I Changed BJJ Gyms But Training is Still Negative
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- čas přidán 28. 08. 2024
- I received a message from our friend who is experiencing a lot of pressure and negativity related with Brazilian Jiu-jitsu training.
He says that there was a lot of pressure put on him because he was promoted very quickly. And it bothered him. So much so, that many times his training has now become a negative thing.
When he moved away to a school away from his home BJJ gym. He thought that the negative feeling he had experienced would be left behind.
As I'll discuss in the video. That just like him I was promoted very quickly to my Blue Belt and Purple Belt. And like our friend's expectations and negative feelings. I felt a huge pressure to uphold my spot as one of the best guys in the gym during Brazilian Jiu-jitsu training.
And like our friend, these expectations were from within me. Even when I moved to a new gym. The pressure, nerves and expectations just to take part in a training session were still there.
So in the video I share with him of the idea of simply letting go of that. Obviously, you have to push yourself and do your best. But you can't be eaten up with pressure all the time when you're training.
It destroys your ability to learn and enjoy the Brazilian Jiu-jitsu training.
So I gave him the best tip I was given back as a Purple Belt which was to simply let go of all of that.
It's not easy, and will take time, but that simple conversation I had with my coaches was as strong as any BJJ basics or technique I ever learned.
Hope the video helps if you're in a similar spot!
-Chewy
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I don't even practice jujitsu, however your videos are just good for life in general. Keep up the great work and attitude.
lololol i thought i was the only one doing that, this guy should have a second channel with out this bj stuff
Get on the mats! You'll definitely appreciate his videos even more. Jump in and be a part of the BJJ community.
@@FreshHas I will try bjj next week, now i have watched already 100 bjj videos and i feel im ready to go.
@@enent555 just do it mAn. hope u did it already.
Too expensive for me to start
To the guy that asked the question maybe you have burnt yourself out and you should take a break. You shouldn't force yourself to train if you aren't enjoying it. Take a few months off and see if BJJ pulls you back in. You could take some time of and find you want to try something new instead.
SuperJJParker Like Aikido
^ HAHAHAHA
CrossFit, I’m kidding. Only said that because everyone seems to make fun of it. Never done it myself.
try some boxing. that works for me when im feeling a bit bored with bjj.
Good advice. When I don't want to train, I just clear my head, hop in the car, not even think about BJJ on my way there, next thing I know I'm there and ready to go at it.
No matter where you go, there you are
Videos are too real bro. I also needed this chew. Thank you:)
Ambalaaaaaance
The purple belts with aspects of black belt game is so true!
Winning is great, but loosing is learning
Dylan h yes - I try to always learn, but You Win Or You Learn...
losing *
Great insights. I appreciate you sharing your answers to the various questions you get. I too find that whatever you go in life your problems follow you. They just change faces and it's really down to how you manage them. And yeah, jiu-jitsu for me is more of a solution in my life than a problem
Chewy I love when the sirens r n the background and u stop and say “ambalance”. Lol. Cracks me up. I work on a ambulance and knowing someone does that when we wail by cracks me up every time.
I really hope that the one “unlike” was not Tony. This was some great advice for not just BJJ, but life.
I’m a white belt closing in on my blue and this couldn’t have been timed better...I actually really enjoy being where I am. I feel ready to be a blue, but I also know that I will mentally psych myself out sometimes because I have something to uphold. I won’t be able to make white belt mistakes anymore lol.
Consistently awesome advice. Thank you chewy.
I literally can't wait for your videos!
"Ambalamps....." Hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha I died
I’ll call you an ambalamps I’m only 8 months late
I've had rough times. What helps for me is to go to training but only stay for maybe half the class.
Also, shop around gyms. Find a gym that feels good for you and where you are now, mentally.
Yes, it's taboo to gym-hop. But you gotta do what's good for you, not your coach or teacher.
Gabriel Torres, that's right. At the end of the day, you're just a customer, and it is a business contract.
"Yes, it's taboo to gym-hop."
taboo or not, no reason not to do it if it doesnt fit you. If the car is bad, fix it or if it cant be fixed, change it. End of story.
Why is it taboo
I see a lot of these problems stem from giving too much of a shit. As competitive and crazy as Jiu Jitsu is, it's still an elective game. Just have some fun bro.
Always solid advice dude would love to come train with you one day
Great advice sir, this is a great way to learn humility.
Hey chewy thanks for your great content would you be able to a a video on the D’Arce choke from top side control because I have been able to finish it from turtle and half guard but not side control would be very happy if you could help out
@2:40 Woah, Black Betty.
Amber Lamps...
No matter where you go there you are
another great video as always.
Great video, thanks.
I had a blue belt tell me. It just means you can beat most of the white belts. I also was recently promoted and rolled against a same stripe level that crushed me. Turns out he’s been a 2 stripe white for 4 years because he doesn’t come a lot. Belts don’t mean shit. Just have fun!
Dude is ur gym next to a hospital like holy hell the last 5 vids had ambulances go by and one of them had like 3 in the same vid
seriously good videos chew.. any plans to come to the UK?
Question for you, Chewy: there's a fellow white belt in my gym and I always get hurt when I roll with him. A little while ago, he kneed me in the face and gave me a nosebleed when trying to do an armbar and most recently, he tried to do a bicep slicer and he did it wrong and it jacked up my wrist. Both times were accidents, but with my wrist, I had to miss competition camp and I'm just getting tired of it. How do I handle this? Bicep slicers are illegal til purple belt, which is part of why I'm upset, and also, this kind of thing never happens with other guys at my gym, so I don't know if he's reckless or just stupid. He's got seniority on the team, so I don't think talking to my professor will do much, so my only solution right now is to just try and avoid rolling with him. I know that injury is part of the sport, but this is really bugging me. please help lol
Nani W. I totally agree with you. Chew please answer some questions "When higher belts are being hard on lower belt." I been doing bjj for 7 months now. But I remember my second month a purple belt did a knee bar on me. At first I didn't know what he was doing so I obviously didn't tap till it was to late. Then after the round was over I stood up and my knee hurt so much I had to take a 10 minute break to stretch it. After the adrenaline is gone and the next day it still hurt. Chew as a lower belt, how do we even talk or confront higher belt what they did didnt seem ok? It was hard at that time because I don't know what is legal and not legal. Now I avoid this guy every open mat because the fear that I might really get injured.
if the gym is pretty large there should not be white belts rolling with each other, that's pointless. that's like having two long distance runners try to coach each other on sprints....
I believe most of that is created in his own head. Bjj training should be relaxing and fun too. Even if he's the most talented guy in the gym no instructor there is expecting him to be perfect every day or to be born ready, he's there to learn and improve. That's how it goes with all martial arts. One day you do great, next day you take a beating. This is absolutely normal. That "pressure" is probably due to a lack of a certain maturity. Control your ego, keep improving, enjoy the process. That's it.
Hi Chewy - really enjoy the podcasts. I train at a gym where I was up until a few weeks ago the only female and also on average 10-20 years older than everyone else (in my 50's). I received my purple belt a few months ago. If I roll with a guy who is younger and stronger than I am and he out muscles me for the tap I am not as bothered as I am if I roll with a female who is a lower belt level and she gets the tap even if she is younger than me. My Coach wants me to 'help' the new females who have recently started but I just keep thinking that once they have some BJJ skills and knowledge they will be submitting me all the time. I don't worry about the new guys submitting me. I miss being the only female. Is that really messed up?
Chewy! Just started jiujitsu and I’m loving it, but starting with a wrestling base (like you) and I’m having a very very hard time with becoming comfortable on my back as it is not a normal position to stay in wrestling. Just wanted to know if you had any tips for becoming comfortable with guard pulls and break the habit of spinning to my side or stomach? lol
I am interested to know why you and your old coach had disagreements
I am also, but I doubt well hear them.
Nobody gets more amberlamps driving by while filming than you do bro 😂. Seems like there's at least one per video.
Hey chewy, a few questions for you. 1. I Just started teaching at my school were I train, but now I’m on the teaching side of things(both for Muay Thai and Jiu jitsu) plus I do part of the business aspect of the school as well, how do you keep up your personal training even though you have to teach more and take less classes.
2. There is a student in jiu jitsu at our school that has high functioning mentally issue. He has been training with us for awhile but lately it feels like he is going backwards in his training( get stuck or confused with simple moves that I know he can do and execute well) and I want to help him improve but I’m not sure how to improve my teaching to help advance him along any advice?
I have the opposite. I have moved gyms many times due to the military. 4-5 years in and I've never received a belt or stripe. I have never been able to stay at 1 gym for more that maybe a year+
I am very frustrated at this point because I tap blues and get tapped by purples occasionally but it doesn't matter to coaches/professors. I also feel like it's immoral for me to compete anymore because I'm unintentionally sandbagging and outperform whites easily. The most recent gyms Ive train at also tend to treat me like an outsider for some reason.
Imo, Burnout is ultimately just caused by too much prolonged stress. Sometimes we're so stressed out we can't even process what all is actually stressing us out and maybe what we thought was stressing us out is actually just the tip of the iceberg. That's when it's time to take a break to process the stress.
Come to Ireland Chewy. Come train with us! Lol
Chum growing all the time mate. I know our gym is... Moved to new place 9 months ago... We are gona have to move again.. Or just go with my plan, "fuck it lads, we'll get the next unit, and just knock that wall through t'fuck!" 😂
Chum where do you train?
Chum excellent man. Keep at it. Osssss!!!
I have a question. As a coach, do you look more at proficiency in drilling or skills rolling for belt advancement? OSS
I was reaching this point in my judo classes. I have trained for three years, with injuries life events that change my schedule and a generally timid attitude have kept me from progressing. I've never had any belt promotions and wasnt sure if I wanted to keep it up. I wanted to train but its discouraging when you never really feel like you're progressing like everyone else. Or starting over every time you come back from recovering injury. When I got a promotion at work I couldn't go. It wasn't a choice. I had one class that was open while I was off work but the weeks of being healthy and not going in was eating at me quite a bit. I found a gracie academy near my work that had a better schedule and signed up there to take the morning classes. I now hold both gym memberships. Still a white belt in both classes but having the ability to train and not the schedule pushed me to realise that my self doubt and worry about being promoted was all in my head and not that important and that i just had to figure it out and just find something.
Hey chewy can you elaborate on bjj fundamentals? Thanks.
this is me i feel so much pressure to be good fast i really dont even want to roll at all anymore....
I don’t see why there is such a rush to get the belts. People should enjoy the ride.
for anyone willing to read it , i trained with a trainer for 3 years, i gave my best and did my best with him, he pushed me into sports i changed schools and did a lot of things because he wanted, he told me a lot of times that with him i would be a world champion, and lots of other goods things, but then after the first year he started to hit me, BARK orders at my face (he was an old school guy from anti terrorist special forces in Romania) but he hitted me, barked stuff at my face, and used to scream at his 10 year old son in front of everyone (who was a black belt also) i was his second in charge a blue belt that would be giving training and telling everyone what to do if he wasnt there, but then after these 3 years i went to his house asked to talk to him outside because i wanted to stop training with him, because i kinda found out he wasnt a good person at all and he was one of that guys who get control of emotionally weak people (so was i, emotionally weak after moving to Belgium an having no friends nor family and not a THING to do) and found a lot of bad stuff about him, and decided i would stop training with him, so i asked to talk to him and he agreed not knowing what i would say to him, and i told him ´´ hey /name/ i want to stop training, thank you for your time`` he asked me why and i didnt wanted to say: because you are a psycho motherfucker who brainwashes people into thinking you are some kind of kung fu panda who knows everything, so i just said i dont want to say the reason, im just stopping, as soon as i said that he told me, so youre done you will be nobody in the world of martial arts, did i do the right thing?
Thomas Kunz
People who down grade you or put you down have no place in your life. Move on brother, you will thank yourself later.
Yeah you did do the right thing. I think you'll be sure of that once you've found a new training routine.
You did the right thing, but dont stop training and find another place
offcourse you did the right thing. Drill sargent/china gymnastics mentality leads to nowhere unless your goal is being a pro, but even then it tends to backfire. Sports is not all in life.
His 10 year old son is a BJJ Black Belt... ?
We need jiu jitsu in public school in my country #chokeouttheguns
If I grow a beard like you, will I get better at BJJ? :D
Maybe your friend needs to find a school where there are more advanced students. Some place where he isnt at the top of the pyramid, so to speak.
Or shift his focus to really just training lesser ranks for awhile. Sounds like he is plenty good enoigh that he could offer private lessons to beginners. Thats a way of staying active that could alleviate the kind of pressure hes talkinng about.
Or just back off of jiujitsu altogether for a little while. If youre not happy with your circumstances it is OK to do something different!
What do u do when u go against an opponent that is stubborn and won’t tap until the last second
Tony? I miss Bob
No one learns anything without tapping and losing for crying out loud?!?
nice vid ;)
Dude is your gym like right next a ER
Lmfaooo "ambalaance"😂
Just take a break. And don’t go train again till you actually want to.
i hype myself up with country music
So glad i have nothing of those feeling.. even if i am one of the best and everybody expect miracle from me i just do not give a f.. i let lose my position let lose my subbs from time to time like omoplata or armbars if they roll agresivelly to get out just to prevent their injury. I try to learn to be most effective turtle in world 😂 Even if i am pretty strong guy and could use force to back up my tehnique.. in my head is just to be like water.. kind of go with the flow. To be short i got some strange mentality.. prob good one but fuck it i have ton of fun.. just recently problem is even the best guy in gym can't submit me while being just pasive -.-
He just doesn't want to do it. It's not essential so find something else you want to do.
What creates a negative experience is when the owner of the gym makes extra charges on your card, and is stealing from people. Which is exactly what happens at Derby City MMA. People need to know, and Chewy needs to quit being complicit.
" owner of the gym makes extra charges on your card"
lol what? how does that happen?
i think your viewer is just not mature yet. it's apart of growing. you got to face down your own demons, no matter what you do, every day.
Take a break.
Give a break
Ambadance 😂
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Maybe go a little else and try something new? Judo, muay thai, karate, kung fu......
The guy who asked the question has got some maturity issues.
If u want to know the biggest problem in your life... look in mirror....then eat cookie