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THAT is not TRUE, Beyonce, have two sisters that made-up Destiny, So, she NEVER needs to reinvent herself. Has the group become Famous they breakup then she hook-up with J-z,
Omg I did this YEARS ago when I quit smoking! I had tried to quit dozens of times and it never stuck. The last time I quit, I decided to call myself a non-smoker, rather than an ex-smoker. My theory was that a non smoker would NEVER be tempted by a cigarette, but an ex smoker would always be tempted on some level. And it was still really REALLY hard to quit, but whenever someone was smoking around me or offering me a cigarette, I told myself I was a non smoker, therfore obviously I didn't want a cigarette. 😊
@@JillzGuerin I love it! I'm doing that right now. I feel like there are two versions of me- one that sits on the couch and eats Doordash and feels greasy and sluggish, and the other one who LOVES exercising and doing intermittent fasting and feels AMAZING! And there is LITERALLY no overlap between the two. So I'm just focusing on how good it feels to be healthy and strong, and the extra weight is just MELTING off me with NO effort!! 😁
I love this and I'm totally trying it! I was the "old me" yesterday and ordered a huge pasta from Ubereats and felt like shit all day, today I was "Skye" and just had 1 healthy meal and fasted.😮
Allen carr has a book called easy way to quit smoking. That’s how I quit smoking. He mentioned in the book exactly what you just said. Remember back when you were a non smoker, you never needed a cig or was tempted. It was only after you smoked your first then you got the craving to want to smoke over and over
Yesss🙌 The best advice I was ever told is don't ask "how can I do this" ask "who do I need to become to be able to do this". I have used this idea throughout my life in many ways; to start taking better care of my fitness, overcome shyness with men and alleviate social anxiety. I don't ask "how?" I ask "who?"... and it works!
You know what, I just realized something - I think this is why I enjoy traveling so much, especially on my own. I tap into my confident, mysterious alter ego and imagine everyone I meet perceives me in that way… Edit: guys. I took it too far... a friend I met abroad just told me her husband thinks I might be a CIA agent 💀
Giiiirl you sound like my soul sister ☺️ cause I absolutely LOVE traveling solo, living in other countries and learning languages!! I realized this a while back, but it clicked again while watching this video… When I speak Spanish / French, I go by Raquel / Rachelle. I become that culturally personified character as a natural way of identifying as a Spanish or French speaker. Connecting these dots also made me realize how much I adore acting, which is in essence, creating and identifying with an alter ego 😎🙌
I LOVE this idea!!!! When I’m in a really bad rut of depression and lack of motivation, I’ll summon my alter ego “Shamaya” ..She’s a bad ass woman who keeps her house clean, handles her business, gets her to do lists done and works out. It helps so much after a week and then I slowly adapt those changes into a routine. I even made a Pinterest board for motivation as “Shamaya.” Nothing weird about it. Whatever we can do to lift our spirits!!!
When I played Dungeons and Dragons, I accidentally created the highest version of myself in the form of a character I created. She was very feminine and sexual (bards ya know) but she also was self sacrificing and heroic - dying for her friends. I started torealize there were things I could do as Kassandra that I didn't feel comfortable doing as Justina. I had a broken sense of my self as a woman, and Kassandra did not. What really hit home for me was when I went to the store and kept looking at pretty clothes saying "Oh! This is SO Kassandra!" What I meant was... I really like this pretty thing! But it wasn't Ok for ME to like, but for Kassandra it was. Now, I'm a couple years removed from playing that character in game, but rather embodying womanhood for myself and tapping into my feminine energy because of what I realized playing that character in game.
@Justina Anderson. That is pretty cool 😎. I’m a D&D DM (playing the game off & on since 1980). What you say is quite true: the game enables a person to “assume a new persona” that is quite different than their “real world” self. This ability (and practice) of creativity/imagination enables a person to mentally “displace” themself from their current real-life circumstances and think of other ways to behave, react, and problem solve (and not face real life, potential non-acceptance or other repercussions). Taken further, honing this skill enables a person to then naturally become more creatively imaginative in dealing with real-life situations/challenges, whether internal or external. Here’s wishing you a “natural 20” roll on your next saving throw! 🍻 😊
Yessss. Reminds me a lot of how in middle school I was super depressed and had a low self esteem so I played RuneScape all the time… I lived vicariously through my character in the game. 🙂 Autumnflurry was super popular, outgoing, had boundaries, self worth, confidence, etc… Everything I didn’t have in my life back then. Now I feel like I embody those things as a grown woman 🥰 But that past self definitely helped mold me into the person I am today as I started to realize I could be those things IRL. 💕
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my CZcams channel 2 months ago about self development. Now I have 141 subs and almost 75 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I couldn’t have learned without getting started in the 1st place.
@@alittlebitofmary Whoever you are, I don't know you personally but I can say that you're one of the non-judgmental and open-minded people who is not fixated on tangible or external factors in order to learn from someone like me. Just because someone doesn't have a piece of paper as a credential, doesn't mean that person is not entitled to share personal experiences with the hope & intention to inspire others. Keep up with whatever it is that you're doing to improve mankind or improving your life even to a slight degree each day. This is just one part of a bigger puzzle for creating my CZcams channel about holistic health. I literally could have died back when I was 14 years old due to major depression but here I am right now replying to you, a CZcamsr, who's full of fulfillment and dedication to help others to be a better version of themselves. I ain't better than anyone else but my old self. That's all that really makes this CZcams thing more meaningful and enjoyable. Thanks so much for your support! I am hoping that you can join me with this endless personal development journey! :)
Last fall I took language classes in Spain and noticed that I was a different person when I spoke in Spanish, in a way Spanish helped me see the world differently, to think differently and to even build a whole new set of mannerisms. I’ve been thinking of moving to Spain ever since and I guess I liked that version of myself!
I had that when I was learning English! I ended up moving for a study program in English just to feel like that more often. But now that I've been speaking it for 10+ years I feel like I contaminated my English with my insecurities. Time to learn a new language I guess.
Whenever I'm in a rut, or feeling lazy, or incompetent, I pretend I'm Amal Clooney (someone I think has it all together all of the time, and plus I love her personal style). Doing that puts me in a completely different state of mind and I'm able to do whatever I need to get done and feel good about myself too
If you think about it, accepting to live our lives with our insecure and broken selves is way crazier than embracing a new perspective of who we are and act in accordance to that new version of ourselves.
But why embrace something that has been essentially manufactured by your internal monologue when it’s that monologue which is broken not you? Embracing something which damages or hurts you makes no sense.
We are just unlocking our full potential by “tricking our brains”. It is still us achieving these goals, and the more we provide evidence to ourselves that we are capable of these things, the less we need the alter ego.
This is like killing off your old self, to shift to your ideal life, I've heard it working before, changing your name/alter ego just makes it work better ❤
Ive been doing this for a few years now at work! If it weren’t for my alter ego persona idk if I would even have a job. She goes by my middle name. Super feminine and gets things done! And she always wears green for some reason. I get kind of misty eyed thinking I have to do this to stay employed, but I’m glad to hear I’m not the only one. Thanks for the tips. Love your channel. 🦋
I came across a video on tiktok a day ago about how being delusional helps you manifest what you want in life so I went onto pinterest and started a new board with things I (my higher delusional self) would do/behave. Then I got a notification that you uploaded this video and I was shocked because what a crazt alignment this is! I love how this video has affected my perspective in much deeper way and I love that I can use this video as a check point to see how much I've transformed.
Ah yay perfect timing!!! It’s such an interesting topic! I think the whole “being delusional” thing is just one way we can release the things holding us back 💕💕
I remember doing this decades ago when I started a new school. I was tired of being the shy awkward girl and I realised that all the new people I was meeting did not know me, so I could be anything or anyone I wanted at the new school
I actually used this on someone else and it’s working. This person caused so much drama and stress in my life, I was triggered every time I had to communicate with them. I decided to recreate them, I call them by their middle name (in my head) and gave them a whole new personality. I’m so much calmer now.
How interesting! I’d love to know more about this tactic! Dealing with this for too long and wondering how could I give the person a whole new personality. Like from a narcissist to a spiritual and well introspected and considerate person?
Wow, this is a little nuts. Last night after a sweaty workout, I did my makeup and hair right before my shower, just for funsies (I usually don't wear more than mascara and foundation). I knew I would just wash it right off so there was no pressure to look good for anyone else. I really liked how it turned out and it made me feel good about myself. As I was in the shower, I thought to myself, "I could make an alter ego version of me who wears make up and feels pretty and confident." Now it doesn't sound so crazy, so maybe I will actually do it 😅
This reminds me of the “cool girl” monologue in the book/movie “gone girl” the author Gillian Flynn actually used it as a writing exercise but it turned out so well it made became an iconic part of the story
I have an issue with alteregos,it’s a form of dissociation and might be the reason why many celebrities end up killing them selves because it was never really their essence that performed but a fake character. Psychological wholeness and a self well aligned and healed of past wounds will get you more permanent and happy shifts than a psychological distant self from your identity. But towards the ended of the video you’ve integrated this issue quite well on how to use this as an archetype, so will definitely take notes towards my therapist training as well!
Not totally true i found my alter ego when i was on the verge of suicide and was very introverted , depressed and insecure and i didn't even create him . My alter ego appeared out of nowhere and started changing my life . At beginning my encounter was like someone else is living in my head who laughs at my miserable life and it felt like someone who is totally opposite of me he was extroverted , confident , bold and stoic person who smiles always . It started fixing my life and my weak parts and now he teached me to smile always even during my downfall and made me bold and confident like himself
The only cons of it was i became too attached to my alter ego that if something bad happens in my life and i cant feel his presence i get depressed to breaking point
I remember that I did this in school. With this, I became the best student. I was thinking about doing it again, but it doesn’t help me now and the downside of the alter ego was too extreme for me. I think the problem is that I created a version which was in some parts too far away from who I really am and I also didn’t stop when I was at home. It was conflicting. But I kept some of the things which fitted who I really am and they help me up until today and now I am still always the best in every education course. But I am not wearing what I did in school. Back then, everyone thought I would be a teacher. Now, I wear funny shirts at home and with friends, I am soft, goofy and bold again, but when I am in a professional environment, you can’t even imagine that I understand jokes and I rarely speak about anything not work related. I am smiling politely, but that’s it. While my friends see me as the most caring, chaotic and very funny person, my colleagues say I am nice, efficient, but boring. Unfortunately, I lack a bit in assertiveness at work, but my impression is that it’s more a cultural thing and less related to my personality. A woman’s opinion is less worth than a man‘s (I am usually the only woman).
Absolutely love this. For years I refrained from being myself due to the fear of judgment. I've come to grow and embrace who I truly am, but there is still significant room to grow, and this idea will certainly help me get there. Thank you so much for sharing this!
This coming on the heels of a deep meditation I had two days ago. And the song “Good-bye to Sandra Dee” going around in my head. The universe put this video in my feed for a reason and I am here for it! Thank you, Jillz!❤ subbed and dinged!
I am a world-famous musician, who is not afraid to show herself, but who is shining, confident and who and who reaches millions of people with her music. Thank you so much for this video!
Yes!!!! This is amazing, I grew up in Hollywood and was a child actor so I learned this from a young age. Now, as an adult hitting my mid life, I’m changing course and I’ve been thinking about alter egos. I have several. I need a new one for the specific dark night I’m currently navigating. Thank you for this!
Great video! This reminds me of when I worked in the corporate world and I had to wear suits. They always felt like a costume but it helped me separate my personal and professional life and maintain boundaries. I even had coworkers comment when they saw me outside of work on how different I was. It was my corporate alter ego versus my true relaxed casual self.
Thank you so much Jillz, this idea was just what i needed. Started using my new alter ego Enola today, its amazing already seeing results and feeling different! I'm finally becoming the one i have always feared to be! Again thank you so much for giving me this opportunity! Much love to you
Wow, eye opening content! I've learned so much in the last few weeks, binge watching all of your videos! I now treat myself with respect, something that I do absolutly to everbody but myself... until now... and I unconciously created my alter ego, a happy, healthy, amazing woman.. thanks jillz!
Really powerful information! This is something I did without even realizing it, and when I was younger it helped me move past many challenges! Thank you so much! Sending you lots of love and light! 💚
i swear i’m in alignment with your videos! thank you again jillz. this is SO helpful and just what i needed to listen to to really get in touch with her! ✨💕😌
I love this. I totally agree. In my childhood up until I was about 30, I went by my nickname. Now I use my full name most of the time (not among friends), and I feel more like a Queen than a Princess. 😋 It definitely affects my actions and behaviors in my life.
I absolutely love this concept! I can totally see how so many people have successfully used this process. Thank you for taking the time to make this content. You made it so easy to understand and apply. I appreciate your enthusiasm and energy 💖💫
this was a really great video - i really needed this. i’ve had my alter ego name for a little over a year now, but hadn’t really created the actual alter, so i’m very excited to try this. thank you for sharing 💕
I just realized two of my granddaughters have alter egos! I never understood it at first but now I'm used to it. When they are that character their facial expressions change and become exerated and their voice changes! Mostly they're kind of goofy and silly but funny. Their characters have names too. They have been doing this since they were very young. Actors do this all of the time...they become another person with a different look and a different name! Suddenly it all makes sense to me! Actors have to be able to change their personalities quickly with clothing and makeup!
I love your content. I just got a job as a supervisor and have been using this technique without realizing that's what I was doing. After watching your video I understand how to use it even more effectively. Thank you!
wow this video is definitely what i was looking for. the biggest limiting belief behind my inability to embody an alter ego for myself was that i thought i would seem fake. but what you said really successfully deconstructed those beliefs for me.
Jillz, that's so helpful! I often watch your videos at least a couple of times cause they're that valuable. Thank you for all the examples, it really changed my perspective on things❤
For me, my alter ego is White Gold, Stella Monroe or Thayse. They all represent who I am when I feel safe: outgoing, radiantly happy, non-judgmental, good sense of humour, very gentle and feminine. This is my “woman” identity, and I’m happy that as an adult, I’ve created relationships with people in my community who keep Thayse alive effortlessly.
As someone who would describe herself in the exact same way you mention (shy but outgoing elsewhere), this is perfect for someone like me. Especially walking into every dance class when I have to channel a whole different energy, not the perfect 1st class student, but a high-energy street dancer. Thank you so much :)
I was so painfully shy as a child and young adult as my family was very abusive. When I got away from anyone in that circle I could do public speaking, charity fundraising and so on. Put me in the midst of people connected to my family and I start to blush and stammer. Now I no longer feel like I need to apologise for simply breathing :)
I did something similar to help with exercise. I hated exercising and always wanted to stop short of my goals. I felt like a personal trainer would call me lazy and pathetic, but once I switched it around and imagined myself as a personal trainer who was trying to motivate another person to achieve her workout goals, it somehow became easier. Now I feel like I'm the one who's fit and energetic and some other imaginary person is the one who's tired and wants to quit but I'm always there to help her.
Truth. Family or "friends" who feel insecure about themselves might try to hold you back when you assert this better dominance over your life. You have to block them out and argue against every falsehood or harmful mentality they try to impose until they finally realize that you are who you are, regardless what they think about it. The people who knew a worse version of yourself tend to be hypocrites for claiming to want the best for you while trying to impede what's necessary to make that real. You don't necessarily have to abandon them, but you might need major emotional distance from them so you can protect your evolving, vulnerable psyche long enough to harden into your unshakable psychological identity. Human minds are like computers in that words can--subliminally or overtly--program us, despite knowing it is happening. The most powerful computers in the world rely upon sound cybersecurity practices to prevent malware from corrupting their data. This practice doesn't mean that anything you tell yourself about external phenomena will magically become true, but it does mean you can control at least some parts of your mind and behaviors with some self programming.
Thank you for sharing your amazing tale. I began my journey to reinvent myself a year ago, and I'm now living healthier, more confident, and stronger, earning six figures, and having time to enjoy family and friends. I'm happier now because I'm living my life for myself. This is to encourage someone that "you may start whenever you want to have a reset, it's worth it!" I'm trying to keep growing since it's a journey❤️❤️❤️
@@melbavic23712 Alter your thinking, read self-help books, broaden your knowledge, budget and avoid impulse spending, save, take your finances seriously, eat properly, exercise your body, meditate; the list goes on... I hope you find it beneficial.
@@monica64340 l learned to be frugal, spending as little as possible, saving and paying myself first by investing, making plans, growing passive income, reading a lot of finance books, and sticking to my plan consistently.:)
Very helpful! I usually think having an alter ego is always a negative thing, but I like how you reframe it as something that is your authetic self. Realizing what status quo doesn't always mean it's right. It also reminds me why Fight Club is my favorite movie. Thank you for sharing this!
When I was younger I had a job where I had a fake name. Soon the entire little town knew me as this fake name. And I felt so much more confident. Because Bella could be whatever she wants. My name is Chelsey and I'm usually shy and uncertain and insecure. While Bella was going to chew you out stand up for herself, speak up, make space. I miss Bella. It's funny as I was thinking of this earlier. And I looked up that song by Halsey with lyrics about "I don't owe you a goddamn thing".
This is a great video. I teared up a bit because it hit home! You are definitely making a difference in a good way! Thanks for being a strong, smart and positive influence!!
I'm pursuing Music and often I feel unworthy of success, thank you for this video, its life changing. I still have a long way to go but this is a good start for me, thank you so much🤞🏽❤️
Dear Jillz, WOW I am a new subscriber and I am soooooooo grateful I found your channel and you as a whole person. Thank you sooo much for everything you do and create, it helps me sooooo so much. I am on my journey to reinvent myself and just be my highest and best self and tap into my female divine energy and I can't say how much your videos help me. I purchased your workbook and meditation and OMG I cannot wait to get started with it after I watched more of your videos. Thank you, thank you for encourage me to change my life ❤
You are just beyond inspiring ❤ truly I cannot stop watching your videos! They just put me on the tracks to become the version of me I always wanted to become!! Thank you! 🥰
My ,alter ego’ was kind of assigned to me after I moved to another country with different language and people mispronouncing my name. First it felt weird, but after almost 6 years now - I like this version of my name even more, and I introduce myself only like this now. Thought it was to do with the name - but actually I love this version of myself more. And isn’t it also a key to manifesting - feeling it as true, and then seeing your reality shift? amazing concept and so excited to try doing it more consciously. Thank you for the video!
Wow, what an amazing video! I can tell that you put so much effort and research into this topic, and it really shows in the quality of the content you presented. Thank you 🌸
I am just going to be honest. I started watching videos like yours maybe half a year ago. But alot of things were common sense, and alot sounded too spiritual/fake. This video made alot of sense, got me to thinking, and i really really like it. It is actually very useful to me! Thank you very much :))
First and foremost, I love your videos. I am learning so much about my own femininity and I feel more safe to do so since I came across your youtube channel. I am also, low key loving that chair in the background because I have one too. ❤ Mine is a dark blue, but I love that soft pink, too. Thank you for the videos. Love them!
1:00 in and i 100% get it! Thanks for the inspiration! Im going to watch anyway to make sure Im not mistaken. We become more limited by our identity than we realize.
I believe I had an alter ego when I was younger, she was the strength, fighter and protector in me when I felt deep down I was a broken weak nobody. My alter ego got me through so many challenges and gave me memorable experiences. When I was drunk I would tell everyone my name was Emma. It almost felt like 'fake it till you make it', but now I have those qualities in me naturally without so much of the ego. Emma is now gone.
This video is great! Walking around as your alter-ego is super fun. I wish I was snapping my fingers and walking around like that more often. Time for a change!
When you were talking about Ashley, I thought you were talking about me! I had a dream of becoming a pop star and music is my passion! Because of stage fright and low self-esteem, I felt not good enough and kept blaming my failure on circumstances. It was surprising that it's Halsey! Thanks for this video, it was eye-opening for me! I'm going to start again! I'm 32 by the way!
This was actually very helpful and what I needed. I just recently had a conversation with my partner who advised me whenever I overthink and have thoughts that are holding me back to just try and isolate these thoughts in a bubble and observe them from a third person view like they are not in my mind anymore. And I feel like the me observing them OUTSIDE my mind would be my alter ego as opposed to if these thoughts were IN my head then it would just be my regular self-doubting self again. It's interesting to think about it like that 😄 Keep up the good work, I enjoy watching your content! 🤗
It’s really interesting! Alter ago would work for me because environment influences my behaviour a lot, specifically I am not the same person in my country/society comparing to what I was when I lived in another country. And what if the alter ego is the real ego? Good question. Definitely you won’t be able to mimic that ego if it weren’t yourself , at least part of it
To learn more than ever from important non-fiction books, join me on Shortform: shortform.com/jillz. You’ll get a 5-day free trial and a discounted annual subscription. One of my favorite books on Shortform is “The Alter Ego Effect” by Todd Herman! 😊
THAT is not TRUE, Beyonce, have two sisters that made-up Destiny, So, she NEVER needs to reinvent herself. Has the group become Famous they breakup then she hook-up with J-z,
I really appreciate you ❤️ I'm learning from you 😊 thanks 🙏
Omg I did this YEARS ago when I quit smoking! I had tried to quit dozens of times and it never stuck. The last time I quit, I decided to call myself a non-smoker, rather than an ex-smoker. My theory was that a non smoker would NEVER be tempted by a cigarette, but an ex smoker would always be tempted on some level. And it was still really REALLY hard to quit, but whenever someone was smoking around me or offering me a cigarette, I told myself I was a non smoker, therfore obviously I didn't want a cigarette. 😊
Ahh yes! I did this when I was trying to overhaul my diet to be healthier! It worked!!
@@JillzGuerin I love it! I'm doing that right now. I feel like there are two versions of me- one that sits on the couch and eats Doordash and feels greasy and sluggish, and the other one who LOVES exercising and doing intermittent fasting and feels AMAZING! And there is LITERALLY no overlap between the two. So I'm just focusing on how good it feels to be healthy and strong, and the extra weight is just MELTING off me with NO effort!! 😁
I love this and I did exactly the same! It works! 🙂
I love this and I'm totally trying it! I was the "old me" yesterday and ordered a huge pasta from Ubereats and felt like shit all day, today I was "Skye" and just had 1 healthy meal and fasted.😮
Allen carr has a book called easy way to quit smoking. That’s how I quit smoking. He mentioned in the book exactly what you just said. Remember back when you were a non smoker, you never needed a cig or was tempted. It was only after you smoked your first then you got the craving to want to smoke over and over
Yesss🙌 The best advice I was ever told is don't ask "how can I do this" ask "who do I need to become to be able to do this". I have used this idea throughout my life in many ways; to start taking better care of my fitness, overcome shyness with men and alleviate social anxiety. I don't ask "how?" I ask "who?"... and it works!
Love that perspective!!
LOVE THIS 🎉
omg i LOVE THIS. writing this down for sure! thank you for sharing!!
You know what, I just realized something - I think this is why I enjoy traveling so much, especially on my own. I tap into my confident, mysterious alter ego and imagine everyone I meet perceives me in that way…
Edit: guys. I took it too far... a friend I met abroad just told me her husband thinks I might be a CIA agent 💀
and why I love learning languages!!! I unlock different versions of myself. this is making so much sense
Giiiirl you sound like my soul sister ☺️ cause I absolutely LOVE traveling solo, living in other countries and learning languages!! I realized this a while back, but it clicked again while watching this video… When I speak Spanish / French, I go by Raquel / Rachelle. I become that culturally personified character as a natural way of identifying as a Spanish or French speaker. Connecting these dots also made me realize how much I adore acting, which is in essence, creating and identifying with an alter ego 😎🙌
@@pickmeupstix 😭❤🥰
You all are my tribe! I also travel solo and imagine everyone sees my life as a whirlwind novel!
@@pickmeupstix curious how speaking French changes you? 😅
I am such a Francophile and want to learn French so bad! 😂
I LOVE this idea!!!! When I’m in a really bad rut of depression and lack of motivation, I’ll summon my alter ego “Shamaya” ..She’s a bad ass woman who keeps her house clean, handles her business, gets her to do lists done and works out. It helps so much after a week and then I slowly adapt those changes into a routine. I even made a Pinterest board for motivation as “Shamaya.” Nothing weird about it. Whatever we can do to lift our spirits!!!
Love that and love that name 🔥
go shamaya 🙌
I love this so much! How do you “summon” her?
The Pinterest board idea is genius!
I want to break out of my devastating depression, but I have no idea how to get myself started. It’s so hard just to get going most of the time.
When I played Dungeons and Dragons, I accidentally created the highest version of myself in the form of a character I created. She was very feminine and sexual (bards ya know) but she also was self sacrificing and heroic - dying for her friends. I started torealize there were things I could do as Kassandra that I didn't feel comfortable doing as Justina. I had a broken sense of my self as a woman, and Kassandra did not. What really hit home for me was when I went to the store and kept looking at pretty clothes saying "Oh! This is SO Kassandra!" What I meant was... I really like this pretty thing! But it wasn't Ok for ME to like, but for Kassandra it was.
Now, I'm a couple years removed from playing that character in game, but rather embodying womanhood for myself and tapping into my feminine energy because of what I realized playing that character in game.
Damn, I love tabletop gaming for experiences like this. Thanks for sharing.
@Justina Anderson. That is pretty cool 😎. I’m a D&D DM (playing the game off & on since 1980).
What you say is quite true: the game enables a person to “assume a new persona” that is quite different than their “real world” self.
This ability (and practice) of creativity/imagination enables a person to mentally “displace” themself from their current real-life circumstances and think of other ways to behave, react, and problem solve (and not face real life, potential non-acceptance or other repercussions).
Taken further, honing this skill enables a person to then naturally become more creatively imaginative in dealing with real-life situations/challenges, whether internal or external.
Here’s wishing you a “natural 20” roll on your next saving throw! 🍻 😊
That is kinda scary, some vtubers do this and make those characters as themselves but actually arent
Yessss. Reminds me a lot of how in middle school I was super depressed and had a low self esteem so I played RuneScape all the time…
I lived vicariously through my character in the game. 🙂
Autumnflurry was super popular, outgoing, had boundaries, self worth, confidence, etc… Everything I didn’t have in my life back then.
Now I feel like I embody those things as a grown woman 🥰 But that past self definitely helped mold me into the person I am today as I started to realize I could be those things IRL. 💕
that's a deep reflexion! Thanks for sharing!
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my CZcams channel 2 months ago about self development. Now I have 141 subs and almost 75 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I couldn’t have learned without getting started in the 1st place.
I just subscribed!! 🙌🏼 Good luck to you!
@@alittlebitofmary Whoever you are, I don't know you personally but I can say that you're one of the non-judgmental and open-minded people who is not fixated on tangible or external factors in order to learn from someone like me. Just because someone doesn't have a piece of paper as a credential, doesn't mean that person is not entitled to share personal experiences with the hope & intention to inspire others. Keep up with whatever it is that you're doing to improve mankind or improving your life even to a slight degree each day. This is just one part of a bigger puzzle for creating my CZcams channel about holistic health. I literally could have died back when I was 14 years old due to major depression but here I am right now replying to you, a CZcamsr, who's full of fulfillment and dedication to help others to be a better version of themselves. I ain't better than anyone else but my old self. That's all that really makes this CZcams thing more meaningful and enjoyable. Thanks so much for your support! I am hoping that you can join me with this endless personal development journey! :)
Last fall I took language classes in Spain and noticed that I was a different person when I spoke in Spanish, in a way Spanish helped me see the world differently, to think differently and to even build a whole new set of mannerisms. I’ve been thinking of moving to Spain ever since and I guess I liked that version of myself!
i have also noticed that
this makes so much sense to me
yes exactly ! I had the same experience with learning Turkish , so romantic !
SAme thing happened for me with Italian...I felt like a different woman when I was there. She was way cooler.
I had that when I was learning English! I ended up moving for a study program in English just to feel like that more often. But now that I've been speaking it for 10+ years I feel like I contaminated my English with my insecurities. Time to learn a new language I guess.
Whenever I'm in a rut, or feeling lazy, or incompetent, I pretend I'm Amal Clooney (someone I think has it all together all of the time, and plus I love her personal style). Doing that puts me in a completely different state of mind and I'm able to do whatever I need to get done and feel good about myself too
If you think about it, accepting to live our lives with our insecure and broken selves is way crazier than embracing a new perspective of who we are and act in accordance to that new version of ourselves.
But why embrace something that has been essentially manufactured by your internal monologue when it’s that monologue which is broken not you? Embracing something which damages or hurts you makes no sense.
I'm fucking baffled with the self toxicity of this video and so many commenters 🤦♀️
We are just unlocking our full potential by “tricking our brains”. It is still us achieving these goals, and the more we provide evidence to ourselves that we are capable of these things, the less we need the alter ego.
This is like killing off your old self, to shift to your ideal life, I've heard it working before, changing your name/alter ego just makes it work better ❤
Ive been doing this for a few years now at work! If it weren’t for my alter ego persona idk if I would even have a job. She goes by my middle name. Super feminine and gets things done! And she always wears green for some reason. I get kind of misty eyed thinking I have to do this to stay employed, but I’m glad to hear I’m not the only one. Thanks for the tips.
Love your channel. 🦋
I came across a video on tiktok a day ago about how being delusional helps you manifest what you want in life so I went onto pinterest and started a new board with things I (my higher delusional self) would do/behave. Then I got a notification that you uploaded this video and I was shocked because what a crazt alignment this is! I love how this video has affected my perspective in much deeper way and I love that I can use this video as a check point to see how much I've transformed.
Ah yay perfect timing!!! It’s such an interesting topic! I think the whole “being delusional” thing is just one way we can release the things holding us back 💕💕
I remember doing this decades ago when I started a new school. I was tired of being the shy awkward girl and I realised that all the new people I was meeting did not know me, so I could be anything or anyone I wanted at the new school
I actually used this on someone else and it’s working. This person caused so much drama and stress in my life, I was triggered every time I had to communicate with them. I decided to recreate them, I call them by their middle name (in my head) and gave them a whole new personality. I’m so much calmer now.
How interesting! I’d love to know more about this tactic! Dealing with this for too long and wondering how could I give the person a whole new personality. Like from a narcissist to a spiritual and well introspected and considerate person?
Wow, this is a little nuts. Last night after a sweaty workout, I did my makeup and hair right before my shower, just for funsies (I usually don't wear more than mascara and foundation). I knew I would just wash it right off so there was no pressure to look good for anyone else. I really liked how it turned out and it made me feel good about myself. As I was in the shower, I thought to myself, "I could make an alter ego version of me who wears make up and feels pretty and confident." Now it doesn't sound so crazy, so maybe I will actually do it 😅
This reminds me of the “cool girl” monologue in the book/movie “gone girl” the author Gillian Flynn actually used it as a writing exercise but it turned out so well it made became an iconic part of the story
I have an issue with alteregos,it’s a form of dissociation and might be the reason why many celebrities end up killing them selves because it was never really their essence that performed but a fake character. Psychological wholeness and a self well aligned and healed of past wounds will get you more permanent and happy shifts than a psychological distant self from your identity. But towards the ended of the video you’ve integrated this issue quite well on how to use this as an archetype, so will definitely take notes towards my therapist training as well!
Not totally true i found my alter ego when i was on the verge of suicide and was very introverted , depressed and insecure and i didn't even create him . My alter ego appeared out of nowhere and started changing my life . At beginning my encounter was like someone else is living in my head who laughs at my miserable life and it felt like someone who is totally opposite of me he was extroverted , confident , bold and stoic person who smiles always .
It started fixing my life and my weak parts and now he teached me to smile always even during my downfall and made me bold and confident like himself
The only cons of it was i became too attached to my alter ego that if something bad happens in my life and i cant feel his presence i get depressed to breaking point
I remember that I did this in school. With this, I became the best student. I was thinking about doing it again, but it doesn’t help me now and the downside of the alter ego was too extreme for me. I think the problem is that I created a version which was in some parts too far away from who I really am and I also didn’t stop when I was at home. It was conflicting. But I kept some of the things which fitted who I really am and they help me up until today and now I am still always the best in every education course. But I am not wearing what I did in school. Back then, everyone thought I would be a teacher. Now, I wear funny shirts at home and with friends, I am soft, goofy and bold again, but when I am in a professional environment, you can’t even imagine that I understand jokes and I rarely speak about anything not work related. I am smiling politely, but that’s it. While my friends see me as the most caring, chaotic and very funny person, my colleagues say I am nice, efficient, but boring. Unfortunately, I lack a bit in assertiveness at work, but my impression is that it’s more a cultural thing and less related to my personality. A woman’s opinion is less worth than a man‘s (I am usually the only woman).
“MY MASK ALLOWED ME TO BE MYSELF COMPLETELY, NO SHAME.” - THE RIDDLER
Absolutely love this. For years I refrained from being myself due to the fear of judgment. I've come to grow and embrace who I truly am, but there is still significant room to grow, and this idea will certainly help me get there. Thank you so much for sharing this!
This coming on the heels of a deep meditation I had two days ago. And the song “Good-bye to Sandra Dee” going around in my head. The universe put this video in my feed for a reason and I am here for it! Thank you, Jillz!❤ subbed and dinged!
this has COMPLETELY TRANSFORMED by lifeeee!!!!!
Doing this now in sobriety. Telling myself I’m an ex drinker and I’m allergic to alcohol so why would I have it ☺️👍
I am a world-famous musician, who is not afraid to show herself, but who is shining, confident and who and who reaches millions of people with her music. Thank you so much for this video!
Yes!!!! This is amazing, I grew up in Hollywood and was a child actor so I learned this from a young age. Now, as an adult hitting my mid life, I’m changing course and I’ve been thinking about alter egos. I have several. I need a new one for the specific dark night I’m currently navigating. Thank you for this!
Great video! This reminds me of when I worked in the corporate world and I had to wear suits. They always felt like a costume but it helped me separate my personal and professional life and maintain boundaries. I even had coworkers comment when they saw me outside of work on how different I was. It was my corporate alter ego versus my true relaxed casual self.
Thank you so much Jillz, this idea was just what i needed. Started using my new alter ego Enola today, its amazing already seeing results and feeling different! I'm finally becoming the one i have always feared to be! Again thank you so much for giving me this opportunity! Much love to you
Wow, eye opening content! I've learned so much in the last few weeks, binge watching all of your videos! I now treat myself with respect, something that I do absolutly to everbody but myself... until now... and I unconciously created my alter ego, a happy, healthy, amazing woman.. thanks jillz!
Ahhh yay!!! I love to hear that!! ❤️❤️❤️
This was exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you Jillz 💕
Really powerful information! This is something I did without even realizing it, and when I was younger it helped me move past many challenges! Thank you so much! Sending you lots of love and light! 💚
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love this idea - there's a reason why even the most successful believe in "fake it til you make it". great video as always jillz 😊
If I understand you correctly, you're saying we should decide who we're going to be - and be it! I love this 💖
i swear i’m in alignment with your videos! thank you again jillz. this is SO helpful and just what i needed to listen to to really get in touch with her! ✨💕😌
So glad you liked it!!! 💖💖😘
I love this. I totally agree. In my childhood up until I was about 30, I went by my nickname. Now I use my full name most of the time (not among friends), and I feel more like a Queen than a Princess. 😋 It definitely affects my actions and behaviors in my life.
Love that! Ya it totally changes the way you show up in the world 💕
Me to👍😊
I can't describe in words what this video did to me, it brought me hope in ways I can't tell , thankyouuu ! May god bless you 💝
I love how you broke this down and made it digestible. this is like bite size therapy 🎉
I absolutely love this concept! I can totally see how so many people have successfully used this process.
Thank you for taking the time to make this content. You made it so easy to understand and apply. I appreciate your enthusiasm and energy 💖💫
This is so true. I feel my truest most authentic in my alter-ego. Once I let go of all the walls..😊
this was a really great video - i really needed this. i’ve had my alter ego name for a little over a year now, but hadn’t really created the actual alter, so i’m very excited to try this. thank you for sharing 💕
I just realized two of my granddaughters have alter egos! I never understood it at first but now I'm used to it. When they are that character their facial expressions change and become exerated and their voice changes! Mostly they're kind of goofy and silly but funny. Their characters have names too. They have been doing this since they were very young.
Actors do this all of the time...they become another person with a different look and a different name! Suddenly it all makes sense to me! Actors have to be able to change their personalities quickly with clothing and makeup!
I love your content. I just got a job as a supervisor and have been using this technique without realizing that's what I was doing. After watching your video I understand how to use it even more effectively. Thank you!
wow this video is definitely what i was looking for. the biggest limiting belief behind my inability to embody an alter ego for myself was that i thought i would seem fake. but what you said really successfully deconstructed those beliefs for me.
Jillz, that's so helpful! I often watch your videos at least a couple of times cause they're that valuable. Thank you for all the examples, it really changed my perspective on things❤
Ah love that! So glad they’re valuable to you! 😘❤️
For me, my alter ego is White Gold, Stella Monroe or Thayse. They all represent who I am when I feel safe: outgoing, radiantly happy, non-judgmental, good sense of humour, very gentle and feminine. This is my “woman” identity, and I’m happy that as an adult, I’ve created relationships with people in my community who keep Thayse alive effortlessly.
As someone who would describe herself in the exact same way you mention (shy but outgoing elsewhere), this is perfect for someone like me. Especially walking into every dance class when I have to channel a whole different energy, not the perfect 1st class student, but a high-energy street dancer. Thank you so much :)
I was so painfully shy as a child and young adult as my family was very abusive. When I got away from anyone in that circle I could do public speaking, charity fundraising and so on. Put me in the midst of people connected to my family and I start to blush and stammer. Now I no longer feel like I need to apologise for simply breathing :)
I did something similar to help with exercise. I hated exercising and always wanted to stop short of my goals. I felt like a personal trainer would call me lazy and pathetic, but once I switched it around and imagined myself as a personal trainer who was trying to motivate another person to achieve her workout goals, it somehow became easier. Now I feel like I'm the one who's fit and energetic and some other imaginary person is the one who's tired and wants to quit but I'm always there to help her.
Truth. Family or "friends" who feel insecure about themselves might try to hold you back when you assert this better dominance over your life. You have to block them out and argue against every falsehood or harmful mentality they try to impose until they finally realize that you are who you are, regardless what they think about it. The people who knew a worse version of yourself tend to be hypocrites for claiming to want the best for you while trying to impede what's necessary to make that real. You don't necessarily have to abandon them, but you might need major emotional distance from them so you can protect your evolving, vulnerable psyche long enough to harden into your unshakable psychological identity.
Human minds are like computers in that words can--subliminally or overtly--program us, despite knowing it is happening. The most powerful computers in the world rely upon sound cybersecurity practices to prevent malware from corrupting their data.
This practice doesn't mean that anything you tell yourself about external phenomena will magically become true, but it does mean you can control at least some parts of your mind and behaviors with some self programming.
Thank you for sharing your amazing tale. I began my journey to reinvent myself a year ago, and I'm now living healthier, more confident, and stronger, earning six figures, and having time to enjoy family and friends. I'm happier now because I'm living my life for myself. This is to encourage someone that "you may start whenever you want to have a reset, it's worth it!" I'm trying to keep growing since it's a journey❤️❤️❤️
Congratulations sis! Thank you for inspiring others with your tale; I'd love to learn more from you as well.
@@melbavic23712 Alter your thinking, read self-help books, broaden your knowledge, budget and avoid impulse spending, save, take your finances seriously, eat properly, exercise your body, meditate; the list goes on... I hope you find it beneficial.
@@juliet800 How did you get to six figures? This year, I'm sincerely attempting to improve my own finances.
Congratulations to you Juliet keep it going👍
@@monica64340 l learned to be frugal, spending as little as possible, saving and paying myself first by investing, making plans, growing passive income, reading a lot of finance books, and sticking to my plan consistently.:)
Very helpful! I usually think having an alter ego is always a negative thing, but I like how you reframe it as something that is your authetic self. Realizing what status quo doesn't always mean it's right. It also reminds me why Fight Club is my favorite movie. Thank you for sharing this!
Love this! I had a cheeky look at the book's quotes and apparently Cary Grant did this too. That just makes so much sense to me!
When I was younger I had a job where I had a fake name. Soon the entire little town knew me as this fake name. And I felt so much more confident. Because Bella could be whatever she wants. My name is Chelsey and I'm usually shy and uncertain and insecure. While Bella was going to chew you out stand up for herself, speak up, make space.
I miss Bella.
It's funny as I was thinking of this earlier. And I looked up that song by Halsey with lyrics about "I don't owe you a goddamn thing".
This is freaking GENIUS! That's basically what method acting is, I think. Thank you for this. I love this suggestion.
❤❤❤ I've realised now what my mistake is. I'm trying to act like her (my alter ego) not really acting like her. Thank you Jillz, you're amazing! ✨
Un témoignage incroyable et lourd de sens. Ma vie change à partir de cette seconde où j’ai regardé cette vidéo.
Mille merci.
Thank You! Needed to hear this. Will have it on repeat until I can digest and manifest.
Thank You Jillz! 🌺 BIG, BIG THANK YOU!!!!
This is a great video. I teared up a bit because it hit home! You are definitely making a difference in a good way! Thanks for being a strong, smart and positive influence!!
Mid- video I started making a list. This is an excellent video. I appreciate you and your message. Thank you
Thank you so much! Video so good I just got the audible book! Excited to get started!
I'm pursuing Music and often I feel unworthy of success, thank you for this video, its life changing. I still have a long way to go but this is a good start for me, thank you so much🤞🏽❤️
Bravo! You explained a potentially tricky topic like a boss, from start to finish.
Dear Jillz, WOW I am a new subscriber and I am soooooooo grateful I found your channel and you as a whole person. Thank you sooo much for everything you do and create, it helps me sooooo so much. I am on my journey to reinvent myself and just be my highest and best self and tap into my female divine energy and I can't say how much your videos help me. I purchased your workbook and meditation and OMG I cannot wait to get started with it after I watched more of your videos. Thank you, thank you for encourage me to change my life ❤
You are just beyond inspiring ❤ truly I cannot stop watching your videos! They just put me on the tracks to become the version of me I always wanted to become!! Thank you! 🥰
My ,alter ego’ was kind of assigned to me after I moved to another country with different language and people mispronouncing my name. First it felt weird, but after almost 6 years now - I like this version of my name even more, and I introduce myself only like this now. Thought it was to do with the name - but actually I love this version of myself more. And isn’t it also a key to manifesting - feeling it as true, and then seeing your reality shift? amazing concept and so excited to try doing it more consciously. Thank you for the video!
Thank you for introducing me to this. Exactly what I needed!
This is the best video on alter egos I’ve watched. Thank you!
Excellent way of reframing this concept. Loved it!
HOW DID YOU KNOW THAT THIS WAS WHAT I NEDDED TO HEAR???? thank youuu ❤❤❤
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Wow, what an amazing video! I can tell that you put so much effort and research into this topic, and it really shows in the quality of the content you presented. Thank you 🌸
This video showed up in divine timing. ❤ Thank you!
I am just going to be honest. I started watching videos like yours maybe half a year ago. But alot of things were common sense, and alot sounded too spiritual/fake. This video made alot of sense, got me to thinking, and i really really like it. It is actually very useful to me! Thank you very much :))
Wow thank you Jillz! 🤩 this is exactly what I I needed to watch 💪
First and foremost, I love your videos. I am learning so much about my own femininity and I feel more safe to do so since I came across your youtube channel. I am also, low key loving that chair in the background because I have one too. ❤ Mine is a dark blue, but I love that soft pink, too. Thank you for the videos. Love them!
This is soooooo well done and helpful, THANK YOU Jillz!!
1:00 in and i 100% get it! Thanks for the inspiration! Im going to watch anyway to make sure Im not mistaken. We become more limited by our identity than we realize.
😍😍😍 I just loved this video!! This is something I needed.. And I 💯 % agree: alter ego is the realest version of us
Glad you liked it!! 😘😘
Thanks so much for your video Jillz. I love every one of them.
You are so welcome!💕💕
I love the concept of this book. I like to think it of it as well as "altar" ego. Your best self. And an altar is really a focus tool.
I believe I had an alter ego when I was younger, she was the strength, fighter and protector in me when I felt deep down I was a broken weak nobody. My alter ego got me through so many challenges and gave me memorable experiences. When I was drunk I would tell everyone my name was Emma. It almost felt like 'fake it till you make it', but now I have those qualities in me naturally without so much of the ego. Emma is now gone.
Thank you for all you do, ❤ happy to be on this journey
Life changing video ❤ thanks girl
Thank you for this! 💕 Love it! ❤️
This video is great! Walking around as your alter-ego is super fun. I wish I was snapping my fingers and walking around like that more often. Time for a change!
this is genius and i vompletely agree. I have done this with mysel and am still constantly reinventing myself.
When you were talking about Ashley, I thought you were talking about me! I had a dream of becoming a pop star and music is my passion! Because of stage fright and low self-esteem, I felt not good enough and kept blaming my failure on circumstances. It was surprising that it's Halsey! Thanks for this video, it was eye-opening for me! I'm going to start again! I'm 32 by the way!
Woohoo! We're all rooting for you!! ❤🎉
@@thelexinator Thank you ❤
This was eye opening, thank you!
I’d forgotten about this technique. Your vid came at a good time. Thank you!!
This was eye-olening, thank you so much for this advice 😊
Very interesting concepts. Thank you for the hard work you put into your videos.
This helped so much, I am thinking of an alter ego name to start. Thank you so much!
Thank you so much for this amazing video! I'm going to try that!💗😊
Thank you so much Jillz. You're absolutely amazing. ❤
This makes so much sense. Thank you!
This was actually very helpful and what I needed. I just recently had a conversation with my partner who advised me whenever I overthink and have thoughts that are holding me back to just try and isolate these thoughts in a bubble and observe them from a third person view like they are not in my mind anymore. And I feel like the me observing them OUTSIDE my mind would be my alter ego as opposed to if these thoughts were IN my head then it would just be my regular self-doubting self again. It's interesting to think about it like that 😄 Keep up the good work, I enjoy watching your content! 🤗
Totally! And observing things from outside my mind has helped me a ton!
I just learned that yesterday to interrupt negative thoughts. I think it was called “cognitive defusion” it helped me TODAY, so that’s a win !
Sending you vibes of gratitude and love for sharing your insight. ❤
I started doing this in little ways over time. Great video Jillz!
Thank you!!! 🥰🥰
It’s really interesting! Alter ago would work for me because environment influences my behaviour a lot, specifically I am not the same person in my country/society comparing to what I was when I lived in another country. And what if the alter ego is the real ego? Good question. Definitely you won’t be able to mimic that ego if it weren’t yourself , at least part of it
This was kind of life changing for me.
Thank you.