What's Dating Like For Black People in Japan
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- čas přidán 2. 04. 2024
- I asked black men/women about their dating experiences in Japan...and here's what they said!
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Thank you for interviewing me ! (girl in the grey turtle neck) I genuinely had a great time talking with you! Both you and your cameraman are hilarious !
You're so prettyyyyyyy and your voice is beautiful!!!
@@patusrohus Thank you so much~~
You like getting choked out 😳
Cameron, I'm a Jiu Jitsu black belt, myself, and I'm curious to know about the fighter you dated. What gym is he from? If you're still curious about being choked I could help you with that. 😏
@@NOCDIB LMFAOOO
Thank you for interviewing me! (I’m the guy that’s lived for 16 years in Japan)
Will be in Japan for the first time in about a month..super excited to see other black people there..
Does your wife have a sister? Set me up.
@@hunny___Better odds on tinder than waiting for that
How's that working out?
Hello brother
I'm glad that the guy with dreads pointed out the fetishes. Super important to know the difference.
You can’t have a fetish for a race stop throwing around this bs lie
Yess indeed
Yeah your not wanted just to be used for your culture...noted !
@@nard52let’s see how long it’ll take for others to know 😂
Exactly
“If you’re a loser back home, you can come here and find someone who thinks your cool”
Summed up all of Asia smh
That’s nothing but bs
@@idontevenknow741said the loser who never left home.
@@ddavis5631Youre the loser😂😂. Leaving the country cause you cant get any is embarrassing 😂
if your a loser back at home, youll still be the same loser in japan
Only if you white 😂
Richardo's responses definitely did not disappoint 😂
Bro needs his own channel
@@quontium He has his own channel on instagram. It's wonderful.
@@quontiumHe does have a channel I think. It's Ricchaado TV
That Momo-chan 🥰 right?
he was so based
“there will be someone for you” don’t give me hope man
There will bro trust❤
Lol it's true, but even in saying that I don't recommend pursuing Japanese women. Other Asian women will generally be better for your sanity/ mental health. Just a piece of advice. It's too late for me because I spent too much of my life learning Japanese, but I regret it now mostly because of the way Japanese women are like.
It's true dude. It doens't even have to be japan specifically. There will always be somebody out there for ANYONE. I've seen train wrecks get married and somehow work it out. You just gotta test the waters, and drink the disapointment if you keep trying. Just be sure not to set your bars too low or too high and be truthful with yourself.
Yeah, nobody wants my busted ass...
Cap@@Ready_or_not_here_I_come
“Omg a real authentic black guy is here dancing hiphop” 😂😂
lmaooooo i imagined a spotlight coming out of nowhere illuminating him as he hit break dance moves
😂😂
they must be thinking: "It's happening! He's here!!!" lol
I like this guy
Lol thats like getting hyped a Korean is dancing to Kpop in the us like huh 😭
The guy on dreads was on fire. When he was referencing celebrities was funny AF! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
He’s a CZcamsr a popular one too
What is his page called?@@T-vo5em
@@T-vo5em his CZcams?
@@kxfromga5359 Just google Will I Am
Floyd Mayweather !
Oh noooo the way I can relate to this 😭😭😭 I’m black and have been in Japan for 5 years now, and the way we attract interest for all the wrong reasons. When Ricardo said he’s been called Will I Am, I’ve been called Beyoncé AND Naomi Osaka 💀 Can def attest to the fact there are plenty of Japanese people for whom “black” is the aesthetic they’re into (although I honestly think it’s just because we’re trending in Jp right now) so we get a lot of attention, but it’s not the kind that leads to a healthy relationship. Also totally agree with the girl who said the Japanese people who like you have to be “open-minded/accepting” versus if you were a white foreigner. Wish I had been in Tokyo for this interview 😂
Is there a difference in how they treat black folk who speak Japanese versus those who don’t?
But I mean can you blame Japanese men for thinking that black women are very sexual given that music created by female black artists is typically raunchy and hyper sexual? Ice Spice, Sexyy Red. It's just what they are exposed to.
Dude!! I’ve gotten Beyoncé, Nikki Minaj, Rihana… all of which I have a VAGUE resemblance to. lol.
Hang in there! Though I did end up dating an American in the end 😅
@@jordendarrett1725in my experience not REALLY… but it does help. People will still always treat you like you can’t speak Japanese regardless of your level, but I think obviously communication helps. The problem in general from my experience is finding a guy who isn’t a weirdo who is confident or willing to talk to you. Women in japan are more confident than men so even if a guy likes you he’ll have a hard time getting to that point.
@@krissydiggs Good thing I'm a guy then lol
Bruhhh said “I left 19 years of religion to be with this girl who wanted to give me pumpum” 😩
Crazy 😭
His priorities are bent and twisted.🤦🏿
Really crazy
Very sad brother
Lmao that man was in a drought 😂
Bro started rapping to her lmao
That Alabama accent was accenting!! So cute, plus her style 😍 10/10
As a black man from Alabama still living in Alabama I was shocked when she said she was from the same place I'm like well then
@@kiddhippie948 nah same and i heard her accent was like yep shes def from alabama
Alabama reppin!! I reside in TX now but originally from Dothan/Cottonwood.
@@robertoliver3901 Tuscaloosa over here G
@@kiddhippie948 💪🏾💪🏾 Roll Tide
The chick who said... "some ppl have to be open minded to date you". That's 💯 percent facts. Been living in Japan now for almost a year now. I think that if your a white male, you have it a bit easier. I do feel like some girls are curious. They may like the black culture, but not necessarily you. Something to be careful about.
I've noticed that too. They like black culture, but not the men responsible for it. Smh. 😒
@@To411ulove the style, not the people
I was stationed in Yokosuka for 6 years. I can tell you, most of the women interested in me as a black man were probably 28+. Normally this is the effect of Japanese men wanting much younger girls. So they then become open to actually dating “you”. Then there are the most annoying type of Japanese women who tan their skin, wear hoop earrings and actually want to be a black girl and think you automatically want this because your black.
@@kylecray7193thanks for reply makes sense, because in US women bullied men into dating woman their age, in other countries they don’t date old woman
@@kylecray7193 This is very true, & I agree with you. Don't listen to what most people say. I don't think most Japanese women like black men at all. Although for sure I'm not saying that some don't, because certainly they do, & you can date them for sure. But to say that Japanese women as a whole love black men? Nah. It always will depend on the guy, but for the most part? You could always date women closer to your age or even slightly older than you, but it will usually be pretty challenging beyond that. Especially if you're looking for a girl with great looks. They prefer their own first & foremost in my opinion.
Japan might be a homogenous country, but where do they get the gall to speak to people like that "what colour are your nipples?", "you look like rap.", "how big is it down there?", those questions are so disrespectful, regardless of if your speaking to someone whos black or otherwise.
In terms of their ignorance to "black people", I cannot buy that, the internet has been around for too long to not know how to treat and speak to people of different racial and ethnic backgrounds. I've never met a Saomoan but I'm not gonna be jumping them and asking "if their related to The Rock", it's just common sense.
It’s because we’ve been commercialized. Commodified. A lot of these other groups only see us as entertainment. Quite literally. They don’t see a reason to their due diligence for the most part, and when they do, it challenges everything they’ve been told about America and the so-called West.
It’s natural so I get it, but to be completely honest. The last thing we need to be worried about right now is “does this group like us?”
agreed
“Please come to China 🇨🇳”. You'll be SHOCKED how ignorant people can be in this 21st Century.
Go ask some black people in the hood what they think of Asians and you will realize most people are just ignorant lmfao
they're strange folk. enough said. Theres good people that you keep close to you and people that're funny acting , I treat like a pole. I wave to ya and keep it stepping.
Also it works both way when it comes to fetishizing black culture and black people its the same way non japanese people love Japanese people because of Anime or other Japanese culture etc Like I see people say I want to date a Japanese or Korean person because I like Anime or K-Pop or K drama
Mainly a Gen Z thing but some millennials usually not all that popular are like this too.
Me too bro
You mean white men and women lol
No it’s not. There is some fetishisation going on but it’s not nearly to the same extent because the people interested in Japanese and Korean people generally are familiar with their culture. Even when they are fetishised they are seen as people (not just sex) and they are taken them seriously. Like you would never hear Japanese or korean people complaining about fetishisers telling them they’re good enough for sex, not marriage. There is a level of respect they are given even when fetishised that black people are not given and that’s just a fact. So let’s not try to equalise what is not equal.
Yea it seems like black and Asian people are the most sexualized. Especially black men and Asian women
It’s different for black women than it is for black men
Facts!
True. I live here and it is way different.
@@malikangel Me too. It is vastly different.
How does it differ?@@malikangel
Y’all all hate y’all selves that’s why y’all seek their validation so it doesn’t really matter.
LOL the story with the London black guy and the wired Japanese girl was pure comedy, I can co-sign that Japanese people can sometimes be wired like that, their culture and how they are raised is just that different.
As an introverted Japanese woman married to an equally introverted American black man (he was my first boyfriend), I found this interview interesting. No matter what race you are, you can be weird, club-going, sexually open-minded, introverted, and so on, so don't be too prejudiced😊
" Club-going and being sexually open-minded" You sound very promiscuous lol, A Lapse of morals for sure.
@@Starfish-kx3du “Club-going” can potentially be promiscuous in nature, but being “sexually open-minded” doesn’t imply promiscuity. It just implies that you experiment with various acts, including monogamously.
May your marriage and family be filled with peace and love!
@@camfreed9829 We're married for 6 years now. I am very lucky to have met my kind husband and his loving family. May you all find a wonderful partner.
@@camfreed9829 Thank you! We have been married for 6 years now. I am very lucky to have met a kind husband and his loving family. May you all find a wonderful partner.
It's great to see that the stereotypes and Japanese behavior towards black people has not changed in the 30 yrs since I was stationed there!!!!
black folks do nothing to dispel the negative stereotypes
Ask yourself. Have black people actually made an effort of breaking those stereotypes over the past 30 years? Nope, they just keep reinforcing it.
Japan are one of few countries who aren’t really that diverse. Yes they see black ppl
From the military but that’s it
@@jhova6542 They also see black streamers that disrespects their culture 😒
@@DonKey496who
in poland they thought i was xx tentacion multiple times. I was like yo he's dead lmaoo
How's life there though?
Lmao
Bruh i spent 6 months in poland. Im a black dude and yeah they love us@@nigelbhebhe2805
Yo, I have not seen your channel in a minute
Richaado has no chill 🤣
The reasons why different cultures think black people and black women are more sexual is because the media and music videos that we put out think about it
Litterally, all these cardi b clones make sexual ass songs so it gives ppl the impression that darkskin girls are more sexual
Bw were over sexualized before media even existed. Have you not heard of Sarah Bartman? Why do you think so many black people in the US have admixture of European? Do you really think your ancestors were willing giving up 🐱 in the 16-1700s?
shit true the rap vids that make a billion views i didn't think about that 💀
💯💯
Fr look at sexy red 😂
I'll be so real. I just didn't want to go to Japan bc I thought that discrimination would have been a big problem. I'm glad to see these guys doing well 👍🏾
I heard stories of discrimination as well from some of my friends who lived in Japan, but glad to see it is not the norm.
it's different with the younger generation, social media paved the way
@@warlord1207 thats really true tbf
But the question for me, even if ur in the uk, is it possible to get a Japanese girl. Like are they even interested in black guys here?
@@Sadoo_M if she's into american culture. most likely going to be after someone english
Cameron looks GOOOOD
That sweater fits her just right
it's not a stereotype, we really are cool
Speak for yourself bro
@@joelosei6255 he speakin facts
@@jiyu3027no it's not true. Some people are cool, some are not. It's not about race...
Richardo explained really well 😂 Agreed.
Wow you actually got to interview Will. I. Am! Keep up the good work Jesse 🙏
In Japan, discrimination against women is stronger than discrimination against black people. I think foreign women have a hard time. When living in Japan, even Japanese women have many experiences of being treated rudely by men.
Now imagine there are equal numbers of japanese men and equal numbers black men. You will see more crime than Japan has seen in the past century. It will be a funny show. Please import more africans to Japan, I would love to see it.
So basically Blk my Men and Blk Women have night and day experiences when it comes to dating.
Are we surprised, we know.
Idk about that, seemed similar in my experience too
Not really. Both are fetishised, it just seems like the guy was ok with it.
@@bouncyshak likely because men in general are more lax on establishing commitment
What do u mean by that? Like one night stand?
Man, dating as an Asian American in Japan is something else. It's almost like they think you're lying about being brought up in America, but when you say something in English they get all amazed like "its just like in the Hollywood movies!"
not having enough cash on a first date is definitely not an ideal first impression 😂😅
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JESSEOGN,,, dun took off HAM ON THIS RIGHT HERE! a u t h e n t I c v i e w s dun took his career off 2 the next level fr fr no cap
Thank you for making this video! I guess I will have to go to Japan for the 6th time and more in the future.
Everybody interviewed is so cool. Props to the guy who found his lady ✊🏽🔥
You look like hip-hop is crazyyy
Facts 🤣🤣🤣💀
I looooved this interview finally talking about the real of the dating world was great ! (Morgan here for 1.5 years) ❤
This has to be one of my favorite videos you have made. ❤
クラブとか飲み屋で気楽に出会う日本人は軽い人が多いから(全員じゃないが)まじめな人と出会うのが難しいよね。真面目なお付き合しようと思ってる人は出会う場所が限定的だしハードル高いなって日本人でも思う🤔
The most toughtful people don't do nightlife
The most instinctive people do a lot of nightlife
Ofcourse there is a huge overlap
Gotta have an open mindset
I'm a Black American coming to Japan this Friday for the first time ever. I'm so excited for this trip. The guy with dreads had me cracking up LMAO 🤣 😂 😆. I heard Roppongi is the place to go for foreigners so I guess I'll start there when I arrive.
How’s it been?
@LegendaryGigaNigga-zi4vu bro Tokyo Japan is everything man. I've been here for about 4 days now and it reminds of Korea but on steroids. It's going to be hard to go back to Korean after experiences Japan. The food, anime, anime cafe, unique and crazy stuff etc. There is so much do man and I haven't even scratched the surface.
@@alexanderruffin3363 I just wanna know if there is blatant racism bro. My only experience with Asians are Indians and even the midnight black ones are racist
Any dating experiences yet?
I would like for you to do a similar video for half black half Japanese people. I can imagine like yourself the experience of dating when you're in school and now would be different to foreign people who have moved Japan.
Excited to hit up 🇯🇵 this summer!
seeing that I am planning on studying abroad soon, it was good to see this. After my few years of researching about how they view black people, it has yet to change which is really interesting to say the least😭I'll be sure to watch out for the 外人ハンター
Try other Asian countries. It's too late for me because I spent too much of my life studying Japanese. But I don't recommend pursuing Japanese women. Other Asian women will be much better for your sanity.
@@To411u well I’ll be looking for men in my case😅 but I’m sure the same might apply maybe
@@wondercreationz Haha probably! There is a reason that their birth rate is so low. Even all of the Japanese male friends I know are looking at other Asian women. Korean, Vietnamese, Filipina's etc. I'm starting to think I probably have to do the same. Even in Japan. I benefit from it being a rich country with many Asian foreigners so I could always just find a substitute woman I guess. Even one of the guys in this video who is 23. He said he was married but his woman was mixed, which doesn't surprise me. From my experience mixed women seem to be alot more mentality fit/ put together than pure blooded ethnic Japanese.
Japanese women just want sex, but for serious relationships it's a hard no for the vast majority of them to me. Infact I'm even thinking I need to be careful with whoever I choose to sleep with from now on. These women are batshit cray, cray. & it only gets worse after you marry them I heard. I knew better all along but the problem is I just like Anime & the Gaming Culture too much. My mom told me that Koreans & Filipinas where better due to Christianity, but I kept thinking that Japanese women where the best. It's a shame because the closest Asian country to the west? Which I generally consider the gateway country, seems to be great for everything except for relationships. Japan needs to embrace a mixed future, unless it's women change. I hardly think the issue is Japanese men simply due to how well developed & organized the country is though. Good luck to you finding an Asian guy btw, thanks for your comment & sorry I wrote so much! 👍🏿
@@To411ubruh. Pleeeeeaase tell me more.
@@To411u oh CZcams deleted your response to her but I saw it. I see, no serious relationships…
Peace and love to you Jesse!!❤
Love the fact that you highlight the black experience in Japan! I visited there last year (as a black man) and absolutely loved my experience there.
Please we need a part 2!
Richardo is hilarious, I love his TikTok content
his username ?
The will iam part got me weak😂😂
This cool, thank you for showcasing/covering this for us to see. Shouts Out to everyone, all the interviewees,
This was an actually great video.
nah, "you look like hip-hop" is crazy lmao
These were all great interviews, I really enjoy the way you cut and edited your video and questions you asked. I can’t believe I’m just finding you now.
I experienced a lot of this, too. I think it's so interesting to come across an entire people who only "know" black culture as a reference to whatever media they're familiar with. Their intrigue and curiosity for us is both genuine and casual. As least, that's how it comes across to me.
I’ve had dudes come up to me and start talking at me in “Jamaican”, like “yeah mahn “
I’m like…. I’m not Jamaican.
When I was dating still in japan it was tough. Never once did I have a serious date with a Japanese dude. A lot of creeps and tourists wanting to play around with a foreigner.
Basically every guy who I went on a date on was either practicing English or was some kind of weird black culture weeb.
So be ready for that…
I have no empathy for black women who struggle to date in Japan. Because as a black man I have a hard time & some black men do too. People need to stop pretending as if we do not. We still do, so its the same as black women.
Womp womp
Sounds like you had dreadlocks 😂 if you didn’t that’s crazier
Yeah, 03:55 right on 😂 From my experience it’s the same. Marriage will be difficult (which I’m not interested outside of marrying an african woman) but “having fun” is easy. Especially as there are japanese girls who only want to be with a black men in order to brag or just for “experience”.
I’m going to Japan with some friends in October and I couldn’t be more excited this video just made it even better!
Bro about to present us well down there!
I experienced the same thing as the girl with blue hair in regards to the males from there. Terrible experience
Amazing! I think this paints a very interesting perspective on what its like dating in Japan as a foreigner. I've never been to Japan before but I have had friends who lived in Japan and the dating stories ranged from esoteric to normal, very interesting indeed!
Very interesting interviews!❤❤.
i love morgan so much, i could hear her talk for hours
Thank you for saying this- czcams.com/video/o4h5YI_A9rI/video.html becuase people need to know theres a difference between people who will put up with you, or people who want to date you as a sport, or becuase its exotic, or whatever, and people who ACTUALLY want to get to know you to see if there is a potential relationship there.
Every time I hear shibuya I immediately think of the Incident lmao 😅
You are my special
Thank you for unloading this interview. I’m the guy that just watch your video today
This was an awesome watch, so hilarious too!
Richard Tomic 🤣
They thought I was American in Japan. I had to keep telling them that I am from Africa. Every young person in Tokyo was yelling "America!" at me. Japanesse people are super dope though, it's one of the dopest places I've ever been to. Stayed there for about a month and enjoyed everything from the food, nightlife, people and general vibes. It's a fantastic country...
great interview. loved the subject!
Great video. Very insightful. Thank you
2:28 I'm no psychologist, but it sounds like she just had a panic/anxiety attack, the fact that she calmed down outside the event tells me as such.
Also, I doubt she thought he was taking about her, just that she probably was hypersensitive about her own mental health problems.
That being said, completely ghosting him is wild and he definitely dodged a bullet there 😅.
He didn’t dodge a bullet because most Japanese women would ghost him in that situation. He should had just accepted the kiss and talk about it later
@@jaylynpayne1 He shouldn't have to accept a kiss if he didn't feel it was right. He dodged a bullet because they weren't compatible.
@jaylynpayne1 you have no social ability or smart decisions making skills.
She def had some mental health issues going on - I experienced this type of behavior more times than I can count. He fasho dodged a bullet and no you don’t just kiss somebody regardless of how they behave towards you… tf?
@@jaylynpayne1 I'm not convinced most Japanese women are utterly insane 🤔
The thumbnail caught me! Momo chaaaaaan
Dope video!
That was a great educational watch my friend, from start to finish. And I rarely watch or finish these kind of videos.
Nice to hear experiences from different prospective also.
Very enlightening, thank you well done..
It’s easy to stand out in Japan when everyone is homogeneous lol Big fish in a small pond mentality. The US dating scene is definitely more competitive that’s for sure.
Richaardo got some of the funniest skits I’ve seen ngl
LOVE Richardo!! Great videos~ Second one I've watched. I shall be subscribing
Still planning on visiting japan for at least a month or two, but I want to get to a conversational level with my japanese before I go. I know I dont have to do this, but I want to because I feel like I'll get a lot more out of my experience if I can speak the local language. Thanks for the video. I will keep these things in mind should I end up in a situation where I end up on a date lol I highly doubt it, but the future is uncertain.
Rlly wanna go to Japan for the culture so much to see and appreciate
I played basketball at Yoyogi with Micheal almost 6 years ago, he wasn't even an adult back then and now he is married lol. Time flies like crazy
They're really young. And got married quickly. I just don't know if I will ever get married and I am a good bit older than them. Never even came close. 😂
This was great
Great vid💯
That first story was wild
BW the Japanese men are getting their ideas 💡 about you from music videos. Cardi b, Nicki Minaj, videos like wap and hot girl summer, are seen around the world 🌎. This is why these ladies in Japan, are experiencing what they are experiencing.
No, it’s not the reason. How old are you? The over-sexualization of black woman started decades before anyone you mentioned. Your haterism is showing
Japanese people are freaky anyways lmao. U must not heard about those spas lmao. Also, i agree with ur comment.
2 pac, snoop dog, and all male rappers looking like thgs this is where they get the hip hop idea from.
@queennzinga5988 Yes, I agree with you. The same goes for male rappers as well.
@tipsandtricks6071 I personally would date japanese as they are not physically attractive to me and also feel like black people need to stop finding excuses for people blatant racism and getting some self esteem. Japanese was bombed by American, but they still treat American with respect, entertainment is not the representation of people. Matter of fact cardi b is not black not all latina are like her.
Great video. Very informative and interesting 😊
Loving this fr! 😂😂❤
Im blacked lived in Seoul and traveled through china, no problem dating. women are women. no problem.
MORGAN?! WHAT ARE U DOING HERE!?!?!?!?😭 Love her on tik tok
I went to Japan when I was 12 and was blown away by the kindness in comparison to the USA
Dope interview and subject matter expert!
I smiled the all video by the way the happy end was cool thanks Jess
I have been to Japan last christmas and new year for the first time i can say as a black french guy everything they say is true mostly in bars & clubs
They thougt i was from the US so when i start talking french they went crazy hahaha
How was the general vibe when you spoke French? That sounds like a fun time mate.
My boy richaaardooo 🔥
I love the honesty it’s too funny
Totally awesome video 😊❤🎉
The young lady from Alabama is just too cute😊
Love Morgan's sweater!
I live in Japan for 4 years about 30 years ago. I found this interesting and amusing, but not at all surprising.
These are great stories!
Cameroonian, respect💪🏾
That was a fun video! Thx! I got the n*pple question too... Never dated in Japan (already was in a relationship when I arrived), but a bunch of Ojisan did hit on me on the street or on public transportation. One of my Jamaican friends was on a date...the guy licked her hand and said: "I want to know if you taste like chocolate".
Great video !
Very insightful ✅
Yes to all of it. Experienced Gaijin Hunters, people who wanted to improve English, people who wanted sex on the first date, people who didn’t take me seriously and people who asked intrusive questions. I had more success on Japanese apps where people had to pay. Still hd my fair share of weird dates though. You should have interviewed me, Jesse! I have stories for days. Happily committed now though