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@@bonky1993bro stop acting like you aren’t doing it for hamza’s attention 💀 you don’t gaf about these random people in these comments section stop lying
Dear Hamza, in the span of two weeks, your videos made me: -Start reading -consistently going for runs almost every day -start doing home workouts (the basic squats, push-up, pull up combo you recommended for beginners) -start meditating -follow a morning routine -start grattitude journaling -block all p*rn sites on all devices -happier -more confident. So, from all my heart, thank you for giving me that final push. Youve made me start laying out a foundation for the improvements that are to come. You said what I needed to hear. You changed my life. Those might be big words considering im only starting this journey, but I doubt ill ever quit. So, again, thank you. I owe you big time.
Thats what im doing im 20 yo im celebate my whole life by choice i dont drink dont smoke i had the possibility to do all bad things like usless sex smoke drink and all sort of stuff always refiuted sex has no value if you dont have a valuable relationship
I’m newly Christian since around a year and a half ago, I was previously atheist. This will sound very corny but I just want a girl so bad, i don’t know how long I can wait, I’ve had a girlfriend in the past it’s been about 2 and a half years since it ended now and I just want to be with someone, i dont dream about having sports cars or clubbing I just want somebody to spend the rest of my life with and have kids with them and provide for them. I’m 17 and the girls around me arent really like that, can you’d give me some advice
Im 16. I ended up with one of those toxic low value insecure girls for my first relationship. I treated her like she was the most important thing in the world and I did everything I could to take care of her (she has cancer. Or at-least she claims to) despite her not caring about me and just using me for sex. she ended up breaking my heart and leaving me and ended up with someone else straight away. Turns out she’s done this countless times to countless people (Even though she’s only 15). It destroyed me and my mental health. I thought that I would never be happy after that because of how used I was, I didn’t think I could trust someone like that again. Then a month after she left me I found someone else and she’s an incredible person who cares about me, my health, and My happiness. I got to this point because of your videos. Thank you Hamza.
00:01 Women are attracted to toxic men due to subconscious conditioning from childhood. 02:16 Avoidant attachment is becoming more attractive to many girls in the dating scene. 06:27 Women are attracted to toxic men because they prioritize appearance over personality and character. 08:12 Many single women are anxious or avoidant, making it difficult to find healthy, non-toxic partners. 11:49 Have higher standards and avoid relationships with broken women. 13:24 Attracting secure and healthy women by providing familiar love 17:07 Attracting healthy women can lead to personal growth and fulfillment. 18:45 To attract a healthy and secure woman, imitate the love and characteristics of strong, mature, and successful fathers. 22:01 Toxic men who sleep with broken women make fun of them without realizing their own brokenness.
@@KamiTenchi bruhh stopp he is so wronggg....there are good women and good men too..and toxic attracts toxic remember ...toxic women are attracted to toxic men thats they aint real men and women..and surely girls would dump them they do not care if its toxic ,money ,looks they just even get bored sometimess...so why consider every girl
Even though you said that this video is very dark in its message, i would say this has been so uplifting as a teenager whos soon gonna be an adult. It's so healthy and wholesome to know that being strong and being kind is still valued today, its just about finding the right person, or more like, letting the right person find you when you're ready.
It hurts me a lot to see good women getting ruined by abuse. My girlfriend is like that. Very kind hearted, quite smart too, and absolutely beautiful. But she's also very broken, to the point where she'd rather close off and never talk about what's bothering her, and completely refuses to work through whatever issues we have had.
Thank you for not making excuses for these toxic broken people (I've seen alot of yt channels excusing avoidant's behavior and pretty much gives advices to young women inorder to cater on these avoidant men). Please if you have insecure attachment style (avoidant and anxious) please heal. Nobody deserves to be treated like shiz just because you had a terrible childhood growing up. I used to think I'm secured until I met an avoidant and figured I have anxious tendencies. On my way to heal now and looking forward to a better future 💗
A lot of broken women were good women once upon a time. How did they get broken? They chose the toxic guys because they were attracted to them. There is a reason why women didn't have freedom in mate selection and their father had the last decision or the male members of their family. Because there is no such thing as women choosing well. A woman choosing a good guy, staying with him till death do them apart is an outlier.
@@captainvanisher988 A REAL good woman always sets reasonable boundaries and standards for looking for a good partner. Sometimes these men meet their standards and cause the poor woman into a heartbreak. Now that's when the good woman is really tested. Will she go through a hoe phase because of this or will she stay focused on herself and her grind and priorities 🤔
@@mrknowitall0179 A REAL good woman involves her father/male relatives into her mating. Why? Because men can more easily deduce other men's bs and can provide a safety net if the guy f*cks up. A good woman also doesn't sleep before marriage. Something that can mitigate 95% of the risk for women when it comes to dating.
Hamza I'm honestly astonished by how smoothly you're being able to bring such high values, starting from a very materialistic standpoint Like when I try to tell my friends that the problem of dating market is in them, who hunt and prey weak women and make them even weaker and give them so much attention that they will get on a pedestal and not date other kind of guys in the future, they can't see it The amazing thing about your channel is that you are being able to transmit morals, virtues, interpersonal bonding and love messages, starting from the very impulsive and potentially degenerate sex need and while promising such an end in itself like personal happiness which is what everyone grasps for. I made it very long but what I mean is, congrats for being a good speaker and a good self development instructor but thank you for bringing a non-asked gift like true love towards the others push, which is clearly not something you were expected to do to monetise your business
I feel like your message has really evolved in a positive way over the last couple of months. Shows you’re still working on growing as a person. Keep up the great work man
Just a few topics I think you should have covered: I asked my Grandfather (he's 92 and has 7 kids) he said the first step to becoming that secure father figure, don't date her with the end goal being sex, she is gonna sense that and will dump you as soon as it's a realisation. ACTUALLY find someone you like and build those activities around your relationship, please don't just date her over a pleasing activity. EDIT: my sister also said DO NOT make the bullshit excuse that she is low value for dumping you, she would have dumped you because you NEEDED her for something but you didn't WANT her around (You would have been acting like a boss and she was you're employee that you didn't actually like) High quality videos Hamza stay strong my brother amen.
Damn, your sister is straight to the point. I used to be really close to my ex-girlfriend at our first stage of relationships but in the end I became lazy and just treated her as a tool for my desires instead of a partner I genuinely love. Honestly, I wouldn't even date myself back then. The breakup was really painful (still is) but if not for the breakup, I wouldn't have finally seriously tried to change something about myself and become an independent but caring man.
@@NameNik223 EDIT: Yeah if you were wondering my sister has had a few break ups of her own as well and for very similar reasons to yours and mine... It's always the I NEED YOU but I don't WANT YOU she told me, (she is in a healthy relationship now with my now kind of getting use to step brother) For real man I can relate honestly, there was this girl I met in school and at first we really did like each other. Honestly she introduced me to *that stuff* and I was hooked. Overtime it was less fun because we didn't actually do it because we had likeable things to compliment each other about, we just did it to relieve frustrations. I feel like such an idiot now for leaving her for another woman however me and her are still friends just I cannot really feel any grandiose in her presence anymore I feel like a criminal or a traitor for breaking her trust.
I made that mistake with the first girl I loved, I thought the toxic and avoidant narrative was the way to go in a relationship and unfortunately acted like a jerk and lost her. I'm now happy to have the experience but learned it the hard way. Becoming a man who isn't afraid to love really changes the relationship side and helps attracting high quality intelligent healthy women. Thank you for explaining this concept very concisely to the youth and I know a lot of them are becoming good men thanks to you hamza.
i'm 19 and still a virgin, most people close to me think I have a 20 plus body count cause of my looks, (I'm not lying I just admitted I'm a virgin this post is to help other guys) But to young guys out there 14, 15 who came from an avoidant attachment like i did without a father, PLEASE just wait it out i know it can be tempting especially after you glow up to run through girls and be a toxic king or whatever but i promise you i genuinely have zero regrets from not having sex. If you're still starting out and you have only worked on your appearance and not mental health, trauma etc then you will push that on to any partners you have, ruining them permanently and in turn your future self bc you'll only attract broken women. To be honest, when i first glowed up at 17 in school i wanted to go to the causal hookup party life but it just never happened for me so i stopped forcing it, even though i wanted it so bad back then I'm so grateful for whatever stopped me from getting involved in that life, now I've meditated journalled, learn to love my family instead of the sociopathic teen i was and i am so much closer to finding a woman that could be the mother of my kids. My closest friend was also a virgin when we left school at 18, he went a different path, drinking smoking and he got cold sores and is now paranoid of std's from traumatised girls, even he told me he regrets his choices especially from a religious perspective. Wait it out and work on yourself i promise you, it pays off.
I just turned 20 a few days ago and your comment contains my thoughts on a day to day basis. Im Christian and also a virgin, eventhough i glowed up in the last years and Im getting so much attention from women. It is really tempting to fall into degenerate habits with that but you are absolutely right about it being wrong and detrimental. I pray that i wont give in to the temptation. Really cool to see somebody else my age go through this with the same mindset. I wish you the best on your way! Greetings from Germany.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
For a reason, Anxious and avoidant are always meeting each other eventually, but secure will always seek secure, keep focus and remember, your past and your traumas don't define you, you can change your identity and eventually everything will also change. I was avoidant and now I can finally tell my mom that I Love her.
Day 2 of Gratitude Journaling: I am grateful of the sunrise that comes through the windown of my room every day at 6:30AM. The color is beautiful and the energy I earn just by opening my window is just amazing
MAN am i glad i found this channel. Thinking about how i randomly came across on of your videos on youtube is just unbelievable. Thanks for changing all of our lives hamza
I believe you can tell from the way he`s talking that he genuinely speaks from his heart and is as transparent as possible with his narative. So big respect for that, brotha. You`re very inspirational
Thank you hamza. You really dropped this video when I needed it the most, I'm really grateful for that. I also feel the same. These days when i think about it I feel bad for the women who sleep with random guys, and those guys just for the sake of some pleasure ruin those women more and more. I'm on nofap for the last 1 month, after an up and down trajectory from the last 8 months. And from the last 1 year I'm not using any social media, few days back I downloaded instagram(for a few minutes and then deleted it again) and i was literally blown away by how in my country(india) casual sex is rising so fast. Like most of the girls are now posting slutty profile pictures on their ig and having hookup just for some attention like they are some kind of modern and cool women and same for the guys. I really hope that the world would change someday and i hope that men and women both develop a good mindset and understand that casual sex is empty and they should not let lust cloud their mind. And i also hope that all the guys in here on self improvement and people in general elevate their standards and not treat women like some piece of meat for their pleasure and achieve all their goals and find their life partner whom they can spend their life with.
Weve been fake lonely our whole life. We have been trying to attract beautiful broken women and be friends with degenerate lustful unhealthy men. This whole time we haven't been lonely we have just been avoiding our family & feelings. And not having enough respect for ourselves to find healthy relationships and making ourselves happy 1st. Actional step: write down the names of every unhealthy relationship and write down what you did wrong and how to fix it. Thx this this video i can fix these broken relationships. Some have to be let go and some can be fixed.
4:25 ive been intensely avoidant to the point of detriment (avoiding relationships and emotional intimacy like the plague). im 23 and still havent been in a relationship despite being a good looking guy and going through many casual dating/talking stages because of it. and its always eaten away at me. i know its because of my parents and the way i was raised. but hearing you say this was kinda crazy- my parents have so many stories of leaving me to cry and just going into the other room to ignore me until i stopped. some of my earliest memories are my dad yelling at me to stop crying. i think its why ive had such a hesitancy to engage in the masculinity scene because my idea of it from the way my dad handles it means unhealthy toxic emotional suppression. i think this video really spoke to me because when i first had my transformation in college i tried really hard to become this toxic alpha gymrat and like- it worked for getting girls but not for anything real and it eventually made me super depressed because i knew that wasnt who i actually was. so now ive just gone back into my shell of being some emotionally avoidant robot who doesnt even try anymore- idk how to be masculine and confident and attractive in a secure and mature way (not arrogant and toxic and cringe)
When I met my gf she was three weeks out of a relationship and I was the first date she went on after. We matched her first day ever using a dating app. We’ve been together for over a year now and it’s amazing. Makes alot of sense since her parents are very loving, and have a masculine and feminine dynamic going on between her mother and father. Insightful video Hamza
She's going to cheat on you too. 3 weeks is still a form of cheating ( can't be alone, monkey branched) right now you're going through a honeymoon period where it feels amazing. Wait another year or two.
A lot of people are talking bad about these daily videos. These new daily videos for the most part are different and way more detailed and educational than the old ones. This video was great and i learned a lot
This video is exactly what I needed... I was getting drawn into my degenerate desires again, to be fair it's all I see online, but Hamza is one of the few people who actually motivates people to live the right way.
Hamza, I would love to see a whole day in your life since I am trying to make a daily routine and perhaps yours may help me. Always grateful for your videos and the impact they have on my life.
I honestly love it when Hamza puts in that emotion. This video has changed my perspective a lot on woman and I thank you for that Hamza. Keep making these videos and may God bless you!
I'm not the type of guy who usually comments on videos, but this one was insanely relatable for me. It couldn't come up at a better time. Keep up the good work, Hamza
Thx Hamza! I grew up without an attachment really. I developed an avoidant attachment style and I am now working hard on myself to change that. It's starting to pay off as I am attracting more people in my life who actually give me something back when I give something to them. This is huge!
been watching hamza for a while now, the content's getting so much better and i can really implement them in real life and am feeling lot better than how i used to be, thank u
Thank god you said exactly what I thought in the last few months. Men like the Tates have alot of great views and advice for men, but thats one of the things I've always disagreed HEAVILY with. Means alot to hear that from you bro. Much love always Hamza 🙏🏼❤️
I can actually relate to this video 100%.. This year, I've dated 12 girls through online dating, made out with 5 of them, had sex with 2 of them.. which was all to cover up the fact that I was deeply hurt on the inside, after being broken up with a year ago. I then even went back to my very toxic ex recently. Probably, I have some deeper issues, too, stemming form the fact that I grew up withouth a father, and a somettimes rather masculine mother, at least emotionally, because she had a hard childhood. You've made me realize. Realize that I'm no good, I'm just good a hiding it. I must be better.
-What would a healthy secure attachment woman’s father have been loving her? How can I imitate it? Praising her, being there for her, showing my true self (I’m secure) and helping her whenever she needs it -What are the characteristics of the masculine dads that I need to use? Working, making money, showing love, respected
Her Dad would be a nice wholesome guy who includes his daughter in activites he enjoys, maybe it was fishing together, or going hunting, going to the shooting range etc , he's enjoyable to be around and is full of positive energy but he still is a strong and confident man ready to stand up for his family and for the things he believes in. And even though he's a hard worker he never stopped doing the things that he loved, he never stopped doing all the hobbies he enjoyed, he would find time for his business, his family and for his personal interests which he's really passionate about.
Hamza bro I just want to say what a great video you have truly changed the self-improvement seen on CZcams. This video has truly opened up my perspective on women and dating in general. I would like to say I am truly grateful for your videos as because of you I have improved my mental health by consistently being able to do 10 minutes of meditation and gratitude journaling, and I have started a dopamine Detox. And slowly but surely turning more and more into Adonis lol. PRIME in coming 2024
Honestly a healthy secure womens father in my imagination. Is a tall man with a smile, his words are gentle and refined, he treats with respect and kindess to everyone. He is humble and doesn't act like he is better than others. He is a hard worker and motivates others to work harder. He uplifts others. He can be stern and still be respectful he holds true to his value and isnt afraid to say the truth In short her father is a man with both a heart and spine. A heart that feels and spreads love and kindness. That gives respect and nouroshes others and spine that holds the heart. A spine that can work hard and stay disciplined, a heart that can control his negative emotions and channel them to something productive, a spine that can face fear and stand up for what he wants. All with Kindness and respect. A man with a open heart and rigid spine. I get it now. I think its time i start giving more kindness to the world. With smiles,compliments, intrest, listening and attention, respect to their thoughts and generally a positive attitude that uplifts and benefits others. On the other i need a spine that is able to set boundaries in polite way, Stay true to your values and work. I admire this man ill become him. Infact my journey has begun.
the attachment style is very true. also rewatching your videos help me get over a girl because i realize that i dont want her as much as i thought i did
Thanks Hamza , these daily videos helped me not to masturbate I have already forgotten wtf was fapping and I didn't even counting days now , I think this started mid Oct when u start uploading daily till now I m feeling more motivated and energetic and have lot of goal clarity in my mind.
Eventhough I like the longer Hamza videos, Im starting to appreciate the shorter daily videos more because I can use it to start my day off with the right mindset or use it as a reminder throughout the day
Hamza. Bro you are really good man. Especially being a GenZ it's so hard to be successful and a man. But you are more than them. Thankyou Hamza for showing us how our society has become now. Thankyou for sharing your knowledge with us. Thankyou for everything. Love you ❤
This video literally made me realize that my dad acted in this kind of secure way. But because I thought people didn’t like me for being me I acted in different ways to get more attention, f*ck me. I realized that I want to act more like my father. Thank you Hamza
Fucking incredible, i'm 17 yo and every now and then i lose track of my self improvement but your videos Hamza, they wake me up and make me realise the hole that i have fall into, so thank you and your team for every piece of content you've made
To those who are quite unsure about those facts, it is true, but simplified, childhood life defines who you are to a certain point (because you can fix yourself with healthy habits), and it certainly will affect your dating life. Now, you may keep from this video that anxious type goes only with anxious type and whatever, but in fact, everyone has a portion of every types within him, but everyone tend to one group : a guy can be more healthy type but still is a bit of an anxious type, so he will be attracted to both healthy and anxious type, now if you understood correctly, it also means he is more likely to get into a relationship with a anxious type women because of the availibility of healthy women.
I have a secure relationship and so far we've been together for 2 years, I feel proud talking about her since we're 17 and 16 and we already know that in the near future we want to marry and have kids. I come from a good family and I'm well educated and so is she, so we're not worrying a lot about our future together since we just deeply love each other. Hope you guys found this useful and also find love or already did ❤️
This is so true Me and my girlfriend both had broken childhood I was the toxic avoidant and she was the anxious one We all are just acting out our childhood programing in relationships
I always lived the previous 17 years of my childhood as a child left alone to cry in a room, as my father was not always present and I spent most of my time with a mother with serious problems with depression who often humiliated her children. my days even if it wasn't his intention. Now I've grown up and I feel like I'm like that 1% of guys who don't play a detached role, but do what they simply feel like doing from the heart: show love and security to their partner. The problem? I only ever do this with those broken girls who don't know how to harness the energy I send to them, and when I try to act like the 1% with healthy, loving girls, I simply get stuck and often my attachment style changes to that of a person detached for fear of failure. I know it won't be easy, but I have to change this, I will open my eyes and become a role model for everyone around me. Thanks Hamza, this little video made me understand a lot, for me you are now like the big brother I never had and I hope to meet you one day. You took me away from depression and self-destruction. Long live Hamza.
Such a great explanation. Your videos helped me with a lot of perspective about life, with explanation and guidance too.You're like the big brother than I didn't have
I needed this video Me and my ex broke up a while ago and I definitely needed a reminder that I shouldn’t go down that route just because I haven’t had sex for a while So thank you Hamza
Hi Hamza,I am 17 years old. I am in Jerbie level. I was making so much of progress. I suddenly I stop Working to impove my life. A ego was in me. I felt i am just too good i am fit, i dress up property but i stop upgrading my life. But it took me 1 month to realise it. No I have started to impove my life day by day again. I am making a good progress again. Biggest thanks goes to you hamza my Brother.
This video came out at the perfect time bro. Im talking to a secure attachment girl rn but she be making me confused sometimes. I guess I’ll just keep being myself, nice, and reassuring. She seems way to nervous and shy to even call me and we hardly are able to see each other in person sadly. Idk how to make her comfortable without coming off too needy.
MAKE SURE YOU'RE BREATHING FULLY WHILE WATCHING THE VIDEO!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks
Thanks bonky!
Bonky love this mission u on for reminding everyone to breathe properly, ima hold u accountable now,dont ever stop😂😑
yes it is good, but bro stop trying to get Hamza's attention
@@bonky1993bro stop acting like you aren’t doing it for hamza’s attention 💀 you don’t gaf about these random people in these comments section stop lying
Dear Hamza, in the span of two weeks, your videos made me:
-Start reading
-consistently going for runs almost every day
-start doing home workouts (the basic squats, push-up, pull up combo you recommended for beginners)
-start meditating
-follow a morning routine
-start grattitude journaling
-block all p*rn sites on all devices
-happier
-more confident.
So, from all my heart, thank you for giving me that final push. Youve made me start laying out a foundation for the improvements that are to come. You said what I needed to hear. You changed my life. Those might be big words considering im only starting this journey, but I doubt ill ever quit.
So, again, thank you. I owe you big time.
thats great bro keep going!
Keep it up man
Great but don't use porn blockers
Great king keep it up 💪💪💪💪
@@woody3821Why not?
As a Christian, I am willing to conserve myself until marriage and live a peaceful purposeful life
Well put brother, Jesus > Women
Viva Christo Rey
Thats what im doing im 20 yo im celebate my whole life by choice i dont drink dont smoke i had the possibility to do all bad things like usless sex smoke drink and all sort of stuff always refiuted sex has no value if you dont have a valuable relationship
Admirable @@nemanjamarkovic2444
I’m newly Christian since around a year and a half ago, I was previously atheist. This will sound very corny but I just want a girl so bad, i don’t know how long I can wait, I’ve had a girlfriend in the past it’s been about 2 and a half years since it ended now and I just want to be with someone, i dont dream about having sports cars or clubbing I just want somebody to spend the rest of my life with and have kids with them and provide for them. I’m 17 and the girls around me arent really like that, can you’d give me some advice
Im 16. I ended up with one of those toxic low value insecure girls for my first relationship. I treated her like she was the most important thing in the world and I did everything I could to take care of her (she has cancer. Or at-least she claims to) despite her not caring about me and just using me for sex. she ended up breaking my heart and leaving me and ended up with someone else straight away. Turns out she’s done this countless times to countless people (Even though she’s only 15). It destroyed me and my mental health. I thought that I would never be happy after that because of how used I was, I didn’t think I could trust someone like that again. Then a month after she left me I found someone else and she’s an incredible person who cares about me, my health, and My happiness. I got to this point because of your videos. Thank you Hamza.
Haha welcome to the world. There are gonna be ups and downs but just keep your head held high👍🏾
You’re too young to even be in a relationship, to begin with.
@@hastensavoir7782 🤣🤣🤣
@@h3ro-8 I mean @ that age I wasn’t even thinking serious relationships lol
Sex at 15 is crazy bro
00:01 Women are attracted to toxic men due to subconscious conditioning from childhood.
02:16 Avoidant attachment is becoming more attractive to many girls in the dating scene.
06:27 Women are attracted to toxic men because they prioritize appearance over personality and character.
08:12 Many single women are anxious or avoidant, making it difficult to find healthy, non-toxic partners.
11:49 Have higher standards and avoid relationships with broken women.
13:24 Attracting secure and healthy women by providing familiar love
17:07 Attracting healthy women can lead to personal growth and fulfillment.
18:45 To attract a healthy and secure woman, imitate the love and characteristics of strong, mature, and successful fathers.
22:01 Toxic men who sleep with broken women make fun of them without realizing their own brokenness.
literal legend
Thanks bro
This world is run by Satan. It's becoming more difficult to find the love of your life.
@@KamiTenchi bruhh stopp he is so wronggg....there are good women and good men too..and toxic attracts toxic remember ...toxic women are attracted to toxic men thats they aint real men and women..and surely girls would dump them they do not care if its toxic ,money ,looks they just even get bored sometimess...so why consider every girl
Even though you said that this video is very dark in its message, i would say this has been so uplifting as a teenager whos soon gonna be an adult. It's so healthy and wholesome to know that being strong and being kind is still valued today, its just about finding the right person, or more like, letting the right person find you when you're ready.
It hurts me a lot to see good women getting ruined by abuse. My girlfriend is like that. Very kind hearted, quite smart too, and absolutely beautiful.
But she's also very broken, to the point where she'd rather close off and never talk about what's bothering her, and completely refuses to work through whatever issues we have had.
Thank you for not making excuses for these toxic broken people (I've seen alot of yt channels excusing avoidant's behavior and pretty much gives advices to young women inorder to cater on these avoidant men). Please if you have insecure attachment style (avoidant and anxious) please heal. Nobody deserves to be treated like shiz just because you had a terrible childhood growing up. I used to think I'm secured until I met an avoidant and figured I have anxious tendencies. On my way to heal now and looking forward to a better future 💗
Broken women are attracted to broken men. Good women prefer genuine good men they HATE toxic guys. I've witnessed far too many to know this
A lot of broken women were good women once upon a time. How did they get broken? They chose the toxic guys because they were attracted to them. There is a reason why women didn't have freedom in mate selection and their father had the last decision or the male members of their family. Because there is no such thing as women choosing well. A woman choosing a good guy, staying with him till death do them apart is an outlier.
@@captainvanisher988 A REAL good woman always sets reasonable boundaries and standards for looking for a good partner. Sometimes these men meet their standards and cause the poor woman into a heartbreak. Now that's when the good woman is really tested. Will she go through a hoe phase because of this or will she stay focused on herself and her grind and priorities 🤔
@@mrknowitall0179good luck finding that kind o women
@@mrknowitall0179 A REAL good woman involves her father/male relatives into her mating. Why? Because men can more easily deduce other men's bs and can provide a safety net if the guy f*cks up.
A good woman also doesn't sleep before marriage. Something that can mitigate 95% of the risk for women when it comes to dating.
@@mrknowitall0179theories, theories, theories. Now let's wait for some bot to clarify what you just wrote as '💯 facts bro' 😂
Hamza I'm honestly astonished by how smoothly you're being able to bring such high values, starting from a very materialistic standpoint
Like when I try to tell my friends that the problem of dating market is in them, who hunt and prey weak women and make them even weaker and give them so much attention that they will get on a pedestal and not date other kind of guys in the future, they can't see it
The amazing thing about your channel is that you are being able to transmit morals, virtues, interpersonal bonding and love messages, starting from the very impulsive and potentially degenerate sex need and while promising such an end in itself like personal happiness which is what everyone grasps for.
I made it very long but what I mean is, congrats for being a good speaker and a good self development instructor but thank you for bringing a non-asked gift like true love towards the others push, which is clearly not something you were expected to do to monetise your business
I feel like your message has really evolved in a positive way over the last couple of months. Shows you’re still working on growing as a person.
Keep up the great work man
Just a few topics I think you should have covered:
I asked my Grandfather (he's 92 and has 7 kids) he said the first step to becoming that secure father figure, don't date her with the end goal being sex, she is gonna sense that and will dump you as soon as it's a realisation. ACTUALLY find someone you like and build those activities around your relationship, please don't just date her over a pleasing activity.
EDIT: my sister also said DO NOT make the bullshit excuse that she is low value for dumping you, she would have dumped you because you NEEDED her for something but you didn't WANT her around (You would have been acting like a boss and she was you're employee that you didn't actually like)
High quality videos Hamza stay strong my brother amen.
Damn, your sister is straight to the point. I used to be really close to my ex-girlfriend at our first stage of relationships but in the end I became lazy and just treated her as a tool for my desires instead of a partner I genuinely love. Honestly, I wouldn't even date myself back then. The breakup was really painful (still is) but if not for the breakup, I wouldn't have finally seriously tried to change something about myself and become an independent but caring man.
Good on you for being man enough to admit that bro
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EDIT: Yeah if you were wondering my sister has had a few break ups of her own as well and for very similar reasons to yours and mine... It's always the I NEED YOU but I don't WANT YOU she told me, (she is in a healthy relationship now with my now kind of getting use to step brother)
For real man I can relate honestly, there was this girl I met in school and at first we really did like each other. Honestly she introduced me to *that stuff* and I was hooked.
Overtime it was less fun because we didn't actually do it because we had likeable things to compliment each other about, we just did it to relieve frustrations. I feel like such an idiot now for leaving her for another woman however me and her are still friends just I cannot really feel any grandiose in her presence anymore I feel like a criminal or a traitor for breaking her trust.
God bless your Grandfather
@@gmailazerty God bless you as well my friend.
I made that mistake with the first girl I loved, I thought the toxic and avoidant narrative was the way to go in a relationship and unfortunately acted like a jerk and lost her. I'm now happy to have the experience but learned it the hard way. Becoming a man who isn't afraid to love really changes the relationship side and helps attracting high quality intelligent healthy women.
Thank you for explaining this concept very concisely to the youth and I know a lot of them are becoming good men thanks to you hamza.
i'm 19 and still a virgin, most people close to me think I have a 20 plus body count cause of my looks, (I'm not lying I just admitted I'm a virgin this post is to help other guys) But to young guys out there 14, 15 who came from an avoidant attachment like i did without a father, PLEASE just wait it out i know it can be tempting especially after you glow up to run through girls and be a toxic king or whatever but i promise you i genuinely have zero regrets from not having sex. If you're still starting out and you have only worked on your appearance and not mental health, trauma etc then you will push that on to any partners you have, ruining them permanently and in turn your future self bc you'll only attract broken women. To be honest, when i first glowed up at 17 in school i wanted to go to the causal hookup party life but it just never happened for me so i stopped forcing it, even though i wanted it so bad back then I'm so grateful for whatever stopped me from getting involved in that life, now I've meditated journalled, learn to love my family instead of the sociopathic teen i was and i am so much closer to finding a woman that could be the mother of my kids. My closest friend was also a virgin when we left school at 18, he went a different path, drinking smoking and he got cold sores and is now paranoid of std's from traumatised girls, even he told me he regrets his choices especially from a religious perspective. Wait it out and work on yourself i promise you, it pays off.
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I just turned 20 a few days ago and your comment contains my thoughts on a day to day basis. Im Christian and also a virgin, eventhough i glowed up in the last years and Im getting so much attention from women. It is really tempting to fall into degenerate habits with that but you are absolutely right about it being wrong and detrimental.
I pray that i wont give in to the temptation.
Really cool to see somebody else my age go through this with the same mindset.
I wish you the best on your way!
Greetings from Germany.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counsellor, and how do i reach her?
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.
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You’ve changed my life. Thank you, nothing but respect.
For a reason, Anxious and avoidant are always meeting each other eventually, but secure will always seek secure, keep focus and remember, your past and your traumas don't define you, you can change your identity and eventually everything will also change. I was avoidant and now I can finally tell my mom that I Love her.
I agree heavily, this is me and gf I’m an avoidant I found the best thing is communication (that’s the main thing we suck at)
As a 34 can confirm everything he said here. It took almost a decade of being single and working on myself to understand this.
Day 2 of Gratitude Journaling: I am grateful of the sunrise that comes through the windown of my room every day at 6:30AM. The color is beautiful and the energy I earn just by opening my window is just amazing
MAN am i glad i found this channel. Thinking about how i randomly came across on of your videos on youtube is just unbelievable. Thanks for changing all of our lives hamza
I believe you can tell from the way he`s talking that he genuinely speaks from his heart and is as transparent as possible with his narative. So big respect for that, brotha. You`re very inspirational
Thank you hamza. You really dropped this video when I needed it the most, I'm really grateful for that. I also feel the same. These days when i think about it I feel bad for the women who sleep with random guys, and those guys just for the sake of some pleasure ruin those women more and more. I'm on nofap for the last 1 month, after an up and down trajectory from the last 8 months. And from the last 1 year I'm not using any social media, few days back I downloaded instagram(for a few minutes and then deleted it again) and i was literally blown away by how in my country(india) casual sex is rising so fast. Like most of the girls are now posting slutty profile pictures on their ig and having hookup just for some attention like they are some kind of modern and cool women and same for the guys. I really hope that the world would change someday and i hope that men and women both develop a good mindset and understand that casual sex is empty and they should not let lust cloud their mind. And i also hope that all the guys in here on self improvement and people in general elevate their standards and not treat women like some piece of meat for their pleasure and achieve all their goals and find their life partner whom they can spend their life with.
Weve been fake lonely our whole life. We have been trying to attract beautiful broken women and be friends with degenerate lustful unhealthy men.
This whole time we haven't been lonely we have just been avoiding our family & feelings. And not having enough respect for ourselves to find healthy relationships and making ourselves happy 1st.
Actional step: write down the names of every unhealthy relationship and write down what you did wrong and how to fix it. Thx this this video i can fix these broken relationships.
Some have to be let go and some can be fixed.
4:25 ive been intensely avoidant to the point of detriment (avoiding relationships and emotional intimacy like the plague). im 23 and still havent been in a relationship despite being a good looking guy and going through many casual dating/talking stages because of it. and its always eaten away at me. i know its because of my parents and the way i was raised. but hearing you say this was kinda crazy- my parents have so many stories of leaving me to cry and just going into the other room to ignore me until i stopped. some of my earliest memories are my dad yelling at me to stop crying. i think its why ive had such a hesitancy to engage in the masculinity scene because my idea of it from the way my dad handles it means unhealthy toxic emotional suppression.
i think this video really spoke to me because when i first had my transformation in college i tried really hard to become this toxic alpha gymrat and like- it worked for getting girls but not for anything real and it eventually made me super depressed because i knew that wasnt who i actually was.
so now ive just gone back into my shell of being some emotionally avoidant robot who doesnt even try anymore- idk how to be masculine and confident and attractive in a secure and mature way (not arrogant and toxic and cringe)
When I met my gf she was three weeks out of a relationship and I was the first date she went on after. We matched her first day ever using a dating app. We’ve been together for over a year now and it’s amazing. Makes alot of sense since her parents are very loving, and have a masculine and feminine dynamic going on between her mother and father. Insightful video Hamza
On dating apps just 3 weeks after a breakup? Yikes
Wouldn't be surprised if she monkey branches
3 weeks is really concerning but if everything's working fine so far than oh well continue..
@@andreseraso2737 She def ran thru😭
She's going to cheat on you too. 3 weeks is still a form of cheating ( can't be alone, monkey branched) right now you're going through a honeymoon period where it feels amazing. Wait another year or two.
Yeah that's a red flag right there. I wouldn't date someone who's been single for less than 6 months.
Man, thank you for being there for me. Because of you, I changed my life. Keep doing this thing because its working
A lot of people are talking bad about these daily videos. These new daily videos for the most part are different and way more detailed and educational than the old ones. This video was great and i learned a lot
This video is exactly what I needed... I was getting drawn into my degenerate desires again, to be fair it's all I see online, but Hamza is one of the few people who actually motivates people to live the right way.
Hamza, I would love to see a whole day in your life since I am trying to make a daily routine and perhaps yours may help me. Always grateful for your videos and the impact they have on my life.
I love the new videos Hamza they’ve come back in a much higher quality
I honestly love it when Hamza puts in that emotion. This video has changed my perspective a lot on woman and I thank you for that Hamza. Keep making these videos and may God bless you!
These are the videos we expect from u hamza..
I'm not the type of guy who usually comments on videos, but this one was insanely relatable for me. It couldn't come up at a better time. Keep up the good work, Hamza
One of the best presented videos I’ve seen.
Thx Hamza! I grew up without an attachment really. I developed an avoidant attachment style and I am now working hard on myself to change that. It's starting to pay off as I am attracting more people in my life who actually give me something back when I give something to them. This is huge!
Your Videos hit different every time. It’s like you are talking to the soul. Thanks for sharing your wisdom.
been watching hamza for a while now, the content's getting so much better and i can really implement them in real life and am feeling lot better than how i used to be, thank u
Thank god you said exactly what I thought in the last few months. Men like the Tates have alot of great views and advice for men, but thats one of the things I've always disagreed HEAVILY with. Means alot to hear that from you bro. Much love always Hamza 🙏🏼❤️
this video was very valuable for me, thank you hamza. You havent really made a video like this before which is nice to see
I can actually relate to this video 100%..
This year, I've dated 12 girls through online dating, made out with 5 of them, had sex with 2 of them.. which was all to cover up the fact that I was deeply hurt on the inside, after being broken up with a year ago. I then even went back to my very toxic ex recently.
Probably, I have some deeper issues, too, stemming form the fact that I grew up withouth a father, and a somettimes rather masculine mother, at least emotionally, because she had a hard childhood.
You've made me realize. Realize that I'm no good, I'm just good a hiding it.
I must be better.
Stay strong bro. Keep pushing, keep improving. Breath deeply, enjoy life. Love and live
The first step to recovery is acceptance
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I’m with you. We will do better. We have to, there’s no other way to enjoy this life ✊
bruh, your intellectual growth & maturing perspective is impressive...
keep up the positive energy.
much love x
This insight really helps clear some shame attached to this kind of stuff
-What would a healthy secure attachment woman’s father have been loving her? How can I imitate it?
Praising her, being there for her, showing my true self (I’m secure) and helping her whenever she needs it
-What are the characteristics of the masculine dads that I need to use?
Working, making money, showing love, respected
That's a good one
He say man
Those are good, I recommend doing small things to, so if there’s something she likes you doing, do it with out her asking
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Thanks bros. We’re all gonna make it!
Thank you Hamza I needed to heard this
It's so refreshing hearing everything I've been mulling over recently, with some additional fun analogies lmfao. Great video Hamza, fantastic work.
I've read "attached" recently, hamza always know exactly what stage I am in self-improvement. It's scary.
you have changed my life man
Same here
Her Dad would be a nice wholesome guy who includes his daughter in activites he enjoys, maybe it was fishing together, or going hunting, going to the shooting range etc , he's enjoyable to be around and is full of positive energy but he still is a strong and confident man ready to stand up for his family and for the things he believes in.
And even though he's a hard worker he never stopped doing the things that he loved, he never stopped doing all the hobbies he enjoyed, he would find time for his business, his family and for his personal interests which he's really passionate about.
Love You Brother. You Completely Changed My Life
Hamza bro I just want to say what a great video you have truly changed the self-improvement seen on CZcams. This video has truly opened up my perspective on women and dating in general. I would like to say I am truly grateful for your videos as because of you I have improved my mental health by consistently being able to do 10 minutes of meditation and gratitude journaling, and I have started a dopamine Detox. And slowly but surely turning more and more into Adonis lol. PRIME in coming 2024
Honestly a healthy secure womens father in my imagination.
Is a tall man with a smile, his words are gentle and refined, he treats with respect and kindess to everyone. He is humble and doesn't act like he is better than others. He is a hard worker and motivates others to work harder. He uplifts others. He can be stern and still be respectful he holds true to his value and isnt afraid to say the truth
In short her father is a man with both a heart and spine.
A heart that feels and spreads love and kindness. That gives respect and nouroshes others and spine that holds the heart. A spine that can work hard and stay disciplined, a heart that can control his negative emotions and channel them to something productive, a spine that can face fear and stand up for what he wants.
All with Kindness and respect.
A man with a open heart and rigid spine.
I get it now. I think its time i start giving more kindness to the world. With smiles,compliments, intrest, listening and attention, respect to their thoughts and generally a positive attitude that uplifts and benefits others.
On the other i need a spine that is able to set boundaries in polite way, Stay true to your values and work.
I admire this man ill become him. Infact my journey has begun.
Good poetic comment.
Love your videos! Keep up the good fight. You have helped me change my life for the better!
This man is really changing my life.
I love these videos. I always come back to Hamzas videos to remember or learn information and each video never fails to deliver. Thank you.
This topic was always so confusing to me. Thx for breaking it down!
Damn, Hamza uploading a video everyday. Love the consistency also thankyou like genuinely
thanks man, you really change my life, keep making these amazing videos
the attachment style is very true. also rewatching your videos help me get over a girl because i realize that i dont want her as much as i thought i did
Here I learning English with Hamza mi ídolo mi rey
Dude thank you so much for you're videos
Love this content lately Hamza! Please keep it up!!!!
You’re the man bro truly enjoy your videos so much in-depth value
Loyal man. Kind and loving.
Wow, needed this video 9months ago. Pure gold, but my relationship fucked up way before watching this🥶
This video was for me. Thank you
Hamza, you look far humbler than before. I really love that
Thank you Hamza.
Thanks Hamza , these daily videos helped me not to masturbate I have already forgotten wtf was fapping and I didn't even counting days now , I think this started mid Oct when u start uploading daily till now I m feeling more motivated and energetic and have lot of goal clarity in my mind.
Thanks Hamza. I appreciate it a lot.
Thanks for going back to hamza ahmed
The daily videos are such great accountability
Eventhough I like the longer Hamza videos, Im starting to appreciate the shorter daily videos more because I can use it to start my day off with the right mindset or use it as a reminder throughout the day
Hamza. Bro you are really good man. Especially being a GenZ it's so hard to be successful and a man. But you are more than them. Thankyou Hamza for showing us how our society has become now. Thankyou for sharing your knowledge with us. Thankyou for everything. Love you ❤
What a content man . I love you
Thank you for your daily videos. You are improving my life
This video literally made me realize that my dad acted in this kind of secure way. But because I thought people didn’t like me for being me I acted in different ways to get more attention, f*ck me. I realized that I want to act more like my father. Thank you Hamza
Most valid video I think I have ever seen on CZcams.
Fucking incredible, i'm 17 yo and every now and then i lose track of my self improvement but your videos Hamza, they wake me up and make me realise the hole that i have fall into, so thank you and your team for every piece of content you've made
AWESOME VIDEO MAN !!!
To those who are quite unsure about those facts, it is true, but simplified, childhood life defines who you are to a certain point (because you can fix yourself with healthy habits), and it certainly will affect your dating life. Now, you may keep from this video that anxious type goes only with anxious type and whatever, but in fact, everyone has a portion of every types within him, but everyone tend to one group : a guy can be more healthy type but still is a bit of an anxious type, so he will be attracted to both healthy and anxious type, now if you understood correctly, it also means he is more likely to get into a relationship with a anxious type women because of the availibility of healthy women.
Yeah but it gotta be anxious pretty woman otherwise I make it happen as my toxic I get why I want type shit 😅
I have a secure relationship and so far we've been together for 2 years, I feel proud talking about her since we're 17 and 16 and we already know that in the near future we want to marry and have kids. I come from a good family and I'm well educated and so is she, so we're not worrying a lot about our future together since we just deeply love each other. Hope you guys found this useful and also find love or already did ❤️
Congrats man! Im happy for you. I wish you guys have a long a great relationship.
This is beautiful man, congratulations!
Same for me though i'm 22 now and it's been five years now. Really great to build up a life together and making progress in your 20s
That’s great bro, hope you are doing fine.
Your balls havent dropped yet and you think your relatiosnhip is secured. Laughable. To be young and dumb.
This opened my eyes
This is so true
Me and my girlfriend both had broken childhood
I was the toxic avoidant and she was the anxious one
We all are just acting out our childhood programing in relationships
Thank you man
this is soo much useful knowledge ive learnt alot. Thanks for doing what you do Hamza, its literally changed my life. Much appreciated
Absolutely great advice 💪🏼
You Opened My Eyes
Hamza, you are amazing keep going 👏 ❤
It's been real lonely during my teenage years but I know it's best we learn the tide before we try and take that ride.
I always lived the previous 17 years of my childhood as a child left alone to cry in a room, as my father was not always present and I spent most of my time with a mother with serious problems with depression who often humiliated her children. my days even if it wasn't his intention.
Now I've grown up and I feel like I'm like that 1% of guys who don't play a detached role, but do what they simply feel like doing from the heart: show love and security to their partner.
The problem? I only ever do this with those broken girls who don't know how to harness the energy I send to them, and when I try to act like the 1% with healthy, loving girls, I simply get stuck and often my attachment style changes to that of a person detached for fear of failure.
I know it won't be easy, but I have to change this, I will open my eyes and become a role model for everyone around me.
Thanks Hamza, this little video made me understand a lot, for me you are now like the big brother I never had and I hope to meet you one day.
You took me away from depression and self-destruction.
Long live Hamza.
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Thank you Hamza
Such a great explanation. Your videos helped me with a lot of perspective about life, with explanation and guidance too.You're like the big brother than I didn't have
I needed this video
Me and my ex broke up a while ago and I definitely needed a reminder that I shouldn’t go down that route just because I haven’t had sex for a while
So thank you Hamza
u r helping me too much thanks
Hi Hamza,I am 17 years old. I am in Jerbie level. I was making so much of progress. I suddenly I stop Working to impove my life. A ego was in me. I felt i am just too good i am fit, i dress up property but i stop upgrading my life. But it took me 1 month to realise it. No I have started to impove my life day by day again. I am making a good progress again. Biggest thanks goes to you hamza my Brother.
I love how Adonis isn't just a comparison but now he tries to help Jeffery more, keep up hamza may Allah bless you
I recently ended a shit relationship. Guys, be carefull even when you get ""that girl you want"" she wasn't as good as i thought and we ended up hurt.
Spitting facts!
This video came out at the perfect time bro. Im talking to a secure attachment girl rn but she be making me confused sometimes. I guess I’ll just keep being myself, nice, and reassuring. She seems way to nervous and shy to even call me and we hardly are able to see each other in person sadly. Idk how to make her comfortable without coming off too needy.