I feel you so hard. Every time I tell someone I've never had sex they say "well, it's good that you're taking your time. Maybe you haven't found the right person yet." but then i tell them i'm just not interested in having sex plus it grosses me out, they'll be like "How can you say you're asexual if you haven't even tried it yet?" and (my now ex boyfriend) even said "I'll only believe you being asexual once you've had sex and tell me you didn't like it and don't want to have it anymore. I feel like you don't truly love me bc you don't even want to try" ????????? Like no. Fuck you.
@@MoondropStarzzz I know. I'd like to see all these straight people "try" having sex with their own gender to see what *they* think. 🤣 After all, if they go by that philosophy how do they know they don't like gay sex if they haven't tried it? Lol.
16 and ace, hoping to come out to my mom and grandparents tommorow :) Update: I came out to my mom, she was mad that I told school first, but other than that it was the standard hug and a "You know you can tell me anything, and I'll be there for you" which was nicer than can be put into words
Can anyone of you tell me how to come out as a asexsual ? I really want to become asexsual person...i want to get rid of my Pornography Addiction. I dont want pornography in my brain... PLEASE, TELL ME. I REALLY WANT TO BE ASEXSUAL
Can anyone of you tell me how to come out as a asexsual ? I really want to become asexsual person...i want to get rid of my Pornography Addiction. I dont want pornography in my brain... PLEASE, TELL ME. I REALLY WANT TO BE ASEXSUAL
@@ariffitrie8839 Bro, I (a bi guy) had an attraction to my second hand leather jacket I bought two years ago, until very recently, via the help of my psychologist and just growing up. I have faith in you, and please ask for help from your friends or psychologist.
I remember being 13 and pulling my mum to one side to tell her something. I then preceded to tell her I had started smoking, Straight away she said "oh, i thought you might be gay" (which i'm not). 26 years later I did the same thing again but told told her i was Asexual (as i had been single since 2006) Her response this time was slightly different as she said "so am i", Massive hug followed and just so everyone knows i did manage to quit smoking :) She is the only person ive told, I don't think my brother and dad would understand and I don't feel I need to tell them. Ive not told my sister and i should because i could be a blue alien with flames coming out of my ears and she would love just the same.
I'm asexual but didn't come out to anyone yet. At first I thought it would be an easy thing to do but the more I think about it, the more I realize that people might not be as understanding. I think my parents would be disappointed because they want me to have kids in the future. Anyways I'll probably just come out to my friends first... but I don't feel like doing it now lol
I came out to my friends first 😊 mine was very understanding and supportive. Im actually thinking about coming out to my family once all my siblings already has familirs of their own and im the only one who is left without one, much easier to SHOW them of me being ace 😊 i actually came out to my friends eith an Ace Joke 😅 that gave them a sudden hint of my sexuality
Just remember: your parents don’t have the right to live through you. Socially it’s “okay” that they have the expectation of having grandchildren, but they don’t get to make that decision for you! 🖤
I came out to my parents, and they didn't really have a response. I came out to my friends, and got mixed reactions. They didn't know what asexuality is, and one friend told me that I will find the right person one day. I told my kind of boyfriend (who is also my best friend), and honestly I'm not sure how he really feels about it. He told me that it's cool, but who knows.
I’m 18 and I am asexual. I came out to my friends and they were upset about it and it ended up as an argument, and they also called me childish. I am definitely dropping them
An ex friend of mine said she “couldn’t wait until I had sex” because she “wanted to see how my personality would change”... that’s really stuck with me...
I had this experience with my roomate in college who tell me every time on my birthday or the new year “I think this is the year you are going to lose your virginity” and then I would ask why and she said “it’s a new year (or a new age) you will be more open minded now” 🤦🏼♀️
I'm 19 and gray-ace and,for some time i felt that i didn't need to come out. But now, i'm overthinking some things about relationships and it's making me really anxious and distressed.I think i need some support. My parents know nothing about it, and i'm afraid to come out to them and even to my therapist who is also a sexologist but never talked about lgbtqia+ ever, so i'm afraid they'll say the typical things "you haven't found the right person yet" and stuff.
For context: I’ve a degree in psychology. This is your friendly reminder that if you don’t feel you connect with your therapist, it’s ok to find another one! You can also book a therapist just to talk about being Ace (you can find therapists, who are lgbtqia+ friendly, online) and keep your “regular” one for the rest 🙂
Over 10 of my closest friends identify as bisexual or biromantic, so I thought I’d be in a safer position. I struggle so often because people are so quick to forget about it, so I end up repeating myself over and over and it is incredibly frustrating to have to go through this deeply emotional statement to people who usually don’t take it seriously. I acknowledge I have the privilege of being heteroromantic, so at the end of the day I settle for saying I’m straight, because out of self preservation, if I don’t fully trust you, you don’t deserve that information from me.
i think my parents suspect im ace only bc i express it quite a lot very often, but i dont think they know any terms for it, and theyre homophobes but they said if i ever came out as a part of LGBT+ then theyd still luv me, but i find it to sound more like "if u tell me the truth then i wont get mad" so im skeptical about it, but this video helped me 😁
I did come out to my best friend during last asexual awareness week and she of course was totally cool with it. (BTW she immediately told me that she’s bisexual, what I expected long ago.) I came out to my mother and little brother a few months ago, because he and his friend who was visiting us were talking about a few gay and bisexual kids in their class. (Nothing bad. Just stating that they’re quere.) My mother was a little confused and I think she was a tiny bit disappointed that she probably won’t have grandkids from me, but she was otherwise cool with it. I haven’t told anyone else, because I’m actually really shy and nervous about that. (Sorry for my bad english.)
I came out to my friends as an Ace and they were so happy for me 😂 they now realize why i was acting so weird whenever they talk abouy any sexual related stuff, so its more of an understanding now. They and i are now adjusting to this whole sexuality that i have now, which is cool, i was thinking of coming out to my family in thr furture once everyone in my family has families of their own and im the only one who is left without one, it's easier that way to SHOW they about me being Ace. They might not understand but eh we will see in the very far future 😊
Can anyone of you tell me how to come out as a asexsual ? I really want to become asexsual person...i want to get rid of my Pornography Addiction. I dont want pornography in my brain... PLEASE, TELL ME. I REALLY WANT TO BE ASEXSUAL
I actually had a conversation with my mom earlier today, and she helped me understand that I was ace. It was actually a really nice experience, and my dad was also really supportive. It feels good in way to finally know that I am not the only one
man i’m just glad that i live in a very friendly household- my mother is bisexual and has been most her life, and my sibling is trans and bi (he/they), so i know they’ll be supportive but i can’t find the right moment 😫
Thank you so much for this, I’m 13 and ace and I’m just worried that my parents will say “your too young to know”. So has anyone got any tips? Thank you and stay safe y’all 🖤🤍💜
I recently became asexual and heteroromantic and have only really come out to my friends and on Twitter. My friends that I told were very supportive of me and were proud of me for coming out to them. I haven’t come out to my family yet and I am not sure when or if I will come out to them. I have thought about if I do find the right guy in the future and do end up getting married and we both agree that we want to have kids that’s the only time I will probably be ok with it. My first sign that I was asexual was that I looked up what it felt like to be sexually attracted to someone because I honestly had no idea. I now realize that I am definitely more romantically attracted to guys.
It's so bizarre, I brought this up to a friend and it's unfathomable to them. It scares me how different our perceptions can be, that's what makes me question myself so much. How can we be so seemingly different? If I'm this different then maybe it's an illness or I'm 'normal' but confused and I'll eventually see the world as they do. It can really mess with your head or even how you experience the world lolll
@@jennaclarek Thank you, and thanks for your videos. It helps a lot when you can see a part of yourself reflected in others! Especially something like this haha
Hey, I really like your videos and i think I might be ace. I have talk to my parents about my thoughts and they said “ you just haven’t found the one” or “ you’re just a late bloomer”. I’m 14 right now and I’m asking if it possible to know if I’m ace or not at this age??? I’m sorry if you didn’t understand the comment I’m really bad at explaining and I have English as a second language.
you can absolutely know! i have some more ace videos up so those might help, but i figured out i was ace in high school when i was a few years older than you so you can definitely know!!
I came out to my friends by just messaging them that I figured out I’m asexual rather than pansexual, since it doesn’t feel like as much as a big deal with them (most of them are also queer). But with my parents… I know they’re not homophobic, but when I (awkwardly) came out to my mom as pansexual, she told me she thought labeling it didn’t make sense since I’m just a teenager. And I didn’t even really come out to my dad, he just found out because my homophobic brother was bullying me and I started crying and I told him why. I’m just scared to come out and I don’t even know how to begin that conversation. I’m worried about explaining what asexual means to them and them still not understanding. Plus I’m pretty pissed at them right now for a different reason. So maybe I’ll just wait a bit until I feel more sure of my sexuality too.
I've never told my family at all that im asexual. During pre teen years a few family members of mine saw me as "cursed".. yeah i do have some pretty religious family members... and ive never even told them im ace. Can only imagine their reaction.
I came out to my boyfriend and his first reaction way " 😂😂" And telling me that it's not who I am.. I mean I trust this person enough to come out and all he does is make fun.. It hurt
i feel comfortable saying i am ace and i tried telling my parents but they dont understand and i litterally have to name everything and go fully details but they just say ur too young, u havent found the right one, u dont understand, ur confused, u need to have sex, see a doctor and man the list goes on, i feel like no matter how much i try to tell them they wont believe me and think i am weird.
I haven't come out yet. Idk how to break it to my parents. I'm scared they'll not understand me. Cuz even when I told them I'm suffering from OCD, they said I'm fine and I'm not suffering from any such condition. It's killing me when I try to reach out and they say there's nothing wrong with me. I'm not sure how they'll react when I tell them I'm an ace.
I just said it casually. Pretty much everyone I know is aware that I’m an Asexual. And to no avail, my family is all “oh you just haven’t found the right one”. Even when I do find this ‘the one’, I will not engage into ‘doing it’ anyways. And what do they say to that? ‘Oh you will’. I can now see the frustration
Yeah, my asexual coming out story was not that pretty :/ My father and siblings accepted me immediately, but my mother got angry, called me slurs and told me people like me should not be allowed out in public. Almost four years have passed and she has calmed down a bit, but now she's spreading the rumours of me being a lesbian or "in denial", so idk what to do with her. I also have a qpp who is transmasc and I am scared to tell her anything, she hates trans people. To anyone else, I hope your experience was better! Ace Gods unite!
I came out to my parents as aro ace by recommending a book called "Loveless" (which is great by the way) to my mum, which is something we often do, and then just kind of subtly being like, so, what did you think about that... ALSO by the way I'm asexual! I think sharing media with people (whether that be books, videos, films etc) can be a great way to test the waters, to see how they might respond before actively coming out
When I came out as asexual... Surprisingly, my parents and siblings actually took the news pretty well... I just came out and said it and they just said that they supported me and accepted who I was and still am
The only person I came out to was my mom and as for everyone else i feel like it is none of their buisness. However being 22 with a lack of interest in sex some people keep harassing me that I am a closeted lesbian and now i feel the pressue to come out as ace... I am thinking about coming out to my best friend (though she is in her 50s) so maybe having a label for my experince will help her understand me.
I honestly never felt like telling anybody I'm ace is coming out I'm just chill about it and it doesn't have to be my whole personality I mean what's the big deal it's just a sexuality
I am going to come out to my best friend tomorrow, and I am scared they are going to say I am just looking for attention because I have always been the only straight guy in our friend group. We even had a call today where everyone kept calling Sir Straight, and one of the other people came out as ace to me. Should I come out? I am so scared that people won’t believe me.
first of all that is so....ugh. i’m sorry ): i think if it’s something you’re interested in doing and you feel it’s the right time, go for it! but don’t feel like you have to jump in headfirst if you aren’t actually ready for it. if the rest of them are not straight then they *should* understand and appreciate where you’re coming from and frankly if they don’t....they need to sort through some stuff. if it were me, i’d either learn to deal with living the lie - and know that my friends may not actually be my friends - or i’d come out to know their true colors. sucks that that’s how it has to be, but i want to believe that they’ll support you!! you deserve that!
Thanks for the advice! Reading this I decided I want to stay in the closet a bit longer, but I wanted to tell someone about it. I told my best friend since pre-k, and he was very accepting and said if I want to talk he is there. Thanks for the support again!
Can anyone of you tell me how to come out as a asexsual ? I really want to become asexsual person...i want to get rid of my Pornography Addiction. I dont want pornography in my brain... PLEASE, TELL ME. I REALLY WANT TO BE ASEXSUAL
@@ariffitrie8839 It’s not a choice, you’re either born ace or not. Your sexuality can change naturally but you can’t force a change. However I’m sure if you speak to a professional they can help you with your addiction :)
This is something so helpful for me as an aroace person. I'm entering high school rn and I've been thinking how to tell people that I'm aroace if they ask, cause I know that there are a few LGBTQ+ kids in the school I'm gonna go to so they might ask,but idk if they'll be accepting of ace and aro people.
Almost none of my friends are straight so they we're really understanding but some didn't really understand. I know my parents (and sisters) opinions on ace's and I don't want to come out to them because they won't get it and I don't want to be told I'm wrong and "to young"
My 16 year old daughter just came out to me and my husband last night. I about fell on my knees thanking God. I was honestly hoping for this. I also feel like I didn't react right because I was ecstatic instead of upset. Why would parents be upset about this?
Can anyone of you tell me how to come out as a asexsual ? I really want to become asexsual person...i want to get rid of my Pornography Addiction. I dont want pornography in my brain... PLEASE, TELL ME. I REALLY WANT TO BE ASEXSUAL
Came out to a couple of close friends and my best friend thinks I'm probably demi, but it doesn't feel right. He said he thinks it may have just been my ex, but I thought about my past and the more I've thought about it the more answers I have for what I felt
Can anyone of you tell me how to come out as a asexsual ? I really want to become asexsual person...i want to get rid of my Pornography Addiction. I dont want pornography in my brain... PLEASE, TELL ME. I REALLY WANT TO BE ASEXSUAL
Tried to come out of my basement, and i'm never going to come out again... I like the cobwebs down here I hate all the noise from above....but I can't hear any of that down here... it may seem lonely but I have plenty of rats and spiders to talk too during my stay, some go some stay with me... but I know no matter what i'm safe down here.... where I truly don't exist
Thanks for this video it really made me feel a lot better but I wanted to ask you something Ok so I just found out that I'm ace about a month ago and I'm trying to figure out how to tell my bf He's LGBT + friendly (as far as I know) but we're both socially awkward I'm 16 (in 1 month) and my bf just turned 17 we've been together barely 1 year and he said he wants to take things slow (so that's a start I guess) Any help would be greatly appreciated and thanks for taking the time to read this have a nice day/night :)
Personally I just don’t really think that they need to know, like it’s none of their business really :/ Some people have a different perspective but that’s just me doing what’s best for me ❤️
Yesterday I was reading this book called loveless which has a acearo character and my dad asked me what it was about, so i told him and he said that you cant possibly not like anyone and asked if there is scientific proof or if people are making it up, saying that people love making stuff up so they feel different from the group. So I told him that there are many ace and aro people at my school and he said that at this age no one can know that which is SO invalidating:( I guess I'm not coming out till I'm 20 or ever.
Can anyone of you tell me how to come out as a asexsual ? I really want to become asexsual person...i want to get rid of my Pornography Addiction. I dont want pornography in my brain... PLEASE, TELL ME. I REALLY WANT TO BE ASEXSUAL
I’m 13 am I to young I want to come out and I know I’m not going to change my mind about being Asexual but my parents I guarantee they will tell me I’m only thirteen I know I’m not too young to be Ace but am I too young to come out? This is especially hard because I know I’m mature enough but I’m not like normal thirteen year old girls who like to have a style and have a bunch of friends and social media’s I where old Basketball shirts and sweatpants and they always think of me as Their little girl especially because I’m really small and on growth hormone right now to help me grow so people always see me as younger and feel like I’m younger than I am it doesn’t help that my little sister who is three years younger is a little taller than me and my cousin who is only a year older is like 1 1/2 feet taller than me! And she’s not even tall for her age. Anyways I’ve never been viewed as this super mature teenager I’ve always been viewed at the mammas little girl who is short so they might view it differently than if my younger cousin was to come out and she’s the same age but she’s a bit younger by like 4-5 months but if she came out as Ace she would most likely be fine because she dresses and acts like the typical teenager
i understand what you mean, but hey there is good stuff too it! i knew i was asexual when i was about 11 or 12 and many many years later i feel the same. You are never too young to know what you are and if they dont support you then thats their loss. You keep doing you and you will do great!
i think that depends on the person and the situation! obviously you know yourself best so if you're confident in your identity and you feel that you'll be supported and you are ready to take that leap, then by all means, go for it! straight people know they're straight at 11 so i don't know if age has anything to do with it. but i also know i myself wasn't sure of my sexuality until i was at least in my late teens, and even then i didn't know what i know now in my mid-twenties. i don't know if there's ever an ideal time to come out because it's always different. but don't let a certain age be the thing that stops you!
I feel you so hard. Every time I tell someone I've never had sex they say "well, it's good that you're taking your time. Maybe you haven't found the right person yet." but then i tell them i'm just not interested in having sex plus it grosses me out, they'll be like "How can you say you're asexual if you haven't even tried it yet?" and (my now ex boyfriend) even said "I'll only believe you being asexual once you've had sex and tell me you didn't like it and don't want to have it anymore. I feel like you don't truly love me bc you don't even want to try"
?????????
Like no. Fuck you.
@@MoondropStarzzz I know. I'd like to see all these straight people "try" having sex with their own gender to see what *they* think. 🤣 After all, if they go by that philosophy how do they know they don't like gay sex if they haven't tried it? Lol.
Boy do I have a compromise for ya both
As an asexual 15 year old I cannot tell you how helpful this video is
i'm also 15 and ace :)
omg me too!! I can't tell you my struggle distinguishing being ace and being a late bloomer but it's cool y'all are 15 y.o. aces too :)
16 and ace, hoping to come out to my mom and grandparents tommorow :)
Update: I came out to my mom, she was mad that I told school first, but other than that it was the standard hug and a "You know you can tell me anything, and I'll be there for you" which was nicer than can be put into words
Can anyone of you tell me how to come out as a asexsual ? I really want to become asexsual person...i want to get rid of my Pornography Addiction. I dont want pornography in my brain... PLEASE, TELL ME. I REALLY WANT TO BE ASEXSUAL
@@ariffitrie8839 hey you can't really change your sexuality or your preferences, it's something you're born with yk
I'm asexual I still haven't come out thank you so much for this🖤
Same
Same here..
Idk if I would be doing it ever in my life..
But all the best for all my /aroace members who are planning to come out one day😊🤗
Same
Can anyone of you tell me how to come out as a asexsual ? I really want to become asexsual person...i want to get rid of my Pornography Addiction. I dont want pornography in my brain... PLEASE, TELL ME. I REALLY WANT TO BE ASEXSUAL
@@ariffitrie8839 Bro, I (a bi guy) had an attraction to my second hand leather jacket I bought two years ago, until very recently, via the help of my psychologist and just growing up. I have faith in you, and please ask for help from your friends or psychologist.
I remember being 13 and pulling my mum to one side to tell her something. I then preceded to tell her I had started smoking, Straight away she said "oh, i thought you might be gay" (which i'm not). 26 years later I did the same thing again but told told her i was Asexual (as i had been single since 2006) Her response this time was slightly different as she said "so am i", Massive hug followed and just so everyone knows i did manage to quit smoking :)
She is the only person ive told, I don't think my brother and dad would understand and I don't feel I need to tell them. Ive not told my sister and i should because i could be a blue alien with flames coming out of my ears and she would love just the same.
I'm asexual but didn't come out to anyone yet. At first I thought it would be an easy thing to do but the more I think about it, the more I realize that people might not be as understanding. I think my parents would be disappointed because they want me to have kids in the future. Anyways I'll probably just come out to my friends first... but I don't feel like doing it now lol
I came out to my friends first 😊 mine was very understanding and supportive. Im actually thinking about coming out to my family once all my siblings already has familirs of their own and im the only one who is left without one, much easier to SHOW them of me being ace 😊 i actually came out to my friends eith an Ace Joke 😅 that gave them a sudden hint of my sexuality
Just remember: your parents don’t have the right to live through you. Socially it’s “okay” that they have the expectation of having grandchildren, but they don’t get to make that decision for you! 🖤
I came out to my parents, and they didn't really have a response. I came out to my friends, and got mixed reactions. They didn't know what asexuality is, and one friend told me that I will find the right person one day. I told my kind of boyfriend (who is also my best friend), and honestly I'm not sure how he really feels about it. He told me that it's cool, but who knows.
I’m 18 and I am asexual. I came out to my friends and they were upset about it and it ended up as an argument, and they also called me childish. I am definitely dropping them
An ex friend of mine said she “couldn’t wait until I had sex” because she “wanted to see how my personality would change”... that’s really stuck with me...
I had this experience with my roomate in college who tell me every time on my birthday or the new year “I think this is the year you are going to lose your virginity” and then I would ask why and she said “it’s a new year (or a new age) you will be more open minded now” 🤦🏼♀️
I'm 19 and gray-ace and,for some time i felt that i didn't need to come out. But now, i'm overthinking some things about relationships and it's making me really anxious and distressed.I think i need some support.
My parents know nothing about it, and i'm afraid to come out to them and even to my therapist who is also a sexologist but never talked about lgbtqia+ ever, so i'm afraid they'll say the typical things "you haven't found the right person yet" and stuff.
sending you good vibes and support!!! 💜💜
@@jennaclarek Thank you💜
For context: I’ve a degree in psychology. This is your friendly reminder that if you don’t feel you connect with your therapist, it’s ok to find another one! You can also book a therapist just to talk about being Ace (you can find therapists, who are lgbtqia+ friendly, online) and keep your “regular” one for the rest 🙂
@@eleanor.shadow Thank you so much💜
Congrats . You can do it. I support you
Over 10 of my closest friends identify as bisexual or biromantic, so I thought I’d be in a safer position. I struggle so often because people are so quick to forget about it, so I end up repeating myself over and over and it is incredibly frustrating to have to go through this deeply emotional statement to people who usually don’t take it seriously. I acknowledge I have the privilege of being heteroromantic, so at the end of the day I settle for saying I’m straight, because out of self preservation, if I don’t fully trust you, you don’t deserve that information from me.
i think my parents suspect im ace only bc i express it quite a lot very often, but i dont think they know any terms for it, and theyre homophobes but they said if i ever came out as a part of LGBT+ then theyd still luv me, but i find it to sound more like "if u tell me the truth then i wont get mad" so im skeptical about it, but this video helped me 😁
sending you good vibes and the best of luck if you choose to come out!!
I just came out, and my religious mom accepted me! I'm so friggin happy right now! 🖤💜🖤💜
I'm so happy for you!
I just don't know whether tell my mom or not.. not sure
I did come out to my best friend during last asexual awareness week and she of course was totally cool with it. (BTW she immediately told me that she’s bisexual, what I expected long ago.)
I came out to my mother and little brother a few months ago, because he and his friend who was visiting us were talking about a few gay and bisexual kids in their class. (Nothing bad. Just stating that they’re quere.) My mother was a little confused and I think she was a tiny bit disappointed that she probably won’t have grandkids from me, but she was otherwise cool with it.
I haven’t told anyone else, because I’m actually really shy and nervous about that.
(Sorry for my bad english.)
I came out to my friends as an Ace and they were so happy for me 😂 they now realize why i was acting so weird whenever they talk abouy any sexual related stuff, so its more of an understanding now. They and i are now adjusting to this whole sexuality that i have now, which is cool, i was thinking of coming out to my family in thr furture once everyone in my family has families of their own and im the only one who is left without one, it's easier that way to SHOW they about me being Ace. They might not understand but eh we will see in the very far future 😊
i'm so happy and proud of you!!!! you deserve it!!
i just came out to my friend and she just said
"oh cool"
✌✌
The irony of getting an ad for condoms while watching this video...
NOT THIS 😂
That is just awkward
Just what I needed. Thank you 🥰
Can anyone of you tell me how to come out as a asexsual ? I really want to become asexsual person...i want to get rid of my Pornography Addiction. I dont want pornography in my brain... PLEASE, TELL ME. I REALLY WANT TO BE ASEXSUAL
@@ariffitrie8839 you can't make yourself asexual 🤦♀️tf you even saying ppl are born asexual they don't transform to asexual
I actually had a conversation with my mom earlier today, and she helped me understand that I was ace. It was actually a really nice experience, and my dad was also really supportive. It feels good in way to finally know that I am not the only one
man i’m just glad that i live in a very friendly household- my mother is bisexual and has been most her life, and my sibling is trans and bi (he/they), so i know they’ll be supportive but i can’t find the right moment 😫
I'm asexual but Idk how to come out to my parent thank you for this video.
Thank you so much for this, I’m 13 and ace and I’m just worried that my parents will say “your too young to know”. So has anyone got any tips? Thank you and stay safe y’all 🖤🤍💜
Omg I really need this but I'm still scared
I recently became asexual and heteroromantic and have only really come out to my friends and on Twitter. My friends that I told were very supportive of me and were proud of me for coming out to them. I haven’t come out to my family yet and I am not sure when or if I will come out to them. I have thought about if I do find the right guy in the future and do end up getting married and we both agree that we want to have kids that’s the only time I will probably be ok with it. My first sign that I was asexual was that I looked up what it felt like to be sexually attracted to someone because I honestly had no idea. I now realize that I am definitely more romantically attracted to guys.
BRB, gotta make a slideshow
It's so bizarre, I brought this up to a friend and it's unfathomable to them. It scares me how different our perceptions can be, that's what makes me question myself so much. How can we be so seemingly different? If I'm this different then maybe it's an illness or I'm 'normal' but confused and I'll eventually see the world as they do. It can really mess with your head or even how you experience the world lolll
): yeah it can be really scary - but your experience is just as valid and “normal” as theirs!
@@jennaclarek Thank you, and thanks for your videos. It helps a lot when you can see a part of yourself reflected in others! Especially something like this haha
so glad i can be there for you!! 💜💜
Hey, I really like your videos and i think I might be ace. I have talk to my parents about my thoughts and they said “ you just haven’t found the one” or “ you’re just a late bloomer”. I’m 14 right now and I’m asking if it possible to know if I’m ace or not at this age???
I’m sorry if you didn’t understand the comment I’m really bad at explaining and I have English as a second language.
you can absolutely know! i have some more ace videos up so those might help, but i figured out i was ace in high school when i was a few years older than you so you can definitely know!!
omg thank you for making this it was the only ace coming out vid I could find
THANK YOU SO MUCH I HAVE BEEN REALLY TRYING TO TELL MY MOM AND DAD ABOUT IT
I came out to my friends by just messaging them that I figured out I’m asexual rather than pansexual, since it doesn’t feel like as much as a big deal with them (most of them are also queer). But with my parents… I know they’re not homophobic, but when I (awkwardly) came out to my mom as pansexual, she told me she thought labeling it didn’t make sense since I’m just a teenager. And I didn’t even really come out to my dad, he just found out because my homophobic brother was bullying me and I started crying and I told him why. I’m just scared to come out and I don’t even know how to begin that conversation. I’m worried about explaining what asexual means to them and them still not understanding. Plus I’m pretty pissed at them right now for a different reason. So maybe I’ll just wait a bit until I feel more sure of my sexuality too.
Valid
I tell new people, but for some reason I can't seem to come or to my family and friends
I've never told my family at all that im asexual. During pre teen years a few family members of mine saw me as "cursed".. yeah i do have some pretty religious family members... and ive never even told them im ace. Can only imagine their reaction.
I came out to my boyfriend and his first reaction way " 😂😂" And telling me that it's not who I am.. I mean I trust this person enough to come out and all he does is make fun.. It hurt
More power to you.. it was courageous on your part to tell it to him..
tysm i rlly needed this. i was stressing out at like 2 in the morning, and this video is very helpful
i feel comfortable saying i am ace and i tried telling my parents but they dont understand and i litterally have to name everything and go fully details but they just say ur too young, u havent found the right one, u dont understand, ur confused, u need to have sex, see a doctor and man the list goes on, i feel like no matter how much i try to tell them they wont believe me and think i am weird.
I haven't come out yet. Idk how to break it to my parents. I'm scared they'll not understand me. Cuz even when I told them I'm suffering from OCD, they said I'm fine and I'm not suffering from any such condition. It's killing me when I try to reach out and they say there's nothing wrong with me. I'm not sure how they'll react when I tell them I'm an ace.
I just said it casually. Pretty much everyone I know is aware that I’m an Asexual. And to no avail, my family is all “oh you just haven’t found the right one”. Even when I do find this ‘the one’, I will not engage into ‘doing it’ anyways. And what do they say to that? ‘Oh you will’. I can now see the frustration
JAIDEN PLEASE MAKE THE "BE NICE TO ME IM AROACE" HAT INTO MERCH I WOULD SO TOTALLY BUY
Yeah, my asexual coming out story was not that pretty :/
My father and siblings accepted me immediately, but my mother got angry, called me slurs and told me people like me should not be allowed out in public.
Almost four years have passed and she has calmed down a bit, but now she's spreading the rumours of me being a lesbian or "in denial", so idk what to do with her. I also have a qpp who is transmasc and I am scared to tell her anything, she hates trans people.
To anyone else, I hope your experience was better! Ace Gods unite!
If I ever grow comfortable, I may get creative and make a whole PowerPoint presentation lmao
I came out to my parents as aro ace by recommending a book called "Loveless" (which is great by the way) to my mum, which is something we often do, and then just kind of subtly being like, so, what did you think about that... ALSO by the way I'm asexual! I think sharing media with people (whether that be books, videos, films etc) can be a great way to test the waters, to see how they might respond before actively coming out
I just read that book a couple weeks ago!! Love it so much
When I came out as asexual... Surprisingly, my parents and siblings actually took the news pretty well... I just came out and said it and they just said that they supported me and accepted who I was and still am
The only person I came out to was my mom and as for everyone else i feel like it is none of their buisness. However being 22 with a lack of interest in sex some people keep harassing me that I am a closeted lesbian and now i feel the pressue to come out as ace... I am thinking about coming out to my best friend (though she is in her 50s) so maybe having a label for my experince will help her understand me.
I honestly never felt like telling anybody I'm ace is coming out I'm just chill about it and it doesn't have to be my whole personality I mean what's the big deal it's just a sexuality
What book?! I'm always looking for more ace books.
I am going to come out to my best friend tomorrow, and I am scared they are going to say I am just looking for attention because I have always been the only straight guy in our friend group. We even had a call today where everyone kept calling Sir Straight, and one of the other people came out as ace to me. Should I come out? I am so scared that people won’t believe me.
first of all that is so....ugh. i’m sorry ): i think if it’s something you’re interested in doing and you feel it’s the right time, go for it! but don’t feel like you have to jump in headfirst if you aren’t actually ready for it. if the rest of them are not straight then they *should* understand and appreciate where you’re coming from and frankly if they don’t....they need to sort through some stuff. if it were me, i’d either learn to deal with living the lie - and know that my friends may not actually be my friends - or i’d come out to know their true colors. sucks that that’s how it has to be, but i want to believe that they’ll support you!! you deserve that!
did you do it?
Thanks for the advice! Reading this I decided I want to stay in the closet a bit longer, but I wanted to tell someone about it. I told my best friend since pre-k, and he was very accepting and said if I want to talk he is there. Thanks for the support again!
@@sharpiemarker127 this is so great to hear!!
I am planning on coming out on asexual awareness week and hope it goes well
Can anyone of you tell me how to come out as a asexsual ? I really want to become asexsual person...i want to get rid of my Pornography Addiction. I dont want pornography in my brain... PLEASE, TELL ME. I REALLY WANT TO BE ASEXSUAL
Do you came out as asexsual today ?
@@ariffitrie8839 It’s not a choice, you’re either born ace or not. Your sexuality can change naturally but you can’t force a change. However I’m sure if you speak to a professional they can help you with your addiction :)
This is something so helpful for me as an aroace person. I'm entering high school rn and I've been thinking how to tell people that I'm aroace if they ask, cause I know that there are a few LGBTQ+ kids in the school I'm gonna go to so they might ask,but idk if they'll be accepting of ace and aro people.
Tysm for this
Almost none of my friends are straight so they we're really understanding but some didn't really understand. I know my parents (and sisters) opinions on ace's and I don't want to come out to them because they won't get it and I don't want to be told I'm wrong and "to young"
My 16 year old daughter just came out to me and my husband last night. I about fell on my knees thanking God. I was honestly hoping for this. I also feel like I didn't react right because I was ecstatic instead of upset. Why would parents be upset about this?
Can anyone of you tell me how to come out as a asexsual ? I really want to become asexsual person...i want to get rid of my Pornography Addiction. I dont want pornography in my brain... PLEASE, TELL ME. I REALLY WANT TO BE ASEXSUAL
Came out to a couple of close friends and my best friend thinks I'm probably demi, but it doesn't feel right. He said he thinks it may have just been my ex, but I thought about my past and the more I've thought about it the more answers I have for what I felt
Can anyone of you tell me how to come out as a asexsual ? I really want to become asexsual person...i want to get rid of my Pornography Addiction. I dont want pornography in my brain... PLEASE, TELL ME. I REALLY WANT TO BE ASEXSUAL
Tried to come out of my basement, and i'm never going to come out again... I like the cobwebs down here I hate all the noise from above....but I can't hear any of that down here... it may seem lonely but I have plenty of rats and spiders to talk too during my stay, some go some stay with me... but I know no matter what i'm safe down here.... where I truly don't exist
With memes
Honestly what I wanna do. I have a meme that has someone infront of a whiteboard that says "so in conclusion" and then the ace and aro flag
Thanks for this video it really made me feel a lot better but I wanted to ask you something
Ok so I just found out that I'm ace about a month ago and I'm trying to figure out how to tell my bf
He's LGBT + friendly (as far as I know) but we're both socially awkward
I'm 16 (in 1 month) and my bf just turned 17 we've been together barely 1 year and he said he wants to take things slow (so that's a start I guess)
Any help would be greatly appreciated and thanks for taking the time to read this have a nice day/night :)
Personally I just don’t really think that they need to know, like it’s none of their business really :/
Some people have a different perspective but that’s just me doing what’s best for me ❤️
Well, it’s good for your parents to know this kind of thing about you so they can stop asking if there’s anyone in school you like
Interesting topic, good video.
Good video, thank you
Nope, nope, nope still don't have enough self confidence to come out as aro
I will update this when I have came out to my parents
Yesterday I was reading this book called loveless which has a acearo character and my dad asked me what it was about, so i told him and he said that you cant possibly not like anyone and asked if there is scientific proof or if people are making it up, saying that people love making stuff up so they feel different from the group. So I told him that there are many ace and aro people at my school and he said that at this age no one can know that which is SO invalidating:( I guess I'm not coming out till I'm 20 or ever.
Can anyone of you tell me how to come out as a asexsual ? I really want to become asexsual person...i want to get rid of my Pornography Addiction. I dont want pornography in my brain... PLEASE, TELL ME. I REALLY WANT TO BE ASEXSUAL
Thank you so much this will help me so much
I'm just gonna wait for my family to find out themselves I mean they already know I don't want kids so I'll let them find out themselves.
Ace!? Like the one piece ace? How can there be gender about ace from one piece. Like one piece i wanna be like luffy and zoro because they favorite😀🙂
that was nice
Thank you thank you thank you-
I’m 13 am I to young I want to come out and I know I’m not going to change my mind about being Asexual but my parents I guarantee they will tell me I’m only thirteen I know I’m not too young to be Ace but am I too young to come out? This is especially hard because I know I’m mature enough but I’m not like normal thirteen year old girls who like to have a style and have a bunch of friends and social media’s I where old Basketball shirts and sweatpants and they always think of me as Their little girl especially because I’m really small and on growth hormone right now to help me grow so people always see me as younger and feel like I’m younger than I am it doesn’t help that my little sister who is three years younger is a little taller than me and my cousin who is only a year older is like 1 1/2 feet taller than me! And she’s not even tall for her age. Anyways I’ve never been viewed as this super mature teenager I’ve always been viewed at the mammas little girl who is short so they might view it differently than if my younger cousin was to come out and she’s the same age but she’s a bit younger by like 4-5 months but if she came out as Ace she would most likely be fine because she dresses and acts like the typical teenager
i understand what you mean, but hey there is good stuff too it! i knew i was asexual when i was about 11 or 12 and many many years later i feel the same. You are never too young to know what you are and if they dont support you then thats their loss. You keep doing you and you will do great!
@@frankieverona5353 Thanks 😊
it doesnt matter if i tell my parents that im an ace bc they dont know what that is 😛
What about I’ve had sex but don’t really care about it.
I told my brother and he was excepting because i don’t like girls, and I rather guys…. And that I don’t want the naughtys… so…. Yeah..,,
Is It A Good Idea To Come Out At 11?
i think that depends on the person and the situation! obviously you know yourself best so if you're confident in your identity and you feel that you'll be supported and you are ready to take that leap, then by all means, go for it! straight people know they're straight at 11 so i don't know if age has anything to do with it. but i also know i myself wasn't sure of my sexuality until i was at least in my late teens, and even then i didn't know what i know now in my mid-twenties. i don't know if there's ever an ideal time to come out because it's always different. but don't let a certain age be the thing that stops you!
@@jennaclarek Thank You!
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