Should You Quit Your Romcom Binge-Watching?
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- čas přidán 10. 02. 2016
- It turns out that watching romantic comedies while you Netflix and chill may not be such a good idea after all. Find out why in this Girl Chat, and tell us if you agree in the comments.
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Tamera's "All of them!" was hilarious to me lol
me too, she almost seemed to be distraught.
+HiMyNameIsFreedom She slayed Tamar with that answer
Lol
Can we take a moment to appreciate how fly Adrienne looks #makeupgaol
I was just thinking that
I don't like the entire outfit, so she's not really "flying" to me
+onmywaytohappiness !!! yess!! Follow me on CZcams for great tutorials guys!!
Yes
Goal *
I'm here for Loni, like I enjoy romcoms but I don't take them seriously like half the things the guys do will be creepy if they did it in real life and also very unrealistic
When you are falling in love with someone the things you do can come off so romantic and grand if the other person is falling in love with you too, but if they're not it comes off really creepy and stalkerish lol.
Falling in love with the right person you'll live your fairy tale or RomCom everyday. I can tell you I didn't even know i liked flowers that much until I got flowers for my one month anniversary (that i didn't remember or thought we were celebrating) but it blew me away. 10 years later rekindled, coming home fro work to the house fully clean on the day he took off from work just to be spontaneous and in he comes in with a bottle of my favorite sweet red, we pop that bottle open, serve dinner he made and the of course the rest is history. I say that to say some movies can be high-handed but we must remember we actively should take part in creating our realities too.
AMEN ADRIENNE!!! Ladies, don't lower your standards to accommodate these lazy men, if they don't treat you right then fine. Just flip that hair and remind him that there are 7 Billion people on this earth and you know how to spell patience!
L m f a o yassss
Ha-ha exactly!
Those kind of men are out there, I think women should ask themselves of maybe they don't have a man like that because she doesn't meet the standards of a guy that good??
+dance4life1208 just check the friend zone, they're almost always there, sacrifice the excitement of a bad boy and date a nice normal guy and you'll be treated like a queen.
+koovidsrcool that is such a stereotype, most girls don't want a bad boy.
They all look gorgeous today! I know Adrienne better preach.
They do!!! I especially love Jeannies hairstyle
Loving Loni's box braids ☺️ These and the twists suit her so well
Hahaha the way Tamera said "ALL OF THEM" that was so cute
No man will write me a letter everyday for a year like Noah in The Notebook. So I agree with Loni and Tamera. Take these movies with a pinch of salt because they can be wildly unrealistic
My ex bf wrote me a letter everyday for a month while we were on one of our little breaks, so stuff like that does happen.
But the Notebook wasn't a romantic COMEDY, it was a romantic DRAMA. When i think romantic comedY, i think more along the lines of My Best Friend's Wedding or He's Just Not That Into You or, what I like to call, the Meg Ryan triple set: When Harry Met Sally, Sleepless in Seattle and You've Got Mail.
But yes, if you're talking about movies like the Notebook or Titanic, or Romeo and Juliet, then i can definitely see why you would find these movies unrealistic; storylines in Romantic Dramas typically involve teenagers because no adult has the time or energy, or volatile emotion to put up with that kind of Romantic love. Romantic comedies tend to be more realistic because the characters are grounded by committments outside of themslves and romance, like work
+nairobi1234 Ok, so all men may not write notes every single day, but it's not unrealistice to want a letter or a note every now and then. The things in these romantic movies are super dramatic and over the top, but that doesnt mean that we shouldn't expect some of these things on a smaller, more realistic level.
nairobi1234 The Notebook is one of my favorite movies, but some of the things Noah did would not fly with me in real life. Like in the beginning when he was hanging off the ferris wheel until she would go out with him. If someone did that to me, I’d file a restraining order 😂. I like those kinds of movies, but I don’t watch them so I know what to expect in real life. I think some women will take them really seriously though 😬
People love fantasizing about this perfect man or woman and completely over look great guys and girls because they don't fit people's high standards. I remember a girl telling another girl in high school "why would the perfect guy choose you? Are you perfect? So if you're expecting perfection what makes you think he isn't". It isn't about lowering your standards but looking at people's heart and intentions, and sometimes the best gifts come in unique packages. Just because a guy or girl isn't typically romantic doesn't mean they aren't worth it.
Of course it doesn't mean they aren't worth it. Most of the opinions in this segment are from women who value that kind of romantics and that's great because there are a lot of men that like to treat their women that way but there's lots of men and women who show their love in not so typically romantic ways. We all give and receive love differently and those looking for a partner in love should look for what best matches and suits them, not just what Hollywood thinks is romantic.
True...don't expect some one to be what u are not ur self!.
Well said
Ain’t nobody running after you through the airport, past security w/o getting tackled and arrested 😂
the way tamera said that at 2:55-2:58 made laugh so hard lol
blacklee93 😂😂😂😭
i agree with Loni,all those movies of romance are a one in a trillion chance. Gives you a false sense of the real world
But if it weren't for romance movies, I would probably be waking up next to any guy who smiled at me.
+00AssassinOfkings000 I'm with Loni too. We can't confuse fantasy with reality because it'll mess us up. I enjoy watching romantic comedies but I still know that they're just movies. #discernmentiskey
+00AssassinOfkings000 I think some of them are realistic and some of them aren't. I think they aren't realistic mainly because men in general don't gravitate or pick to watch those kind of movies. I think women are mainly the ones who watch them. So if more men watched them, they can be of influenced on the men. Other wise it gives women a false sense, just because the gestures that they do for women in movies aren't what they see in real life. We just need to get the men to watch these movies and learn! lol
Facts!!!
+lala lova completely agree 👌🏻
I believe Loni wants true live deep down inside.
Why?
"When people tell you who they are, believe them!"
-- Iyanla Vanzant
-- Oprah
-- Dr. Phil
+Tiny Towz Lol iight you right.
+Tiny Towz Maya Angelou
gottaluvpink89 Thx.
+dashaun thompson of course she does. Who doesn't.
I agree with Adrienne. There are sooo many guys out there who just really want to be in love and want to treat their women like queens. Don't lower your expectations to just wanting an ok dude who treats you fine. What's the point of being with someone if theres no romance or passion? Sorry, too many people out there to just stick with someone cuz hes a decent, okay dude.
*starts slow clapping after Adrienne's speech*
Life advice we should all live by: "DON'T BE SILLY Y'ALL"
I got Adrienne. Some thing in those movies a man absolutely can do, HOWEVER, alot of those romantic movies are unrealistic and over dramatized. Nothing is that perfect in the real world.
Random... but ...my favorite RomCom is " The Proposal"..if you haven't seen it...Watch it! bc its BOMB!!!
Jeannie, Tamar, and Adrienne's makeup artists are everything!! The ladies look beautiful! And I'm really hoping that Loni finds true love one of these days... Her energy (or lack there of) is so draining to watch!
Like Tamera forgot what happened in the movie herself. THE REASON Matthew McConaughey's character PUT UP with her antics was because, like she, he also had a bet of his own to get a woman to fall in love with him within 10 days. And they did hit it off on the first date - that's how she "caught" him. That was the whole reason for the conflict around the climax of the movie.
Loved Adrienne's look and her opinion on this topic too! :)
I COMPLETELY agree with Tamera, it's a middle ground. Romantic comedies can be empowering (show women what they deserve). But sometimes they are just flat out unrealistic and people can get caught up in them.
Preach, Adrienne! 👏🏽 Never trust a man who says you should lower your standards. That's all I'mma say.. 🐸
Tamar caught Adrienne's shade loll
What shade?
+nairobi1234 She was referring to Kim K and Kanye
time?
oh her speech I caught that too 😂😂😂
Where?????
Adrienne brings up the Kardashians a lot lol
+joejill51lala Where did she bring them up?
Yup; where?
+Santricia Jones right here duh dont play dumb
joejill51lala How are you going to tell me not to "play dumb" as if she actually said one of the Kardashians names? Girl please!
I agree with Adrienne and surprisingly she ain't pouting in this segment ...so two thumbs up for her today ..oh wait and her look 😍😍
Lazy man, lazy relationship. Lowering your standards is the worst idea. you may not have the "movie" relationship, but you can make your relationship so amazing that people think it came straight from the movies.
"That's true" Tamar. She married an amazing person.
" I got one" I just love her and him
Should I quit binge-watching The Real clips? :/
Nah fam 😂😂😂
No gurl I’m with you! I’ve been binge watching for 3 days!
Binge watching in quarantine!
Adrienne's advice was soooo good...... Loved it 👏👏👏👏👏
Best advice Adrianne has ever given! 👏🏾👏🏾
WAW when Loni says that she doesn't see anyone waiting for her at the airport, I was like just wait Loni, just wait!
Lonni is so insecure about love. She is always so bitter and a downer when it comes to love. Hopefully she's kidding most of the time, I like her but she's annoying sometimes.
Yet, her last name is LOVE.
Tiny Towz waste...
+wwe creative I think it happens when you've been dating for a long time and had one night stands, and you meet those kinds of guys that are only after one thing, and there are lots and lots and lots of those guys.
nulezie That't why she needs to stop being such a downer when others celebrate love. She is a grown women and knows what kind of guys she is going after and attracting do to attitude. There are good guys out here and she'd find one if she actually tried and stopped being insecure. I guess for her it's easier said then done.
wwe creative
Huh?
When Harry met Sally is a very realistic rom-com and my favorite.
Lies! Uber drivers aren't allowed into the airports for pick ups 😭😭 I know from personal experience ahhuuu
+cutie1847 How does airport security know that it's an Uber car?
isu My uber driver picked me up from the airport I think it depends where you are at
+isu they have a
U
stiker (pasenger side)
+isu
Maybe entertaineners have a special arrangement?
+cutie1847 It depends on where you live, but there are states putting laws in effect preventing ride-sharing services like Uber and Lyft in airports as they don't have permission to be there and I believe it violates some type of code. But in NYC, I have taken a couple of Ubers to and from the airport.
Preach Adrienne👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
hmm I don't know how I feel about that Cinabon on Jeannie's head ... but im loving her nails tho haha omg I read in another comment section on Adrian's "absolutely" comments and now I can't stop hearing it! hahhaah
Tamera: what are the statistics
Tamar: girl, look at Instagram!
Bahahahaha so true! Love her!
Lol, movies give us a a very warped view of what love actually is.
Loni looks so gorgeous!!! OMG! Just had to comment. Work it girl.
You are watching a snippet of time. So you have to have expectations of things going off the rails.
HOWEVER, my husband could absolutely be a man from a romcom. I've seen him go above and beyond what any other man I have know would go. Do we fight? Heck yes. Is life messy? Of course.
But he's done things he is not comfortable with to keep me. He loves planning things for us to do because he loves to make me smile. He's written love letters. He's held me together when I'm struggling. I've watched my husband weep for me because he was having to leave me for deployment. Watching a MAN weep for you out of love is on another level. I never want to see my husband cry and he never does. But saying goodbye to me and giving me that final hug that would have to last months he broke down.
If you knew him, would you think that was possible? No. My husband is the world's biggest ass to everyone else. But to me he is everything I could ask for. Men like that exist, but when you are in a relationship life isn't a romcom 24/7.
It's not unrealistic to expect; unless you are expecting it to be like that at all times. The relationships in romcoms are not perfect. They fight, they makeup, they have challenges, they get through them. That is life.
If you can feel that wash of love for someone just randomly come on you in the middle of your day. Chances are you are already living your romcom. Because if you can feel that you would definitely chase someone through an airport, stay through someone being (safely) crazy, want to plan things to make them smile, fight for them, leave love notes, show up with flowers, and just do things you would never have done before.
Adrienne is amazing❤️ she speaks really well.
I'm here for it!!! Yes Adrienne
As of lately my favorite romantic movie is " The Fault in Our Stars" omg.. It has me in tears every time. I definitely will watch them this weekend. and The Vow
Me too Adrienne i know one too
Ok I do agree with the fact that a man (like me) should do any and everything to woe a woman. flowers romance I am down for it all BUT and this is a big BUt, two things:
1. Some men do like watching RomComs and would love to watch it with you, but as soon as we let you know, INSTANT FRIENDZONE! so we just do not.
2. RomComs do not show you how men work and think, we are not that superficial.
+IamAboe3 *woo not woe hun but yes you're right
+Abigail Jones I was running through the 6 with my woes!
Hahahaha I am not a native speaker :D thanks I did not know woo is written like that :D
PREACH, ADRIENNE!!!!
I love a Rom com
but I know the difference
but they are good to indulge in also love the books (chick lit) too
😍the list is endless fr dirty dancing to love and basketball
At the end of the day, they're just movies. They don't say anything about anything. I grew up in a household of 3 brothers and being the only girl. Guys are straightforward and not about that catch you at the airport, get a church choir, sing to you, propose, get married and live happily ever after. Even my guy friends are not like that. It's a movie!!! people are acting and add drama to these situations. Are there guys who do that? sure abso-freaking-lutely Should you expect your man to do that? no girl, don't hold your breath. Accept your man as he is and let him love you the best way he knows how. You get someone, man or woman, out of their comfort zone you'll end up with half assed lovin. #justmytwocents
but lets remember ladies that if u want a guy to be so good and romantic u also need to put efforts too. also act like grown women and men lets hold back the sex thing. watch and talk ,learn from one another
Adrienne says "absolutely" quite a bit and in different tones deoending on what she is talking about :p Its so cute! I cant not hear it now!
Can we all just take a minute to admire Loni's makeup. On point today! And those braids? Yes!
I love Loni's hair😍
Loooooove the braids on Loni ! 😍
wedding singer was iy for me. I watch it every time
I need help! I love Tamar so much! She kills me with laughter, she makes me feel all worm inside due to how friendly she is. That laugh she did @3:00. Awwww......I just adore her to no end! #MyFlower
I met my current bf on tinder two years ago and we celebrated our two year anniversary two weeks ago. Though the way we met was not conventional, his actions were. He was and is still a total gentleman and I am so grateful! 😊
Standards and fantasy are two completely different things
Hahaha, love these ladies!
I LOVE HITCH❤️❤️ definitely one of my TOP 5 favourite Romantic comedies
the notebook ♡
02:57 The way Tamera says 'All of them' cracks me up
Ooh Tamar looking fiercccee with that hair do and them earrings
love Adrienne's hairstyle lool mixing up romance with stalker behavior. I have too many aunties with bad relationships n my fam didn't have a this is a too mature convo attitude to have a romantic comedy perception of relationships.
Honestly, if a woman is looking for a relationship akin to a romantic comedy, she should know that life exists after the credits roll. It's not about standards, it's about understanding that those elements aren't commonplace.
Adrienne was dropping that knowledge today.
Love this show!! :-)
Call yourself Meg Ryan...best one liner. lol
1:49 "EMOO" Lol I couldn't!
my husband is very romantic! it all depends on the man. I left for the first time in our relationship to visit my mom in Washington and I came back home to California. I was waiting outside the airport looking for his car I go back inside to sit down he comes running in grabbing my bags and I walk out and there's a limo. inside was beautiful flowers with balloons and a hello kitty balloon that's said I love you. we drove to the beach and we got out walked the sand holding hands and he pushed me on the swing. we went to order my favorite dish from olive garden, he went and got my favorite ice cream from riteaide, went home and there was rose pedals all over with lit candles (he made me wait inside the limo before I went in the house to light the candles.) he's done stuff like this on plenty occasions! I love my man!
Amen I am with Loni! This fantasy B.S. I am not saying love doesn't exist but a man should have to be your slave to get your attention.
Yasss Loni Don't touch that hair !!
I love rom-com's too. I guess it is alright to dream sometimes having a guy like in a movie...but Like Tamera said it is fantasy and in movies you can exaggerate sometimes so movies should not be taken to seriously...but on the other side thy can be maybe an inspiration :)
i want to be loved like in those movies so he better step up. i agree with adrienne
Adrienne better PREACH....
imagine telling this Jeannie that in 2021 she's going to be married to someone other than Freddie! oh I would have loved to see her reaction
omg soon as I soon Jeannie's hair I craved an ice cream cone and a honey bun😄😄
Thank you loni
as long as u ain't on twilight. u good
Adrienne came with it!!!!
I love that ponytail on Tamar
Does anyone else notice Tamaras tick? she Always uses her left hand and hits her hair forward lol
Joanna A yep especially a wig. She doesn't do her natural hair
I hope Loni finds love. I'm not sure if she's bitter, or just sees life how it is.
I agree with Loni & Tamara. Romanic Comedies are wonderful fantasies that will jack you up. They mess with our perception of reality and relationships. In the real world, nothing is that neat or easily boxed and labeled. Thank goodness reality is more complicated. Its a nice fantasy though.
amen adrienne i agree with this one, there are so many lazy men these days that wanna be treated like a woman and be taken care of financially. like they forgot the definition of a real man. never lowering my standards chivalry still exist.
If he's running through the airport either:
a. he's been watching too many movies and waited til the last second to step up
b. he is a stalker and paid hundreds if dollars for a ticket when he could have just called you on your cell
c. he's about to get tacked and patted down by TSA
I know it's hard to swallow, but movies ARE NOT real.
yooooo A looks fab
Well shoot then I want to be stalked!!!
Bythalamule???? lmao!! He sounds like he would be waiting!!!
I think these movies don't really represent reality; they make us have some unrealistic expectations just like Tamera was describing, we have to be sensitive to what we see on TV, to manage our expectations and the expectations of our men! that's just the real!
I had stop greys anatomy it was making me sooooo emotional
Lol. At 1:05, I instantly thought of Rob Kardashian
where does the real find the outrageous studies
I've met super romantic guys....you attract what you believe in. If you're pessimistic you will find a pessimistic man 👍. Of course Loni doesnt believe...she finds it hard to show emotion.
Lol so this is why a part of me found stalking endearing 😹😹😹
I'm the only one that fall in love with Tamera when she say "ALL OF THEM"? 😍😍😍😍
yes Adrienne
I feel like Loni tried finding love in her teens and when that person broke her heart, no one around her let her cry it out or they told her to get over it, and maybe that's why she can't open up right now.
Anything done in the context can be bad. RomCOm is no different, simply take them as they are movies for entertainment and in many cases edu-tainment. Falling in love with the right person you'll live your fairy tale or RomCom everyday. Some movies seem unrealistic but oftentimes we expect so little that we accept measly effort or none at all. Require thoughtfulness and give the same. As women we must remember that we actively should take part in creating our happy endings too.
Tamera Is me 😂😂🤦🏽♀️
some romantic movies are realistic