100% completely understand going through this. It’s normal, and good therapist will highlight some of the short comings in your relationships with others.
I suggest you do it if you really think that your feelings are starting to interfere with therapy. I have a video on “Why you want your therapist,” if you’re interested on the topic. czcams.com/video/5zFj-0juAKg/video.htmlsi=TC7S1QetCrKLa_CX
I have been seeing my therapist for 4 years. He knows me. I did start thinking sexual about him but I know that he is married and my therapist. Nothing more. I would never act on my past thoughts.
Love the honesty. Therapy is very intimate. I’m sure few know you like your therapist does. It would be hard not to have the occasionally sexual thought in a situation like that.
Its interesting because I have a male therapist who has been great. But there's definitely a professional boundry there where I dont know anything about him. This causes me to also have a boundry thats difficult to get around because its hard to share deep issues with someone I dont know. However, I fully understand that this is a healthy and appropriate response from my therapist and I respect it so much. Even so, I feel almost guilty for dumping all of my problems in his lap but never being there to support him. I had a female therapist a few years ago and felt the same way. Im not attracted to my therapist in any way but feel selfish for never talking about their issues...... I guess its good my fucked up ass is in therapy 🤦♀️
I love everything about what you just said Stephanie. It shows how great you are about thinking and caring about others. It's weird to be in a one sided relationship where you are the constant and only focus. None of our relationships are like this, so it should feel unfamiliar. Your guilt is understandable, but try to remind yourself that this is how therapy should be set up, and you're paying for this exact benefit. Check in with your therapist, ask how his day's going and share this guilt with him, and talk explore the topic with him. It might uncover some things. Also, I'm assuming you said the last part in humor (But if not), you sound like you're the furthest thing away from "fucked up."
@@TheChocolateTherapist Thank you for letting me know this is totally normal. I will bring it up because so far, therapy has helped so much. On another note, I love your videos. They've got me cracking up! I look forward to watching your channel grow and the content yet to come. Great job!!
Oh man. I dld have a sexual relationship with my grief counselor. Between the sexting and plans for the future, let me just say, we both ended up heartbroken and an entire mess. I’m back in therapy now since I’m traumatized.
Yeah, I don’t think there can ever be any real winners when a therapist and client start getting intimate. Glad you’re back in therapy, but also sorry about your previous experience. Question. Is the trauma related to how things went with your previous therapist?
Great video, and love the bloopers at the end, brilliant! I have to say though, the overlap with the other video was a bit annoying. Though I also get it's there for completeness?
Yeah, I wrote both videos at the same time so I wasn’t aware they over lapped so much. Also I need to learn how to better edit and be concise. Thanks for the support
@@TheChocolateTherapist I kind of figured and it makes sense to split those too 😃 Your editing is already really impressive, looking forward to what's next in this journey.
My depiction of the predatory therapist was a little over the top and hella extra. Trust your judgement tho, if you don’t think you’re safe with a male therapist then may be a gay or female therapist would be best.
This isn’t all that surprising considering how many things are shared in therapy. I think it goes both ways. Sometimes clients also have those feelings. But everyone usually understands that they’re inappropriate.
Definitely goes both ways. Made a video on “why you want to f*ck your therapist” that explains the other side. Here 👉🏾 czcams.com/video/5zFj-0juAKg/video.htmlsi=yHw1GqJO13kfKfiV
Good video. Yet, the therapist should not be hugging the client. Nor overly touching. Empathy can be heard through words, no need for touch. The therapist is the professional who sets the boundaries.
I think it's okay to hug your clients, but the therapist has to monitor themselves, and the client. If there is any alterior motive on the therapist part, or feeling that the client is responding in any negative or sexual way then I think the therapist has to discern that hugging should be out of the question. That's me tho
@TheChocolateTherapist Acting is not easy. It is a compliment. And I do find my therapist attractive as well as most women at work, but will never act on those attractions as it's unprofessional and inappropriate to be this way.
just leaving my comments here as a record to see how fast your channel can grow in a year :D only if CZcams channel is like stock that i can invest in :D You are GOOD
Genuinely, one of the kindest comments I've ever been left. Thank you so much for leaving this message behind. I got back and forth thinking my content is good, and questioning myself when it doesn't perform to my expectations. It's always uplifting when someone shares a positive compliment with me. Thank you
Tongue on the toes was wild. I get the method acting, but I was not ready for allat.
lol, I know I can be extra at times. Trying to get the point across by any means necessary.
I can feel a lot of tension with him. He validates me. I think it shines a light on what I need in my own relationship.
100% completely understand going through this. It’s normal, and good therapist will highlight some of the short comings in your relationships with others.
@@TheChocolateTherapist haha but I dont feel comfortable disclosing my "feelings". But is that encouraged?
I suggest you do it if you really think that your feelings are starting to interfere with therapy. I have a video on “Why you want your therapist,” if you’re interested on the topic. czcams.com/video/5zFj-0juAKg/video.htmlsi=TC7S1QetCrKLa_CX
@@TheChocolateTherapist thank you good Sir, good day!
I have been seeing my therapist for 4 years. He knows me.
I did start thinking sexual about him but I know that he is married and my therapist. Nothing more. I would never act on my past thoughts.
Love the honesty. Therapy is very intimate. I’m sure few know you like your therapist does. It would be hard not to have the occasionally sexual thought in a situation like that.
Anyone who doesn't know how to detach needs supervision and training! You and your wife have great chemistry!
💯
Its interesting because I have a male therapist who has been great. But there's definitely a professional boundry there where I dont know anything about him. This causes me to also have a boundry thats difficult to get around because its hard to share deep issues with someone I dont know. However, I fully understand that this is a healthy and appropriate response from my therapist and I respect it so much. Even so, I feel almost guilty for dumping all of my problems in his lap but never being there to support him. I had a female therapist a few years ago and felt the same way. Im not attracted to my therapist in any way but feel selfish for never talking about their issues...... I guess its good my fucked up ass is in therapy 🤦♀️
I love everything about what you just said Stephanie. It shows how great you are about thinking and caring about others. It's weird to be in a one sided relationship where you are the constant and only focus. None of our relationships are like this, so it should feel unfamiliar. Your guilt is understandable, but try to remind yourself that this is how therapy should be set up, and you're paying for this exact benefit. Check in with your therapist, ask how his day's going and share this guilt with him, and talk explore the topic with him. It might uncover some things. Also, I'm assuming you said the last part in humor (But if not), you sound like you're the furthest thing away from "fucked up."
@@TheChocolateTherapist Thank you for letting me know this is totally normal. I will bring it up because so far, therapy has helped so much. On another note, I love your videos. They've got me cracking up! I look forward to watching your channel grow and the content yet to come. Great job!!
Oh man. I dld have a sexual relationship with my grief counselor. Between the sexting and plans for the future, let me just say, we both ended up heartbroken and an entire mess. I’m back in therapy now since I’m traumatized.
Yeah, I don’t think there can ever be any real winners when a therapist and client start getting intimate. Glad you’re back in therapy, but also sorry about your previous experience. Question. Is the trauma related to how things went with your previous therapist?
Do you have a podcast? Couldn't find one on Pocket casts. Thanks
I don't have a podcast, never thought of starting one.
Great video, and love the bloopers at the end, brilliant!
I have to say though, the overlap with the other video was a bit annoying. Though I also get it's there for completeness?
Yeah, I wrote both videos at the same time so I wasn’t aware they over lapped so much. Also I need to learn how to better edit and be concise. Thanks for the support
@@TheChocolateTherapist I kind of figured and it makes sense to split those too 😃 Your editing is already really impressive, looking forward to what's next in this journey.
Imformative and funny as always, great job! Kudos 💕
Thanks for supporting! Still miss you
Good on you exposing the all too common asshattery
Just trying to do my part.
Going to gay therapists only now
damn fresh ass comment
My depiction of the predatory therapist was a little over the top and hella extra. Trust your judgement tho, if you don’t think you’re safe with a male therapist then may be a gay or female therapist would be best.
True but be careful for undercover wolves
I appreciate you making this video!!!
My pleasure brotha
Love your videos. Keep going guys!!
You already know baby! Love the support. We got a banger coming out tomorrow
This isn’t all that surprising considering how many things are shared in therapy.
I think it goes both ways. Sometimes clients also have those feelings. But everyone usually understands that they’re inappropriate.
Definitely goes both ways. Made a video on “why you want to f*ck your therapist” that explains the other side.
Here 👉🏾 czcams.com/video/5zFj-0juAKg/video.htmlsi=yHw1GqJO13kfKfiV
Literally in the market for a new therapist now then this came up. Now I’m all fucked up
Just keep everything I told you in mind, Trust your judgement, and if you see any of the signs get out. Or maybe get a female therapist?
@@TheChocolateTherapist my therapist was female. So. Yay
You’re solid then
Great job man!
Thanks for always supporting me brotha
Awesome vid
I appreciate it!
Very thoughtful
Do a video about psychiatrists.
Yes
Good job!
Thanks baby!
Good video. Yet, the therapist should not be hugging the client. Nor overly touching. Empathy can be heard through words, no need for touch. The therapist is the professional who sets the boundaries.
I think it's okay to hug your clients, but the therapist has to monitor themselves, and the client. If there is any alterior motive on the therapist part, or feeling that the client is responding in any negative or sexual way then I think the therapist has to discern that hugging should be out of the question. That's me tho
Also thanks for leaving the comment
I have a strange feeling that you had actually done it
That's called acting my friend. I love my wife too much, and I'm too good of a therapist to put one of my clients through that.
@@TheChocolateTherapist You are a good actor then.
Thanks, took it as a compliment.
@TheChocolateTherapist Acting is not easy. It is a compliment. And I do find my therapist attractive as well as most women at work, but will never act on those attractions as it's unprofessional and inappropriate to be this way.
just leaving my comments here as a record to see how fast your channel can grow in a year :D only if CZcams channel is like stock that i can invest in :D You are GOOD
Genuinely, one of the kindest comments I've ever been left. Thank you so much for leaving this message behind. I got back and forth thinking my content is good, and questioning myself when it doesn't perform to my expectations. It's always uplifting when someone shares a positive compliment with me. Thank you
Well- you are cute. I definately couldn’t be your client lol
😂 I appreciate your self-awareness. Also thanks for the compliment.
Say what?!!!
Triggering fr