In November of 2023, I made changes to my hair care because t appeared that I was suffering from Female pattern baldness, which my mother had also. I followed more of a scientific approach and one of the practices that I stopped immediately was using a comb and brush. After watching young girls and grown women on you tube brush their hair, hold the bolus of supposed shred hair in their hand and call it normal, shook me to my core! Then sometime later had to cut six or more inches of their hair and start from scratch because they destroyed their hair! They gave every excuse in the book, except the prime reason that was staring them in the face: the over manipulation of their hair!! Did you know that in Victorian times that women did not wash their hair even once a week and were know known to only finger detangle along with other low manipulation practices! They had hair down to their hips. This is not a coincidence. Since I have stopped using mechanical means on my hair, I have added four inches of growth, and my hair is much healthier. I believe that you are on the correct path. I wish you much success with your journey!
Your hair style is EATING right now! So beautiful! I'm definitely considering ditching combs and brushes. I just have such a tight coil pattern that I'm unable to get ALL the tangles out (although, one could argue that with tightly coiled hair, should tangle-free be a goal?). However, I love finger detangling. I usually do it before going in with a brush or detangling comb (which a comb only touches my hair every 2-3 months). This was helpful! You look ravishing too!
Hello and thank you Coily Code, love the name. You make a great point. I was listening to Precious Fro and she too has stopped using detangling tools. But what she was saying even with the finger detangling she detangles her hair for what is needed for the desired hairstyle or look.
@CoilyCode. I think if you started strictly finger detangling, you’ll see your hair increase in thickness. At least that was my experience. You’ll also develop a better knowing and appreciation for your hair, not to say you don’t now. It’s just a bit more intimate. It sounds weird but it’s true. I haven’t used a comb in almost 8 months, and my hair is thriving. I just don’t see myself using a comb again, except to make a part. 😅
I'm so glad you've had success with letting go of the tangling tools ❤ Yes, I would be interested in hearing your thoughts on perfectionism with natural hair. I stopped trying to make my hair look 'perfect.' I cannot and do not want to slick my hair down every day. I cannot get on this laid baby hairs thing. My hair is perfect once I've left a hairdressers. My hair is pretty when I do it myself. My hair can also be messy if I just do not have the time. My hair reflects a real person. I think some may feel their natural hair has to be perfect at all times to be acceptable. I feel these same folks wouldn't have this condition on straight hair because however that comes, it'll always be good. Thanks for the update x
Hello Cherelle. Funny you ask this I was actually thinking about making a video about this titled " Is perfection ruining your natural hair," but I did not know if anyone would be interested. New trends and processes are popping up on my feed in search if the prefect curl. As I have said before the beauty in natural hair is imperfection.
Can you please do a video on how you revair your hair without detangling tools. Thank you for all of your information, it’s so helpful. You look beautiful!
Hey Mya, yes I love your update and your question about perfectionism and natural hair. In my opinion the idea of having perfectly styled natural hair May have carried over from the expectations set from the relaxed days and going to the salon. I mean we’ve seen perfectly curled pixie cuts and versions of styles on those 12 x 12 posters at the hair dresser for us to choose from. Those styles were perfectly executed so everyone knew when you have a good hairdresser. There were more examples of how relaxed hair can be styled so there was more of a standard or goal and there more trained professionals who could handle relaxed hair. But when it comes to natural hair there are Silkpressers, Locticians, braiders, cornrowers, hairstylists who can do a wash and go twist out, but not as many persons capable of styling I don’t know how describe it, but like how you wear your hair. Open hair and shaping it? Like persons who can sculpt a style from the Afro state or a twist out maybe? So I realized that I set the standard, I am setting the standard on how our hair can be worn from special occasions back down to every day. I also learnt and am learning how to have reasonable expectations for the outcome of a style, because who’s to say my style isn’t perfect? It’s the first time I’m seeing it on natural hair 😂 and the other person as well lol 😂 if I had wanted to tuck a curl here and it didn’t want to go there today well alright, imma just work with it so looks good lol. Your hairstyles really inspire me too and am taking notes on this one❤
Hi Mya. I have to say that having good trimmed ends contribute to successful finger detangling. I too find personal hair care therapeutic. I look forward to seeing your method of finger detangling and your different maneuvers, esp using the praying hands method. Your Chebe journey has been truly fascinating...esp with the reduction in shedding and breakage. As of now (on wash day) I am doing a combination of finger detangling and using the wet brush, however when refreshing I just finger detangle. Beautiful hair style! 💗
Hey MJ and thank you! So far I am loving the finger detangling. It does take longer but you already know, I pop in one of my favorite shows and just go for it. I am glad you have a method on wash day that is working for you.
3 months! Great Job!!have been hair tool free for 6 years. Natural hair can be time consuming when it comes to not using hair tools. Keep up the good work.
Great update. I wonder if you have heard of this trend for women to keep their hair in protective styles for 6-9 months. Personally its definitely not for me and I am just very surprised its a thing.
Yes I have seen and heard of it. One young lady was doing a series about styling her hair for 90 days past the time she was supposed to wash her hair. To each is own, but if someone is looking for better health for their hair this is the not route I would go.
Glad to hear that it's working so well for you! Do you still use combs/brushes at all when it's in a straightened state? Good topic for a video! I think so. We have to accept that it's okay to not be done up at all times. I saw another video from somebody that was saying something along the lines of "black women are the only culture that wears special occasion hair as an everyday style." Also you look lovely in this vid. Hair and face card on point!
Hello Bion and thank you! When I stretch my hair with the Rev-air on the cool setting I have stopped using detangling tools as well. When I straighten my hair in 2025 after this chebe journey I will then! You are the second person in the community to mention perfection and natural hair. I was thinking of doing a video but was not sure if anyone was interested.
Its also black women just like extravagance. It's not always 'inadequence'. I also observed the *belief* that hair must be perfect, comes from girlies still learning their hair or new naturals.
I had bought the Unbrush to see what the hype was about and literally have used it once MAYBE twice this entire year and before that I had use a paddle brush to detangle when I didn’t have the time to properly detangle. But finger detangling for my fine strands is the best option. I don’t really my hair out anymore (haven’t since 2020 - I work in hospitals) it’s always twisted, braided or wrapped up.
I bought the Unbrush, used it once, I did not like it. I mainly wear my up as well, especially with the chebe journey. So far I am loving the finger detangling, I have noticed any matting or excessive tangling.
So far I am loving the finger detangling. I will definitely continue for the rest of the year. And then next year I may just do a slight detangle with a comb on wash day and that be it.
I’m getting ready to try this. I have very thin And kinky strands. I’ve found women with hair like mine down their backs and they all say they don’t use detangling tools, so I will say the proof is there. I just wonder how it’ll be with my hair being shorter. I like to wear twist outs too. This will be a learning curve. I’m nervous lol. Unfortunately I like a certain look for my hair, if it’s not perfect my day is ruined….trying to get out of that
Hey Kelsie! I am curious to see how I am doing with the no detangling tools at the 6 month mark. I hope you will be able to get out of that , there is beauty in imperfection.
I do believe trying to have perfect hair everyday can ruin hair. It leads to over manipulation which can ruin hair, more so for kinky curly hair as it is more fragile
Hello! My updated wash day : czcams.com/video/iHGAWjfzBCc/video.html Chebe powder application - czcams.com/video/KEP3fr96VJs/video.html I have not done a video for finger detangling , but I am washing my hair Monday!
When doing research this is what you will mainly find when people talk about or report about the benefits of chebe. "The primary benefit when using chebe seed on your hair is its use to reconstruct and strengthen the bond and shaft of your hair strands. It supplies your hair with intense moisture and improves elasticity. Another benefit is that it nourishes and hydrates your follicles, so there is little to no breakage." source prettywellbeauty.com/blogs/supernatural/chebe-seed-and-the-benefits-for-growing-longer-stronger-hair#:~:text=The%20primary%20benefit%20when%20using,is%20little%20to%20no%20breakage. For myself, I find these claims to be true. When I started using chebe the first thing I noticed was the lack of shedding. People have also reported back to me that they have seen a reduction in shedding as well. My hair is moist moisturized which aids in less breakage so I can retain length. I have found my hair to be stronger, which leads to less breakage and is allowing all of my strands to grow which in turn is leading to thicker hair. Ultimately, you must find what works for you, your hair, and your lifestyle. Everything product, every process, and every routine does not work for every person. As of right now chebe is working for me and I plan to use it for the foreseeable future.
@@KlassicallyKept thank you for this detailed response. So from what you’ve shared, it seems to be more of a length retention thing due to the fact that the hair is very moisturised and is not breaking/shedding as much. I’ve had the powder for a while but been a little confused with the contradicting info out there. Some say put it on your scalp, others say don’t 😅. I plan to infuse it in a thick oil and use it as a sealant. That oil is currently infused with Amla but I will add the Chebe to it and see how it goes. I’d try the powder mixed with leave in but I’m scared of it touching my scalp and causing itching. Thanks for sharing your journey 💕
Perfection(including hair)will only be a state given to those who are righteous living in paradise on earth under heavenly kingdom rule coming at any time now (Psalms 37:11,29; Matt 24:3,14,42,44; Rev 21:4-6) There is beauty in our imperfect state right now as well and those who choose to have the well put together aesthetic so be it. Those who choose not to have that particular aesthetic so be it. Jehovah God gave His human creation freedom to choose and that's what matters most. (Psalm 83:18; John 17:3;2 Cor 3:17:Rom 12:2) Looking quite spiffy as always,Mrs Mya 😁 Thanks for sharing. 🙏🏽💐💜😀
How can you get a silky and smooth twist or braid without smoothing it out with a brush or comb? Wash,condition and do a twist out without a comb? I wish I could do it. Because I take out to much hair when I detangle my hair! 😞😂
I am not a wash and go girlie or twist/braid out girlie. I mainly keep my hair in mini and jumbo twists. I also and not worried about smooth twists or braids or rather that is not my goal.
Hello Joy! I do not do many hairstyles that require a detangling tool. I would say for 2023 I was stretching my hair with the Rev-air on the cool setting and installing jumbo twists. When I would add my product and twist my hair was not detangled.
I love love love this hairstyle. Would you do a video on it?
@@ev6564 thank you! Yes I can
I think the video about perfection possibly ruining our natural hair would be an interesting watch!
okay great !
I tried to make my hair ‘perfect’ by using different treatments and my hair fell out. I learned that I need to appreciate my hair.
I would agree!
In November of 2023, I made changes to my hair care because t appeared that I was suffering from Female pattern baldness, which my mother had also. I followed more of a scientific approach and one of the practices that I stopped immediately was using a comb and brush. After watching young girls and grown women on you tube brush their hair, hold the bolus of supposed shred hair in their hand and call it normal, shook me to my core! Then sometime later had to cut six or more inches of their hair and start from scratch because they destroyed their hair! They gave every excuse in the book, except the prime reason that was staring them in the face: the over manipulation of their hair!! Did you know that in Victorian times that women did not wash their hair even once a week and were know known to only finger detangle along with other low manipulation practices! They had hair down to their hips. This is not a coincidence. Since I have stopped using mechanical means on my hair, I have added four inches of growth, and my hair is much healthier. I believe that you are on the correct path. I wish you much success with your journey!
Interesting…I may have to do this too. Thanks
Your hair style is EATING right now! So beautiful! I'm definitely considering ditching combs and brushes. I just have such a tight coil pattern that I'm unable to get ALL the tangles out (although, one could argue that with tightly coiled hair, should tangle-free be a goal?). However, I love finger detangling. I usually do it before going in with a brush or detangling comb (which a comb only touches my hair every 2-3 months). This was helpful! You look ravishing too!
Hello and thank you Coily Code, love the name.
You make a great point. I was listening to Precious Fro and she too has stopped using detangling tools. But what she was saying even with the finger detangling she detangles her hair for what is needed for the desired hairstyle or look.
@CoilyCode. I think if you started strictly finger detangling, you’ll see your hair increase in thickness. At least that was my experience. You’ll also develop a better knowing and appreciation for your hair, not to say you don’t now. It’s just a bit more intimate. It sounds weird but it’s true. I haven’t used a comb in almost 8 months, and my hair is thriving. I just don’t see myself using a comb again, except to make a part. 😅
I'm so glad you've had success with letting go of the tangling tools ❤
Yes, I would be interested in hearing your thoughts on perfectionism with natural hair. I stopped trying to make my hair look 'perfect.'
I cannot and do not want to slick my hair down every day. I cannot get on this laid baby hairs thing. My hair is perfect once I've left a hairdressers. My hair is pretty when I do it myself. My hair can also be messy if I just do not have the time. My hair reflects a real person.
I think some may feel their natural hair has to be perfect at all times to be acceptable. I feel these same folks wouldn't have this condition on straight hair because however that comes, it'll always be good.
Thanks for the update x
Hello Cherelle.
Funny you ask this I was actually thinking about making a video about this titled " Is perfection ruining your natural hair," but I did not know if anyone would be interested.
New trends and processes are popping up on my feed in search if the prefect curl.
As I have said before the beauty in natural hair is imperfection.
@@KlassicallyKept 100% agree girl X look forward to watching your video on the matter ❤️
Can you please do a video on how you revair your hair without detangling tools. Thank you for all of your information, it’s so helpful. You look beautiful!
Thank you and yes I can
Yes, finger detangling takes more time but its worth it😊
I'm glad i found that method since I'm tenderheaded 😂
It is worth it
Hey Mya, yes I love your update and your question about perfectionism and natural hair.
In my opinion the idea of having perfectly styled natural hair May have carried over from the expectations set from the relaxed days and going to the salon. I mean we’ve seen perfectly curled pixie cuts and versions of styles on those 12 x 12 posters at the hair dresser for us to choose from. Those styles were perfectly executed so everyone knew when you have a good hairdresser. There were more examples of how relaxed hair can be styled so there was more of a standard or goal and there more trained professionals who could handle relaxed hair.
But when it comes to natural hair there are Silkpressers, Locticians, braiders, cornrowers, hairstylists who can do a wash and go twist out, but not as many persons capable of styling I don’t know how describe it, but like how you wear your hair. Open hair and shaping it? Like persons who can sculpt a style from the Afro state or a twist out maybe?
So I realized that I set the standard, I am setting the standard on how our hair can be worn from special occasions back down to every day. I also learnt and am learning how to have reasonable expectations for the outcome of a style, because who’s to say my style isn’t perfect? It’s the first time I’m seeing it on natural hair 😂 and the other person as well lol 😂 if I had wanted to tuck a curl here and it didn’t want to go there today well alright, imma just work with it so looks good lol. Your hairstyles really inspire me too and am taking notes on this one❤
Hi Mya. I have to say that having good trimmed ends contribute to successful finger detangling. I too find personal hair care therapeutic. I look forward to seeing your method of finger detangling and your different maneuvers, esp using the praying hands method. Your Chebe journey has been truly fascinating...esp with the reduction in shedding and breakage. As of now (on wash day) I am doing a combination of finger detangling and using the wet brush, however when refreshing I just finger detangle. Beautiful hair style! 💗
Hey MJ and thank you!
So far I am loving the finger detangling. It does take longer but you already know, I pop in one of my favorite shows and just go for it.
I am glad you have a method on wash day that is working for you.
3 months! Great Job!!have been hair tool free for 6 years. Natural hair can be time consuming when it comes to not using hair tools. Keep up the good work.
It does take longer, but I love doing my hair!
This and a royal crown wrapping your hair in one direction, looks great on you ❣️✌️👍
thank you
Your hair is sooooooooooo pretty!!! Stunning ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
thank you
Great update. I wonder if you have heard of this trend for women to keep their hair in protective styles for 6-9 months. Personally its definitely not for me and I am just very surprised its a thing.
Do they not....wash their hair during that time? 😅
@@no.6377 Some do but you know you can't wash your hair thoroughly in braids.
Yes I have seen and heard of it.
One young lady was doing a series about styling her hair for 90 days past the time she was supposed to wash her hair. To each is own, but if someone is looking for better health for their hair this is the not route I would go.
Some of them do some of them do not. I am of the opinion like Living In The Shade you cannot thoroughly cleanse your hair in braids.
@@KlassicallyKept I definitely agree with you.
I don’t use combs on my 4c but my hands always
I am loving the finger detangling
Good Morning Mya❤️. Will you do a tutorial on your comb free detangling process? Love, Cathy
Hello Cathy! Yes I will
Glad to hear that it's working so well for you! Do you still use combs/brushes at all when it's in a straightened state?
Good topic for a video! I think so. We have to accept that it's okay to not be done up at all times. I saw another video from somebody that was saying something along the lines of "black women are the only culture that wears special occasion hair as an everyday style."
Also you look lovely in this vid. Hair and face card on point!
Hello Bion and thank you!
When I stretch my hair with the Rev-air on the cool setting I have stopped using detangling tools as well.
When I straighten my hair in 2025 after this chebe journey I will then!
You are the second person in the community to mention perfection and natural hair. I was thinking of doing a video but was not sure if anyone was interested.
Please do!
Its also black women just like extravagance. It's not always 'inadequence'.
I also observed the *belief* that hair must be perfect, comes from girlies still learning their hair or new naturals.
Hello Mya , I never used a tangle teaser. I do use a wide tooth comb . Thanks for sharing.💜
@@patriciajenkins9458 of course ! Happy Sunday
I had bought the Unbrush to see what the hype was about and literally have used it once MAYBE twice this entire year and before that I had use a paddle brush to detangle when I didn’t have the time to properly detangle. But finger detangling for my fine strands is the best option. I don’t really my hair out anymore (haven’t since 2020 - I work in hospitals) it’s always twisted, braided or wrapped up.
I bought the Unbrush, used it once, I did not like it.
I mainly wear my up as well, especially with the chebe journey.
So far I am loving the finger detangling, I have noticed any matting or excessive tangling.
Re: the last question, I believe people’s obsession with perfectly slick edges has led to an epidemic of many ruined hairlines.
That and these wigs !
I haven't used a comb or brush in years. Tender headed, and I hate to catch a tangle and make it worse with a comb or brush.
So far I am loving the finger detangling.
I will definitely continue for the rest of the year.
And then next year I may just do a slight detangle with a comb on wash day and that be it.
I’m getting ready to try this. I have very thin And kinky strands. I’ve found women with hair like mine down their backs and they all say they don’t use detangling tools, so I will say the proof is there. I just wonder how it’ll be with my hair being shorter. I like to wear twist outs too. This will be a learning curve. I’m nervous lol. Unfortunately I like a certain look for my hair, if it’s not perfect my day is ruined….trying to get out of that
Hey Kelsie!
I am curious to see how I am doing with the no detangling tools at the 6 month mark.
I hope you will be able to get out of that , there is beauty in imperfection.
I do believe trying to have perfect hair everyday can ruin hair. It leads to over manipulation which can ruin hair, more so for kinky curly hair as it is more fragile
Yes! I find when I leave my hair alone , it thrives !
I too stopped using combs and brushes at the end of last year since I started my new hair journey last January from a shaved cut.
So far I am loving it.
I am excited for the next 3 months.
I hope you have great success as well.
I’ve also learned this summer that I cannot go more than 2 weeks with mini twists. My roots will start locking 😩
2 weeks is my limit.
2.5 and 3 weeks is a no go
Thank you for sharing ♥️ Your hair is beautiful!
thank you
Wow i might try this. Can you do an updated wash day routine with chebe and finger detangling?❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Hello!
My updated wash day : czcams.com/video/iHGAWjfzBCc/video.html
Chebe powder application - czcams.com/video/KEP3fr96VJs/video.html
I have not done a video for finger detangling , but I am washing my hair Monday!
How does Chebe reduce shedding when it’s not applied to the scalp? Really interested to know. Thanks
When doing research this is what you will mainly find when people talk about or report about the benefits of chebe.
"The primary benefit when using chebe seed on your hair is its use to reconstruct and strengthen the bond and shaft of your hair strands. It supplies your hair with intense moisture and improves elasticity. Another benefit is that it nourishes and hydrates your follicles, so there is little to no breakage."
source prettywellbeauty.com/blogs/supernatural/chebe-seed-and-the-benefits-for-growing-longer-stronger-hair#:~:text=The%20primary%20benefit%20when%20using,is%20little%20to%20no%20breakage.
For myself, I find these claims to be true.
When I started using chebe the first thing I noticed was the lack of shedding. People have also reported back to me that they have seen a reduction in shedding as well.
My hair is moist moisturized which aids in less breakage so I can retain length.
I have found my hair to be stronger, which leads to less breakage and is allowing all of my strands to grow which in turn is leading to thicker hair.
Ultimately, you must find what works for you, your hair, and your lifestyle. Everything product, every process, and every routine does not work for every person. As of right now chebe is working for me and I plan to use it for the foreseeable future.
@@KlassicallyKept thank you for this detailed response. So from what you’ve shared, it seems to be more of a length retention thing due to the fact that the hair is very moisturised and is not breaking/shedding as much. I’ve had the powder for a while but been a little confused with the contradicting info out there. Some say put it on your scalp, others say don’t 😅. I plan to infuse it in a thick oil and use it as a sealant. That oil is currently infused with Amla but I will add the Chebe to it and see how it goes. I’d try the powder mixed with leave in but I’m scared of it touching my scalp and causing itching. Thanks for sharing your journey 💕
Great video!!! Do you have an affiliate link for the chebe grease you use?
@@iSing757 Good morning! I do.
I buy the Chebe grease from Odara Naturals now Dara Bodyworks. Use code MYA10 for 10% off your purchase
@@KlassicallyKept thank you! Also have updated any other parts of your hair care regimen such as shampoo or conditioner?
@@iSing757 No, everything is still the same !
Perfection(including hair)will only be a state given to those who are righteous living in paradise on earth under heavenly kingdom rule coming at any time now (Psalms 37:11,29; Matt 24:3,14,42,44; Rev 21:4-6)
There is beauty in our imperfect state right now as well and those who choose to have the well put together aesthetic so be it. Those who choose not to have that particular aesthetic so be it. Jehovah God gave His human creation freedom to choose and that's what matters most. (Psalm 83:18; John 17:3;2 Cor 3:17:Rom 12:2)
Looking quite spiffy as always,Mrs Mya 😁
Thanks for sharing.
🙏🏽💐💜😀
Thank you!
The beauty in natural hair is imperfection!
How can you get a silky and smooth twist or braid without smoothing it out with a brush or comb? Wash,condition and do a twist out without a comb?
I wish I could do it. Because I take out to much hair when I detangle my hair! 😞😂
I am not a wash and go girlie or twist/braid out girlie. I mainly keep my hair in mini and jumbo twists.
I also and not worried about smooth twists or braids or rather that is not my goal.
When you were using the Chebe how did you protect your pillows and bedding from the oil ???
Scarves lot of scarves lol
and you jut wash the pillow cases.
Lol okay that’s my biggest problem thanks for replying
On the occasion that you do a hair style that requires a detangling tool, do you feel the amount of shed hair you get is normal or excessive?
Hello Joy!
I do not do many hairstyles that require a detangling tool.
I would say for 2023 I was stretching my hair with the Rev-air on the cool setting and installing jumbo twists. When I would add my product and twist my hair was not detangled.
How does the chebe grease smell? Do you think it would be good with mini twists?
The chebe grease that I use smells like lemon grass. Yes you can use it for mini twists
You are saying you do not shed any hair? So, why do dermatologists say that we shed at least 150 strands of hair a day.
Hello.
Never said that. I said my shedding has been greatly reduced.
What is the actual reason for not using tools?
Reduce breakage, retain more length