Off The Record: Do You Really Want Kids or Nah?

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  • čas přidán 12. 09. 2024

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  • @hadesamsa
    @hadesamsa Před 2 lety +140

    15:36 please don't make your oldest girl the third parent unless you wanna be paying for her therapy years down the line lmfao
    source: am oldest girl, is a shitty thing to go thru

    • @seanceknowles2911
      @seanceknowles2911 Před 2 lety +15

      Yes, please guys no parentification. If you never want to have grandchildren and a broken relationship with your kids then no parentification.
      I’m not surprised the brother does that because a lot of men of other cultures think it’s ok to do that.

  • @cocx88
    @cocx88 Před 2 lety +143

    My wife and I've been together for 21 years, married for the last 11 years and both come from big families. Tried on and off for years to get pregnant but was never successful. After many visits to her OB we found out my wife has PCOS. It was especially hard on my wife bc for many years her mother, grandmother and aunts would always ask why dont we have kids yet not knowing that she has a condition, so i always took the hit and became the shitty son-inlaw and said I didn't want any kids just so they would stop asking. I could tell every time they did ask her about having kids, she would die a little inside and become depress bc she knew we both wanted children. Luckily her OB helped us out and was able to balance her hormones and now we're happy parents of a 2 year old boy and a 6 month old girl.

    • @thomaschristopherwhite9043
      @thomaschristopherwhite9043 Před 2 lety +10

      You should've just told them about the condition instead of the weird hollywood lemme pretend it's my fault. What the hell is that?

    • @cocx88
      @cocx88 Před 2 lety +4

      @@thomaschristopherwhite9043 my wife is so prideful to a fault and is seen as the "2nd mom" in her family being the go to daughter for everything her family of 13 needed. I couldn't stand to see her fall deeper into depression bc of the constant nagging from the elders and how difficult pcos made it for us to have children. So it was an ez choice for me, if I had do it all over again, I would without hesitation.

    • @cocx88
      @cocx88 Před 2 lety +1

      @Jasmine my wife was already in her mid-30s when we discovered she had pcos so it made it even more difficult for us. Other couples we knew that had pcos had to go through IVF in order to have children and IVF wasn't much of an option for us as it was very costly in the state we live in.

    • @thomaschristopherwhite9043
      @thomaschristopherwhite9043 Před 2 lety +1

      @@cocx88 I don't mean to be harsh but you and her need to seriously grow up. I can already tell her depression is worsened because both of you lack the ability to stand your ground against her family.

    • @cocx88
      @cocx88 Před 2 lety +2

      @@thomaschristopherwhite9043 didn't know u gonna take it there, I have a great relationship with my inlaws.

  • @lisapineapple
    @lisapineapple Před 2 lety +61

    Me too, Anthony. I’m stuck on the first forever home.

  • @KikoLovesable
    @KikoLovesable Před 2 lety +95

    Couldn't tell if it was all jokes or not but PLEASE don't have kids expecting them to raise their siblings 🤦🏾‍♀️ It's not fair to them nor is it their responsibility. Becoming a parent is one of the most selfish things a person can do (and there's no shade intended with that). Kids don't ASK to be born, someone WANTED them here and made it happen. Kids deserve to have a childhood and be able to enjoy the life they were forced into before they get old learn that everything sucks when you grow up. The moment they're responsible for someone else like that, it takes away from their experience and makes them mature faster than necessary. There's also a chance that it makes them bitter and affects how they raise their future children. If you feel like more than one child will be too much for the ADULTS/PARENTS to handle, PLEASE hire a babysitter/nanny to help with the upbringing or take longer breaks between blasting them out 🙏🏾

    • @L.ATRAFFICNMADNESS
      @L.ATRAFFICNMADNESS Před 2 lety +4

      Great message

    • @alishamcg
      @alishamcg Před 2 lety +7

      I think they were just joking, but I also think younger children do look up to the older (I'm from a family of 5) and natural for the eldest to take care of younger siblings. Of course never to the extent you are talking about, that's more of abuse of power or due to environment of upbringing. Me and brother were never the nanny or parent, but sometimes my older brother was the babysitter. However he was never abused into being the babysitter and it was only occasionally/not long, ex. parents had to run to the store and we didn't all want to go/or we were playing games, or went to the park/play outside. Its okay for children to learn responsibility in different avenues.

    • @ayofrtho7014
      @ayofrtho7014 Před 2 lety

      They're typical men, they're selfish, they KNOW and they don't care. Let's just hope the moms do a good job at raising them so that the eldest don't have to.

    • @seanceknowles2911
      @seanceknowles2911 Před 2 lety +5

      @@alishamcg it’s ok to have an older sister or brother help out overt so often but what Bart mentioned about the brother is definitely parentification and that’s really bad. The parent should always be the first one to step in, it’s their responsibility only.

    • @Keebafu
      @Keebafu Před rokem

      Or at least pay the older kid to babysit so it’s at least mutually beneficial..

  • @hannah8414
    @hannah8414 Před 2 lety +31

    no being the oldest daughter sucks lmao if i do have a girl first definitely not parentifying them bc i firsthand know how it messes you up

  • @m2moon793
    @m2moon793 Před 2 lety +19

    Growing up almost single child (my sibling is 12 years older then me) we didn’t grow up together and I’m always so envious of other kids with sibling. Imagine to have a sibling to go through all stages of life together, someone to lean on, we can’t always talk to our parents, having a sibling is the best to share life with ! I hope you Geo gets pregnant soon, It will only benefit Taika.

    • @lilo638
      @lilo638 Před 2 lety +2

      Eh, not necessarily. For ever story of a good sibling bond there’s the opposite. I was a happy only child until my sister came along when i was 5.

    • @misteryace21
      @misteryace21 Před rokem

      Me & my brother are 8 years apart, we were always fighting but had that sibling love up until he went to uni & has never stayed home. Thank fuck he doesn't stay cuz we didn't develop our relationship to be a close sibling phase, so every time he does come home, we're always fighting with each other

  • @miguelturcios584
    @miguelturcios584 Před 2 lety +140

    PLEASE…have an episode where you guys compliment each other. What you like about one another, especially as men we need to do more of that.

    • @angelicanonato9272
      @angelicanonato9272 Před 2 lety +9

      Lame

    • @bryanquisco6342
      @bryanquisco6342 Před 2 lety +8

      They’ve had. It’s in the Vegas episodes.

    • @ImpureGunner
      @ImpureGunner Před 2 lety

      And then at the end give Miguel the middle finger an say it was fake and continue be was everyone like not what Miguel wants.

  • @alexadiamond4742
    @alexadiamond4742 Před 2 lety +11

    Geo is gonna kick steve's ass!!! LMAOOO he is getting on her 😂😂😂

  • @kiarademoner
    @kiarademoner Před 2 lety +78

    Bart I have been praying for Taika and I hope that the seizures ends and he never gets a seizure again. 🐻♥️

  • @chinoskateboardv
    @chinoskateboardv Před 2 lety +12

    By the time Bart’s next kid is old enough to play with, taika is gonna be in that teenager phase and won’t wanna play with his younger sibling lol

  • @bumtobachelor1908
    @bumtobachelor1908 Před 2 lety +13

    Having Steve and Anthony go in on a joke bring a tears to my eyes

  • @zuhalter0071
    @zuhalter0071 Před 2 lety +16

    I mean, I get having a preference of a boy, but I have a boy and a girl, and I'll be damned if I haven't discovered I like Frozen and dancing! 🤣

  • @FiveSubj3x6
    @FiveSubj3x6 Před rokem

    Joe at 0:58-1:05 lmaoooooooooo hahhahahahhahah

  • @kapuu42
    @kapuu42 Před 2 lety +8

    ay, goodnight bart and geo 🤣🤣

  • @MartyD
    @MartyD Před 2 lety +17

    geriatric geo 💀

  • @Msdeanna.angela
    @Msdeanna.angela Před 2 lety +73

    I think Geo & Bart would have a girl and she would be a breath of fresh air for y’all. 💞 Sometimes it’s not what you want it what you need lol Either way I hope things work out the way it’s supposed to for y’all. Selfishly sprinkling baby dust though ✨

  • @bethnichols2875
    @bethnichols2875 Před 2 lety +8

    I have one son and he is one of the greatest blessings I ever received. As the years have gone by I've come to realize just how much. He helps me in so many ways, even with his grandparents.

  • @BelanceM
    @BelanceM Před 2 lety +5

    Actually men in their 40s are more likely to have kids with complications. So although they are ABLE to have children well into their 60s or 70s but they may have issues.
    The same way women in their 30s are more likely to have kids with complications or may have complications themselves throughout the pregnancy/birth. Another thing, women having children late also increase the chances of having twins. The chances are slightly raised (I think its because theyre usually taking IVF is it's a planned pregnancy.) I'm not even talking about people that have twins run in their family. You could be the first one and it's because of your baby making age lol cool right?
    So yeah, anyways, so when older guys often go for younger women to help give them a child women should do the same because as time goes by their swimmers are slower and your eggs isn't ripe enough to wait up for them. They need the speedy little guys. I had another fun fact to share but it escaped me since I'm watching TV 😅

  • @peni1641
    @peni1641 Před rokem +3

    Should this help anyone's time line, Geriatric pregnancy is having a baby when you're 35 or older.

  • @mablelinchow
    @mablelinchow Před 2 lety +8

    Lol. I was 37 when I gave birth. I was geriatric. Lol. Its 35 yrs and up to be considered geriatric

    • @mmsns2144
      @mmsns2144 Před 2 lety +1

      Yeah geo is soon to be 39

  • @jonahzamora6539
    @jonahzamora6539 Před rokem +1

    6:00 ladies and gentlemen we got him

  • @sxhxlzxb
    @sxhxlzxb Před 2 lety +7

    Only child = Nick can’t be friends w u

  • @neongreenstar101
    @neongreenstar101 Před 2 lety +1

    "goodnight bart and geo" lmaooooo 😂 taika is too cute

  • @margub1
    @margub1 Před 2 lety +7

    Have a kid joe, you have multiple businesses. If you were in India you would’ve had a cricket team already

    • @r.c.7779
      @r.c.7779 Před 2 lety

      You mean if he was an Indian Muslim, regular Indians have two kids like normal people

  • @DemonFox369
    @DemonFox369 Před 2 lety +3

    Finding yourself was definitely a concept. The sexual revolution in America was in the 1960s.

  • @sexybeasttyli
    @sexybeasttyli Před 2 lety +2

    35 and up is geriatric

  • @GoOnDoIt
    @GoOnDoIt Před 2 lety +5

    Would love to have kids one day. But being almost 40, I feel I missed my chance. Can't see myself as a 60yr old when my child is 20

    • @amyf4577
      @amyf4577 Před 2 lety +11

      I just turned 21 and my dad is 70 he had kids later and maybe won’t be in my life for the longest as others but he’s the best dad I could ever ask for

    • @evavox9761
      @evavox9761 Před 2 lety

      @@amyf4577 Thanks for the this! I've been feeling the same way.

    • @kaninchenhupfen2300
      @kaninchenhupfen2300 Před 2 lety +3

      Huh, my dad is 70 and I’m 26. I think you’re overthinking it.

  • @sidesideful
    @sidesideful Před 2 lety +6

    This whole team need to have sons. Can't imagine any of them, especially Bart being a girl dad. But, I can imagine Steve and Anthony being girl dads xD. Idk why.

  • @marrz8244
    @marrz8244 Před 2 lety +2

    Fing 😂 hilarious

  • @katherinep708
    @katherinep708 Před 2 lety +3

    Steve shouldn't have any kid, man. I've seen him talk about kids in the previous videos.. he shouldn't have kids.

  • @julietaverdejo510
    @julietaverdejo510 Před 2 lety +2

    so Joe's inspiration as a father is Nick Cannon???

  • @johnnykue379
    @johnnykue379 Před 2 lety +5

    Can ya bring Bobby on please!!!

  • @dikigurung2222
    @dikigurung2222 Před 2 lety

    Bart is so effortlessly funny

  • @6ixnThr33
    @6ixnThr33 Před rokem +1

    I have 6 brothers & im the only girl and middle child , both blessing & curse 🤷‍♀️😊.. I see the diff dynamics of the older brothers and my dimwit younger brothers, love them all to bits none the less though.

  • @goku270ljr2
    @goku270ljr2 Před 2 lety +6

    To be honest I wish I was the only child. I was so angry when my mom popped out a brother and sister for me

  • @LaddRusso91
    @LaddRusso91 Před rokem

    Collin E. Jitsukawa haha

  • @MichelleLuvsYa105
    @MichelleLuvsYa105 Před rokem

    my only child cousin is late to everything and not just a little late, its to the point where its just not considerate lol

  • @nahalrouge9415
    @nahalrouge9415 Před 4 měsíci

    As a brit I'm cryinggggg🤣 you guys are so basic ❤

  • @simoliz03
    @simoliz03 Před 2 lety +2

    Taika needs a little brother or sister to play with! 🤗

  • @quackkuryu4680
    @quackkuryu4680 Před 2 lety +5

    wait how old is Geo?

    • @jachcoff
      @jachcoff Před 2 lety +4

      A geode (/ˈdʒiːoʊd/; from Ancient Greek γεώδης (geṓdēs) 'earthlike') is a geological secondary formation within sedimentary and volcanic rocks. Geodes are hollow, vaguely spherical rocks, in which masses of mineral matter (which may include crystals) are secluded. The crystals are formed by the filling of vesicles in volcanic and sub-volcanic rocks by minerals deposited from hydrothermal fluids; or by the dissolution of syn-genetic concretions and partial filling by the same, or other, minerals precipitated from water, groundwater or hydrothermal fluids.
      aka ancient

    • @jonasp1355
      @jonasp1355 Před 2 lety +5

      She will be 39 in october

    • @-HazexD
      @-HazexD Před 2 lety +1

      @@jonasp1355 I don't think thats right xD

    • @Mytube777
      @Mytube777 Před 2 lety +4

      @@jachcoff
      She looks good. It’s not the number but the look.

    • @jonasp1355
      @jonasp1355 Před 2 lety +1

      @@-HazexD Well you think wrong...

  • @lajsdrjfgosd2357
    @lajsdrjfgosd2357 Před rokem

    At 2:30 you’re referring to what’s called “ parentfication” and it’s not a good thing

  • @Mytube777
    @Mytube777 Před 2 lety +4

    I didn’t and I’m just fine.

  • @kimberlydiaz6016
    @kimberlydiaz6016 Před 2 lety +4

    I think they wanted another one after Tiff and Casey announced their pregnancy.

  • @jonasgomezgallardo1342
    @jonasgomezgallardo1342 Před 2 lety +1

    Joe kid won’t have citizenship in the US😳

  • @borregoayudando1481
    @borregoayudando1481 Před 2 lety

    holup, is anyone gonna address the coyote tan chest rig Jo is wearing? what's that about? are chest rigs urban trendy yet?

  • @PlayShorts3
    @PlayShorts3 Před 2 lety

    How come we've never met Joe's brother? Is he alive? I've heard Joe mention him a few times.

  • @Coolmist_
    @Coolmist_ Před rokem

    Sounds like Bart wants the Tate btothers not Diaz😂

  • @unit03
    @unit03 Před 2 lety

    bruh im younger than these guys but not much but i feel so geriatric rn

  • @tinabeee7350
    @tinabeee7350 Před rokem +2

    I understand where Nick is coming from, but kids have their own interests and their own personalities. If you push them into an activity, they may have zero interest or may come to resent you for it. Preconceived notions about parenting go out the window once you actually have a child.

  • @ChrisytinaaCoffee
    @ChrisytinaaCoffee Před 2 lety +3

    That’s gonna be a no from me dawg

  • @JV-bc8um
    @JV-bc8um Před 2 lety +3

    I'm pregnant with my first and I don't want to have any. I'm doing OK right now but I rather have the child free life.

    • @r.c.7779
      @r.c.7779 Před 2 lety +2

      So are you gonna get rid of it?

    • @JV-bc8um
      @JV-bc8um Před 2 lety +3

      @@r.c.7779 no, I'm going through with it for my husband since he's always wanted kids. He was ok with whichever decision I would have taken. His support has been a great help in keeping me calm and not so panici

    • @ccchantel
      @ccchantel Před 2 lety +3

      @@JV-bc8um that’s sweet, you have a good husband

  • @viviangod_win
    @viviangod_win Před 10 měsíci

    Who wants to tell them about sperm count and all the defects old man sperm can cause 😶

  • @theSUBVERSIVE
    @theSUBVERSIVE Před 2 lety +1

    "practically a fossil..."

  • @reapinthebenefit56
    @reapinthebenefit56 Před 2 lety

    U should jus b a baker 😂😂😂😂😂

  • @CuongChanster
    @CuongChanster Před 2 lety +1

    Need more jk babies!

  • @Sorcerery101
    @Sorcerery101 Před 2 lety +8

    Not first

  • @homemadecustoms2411
    @homemadecustoms2411 Před 2 lety

    👏👏👏

  • @igotthemunchies7292
    @igotthemunchies7292 Před 2 lety +1

    No my sister has five and she is miserable

  • @lisapineapple
    @lisapineapple Před 2 lety +1

    Ya… Joe doesn’t need to have kids.

  • @Raptors19tdot
    @Raptors19tdot Před 2 lety

    jk is not over JUST BRING IN GIRLS like back then will bring in more VIEWS

  • @TheDraco175
    @TheDraco175 Před 2 lety +1

    Please get rid of Ryan.

  • @TurmyHD
    @TurmyHD Před 2 lety +1

    Damn y’all fell off hard