MUMS GATHER : Who Is Your Next Of Kin?| Mum vs Husband vs Children| Hakimi and Wife Divorce

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  • Fun Fact about your Next Of Kin responsibilities:
    1. If you become incapacitated without a Will or health care directive, medical decisions will typically fall into the hands of the Next of Kin.
    2. Next of Kin is responsible for distributing your assets. They will typically be named the Administrator if there is no contest over who to place in charge within the family.
    3. They make funeral arrangements. Hopefully, this person has an idea of what their relative wanted (burial, cremation, etc.) and can follow their wishes accordingly.
    What did you consider when choosing your Next Of Kin?
    We can't wait to hear your view in the comment section!
    Come through to Golden Tulip for HAPPY HOUR and BBQ tonight from 6 pm to 10 pm with the fabulous Inhouse Band.
    #HappyFriday #NewEpisode #BumpLove

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  • @bumploveug
    @bumploveug  Před rokem +13

    Fun Fact about your Next Of Kin responsibilities:
    1. If you become incapacitated without a Will or health care directive, medical decisions will typically fall into the hands of the Next of Kin.
    2. Next of Kin is responsible for distributing your assets. They will typically be named the Administrator if there is no contest over who to place in charge within the family.
    3. They make funeral arrangements. Hopefully, this person has an idea of what their relative wanted (burial, cremation, etc.) and can follow their wishes accordingly.
    What did you consider when choosing your Next Of Kin?
    We can't wait to hear your view in the comment section!
    Come through to Golden Tulip for HAPPY HOUR and BBQ tonight from 6 pm to 10 pm with the fabulous Inhouse Band.
    #HappyFriday #NewEpisode #BumpLove

    • @zionruby
      @zionruby Před rokem +3

      Put my follower Sister. First because am not legally married,second I don't have parents.
      She is godly and principled and has fear of instructions. ,🤭

    • @fk5371
      @fk5371 Před rokem

      I don't know why you are surprised that Hakimi did what he did. Do some more reading on the relationship betweeen children and mothers in the Arab world or in Islam. "Who next your mother, who next your mother, who next your mother................"

    • @abaineolivia6306
      @abaineolivia6306 Před rokem

      This is super good
      Well done ❤

    • @lydiatumwebaze4959
      @lydiatumwebaze4959 Před rokem

      Angie is living in her own bubble she is far away from the realities of this world

    • @muhammedwalugembe9195
      @muhammedwalugembe9195 Před rokem +1

      My next of kin has always been my wife. I am her next of kin too. I make it a point to ensure that both of us are included on documentation of every asset/investment.

  • @zionruby
    @zionruby Před rokem +57

    I love how Pumla reads widely and prepares for these shows.
    Hope people get the principles of inheritance.

    • @pumlanabachwa8668
      @pumlanabachwa8668 Před rokem +12

      Love that you're here Onana. I truly love Bump Love mostly because in sharing knowledge, I'm also constantly learning. Generally...we are in this together. P

    • @zionruby
      @zionruby Před rokem +1

      @@pumlanabachwa8668Absolutely. Happy Weekend.

  • @celiakareithi8651
    @celiakareithi8651 Před rokem +16

    This is a typical girlfriend group, all the different personalities give the show a more balanced worldview.
    Love it. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @atwiineannah5628
    @atwiineannah5628 Před rokem +2

    The shaking and praying over the signature from Manuela is so emotional bkz imagine signing away all yo sweat

  • @kirabozeridahsarah
    @kirabozeridahsarah Před rokem +16

    The Sign-if-i-can't, I love this wisdom

  • @rachaelnabukko4358
    @rachaelnabukko4358 Před rokem +3

    After seeing what is happening at Hon.Kato Lubwama's vigil. I came back here to appreciate Ms.Nabacwa for what she mentioned
    About having a person who puts emotions aside and execute the will. Apparently Hon. Nsereko is doing a great Job
    Thanks for always sharing wisdom

  • @robinanamagembe557
    @robinanamagembe557 Před rokem +15

    As a Christian woman, i love Manuela's point of view. That is the right way to feel before getting married. And because we don't feel that way, the divorce rate in church is now very high.

  • @jariatnakitende3393
    @jariatnakitende3393 Před rokem +22

    Pumla is so intelligent 🥰

    • @pumlanabachwa8668
      @pumlanabachwa8668 Před rokem +1

      Nakitende of Lugave. Such a weighted statement. I receive ❤. P

  • @julietneubert
    @julietneubert Před rokem +10

    Angie, you have this rich aunt face. I don’t know, but even the way you talk gracefully (how you gracefully open your mouth to talk). It’s all in your eyes too. You’re a natural without trying.

  • @patriciakamara8906
    @patriciakamara8906 Před rokem +6

    When Pumla and Manuela said, “ Bambi Angie” 😂 that was hilarious

  • @esthernorberts3793
    @esthernorberts3793 Před rokem +9

    Then I learnt the true meaning of SIGNIFCANT..sign if I can’t…Thank u Mrs MULondo

  • @EmyzMagnate
    @EmyzMagnate Před rokem +24

    And yet another educative episode. I keep telling people having a degree is not enough. You have to keep evolving, youtube has made it easy for us, now with a show like bump love ❤️ Ladies, may God keep giving you wisdom. So you can come and bless us with it too😅

    • @pumlanabachwa8668
      @pumlanabachwa8668 Před rokem +1

      Thank you Emyz. Love that we are all here learning together. P

  • @lucyfnakiyegawamala7892
    @lucyfnakiyegawamala7892 Před rokem +3

    Angie, I love how you introduced this episode& how you closed it off. Thank you ladies. This found me at a time when I'm reflecting on when to start writing a will, but I kept getting cold feet. This show has made it easy to start. I've added it on my 2023 goals.

  • @vee3581
    @vee3581 Před rokem +4

    A very insightful and educative topic. I love how you all even up your contributions on set. Very well done ladies

  • @kasubojustine795
    @kasubojustine795 Před rokem +7

    I would like to thank God for your lives bump love family. Have been waiting for you through the week

  • @gonzafilda9814
    @gonzafilda9814 Před rokem +5

    As we are hustling saving and investing
    Man this show today is a reality

  • @leahnakabugo3226
    @leahnakabugo3226 Před rokem +2

    Great conversation.
    Pumla you're bold and with great wisdom!
    Thank you Ladies.

  • @nalaakimilly1702
    @nalaakimilly1702 Před rokem +13

    Pumla your intelligence and the way you prepare for these shows is extra ordinally keep it up
    I always look up to your ideas

  • @joanitahnalubwama905
    @joanitahnalubwama905 Před rokem +2

    God bless the ladies of bump love,for me whenever am watching an episode of bump love,I learn something.

  • @komugisharitah4088
    @komugisharitah4088 Před rokem +5

    Thank you bump love, I always transfer this knowledge to my parents

  • @evelynkabahuma7035
    @evelynkabahuma7035 Před rokem +2

    Very wise conversation indeed thank you so much ladies!! 👏👏👏

  • @hildaninsiima2506
    @hildaninsiima2506 Před rokem +5

    Always learning something on bumplove ❤thank you ladies.also you all look radiant 😊😊

  • @joeriagwokyalya4708
    @joeriagwokyalya4708 Před rokem +8

    I keep learning new things ladies "SIGNIFICANT". Thank you for this insightful episode. ❣❣❣❣❣

  • @AmutuhaireIryn-om7my
    @AmutuhaireIryn-om7my Před rokem +5

    I love the show soooo much and especially @nabacwaPumla's ideas and @Rosette's calmness

  • @hanifahnamuli947
    @hanifahnamuli947 Před rokem +3

    Great show, quite awakening,thanks ladies

  • @judithnyangatum7282
    @judithnyangatum7282 Před rokem +3

    Wow ladies thanks for the amazing show,am still student but I love bump love so much, am learning alot,may God bless n protect your ladies

  • @yvonne76156
    @yvonne76156 Před rokem +1

    This new set up and background is amazing!! Y’all look great😍

  • @kirabozeridahsarah
    @kirabozeridahsarah Před rokem +8

    When Pumla said I take off one hour to fear men... I felt that in my bones

  • @remmyndagire3632
    @remmyndagire3632 Před rokem +3

    This episode really took me to a new school and it's very timely because my mum's vigil is in 2months from now and her will is about to be read.Thank you so much ladies and the entire bumplove team

    • @pumlanabachwa8668
      @pumlanabachwa8668 Před rokem

      Sorry about your mom Ndagire. May she rest peacefully 🙏🏾

  • @zaburahzaburahh1784
    @zaburahzaburahh1784 Před 11 měsíci +1

    The way Pumla is loving as Manuela is putting her vowel

  • @josephineayebare2315
    @josephineayebare2315 Před rokem +3

    Ladies the background is so on point. The set up reminds me of The Real!

  • @tusiimechristine
    @tusiimechristine Před rokem +2

    Eye-opening conversation here. Thumbs up ladies👍

  • @estherauma9353
    @estherauma9353 Před rokem +15

    Pumla is going to be those old women with too much knowledge whom everyone wants to be around😂😂... Intriguing conversation ladies💯

    • @pumlanabachwa8668
      @pumlanabachwa8668 Před rokem +4

      Aaaaaawwww atte when we're old we need people around us. I receive this blessing Esther. Thank you. P

    • @estherauma9353
      @estherauma9353 Před rokem +1

      @@pumlanabachwa8668 right gango for old age.🥰.

  • @shamimkagere
    @shamimkagere Před rokem +2

    Very important conversation, well detailed

  • @sarah-nl4hi
    @sarah-nl4hi Před rokem +2

    Great discussion ladies. Thank you all

  • @Viola_ug
    @Viola_ug Před rokem +1

    Beautiful episode ladies. PUMLA, keep this insights coming in. we love you all..

  • @theerinahshow2077
    @theerinahshow2077 Před rokem +2

    Nice space. Makes the show look great

  • @aishanamusaazi
    @aishanamusaazi Před rokem +3

    Angi was the last part real neccessary with love from us too thank u for putting a smile on our faces

  • @christinenakazzi280
    @christinenakazzi280 Před rokem +2

    But must life be this hard with all that paperwork 😢! thank you ladies i am always learning it was fun watching this.

  • @nabiryeasia9091
    @nabiryeasia9091 Před rokem +9

    This really needs a continuation with probably a lawyer coz it's deep even the men's version is needed

  • @mayamariam256
    @mayamariam256 Před rokem +7

    I didn't want this conversation to end

  • @mabanjafridah2272
    @mabanjafridah2272 Před rokem +1

    Oooh Lord😮😮😮 i need to make a will asap..u guys have made see things from a different perspective .Thank u bump love.

  • @zionruby
    @zionruby Před rokem +24

    Rosette is such a storyteller;so catchy and hilarious.

  • @sophymaeba989
    @sophymaeba989 Před 11 měsíci +3

    A dollar for every time Pumla says"The natural progression of life" will make you a billionaire. 😂

  • @joyanena
    @joyanena Před rokem +3

    For Manuela (hi OG!!!! 🙂) and those in similar boat of "calling on your vows," while you may not be leaving 100% to your beneficiary - unless of course, the asset is fully owned by you, the above ensures that "your share" goes to the right beneficiaries and you can sleep easy i.e., (1) in the event of death, your SO's new partner can only influence his share but yours is squarely in your beneficiaries' inheritance, (2) in the event of disagreement/dissolution of marriage for the living, division of physical and financial assets is simplified. It's a tough convo to have but when you are getting into joint ownership with a partner, have these conversations and ratify them with a partnership agreement (e.g., let's do 50-50 for love or I bring 25m and you bring 75m so ownership is 25-75). Love does not have to be completely blind 🙂

  • @flowerpotmadrine88
    @flowerpotmadrine88 Před rokem +1

    thank you ladies. Alot to learn indeed

  • @the_Nakuru_Vlogger
    @the_Nakuru_Vlogger Před rokem +1

    Very insightful! As we fight for equality we need to brace ourselves for the challenges men face as well

  • @margaretdhabangi9595
    @margaretdhabangi9595 Před rokem +1

    😅😅😅You gals... The way I love you..... This topic has been a great eye opener.......Thank you so so so much!!!!

  • @Jackie.Mpengo
    @Jackie.Mpengo Před 11 měsíci +1

    Am here for the wisdom.... The dramatic touch to the presentation of the wisdom is everything 😂😂 Manuela 😂😂😂😂

  • @briankibuule9439
    @briankibuule9439 Před rokem +2

    good show, mature and knowledgeable discussion

  • @Daizy_Natukunda
    @Daizy_Natukunda Před rokem +4

    I love you ladies ❤❤❤❤
    Mature and honest talks

  • @JMBM8822
    @JMBM8822 Před rokem +1

    New subscriber. Learning a lot🇰🇪

  • @Journeyjunckies
    @Journeyjunckies Před rokem +1

    Deeeeeeeeeeeppppppppp!!!! Thank you ladies ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @kirundazuena9219
    @kirundazuena9219 Před rokem +16

    I once told a mature lady that I actually want to open an account were I save money for only problems. She said to me" never do it, that way, your only inviting endless problems in your life" Thank you for this ladies.
    I and my girlfriend thought about it today that how about you invite a few of us that are big fans of the show to be watching you (ladies) live while discussing these topics please!!!

    • @Flourish_today
      @Flourish_today Před rokem +1

      😂😂😂😂😂 what a funny response. That account is called an emergency account. But that woman, that your inviting problems. Everyone needs that account. Now, what if your washing machine breaks what do you do?

    • @isaaclwanga4506
      @isaaclwanga4506 Před rokem +2

      Great idea it could be a whole talk show

    • @kirundazuena9219
      @kirundazuena9219 Před rokem

      @@Flourish_today my dear, a washing machine is a luxury to me as per now😌

    • @roselloyd7500
      @roselloyd7500 Před rokem

      ​@Kirunda Zuena I bet you Flourish lives in Noth America. They use that language of if your washing machine breaks, or your vehicle needs new tires. It's why people have emergency accounts for such emergencies. Also, take it as a blessing. She has assumed you already have it.😊

    • @kirundazuena9219
      @kirundazuena9219 Před rokem

      @@roselloyd7500 ohhh okay. I tap on the blessings God!!

  • @kristinem1431
    @kristinem1431 Před rokem +2

    But bump love. Children rivalry!!!! You promised. Me waiting

  • @ayiyowinne4715
    @ayiyowinne4715 Před rokem +2

    Nze kantuule ku bump love, I learn things,nsirike🤫🤩.much love beautiful ladies.

  • @elizabethnakayiza8276
    @elizabethnakayiza8276 Před rokem +6

    The yellow💛💛💛💛 I love it. Manuela didn’t get the memo😂 Meanwhile Rosette you’re giving rich auntie vibes I love your dress😊
    Thanks for the show ladies ❤❤❤❤

  • @ckmatovu
    @ckmatovu Před rokem +3

    Thank you ladies. This session was so worth my data. I don't regret one bit. I love the honesty from Manuela ahaaa....remember to send FIRE too to accompany the signature. Great points about the will and am embarking on making amendments to mine yesterday.

  • @zionruby
    @zionruby Před rokem +9

    Manuela preaching submission!
    Amen

  • @doreengift458
    @doreengift458 Před rokem +1

    Bumplove! Bumplove! You ladies are amazing,the knowledge that flows here is unmatched. See how i thought next of kin is anyone i want,hmmmm. Let the change start. The shock about spouses is real, i recently was doing something with mine and we both were asked for individual next if kin. Guesss my shock when he rushed to call his cousin for her details while i provided funds for the process. Maybe its something about trust,its well. Let's look out for ourselves and be better as my mother's child Pumla says.❤

    • @pumlanabachwa8668
      @pumlanabachwa8668 Před rokem +1

      Wabula the shock in marriage is just so funny. Haha! Mubutuufu...let's do better.

  • @donjb6829
    @donjb6829 Před rokem +2

    Wow, that was very educative and entertainment.

  • @joannakabiri4984
    @joannakabiri4984 Před rokem +2

    Ladies your really blessings us with knowledge thank you👏👏👏

  • @harrietevelyn
    @harrietevelyn Před rokem +1

    Signs that someone is loved is Angie. Wow. Thank you ladies for the discussion

  • @doreenhumura
    @doreenhumura Před rokem +4

    Pumla onkolera! You expressed women's reasons in the most logical way for me.

    • @pumlanabachwa8668
      @pumlanabachwa8668 Před rokem +1

      I hope I continue to do so. Thank you Humura. Kyoka I have a boda guy who has failed to say Pumla. He calls me Humura 🤣

  • @Tessnymoh
    @Tessnymoh Před rokem +2

    Today's topic was very insightful......

  • @iamthemessagegrace4568
    @iamthemessagegrace4568 Před rokem +6

    Manuela with kumanyilanyo facial expression😂😂

  • @ceciliamwebaza9377
    @ceciliamwebaza9377 Před rokem +13

    I love how Pumla invests in this show. Like she surely makes research 🥰🥰 thx gal💙 lol u all

    • @pumlanabachwa8668
      @pumlanabachwa8668 Před rokem +1

      Thanks Cecilia. Bump Love deserves all the investment in the world.

    • @ceciliamwebaza9377
      @ceciliamwebaza9377 Před rokem +1

      I appreciate u all, I get to learn alot from this show🥰

  • @MistyEE21
    @MistyEE21 Před rokem +4

    Pumla you leave me breathless - thank you for sharing your personal story ❤❤

  • @nazziwavanessa606
    @nazziwavanessa606 Před rokem +6

    This topic takes me back to Teddy Bujingo mukazi watu. Just wen life was becoming better,she's kicked out of it.

  • @penlopetumwekwatse8439
    @penlopetumwekwatse8439 Před rokem +2

    It's exciting to be number one here 😂😂😂.

  • @MistyEE21
    @MistyEE21 Před rokem +5

    Manuela you really cracked me up about Mr. Mulondo🤣🤣🤣

  • @lisperbwarigesimba2723
    @lisperbwarigesimba2723 Před rokem +7

    watching from kenya. you let me floating with kiganda wish you could interpret after😂

  • @maryteka9915
    @maryteka9915 Před rokem +2

    Angie's world seems to be so perfect,from a complete home to a happy marriage,to wonderful kids,to a great business....to me seems like a fairytale kind of life....not comparing but from this is the opposite is way too far...

    • @zaburahzaburahh1784
      @zaburahzaburahh1784 Před 11 měsíci +1

      Angie grew up from a rich family got married to a rich husband so she had a soft lifestyle her entire life

  • @DuncanAllanByamukama
    @DuncanAllanByamukama Před rokem +3

    learning is in effect.
    Today I have learnt so many things from Pumla's story. Things are now beginning to make sense now

  • @ainomugishaannitah4508
    @ainomugishaannitah4508 Před rokem +1

    Oh my God I am just a student but I love bump love a lot❤. I really learn a lot of things on this platform.😍😍😍💞💕

  • @Flourish_today
    @Flourish_today Před rokem +7

    Im surprised a prenup was not part of the marriage in this case.

  • @anyangoveronica8804
    @anyangoveronica8804 Před rokem +2

    Thanks ladies I was listening to you pipo with my elder sis who was really struggling with the same thing but thanks to you she made the ryt decision basing on the talk🙏

  • @ckks0nyoutube
    @ckks0nyoutube Před rokem +13

    This needs a part 2 with preferably an estate planning lawyer present, very beneficial discussion
    Part 2 can possibly address what to do when beneficiaries have spouses and suddenly they want their share of the ‘mall’ so they can go to the abroad for example

  • @user-jc4ld7rf2u
    @user-jc4ld7rf2u Před rokem +1

    Ohh my ladies I love u
    so much.i learnt alot of things since I started following u

  • @marizaofficial7585
    @marizaofficial7585 Před rokem +3

    Pumla.
    I love 😊you so much
    Manuela.......just fierce and calls it out although she's been blessed with a good husband..she understands.
    Rosette and kemi....cool . collected and calm.
    Thanks ladies....

  • @bryanaruho8279
    @bryanaruho8279 Před rokem +4

    When queen Pumla is talking i must be attentive and smiling,lots of love .P 🎉

    • @pumlanabachwa8668
      @pumlanabachwa8668 Před rokem

      Such confidence. I receive and ofcourse I'll keep giving. Lots of love

    • @bryanaruho8279
      @bryanaruho8279 Před rokem

      @@pumlanabachwa8668Thanks you dear

  • @ottilienhinda5124
    @ottilienhinda5124 Před rokem +4

    I love you soo much ladies.... From Namibia

  • @kabagyeniphionah448
    @kabagyeniphionah448 Před rokem +2

    This was a good one...

  • @mirembebenitah7875
    @mirembebenitah7875 Před rokem +1

    Its really amazing😍

  • @naturindablessing5330
    @naturindablessing5330 Před rokem +2

    Wisdom here.. Am co _compare comparing how my dad did his will... To both the wife and his first child... Now for this show. I now know what I do with time

  • @rebeccasanyumirembe6513
    @rebeccasanyumirembe6513 Před rokem +1

    Been waiting for rhis episode

  • @daphinsleem3054
    @daphinsleem3054 Před rokem +1

    Nze always here to learn and have a good loud laugh......

  • @geoffreykasanya2030
    @geoffreykasanya2030 Před rokem +2

    Uganda ladies so natural authentic...and intelligent buana....hakuna maringi😂

  • @annetnansumba9082
    @annetnansumba9082 Před rokem +8

    Is it me alone who responds to that ka last bye signal even when iam I know these aren't seeing me😂 like the moment I hear with love from bump love and then the ka bye, my dear self also responds with the ka bye😊😊thank you ladies for always enlightening my Friday

    • @pumlanabachwa8668
      @pumlanabachwa8668 Před rokem

      Hahaaaa! DEAD! We'll now add even more energy in the bye 😂.

  • @zaneleshongwe6133
    @zaneleshongwe6133 Před rokem +3

    Manuela is so funny 😅

  • @travonnelynda
    @travonnelynda Před rokem +3

    First here , ❤️💕💖💖💖 I love you ladies mostly Pumla

    • @jdm3762
      @jdm3762 Před rokem

      Me 😃
      Especially Pumla and Angie I loved how the yellow on Angie and Pumla's ka cute dress plus shoes seamlessly went into each other.

  • @iamthemessagegrace4568
    @iamthemessagegrace4568 Před rokem +7

    Angie wanted to cry at 8:19 - 8:23😂😂

  • @nalubugaketra
    @nalubugaketra Před rokem +8

    Ooh wow.. Bless you Ladies I appreciate you ❤..Hey Pumla you’re such a Goal🥰.. When my Mommy died she left all her properties in our names( me & my 2 siblings) Surprisingly my dad knew about it 😂 thou he was doubting it till the will was read and am glad he didn’t give us hard time he accepted it and moved on..

    • @pumlanabachwa8668
      @pumlanabachwa8668 Před rokem +1

      Oh Ketra. May your mommy continue resting peacefully. Glad that there were no quarrels. P

    • @nalubugaketra
      @nalubugaketra Před rokem

      @@pumlanabachwa8668 Amen 🙏.. Thank you 😊..

  • @thurayassitakange1098
    @thurayassitakange1098 Před rokem +8

    This topic has changed my mindset so much👌
    Where will I be without U amazing ladies😢Bless Uuuuuuuuuuu our ladies

  • @rachelnaigaga6634
    @rachelnaigaga6634 Před rokem +1

    Next of kin issue is serious and something to ponder about!

  • @kambaeunice
    @kambaeunice Před rokem +4

    Hey bump love, i wish we get an episode where bump lovers can be educated about the different ownerships that marrieds can have to protect each other, i.e joint ownershisp viza viz tenancy in a common. A legal practitioner in land law would be a blessing.❤❤❤

    • @pumlanabachwa8668
      @pumlanabachwa8668 Před rokem +1

      Definitely need to have a lawyer here for this conversation. Thanks Eunice. P

  • @misslilly2833
    @misslilly2833 Před rokem +2

    I am really glad we..Ugandans are starting to talk about death openely. Embracing and planning for the innevitable makes life easier for the ones you leave.🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️

  • @nampewolydia
    @nampewolydia Před rokem +13

    I just love Pumla's submissions. Eeeh girl you're a gem. Great conversations girls.

    • @pumlanabachwa8668
      @pumlanabachwa8668 Před rokem +1

      Thanks Lydia. Here for the learning journey like the rest of you 😊. P

    • @nampewolydia
      @nampewolydia Před rokem

      @@pumlanabachwa8668 You're far better 👌👌👌 girl

  • @bernadettemutuzo729
    @bernadettemutuzo729 Před rokem +1

    Pumla deep insight Mama👌🏾

  • @user-pd6xf5wm2o
    @user-pd6xf5wm2o Před 11 měsíci +1

    Lets appreciate manuella for always pushing the story but on the negative side