I’m autistic and in sixth form and I really like watching your videos. I almost study them, like the way you move between serious and light hearted subjects fascinates me and I watch the way your face and body changes. I don’t have friends and I’ve never been in a romantic relationship so watching you socialise with a camera kinda teaches me how I should conduct myself but you don’t make it boring. A lot of therapies for autistic people are so boring but you always have something interesting to say! In the next podcast, could you show Boots?
Welcome to the club! I got diagnosed at 30 years old and it helped explain a lot of my past for me and gave me a reason as to why I always felt so different. It helped me come to terms with a lot of my struggles and pushed me to look into healthy coping strategies to make living with ADHD easier in a neurotypical world. I still struggle but I accept myself which is huge. ❤
As someone who got diagnosed with ADHD and GAD in their teens and just recently got diagnosed with OCD, it's really nice to hear someone else also struggles with these things too!
I am 110% with you on streaming tv shows and bingeing. Another shit side effect of the binge trend is that you no longer share the experience with others. Back in the day you all had to watch it together. Finales and shocking events were all collectively experienced. Think of the Red Wedding in game of thrones but now everyone is streaming it. So your one friend binged the season the day it came out. The world went crazy and you got spoilers by Thursday despite trying hard to avoid them. Your other friend missed it all and is watching it now like 6 months later when all the hype has died down just because he couldn't be bothered fo watch at the time. It sucks the tension and the fun out of it. It also makes the discussions way less interesting because you end up discussing entire seasons all in one go. I remember when squid game came out and it was so rich and full of interesting dynamics. But because we all binged it when i finally saw my friends all we could do is pick out a handful of highlights and then move on. You can't discuss a whole season in an interesting way. But if if you've all seen the same episode at the same time then you can get quite deep. Streaming has thoroughly ruined that for us in my opinion.
1:01:44 i just need to tell you, you don’t sound bratty AT ALL. a lot of us experienced that same feeling, and you put it very beautifully and succinctly for such a complicated feeling. i dropped out of college myself because i just. couldn’t do it. now i’m 30, diagnosed, and thriving, but it still feels like i missed out on a chunk of “normal life” or “tHe AmErIcAn DrEaM” because as my BRAIN puts it, i wasn’t good enough or built correctly. a diagnosis IS vindicating, because a lot of us go through our lives since childhood looking at our peers and wondering how they fucking do ANYTHING. i must be stupid, im unreliable, im incompetent, and eventually you start to believe you are inherently worth LESS than your peers because our society purely values productivity, and that isn’t our strong suit. to learn we aren’t any of those negative things we and society have told us we are, that we’re just literally built different, and our strengths lie elsewhere and are JUST AS VALUABLE AS NEUROTYPICAL PEOPLE is very validating. i was so relieved, and im happy you could start on your journey to finding balance too! ❤
that feeling of robbed explains how the second session with my psych and when they gave me the provisional diagnosis of adult adhd left me sobbing in the car, that feeling of "what if"s on highspeed... But my therapist said something good, where 1. did I want to be heavily medicated when I was a kid and I still would've gone through struggles, it's not like everything wouldve been different, and 2. she said why don't we think of it like I tried something and now we're trying something else, and suffering without it doesn't mean I didn't one way that helped some things and didn't help others. I really would suggest those two thoughts for anyone on the journey or thought of exploring it, it's really not a single drop miracle that would fix everything, you still need to do a lot of work yourself. anywho, big longtime fan but first comment because I loved you talking about this topic
i was diagnosed two years ago now, i was 29 then. there’s soooo much about my life that makes sense now with this diagnosis. i did go to university and had the worst SIX years of my life. lots of my professors thought of me as flakey and i began to believe i was lazy and there was something wrong with my character, even though i did truly want to do what was expected from me. i also realized in retrospect how badly it had affected my social life bc i was a bit of an unbearable and unreliable friend, if people could even get past their first impression of me (too talkative, interruptive, etc) i relate to you so much girl. i’m so happy you got your diagnosis! i hope it gives you the tools you need to live your fullest, best life 💗
I’m so glad you posted this because you are actually confirming everything I’ve suspected about myself. ADHD traits have always resonated with me but I’ve been hesitant to actually say I have it or get an assessment (especially since care is so expensive in the US). Honestly every single trait you described is genuinely how I feel all the time and recently it has gotten so bad but I really don’t know what to do or where to start.
I relate to you so much! I have autism where I struggle to focus doing my coursework for uni and it stresses me out so much so I end up procrastinating. being neurodivergent can be so hard like sometimes i wish i could function like a regular neurotypical person 😭 i have so many ideas to do things but i struggle to get on task. Not sure if i have adhd as well as autism but i was diagnosed with ‘mild learning disability’ as well as autism when i was a kid
I'm kind of in a reverse situation of having diagnosed ADHD, but I suspect I have Autism too. From what I've seen online, it's pretty common to have both - especially since some symptoms overlap, it makes it difficult to differentiate the two at times (not a professional, just happen to google it quite a bit lol)
Thanks for sharing your experience! Though I don't have ADHD myself, I've always had trouble staying focused and being forgetful on certain tasks and events. I know it was hard for you to share that, but only did it to help others in similar situations.
6:57 sadly its only downhill from here. I'm early thirties and honestly it's just sad how hard it is to see people once you're not "forced" to be together due to education.
i was diagnosed with combined type last year and found medication to be a help but not the most incredible thing ever. what you said about not believing you can do stuff has HIT. going to take that on board and work on it bc ADHD induced anxiety is so real and such a problem. peace and love and so happy for you on your journey 🫶
The traits you've mentioned about your ADHD is so similar to what I struggle with which I thought was because of my anxiety , thanks for sharing ♥️. PS: looking forward for Priscilla vs Elvis video
Thank you, Jordan!! People have passively encouraged me to get an assessment since I was young, but my parents never took it too seriously for whatever reason. Things like school/personal tasks/sticking with hobbies have always been a point of anxiety for me and ive procrastinated my whole life, which has caused me more stress and made me think less of myself. My therapist suggested I get a screening and I, of course, have procrastinated that as well, but thanks to this video I think I'll reach out this week❤️ obsessed with all of your videos!!! keep doing you!!
0.20: omg I've been having crazy dreams too. As someone who usually has 0 dreams, none whatsoever, these dreams lately have been spooky to me. Weird vivid dreams for the last two weeks. Maybe because of Pisces season lol. 37.07: Your mom not checking in with school reminded me of my mom growing up. Having ADHD, looking into it. ADHD has very HIGH chance of being genetic. Maybe your mom has it too?? 👀 that's a WHOLE other rabbit hole. Next thing you'll be seeing it in your whole family 😭 39.00: So relatable. I almost didn't graduate highschool because of it. The anxiety and disassociation was PARALYZING. honestly, the 2020 lockdown was the only thing that helped me graduate. 43.23: GIRLIE, DONT APOLOGIZE. Its so reassuring for people with similar experiences hear your story. You're for even going into details about your struggle during that time.
honestly thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing this with us! I really needed to hear this lol - I got diagnosed with autism recently and my assessor said I might also have ADHD which I'd never really thought about or related to, but hearing your journey with ADHD struck a chord because it sounds almost exactly the same as me. Time to get another diagnosis perhaps lmao
hearing you talk about your adhd experience is so scarily similar to mine!! It feels so validating to hear it from you. Meds didn’t end up working for me so now I’m just stuck w all of those awful symptoms whilst being stuck in uni :(
i’m wondering whether i have adhd or maybe some anxiety. i’ve been going through it while in university. my screen time is like 12 h a day and i literally cannot do any of the work. i’m also always procrastinating and freezing. i’m just on my phone for the whole day to avoid doing the task. no one had ever understood me because if i’m so stressed i should just study right? yeah but i literally cant. even when i try to study i just can’t do it. i don’t know how to explain it but i just can’t. i can only do some work if i drunk a can or two of monster energy drink which is very unhealthy but i just cant study without it. sometimes i also fall asleep when i try to focus? it’s really weird and i’m on my way to fail lol
i feel you so much. im not diagnosed with anything because i just dont have the money and i really cant be bothered with paperwork and i have a huge fear of doctors 😭 but literally everyone around me agrees that im probably audhd and i relate to your experience hugely. i watch a girl called irene on here (her channel name is “The Thought Spot”) and she is really amazing for both autistic and adhd people who dont know where to start with making accommodations and such. but the school experience is so relatable except my anxiety masking happened around other areas of my life so i literally just never ever did my work. i would feel hugely stressed for not doing my schoolwork to the point where i would never ever start and eventually would never even consider starting. every time i got new homework i would sigh not in “aw man more work” but in “nice another thing to fail at” LOL. adhd really is crippling. i tried college for two months but was suffering from insane anxiety and suicidal thoughts and anorexia and body dysmorphia and emetophobia help and id recently kind of discovered that im most likely autistic (i didnt clock the adhd for many reasons) and so autism and adhd in addition to all of that was insane to deal with. i couldnt attend my lessons. i was absent for lessons and yet still made the effort to get ready and come into the building. i couldnt do coursework for obvious reasons lol and on top of that, not knowing the content. after the first two months they lowkey kicked me out of college LOL but im beyond happy i never had to experience school life beyond that.
Congrats on your diagnosis! I related so much to a lot of what you said about post-diagnosis feelings, especially feeling sad about what your life could have been like if you were diagnosed earlier. I was diagnosed around 1 year ago when I was 24 and I can definitely say that my diagnosis and medication have seriously changed my life for the better. There are still struggles, but even just knowing that it's because you have a disorder and not because of personal failings helps so much. Wishing you the best going forward! (And, small recommendation: I have been reading Russell Barkley's "Mastering Your Adult ADHD" and it's been really interesting for learning about how ADHD works, but also for learning coping strategies. I wish I'd read it sooner after diagnosis, lol)
wait because i had an extremely similar experience in school and my whole childhood.. like almost exact. i don't have ocd but i've had depression since high school which i now take medicine for. i'd been thinking about getting tested for adhd but it's expensive here in the US. might be worth it tho ://
your sixth form sounds identical to mine, but I had pushy parents 😭 now I've spent 6 years trying to finish a bachelors and I'm finally near the end. It's so hard 🙃
I was just diagnosed at 38 and I identify with EVERYTHING you said here! I didn’t think the meds were working and suddenly I was doing the laundry. Congrats on your new beginning!
Fyi - amphetamines ARE one of the most common treatments for adhd, alongside methylphenidate, which you’re on. Both are stimulants, but Ritalin is NOT amphetamine salts (like adderall, vyvanse, etc), it’s methylphenidate.
I live in tottenham and I get the overground from bruce grove to london fields / dalston / hackney etc and it doesn't take long at all, there's also like 10 different bus routes heading that way, obv tottenham isn't the nicest area but it's so convenient and cheap lol
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I’m autistic and in sixth form and I really like watching your videos. I almost study them, like the way you move between serious and light hearted subjects fascinates me and I watch the way your face and body changes. I don’t have friends and I’ve never been in a romantic relationship so watching you socialise with a camera kinda teaches me how I should conduct myself but you don’t make it boring. A lot of therapies for autistic people are so boring but you always have something interesting to say! In the next podcast, could you show Boots?
the thing about anxiety “masking” your adhd is my exact experience and i’m thankful that you shared yours
Welcome to the club! I got diagnosed at 30 years old and it helped explain a lot of my past for me and gave me a reason as to why I always felt so different. It helped me come to terms with a lot of my struggles and pushed me to look into healthy coping strategies to make living with ADHD easier in a neurotypical world. I still struggle but I accept myself which is huge. ❤
that’s the key, truly!
i feel like once you have the “why,” it’s so much easier to come to terms with everything.
it’s a huge relief 😭
As someone who got diagnosed with ADHD and GAD in their teens and just recently got diagnosed with OCD, it's really nice to hear someone else also struggles with these things too!
I am 110% with you on streaming tv shows and bingeing. Another shit side effect of the binge trend is that you no longer share the experience with others. Back in the day you all had to watch it together. Finales and shocking events were all collectively experienced. Think of the Red Wedding in game of thrones but now everyone is streaming it. So your one friend binged the season the day it came out. The world went crazy and you got spoilers by Thursday despite trying hard to avoid them. Your other friend missed it all and is watching it now like 6 months later when all the hype has died down just because he couldn't be bothered fo watch at the time. It sucks the tension and the fun out of it.
It also makes the discussions way less interesting because you end up discussing entire seasons all in one go. I remember when squid game came out and it was so rich and full of interesting dynamics. But because we all binged it when i finally saw my friends all we could do is pick out a handful of highlights and then move on. You can't discuss a whole season in an interesting way. But if if you've all seen the same episode at the same time then you can get quite deep. Streaming has thoroughly ruined that for us in my opinion.
1:01:44 i just need to tell you, you don’t sound bratty AT ALL. a lot of us experienced that same feeling, and you put it very beautifully and succinctly for such a complicated feeling.
i dropped out of college myself because i just. couldn’t do it.
now i’m 30, diagnosed, and thriving, but it still feels like i missed out on a chunk of “normal life” or “tHe AmErIcAn DrEaM” because as my BRAIN puts it, i wasn’t good enough or built correctly.
a diagnosis IS vindicating, because a lot of us go through our lives since childhood looking at our peers and wondering how they fucking do ANYTHING. i must be stupid, im unreliable, im incompetent, and eventually you start to believe you are inherently worth LESS than your peers because our society purely values productivity, and that isn’t our strong suit.
to learn we aren’t any of those negative things we and society have told us we are, that we’re just literally built different, and our strengths lie elsewhere and are JUST AS VALUABLE AS NEUROTYPICAL PEOPLE is very validating.
i was so relieved, and im happy you could start on your journey to finding balance too! ❤
that feeling of robbed explains how the second session with my psych and when they gave me the provisional diagnosis of adult adhd left me sobbing in the car, that feeling of "what if"s on highspeed... But my therapist said something good, where 1. did I want to be heavily medicated when I was a kid and I still would've gone through struggles, it's not like everything wouldve been different, and 2. she said why don't we think of it like I tried something and now we're trying something else, and suffering without it doesn't mean I didn't one way that helped some things and didn't help others.
I really would suggest those two thoughts for anyone on the journey or thought of exploring it, it's really not a single drop miracle that would fix everything, you still need to do a lot of work yourself.
anywho, big longtime fan but first comment because I loved you talking about this topic
i was diagnosed two years ago now, i was 29 then. there’s soooo much about my life that makes sense now with this diagnosis. i did go to university and had the worst SIX years of my life. lots of my professors thought of me as flakey and i began to believe i was lazy and there was something wrong with my character, even though i did truly want to do what was expected from me. i also realized in retrospect how badly it had affected my social life bc i was a bit of an unbearable and unreliable friend, if people could even get past their first impression of me (too talkative, interruptive, etc)
i relate to you so much girl. i’m so happy you got your diagnosis! i hope it gives you the tools you need to live your fullest, best life 💗
STOP bc one time I trusted my parents and I DID GO to hand them my CV😭 they were so confused and i’m embarrassed to this day
Fellow neurodivergent girlie ❤
I’m so glad you posted this because you are actually confirming everything I’ve suspected about myself. ADHD traits have always resonated with me but I’ve been hesitant to actually say I have it or get an assessment (especially since care is so expensive in the US). Honestly every single trait you described is genuinely how I feel all the time and recently it has gotten so bad but I really don’t know what to do or where to start.
I relate to you so much! I have autism where I struggle to focus doing my coursework for uni and it stresses me out so much so I end up procrastinating. being neurodivergent can be so hard like sometimes i wish i could function like a regular neurotypical person 😭 i have so many ideas to do things but i struggle to get on task. Not sure if i have adhd as well as autism but i was diagnosed with ‘mild learning disability’ as well as autism when i was a kid
I'm kind of in a reverse situation of having diagnosed ADHD, but I suspect I have Autism too. From what I've seen online, it's pretty common to have both - especially since some symptoms overlap, it makes it difficult to differentiate the two at times (not a professional, just happen to google it quite a bit lol)
Thanks for sharing your experience! Though I don't have ADHD myself, I've always had trouble staying focused and being forgetful on certain tasks and events. I know it was hard for you to share that, but only did it to help others in similar situations.
6:57 sadly its only downhill from here. I'm early thirties and honestly it's just sad how hard it is to see people once you're not "forced" to be together due to education.
I LOVE SEEING BOOTS!!! when she has the zoomies it is adorable❤
i was diagnosed with combined type last year and found medication to be a help but not the most incredible thing ever. what you said about not believing you can do stuff has HIT. going to take that on board and work on it bc ADHD induced anxiety is so real and such a problem. peace and love and so happy for you on your journey 🫶
The traits you've mentioned about your ADHD is so similar to what I struggle with which I thought was because of my anxiety , thanks for sharing ♥️.
PS: looking forward for Priscilla vs Elvis video
Thank you, Jordan!! People have passively encouraged me to get an assessment since I was young, but my parents never took it too seriously for whatever reason. Things like school/personal tasks/sticking with hobbies have always been a point of anxiety for me and ive procrastinated my whole life, which has caused me more stress and made me think less of myself. My therapist suggested I get a screening and I, of course, have procrastinated that as well, but thanks to this video I think I'll reach out this week❤️ obsessed with all of your videos!!! keep doing you!!
AHHHH NEW VOICENOTES DROPPED. IM EARLY
I got diagnosed at 19! Everything made sense and now I understand how to manage myself
0.20: omg I've been having crazy dreams too. As someone who usually has 0 dreams, none whatsoever, these dreams lately have been spooky to me. Weird vivid dreams for the last two weeks. Maybe because of Pisces season lol.
37.07: Your mom not checking in with school reminded me of my mom growing up. Having ADHD, looking into it. ADHD has very HIGH chance of being genetic. Maybe your mom has it too?? 👀 that's a WHOLE other rabbit hole. Next thing you'll be seeing it in your whole family 😭
39.00: So relatable. I almost didn't graduate highschool because of it. The anxiety and disassociation was PARALYZING. honestly, the 2020 lockdown was the only thing that helped me graduate.
43.23: GIRLIE, DONT APOLOGIZE. Its so reassuring for people with similar experiences hear your story. You're for even going into details about your struggle during that time.
honestly thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing this with us! I really needed to hear this lol - I got diagnosed with autism recently and my assessor said I might also have ADHD which I'd never really thought about or related to, but hearing your journey with ADHD struck a chord because it sounds almost exactly the same as me. Time to get another diagnosis perhaps lmao
hearing you talk about your adhd experience is so scarily similar to mine!! It feels so validating to hear it from you. Meds didn’t end up working for me so now I’m just stuck w all of those awful symptoms whilst being stuck in uni :(
i’m wondering whether i have adhd or maybe some anxiety. i’ve been going through it while in university. my screen time is like 12 h a day and i literally cannot do any of the work. i’m also always procrastinating and freezing. i’m just on my phone for the whole day to avoid doing the task. no one had ever understood me because if i’m so stressed i should just study right? yeah but i literally cant. even when i try to study i just can’t do it. i don’t know how to explain it but i just can’t. i can only do some work if i drunk a can or two of monster energy drink which is very unhealthy but i just cant study without it. sometimes i also fall asleep when i try to focus? it’s really weird and i’m on my way to fail lol
Love the pod Jordan! Don’t feel like your work isn’t ‘good enough’ - i am ALWAYS waiting for your vids to drop!!❤
i feel you so much. im not diagnosed with anything because i just dont have the money and i really cant be bothered with paperwork and i have a huge fear of doctors 😭 but literally everyone around me agrees that im probably audhd and i relate to your experience hugely. i watch a girl called irene on here (her channel name is “The Thought Spot”) and she is really amazing for both autistic and adhd people who dont know where to start with making accommodations and such. but the school experience is so relatable except my anxiety masking happened around other areas of my life so i literally just never ever did my work. i would feel hugely stressed for not doing my schoolwork to the point where i would never ever start and eventually would never even consider starting. every time i got new homework i would sigh not in “aw man more work” but in “nice another thing to fail at” LOL. adhd really is crippling. i tried college for two months but was suffering from insane anxiety and suicidal thoughts and anorexia and body dysmorphia and emetophobia help and id recently kind of discovered that im most likely autistic (i didnt clock the adhd for many reasons) and so autism and adhd in addition to all of that was insane to deal with. i couldnt attend my lessons. i was absent for lessons and yet still made the effort to get ready and come into the building. i couldnt do coursework for obvious reasons lol and on top of that, not knowing the content. after the first two months they lowkey kicked me out of college LOL but im beyond happy i never had to experience school life beyond that.
Congrats on your diagnosis! I related so much to a lot of what you said about post-diagnosis feelings, especially feeling sad about what your life could have been like if you were diagnosed earlier. I was diagnosed around 1 year ago when I was 24 and I can definitely say that my diagnosis and medication have seriously changed my life for the better. There are still struggles, but even just knowing that it's because you have a disorder and not because of personal failings helps so much. Wishing you the best going forward! (And, small recommendation: I have been reading Russell Barkley's "Mastering Your Adult ADHD" and it's been really interesting for learning about how ADHD works, but also for learning coping strategies. I wish I'd read it sooner after diagnosis, lol)
wait because i had an extremely similar experience in school and my whole childhood.. like almost exact. i don't have ocd but i've had depression since high school which i now take medicine for. i'd been thinking about getting tested for adhd but it's expensive here in the US. might be worth it tho ://
Worth it. Our common understanding of ADHD is so skewed.
aww thank you jordan you’ve really helped with my anxiety ❤
the idea of anxiety masking your adhd may have me realizing things.......... 😳 maybe i do need an assessment
your sixth form sounds identical to mine, but I had pushy parents 😭 now I've spent 6 years trying to finish a bachelors and I'm finally near the end. It's so hard 🙃
hype for this one
I was just diagnosed at 38 and I identify with EVERYTHING you said here! I didn’t think the meds were working and suddenly I was doing the laundry. Congrats on your new beginning!
To be fair, I also find you very inspiring and would like to be like you when I'm older (I'm almost 28)
Welcome to the spectrum babe, we do a lot of crochet here
another banger!!!! was just wondering tho, are you still doing advice segment in your podcasts?
this is like an epiphany holy shit i experience all of this
i should get my ass moving n do all the things to get diagnosed
Fyi - amphetamines ARE one of the most common treatments for adhd, alongside methylphenidate, which you’re on. Both are stimulants, but Ritalin is NOT amphetamine salts (like adderall, vyvanse, etc), it’s methylphenidate.
This was really helpful for me, thank you ❤️ x
take a shot every time this wonderful woman says ‘yeah no’
I'm going into uni in September but I'm so so scared i'm going to struggle
same...
See I don’t tHink I have adhd but I relate so much to almost everything you say that I’m starting to have seconds thoughts lol😅
I live in tottenham and I get the overground from bruce grove to london fields / dalston / hackney etc and it doesn't take long at all, there's also like 10 different bus routes heading that way, obv tottenham isn't the nicest area but it's so convenient and cheap lol
💗💗💗
That must be why I relate all the time
Yay
Move to the upper end of Walthamstow. You have overground, Victoria line, and central line in a very close run.
Omg hearing you talk about having the rug pulled out from under you is so real I got dumped out of nowhere and blocked 😭😭😭
they were cheating and don't want the new person to find out
@@cozycasasmr4510 damn
adhd gang!
also i felt bittersweet when i got my diagnosis because of the life i could have had
me too, felt like I was mourning myself
is that blanket from amazon bc its in my cart and it looks so good
I just got diagnosed this week at 22 and in law school 😂😂😂❤❤❤
hey, just wanted to correct you on the book description, Poland was not part of the soviet union🙏🙏
you should listen to dont cry by kirk franklin
1:10:18 sorry but i can't stop laughing at this bit