how to heal from toxic parents.
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- čas přidán 30. 05. 2024
- learn to enforce your boundaries and reparent yourself when it comes to dysfunctional family members, especially parents.
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chapters:
0:00 - intro
1:55 - mixed feelings are valid
4:21 - learn to love again
5:36 - do you owe them?
8:35 - reparenting yourself
12:06 - boundaries
14:49 - acceptance
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I love that you called out your mom to not watch if she’s feeling sensitive 😭 (cuz I would have done the same)
I told them they hurt me. They denied my experience, as if it was something they could do. It was the last drop for me. We don't talk anymore.
I'm glad that you feel comfortable with saying that family and you don't talk anymore. Too many times, people say; "family is most important" I disagree. Feeling good about your life is most important!
@@michaelkamau2957 that is a dangerous way of wording things.
People who have narcissistic personality disorder live by your words and they are demons wearing human skin, or drug addicts etc.
I think I get your point, but you have to word your thoughts better.
"When you're hungry you'll eat anything" 💡
I was just thinking about this! I have a "peaceful" relationship with my parents now but 19 years out of my 20 years of existence, my family was just dysfunctional and violent
7:08 my mom’s current desire she’s projecting onto me is wanting a grandchild. Like you said, I’m not gonna change my whole life around their desires. Great video! 💖
million dollar value here. You helped me cry tears of acceptance today. I feel so seen and understood. Thank you for this story 🙏🏿✨✨🌈🌈
continuing the bloodline stops with me 🤷🏻♀️
This is the typical female trauma response, but this is the ultimate failure and here is why.
There are people with NPD who get "joy" and narcissistic suply from slowly ending their victims. If you remove yourself from the dna pool that will give the last narcissistic supply boost to your abuser at his or her final moment.
Have kids, raise them well, teach them how others did wrong. That is how you win.
literally lol
@roberth4395well it's their choice 🤷🏻♀️
Mae, you have to be my therapist ❤
My comfort channel has finally uploaded
I didn’t watch the whole video but I just came on to say, i struggle with parents and family that pull me back down from higher vibration and joyful life. So I completely just don’t visit or pick up the phone since I’ve moved out. Never been happier in my life. I don’t hate them but I won’t let my own family hold me down from my evolution.
If you feel drained or have to sacrifice your authenticity, then it’s not authentic love. Just my experience. Good luck everyone
PERFECT TIMING THANK U SO MUCH 😢❤
Not u posting this the day I get into a huge argument w my mom 😭 free therapy 🙏🏻
No because literally 😭
u keep getting prettier every video
My late wife saw the truth and helped me pull me away from them--she was quite a blessing: one word from her and I stopped drinking, too.
You are not alone. Describes my family exactly. Had to cut off one sister, grayrock another, and firm boundaries with everyone. ❤❤❤
personally i don't know anyone that had good parents and had a normal childhood. My parents left me to be raised by my grandparents until middle school. The grandparents constantly argued and fight verbally and sometimes physically as well. Then in middle school i moved with my parents (they felt like strangers to me). And the parents were always complaining (especially dad) about how hard life is and how hard he works in order to make money, and how there are never enough money (which made me think "if life is so hard why did you bring me in this life?"). Now he is retired and constantly brags how nice and easy and well payed his job was, and what a easy life he had. Anyway, i forgive them since it seems they are more stupid than evil, even to this day they try sabotage me whenever they can, in their stupidity they don't realize it affects them negatively as well. Also there are some positives from the situation since i am cold blooded and could not care less about starting a family, so my bloodline ends with me. Also, people that you love have the ability to hurt you the most, if you love no one, no one can hurt you. Missing on some human experiences is bad (love,marriage,becoming a parent, seeing your children grow, etc) , but in the end it is what it is.
That's the reason why I'm grateful that CZcams exists. Thank you for teaching and also helping us♡
I feel like you’re the only CZcamsr im in synch with, everytime you post something it’s what I’m dealing with. So insightful and I feel a lot of people needed to hear this after Mother’s Day. Thank you ❤️
Yeah, I had to tell a divorce court who I wanted to live with. I had to pick between my mom or dad.
Breack the generational curse.
Thanks for the share.
What pissed me off is that our “adolescent parents” were a pain in the ass for their own parents, and now they’ll torment us to their grave.
I literally cried while watching this video.i can relate her 100% 🥺
You are very wise! I am processing a very similar family dynamic at 37. I wish I could give all of us who’ve been or are going through it a big hug and say “you are doing great.” Thanks for this content.
Mae Alice... You are Amazing! You speak with the wisdom of an elder. Pretty much Everyone should listen to this video. Blessings to you.
I can understand, but because every parents have their bad sides, I think it is a good option that preserve myself emotionally to learn to love or appreciate a moment with our parents dispite the bad sides
I love your channel Mae. You make me feel so seen and comforted. I'm a young teen, and I've been through some stuff that has affected me deeply; but people like you help me heal and feel better
wow i needed this thank you
u always have perfect timing w these vids omg, thank u fr. i never want to skip, everything u say is always interesting and on point thank youuu
(and ur so pretty, wishing u the best 😭 alhamdulilah)
*Blue ray starseed here* 😁😁😁
*You made it. This's matter the most* 😁😁😁
*May the LOVE and LIGHT be with you always* 😁😁😁
Literally you described my whole life to a tee 🥴 I am 31 and this past months have been so tough realising all that I lacked and still lack 🥲
oh my god you are so pretty. Mae!
i agree with all your points but i want to add that in my opinion, if your situation calls for it, you have the right to cut your family or put very harsh limits on your communication with them. in my case, the only thing that stops me from doing that as almost 20 year old, is the money - i'm not ready to be financially independent yet and my uni fee is very high. but the moment i can sustain my life financially i will only talk with my family very very occasionally, i want them out of my life. even if i accept them for who they are, i will never forgive them.
I have read this exact thing somewhere on Pinterest, but it helps to hear you say this
Thank you so much for this video ❤💯♾️
INFJs, I love them!
I am so thankful I clicked on this video. I wish I learned this earlier and I feel so validated hearing you.
Oh girl I needed this ❤️
Wow hit it right on the nail girly 😭 thank you!
Love your channel 🥰 you have a new follower !
🙏🏼 Thank you for this video
thank you
Love you Mae ❤
u are the queen
I am new to this channel but it's super relatable and i love this❤
Thank you so much for this video! I really need this at this moment of my life. You're a gorgeous and strong woman!
You're freaking gorgeous 😍 ❤ you deserve the best dear
Relating too hard here fr. Kinda comforting to hear when other people have made it through the same experiences though! I love everything said in this video
SUCH a great video. You are very wise
thank you for your advices
Good video, really like your self belief message. It's vital, show up for yourself.
Thank you.
It is grat to ask its mother not to wxatch
179 views in 44 minutes, 39 likes
I really want to watch this video but it’s literally not loading for me. My parents are literally insane they sold my bed for dr*gs so I’m laying on the floor rn🙄🙄
first 💗💗
How cn i forgiv toxic mother when she keeps doing shity things that harm
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I should have brought a Suzuki instead of Kawasaki Ninja 😔
Are you single?
She’s married 🤨
This couldn’t have been uploaded at a better time!!!❤❤❤❤❤ literally last night, I blocked my mom. For now. I don’t want to delete her out of my life, but, I do need a detox from all the negativity omggg, so thank you for talking about this!!! 💭🤯🫡🙏🏼🤍