHH ANOTHER DREAM SMP FAN?? I LOVE YOUR PFP
i knew i was gay and liked boys before tik tok, but me joining there just solidified it 😭 pun intended
SAME AGHBSN
Yup
I don't even have a tiktok but the gay tiktok compilation videos on youtube found me anyway 🤣
Tip for people: when someone comes out to you MATCH THEIR ENERGY!! If they’re excited, be excited! If they’re chill, be chill. It’s as simple as that and makes everyone feel comfortable and accepted.
this!!!
Yes!!!
yes thank you!!!!!!!!!! I wish people did that for me
That’s actually exactly how I reacted with my friend . She was so casual about it . “Hey Im thinking of doing a coming out photoshoot this week” I was like wait what ! I had no clue. She’s like ya I didn’t know how to say it. I was like “cool :) can’t wait to see the photos .” And that was it lol
Is it me or she is even more beautiful now? like she actually found herself and that's the true beauty of life
yes! i totally agree
She is glowing!!
I agree, I think she had a glow up... or maybe I'm just more gay
It's not just you...
For SURE. Love that for her.
This is iconic. We need to stop acting like people coming out NEEDS to be a huge deal. Of course its a thing to be celebrated, but no one HAS TO make a massive deal out of it. ❤️
Yeah, that's what i think, legit, the way i came out i was just like, 'hey dudes im bi' and they just said cool and that was it 😂
@@mylifeismadness5465 and i feel awful for them and my heart FULLY goes out to them. My heart also goes out to the people who feel pressured to MAKE it a big deal
Exactly, nobody makes a huge deal if you are straight 😂
@@mylifeismadness5465 indeed though, but I feel like most people would want it to be kinda subtle honestly idk though 🤷♀️🤷♀️
aeee
I came out to my mom like “I’m bisexual” and she looked me dead in the eyes and went “okay, did you want some pizza, I’m ordering” like okay
Well thats lucky
that would be my mom’s response too lol
Heck yeah I want pizza
I had an accidental coming out:
My family wanting to know what pan is-
I had to google it for them because I didn’t want to bother explaining because they might think something is sus…
I was right…they now think I’m Miley Cyrus
*hides in pantry*
When I told my parents they told me they already knew💀
I came out by physically coming out of a closet with a pie that said “I’m gay” on it
Amazing
That is the greatest coming out story I’ve ever heard
Great
that is the ✨best✨ coming out story ever
thanks for the idea lmao
I was eating with my mother at a restaurant when she asked me “are you gay?” and I was like oh shit we are having this conversation right now. Then she told me she accepted me and I cried
That is so sweet I’m happy for you
Awwwwwwwwwwww
Aww 😊 I am so so so happy for you ♥️
wygiefvjc im *not* crying
I’m happy for you I told my parents I was unlabeled and apparently my mother thought that meant I was gender neutral, I’m not, then we had this 2 hour long talk and told me since I haven’t had a crush on a guy in my 13 years I have no reason to even suspect I might be close to gay and told me I am very straight and I’ve never done anything girly even though my whole life I’ve been obsessed with like barbies and makeup etc
"Huh, I think I'm gay!" is the most Rachel Ballinger way to come out, and I'm totally here for it LMAO.
I KNOW RIGHT LOLLL
thats how i did it too.
Exactly
*My main problem with the El-G-Bee-Tea argument is that every single reason they give to try and justify it can be used for every other sexual scenario too.*
*Two consenting adults: Adultery is between two consenting adults.*
*It's found in the animal kingdom: pee...dough...feel ya is also found in the animal kingdom.*
*It's not a choice: Nek...row...feel ya is a men-tall diz-order therefore not a choice*
*It can be safe if you use protection: Incest can be "safe" if you use protection*
*It's been around since the dawn of time: Ray-pe has been around since the dawn of time.*
*Love is love no matter who it's for: So if you want to love someone's lover, it's all fine?*
okay but we all had that one woman that we looked at and went “........... wait a second”, it’s such a universal wlw experience, i love it
truuuue
Ikr. When I was figuring out my sexuality at like 14yrs old I was at a point where I thought that maybe I was like panromantic homosexual. I was extra, but I just hadn't figured out how to admit to myself that guys just don't do it for me, not even romantically. BUT THEN... I was walking to school from my bus one morning and suddenly I see this girl roughly my age walk in front of me from my right to my left and I just couldn't take my eyes off her because she was so attractive. Then I lose sight of her and just have this epiphany moment where my brain just told me "yea, bitch ur gay" and at that point i was just like "oh ok, cool". It felt so anticlimactic since I'd spent months "trying to figure out if I'm gay or not" and then there it just was... acceptance because I saw a pretty girl.
I HAVE NEVER BEEN SO UNDERSTOOD
I'm just imagining Colleen yelling at Rachel on the phone like "ITS👏GONNA👏BE👏A👏THING👏"
Sameee
😂 same
sameeee
Omgggg yesss
I can hear the clapping in random loud noises included
The world needs more mundane coming out storys. Every coming out story needs to be mundane. Or rather, not exist. We shouldnt have to tell everyone because people should just not assume that u are straight.
It is sad that THAT just isn't a thing yet... Reminds me how much we still need to grow.
I mean I didn't have to come out and say "soooooo I'm straight"...... this world is odd.
🥺
@@momma2thewilds88 for real though! Lol
I think the reason there are coming out stories is because a lot of the world is still anti lgbtq+.. People are still forced into closets due to fear of death, banishment, and beatings.. And coming out stories allow those people that live in fear know that what they feel isnt odd or worrisome. That its normal to feel a certain way. But.. To each is own.. And pray for those that cannot come out.. And love those that do.. Thats all we can do.
The only thing I noticed that was different after That Relationship ended (but before we even knew that) was that she was so much happier.
She probably felt a metaphorical weight lift off her shoulders once That Relationship ended
I told my aunt I was gay she said, "ok, I'm a Virgo" 🖤
HELP OSNSGAUWBGA
NOOOO-
PLSS💀✋🏻✋🏻
STOP THATS THE BEST WHAHHA
PLS UR AUNT IS ME LMFAOO
I don't care how boring it is or how anti-climatic it is. I will always watch these because it is amazing seeing people being so confident within themselves.
I agree
Yes. And if all.stories were the same then people may not be interested ... We just feel so close when u invest and care for even a stranger lol. And I actually think it was more so wanting to know how she met the new gf... People are a sucker for love lol.
Unpopular opinion: boring coming out stories are important. And hopefully one day everyone’s coming out story will be boring.
Super popular opinion. Coming out should never be "a thing" and the boring stories make this more of a reality. As an adult who came out as pansexual late in life, I really just started introducing the person I was dating to my friends and family without warning said friends or family about different genders. I never officially told anybody unless they asked questions. It just wasn't a thing I wanted to do.
*My main problem with the El-G-Bee-Tea argument is that every single reason they give to try and justify it can be used for every other sexual scenario too.*
*Two consenting adults: Adultery is between two consenting adults.*
*It's found in the animal kingdom: pee...dough...feel ya is also found in the animal kingdom.*
*It's not a choice: Nek...row...feel ya is a men-tall diz-order therefore not a choice*
*It can be safe if you use protection: Incest can be "safe" if you use protection*
*It's been around since the dawn of time: Ray-pe has been around since the dawn of time.*
*Love is love no matter who it's for: So if you want to love someone's lover, it's all fine?*
I agree when we’re born we aren’t born “straight” we are born nothing and then we get to wait and see who we like. You should have the choice of who you like and nobody should tell you otherwise ❤️❤️🔥
@@saturn741 *So if you want to like a minor or animal or married person or blood relative, nobody should tell you otherwise?*
@@thewriter2634 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
Can we praise Colleen that when she asked Rachel Colleen didn’t assume men! WE STANNN
That was really cool of her.
That was so great
Protect the ballingers!
Your cat looks like my cat
ikr I wish my family was like that
her coming out story was actually really wholesome it made me cry
its so rare to have everyone in your life be so accepting of your sexuality. im so happy for rachel that she’s surrounded by people who support her so much 🥺
you it's the only way to be happy
i can’t wait for the day where “coming out” isn’t a thing anymore. people should just be them and love who they want. there are so many different people in this world. we should be who we are and feel no shame
There is nothing I agree with more.
I personally don’t feel the need to “come out.” Like i don’t feel the need to tell ppl yk? But that’s gonna be a problem when i have a gf and we can’t keep it on the DL anymore
@@murrey1646 i know what you mean. from my experiences, it can just be awkward. at some point i will tell my parents that i like girls, simply so they will stop saying “when you get a husband..” or other things like that. also they will be at my wedding so i don’t want it to be a total surprise there. lol
I totally agree! I’m scared to come out to my mom being gay( because we’re Christian) she knows I’m “bi” since like grade 8 or whatever but I’m into just girls now and I’ve had two girlfriends and two boyfriends in high school and it didn’t feel right to me and it felt weird so it took me a while to realize that I’m gay I only realized near the end of grade 12😂 but I’m glad I figured out who I am though :)
Always my thought. As long as two consenting adults are happy.
Me: not watching Rachel for one year
Comes back to
Rachel: I’m gay
Me: what did I miss
ME TOOO OML
Me rn
Exactly 🤣🤣
SAME LMAO
i mean yeah i did have a feeling she was gay but i didnt expect her to actually come out any time soon
Colleen: the next person you date man or woman?
Rachel: woman
Colleen: okay
Best coming out ever!
I just watched colleen video about her second pregnancy and now watching this one
Same lol
Same
Now shes having twins!
SHES HAVING TWINS!
@@itzchloeann2016 yep!!!
Its sad that she tried to end her relationship and he told her no she felt like she was stuck in the relationship. I'm so glad that she is happy now!!!
I was there over the summer. 8 months pregnant, in a mentally/emotionally abusive relationship, sitting on my mom's deck just saying "no, I can't do this" and him saying "well you have to, for the baby"
I finally managed to end it (via text 🙉🙈🙊) and now I've got an amazing little boy that I'm raising by myself with the absolute least amount of help you could possibly imagine, which is gross considering he shows up 3 times a week to "help".
me: this should be interesting
rachel: get ready for the most anti climactic story ever
me: oh.
Sameee
It was actually very interesting
Off subject but I love your profile picture.ok, bye
@@aliyahtaylor3983 tyyy :))
still very climatic
bruh colleen literally being the most amazing accepting person on this planet we all want someone to ask us that question
Ikr if someone could just ask me that I'd just like that 'come out'
Rachel: "This is the most boring coming out story"
Me: litterly dying of laughter the entire time.
Same
literally 💀
*My main problem with the El-G-Bee-Tea argument is that every single reason they give to try and justify it can be used for every other sexual scenario too.*
*Two consenting adults: Adultery is between two consenting adults.*
*It's found in the animal kingdom: pee...dough...feel ya is also found in the animal kingdom.*
*It's not a choice: Nek...row...feel ya is a men-tall diz-order therefore not a choice*
*It can be safe if you use protection: Incest can be "safe" if you use protection*
*It's been around since the dawn of time: Ray-pe has been around since the dawn of time.*
*Love is love no matter who it's for: So if you want to love someone's lover, it's all fine?*
@@thewriter2634 are you homophobic? I got confused in your long ass useless comment
-a raging homosexual😁🏳️🌈
If boring means being accepting of someone’s sexuality, then I hope everyone’s Coming Out is boring as well lol
Edit: yes, I’m a Louie lol
are you a louie? I’m saying that because I noticed your rainbow smiley face pfp
Oh if only my coming out were “boring” then 😸
@@davidhorthip8819 I was wondering the same thing
@@davidhorthip8819 sameeee
I like your profile picture :)
who else feels like she is one of the funniest people to ever live?
Meee😃
Me!
I wholeheartedly agree with this comment
Meeee
i dont
Imagine being the tiktok lesbian that made someone realize they’re gay...
I would be honored to help a young gay out
literally how I realized tho lol
Zody Takurua for the guys 😅
Imagine being Marthe 😅
I think Hanna breadtok makes everyone ✨feel things✨
I remember waaaay back in a old Colleen vlog Rachel saying "I'm not a lesbian guys!" And I don't believe I've ever experienced that level of disappointment in my entire life.
Rachel: I’m gay.
Rachel’s friend: what are you gonna do about it?
Rachel: I dunno just be gay?
*Iconic*
“Screw you. No. I’m more straight now” is the greatest moment of this video
You and Colleen:
“I don’t want it to be a thing”
“It’s going to be a thing”
“But I don’t want it to be a thing”
“ITS GOING TO BE A THING”
Love you both!!! 🙌🏽❤️❤️❤️
We love a casual queer, a secret sapphic, a subtle sapphic, a low-key lesbian, a liberated gay, but jokes aside, I’m so happy that your coming out was a good experience, I hope you have a good day and stay awesome possums!
*My main problem with the El-G-Bee-Tea argument is that every single reason they give to try and justify it can be used for every other sexual scenario too.*
*Two consenting adults: Adultery is between two consenting adults.*
*It's found in the animal kingdom: pee...dough...feel ya is also found in the animal kingdom.*
*It's not a choice: Nek...row...feel ya is a men-tall diz-order therefore not a choice*
*It can be safe if you use protection: Incest can be "safe" if you use protection*
*It's been around since the dawn of time: Ray-pe has been around since the dawn of time.*
*Love is love no matter who it's for: So if you want to love someone's lover, it's all fine?*
@@thewriter2634 My main problem with homophobes is....
1) Are you going around posting this everywhere? What are you trying to accomplish? Don't like gays--don't seek out their vlogs! Go watch something else.
2) "... *justify it* ..."? Nobody's sexuality is being "justified", it just *is* . Why do you have a problem with it? Why do you care who people you don't even know are attracted to or fall in love with?
3) How do *you* "try and justify" your antipathy toward LGB people? I'll bet I could come up with arguments comparing *your* reasons to things that are universally disapproved of...like hate, depriving people of their right to liberty and the pursuit of happiness, etc.
@@thewriter2634 I could say the same about a heterosexual relationship
WHO JUST DROPPED EVERYTHING TO WATCH 😭❤
i was about to go asleep😭
Meeeee
@@soupman907 SAME AHAHHA
im supposed to be doing homework but this is more important !
@@bugbro6399 I agree
telling someone they’re gay without them claiming it can actually be VERY detrimental to their journey. like stfu and let them feel the way they want to feel WHEN THEY WANT TO FEEL IT. i’m so proud of you rachel 💕
I honestly get annoyed by people telling celebrities/influencers they are “gay” when they’ve never come out, or are constantly questioning their sexuality. People do this with Shawn Mendes and always call him gay, despite him saying he is straight. But even if he wasnt straight, it’s annoying to push a sexuality on someone.
Yes!! I’ve found the same thing with Taylor Swift. Like if she wanted to share that with the word, she would!
Or Harry Styles
@@casiesilverman Yes!! It seems that some people think they are entitled to that information because he’s a celebrity but he’s human first and deserves respect and privacy just like everybody else!!
It's a taught thing to NEED to label everything and if something isn't in a categorized box we nitpick and push and assume the hell out of it. SIIIIIGH. 🙄🙄
@@jaylynnmatthies6500 truth!!!
when i came out to my best friend this was the conversation
“hey i don’t want this to be weird but i’m gay”
“ok”
“wdym ok?”
“was i supposed to have a better reaction?”
“sort of”
“kk one sec, OMG I HAD NO IDEA WHAT THATS AMAZING”
Please this is me- ima be like "chill, what did we get from Mr. Goerge today"
I love your best friend
THAT'S SMTH I'VE DONE AND WILL CONTINUE TO DO
After being married for 7 years, I figured out I'm bi. I told my husband & his exact response was "about time you figured that out", like it was no big deal. When I asked why he hadn't said anything, since he said he'd known for years, his response was that he figured it was something I really needed to figure out for myself and if he had said anything, I'd have instantly denied it, would have put me on the defensive, and it would have made it that much harder to figure it out for myself. In retrospect, he was absolutely correct. Like Rachel, I wasn't worried about telling him, or other friends/family, because it just wasn't going to be 'a thing'. And it hasn't been. Guess I'm just sharing this to back up the "telling someone they are gay when they haven't seen it for themselves yet, is NOT helpful" message.
and yes, we are still married - coming up on 13 years married, now.
May I ask how he knew?
@@tdaetaunm I never asked him, but I’m guessing comments I’d made, people who caught my eye (I’m thinking particularly about some theatre shows we’ve watched and definitely noticed the attractiveness of women on stage). Just knowing me exceptionally well. 🤷♀️
Congrats👏👏
ahh congrats! i hope you have an amazing future :)
My guys is convinced I’m bi. I personally am not romantically attracted to women.
TikTok truly made a lot of people question their sexuality during quarantine lol
Hi. Me.
Same with mine 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
@China Trujillo what’s sad?
That's interesting. How did Til Tok do that? I don't know much about it ...
*The whole tiktok making everyone realize their true sexuality thing is a relatable phenomenon of which cannot and will not ever be explained.*
i think it has quite a bit to do with 2020 and we couldn't really DO anything else besides (scroll through tik tok lol and) discover ourselves :)
Yea like I always found boys gross since i was little but I never really thought about gay like I knew it was a thing but never had time to think and find myself cause i was always busy with school and life then lockdown hit and all my friends started to get boyfriend and I just did not feel like it then I went on tiktok and this lesbian was talking about her feeling and I realised I had similar feeling so I explored more then I went through months of say why me no I cant be gay no no but then I watched more gay tiktok and I started to expect myself for me. I think my family knows I like woman but I have not directly told them yea I do so yea I'm just going to turn up to there door one day with a girl and see how it goes ik they will be fine with it cause I have a gay uncle and there 100% fine with him.
Memes are what made me realize I’m ace 😂
I'm personally im a normal straight person; but if I were to watch gay tik tok all the time I too would probably think I'm gay. Maybe u guys are programming yourselves to belive ur gay. Just a hypothesis.
@@leanmeanmenace1744 Being queer isn’t something that can be influenced. It’s just who people are born. Trust me, if I could “change” I would... and I’ve tried.
Honestly, the fact that this is “mundane” is affirming and encouraging. The fact that your story doesn’t have raging homophobia is hopeful. From one queer to another, proud of you!
don't worry Rachel, tik tok made us all realize we were gay...
I literally found out I have symptoms of ADHD thanks to tiktok. Hoping to get diagnosed once my therapist has an opening
Legit hahahaha
Or bi
Sorry but I f ing do not like gay people
But when I saw this I feel nothing wrong about being gay or having a gay friend
Call me out much 😂
“Does she play board games?” I- that’s everything
Hi fellow army
Hi fellow Army! XD cute profile pic
@@scotg.5090 hello army 💜💜
@@torisheehan8009 thank you!! 💜💜
The most cousin thing to say ever!!!
Girl, I discovered Tik Tok lesbians during quarantine. I’m straight, but they made me question my own sexuality. 😂
I totally get u but honestly if u were gay u would have know before TikTok too maybe not totally know but u would have hints
Everyone else’s family:
“I’m gay”
“OMG!” *cries*
Rachel’s family:
“I’m gay”
“Oh cool”
More like Rachel's family:
"Cool, anyways-"
@@reillymccabe8462 lol it almost sounds like they all already knew she was gay and were just waiting for her to catch on
*My main problem with the El-G-Bee-Tea argument is that every single reason they give to try and justify it can be used for every other sexual scenario too.*
*Two consenting adults: Adultery is between two consenting adults.*
*It's found in the animal kingdom: pee...dough...feel ya is also found in the animal kingdom.*
*It's not a choice: Nek...row...feel ya is a men-tall diz-order therefore not a choice*
*It can be safe if you use protection: Incest can be "safe" if you use protection*
*It's been around since the dawn of time: Ray-pe has been around since the dawn of time.*
*Love is love no matter who it's for: So if you want to love someone's lover, it's all fine?*
@@thewriter2634 it's funny bc all these points could so easily be refuted but I'm not about to waste my time
@@thewriter2634 huh
This is literally the most beautiful coming out story ever, and I genuinely hope that’s gonna be how all these types of stories go in the future.
I don't think your coming out story is "boring," but it's so beautiful that all the people you've surrounded yourself with are accepting. The fact that your coming out was "uneventful" is how it should be. We're all happy you're happy.
People trying to tell someone they are gay is horrible and when they finally coming out saying 'we knew' is so invalidating and rude.
Forreals
Totally Agree Kath,
@Taylor Parker it's invaliding cause coming out can be terrifying and a huge struggle to finally do it, there's alot of different emotions, each person has different feelings and reactions when coming out. When finally getting the courage to come out people going "We knew" is just ignoring the person strength, emotions and vulnerability of finally being able to come out. They are being dismissive instead of empathic. Also people don't have any right to tell anyone they are gay since some people may not be ready to look at that, some hate labels and we can't tell anyone what there sexuality the person has to figure it out themselves without the pressure from others rushing them on coming out.
I actually find the "we all knew" comments rude. Makes me feel self-conscious like, I can't keep as good of a secret as I thought I could lol.
Plus, in cases like hers, I would think it’s a little embarrassing that someone might’ve realized that before you did. There was a guy in our high school, who has just recently, years later, come to accept that he’s gay. Though no one except his closest friends ever explicitly asked him (he always denied it, and apparently believed it himself), virtually everyone confidently assumed he was gay. Granted, my school was not a very accepting one, and his parents are extremely conservative and religious, so I understand the denial. But I can’t help but wonder how traumatizing that must have been to be the last person to reach that conclusion, even if the student body was unjustified in making that assumption.
My whole family knew I was gay Before I did. They said they already knew. I was like well why didn’t you tell me.
Except she wasn't keeping a secret at all because she didn't even know herself yet. I'm sad that she says she doesn'ts read comments So my thought is why bother leaving one?
@@jacquelinemaree9816 because they were probably like Rachel's family, they knew you needed to find out for yourself, And in your own time. I'm not going to say that I knew Rachel was gay, but, there were a couple of stereo typical signs that I had a thought that she might be. But there are also so many spectrums of the LGBTQ +s . My daughter is bisexual my niece is bisexual and I have another niece that is transgender. They all had to find out for themselves on their own time and I was just here when they needed to talk to someone. I'm glad her family is so understanding, and loving and excepting of her for who she is. A lot if not most people don't have that. Especially the family as a whole. I know mine isn't, Unfortunately.
I think that’s such a sensitive touchy topic. I had a best friend who just idek why but he made my gay senses ring so bad. I don’t have any problem with him doing or loving what/who he wants. I just want him to be happy and I loved him for who he was as a person.
Everyone else must have felt his gay presence too, though.... I guess, because he actually was kinda bullied for it by some stupid homophobic classmates. Plus he’s kinda religious (just so you have some background on why that’s probably a sensitive topic to him)
Anyway, years later I told my ex bf that I feel like he’s gay so he doesn’t worry because in his opinion men and women can’t just be friends. But he still was so concerned that he texted my friend and asked him directly without much introduction and that made him upset. Now he doesn’t want anything to do with me because my now ex- boyfriend wasn’t very empathetic towards him. And since my ex didn’t really tell my anything besides that they texted and he asked if he was gay, I assumed that he eased the question into the conversation but nope, he did not.
Not knowing what actually was said, I told my former friend that I think it is fine to ask him if he is gay so I guess he assumed that I thought the way my ex asked seemed good to me (which of course no bc I know that that’s not an easy topic for him). And basically now we’re not friends anymore bc of that.
Still don’t know how to feel about this whole story because it seems to be a big misunderstanding and I can’t change what my ex said. And since there is more history with me and said friend (let’s just say he once said something really unforgivable to me and I still forgave him after a few years eventhough he never apologised) I don’t feel like I should apologise for something I didn’t do bc to me it feels like my former friend can’t separate my ex and me. I wonder if I’m being stubborn bc of the fact that my former friend didn’t apologise when he had to or if it really isn’t my time to apologise bc this bs behaviour didn’t come from me but from my ex.
I hope this made sense 😬😅
Can someone give me more perspective and maybe some advice on this whole situation?
This video and how simple Rachel realized she’s gay just shows how simple of a human being she is😂
she said that she wouldn't change...she lied... she completely and totally lied. when they truly broke up and she started dating Girlfriend...SHE GOT HAPPY AGAIN!! i'm so happy that she gets to be happy again.
Instead of a coming out story, I'd rather hear more tea about the ex and the credit card, car debacle... He better have paid those charges off...
Same, I'm like oh you're gay? Awesome. Now tell me about what happened with matt and the credit card, did he pay you back? Did all his friends tell him what a douche he was as they learned of what he did? I want the tea on this please
Wait what’s this story about , a credit card ? Whered you get this info lol
@@morganh1071 she talked a bit bout it in one of her blogs about how he was still using her credit card for something
@@morganh1071 he used her credit card to buy groceries and gas ⛽️
This is the chillest / least dramatic coming out story ever and I’m so happy for you Rachel. Beautiful human being inside and out. 💕💕💕
Bestie, the fact that your coming out story was so relax, you didn’t lose anything, no one was concerned SAYS SO MUCH OF HOW FAR WE HAVE COME AS A SOCIETY!!! There is still a long way to go but, this is great!! This makes me so happy!!💙💜💛💚🧡♥️
“Next person you date male or female Mk”
That’s so Colleen I feel
I'm confused. When did that happen?
Is she bi or lesbian
@@malloryallen604 lesbian did you not watch the video she explains everything???
@@Sofia.kar7 she broke up with her male s/o when covid hit because the relationship was dead and just recently she found she was gay
@@haley_triplett69 I know that bit I'm confused about the Colleen part
As a 24 year old mom of 2 young children who is in a committed hetero relationship that didn't find out I was bisexual until a few months ago this is very very very nice and validating to hear and I'm so so happy for you and I love you very much. ❤️
As someone who came out n the 90's with how things were then and for years since, the fact that I'm watching this and you're coming out is so anti-climactic is honestly amazing to see. So much has changed and I'm so happy it was just another bit of info in a convo. Being so anti-climactic and just "oh, btw..." shows how far we've come. Get it girl! Just be you!
Tik tok being the main root of most people realising they’re gay, Stan that😍😌
That's how I found out
in 2020/2021, this generation of gays for sure
it's the new Glee in that sense lol
@Coman Foot this is for dog video but don't push it if you don't want to but it's dog vids
Before I got tiktok I was a bisexual cisgender girl. Now I’m a straight trans boy.
I love how Rachel calls her girlfriend girlfriend on CZcams instead of her girlfriends actual name
It's because they don't want the internet to know who she/they is yet
They still might want privacy. It's not our right to know
@@Babycat42069 yes but it’s still funny that she does that
I think it’s funny because she says “girlfriend” instead of “my girlfriend” lol
one thing growing up that pissed me off the most was when people would just flat out say “you’re gay arent you,?”. and then after i was finally comfortable telling people they would say “oh yeah we all knew”. it felt as if the amount of work i did to protect myself from being bullied and being made fun of was for nothing. and it sucked that most people thought it was up to them to decide what gender i wanted to date. in school i tried so hard to hide my personality and lie to myself / others because i wasn’t ready to face negativity for being gay. and it never helped when people would try to point it out or ask me when i’m coming out. the worst was when people would say “well you’re gay aren’t u? it’s okay.. u can tell me”. it’s just so important to let people figure themselves out on their own until they come u for help or advice.
RACHEL TALKING ABOUT HOW SHE WAS JUST SITTING IN BED LIKE “yeah! gay!” AND I WAS JUST DYING LAUGHING I LOVE HER SM
I'm not gay, but somehow my fyp is full of gay/lesbian tiktok. I don't know how I ended up there, but I'm here for it. I'm a total ally and if you are gay and need a mom or a sister, I'm 100% here for you.
Same same. It makes me happy that my fyp is so much more exciting and colorful than I am.
@@SarahEllis The first time I realized it I was like I don't know why I'm here, but I'm all for it. 😂 I mean, my fyp gave me these 2 guys who just had triplets. Babies! Gay TikTok gave me adorable babies!
I am a gay man and I keep getting ads on youtube about how to seduce women. No idea why. 😐
@@oliviamaddock469 forget them
@@superalejcc lol I always do too but reverse
I told my mom i was gay and she goes "honey we all knew" i sat there like this
-_-
Same lol my brother came out last month and all I said was I always knew lol , still love you bro 😎
@@katelynnmcdougall9826 hey! pls be careful doing that, a lotta people feel invalidated and that their work hiding their identity was all for nothing :(
I haven’t to my parents I’m bi but I know my mum already knows cause she asked me any guys or girls on the scene and I just sat there like .-. Wa
LMAOO
At least they were accepting?
The Ballinger family is thriving. Rachel is happy and finding herself. Chris and Jessica are having a 6th kid . And Colleen has a podcast and a great husband who loves her. And I bet Gwen and Tim are probably having a great time with their chickens.
Wait Jessica is pregnant again?
@@ewelinastanulewicz8919 yes
And Trents pretty great too
@@user-oc1qx7ri6p true
Isn't jessica also the one who has a trans kid? or am I just getting all the yt families confused? lol
Colleen talked about how their conversation was a bit different than how Rachel told it. Apparently, Colleen was saying "whomever you date next... Man or woman..." & Rachel interrupted and said "woman". Then colleen said, "love it." Colleen did not put Rachel on the spot and never assumed anything. She waited for Rachel to tell her. Just for clarification.
@Tha Whisperer cool, no one cares
Where
@@thewriter2634 I didn't understand half of that. Also I think you made a typing error. *LGBTQ+ Community
@@thewriter2634 shut......up
@@thewriter2634 I think if you are watching this, you’re gay lmaooooo
This is beautiful. I hope someday EVERYONE'S coming out story is like this.
Rachel-I'm gay
Me-Rachel's diamond earings with her sweatshirt is a total vibe
I never noticed her earrings
same here
I'm loving that hoodie she's wearing
That’s what I was looking at half of the time
“Does she play board games?”
Man has his priorities straight 😂
Lol. He does, especially if Girlfriend wants to prove she can "hang" with the Ballinger/Trent family.
@@emmarees9884 yep! Shows how important board games are to people who enjoy them 😂 (like me)
Exactly
If you like someone who dosnt play board games their not worth it 🤣🤣
ikr
colleen just saying "man or woman" & her reaction (it wasnt rly a reaction) was so chill & wholesome i love it
My husband and I are raising our son to know that if he were gay, he could come out in a way that isn't out of fear or obligation to announce his sexuality. It will never have to be a "thing" with us. Just as straight people get to do, he could walk into our home one day and say "oh I like this guy" and we'll be like "oh cool, invite him over sometime" and that be it.
I wish my parents were like you omg, you're an amazing parent
you are amazing parents, just wanted you to know.
Aw thanks you guys, we really try. ❤
I love how her dog like “honey this my couch” like I feel like made a promise whatever is yours Rachel is mine
Hey, Rachel! Hope you're well!! I don't think you understand, anytime you talk about "girlfriend" your face softens, you subconsciously smile, and it's really sweet to see. Sooo happy you're living your best life!
"He who shall not be named" thanks rachel
Ps: Dont tell people they're gay, not a good thing to say
Edit: what I mean by it's not a good thing to say is, it's not an an insult, but if someone is thinking about telling you that they are, it could ruin the whole interaction of them telling you, so if you are suspecting something, dont tell them until after they're out.
It really isnt
Insult or not
The only time it's ok to tell someone they're gay is when they are and they're out to you.
Me to my friends: u gay
My friends: bitch, we been knew
Also my friends: no, u
*My main problem with the El-G-Bee-Tea argument is that every single reason they give to try and justify it can be used for every other sexual scenario too.*
*Two consenting adults: Adultery is between two consenting adults.*
*It's found in the animal kingdom: pee...dough...feel ya is also found in the animal kingdom.*
*It's not a choice: Nek...row...feel ya is a men-tall diz-order therefore not a choice*
*It can be safe if you use protection: Incest can be "safe" if you use protection*
*It's been around since the dawn of time: Ray-pe has been around since the dawn of time.*
*Love is love no matter who it's for: So if you want to love someone's lover, it's all fine?*
@@thewriter2634You really thought about this didn’t you😂 Too bad it doesn’t make any sense. I guess you’ll get a little point for effort, but no more. Minus ten points for being a bigot
Sorry people kept telling you you’re gay when you identified as straight and that they said the knew because that is so invalidating and rude, and you’re aloud to feel upset about that. Anyway, I’m excited with you on this new discovery!! I’m glad you’re happy and feel free :)
exactly! i hate that people think it's ok to do that
Ah loved “he who shall not be named” 😂 Voldemort Voldemort oh voldy Voldemort 😂
Thought that too 😂
I'm just glad that people are experiencing more casual 'coming outs' like this, it's the way things should be! Just an open understanding that people aren't configured to be interested in what is stereotypically expected!
I haven't watched Rachel in so long but this video made her fall in love with her personality all over again! So happy for her!
me: *plans this nice clean coming out thing to tell my sister*
also me: "I'm not straight, wanna watch *John Mulaney* ?"
Rachel: "I was in an eight year relationship with a man, he shall not be named"
all the OGs: 👁👄👁 I think we all know
I started something in the comments
Yessir
Yessss
My girlfriend’s best friend dropped me off after I got drunk at a party. She kissed me on the way out. I am glad my girlfriend doesn’t know.
yeah we all know
@Jaimee Carter yes
I wish my coming out story was uneventful. I wish everyone’s coming out experience was like Rachel’s.
Agreed. This was so therapeutic to watch. I grew up LDS and was outed in a very traumatic way when I was 16. I'm 24 now and still working throw the trauma of my "coming out" experience.
rachel: "ITS NOT LIKE YOU GUYS DIDDNT KNOW"
me: facts
"what're you gonna do about it"
"i dunno.. jus.. be gay"
my response to all my dilemmas
This is how coming out should be, relaxed, not a big deal. One day coming out wont be a big deal and it wont even need to be explained. Good for you Rachel! You're awesome
I love that Rachel is always unapologetically herself, it’s perfect.
You say your coming out wasn’t exciting, but to me it is! It’s exciting that we’re finally living in a time where someone coming out doesn’t have to be a big deal or “thing”. The more boring a coming out story is, the more excited I get.
i was practicing my clarinet but who needs a clarinet when rachel made a coming out story!?!
Oooo I play clarinet
lmaooo ikr
I also play clarinet!
@Mattie Jackson yay all my fellow band peeps!
@@alexiss1457 it’s so funnnnn!!
“So whatcha gonna do bout it”
“I dunno, be gay” I’m literally crying so hard
I love how people take months or maybe years and Rachel found out threw tiktok
I found out through a tv show and tik tok just confirmed it for me 😂
The normalcy of Rachel's whole attitude to this and the story itself should be an inspiration to the world