The Dark Side of Highly Sensitive People (HSP) [8 Mil Bonus]
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- We made a video about dark empaths, but what about the dark side of highly sensitive people?
What is a highly sensitive person? An HSP is someone with a heightened central nervous system that causes them to be more physically and emotionally responsive to certain stimuli, or “things” part of their surroundings. HSPs are people with distinguishing qualities, including attentiveness, creativity, and more. However, just like anyone else, HSPs also have their not-so prideful qualities that balance out their good ones. Are you curious as to what some of these qualities may be, and if you or a friend relate to any?
You can watch our video on the dark empaths here: • 5 Signs of a Dark Empa...
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References:
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Granneman, Jenn. “21 Signs You’re a Highly Sensitive Person.” Highly Sensitive Refuge, Highly Sensitive Refuge, 13 Dec. 2019, highlysensitiverefuge.com/highly-sensitive-person-signs/.
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Scott, Elizabeth. “What Is a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)?” Edited by Steven Gans, Verywell Mind, Verywell Mind, 18 Sept. 2020, www.verywellmind.com/highly-sensitive-persons-traits-that-create-more-stress-4126393.
Stigell, Louise. “5 HSP Things That Used to Embarrass Me (and 3 That Still Do).” Introvert, Dear, Introvert, Dear, 20 July 2020, introvertdear.com/news/highly-sensitive-person-things-i-was-ashamed-of/.
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Quite the sensation experience feels o wondrous best enjoys the fleeting feats savor the moments thnx this this one appreciates the assistance along the ways sojourneys
As a HSP, I envy those who go through life unbothered and carefree. It's really stressful and overwhelming be overly sensitive, it feels like this world is too hostile.
Fellow HSP warrior. You are here for a purpose. Thank you on behalf of this hostile world for all you give.
I totally feel you on the hostile world. But your screen name should be your reminder that your are loved, cherished and valued by the world above. Stay strong
@@karmachameleon8768 Such a kind comment. It brings me joy to know there are people like you in the world. From one fellow HSP to two others, I hope both you and OP are doing okay. Remember to never give up. We need people like us in the world. It can help change and empathy to come about, because we know what it’s like to struggle. We notice when things are off very easily. 🫶🏻
Me too. Ngl. Plus i tried to deny for so long that i was a HSP because of these traits .
1000%!!!
1. HSPs are critical 0:45
2. HSPs can be moody 1:36
3. HSPs are emotional sponges 2:26
4. HSPs are easily overwhelmed 3:07
5. HSPs can have difficulty setting boundaries 4:03
6. HSPs can be inscure over their sensitivity 5:00
I hope I could help!
Oh...
Thanks
Thank you, I don't have time to watch full video but because of you I have summary. 😊
1 month ago???
1 MONTH AGO?!?!
For the young HSPs, I hope you all can find patience to be your strength. I believe that as we grow older, we might be more successful in dealing with our sensitivity without the hormonal boost
No. It can actually get worse as you age and lead to burnout and loss of skills and function.
I cried while watching this. I don’t know why. Send help, I teared up, especially at the last part.
No it gets worse and worse as we age i feel
same@@rubychurch3466
I can’t deal with this on construction. My coworkers are so toxic. I wish I could man up
I always wondered why I cried at such little things, now I know I'm a HSP.
Take Elaine Arons test. This says nothing about the Founder! Alot of this could apply to people who have experienced trauma. They don't explain D.O.E.S. which is the definitive narrative. If you can't relate to D.O.E.S. then you're not an HSP.
The insecurity part hits hard like a knife stab to the heart. Seeming over-sensitive often leads to people judging you as weak. They'll either humiliate you or try to not associate themselves with you especially if you are a guy. Practicing having a cold poker face to hide emotions often comes off as rude, reserved and peeps never really get to understand how you are actually feeling. It's more of a curse than a condition. You understand the whole process as in whats happening and how it's happening and still won't be able to control your silly tear ducts.
We have to realize that it’s okey to be ourselves and that we don’t own anything to anybody, and that whatever they might be thinking before even meeting you is not our problem, and whatever the case it just means that they are mean and that is better not to have these type of people in our lives. You, we don’t have a problem, we are fine, we can still do the same everyone does, if anything is more other people who don’t appreciate or doesn’t like us for stupid reasons that you commented. Everyone judges what they don’t know anyway, so we can only live life as be a better person and be ourselves and appreciate and love us.
I used to hate it too, never being able to fake emotions or get over things quickly as others seems to do. But you have to be your own home and choose who's allowed to be part of your life, who's going to actually love your character and won't try to fix it. If there's no one to do that, at least be kind to yourself, nobody has to deal with criticism about something we can't change. Accept yourself so people will too.
My poker face comes off more as sad then anything else. And now everybody just thinks I'm insane.
Well even though I'm a female I cry over everything and I hate that about myself cuz I can cry in front of friends family or even co-workers it's so embarrassing sometimes!
Truer words were never spoken!
Wow 😮I’ve been told I’m too sensitive all my life, but ppl also wonder how I have a six sense about situations that always come true. I hate being surrounded by loud ppl, and I also in tune with tension in the air even when others don’t notice. I have found I’m more productive when I’m working from home, and I hate shallow inauthentic conversations. Your video is spot on, and an eye opener ❤
i'm so glad you mentioned how HSP could be mistook for Bipolar Disorder. I now feel like I understand myself better, as I am super sensitive and could use this definition to describe myself to others. Thankyou!
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As a highly sensitive person such as myself, I can say that this is quite accurate. Or maybe that's just for me, who knows. Not everyone is the same.
That is true, not everyone is the same. BUT for me, this is pretty accurate too. Which explains why I can’t set my self up easy as I used to or something.
Perhaps we are all hsps
yeah its pretty accurate for me to!
"when you try your hardest to try to seem smart"
@@snowy9764 what do u mean?
The problem I have with being hsp is that it's a lot easier for me to become very depressed, sometimes it can swing instantly from being happy to feeling very depressed and alone. You want to be able to deal with it but you don't know what will work besides what you've already tried. People around you just don't always know what it's like or how to support which makes it even worse.
Ummm, I used to feel more like that, and if it can help, I’ll tell you that what helped me be more overall happy, which was by improving my self-esteem. What I did is that I stopped taking the chance to insult me every single time I made I mistake and instead tried and be more loving to myself with little gestures because I’m not one to say cheesy things. Also realizing that I don’t have to be like my mind told me I had to be and that I can be imperfect and have defects because I’m human and that I still deserve the love and respect anyone does.
That’s all I can’t think off now, hope it helps you ❤️🥺
@@goldpank5926 spot-on. Being overly critical is a huge, huge flaw. But yea, u gotta be kinder to urself, in tiny ways.
Dailey affirmations, positive encouragement and nudges keep u from the darkside of HSP.
(But not for long.)
I can relate. I don’t have anyone who COULD take on the thoughts I have on a daily. But I don’t blame them. If what I thought of hurt me then it’s probably gunna hurt them too, and everyone deals with emotional pain differently so depending on who; I can bring them to tears or have them yell at me and neither are good options when I’m already down.
I don’t know how to say this, I mean self-esteem is important but what I think is more so is your ability to tell when your depression is causing the feeling. If you say you’re always depressed then that’s your depression talking. There are happy moments even if brief, you have to catch them as they’re happening to remember that THIS is what it feels like to be ME.
Who you are is important, that’s how you sort through the crap that comes out of your head.
@@saranusantara6856 you become self aware of your own emotions. Is this what you mean?
@@dinkthedank YES! That’s what I mean! Thank you.
I mean if I’m so aware of other’s emotions why couldn’t I be that way towards myself too?
ENFP + HSP and I always feel like I'm too intense for people. I love/hate this about myself. Last point about being insecure really hits home. Most people who aren't in tune with their emotions or view the world as black and white can't understand us. To fellow HSPs out there, learn how to pick your friends carefully as we can be easily affected by their moods & how they treat us. The world needs people like us. I appreciate the fact that we can feel the full spectrum of all our senses deeply. Emotions like grief, love, sadness. Enjoy processing the ups and downs. Life is an interesting ride with us ❤️
I too love that we can be so loving, understanding,thoughtful and empathetic but it does come at a cost 😢
INFP + SHP here 😢
Well put! You basically summed up all my struggles with life. I think the biggest downside to being an HSP: the lack of legacy on how to manage the downside of being an HSP. It would have been nice if as kids, a knowledgeable adult could have noticed I was an HSP and taught me tools and strategies for managing it. Instead we're left to struggle and bcuz we're kids we don't have context for the upsets that everybody else takes for granted.
I have worked very hard to develop strategies and work through baggage so my dark side is more easily regulated, and I can experience more peace more of the time.
“HSPs are creative, very sensitive and take things too personally sometimes.”
_[INFPs and INFJs joined the chat.]_
Don't forget ENFP! 😁
True
One of us 🤝😂
@@FoxGa1axy oh yeah! Can’t forget about them! :D
Welcome to the club
Is it just me, or does anyone else almost cry when they watch Psych1Go videos that relate to them because they’re FINALLY being understood?
YES! me everytime
Me too!
I hardly feel emotion
yes
every time lmao
Wow, this is a very accurate summary! Took me 35 years of not fitting in and lots of suffering to find out that this is actually a condition and that I am not alone. About 15% of people are wired like this, but noone actually told me how normal my feelings and perceptions are for people like me. 10 years on, it still is not easy, you called it the dark side of hsp for a reason. Our society is not made for us to navigate by intuition and selfless acts alone. We would end up taken advantage of, ridiculed, at times destroyed socially. Oftentimes, we develop chronic health conditions. But we never give up hope in humanity, keep trusting in positive karma and, well, keep going until this world has become a better place for us to thrive.
Is not a condition, is just a personality type, I'm hsp too but is not like I'm sick, neither you
I'm HSP and Bi-Polar, it's a shitstorm most days and takes months of isolation to recenter myself.
Me too the isolation part, I have not been diagnosed with anything because I avoid getting help. My last counselor really let me down.
I feel this. I too am HSP. I wish I could isolate myself. I am close to burnout. I have 6 children under 12yo. So I am very well surrounded.
@@myhauntedlife8583 Good luck!
In the midst of doing just that.
Autism.
I am a very emotional person. And I agree to all of this.
I cry when I'm stressed
I cry when I'm frustrated / mad
I cry when in sad (duh😭$
I cry when embarrassed /humiliated
I cry when happy
I cry when anxious
And I cry when over whelmed
Hahahah me too!
I don't, I bottle it up and throw it in the river. Getting angry works too.
@@steelbracket114 it'll be worse for you in the future, trust me
Hahaha exactly who I am 😅
Same sis
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Pff, so accurate.
Every single one, it makes living almost unbearable, you don’t feel like you belong and nobody understands you and labels you as weak or weird form the beginning, it causes you to go into yourself more and be reclusive. Ya hit the nail on the head, nice job! 👌🏼
so dare the world to take you as you are, and never hold back. I've always worked with the public, and it is awful. No one understands why the absolute last thing I want to do outside of work is talk to people in any way. But other people really just want to know what is inside you. So let them know, don't fear anything, and don't take life too seriously in any way. It helps a little.
me too, I am currently isolating as much as possible just to survive ... usually I am fine with telling the world to take me as I am, but my current living arrangement means I have to consider everyone else's positions when I am home. Staying in my room is one thing, but It's not always possible. This video has opened my mind a lot and I think I will have to watch it many more times. unbearable is the word, but bear it we must, and more than that, we have to find a way to live as ourselves within the confines of the world we inhabit. I've been trying to figure out my new life for three years, I'm still far off of feeling comfortable around so many more people than I am used to.
Life can be unbearable especially being a man. It's an unchanging aspect of me that follows me around like bad hair spray that never diminishes its acrid fragrance.i internalize so much. It affects every area of my life making it hard to grow and make progress.
Can't imagine how worse it can be for a ill male (like someone I know):
HSP + INFP-T + masculinity obligations + masculinity expectations + serious health problems + money spent cos of health + ugliness + no social life (cos of health, money, high sensitivity, and traumas caused by best friends who were sociopathic manipulators)
= everybody finds him useless and/or disgusting and/or creepy and/or... etc etc
Someone knowing a bit better finds him very different from other people and very interesting as an occasional interlocutor about several intellectual or ethic/emotional subjects... but only in small doses: no one wants to become an intimate friend despite/because he gives "too much" and "always", he gives everything he got to a possible friend, burning of deep passion for that man/woman.
Instead HSP + INFP girls are considered weird but cute, they are free to show their feelings and fragility, they are considered weak, strict and moody, but also charming and generous.
"It never rains but it pours".
Makes me think we should communicate more. We at least partially understand each other and it lets us feel less alone
I've never watched a video that described me more fully or accurately. Nearly every word, every sentence, I was internally saying "Yes... YES!" It's both a blessing and a curse, but man, is it exhausting.
I've been a lucky one to have grown up around a lot of artistic types through school and university (huge HSP communities!) Only now that I've moved to a place that's a bit of a cultural backwater, and am in the "regular" world of work, am I seriously noticing how different most everyone else is :-/ I feel so alone sometimes, like an alien. Good to read the comments here for solace when I also can't fall asleep and it's 3am. So much love to you all xxxxx
As a HSP myself damn this is relatable as hell. Nobody seems to understand why I get emotional so quickly or how I can be happy yet I can become depressed or mad within the space of a few seconds, even if I'm not on my period.
Alot of people don't take me seriously for this, because HSPs experience every emotion more intensely (not just sadness) I find us to be alot more kinder and understanding which people take advantage of. I get made fun of being being overly sensitive and it isn't fun, but I manage.
To all HSPs out there, remember it's ok to be sensitive, you're still a person, you're still normal, nothing is wrong with you at all, remember to just keep smiling and love yourself (not selfish wise) and others! We're all here for you :)
I totally agree! I think us being sensitive makes us even more human and makes this world also a better place with all the cruelty and injustice going on, we add a little positivity in beautiful ways thru kindness etc.🤗
Yeah! I hate that the world sees being sensitive as something that needs *fixing* when it’s not us that’s an issue.
Just how people take it.
I can’t stand having to be surrounded by people 24/7 who always question why I act the way I act. But I know it’s a strength. Nothing to be ashamed of and I won’t be anymore!🥳💖
Thanks
Needed to hear that
Love from a fellow HSP 💗
Needed to hear this. Thanks 😊
I remember my first love when she was on her period..age 19...geeeeze honey what now can be wrong? im happily male but would like to live longer like women.
1. HSPS are critical
2. HSPs can be moody
3.HSPS are emotional sponges
4. HSPs are easily overwhelmed
5. HSPS can have difficulty setting boundaries
6. HSPs can be inscure over their sensitivity
Thank u 🙏🏽
And we are bottom line people (are overwhelmed/impatient with something that could be explained in a few words) SO THANK YOU for the summary list! ❤😁👍
I’m so happy these things are being talked about. I thought something was wrong w me most of my life.
Didn’t expect how accurate this would be. Wow 😅 sending love to all the other HSPs out there 💛
Sending Love To All HSPs , Myself Included ❤❤
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I was literally crying for the past few days because I'm very insecure to how sensitive I am with the things/people around me 🥺
It's ok 💙
@James Diffey trust the process 💙
@@dinkthedank 🥰
@James Diffey you're amazing ❤️
Can relate. That was me yesterday. Taking deep breaths help a lot.
Never actually considered myself an HSP until I watched this video. A lot of things about me and how certain things impacted me growing up is starting to make a whole lot more sense, and I think it's about time I cut myself some more slack. Thank you for the informative video, I really enjoyed it 💕
You are figuring out who you are, and I am happy for u
@@dinkthedank thank you so much, that's really sweet of you ☺
Couldn’t agree more. I definitely learned something about myself :))
@@vox_numbskull of course 💙 I'm just being a good person. Good breeds good, if that makes sense
cutting yourself some slack is tough, when u are sensitive to the Ancients messages.
Very thankful for this.
There's been a lot of people who have stereotyped me as being bipolar or insane or some other "abnormality," because they simply don't understand and are not willing to understand the thought process that actually occurs behind the scenes.
I have learned to be patient with myself by understanding that if I'm putting too much effort into understanding them and they are not putting any into me, then I probably shouldn't continue wasting my time with it.
Also if they are willing to stereotype me so easily then it just shows how selfish they actually are.
They are not very intelligent or caring.
They only view me as an inconvenience, and I don't need to keep people in my life that make me feel that way.
Especially when I am purposefully going out of my way not to do that to them.
Another thing is that sometimes when I realize that people are not respecting my boundaries and I try to be a little more firm with it, it can be difficult because a lot of people will take it very personally, and come up with excuses as to why I should ignore them.
Why should ignore my own boundaries that is.
And it really doesn't help because it's forcing me into a situation where I just have to put up with it in silence, and I also can't help continuing to be uncomfortable with it.
And they are basically trying to make me feel guilty for that.
Unfortunately this is pretty common, and why I usually prefer being a little more reclusive.
“Highly sensitive beings suffer more but they also love harder, dream wider and experience deeper horizons and bliss. When you’re sensitive, you’re alive in every sense of this word in this wildly beautiful world. Sensitivity is your strength. Keep soaking in the light and spreading it to others.” ❤
- Victoria Erickson
I needed this ❤️❤️
@@abluvjb Wishing you the best ❤️❤️❤️
thank you for this
As an hsp I used to love very hard but now I can’t feel love anymore
@@bibule I've found that is how I feel too! How do you feel?
I've never heard it explained this way before. Every single one of the points made in this video were precisely the points I've been dealing with for 69 years. When I was a kid, everyone in my family would say "You shouldn't be so sensitive" any time they did something hurtful and I reacted to it. It's lessened a lot over the years, but it affected my overall relationship with some of them and made me hesitant to participate in family stuff for the most part.
I didn’t expect this to be so on point. I expected the usual exaggerations and misconceptions. You guys nailed it though. And it wasn’t even offensive. I felt seen and understood ✅
Same here, i got annoyed by the title cuz what is dark about these traits😅they make it sound so disturbing hahaha cant always appreciate the titles since it can come across as offending which is not their intention like they mentioned on their videos and this being addressed to hsps they shud know better, you know what i mean😂
Same. I thought the comments would be filled with edgy teenagers saying how "dark" they are and self-diagnosing as if their entire personality was based around this one trait, but this video was well done, informative, and so unbelievably accurate.
I agree. Wholeheartedly. I wasn't expecting to feel so seen and heard. It felt refreshing to see an HSP (like myself) lose their temper--and feeling ALL emotions more strongly--including anger and frustration. Now I see that combining those HSP traits with preprogrammed genetic responses to certain stimuli with two traumatized parents, it's no wonder I was misdiagnosed with Bipolar and bullied as a kid! I am so glad for the knowledge that I am 100% HSP because I now know for certain that HSPs can be beasts and brats in their own rights, even if they beat themselves up for it afterwards. Just can't get over it. So totally accurate! This is now one of my favorite videos. I'm going to use it as a "warning label" for any new friend I meet! 🤣👍✨️ There. I now come with a warning label. Befriend at your own risk! 🤣😂
exactly
me too. critical but compassionate
what a combo huh?
I’m not critical with others but incredibly critical of myself. Crippling BPD and being a HSP. Fun🥴. This is massively accurate.
Me too...
It's incredible how I related to every single characteristic
Last one is the most accurate. People dont actually know what it is like when you are in such a situation where no one understands your sensitivity and sometimes we start doubting ourselves.
The best thing about being friends with sensitive people is that they easily forget people's mistakes and don't hold anything against anyone. They are also more likely to join others rather than take the lead in doing something. But, this is also a dual-edged sword as it makes them more prone to getting taken advantage of by others.
Yeah unfortunately we can't say no,even though we're screaming no on the inside. 💠
My ex-friend is highly sensitive and we stopped being friends cause she couldn't get over something that happened two years ago....
@@killapicklepiratepanda7373 i learned to say no, now i can easily say it, i tricked my brain into thinking that being honest is actually respectful to others, even if they don't like it, they just need to grow up...use high sensitivity as a weapon 😉
This is what a dark empath is. I find myself to be one as well
I don't agree with that statement. People have hurt me deeply in the past and I will never forgive them. Maybe they are good at masking or the offense wasn't personal.
I am an HSP. I used to be horrible at setting boundaries. Living on this planet for 40 years now, I’m pretty good at drawing lines now. It’s one of the best things I do for myself. And as for being insecure about being sensitive.. F that. I face it everyday and admit that I am whenever it’s necessary. It helps me to be comfortable with confrontation. Confrontation is part of life. I can either cower all the time and feel bad about myself or feel better about myself and embrace confrontation when it’s necessary.
As a new subscriber, this content is already life changing! It explains everything about me from the time i was a child until now as an adult in my 40s. I am looking forward to watching more of your videos about HSPs so I can learn how to manage my sensitivity and for the first time in my life, see it as a POSITIVE thing about myself.
Hi Angie,
Are intense and highly sensitive people the same??
Ditto…but WHEN will people whomCLAIM to love me, watch these videos. I mean, I GET who & what I am, but don’t those around me NEED TO KNOW, so that they can learn how to be more patient, gentle, and not so quick to judge me when, for example I’m too critical or emotion
…..I’m being harsh,y judged by my sister, daughter, husband and mother in law…they’re all expecting JUST ME to change, and none of them take ANY responsibility in their own part….well, then there’s the fact that my sister and daughter have NPD, my husband is horribly impatient, and mother in law thinks SHE is such a good person that how dare anyone EVER tell Her she’s done anything even remotely wrong…I mean COME ON, how could she do anything wrong since she’s “a good person”….It’s excruciating, I’m the only one who SEES what they’re doing, how they’re behaving….uhg.
Hey Angie I’m the same way neurodiversity is a good thing to look into. It help me figure out a lot about myself
I am an HSP and this video is spot on. It speaks to my heart. I have always hated myself for the fact that I am too sensitive and not fit for this world. Thank you for making this videos and at least pointing these aspects of our being out.
I always feel that everyone think I am so "intense" so I dont fit in any place. But I tell to myself that they just dont know how to treat us, or understand us, it's not such a problem of us...
@Sthefano chavarria ❤💙💚it's OK girl it happens too me to but I stopped crying Infront of the people 😑🤌
My idiot friends are different tho
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💧 they understand me 💙 but they are still *iDioTs*
I totally feel you as a fellow hsp!
@@sthefanochavarria4474 exactly well said!
Were not meant to fit in ,were are special xx 🙂
I can't explain how much accurate this is. But just the sensitivity to noises and people around me? This is why I can't live with anyone. I mostly just try to stay away from people.
You might have misophonia as well if specific noises are causing you agony. I'm someone who dealt with both and I have sensory processing challenges....so my roommate who I loved was constantly overwhelming without trying to be. Pacing felt like stomping, laughter felt like screaming, and it was impossible to reconcile my constant irritability with my roommate's bright exuberant positive nature. I moved by myself and I think our relationship will flourish now
@@juicyparsons that's exactly what I have. Unfortunately I don't have the luxury to live by myself for now and I honestly can't stand anybody as a roommate either. What you described is exactly my situation. Hsp, misophonia among other disorders have made my life so much harder than it should have been. I don't know if you have any method to help you with that if it has worked. If you have, please share with me and good luck to you.
I've had multiple brain and nerve injuries and am very sensitive....till now I've felt alone. Knowing this isn't just me, and all that you explained, now I understand better why certain things affect me so deeply, making me "un-normal" around others. Been isolating myself more, because some people just don't understand or accept me. Thanks much.
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Finally I really really needed this type of info when I was younger, it’s true that people saw my sensitivity as a flaw and unfortunately that believe grow up in me making feel lost for a good part of my life. But not anymore!!!!! I accept myself and my feelings the way they are they are mine and instead I really try to understand myself and what those feelings are trying to tell me. Period
Omg, yes! 😫 I was so dang sensitive as a kid and was teased for it. It's gotten to the point where I hate being called "sensitive," because it's only ever pointed out if I'm upset. It makes me feel like I'm being a nuisance.
I got tired of being called toi sensitive so I learned to hide and repress my feelings very deeply which is much worse than express them.
I am a Highly Sensitive Person and it’s sad that many others and I get shamed for it. They think we can’t control it. But don’t listen to what others say! You are who you are and you should be proud of that. 🧡
I am Highly Sensitive too
I’ve been highly sensitive my whole life. ℹ remember my Mom saying that when I would cry 😢 about things as a child. This really enlightened me. Thank you.
The more videos I watch about whatever mental state may exist, the more I just feel like everything I’ve got is just a result of me having ADHD.
Maybe it’s adhd & hsp ... lucky us
Do u take medication for adhd
I have both
it will be a benefit eventually
@@anneprotheroe7837 medication is a short term solution
What if all the HSPs of the world could become each other's Friends through some medium / App ? I mean that would be so encouraging to have similar people facing the day to day things in life just like I do .
Hello, sis hahaha
I like where this is going...
hmm ... thats impossible , when you try to become my friend then you will never be one of them
@@czowiekkontraswiat8279 why?
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Wow this is 100% correct atleast for me. Though I'll be honest there are times I kinda dislike being HSP especially in the situation wherein you need to suppress so much emotions a.k.a workplace but I'm trying to love myself little by little.
I feel you!
I was trying to define myself from my exaggerated reactions towards situations. I was so surprised no one cried in the museum, I was the only who usually who goes to the toilet just to cry or even between classes I also do the same
I have found a “buffer” to deal with sensitive issues. Instead of just “experiencing” the situation, I will switch to an “observe mode” (my higher self). From this place I can handle the rush of emotions and watch without judgment.
I feel for you ❤ With the buffer mode, I’m able to help other sensitive souls and not take it on as my own. They have their path and I have my own road on this earth plane.
It's like having a huge weight lifted off your chest that you didn't even realize was there.
It’s funny-since I stopped drinking and drugging-long time sober,I thought I was like bipolar or something…But I remember since I started getting sober 18months ago, I just happened to try to figure out specifically what has caused my feeling,my current pain,my current thought,whatever it may be ..a stomach ach-it would bother my bf so much in a bad way… I am likely an introvert who needs to recharge ..I have good days and bad..where I shut down and out..could be a few days before I do anything outside of my room.. I can just have stuff completely ruin my day…even if it’s not meant as an insult or really nothing to mess up a day enough…I feel so burnt out at times..even thought I had some sort of energy sucking invisible entity or energy in my room-set up some pagan symbols for protection….falling for my bf of 8 years toxic and crazy abusive,I said yes to everything he wanted that actually led to my addiction and in the times he cheated and left,I felt like he was too good for me and so I felt like I needed to keep this man in my life-since I felt like he’s Outnof my league way too intelligent handsome charming cool…I am rather pathetic for allowing a man to dictate my life and work life-i worked my Butt off for the addiction to please him and it didn’t get me anything , he cheated and I still kept him with me…. I felt like if I had a backbone and felt some good about myself,and wasn’t so sensitive then even when he gets angry and raises his voice I wouldn’t freeze up and be so submissive. My sister taught me how to stand up for myself and I thought I was good when we broke up but in a short time,I was back under his feet again…. Never realized I’m a h.s.p-good night all
I relate
This was a really interesting video. Many aspects of life are difficult when people don’t understand and we’re mislabeled. The usual comments of “don’t be so sensitive”, “you’re acting bipolar”, “you just need to learn to be less sensitive”, “you think and care way too much” etc and always being overwhelmed by noise, exhausted because of taking on other people’s emotions, difficulties in crowds etc
It’s so hard to find comfort in anything these days, I’m constantly trying to mask who I am as a person because the characteristics of an hsp make it seem like im overly nice, which leads to me being taken advantage of or people dumping entire problems/emotions on me. I do love to help people but it’s so overwhelming sometimes.
To be honest this is why I can spend weeks at a time trying to socially isolate myself because I just don’t want to deal with people anymore
I cant really relate but i really understand for sensitive people.. hope everyone is ok no matter how sensitive 😊
A nice comment in an overwhelmingly negative (as in sad because of people all venting their experience with it here) comment section. Its like were all trying to bring eachother down by making us feel for eachother xd
To the *incredible person* seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing.
Thank you my friend, all the best to you too
Thank you I really needed that
All you HSP out there, my heart goes out to you as you have a very difficult life. I am a "normie" and have been best friends with an HSP for 40 years. It wasn't until a few years ago that I learned about HSP and finally understood why she is the way she is. I excitedly shared that very compassionate video with her at the time, with the intention of showing how I understood her so much better and hoping we could have some deeper discussion about it. It... kinda hurt her feelings and made her feel like I was criticizing her and saying she was wrong. Sigh.... I dropped it immediately and shut my yap on the topic. I love her dearly, but I must say this friendship has been taxing and at times burdensome due to all the support and sympathy and shoulder crying involved. I know now she can't help it, where for years I was often mystified by how painful life was to her and used to suggest that she "just let it go" or "try to calm down" when something upset her. WRONG ANSWER! I only made matters worse and learned to shup my yap on that as well.
I will say that now in our golden years her soul has calmed down, thankfully, but she will always be this way and I do have great compassion for her. I have learned to avoid hurting her feelings at all cost, although due to the "critical of others" element as shown in this video, I receive her barbs on occasion. Do I call her out on it? Not anymore, as it would only send her into a tailspin of sorrow, regret and insecurity, and create one more issue to see her through. It's frankly not worth the hassle and again I learned it was easier to shut my yap. On the flip side, she's been a lifelong loyal, loving, funny friend who has always been there for me and we've shared a mountain of great times together. But there has been a price to it for sure. I guess I just needed to vent about this particular topic from the viewpoint of being on the other side of such a relationship, maybe because she recently "barbed" me and I'm a little salty just now. LOL
Thanks for showing the other side of us. barbs yap and all! We like it quiet till our fav music comes on...right? Im proud to be...
a HSP yipeedd look at me go..
slow and cautious and over planned..
Thank you❤️
I'm at HSP, currently 22, and every day life can be such a challenge... I'm trying to get my boyfriend to understand this side of me better... I get the "too emotional" all the time when I try to bring up something that's bothering me. Hopefully we can keep teaching everyone 💕
I mean this in the most respectful manner possible, but it sounds like you’re always walking on eggshells with your friend and they are unwilling to improve that behavior. It sounded like you were describing a 5 year old when you said criticisms upset her more. I know because I used to be a HSP myself and it was TIRING and a waste of energy and attention. When you gave in you are simply enabling this more. Is it possible for ANYONE to go through life without criticism or arguments? How do you achieve anything if you always hide behind this imaginary wall. People have got to find a way to climb out of it. Those that don’t, well see how far they get in life. Sorry to be blunt but it hurts to finally be on the other side and watch many happily recognize and do nothing about it.
HOW my 'labels' have evolved over the years: 1)social anxiety 2)HSP 3)BPD 4)Empath 5)INFJ 6)Autism Spectum with ADHD. 6)Healed 🙏🌹
It always feels like a Blessing and a Curse at the same time to be an HSP.
Yes :(:
I think it's a curse and makes life even more difficult than it already is. I wish I were in the middle of the spectrum having both HSP and sociopathic tendencies. Instead, life hurts.
@@pamelalundgren8163 life hurts for everyone in different ways. Everyone just lies and pretends it doesn't.
Oh no no no no no no. Its just a curse.
@@enigmatic2878 true
I think I’m an HSP, although I am undiagnosed. I oftentimes get super hurt over the littlest things, and it ends up affecting me for days, weeks, or months on end. Sometimes I lash out just to get people to stop/not talk about a subject because it bothers me. I love my friends, but sometimes they think I’m too critical of them, when I really am not meaning to be. And I often dig myself a hole simply by trying to resolve differences or conflict.
I feel the exactly same way. I hate that I don't have a poker face to hide my emotions or can't get over things quickly as people seem to do. I love and hate being a HSP, people rarely understand and often try to fix it.
@@carmelitabraga9297 totally feel you!
I can relate! We go thru similar experiences as hsps i have noticed;) the same struggles and misconceptions etc. But we are also resilient so we can get thru anything despite people telling us otherwise! We are anything but weak! Showing emotions without fear or shame is actually a sign of strength. People who are weak are afraid of their emotions and try to hide it in order to not have to feel vulnerable but feeling vulnerable itself requires strength cuz its not easy to embrace vulnerability. Its much easier to run away from your issues but facing it head on is truly badass and requires mental strength and resilience which hsps dont need to worry about!
@@nahiedlaila9601 yes exactly. Don't hide anything. Let it all out. It is much healthier that way even though it is so hard.
You can't get diagnosed the closest you can get is hyper sensitivity disorder/dysregulation that's what doctors call it and frankly that's stupid as well this is not a disorder it's saying your nose length or eye color is a disorder. You can self diagnose if your one you know and it can co-exist with empathy as well. So if you do not fit only HSP or only empath then you could be both at the same time and boy is that a party no one understands not even you!
Thank you for this!!! This is me, my entire younger life especially. With therapy and training my own brain to be extremely self aware of my reactions, behaviors and generally learning to love who I am and own my super sensitive nature, plus learning a lot of hard life lessons, I finally own my sensitivity... without shame, without regret and with genuine confidence. It's been a long hard road. Finally at age 50, I've got this. Yes I still have to do a lot of self talk when someone else's emotions overwhelm me or set me off inside. Some days are still a tremendous battle. It only took years of hard work and I'm taking years...I am 50. But if this is you as well, don't give up. You can do this life thing. You just might need to allow yourself to be a bit selfish at times. Take time for yourself, get therapy and use what I call my secret weapon: the power of employing executive function of the brain as opposed to the emotion based 'lizard brain.' If I can do it, You can too. Best to all fellow HSPs out there!❤️
I really feel this one, people might think that I'm always a sunshine or I'm always happy but the truth is that getting irritated easily it's one of my biggest flaws (that doesn't mean that I let the anger lead me in every stressful situation) but it's hard when you're so in touch with your emotions, even the ones that are not so pretty.
(Excuses for all the grammar mistakes)
I am an HSP but I like to hide it. Cause whenever I show the soft side, I get negative responses. I only ever show it, when my friends need it.
Yeah I'm like that as well when it comes to friends. Just curious if you've encountered it, when you show your soft side w/ negative responses if you tend to light up like a five alarm fire was just wondering thanks
My friend count is at a managable zero… that can’t be healthy.
@@volkunjun4882 i've learned to mirror and escalate. If people treat me like crap I treat them the exact same way. They have no right to make you feel bad about yourself. Nothing better than calmly watching a person totally and completely self destruct because they decided to be a jerk.
@@Xander1Sheridan finally someone who is the same way thanks David at least im not alone with feeling that way
I relate with the insecurity one. What sucks for me the most at the moment as a HSP is not feeling understood, especially since my recent friendship group aren’t the ‘emotional’ type. It feels like you’re the odd one out. I’m learning to love and accept being a HSP though
I can totally relate! Thats the most frustrating and painful not being understood😔
It really does feel like certain people get it and some absolutely don't. I had a friend group back in the day that was very socially extroverted and definitely not sensitive at all. It took a long time and several conflicts for us to grow together and understand each other. We eventually became really cool but I remember the feeling that I'll never *really* belong was always in the back of my head
This hits hard like a punch to the gut 😓 It's accurate and the hardest thing is that I had days that I wished I wasn't born like that but that's life...
Im glad you mentioned the part about "sweeping things under the rug" I have yet to hear that in the videos and articles I've come across. Its a huge part of my experience with this trait that has caused me to feel like I am not growing into the person I wanted to be that I know that I am. Throughout the years I've shut down more instead. It doesn't serve to solve any of the relationship problems within my family and I struggle very hard with communication. I just burst into tears when I try to say what I feel. I never wanted to step on anyone's toes or feel like I'm gaslighting people if my reality didn't match up to theirs. Out of a need to feel safe and agreeable I have kept to myself. Particularly with my mother. It only compiles the insecurity with how I feel about myself and I often feel shame for being this way.
I have avoidant personality disorder AND I’m an HSP - its HELL at times, but it does not define us, and the awareness can help us work through it. Wish you all the best ❤️
I'm highly sensitive, and I get hurt a lot...
im so grateful ive came across your videos my whole life i wasn't sure why i felt different to everyone else .. trying on labels that didnt fit me to try and explain it but its like this big weight has been lifted off of me now that ive discovered hsp's thank you. it's been causing so many issues in my relationships because my mood swings in a split second the instant something happens or my partner could say the smallest thing and ill react so greatly to it , its so difficult to live with but im so glad im not alone now :)
As an HSP, I can say it's very precise. I love videos about HSPs, because they often give me insights of the sense of belonging and how to deal with the difficult side of being so sensitive. Thank you, Psych2Go, keep on the hard and amazing work!
I hope that each day of the week is special to you. Enjoy every day as it comes to you. Don't force love or friendship on people who aren't interested in it.
Just take your days as they come to you, and enjoy them.. I LOVE YOU ALL
I am an HSP with medication resistant bipolar and ptsd and anxiety. I do all of the things mentioned in this video. I always knew I was highly sensitive but didn’t realize it is part of my diagnosis. It explains a lot. I fall into depression which makes me exhausted thus the house gets messy adding more anxiety and exhaustion. I get too anxious to start and as the mess grows I get more depressed. It gets to the point where I don’t even know where to begin and if my day started off bad it’s impossible for me to get out of it.
I can relate, not to the bipolar part, but I have C-PTSD, depression and anxiety - mostly due to my childhood. I’m an HSP and get overwhelmed so easily. Just know you’re not alone. I also just realised this comment is from a year ago, but I hope you’re in a good place now! :)
I feel you..... Noticing this downward spiral setting off, and not being taken by surprise (and shame) helps a lot. Self care routines for "those days" are crucial. Creating boundaries and not engaging in guilty feelings about things beyond your control (or beyond responsibility!) are key.
Agreed and felt. Right now, in fact. Messy house, stress with trying to get more work, bills and rent being outrageous...and being an Empath/HSP. I'm already fighting a cold from a tanked immune system due to my burnout. 😑 It's rough. But I agree. Self-care is crucial! It's the only thing keeping me safe and sane right about now. 😅👍✨️
This was so reassuring. I have struggled with all of these traits pretty much my entire life. I have been trying to be more compassionate with myself over these struggles. I talk to my sensitive emotions a lot and reassure them that I value their presence in my life because I believe that they help me to be a person who genuinely wants to be considerant of others as much as possible. I have heard of emotional shielding, to protect yourself from being an emotional sponge. That would be an interesting video, explaining some of the ways that HSPs can protect themselves from absorbing other people's emotions.
Congrats on 8 Million!
You guys deserve this
Thanks, hit home pretty hard on this one. I hope everyone is doing well.
Congrats on 8mil, you guys helped me alot. ❤❤❤
HI YOU'RE SO SO SO INTELLIGENT AND THIS MADE ME CRY BUT THIS MADE ME FEEL LIKE I'M UNDERSTOOD FOR THE FIRST TIME IN FOREVER TYSM
I can definitely relate to this, the positives and the negatives.
Been really getting interested in these things lately, glad you guys are helping people get this kind of information. Helps some people open themselves up or just understand themselves more, and in other cases, realize when or how they need help.
i really needed this right now psych2go thank u so much for real. i have been questioning my own character recently, i know sometimes i’m critical and that my lack of boundaries can cause more problems than just asserting them. i’m learning to stop people’s toxic behavior before it escalates more and it’s been hard- people convince me that i’m cruel or insensitive but that couldn’t be any further from the truth. Us HSP are cursed with being people pleasers. I hope to all of you who can relate that you learn to love yourself and learn who you are underneath all of your attempts to be liked or loved. The right people will love you for who you are. It’s hard to find those people as a HSP because we can become so lost in others that we lose sight of ourselves and we become consumed by fear. At the end of the day you are the true love of your life and your peace of mind is most important
I wish I could mail that to me as a daily reminder. I found myself in a relationship and often I forget that it's not who I am, there's live without that person. Why is so hard to get over things? I love and hate being a HSP.
@@carmelitabraga9297 i totally get what you mean i wish i could do that too. what i try to do is overshadow all of my negative thoughts into positive ones. even if you don’t believe all of it at first, overtime your brain becomes quicker at correcting thoughts- ive noticed it’s helped me a bit but it can be so easy to slip back into old thought patterns its a very thin line to balance on. i hope that one day it becomes a bit easier to bare feeling all of these things. My favorite poem is “A Tear and A Smile by Kahlil Gibran” you should give that a listen. Poetry, music, and art, is medicine ❤️❤️❤️❤️ my instagram is faethfully if you want to have an online buddy who relates :’)))
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@@kathyk5589 God made us broken and gave us free will. He expects us to make ourselves better people.
I am a very sensitive person and I can confirm that this is 100% accurate
I discovered late in life I was an HSP, and with all this articles and books I have learned who I am, and I want to deal with myself and understand myself in a brand new way and see that those qualities that I have doubts, and thought were an attitude problem are just part of my personality, which brings me to understand myself and love myself better and to be more patient and understanding of previous relationship fails as I rediscover myself so thank you to you guys for making these resources and videos possible for the rest of us who are HSP desperate for a world more comfortable to ourselves in our communities, our system, and in our contemporary times, thank you a lot for helping me and for helping us a HSPs to understand ourselves there will be able to love ourselves more thank you thank you thank you
Thank you!! Your videos help me so much to understand myself better and also explain me why i act and feel the way in certain situations. much love
this vid came to me at just the right time. I was feeling so insecure about my family coming over to visit today. when I was asked to sit down for dinner, I couldn't bear the emotional weight and I didn't even try to have a full meal. I had to cry in the bathroom for like 20 mins and there was so much shame and insecurity that I couldn't show people. I only came out when I could hide everything. i only had a couple bites if food before I couldn't take it.
learn to let it out. You are who you are, don't be afraid to let people see it. Telling people exactly what you are going through and why is scary as all hell, but it will help you so much.
As a person who has H.S.P including Autism such as Aspergers. I can 100% relate to this so much. This is pretty accurate. Thank you for making this video.
Also quick question, where did you get these informations from, and how do you keep up with them while uploading videos with them so much?
This is all very accurate information, and helps remind me I’m not weird, or when my mood flips suddenly from my sensitivity of absorbing someone else’s emotions, is just part of the HSP traits. Thank you for sharing!
Go back and forth between wanting to help people or destroy them... 0 to 1000 to 0 in a flash. 💥 ➖ 💥. . . . High sensitivity is a sign of extreme intelligence and creativity. If you know someone who's like this, be easy on them. Be easy on your selvs as well. And don't judge. We all experience reality differently in a unique and beautiful way. Celebrate it. And be safe, humans. 🙏
Oh wow this is my life in a nutshell! I'm so thankfull that I discovered that im highsensitive, because now I understand myself so much better than before 🙏
I am a HSP. As a highly sensitive person such as myself, I can say that this is quite accurate.
I dont know about others.
i never knew there was a label. And I hate labels. But this describes me far too well.
As of now, when somebody asks me how I am doing, I am sending this link to this video 😂. Wow, it is so to the point and so very recognisable. This does make me realise I have to take care of myself more than I do now and feel so overwhelmed and tired. Thanks for giving me a nudge in the right direction again. And thanks for caring and making this very understandable video! It is helping a lot of people to understand themselves and learning to deal with their strengths and weaknesses.
As a HSP it's really true for myself. Its definitely not always as easy to deal with, it also get mixed up a lot with things like a form of autism or anything. But it's also something beautiful to have. It can be something beautiful for yourself and for the ones around!
Yo… WHAT? 8 MILLION? Since when lol?
I remember when your channel still had less than 1 mil, so I’m happy for you! Congrats!!
I agree with you... especially emotional Sponge part
These videos have given me so much clarity and insight on myself as I work through an identity crisis. Thank you
It feels so nice to watch your hsp videos , I feel that someone truly knows me.
Me: Sees Psych2Go upload about HSPs.
Also Me: Sharing the video with family & friends to help them understand me a little bit more.
Thank you Psych2Go for explaining what many may find to be unexplainable. You truly are helping so many people.
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As an empath/HSP For me it's literally a physical thing if someone around me is in pain even physical I would experience the same, it's hard sometimes but sometimes people don't even understand that it's also a superpower you are always connected to your intuition
And it's always right no matter what.
I agree!!!
Your artwork is really getting better, more vivid & expressive.
As an hsp, as a kid my parents always would say things like grow thicker skin, let it roll off of you. And it made me always seem like I was an issue. As an adult, my ex would always criticize me and make fun of me for being sensitive. Now I have a wonderful boyfriend who accepts that part of me, he says he loves and admires how I can love so deeply. He likes how I cry at cute things and get flustered so quickly. And he doesn’t get angry when my mood does turn sour so quickly when something happens. He will give me alone time or offer a distraction when he can. For all HSPs out there. There will be people that understand you.
I used to be way too critical in social situations. I had no malicious intention at all, but I was so idealistic & good at seeing the difference between what was and what might be, I was always pointing it out. As an adult, I worked hard to learn to keep those thoughts to myself and to stay positive when talking with people.
A good video that shows me once more, that I probably am a hsp.
One thing I experience, that was not clearly mentioned in the video, is that I am often mirroring the emotions of others.
For example I can be quite confident or extremely shy around other people. Depending on how they react in general and particularly towards me.
I find this to be spot-on and helping me to understand myself better; a form of therapy for me. Thanks!
As HSP I learned to deal people in the long run by educating myself with this kind of videos. It helps me protect myself. Getting to know your self and accepting all your negative and positive makes it more easier to handle things. Especially, that I have a intj personality type. Thank you
Not stereotyping or anything but as an infj i can relate to this like in spiritual level
My parents have never really got my sensitivity, they just think I’m a hot house flower, and I’ve never been diagnosed so I can’t claim to be an HSP or empath (the closest things I can find to my condition). But having an idea of what I am helps a lot.
Thank you.
Well, hsp is not a health condition or disgnosis like hdhd, for example. I guess it is because there is no "cure" for it that they can sell to you that makes a profit, until they get you on (useless) anti depressants, which is more useful to big pharma than an accurate description given to hsp children and their parents early enough.
I was found to be an HSP I read somewhere it correlated with being ADHD and I was born 3 months early premature. Sometimes I wonder why I am the way I am. And this video sums up me perfectly, especially the last part. Being humiliated and questioned why I act a certain way. Being in an environment filled with of men that would just tell you “man up, stop crying.” I did cry, but I didn’t know why. I understand who I am now. And it’s refreshing. Watching the video and questioning yourself well do is that you? And vividly memories of my childhood just flashed at me . Yes it is me. I’m an HSP and it’s like a curse and a blessing when it can be. But man I love your videos Psychtogo!!❤❤
First of all spot on 😎✨ it was painful and overwhelming to hear about ourselves in such a great humble video. Second of all, you have a calming voice🥺😢 and I love your videos for that 🥳🥰
I am a highly sensitive person I can recognise myself in these things. I also lost a friend because of this and it is still haunting me to this day.