I f*cked up the first 40 years of my life | Mel Robbins

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    This man desperately wants to change his life but says he JUST CAN’T bring himself to make his dreams a reality. Sound familiar?
    It’s easy to avoid the things you’re scared of. He used video games to distract himself from what he actually had to do. I used drinking.
    The first 40 years of my life, I was a hot mess - learning every lesson the HARD way, drinking through my feelings and beating myself up for not being where I wanted to be.
    I am where I am today because I lived through the hard shit and LEARNED from it.
    I stopped AVOIDING the things I knew I had to do.
    I CHANGED my habits and my mindset so I could focus on my dreams.
    My wish for you ➡️ Use this hard moment in your life to catapult yourself forward toward your dreams.
    Every day you have a choice:
    Am I going to avoid doing what I have to do?
    Or am I going to make shit happen and push myself to change?
    Get up every damn day and high five your way forward. Cheer for yourself.
    ⬆️That’s how you make your dreams come true.⬆️
    What’s one thing you want for yourself that you can take action on TODAY?
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  • @AlexMorgan-ti6nv
    @AlexMorgan-ti6nv Před 22 dny +711

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  • @diaryofaselfmademillionaire
    @diaryofaselfmademillionaire Před 3 lety +1592

    Wow, I needed that title. I’m 39, studying to start a new career/business and I am not yet married. Not only do I feel like I wasted the first 40 years of my life, I’m fighting the feeling that it’s too late to turn it around in any big way. Hearing Mel’s story gives me a little hope and reassurance that just because I didn’t get where I want to be by 25-30 doesn’t mean I can’t get there.

    • @lissam8988
      @lissam8988 Před 3 lety +175

      I'm basically starting to start over and I'm over 40. Don't consider it a wast of 40 years.... Considerate data that you can use to propel yourself forward to a better place as a better person. This is what I'm doing or at least trying tough to break old habits but they can be broken. You can do this. 🌸

    • @Abu-kx4ei
      @Abu-kx4ei Před 3 lety +45

      I wasted 4-5 years of my life as well. So I might have an idea how you feel. Lets hope we both do better from now.

    • @tigergirl906
      @tigergirl906 Před 3 lety +68

      Perhaps the world would be a better place if everyone accepted themselves as they are. Because we are; and that’s enough.

    • @teetuccillo4259
      @teetuccillo4259 Před 3 lety +52

      Hearing your thoughts they’re almost identical to mine. Thank you for posting and truly appreciate your honesty. For myself, one minute I’m 42 , then looked up and 5 years went by...now 47. I too changed my career, did not balance my life & wondering if I’m too late. But now asking myself...too late for what? Asking deeper questions on what I want to work towards...what balance & what does that look like? What do I want the end result to be? You will too. Good Luck 🍀 to you.

    • @teetuccillo4259
      @teetuccillo4259 Před 3 lety +8

      @@lissam8988 Good for you!!! Good luck 🍀

  • @GarySuley
    @GarySuley Před 3 lety +2374

    Waiter: “Would you like to hear about our specials?”
    Mel: “I...f****d up my life.”

    • @maximussarcasticus1312
      @maximussarcasticus1312 Před 3 lety +128

      That's exactly what I thought! "Uh, my shift ends in ten. Did you want me to bring the dessert menu or can I go now?" lol I do like her advice though.

    • @professorlayabout4878
      @professorlayabout4878 Před 3 lety +73

      Si, si, senora 😂

    • @maximussarcasticus1312
      @maximussarcasticus1312 Před 3 lety +10

      @@professorlayabout4878 😂

    • @ArAbramov
      @ArAbramov Před 3 lety +17

      😆 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣

    • @kameracamera8120
      @kameracamera8120 Před 3 lety +34

      Thank you for the belly laugh today - I needed it. You win the internet today. Cheers.

  • @dewaynetodalen4491
    @dewaynetodalen4491 Před 11 měsíci +453

    I am 52 and just had a failed business leaving me in a lot of debt. But I'm ready to begin again. I know I can succeed at any age. Thank you, Mel!

    • @ptlutube
      @ptlutube Před 10 měsíci +10

      At least you did something you wanted to do and took control of your life. You took a risk, probably learned a tonne and will bounce back from it. I just turned 40 and have nothing but regret.

    • @hermieabraham6078
      @hermieabraham6078 Před 9 měsíci +10

      I feel you - I'm the same age and in a similar position. I'm cheering for you and sending you good vibes for much success!!

    • @GonzoT38
      @GonzoT38 Před 9 měsíci +1

      @@Paulo-nf7ms lol the hell you say. there's a lot of things in life you don't objectively recover parity from.

    • @joevil6259
      @joevil6259 Před 9 měsíci +7

      I remember an article about this young Indian couple that came to the US to study and then managed to get a green card. They eventually married , had a couple of kids etc. Initially worked for someone else and then made the jump to owning one McDonalds, then two, then three etc , lots of ups and downs and today they are wealthy . They said that in India if your business goes down , that little nugget will go on your gravestone with you one day. You are never forgiven. Here in the US, you get a second, third and fifth chance and the only thing that people are really interested in is ...."and what are you planning to do next?" As an immigrant from another country I can fully vouch for what the Indian couple said. Most countries will make sure that your failures are advertised....not here in the US

    • @Paulo-nf7ms
      @Paulo-nf7ms Před 9 měsíci

      Well, it's a motivational phrase which IMHO is full of wisdom. You can interpret it as you choose. Whilst I don't necessarily dispute what you say, other phrases that come to mind are "EVERYTING is an opportunity" and "Today is the first day of the rest of your life". Even in the bleakest of situations, it's up to you whether you decide to focus on the negative, or on the opportunity.@@GonzoT38

  • @AhmetKaan
    @AhmetKaan Před 3 lety +673

    *Everything you've ever wanted is on the other side of the fear.*

    • @christinac3159
      @christinac3159 Před 3 lety +9

      Well said

    • @alexortega714
      @alexortega714 Před 3 lety +5

      Stealing a quote from Will Smith huh? smh

    • @paganbornspiritbear8249
      @paganbornspiritbear8249 Před 3 lety +8

      @@alexortega714....Who stole it from Jack Canfield....so...whose the thief....???

    • @paganbornspiritbear8249
      @paganbornspiritbear8249 Před 3 lety +3

      @@alexortega714 Alas...there was also Tony Robbins, who 20 plus years ago was saying this. It would appear your idol was not the first...nor will he likely be the last...

    • @Chris-tg3qy
      @Chris-tg3qy Před 3 lety +17

      It’s still a great quote.

  • @24-7flounderproblem
    @24-7flounderproblem Před 9 měsíci +133

    49 drank for 25 years from childhood abuse....the light finally came on this year....sober for 4 years finally starting my life... embarrassing.

    • @usaloveme
      @usaloveme Před 9 měsíci +42

      Don't be embarrassed. BE PROUD OF YOURSELF AND YOUR Accomplishments
      CONGRATS on your 4 year sober.😊

    • @usaloveme
      @usaloveme Před 9 měsíci +4

      @JC-du6sn thank you JC. I googled it. Hmm. God must be reaching out to me because I've been getting signs to hear Him.
      ❤️

    • @shallah7777
      @shallah7777 Před 9 měsíci +9

      Don’t be embarrassed you are trooper warrior for admitting your issues
      4 years sober is a great accomplishment
      Everything happens in divine timing
      Be forever young 😇

    • @Dagothdaleet
      @Dagothdaleet Před 9 měsíci +3

      That is awesome. Keep up the good work. Life isn't linear. Look at divorcees and career changers your age. You may be in a better spot

    • @cristina250980
      @cristina250980 Před 9 měsíci +2

      You are making a change in your life. That's good! 😊

  • @Powermoves1080
    @Powermoves1080 Před 2 měsíci +11

    Thank You! I’m 43 and feel like I wasted my life just partying it away, dead end job, single, no kids, and just feel lost. I’m ready to make a change to better my life. I’m tired!!!

  • @liberiangirl8382
    @liberiangirl8382 Před 3 lety +314

    I f****d up the first 27 years of my life... it sucks.. while others my age are excelling, im unemployed, broke and lost... but I havent given up hope... praying for everyone that is in the same situation

    • @mehrajunissa1205
      @mehrajunissa1205 Před rokem +1

      Same

    • @LianaRose77
      @LianaRose77 Před rokem +1

      Mee to you are not alone

    • @alex6161
      @alex6161 Před rokem +17

      Can I join your club guys? I am 28, and today will be my 1001th attempt to start life anew.

    • @wanda263
      @wanda263 Před rokem +16

      I wish I could have started my life with 27. I am 40. And I am slowly, very slowly just starting my life. It was so bad that I never even had a real job. Shame and all. Very hard to forgive myself.

    • @navodyaperera2624
      @navodyaperera2624 Před rokem +1

      Same here but we are here to change it

  • @Rosie82333
    @Rosie82333 Před 3 lety +231

    My 39th birthday was in March and without even realizing it, it hit me like a ton of bricks. All this time I’ve wasted from depression because of my parents divorce and then my moms death also how many decisions I’ve made out of fear. It’s time to put that stuff behind me and move on. I started going to the gym and working on my broken heart...the road to recovery is going to be tough but I have decided that I am worth it!

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    • @thereader6667
      @thereader6667 Před 9 měsíci +1

      Sending love ❤

    • @Liepos11
      @Liepos11 Před 9 měsíci +1

      Bravo!!! ❤❤

    • @Ishikaa12
      @Ishikaa12 Před 9 měsíci +1

      You are! You go girl!!!!

  • @catherinebiggs8162
    @catherinebiggs8162 Před 3 lety +254

    Exactly right. It is so darn easy to procrastinate. But you never get that time back. It slips away. Do it now.

    • @conqueringyourselfisthebes4766
      @conqueringyourselfisthebes4766 Před 3 lety +1

      Yes, you are right🙏🏻 !

    • @tee1974
      @tee1974 Před 3 lety +1

      Totally agree. I'm 50. Where did the years go? I had dreams. I would like to start my own business but, working as a litigation secretary (defense side) for 30 years, I've seen so much crap it's terrified me.

    • @charmaineappiah4070
      @charmaineappiah4070 Před 2 lety +2

      @@tee1974 you can do. Go and get your dream. The guy who started KFC never stopped

    • @falkschiffner6565
      @falkschiffner6565 Před rokem

      I am there, start my work out... its damm hard!

    • @yoursisesthermeya
      @yoursisesthermeya Před rokem

      @@tee1974do it x

  • @18laila
    @18laila Před 3 lety +95

    Notice the guy self soothing by rubbing his arm, bless him

    • @gmvalentine626
      @gmvalentine626 Před 3 lety +11

      I noticed that, too.

    • @vivianworden2706
      @vivianworden2706 Před 9 měsíci +12

      Probably felt uncomfortable with the drive thru therapy

    • @michellescherer7858
      @michellescherer7858 Před měsícem +1

      he’s not self soothing, he’s nervous cause he wants to move on to the next table but feels
      obliged to stand there and listen to her finish lmao

    • @18laila
      @18laila Před měsícem

      @@michellescherer7858 regardless of the reason (being nervous, according to you) his behaviour still indicates an attempt to self sooth

  • @davegoodo3603
    @davegoodo3603 Před 3 lety +379

    Sound familiar? I extended this to the first 50 years of my life. I'm studying now to redeem what is left of my time on Planet Earth. Thanks for sharing this message Mel.

    • @kathimiller6289
      @kathimiller6289 Před 3 lety +19

      How about the first 55

    • @jimb0000
      @jimb0000 Před 3 lety +18

      just how mentally strong do you have to be to pull this off you deserve praise. I am having trouble doing it and i am 23.

    • @EricaShady10171972
      @EricaShady10171972 Před 3 lety +7

      If we don't do it now when are we going to do it?

    • @davegoodo3603
      @davegoodo3603 Před 3 lety +17

      Thanks for the great replies. We can only do the best we can with what we’ve got - take heart.❤️

    • @NirajPoudyal
      @NirajPoudyal Před rokem

      Fucked up my first 38

  • @Andre_Ons_Marshall
    @Andre_Ons_Marshall Před 3 měsíci +6

    I f*ucked all 53 years of my life. I have cancer now, I’ve given up. I’m just happy the cancer has come along to remove the pain forever. I didn't drink or do anything that was addictive. I just worked on my career and never thought about having quality of life. I missed out on so much-chasing money and trying to be successful

  • @jjn6914
    @jjn6914 Před rokem +78

    I'm 41 now and finally have reconciled enough of my childhood trauma to allow unshakeable courage to break through. Just this year, I've finally allowed myself the chance to try everything I couldn't try or pursue when I was 10-20 years younger. This includes planning for a career pivot and choosing my own life path.

  • @delenehill7
    @delenehill7 Před 3 lety +86

    So true...I started changing last 2weeks...stopped drinking every night and feel so good..thank you ...Mel

    • @lahicks9773
      @lahicks9773 Před 3 lety

      Awesome! You are on the path of true love, self-love. Never forget,, your life matters and you are divine. Love and blessings in your journey into you. ❤

  • @dmerojas
    @dmerojas Před 3 lety +70

    I’ve just realized that I have CPTSD and am now picking up the pieces so I can move forward at 47. Everything I’ve done until now was to react to triggers.

    • @lahicks9773
      @lahicks9773 Před 3 lety +3

      LR100 i am going through a similar situation. You got this. Just know you are divine, you are born divine and you will die divine. Your life is important and your existence matters. Love and blessings ❤

    • @annmarieknapp
      @annmarieknapp Před 3 lety +4

      You aren't alone.

    • @janicecass2713
      @janicecass2713 Před 3 lety +2

      I'm 55 CPTSD MUM PASSED FOUND OUT SHE HAD LIED ALL MY LIFE. EVERYTHING HAS GONE WRONG, I'm now having to move back in to where I grew up with the person who sexually abused me from 8 to 13.

    • @reneeca5696
      @reneeca5696 Před 3 lety

      LR100 I highly recommend @the.holistic.psycologist, Dr Nicole Lepera!

  • @alexortega714
    @alexortega714 Před 3 lety +68

    Mel is my internet mom ,
    I love Mel ❣ (the 5 sec rule is gold )

  • @voiseaumusic
    @voiseaumusic Před rokem +62

    "Don’t expect change to happen overnight, even if it’s not always visible it’s making more impact than you think" ❤

    • @user-wx4sm4wm8f
      @user-wx4sm4wm8f Před 8 měsíci

      hello beautiful❤😂
      I really like your thought over here❤😂

  • @melissalee2522
    @melissalee2522 Před 3 lety +87

    Me too, exactly 40 years. Life for me began at 41.

    • @chriswilliams4195
      @chriswilliams4195 Před 3 lety +2

      Hey

    • @flowerpower4024
      @flowerpower4024 Před 3 lety +8

      And for me life began at 44. ☺

    • @Godisfirst21
      @Godisfirst21 Před 3 lety +11

      No, it didn't. That's just the story you tell yourself. Every year, you had ups and downs and you lived. Be kind to yourself. Self love.

    • @paushali2401
      @paushali2401 Před 3 lety +5

      I'm only 27 & sometimes I feel like I'm late to finding myself & starting to live. But people like you me believe it's never too late & to stop comparing.

    • @Godisfirst21
      @Godisfirst21 Před 3 lety +6

      @@paushali2401 You are not late at all. I'm 48 and wow, have I changed EVERYTHING since 27 and I LOVE my life and you will too. I wish you so much HAPPINESS and yes there will be pain too, but the other side of pain is BEAUTIFUL and WISE! Much love.

  • @Corey-pd3mi
    @Corey-pd3mi Před 3 lety +241

    Guy probably quit at the end of his shift 😂

    • @G.Man-
      @G.Man- Před 9 měsíci +5

      Two years on, we need a follow up conversation with this dude

    • @jasonninnis
      @jasonninnis Před 9 měsíci +6

      He didn't even start this conversation; he just came to take her order 😂

    • @joaquinben4458
      @joaquinben4458 Před 9 měsíci +1

      Hahahahahaha!!!!

    • @azangaming8684
      @azangaming8684 Před 9 měsíci +1

      Yea bro

    • @jktekkerz8735
      @jktekkerz8735 Před 9 měsíci +2

      I think that the waiter ended up drinking himself to sleep after listening to this!!!!

  • @ECA2
    @ECA2 Před 3 lety +45

    I've learned that every loss has an inherent gain to be found and every failure has a lesson to be learned. Most of all, never give up.

  • @nuxkamina
    @nuxkamina Před 9 měsíci +43

    Decided to be an artist at 40. Never did art since I was a kid. Growing, learning, being who you want to be...is the easy part. Forgetting the past and who you were is trickier. 1 day at a time. Win the day.

    • @beesworld04
      @beesworld04 Před 6 měsíci +2

      I admire this. I’m 38 and want to become a singer, yes I can actually do it. But you know 40 year old new artist 🤣🤣. Hope you’re enjoying yourself and making strides!

    • @Emi-jy5ct
      @Emi-jy5ct Před 5 měsíci

      You got this!

    • @Noella65
      @Noella65 Před měsícem

      But how do you pay your bills?

  • @Booster85
    @Booster85 Před 3 lety +133

    Love how down to earth Mel is, a real gem to the world 🙌

    • @Booster85
      @Booster85 Před 3 lety +2

      @Happy👩Healthy 💪Healing🌹 bless my love 😃🙌

    • @Repps87
      @Repps87 Před 9 měsíci

      I wouldnt say using a waiter as an therapist is beeing down to earth 🤣

  • @Juliana-eg6jd
    @Juliana-eg6jd Před 3 lety +77

    I love you Mel! I turned 40 this year and your video gives me hope. I'll be one year sober next month and you have been one of the angels that are making me realize how things can change for the better. Kisses from Bogotá, Colombia.

    • @briluv44
      @briluv44 Před 3 lety +1

      I love that this helped you too dear! I just noticed you got a “fake” reply too from someone claiming to be “Mel Robbins”, sad that people go out of their way to pretend to be someone else, and try to scam you.
      If you check my comments, you’ll see this fake person sent me the same exact messages.

    • @annajones9701
      @annajones9701 Před 3 lety

      Escobar country?

    • @snicksabea
      @snicksabea Před rokem

      Congrats.

    • @user-wx4sm4wm8f
      @user-wx4sm4wm8f Před 8 měsíci

      Hello beautiful
      I really love your sense of belonging here❤😂

  • @kellyhilliard3579
    @kellyhilliard3579 Před 3 lety +37

    Mel I wish I had more women like you in my life. I'm super grateful for your encouragement, Thanks

  • @josh2tone799
    @josh2tone799 Před 3 lety +176

    Waiter: HI are you ready to order?
    Mel: The first 40 years of my life I wasn't ready.......

  • @kathrynmcnerney6490
    @kathrynmcnerney6490 Před 3 lety +32

    Frikkin love Mel. I can't believe how much her teachings helped me. Virtual hugs and love Mel. x

  • @whoyouare20111
    @whoyouare20111 Před rokem +53

    She drank, was a lawyer, had a show and books. So 1 vice but many other achievements is not really ruined life. The way people sell just to get clout is so sad

    • @miakamei1751
      @miakamei1751 Před 9 měsíci +7

      Bro made it sound like she doesn't suffer anything

    • @steverinaldi890
      @steverinaldi890 Před 9 měsíci +4

      This is a joke I hope. And that poor bastard has to listen to this shit. He probably slit his wrists in the back after this. Love how she talks about she is all over the world telling this story.

  • @briluv44
    @briluv44 Před 3 lety +31

    So wonderful to help others, as you do too Mel! I waited till my 40s to go to College, and I learned a lot, but I didn’t experience as much until I started taking action! I wasted 40 years of my life too! I stayed in an abusive relationship, I ran from my fears, I hid behind lies, and I lacked confidence! These past few years have started my journey to where I want to be! Thank you for doing what you do Mel!! Looking forward to what your going to share with us in Atlanta in September!!

    • @briluv44
      @briluv44 Před 3 lety

      I’m confused on your reply. And that code doesn’t make sense.

    • @morganalahechicera2332
      @morganalahechicera2332 Před 3 lety +2

      ​@@briluv44 It's not Mel, somebody created an account with the same name to confuse people. Good luck on your journey Becky! You are still a young person, today 40s are new 30s so you have time to start from scratch and live your most wonderful life you've always wanted.

    • @user-wx4sm4wm8f
      @user-wx4sm4wm8f Před 8 měsíci

      can you pls send me your email address❤
      needed to chat with you privately ❤🙏🌹🥰

  • @AJManol
    @AJManol Před 3 lety +27

    EXACTLY what I needed to hear!!! Thank you, Mel!
    I'm 42 yrs. old and going from solo entrepreneur to staff/brick and mortar with the end goal of going country wide. Feeling like it's maybe too late for me, and that my bad habits of procrastination/ lack of follow-through will return. But it's happening less and less with my new efforts!
    Winners are the ones that keep getting up✊🏻
    I hope to hire Mel to come speak at my company someday 🤓❤️

  • @naomiblake1310
    @naomiblake1310 Před 3 lety +1

    Loved the way you ignite the fire in people who doubt in themselves and in the life they do deserve. It’s choices at the end one makes for themselves - so beautifully done Mel!!!

  • @joed7691
    @joed7691 Před 3 lety +3

    Love you Mel and your message. So glad you do what you do and help keep people like me inching forward each day.

  • @austinmullen6994
    @austinmullen6994 Před 9 měsíci +5

    This just appeared in my feed in one of the most stressed days I've had in so long. I'm at a turning point in life. 33 years old and I keep failing at everything I do. I needed this.

  • @samz8359
    @samz8359 Před 3 lety +4

    Oh I totally relate , I needed to hear that, thank you for sharing your vibrant energy with us.

  • @jerushadsa9354
    @jerushadsa9354 Před 3 lety +1

    This was so encouraging Mel, for me and I’m sure for the person you were speaking to in the video also. It was heart-warming to see you share your life’s wisdom with another. Really grateful of you and you’ve done such a good deed by posting this video here. Thank you!

  • @estheffanie4649
    @estheffanie4649 Před 9 měsíci +8

    the worst part of life is when you are surrounded with people full of negativity. to the point no matter how much you push yourself, they are just there.

  • @WileysShenanigans
    @WileysShenanigans Před 9 měsíci +8

    Miss Robbins, I know you will likely never see this comment but I just saw this title and watched your short video. I've wasted more than my share of the last 5 years sttuggling with all that you mentioned in the video. For today this helped me get up and moving. I'm hopefully that I may get into a daily routine of motivation as I have many people & 8 grandchildren that could benefit from all that I can offer if I can find the courage to do it daily. Bless you and your time to help just one person make a difference to so many other lives. Much peace and happiness in your own journey.

  • @Italgirl0528
    @Italgirl0528 Před 9 měsíci

    You brought tears to my eyes. I love and appreciate you! That young man was blessed to have been put in your path. Thank you for your honesty and transparency. That is the only way we can affect change is by looking ourselves in the mirror and seeing those hard truths.

  • @BeeUluwehi
    @BeeUluwehi Před 3 lety +2

    I love that they’re talking and engaging with the visitors and the workers alike. The message is even better ✨

  • @lauraconlon9800
    @lauraconlon9800 Před 3 lety +12

    Thank you for that. I think I need to listen to it every day. I’m 47 and in the same boat - been at the crossroad where I really need to become my own cheerleader so thank you

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  • @PoPhamsdotter
    @PoPhamsdotter Před 3 lety +46

    How nice that you really took the time to chat with that young man and offer him advice. It meant a lot to him i think.

    • @taoist32
      @taoist32 Před 3 lety +10

      He looks ready to scram. I don’t think he asked for any advice.

    • @anonymousperson1327
      @anonymousperson1327 Před 3 lety +12

      He did ask for advice. Mel said he kept coming back to ask questions. He probably was just nervous talking to her.

  • @butterbean5544
    @butterbean5544 Před rokem

    Mel Robbins making me cry again!!! Bloody love you lady, I haven’t watched you for a while and today when I really need it your video popped up!! 💕

  • @Jeffh206
    @Jeffh206 Před 3 lety +5

    He was really taking it all in. That was fantastic!

  • @janespitfire9884
    @janespitfire9884 Před 3 lety +3

    You inspire me Mel. I know everyone goes thru stuff it is part of living but you make sense

  • @hmw1341
    @hmw1341 Před 11 měsíci +8

    I’m 38 halfway to 39 and feel the same way. Sure, I’ve had hard things happen to me too personal to name here, but wow, have I left grief, fear, and low self-esteem steal so much time due to the heartache of those losses. Like many people here, it looks like this realization hits us around the same time. I woke up on my 38th birthday more depressed than I’ve been in years because I realized how much I had let slip by due to heartache, fear, and loss. Mel Robbins has helped me get a grip and finally wake up to what can be. Now, I just have to figure out how to do it and find the courage to push through when I can’t see the end of the tunnel. Many peace and blessings to all you others out there in similar situations. We will all get through this together. As my brother would say, just keep grinding. God bless!❤

    • @allesdurchprobiert
      @allesdurchprobiert Před 9 měsíci

      Just wanted to say, yes indeed same age. And I noticed it's also often roughly the same problems. I lost a decade to burnout and depression, and the previous decades weren't that great either. I missed out on a couple things, which still saddens me sometimes.
      I'm 40 and it took me many years to crawl out of a dark place, regain some strength and confidence and since a couple months I'm feeling much better and am in the process of cleaning up my entire life and get rid of all old baggage. I'm feeling that I currently start a new chapter. With many lessons learned.
      I realized in recent years that I don't need to be ashamed of my life and my shortcomings/issues because almost everyone seems to be some sort of screwed up. Some are just not aware of it, amd most try to hide it even from friends amd family.

  • @rolfmetzger4252
    @rolfmetzger4252 Před 9 měsíci

    Thank you Mel for speaking what I have been feeling. You are a constant source of inspiration and strength. A true shining " Yeah, you know what, she is right" beacon of hope.

  • @helendehaan9605
    @helendehaan9605 Před rokem

    Dear Mel, how lovely you are. Hearing you give that young man hope gives me hope that people like you are out there doing some good for the world. I enjoy your individuality and the humor you bring into everything you post 😅 THANK YOU ❤

  • @lifecoachpaden
    @lifecoachpaden Před 3 lety +4

    I love it Mel. I'm going to keep cheering for myself. It may take time but I'm going to make it happen! 💪👌👍😘

  • @PracticalInspiration
    @PracticalInspiration Před 3 lety +22

    Use hard times to learn from, rather than wallowing in self pity

  • @komododragon85
    @komododragon85 Před rokem +1

    Thank you Mel for this. Really needed it. Blessings

  • @Kozette88
    @Kozette88 Před 3 lety

    Thank you for being so authentic. I too F!#¥ up my life the first 3 and a half decades.

  • @tigergirl906
    @tigergirl906 Před 3 lety +20

    Pushing oneself too hard - ie harder than NATURE intended - is the cause of addiction and also downfall of kind society.

  • @gab22511
    @gab22511 Před 3 lety +8

    I needed to hear this!

  • @habiburaghmanebrahim4980

    I always love the raw honesty you express .. keeping it real and always moving forward !! 👌

  • @naturallyus3512
    @naturallyus3512 Před rokem +4

    Who says 40 50 60 or every 70 is the end of your life???!!!! Nobody determines your life span on how much time you have on this planet. You are getting older yes, wiser yes better yes❤❤❤you can live as long as you say so speak life into yourself!!! LET'S LIVE!! WE ARE THE SHIT AND WE ARE LOVED AND NEEDED! EVEN IF IT'S FOR OURSELVES. WE ARE WORTH IT!! EVERYDAY STEP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE AND START SMALL BUT DO SOMETHING GOOD SOMETHING YOU'VE NEVER DONE BEFORE 😊😊😊TIGHTEN UP #VIBRATEHIGHER

  • @sherrijones9728
    @sherrijones9728 Před 3 lety +3

    Perfect timing! ❤🙏🏽

  • @thesoulalchemist9755
    @thesoulalchemist9755 Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you so much!! I needed this right now!

  • @jesusistheanswer2074
    @jesusistheanswer2074 Před 3 lety +1

    It's nice to see you helping people live. God bless

  • @k.s.barpru677
    @k.s.barpru677 Před 3 lety +10

    Great video. I am struggling so hard at being 51 and not having accomplished my biggest dream. I'm tired of hearing myself say that "maybe it's too late."

    • @paulnicolas172
      @paulnicolas172 Před 9 měsíci +1

      Am 54 and feel down a lot about it - my parents are dead now and I didn’t get a good career or a family to make them proud or grandkids at least to fulfil them . I’ve had an easy life though so I can’t really complain . At 51 , unless you’ve had a lot of experience in something , you might be better going self employed if that’s what you want .
      Personally though , I have my own house and just about enough savings to last me till retirement so am going to spend the rest of my life just trying to enjoy life and if I need a woman I’ll pay for one lol rather than being with some bitter old bag just for the sake of it or spending most my time and efforts and stressing myself out on some career .

  • @mariafildissi9570
    @mariafildissi9570 Před 3 lety +3

    Me too, Mel! I believed my fearfull thoughts.
    No more!

  • @TwinkleTenshi
    @TwinkleTenshi Před 3 lety

    You're the Best, Mel! Seriously. I don't often get a reminder that it's not too late, except when I get a notif from your channel. Thank you for the encouragement

  • @yasmintorres1038
    @yasmintorres1038 Před 3 měsíci +1

    I am 25 and had just written in a google doc how I felt like I’ve wasted my life, but wow I’m glad I came across this video ❤ much love to you all, we are all on time, I believe in you ❤

  • @nancyh.570
    @nancyh.570 Před 3 lety +3

    You are the best Mel!

  • @jackiek4159
    @jackiek4159 Před 3 lety +18

    Absolutely loved this! Let's stop procrastinating and make our dreams our reality guys! 🙌🏻🙏🏻

  • @PracticalWellness
    @PracticalWellness Před 3 lety

    You are really awesome Mel! Thanks for sharing this today!

  • @PolishBehemoth
    @PolishBehemoth Před 9 měsíci +1

    Just got a new subscriber. The part about waking up in the mirror and choices really struck home for me. Im 36 and just starting life over now, in a new school (massage therapy) for something i really loved my entire life but never had the balls to pursue.

  • @greaterperspective819
    @greaterperspective819 Před 3 lety +12

    We are All love and worthy of love and respect.

  • @kayv5840
    @kayv5840 Před 8 měsíci +8

    I wrote down something similar the other day
    “I deserve to love myself ENOUGH to change my life for the better”
    It always helps to hear someone else say it. Thank you 🙏
    My bad habits are procrastinating because of perfectionism and fear of failure, and imposter syndrome.

  • @yakoubyakoub9315
    @yakoubyakoub9315 Před 9 měsíci

    Mel I love you! You are awesome. Things are what they are and not what they are not. I too screwed up way too many years ... drinking, not seeing clearly, hiding, making the wrong decisions. Your videos are so refreshing and uplifting! You inspire us, thank you. Take care, stay true. Jakob

  • @mauraronda1265
    @mauraronda1265 Před 3 lety

    This guy is so respectful. Kudos!!!

  • @ExposedChannel247
    @ExposedChannel247 Před 3 lety +8

    I've f-d up the first 41 years of my life culminating in a motorcycle accident. Lost my job because I couldn't walk for months, license expired, had to move in with family to be nursed back to health. Every day is a battle against the dark voices in my head and my girlfriend is ghosting me dealing with her own struggles leaving no support system. I have to claw my way out of this situation.

    • @andrews127
      @andrews127 Před 9 měsíci

      Whatever you do dont rely on your GF.

  • @serenedione
    @serenedione Před rokem +2

    This gives me hope, I just turned 38 on November 9th...I'll be watching her 5,4,3,2,1 rule again to get this journey started‼️‼️🙏🏽

  • @theloveleebaker
    @theloveleebaker Před rokem +1

    Needed to hear this. Life is just beginning for me at 44.

  • @BlueberryBoogie
    @BlueberryBoogie Před 3 lety +1

    Flash forward in 10 years the man is everything he wished for and more. I pray for his success! 🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @g.hansen1561
    @g.hansen1561 Před 3 lety +8

    Pure inspiration

  • @WeideMarket
    @WeideMarket Před 3 lety +7

    I've had the same experience - I also F*CKED UP the first 40 years of my life - by just deciding to have fun without making the sacrifices and putting in the work to reach my goals and achieve my dreams. That's changed now and I am putting all the work I can! I subscribed based on this video by the way ;-)

  • @Angell_Lee
    @Angell_Lee Před 8 měsíci

    You are so amazing Mel, you are exactly where you are meant to be and I am so proud of you! Keep it up, may the universe keeps blessing you xo

  • @tigergirl906
    @tigergirl906 Před 3 lety +1

    Be kind to yourself Mel. I hear you telling that lad he’s in the right place, yet that you fucked up 40 years. Nope. You were also in the right place. I do relate. I’m 47 and crying today. Kindness and acceptance are the salve though. And laughter - natural laughter from joy felt within. If anyone hasn’t told you today that you are loved, I love you. Thank you for your work. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🤍

  • @FalaqKhan03
    @FalaqKhan03 Před 3 lety +7

    I just looooooooove you Mel...your videos have changed my mind set....you are freaking awesome.... On my way to success ☺️☺️🤞

    • @FalaqKhan03
      @FalaqKhan03 Před 3 lety

      @Mel Robbins by using someone else's name and picture you have proven that you are a fraud.

    • @FalaqKhan03
      @FalaqKhan03 Před 3 lety

      @Mel Robbins and by the way cryptocurrercy itself is a big fraud.

  • @chiyungwong3774
    @chiyungwong3774 Před 3 lety +3

    I’m 37 and CZcams knows what I need to hear more than I do! I’ve never been a drinker and over the last month I’ve started to drink a beer or two before bed…am I on a slippery slope?

  • @trevorfrayne6418
    @trevorfrayne6418 Před 3 lety +1

    My 48th birthday is in two days. I love this advice. This for me is like an early birthday present. It could be the best one I have for this birthday. Thank you.

  • @dntl408
    @dntl408 Před 3 lety

    I needed this. Thank you Mel!

  • @becsta365
    @becsta365 Před 3 lety +39

    Tremendous courage Mel, well done…

  • @CrystleSky
    @CrystleSky Před 3 lety +3

    Always believe in yourself and trust the process. Keep moving forward 🌠🐎🐎🌠🐎🌠🌠💛💛💛❤❤

  • @davidemoss2375
    @davidemoss2375 Před rokem

    This has me in tears in my own bedroom. At sixteen years old i feel like i have to do everything now, choose what i want to do and start doing it now so i will be good at it , i feel like i wont be enough and ill just end up washed. Discovering mel could truly be a changing point in my life, thank you so much 😭

  • @progressnotperfection1839

    High five yourself! That’s how I’ve found my way through this life/world so far!

  • @jannalee2036
    @jannalee2036 Před 3 lety +5

    Love you Mel♡

  • @clubtutti1
    @clubtutti1 Před 3 lety +7

    The waiter was just coming over to take your food order.

  • @alvegutt42
    @alvegutt42 Před rokem +1

    this is nice to hear. im 26 and feel like i wasted the past 3 years of my life, sometimes it hits me hard and im near ugly crying

  • @feltonwalt1719
    @feltonwalt1719 Před 9 měsíci

    Hey Mel long time no see I miss the talk show and your daily positivity but glad to hear some encouraging words! I got this.

  • @rubinakochar5343
    @rubinakochar5343 Před 3 lety +24

    You give me hope, Mel

  • @brasti9088
    @brasti9088 Před 3 lety +22

    I'm 25 and I feel like I fucked up the first 25 years of my life too. Stuff like this help. I see so many 25 or younger seeming to have it all figure out, grinding, getting there then there's me riddled in fear

    • @sliceofpie1741
      @sliceofpie1741 Před rokem

      I'm with you

    • @cliffisaac6158
      @cliffisaac6158 Před rokem +6

      Well that's your first problem stop comparing yourself to other people and that fear will greatly reduce. Everyone has a different starting position but the finish line is the same for everyone and it's being content with who and where you are in life.
      Instead compare yourself to who you were yesterday and strive to be better than that person even small increments of improvement matter. Doing so will serve as your motivation to keep going until you have so much momentum that the struggle to improve and learn won't feel like your struggling any more. It doesn't matter how long it takes for you to get to where you want to be just as long as you get there.

    • @annie-sc
      @annie-sc Před rokem +4

      25 is still so young!!! I know not comparing yourself to others is hard, but remember, your peers only post the good stuff in social media. It's all just a facade.

    • @wizard_of_waverly_place
      @wizard_of_waverly_place Před rokem

      On same boat.

  • @thekushness
    @thekushness Před 4 měsíci

    They always got mad I asked so many questions, thank you for embracing that from him!

  • @Wexxydog
    @Wexxydog Před 3 lety

    You did the best you could.. someone didn’t let you know you deserved better, you needed to find out the hard way. Now you get to be proud that you get to be that encouraging person for other people. 🥰

  • @ownyourafrica2722
    @ownyourafrica2722 Před rokem +4

    I really messed up my 20s. At 36 I've managed to turn a few things around. New subscriber!! 💚

  • @johnmatheson2760
    @johnmatheson2760 Před 3 lety +10

    I made mistakes and went through hell, but it all made me what I am. I wouldn't change it a bit.

  • @bochica3562
    @bochica3562 Před 9 měsíci

    Thanks for the video! I'm living the first day of my new life and found this video because I still have to learn a lot. 👍

  • @mariannenielsen425
    @mariannenielsen425 Před 3 lety

    Mel you are an amazingly beautiful person inside and out. Thank you for being so honest and inspirational. xoxo

  • @mariagarza1269
    @mariagarza1269 Před 3 lety +3

    Thanks so much for this. Some of us over 40 need to hear this.

  • @happylifestore
    @happylifestore Před rokem +13

    Loved that title, summary of my own life. At 40, 2 years ago now, I said enough is enough. My goal for 2022 was having my own flourishing business, I achieved that, my goal for 2023 is fantastic health. 2024 marrying the wife I found in 2023, or if I don't find her in 2023 then that will be my main goal in 2024. Then having one kid four years in a row. Life will be amazing for me at 50.