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  • čas přidán 15. 07. 2016
  • A reflection on fearlessness from Pema Chödrön on her 80th birthday.

Komentáře • 213

  • @jfrancis
    @jfrancis Před 6 měsíci +13

    I owe my life to this woman! She has saved my bacon more than once. 🙏🏻 A true bodhisattva of our time.

  • @maximelagace
    @maximelagace Před 9 měsíci +10

    One of my favorite quotes from Pema Chödrön:
    "When I didn’t resist, I could see the world."

  • @frusciante2811
    @frusciante2811 Před 7 lety +226

    For me she is one of the greatest Teachers of our Time. She just feels like the real deal. So much warmth, wisdom and compassion. Thank you

    • @spensert4933
      @spensert4933 Před 3 lety +9

      Humility and humor! No ego or silly hippy vibe. Keeps it simple. She is one of us.

    • @robertalipman1428
      @robertalipman1428 Před 2 lety +4

      She's just the greatest. My surrogate mother and the wisest most compassionate person ever. A true blessing in our lifetime.

    • @tanjareutershan6610
      @tanjareutershan6610 Před rokem +2

      🙏❤️

  • @liluhaas
    @liluhaas Před 7 lety +9

    pema is our mother! i fuckin LOVE HER

  • @busdrinker3734
    @busdrinker3734 Před rokem +18

    As a 24-year-old experiencing many of these "panicked gasps" at the thought of the crazy transience of my youth, Pema's reminder is much appreciated. She is so grounding and uplifting and absolutely indispensable, always, always.

  • @nataliaalvim01
    @nataliaalvim01 Před 6 lety +170

    I'm Brazilian, living in a very violent city, that is, Rio de Janeiro and thanks to mindfulness, to Buddhism I can cope with the daily shootings, crossfires without getting into despair.

    • @TheGranti7a
      @TheGranti7a Před 6 lety +2

      Natalia A ❤️❤️❤️

    • @Eagle-bm6sr
      @Eagle-bm6sr Před 5 lety

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💯

    • @SuperStevien
      @SuperStevien Před 5 lety +3

      I am sorry to hear that... I wish your peace brings you joy and serendipity and to those surrounding you...

    • @SStabi
      @SStabi Před 5 lety +1

      what neighbourhood? I visited Rio a few times and am intrigued about the beauty and violence that go together. It's hard to grasp. I always stayed in Zona Sul

    • @Be1More
      @Be1More Před 5 lety

      pray you stay safe

  • @magdahastings3181
    @magdahastings3181 Před 3 lety +5

    Thank you For this talk. I am now 83 years old so it resonates. I am so grateful to b e able to heat your talks yes I am ready and relaxed also now grateful for a difficult life full of mistakes it has taught me compassion

  • @johntran3823
    @johntran3823 Před 3 lety +31

    Listening to this during the pandemic. Listening to her reminds me that everything is A-OK.

  • @infinitejusticeone
    @infinitejusticeone Před 8 lety +114

    As i was flipping through music videos I saw this! I have never heard of her before but upon watching this I cannot wait to watch all others. This is really something I need, some introspection. At the age of 68 it is never too late to learn. Thank you!

    • @BelfastBuddhist
      @BelfastBuddhist  Před 8 lety +32

      If you have just discovered Pema, you are in for such a treat. She is just brillant.

    • @ericlanebarnes4266
      @ericlanebarnes4266 Před 5 lety +3

      @@BelfastBuddhist Her books are gifts to humankind. I have read her 'Living Beautifully With Uncertainty and Change' four times - it is a great textbook for life. Pema Chodron really gets it, and really knows how to teach and share her true, authentic heart.

    • @oldladybird8528
      @oldladybird8528 Před 4 lety +2

      I also have never heard of her but her voice is calming.at 66 I think about death everyday but not fearful of it.

  • @mcdonaldchump5804
    @mcdonaldchump5804 Před 5 lety +18

    Happy 80th Birthday Venerable Pema Chodron, 2 years too late. You were one of my gateways into buddhism when I read 'The Wisdom of No Escape' in the 90s.
    A joy to find you on YT.
    Blessings to you and all beings ❤️_/\_

  • @caroledrury1411
    @caroledrury1411 Před 4 dny

    I live in Vermont and she has been my mentor since 1998 when I discovered her by accident. I bought every single book she wrote over the years and then did a lot of traveling. I’ve come back to her time and time again. I loaned my books out to someone who never returned them and felt devastated so it’s nice to find her on CZcams and to figure out if I will re-acquire all her books again because she does not have a weekly presence on CZcams. Thank you for posting this

  • @aminazad22
    @aminazad22 Před 7 lety +48

    I wish I could experience just a teaspoon of her fearlessness. We are always trying to control and we think we can be free if we are in control but, it is in fact the other way around. The moment we realize we are not in control is the moment that we can experience freedom.
    Thank you for this beautiful video. Pema is such a blessing for all of us truth seekers.

    • @wiredwithwalsh6282
      @wiredwithwalsh6282 Před 5 lety

      Pema is not fearless. She wouldn't confront rapists in her organization for decades and when a teenage rape victim came to her she blamed the victim. I am sure you are a far far stronger and more fearless person than she is!

  • @dlxinfinite7098
    @dlxinfinite7098 Před 4 lety +6

    Happy Born Day, Pema!
    As a Afr. American practioner and teacher... I need to say we love you and your teachings.

  • @sherricannon9407
    @sherricannon9407 Před rokem +2

    Dearest Ani Pema, I am deeply grateful for your teaching heart. Thanks to all you’ve recorded and made available so that I and others can practice learning to stay and developing friendliness with self and with groundlessness. Blessings to you.

  • @dancewomyn1
    @dancewomyn1 Před 7 lety +30

    Pema has been a shining light in my life and in the lives of so many others. I discovered her not even 2yrs ago, but since finding her I have followed her work, and teachings. I don't know what it is about her, but there is an ease, a sense of humor, an overall lightness that just compels me to aspire to such heights myself...I'm working on it. Thank you so much for posting this.

  • @8brightside8
    @8brightside8 Před 3 lety +5

    So much love and thankfulness expressed for this precious woman within these comments - yes, yes, yes.

  • @48Johanna
    @48Johanna Před 8 lety +33

    Thank you very much by a Christian from The Netherlands. I love Pema and i learnso much from her.

  • @willowway42
    @willowway42 Před 2 lety +5

    This is everything. Biggest love and immense gratitude to Pema Chodren just for being her ♡

  • @earthamessenger3149
    @earthamessenger3149 Před 5 lety +11

    Thank you ! Belfast Buddhist! for sharing light in this world ! This is so beautiful !! it brought tears to my eyes!
    When the student is ready, the teacher will appear. "When the appearances of this life dissolve may I with ease and great happiness let go of all attachments to this life like a son or daughter returning home... Wow! "Namaste"

  • @ModemmeX
    @ModemmeX Před 3 lety +9

    I've had such a rough couple days, a broken heart and intense sadness. So grateful for this video.

  • @angelagordyn9794
    @angelagordyn9794 Před 4 lety +3

    Pema. Your book: comfortable with uncertainty, is the best book I have ever read!
    It has taught me to be fearless and I am so grateful for your teachings and I thank you 🙏🏻 for sharing your gifts with all of humanity 🌸🌹🌷

  • @yegwanihst1971
    @yegwanihst1971 Před 6 lety +35

    Happiest 80th Birthday wishes for you ✨😊👍🎶🎻❣️🍓

  • @mattycreative
    @mattycreative Před 2 lety +3

    Reading 'Welcoming the Unwelcome', and just stumbled across this. Thank you. Love you, Pema....

  • @nirvanokajjohnsson2473
    @nirvanokajjohnsson2473 Před 2 lety +1

    Thankyou for all you give!
    You are really a helping source! My deep respect and love!
    Nirvan from Sweden.

  • @melissarmt7330
    @melissarmt7330 Před 7 lety +45

    I'm one of those people who died and came back. I remember everything so clearly even though it was 36 years ago so death doesn't frighten me. I look forward to it. But life and how I'm going to do something or what's happening now, that's what scares the hell out of me. I make an effort to listen to teachers like Pema because their wisdom, compassion and kindness help me with the "living" part.

    • @LO-bk4bv
      @LO-bk4bv Před 7 lety +4

      Did anything happen after you died? Is there something else or is there nothing? I used to be very religious and always thought there was something else. But now that I'm an Atheist it's hard for me to believe there is anything else.

    • @melissarmt7330
      @melissarmt7330 Před 7 lety +21

      There's definitely something after we die. We go to a place and in my experience, there were no pearly gates or hell fire. It was beautiful. When I died, all the things that make me "Melissa" like my love for green teas and knitting and my dislikes and faults, that all fell away and it was like getting back to the business of being myself and also like growing up in an instant. The Buddhist descriptions of what happens after death were spot on and I was not raised to be a Buddhist. My religious training up to that point had been christian, although my mother was quite open minded.
      But I saw nothing that could be defined solely as "Christian". Being Buddhist is not about what happens after death. It's about how to live. I wish I could be a nun but I'm too old and the monasteries here in the USA are so new with few young nuns o care for the older nuns. That's what I'm told. So I study and practice kindness and compassion.
      It's alright to be unsure about what comes after. Being the best person you can here, is worth focusing on.

    • @LO-bk4bv
      @LO-bk4bv Před 7 lety +6

      Thanks for messaging me back, Melissa. Thats good to know. Maybe with this practice of impermanence I can get over a fear of death and of never seeing my fiance again after we die.

    • @injourney7147
      @injourney7147 Před 5 lety +1

      @@LO-bk4bv 😂😂.....ohh....it was cute....😇

    • @LO-bk4bv
      @LO-bk4bv Před 5 lety

      @@injourney7147 Can you clarify?

  • @WWS322
    @WWS322 Před 3 lety +2

    To live in the Eternal Now life can be very, very long. It eradicates the fear of death completely.

  • @sameerbhatia451
    @sameerbhatia451 Před 3 lety +5

    Thank you for these words of wisdom. So grateful to hear you and read your books. Thank you.

  • @jessebernardo1989
    @jessebernardo1989 Před 2 lety +1

    Pema saved my mind and soul at 20..that was 26 years ago. I was told this same truth by a member of vajradhatu ..the old order of Shambhala.
    It's so relevant in that I now, pass the truth of the fragility of this life, and the need to tame one's mind. That should be ones highest goal. That is why we train in seeing impermanence as it is.
    I hope all who see this great piece, by a modern master, 🙏 pema Chadron, I pray their minds are turned toward the dharma and liberation of self in order too benefit others.

  • @sandiegopete4955
    @sandiegopete4955 Před 7 lety +2

    Om swasti! This is from another of my teachers. His name was Michael. Pema saved my life years ago when I read some of her work when I was in a bad place and I am profoundly grateful.
    “ You walk toward your fear. You embrace your fear. You don’t try to hedge it. That a part of real living as a human being, as a spiritual being, is to embrace it- encompass your fear, your love, and not run away from anything, because that’s the life experience. And it’s in that richness I think we find the most beautiful art, the most beautiful music. We find the richness of what the human soul can offer. And I see all that richness buried under such bullshit. -Michael Ruppert
    Ningje Gyamtso

  • @lindat1078
    @lindat1078 Před rokem

    Pema Chodren has changed my life more than any teacher. She has books and talks which have been with me for many years. I love her deeply. And as I head into my 73rd year of life her wise words on aging ring true.

  • @cristianebremenkamp8352
    @cristianebremenkamp8352 Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you so much beloved Pema Chodron

  • @camiladuarte6061
    @camiladuarte6061 Před 4 lety +1

    Thank U Pema, you are AMAZING.

  • @jbullets5964
    @jbullets5964 Před 3 lety +1

    We love you, pema. I'm so happy and grateful to have found you and these teachings.

  • @moderncontemplative
    @moderncontemplative Před 6 lety +5

    Pranam Pema Chödrön!☸️ May you dwell in equanimity and total enlightenment.

  • @heatherbauer2259
    @heatherbauer2259 Před 8 lety +12

    I love her so much. Thank you for sharing this.

  • @katecone3576
    @katecone3576 Před 5 lety +1

    I’m listening to this 2 days before I turn 65, and it is so comforting. Love the prayer at the end. Thank you, Pema!

  • @sagebutterfly2
    @sagebutterfly2 Před 5 lety +1

    What an amazing Being, dear Pema. So grateful for her teachings and her light.

  • @marshawoods4983
    @marshawoods4983 Před 4 lety +1

    The type of person we want to live forever! It’s three years passed your birthday I hope you’re still with us!

  • @donnakirsh8847
    @donnakirsh8847 Před 5 lety +1

    I love Pema. She is incredibly special. Stay with us and keep teaching us with your beautiful way.

  • @taoofnerd9813
    @taoofnerd9813 Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you. Love you, Pema.

  • @didjesbydan
    @didjesbydan Před 4 lety +2

    Though an old soul, her spirit is young.

  • @timharrington4470
    @timharrington4470 Před 5 lety +1

    Happy 80th birthday Pema. You are a wonderful gift.

  • @Simplylisette
    @Simplylisette Před 7 lety +9

    Calm words of wisdom.

  • @devinramos6317
    @devinramos6317 Před 2 lety +1

    Wow!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🏼♥️♥️♥️♥️

  • @roughdiamond3123
    @roughdiamond3123 Před 6 lety +4

    I've been working on feeling my emotions, as opposed to finding ways to soothe my emotions recently. So I love the advice Pema gives here about just relaxing into the groundless feelings. Thank you for sharing ☺️

    • @deela262
      @deela262 Před 3 lety

      Feeling emotions vs soothing emotions❤
      I just heard a dhamma sermon which said the latter is Samatha and the first is Vipassana... and that in vipassana we watch them in a non interfering manner, trying to understand their characteristics. Found it very refreshing. For me, trying to sooth emotions was very exhausting but repeated efforts helped to observe the pattern of the turmoil and slowly the devils are getting unmasked. Now it's almost fun to watch the show

  • @albertotorreshurtado
    @albertotorreshurtado Před 5 lety +1

    Thanks for sharing. Pema Chodron's warmth and tenderness are touching and inspiring amidst all chaos and egotistic social conversations

  • @ktran4341
    @ktran4341 Před 7 lety +4

    This video is helpful for me. I feel like I'm still at the resisting phase. Maybe in time, maybe in time.

  • @Restlessjosie
    @Restlessjosie Před 4 lety +1

    Such wise words from one of the greatest teachers of our time. Thank you Pema for sharing. much love

  • @keshiagitonga3862
    @keshiagitonga3862 Před 7 lety +7

    Shes the cutest.. Love the message

  • @abbypisegna1575
    @abbypisegna1575 Před 7 lety +5

    I love Pema!!!!

  • @lopezulises2013
    @lopezulises2013 Před 8 lety +9

    oh Pema, you've helped me so much. Cheers from Texas.

  • @arthurterre1711
    @arthurterre1711 Před 4 lety +1

    Something about this lady is so familiar and valuable

  • @MimiKiwi
    @MimiKiwi Před 3 lety +1

    And just like that, it’s been 5 years since this video was posted.

  • @zacharyrowden7692
    @zacharyrowden7692 Před 8 lety +8

    Such a warm-hearted thanks for this.

  • @bonjakobsen
    @bonjakobsen Před 5 lety +8

    Happy birthday mama

  • @anareachi5229
    @anareachi5229 Před 7 lety +1

    On the mark,, so magnificent and loving and authentic...........so kind of you to share this, thank you!

  • @tsampadi
    @tsampadi Před 5 lety +1

    Happy Birthday Pema Dear ! Only you seem to have the astounding abilitily to Breath warmth into Death! May the coming years bring ever increasing fulfilment and succes in getting the message across to all those with ears,

  • @shizitoulink
    @shizitoulink Před 6 lety +2

    So beautiful!

  • @ofelia829
    @ofelia829 Před 6 lety +1

    Thank you!
    💛

  • @eleanorgully9753
    @eleanorgully9753 Před 5 lety +5

    Love this teacher

  • @venusnewhall6401
    @venusnewhall6401 Před rokem

    Life is short when I’m happy and it feels like forever when I’m in suffering .
    I’ve been preparing for some years now .
    Thank you,

  • @japplesin
    @japplesin Před 5 lety +1

    So honest of you to share your deepest feeling and face the reality of death.

  • @pungr
    @pungr Před 7 lety +1

    thank you. I really needed to hear this tonight. Many blessings, Pema.

  • @enricogallegos9402
    @enricogallegos9402 Před 4 lety

    Thank you very much for this teaching and reminder

  • @ericlanebarnes4266
    @ericlanebarnes4266 Před 5 lety +1

    You have given us so much, Pema. Thank you.

  • @Yili2468
    @Yili2468 Před 5 lety +1

    Beautiful💖

  • @juliend-b2710
    @juliend-b2710 Před 4 lety

    Thank you Pema

  • @mrtt7972
    @mrtt7972 Před 7 lety +3

    just beautiful nothing else just beautiful.

  • @mikebramer2972
    @mikebramer2972 Před 4 lety +1

    Love this lady.

  • @jeffmccloud905
    @jeffmccloud905 Před 8 lety +7

    love this, thank you for posting. Aloha from Hawaii :)

  • @vic82ism
    @vic82ism Před 4 lety +1

    Such beautiful words

  • @niannabray
    @niannabray Před 7 lety +1

    Thank you Pema. So grateful for you and the way you have spent your life in deep inquiry. Thank you.

  • @Theloneliestnumber
    @Theloneliestnumber Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you for this

  • @margaretcurran8956
    @margaretcurran8956 Před 3 lety +1

    Beautiful spoken, prayers beautiful

  • @wolfster747
    @wolfster747 Před rokem +1

    Thank you for all that you do. You have had an immensely positive impact on my life.

  • @trashvampyr8571
    @trashvampyr8571 Před 2 lety

    Heck, crying. This Always hits in the right way. Bless Pema.

  • @ElisPalmer
    @ElisPalmer Před 4 lety +1

    Much love to you❤️

  • @sidonata
    @sidonata Před 6 lety +3

    Thanl you Pema Chödrön!-I love you so much!

  • @MariaJ1958
    @MariaJ1958 Před 5 lety +1

    Blessings Pema. Love you :)

  • @autentyk5735
    @autentyk5735 Před 5 lety +1

    My heart sank for a second at the thumbnail as I thought Poma was flipping us off.

  • @eloradanan1837
    @eloradanan1837 Před 6 lety +1

    lovely...

  • @sandra4551
    @sandra4551 Před 5 lety +1

    Beautiful

  • @piedadg3679
    @piedadg3679 Před 5 lety

    She is wonderful

  • @glennkavanagh6266
    @glennkavanagh6266 Před 7 lety +2

    lovely listening to wise nun pema, thank you kindly....buddha, dharma, sangha. xx

  • @mastinch7
    @mastinch7 Před 6 lety +1

    Beautiful energy- jus found this awesome woman, and such good wisdom and teaching, the most important thing of all the wisdom and words coming forth, is how we Apply it to our lives, these are treasures, they serve importance to us all, especially that last little prayer:) thanks to pema and all light beings

  • @jessicawestin8531
    @jessicawestin8531 Před 5 lety +1

    I LOVE YOU PEMA!

  • @neenasharma2304
    @neenasharma2304 Před 6 měsíci

    Needed to hear this

  • @Chloe-ti6pb
    @Chloe-ti6pb Před 2 lety

    Love this woman so much ❤️

  • @MandoLarian007
    @MandoLarian007 Před 5 lety +1

    Tashi Delek, Pema la! 🙏

  • @deepsfernandes
    @deepsfernandes Před 5 lety +1

    Returning home. ❤️ Amen.

  • @goodnatureart
    @goodnatureart Před 2 lety

    yes. Takes a while to get the hang of it, but we are not alone. Watch our tree cousins leaves born and die every year. They teach us all the time about letting go's potential to be beautiful. Appreciate experiencing... always grateful for When Things Fall Apart.

  • @kavitaluthra3104
    @kavitaluthra3104 Před 5 lety

    Happy Birthday 🍰🌹🎁🌟❄️💕

  • @greenenvironment4767
    @greenenvironment4767 Před 6 lety +1

    beautiful speech

  • @mebailey8158
    @mebailey8158 Před rokem

    Immense gratitude Pema

  • @h1r176
    @h1r176 Před 2 lety

    Happy Birthday!

  • @eroberto
    @eroberto Před 4 lety

    Happy birthday!

  • @veloopity
    @veloopity Před 2 měsíci

    Much love

  • @28105wsking
    @28105wsking Před 4 lety

    Thank you. I need to start.

  • @ingridborate1064
    @ingridborate1064 Před 3 lety

    Thank you 🎁

  • @user_f1
    @user_f1 Před 6 lety +2

    wise and precious words, it both touched me and made me very sad, I had to cry at the end. I'm not sure why, but death, since a very early age on, has always been busying me a lot...