When you don't want a baby but your mother-in-law keeps telling you to [Part 3] | K-DOC

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  • Part 1 : • First ever foreign spi...
    Part 2 : • Tasting mother-in-law'...
    Part 3 : • When you don't want a ...
    All edits and translations done by Eunjae Lee.
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    이웃집 찰스 이탈리아라우라 Air Date: 2020.06.16

Komentáře • 141

  • @leliavoinea9402
    @leliavoinea9402 Před 2 lety +130

    Is clear she does want a child but in the future and with all the apropiate conditions. That means she is a responsable person. I understand her mind set.

  • @kthfanaaaaaaaa
    @kthfanaaaaaaaa Před 2 lety +206

    Her relationship with her MIL is really healthy!! I love how they show effectionate to each other

  • @trendexplorer
    @trendexplorer Před 2 lety +338

    Mother in law and daughter in law like friends. Love seeing them. Not awkward at all.

    • @cherry-ep9uu
      @cherry-ep9uu Před 2 lety +1

      Because almost of them like white girl than Asian girl

    • @alfawolf7125
      @alfawolf7125 Před 2 lety

      FK HER MOTHER IN LAW,HOW ABOUT HER MOTHER WITH A STROKE? NOBODY CARE? GO TOHELL AHH

    • @alfawolf7125
      @alfawolf7125 Před 2 lety

      VERY SELFISH OLD LADY,,,,ALREADY GOT A DAUGHTER AND WANT TO STEAL SOMEONE S DAUGHTER,BUT THE DAUGHTER IN LAW IS THE IDIOT ONE..

  • @melllo3966
    @melllo3966 Před 2 lety +659

    I think you shouldn’t get a baby if you really don’t want to, because it can effect the relationship between the parent and the child negatively

    • @sherryillk
      @sherryillk Před 2 lety +22

      Not only that, but a baby is trying on the parents even when it’s planned and very much wanted...

  • @strawberryfraisier6446
    @strawberryfraisier6446 Před 2 lety +292

    if you don't want a baby please don't have one, your and the child's life will be a nightmare, having kids does not fix an relationship.. speaking from experience as one of the children who grew up in that situation

  • @booknerdjebbi5037
    @booknerdjebbi5037 Před 2 lety +50

    Her Korean sounds so good to my ears. Very impressive

  • @sammylee5474
    @sammylee5474 Před 2 lety +104

    I hope her mother recovers. My step father was lucky enough to be able to move and talk fine, but he passed away from a stroke later on recently.

  • @de.moslimagids
    @de.moslimagids Před 2 lety +276

    I dont have a mother in law anymore, but I know how this feels. I am blessed with two girls, but I always get the question from the in laws or family when the third baby will come. I had a very diffucult miscarriage during the time my dear grandmother was dying from cancer. I also struggled with a very heavy depression after giving birth to my second daughter. Its not just having baby's, its way more then that. I hope this will not effect her relationship with her husband ❤

    • @TheSkyrimette7
      @TheSkyrimette7 Před 2 lety +11

      Thank you for telling us something so private, I hope you're doing well and your daughter's too ❤️

    • @de.moslimagids
      @de.moslimagids Před 2 lety +7

      @@TheSkyrimette7 Thank you so much for your sweet message! We are doing very fine and that's why I needed to share a little bit about my own story. People don't know about the struggle a couple may have. I wish you all the best ❤❤

    • @stutiborogaon4000
      @stutiborogaon4000 Před 2 lety +2

      Take care

    • @btskingsmamamooqueens3454
      @btskingsmamamooqueens3454 Před 2 lety

      Did they pressure you to have a son?

    • @patronam9396
      @patronam9396 Před 2 lety +7

      Two babies r more than enough mahn...whats the mindset behind having so many babies...the world population is exploding anyways

  • @jjylyn
    @jjylyn Před 2 lety +10

    I love love that they have a healthy relationship with each other (mom and daughter in law). I love that they're not awkward with each other, she really became a part of their family ❤️ I hope I'll get a mother in law like this when i get married

  • @danah3462
    @danah3462 Před 2 lety +18

    The foreign (or Western) cultures not pressuring or asking women to have babies is big nonsense. Maybe he speaks from his own experience as a man. But many Western/Non-Korean women get the pressure and question. It's unfortunately universal.

  • @samanthalee9839
    @samanthalee9839 Před 2 lety +318

    Mother in law has no right to force a woman to give birth if they don't like.. its their body.. you didnt own them.. being a mother is also not a easy job to do..

    • @shukrantpatil
      @shukrantpatil Před 2 lety +17

      things don't work that way here in the east mate .

    • @samuelchoi1432
      @samuelchoi1432 Před 2 lety +18

      @@shukrantpatil man fuck the east

    • @rozhin6055
      @rozhin6055 Před 2 lety +53

      @@shukrantpatil There's always room for growth!

    • @marydoe8961
      @marydoe8961 Před 2 lety +11

      The whole point of getting married is to have a child. It’s natural for a mother-in-law to want grandkids.

    • @rozhin6055
      @rozhin6055 Před 2 lety +95

      @@marydoe8961 No? That's definitely not why me or many other women want to get married. What is wrong with you? Grandma can wish for a grandkid but she has no right forcing her kid or daughter in law to have one! A child is a huge responsibility, you can't just breed just cause you want to or you're told to! Bringing a child into this world is just selfish behaviour, especially when one is not ready to raise one.

  • @Ami_Hime
    @Ami_Hime Před 2 lety +10

    I love how close the mother in law is with the girlfriend 😭❤️

  • @missspell4897
    @missspell4897 Před 2 lety +35

    We didn’t have a baby until we were mentally and financially ready and it was the best choice ever. My child doesn’t go without and we have more patience than I remember my young parents having. I don’t want to brag but I know I’m a dang good mom and my husband was a good dad when he was alive and I owe it all to waiting

  • @RoyaleSPRTZ
    @RoyaleSPRTZ Před rokem +2

    All jokes aside, really make sure if a person wants to have kids or not before you get with them if you want to have kids. Having kids is no joke and could negatively impact a couple’s relationship if done without both’s consent. Having a kid is birthing a new soul and should be taken seriously

  • @blackthorn3335
    @blackthorn3335 Před rokem +1

    Wow what a wonderful relationship they all have. After seeing alot of Kdrama I did wonder how the ancestor service was going to go. They were so loving and inclusive to her though. Now I wish I had a family like that. What lovely people. May you always find happiness.

  • @nicholasforrester8587
    @nicholasforrester8587 Před 2 lety +34

    The wife is lucky to have such a good mother in law ❤

  • @sar983
    @sar983 Před 2 lety +3

    SUCH A BEAUTIFUL RELATIONSHIP 🌟

  • @lizbethquintero545
    @lizbethquintero545 Před 2 lety +19

    Such a beautiful relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law! Def goals! 🥲

  • @elsaelsa9967
    @elsaelsa9967 Před 2 lety +6

    If you share a good rapport with your mother in law, you married life will be a bliss. That's what I feel. All the best😁

  • @sshukla7975
    @sshukla7975 Před 2 lety +1

    This is wholesome family.
    And THOSE CHEEKSSSS?!!!!
    CHUBBBBYYYY BABBYYYYYY 😍😍😍..

  • @claudiawoods4382
    @claudiawoods4382 Před 2 lety +17

    Lovely. Eunjae Lee, you have produced another beautiful work like always. Thank you.

  • @gwen8468
    @gwen8468 Před 2 lety +14

    🥰una bella relazione between mil and dil. Laura is so far from home… so nice to see she is well looked after….🧡how they support and accept each other even though they are from different cultures. But then again who could not love an Italian…
    Lo amo l’italia …so dear to my 🧡! 🤗

  • @mwanawaishe8524
    @mwanawaishe8524 Před 2 lety +25

    I used to dislike that question from anyone before having a baby.For some reason it’s more annoying coming from ones in laws.I did not know or expect that Korean grandparents could be pushy about grandkids.Shes right about being financially stable first.Even one baby is expensive, and where I live there is no free childcare. Babies are time and energy consuming, and personal time and space becomes limited,so better be ready before having one.I can’t imagine having more than one right now.

  • @ilovevloging100
    @ilovevloging100 Před 2 lety +7

    “In foreign countries they don’t pressure the married couple with the baby talk”
    Slav countries: 👁👄👁

    • @lunalu552
      @lunalu552 Před 2 lety +5

      I don't know what foreign countries they are talking about. Because it happens pretty much everywhere.
      It's just that in western countries people are starting to get educated about the matter and mind their own business.
      Maybe Scandinavian/north european countries are the only ones where this isn't so normal.

    • @Kelly101Girl
      @Kelly101Girl Před rokem

      @@lunalu552 I was about to say what country is she referring to cause I know in America it’s common for extended family to harp on someone regarding marriage and children actually. Annoying yes but unless ur firm with folks most don’t give a damn and like to bring it up constantly with no shame

  • @UuU1001.
    @UuU1001. Před 2 lety +17

    Lol looks like the babies going to eat the words “P R E S S U R E” in the thumbnail

  • @yaritza1692
    @yaritza1692 Před 2 lety +16

    Having a baby when you don’t want it alone is a pushiment for two - babe and mother ! No good idea

  • @chubbiturtles9818
    @chubbiturtles9818 Před 2 lety +13

    hey but at least her in law are very friendly to her

  • @Nerubiru
    @Nerubiru Před 2 lety +3

    Selfish people wanting others to fulfil their own wishes. JUST STOP IT PLEASE

  • @ade-jz7uw
    @ade-jz7uw Před 2 lety +18

    Probably as 'Asian thing'
    I hear it quite often around me, especially from the older generation (I'm Asian btw)
    Even my parent ever mention that a couple should have a kid to look more like a family. whattt.... 🙄 why can't a couple just enjoy their time between themselves.
    Afterall people are getting married because of the love they had for one another, and not for the sake of having a kid.
    Maybe why younger couple these days prefer to move out after their marriage to avoid having constant conflict.

  • @pablomo1300
    @pablomo1300 Před 2 lety +5

    In Spain the older generation also pushes you to have kids, so it’s something that other cultures have as well…

  • @gabsl1552
    @gabsl1552 Před 2 lety +61

    What the hell why ask her to make babies????? Who are you tell her to have children. Parents takes time to get ready to have children because it's going to be a lot work esp the jobs. Having babies is not easy because mother needs to be home like 24 hours. Too much if you are not ready. Don't do it. :( best for right time.

    • @mitchLC148
      @mitchLC148 Před 2 lety +11

      Christ calm down, the MIL is being naggy and annoying but she's not forcing her to do it, no one can really do that. And there's a whole host of facilities that help young parents in Korea, there's even a free daycare for working parents. She may not want kids now, that's her right but Jesus, it's also the parents' right to say that they want a grandchild (doesn't mean you have to listen but doesn't mean they're encroaching on your life). Getting sick of you entitled kids

    • @suiren5272
      @suiren5272 Před 2 lety +29

      @@mitchLC148 its the constant insisting that is getting to her and you can see she's annoyed in the video. She wants kids but when she is financially stable. Her MIL keeps asking for one sooner than she wants simply because she wants more grandkids. No one is entitled here if anything, its her MIL that is

    • @2PMisTimeless
      @2PMisTimeless Před 2 lety +2

      @@suiren5272 you just watching CZcams. You don't know them irl.

    • @suiren5272
      @suiren5272 Před 2 lety +6

      @@2PMisTimeless obviously, and she literally said that her mother in law is always encouraging her to have kids

    • @elvisishakmboni4333
      @elvisishakmboni4333 Před 2 lety

      Your tone messed , she’s just suggesting and it doesn’t seem to have strained their relationship so what’s it to you , take a chill pill.

  • @nakambachristabel
    @nakambachristabel Před 2 lety +7

    This is a lovely program.Much love to all .❤❤🇿🇲🇿🇲🇿🇲

  • @nanina2034
    @nanina2034 Před 2 lety +1

    Different way of thinking.To have a baby without a stable income and a place where to live as a couple is reckless.But in korean culture i see that is ok to live with your mother in law.Hope they will respect each other .

  • @sweetcherubz
    @sweetcherubz Před 2 lety +7

    This MIL DIL relationship is so pretty if one day I get married I hope I can have a pretty relationship with my MIL hehe

  • @chrisadjoanissih7296
    @chrisadjoanissih7296 Před 2 lety +19

    l hope your mom gets well❤

  • @Kitana1599
    @Kitana1599 Před rokem

    Same in Polynesian culture, once married grandparents want grandkids. It's not that annoying tbh unless you are baron then that's a different issue. MIL is so cute, may she have lots of grandbabies to dote on soon 💖🤩

  • @Escapist-qv8et
    @Escapist-qv8et Před 2 lety +8

    Can we please have more of this family?

  • @elisar8594
    @elisar8594 Před 2 lety +7

    It’s so sad about her mom :((

  • @sf49ersjshark2
    @sf49ersjshark2 Před 2 lety

    Father of 5 babies!!! Love it but my parents don't ask anymore. Lol.

  • @LeenSeoh
    @LeenSeoh Před 2 lety +10

    if the MIL wants a baby that bad she can be the one to bear it then 🙃🙂

    • @kimcho773
      @kimcho773 Před rokem

      With the son?

    • @violetverdict3760
      @violetverdict3760 Před rokem

      @@kimcho773 Yes. She can have a baby with her son if she wants to ignore her sons wife’s opinion. The mom-in-law is being lazy. She wants her son to have a baby but doesn’t want to put in the work of having one.

    • @kimcho773
      @kimcho773 Před rokem

      @@violetverdict3760 sweeet home Alabama

  • @reetikamehra8793
    @reetikamehra8793 Před 2 lety +2

    Many people don't know in india we also have this kinda ritual its called "Sharad" similar to korean Ancestors Memorial Ritual .

  • @Henry-ve3ye
    @Henry-ve3ye Před 2 lety +5

    Her husband should work harder to learn Italian language. She speak fluent Korean.

  • @alyssa6215
    @alyssa6215 Před 2 lety +4

    Love the channel and editor stories are diverse

  • @kristinesharp6286
    @kristinesharp6286 Před 2 lety

    Foreign countries some people ask, some people don’t. The thing is with military service, the college years, the being stable in career thing doesn’t happen until 30’s if at all. Very old to try and get pregnant.

  • @BethB-ep4fs
    @BethB-ep4fs Před 2 lety +1

    Just saw a few of these..id hate it if my mil was around all the time..&would never live with her..this beautiful young women is harassed by these relitives constantly about babys,food,everything...i would run..&who the heck are these people judging her??very strange!!run girl run from all of them!

  • @marycedguanchez9505
    @marycedguanchez9505 Před 2 lety +1

    In latinoamerica countries many people asking you about babies if you don't have and you are married 🙂

  • @razan6579
    @razan6579 Před 2 lety +3

    7:13 do people eat the food afterwards or what they do with it ? I'm really curious

    • @kristinesharp6286
      @kristinesharp6286 Před 2 lety

      Yes the family eats the food. After the ancestor’s eat it of course.

    • @Abeer_Al
      @Abeer_Al Před 2 lety

      اوفكورس

  • @Escapist-qv8et
    @Escapist-qv8et Před 2 lety +1

    MIL won my heart ♡

  • @kikitapam
    @kikitapam Před 10 dny

    I'm mexican, i don't want to have kids, my mother in law is like her, always pressure even when she knows that I don't want be a mother, that's why I don't go to their house anymore lol😅

  • @peggyclio1199
    @peggyclio1199 Před 2 lety +2

    Ho capito che la sposa era italiana dalle mosse facciali teatrali 😅

  • @fabyberny0563
    @fabyberny0563 Před 2 lety +2

    She is Italian like me ciaooo

  • @bluecat4830
    @bluecat4830 Před 2 lety +3

    Am I the only one that realized, Laura and her MIL resemble each other? They have almost same personality that's why they're just clicked

  • @qntlrrla5482
    @qntlrrla5482 Před 2 lety

    한국말 진짜 잘한다

  • @judge1506
    @judge1506 Před 2 lety

    i was surprised when she started talking italian , i thought she was american , cause im italian too

    • @percycat213
      @percycat213 Před 2 lety

      Haha same, è stata una bella sorpresa scoprire che Laura è italiana 🥰

  • @tekla_
    @tekla_ Před rokem

    ❤️

  • @bananamonkeyallergy
    @bananamonkeyallergy Před 2 lety +10

    im not interested in hving kids, jusr communicate this with future IL in advance

    • @kristinesharp6286
      @kristinesharp6286 Před 2 lety +1

      I’m sure it was discussed before. She wants them just saying after they move out.

  • @robertanappa6185
    @robertanappa6185 Před 2 lety +2

    She’s italian

  • @purpleness64
    @purpleness64 Před 2 lety

    Making me hungry

  • @barbaraoliveira7270
    @barbaraoliveira7270 Před 2 lety +3

    MIL Looks like Shin Dongyup

    • @k-doc467
      @k-doc467  Před 2 lety

      I never realized until now!

  • @missysfx
    @missysfx Před 2 lety

    I'm sorry but I don't know why the mil looks like a female Shin Dongyeop

  • @kristinesharp6286
    @kristinesharp6286 Před 2 lety

    Is there an update?

  • @kristinesharp6286
    @kristinesharp6286 Před 2 lety

    The jeon I do not understand. You cut food into bite size pieces, coat with egg and or flour and then cook each piece. Who invented such a labor intensive way to cook and eat? I get the rice, soup, namul, meat and fish, cutting the fruit prettily so the dead can eat it but I don’t get jeon. If I was making the table there would be none of that. I almost wonder if that is the meal the night before the way are eating so much of what they are cooking?

  • @MaruyaSAg
    @MaruyaSAg Před 2 lety +1

    Asian parents can be so intrusive. Sigh.

  • @socalbarbie1040
    @socalbarbie1040 Před 2 lety +25

    Seems like they’re pressing this baby issue due to her skin tone yikesss

    • @kristinesharp6286
      @kristinesharp6286 Před 2 lety

      Actually not so. Mixed race kids from soldier’s were actually treated terribly. In some cases there was higher chance of physical violence against them. It’s part why so many babies were adopted out internationally and it started In the 50’s. Kids from multicultural families have it hard still. It’s encouraging to see a family accepting of a foreign DIL.

  • @chimtaesclosed5120
    @chimtaesclosed5120 Před 2 lety +1

    Second i guess

  • @ryeryeflow
    @ryeryeflow Před 2 lety +13

    Irritating as hell...

  • @zopaseah4982
    @zopaseah4982 Před 2 lety +1

    Why get married when u hv no wish to start a family? It would be safer just for both to maintain an intimate relationship without unnecessary constraint of a marriage.

    • @violetverdict3760
      @violetverdict3760 Před rokem

      You sound very old fashioned like you are from the 1800s. Join the rest of the planet.

  • @atikag2184
    @atikag2184 Před 2 lety +1

    first

  • @dollythapa2
    @dollythapa2 Před 2 lety

    Wow what an example she is setting she wants to separate her son from her that's why u should marry in your own culture. She misses her mom but the boys mom is a stress a burden for her

  • @brittneyhall4000
    @brittneyhall4000 Před 2 lety +1

    Find Men not women not cool 😒make me mad 😠

  • @aishwaryasharma1705
    @aishwaryasharma1705 Před 2 lety +1

    third i dont care