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  • Do you know everything about your child?
    An unprecedented number of children in the UK are being diagnosed and treated for a mental health disorder.
    This film follows three of these children at the Tavistock and Portman’s day unit, Gloucester House. This is a unique NHS-run primary and early secondary school for children with complex emotional, social and behavioural problems.
    The specialist team of teachers, mental health nurses, therapists and support workers works intensively with its 18 students, many of whom have been excluded from mainstream schools.
    The film follows 11 year-old Josh in his last term at the school. Josh was adopted when he was 6 years old, but his traumatic early years have been worked with in his time at the school.
    After three years at Gloucester House, his parents and the staff at Gloucester House hope he is ready to move on to a mainstream secondary school. Luke is also preparing for life after three years at the Unit, whilst Danya-Leigh has just arrived at the school. Staff must act quickly to understand her needs, and to support her mum who is struggling to cope.
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Komentáře • 555

  • @akornz51
    @akornz51 Před 2 lety +1686

    My has dad works at one of these schools for 30 years in the USA. He has had his car windows broken and peed on. But most notably, he has had his jaw broken by a student. He continues to teach these students. Most have been traumatized, a lot are foster children, and many have mental disorders. My dad has stayed after school to help kids who are struggling learn, he has bought bikes for kids who had none, and gifts for his students in need. Not everyone can do what he does but it truly was his calling.

  • @onepawatatime7925
    @onepawatatime7925 Před 2 lety +587

    This was me as a kid. I was severely neglected for the first year of my life and then put into foster care. Adopted at four and had my biological foster sibling removed when I was six. And I was sexually abused and emotionally abused. I struggled, a lot. I was so angry and so anxious that I just couldn’t control it. My feeling we’re just so big that no little five year old could handle. I would bite my self, others, hit, scream, scratch, rip my hair out, shred stuffed animals, rip things off walls, run away, probably more. With time I learned to cope and eventually became a mostly normal adult. I still have severe anxiety (thanks trauma!) but I’m no longer full of rage. I can control my feelings 95% of the time. I’m in college, I live alone, I have a dog and enjoy creating with my hands. I would like to believe that most of my friends would say I’m one of the kindest people they know. Which couldn’t be said for me as a kid. But really, these kids are just the most sensitive kids with the biggest emotions, that are just to much for them to handle. These are the kids that have experienced things most adults can’t imagine and they have to keep on living. These aren’t violent, disturbed, broken kids. These are traumatized kids with big hearts, big feeling and no place to put them. And they just need someone to be there with them as they learn to navigate those treacherous waters and to help guide them along the way. Because in the end, they do eventually make it to shore.

    • @cazgreen
      @cazgreen Před 2 lety +17

      Wishing you well for a happy life now.

    • @nl-ho4wm
      @nl-ho4wm Před 2 lety +4

      if one of these kids end up killing someone you would still say "oh no he just have a big heart"?

    • @cazgreen
      @cazgreen Před 2 lety +2

      @@nl-ho4wm I wouldn't want them near any of mine.

    • @marialiyubman
      @marialiyubman Před 2 lety +14

      I wish I could give you a hug. 💔
      I was neglected and abused, but no one knew because I was an introvert to I spent my entire life feeling highly ashamed of being useless in helping myself get out of that situation.
      Kids are so resilient.
      Please hang in there, none of it was your fault and you did the best you could to stay here. ❤️🇮🇱

    • @onepawatatime7925
      @onepawatatime7925 Před 2 lety +33

      @@nl-ho4wm These are children, traumatized children. No, if they killed someone I wouldn’t excuse their actions. But by blatantly making a statement that these are just violent dangerous children they will never have a chance of healing because they will believe it themselves. Of course you shouldn’t just leave them to their own devices. In fact what I was saying is that we should be supporting and teaching these kids so that they can learn to cope, instead of just writing them off. An eight year olds future isn’t set in stone, and to say it is, is to condemn them before they ever had a chance to try. There is a difference between a traumatized child and a purely violent child, a difference a psychologist can determine, and an important one. These aren’t hardened criminals, and with help they won’t become one, these are children with trauma.

  • @sharkyperforms247
    @sharkyperforms247 Před 2 lety +739

    I’m glad hear the head teacher say there’s no such thing as “bad kids”
    Because there isn’t. There is only traumatized kids, bullied kids, mentally ill kids, grieving kids… but none of them are “bad”

    • @DowntownTasty
      @DowntownTasty Před 2 lety +15

      @John Doe I agree with you. Some kids may be born bad. Or may even have permanent behavior changes triggered by medication or treatments they needed as a baby. They’re finding out certain meds are doing that to kids who needed to be in the NICU. But yeah I’m sure some people are just born bad. However we still need people with that positive mind set because if we don’t have people who are optimistic like that how are any of them gonna get a chance? Many of these kids may simply grow out of it as they mature.

    • @eleonorvoncarter6769
      @eleonorvoncarter6769 Před rokem

      @John Doe based on your response, what they said is not false. You suffer from a mental illness. It's not your fault that you are this way.
      But as you said, your grandma was able to "save" you and prevent you from hurting others.
      And let me tell you. It doesn’t matter if you feel differently, or if you don’t feel anything at all. As long as you keep yourself away from hurting others, you ARE a good person. Perhaps, you are even more of a good person because you struggle more than "normal" people not to hurt others.
      Of course, i don’t know you. My opinion may be naive and stupid. However, it just saddens me to read that someone doesn’t consider themself human because of the illness they have.
      You ARE human.
      You ARE a human being as long as you keep yourself from hurting others.
      And even if you are uncapable of emotions, there are things like emotional intelligence which can be developed over the years. And i think your grandma was very important in this process.
      Again, this is my very naive opinion based on a comment you made.
      Yes, i agree that some children are born differently, with a tendency to evil or lack of emphaty. However, that tendency can be either encouraged or discouraged. And that's what is really determining in making a person.

    • @constancemccoy6931
      @constancemccoy6931 Před rokem +18

      Unless they're diagnosed as a pyschopath. No cure for that.

    • @furiousdestroyah9999
      @furiousdestroyah9999 Před rokem +18

      I've never heard about a kid being born bad, I've only seen children with predispositions to violent behaviour be in environments that allowed them to become that way

    • @superdupersnowflake
      @superdupersnowflake Před rokem +6

      Well they behave bad…

  • @TheMaybella77
    @TheMaybella77 Před 2 lety +473

    God bless Phil and Stig for taking on troubled kids and not giving up. The calmness and love they give to these children is unbelievable ❤ also giving them positive male role model. I am surprised I didn't see it mentioned much in comments.

    • @Duvmasta
      @Duvmasta Před 2 lety

      Are Phil and Stig gay?

    • @cjfqg
      @cjfqg Před 2 lety +61

      @@Duvmasta No, they're roommates who decided they wanted to adopt three children together... Yes, they're gay.

    • @Duvmasta
      @Duvmasta Před 2 lety +5

      @@cjfqg don’t be a jerk

    • @cjfqg
      @cjfqg Před 2 lety +15

      @@Duvmasta Then use context clues

    • @Duvmasta
      @Duvmasta Před 2 lety +5

      @@cjfqg why are you being so rude?

  • @kefisher7218
    @kefisher7218 Před rokem +218

    "she's never been a bad child, she's just been a misunderstood child. no one really understood her." that mother's way of putting it is so simple and so so true. so many of the "bad kids" that we all knew in school weren't bad at all, they just needed someone to really understand them and want to figure out what was best for them. i think the world focuses way too much on making children "good" and well-behaved when instead we should focus on making sure they're happy and appreciated.

    • @coffeecrimegal5968
      @coffeecrimegal5968 Před rokem +9

      If they’re good and well behaved they will be happy and appreciated as well as appreciative! This behavior doesn’t make them happy either and certainly anyone else for that matter. It’s one thing to have patience, understanding, and to talk to a child but it’s another entirely to just allow them to do whatever makes only them happy and for us to appreciate when they act out! That’s ridiculous actually! It benefits no one in the long run.

    • @Freiya2011
      @Freiya2011 Před rokem +2

      @@coffeecrimegal5968 so absolutely very true!

  • @Matildajane23
    @Matildajane23 Před 2 lety +394

    The headmaster "I dont believe in naughty children". What an amazing attitude to have. 🥰🥰

    • @DowntownTasty
      @DowntownTasty Před 2 lety +12

      Exactly the temperament a headmaster at a place like that needs.

    • @mariad.5823
      @mariad.5823 Před 3 měsíci +1

      Ignoring a problem does not help to solve it

    • @taylorm1997
      @taylorm1997 Před 3 měsíci

      The headmaster is fucking delusional

    • @taylorm1997
      @taylorm1997 Před 3 měsíci

      @@mariad.5823exactly

    • @JamesBrown-gv1vg
      @JamesBrown-gv1vg Před 3 měsíci

      Yeah it's a great attitude to have when your exploiting you're mentally ill &/or traumatized pupils on a documentary for publicity.😠

  • @fettersofdromi
    @fettersofdromi Před 2 lety +254

    If I'd had help when I was a kid, I'm sure things would be a lot different. I still have outbursts and fits into adulthood. Please get your kids the help they need!

    • @margaretrangel7223
      @margaretrangel7223 Před 2 lety +4

      Same here!

    • @ellaelliott4415
      @ellaelliott4415 Před 2 lety +9

      Me too. Ironically, my parents who were psychologists, knew very little about the mental illnesses I have and resorted to quite a few inappropriate ways of disciplining me

    • @ElsebelseElsbeth
      @ElsebelseElsbeth Před 2 lety +3

      We try, we really do ...

    • @JunaidWolf3
      @JunaidWolf3 Před 3 měsíci +2

      Same with me if only my school and family could have understood that I was autistic and not to think I was faking then maybe I could have had all the help I needed as a kid I’m also dyslexic

  • @DowntownTasty
    @DowntownTasty Před 2 lety +98

    That kid that’s been there a long time is very smart. You can tell he has a broad vocabulary for someone his age. Im sure a lot of these kids can channel themselves and do better in the future. Hopefully as long as people don’t give up on them.

    • @breakfastattiffanys741
      @breakfastattiffanys741 Před rokem +2

      I know a good number of late 20s to early 30s with a less extensive vocabulary and understanding 😅

    • @badazzbarbiePOV
      @badazzbarbiePOV Před rokem +1

      I know its serious but I fell out when he said " this help you with your behavior school" I was in literal tears

  • @nicolecodbrajoe5229
    @nicolecodbrajoe5229 Před 2 lety +176

    Some of these behaviors remind me of when my boys were younger and they were struggling to deal with my divorce from their dad. The techniques I learned from therapists really helped to diffuse situations like this.
    The staff have my utmost respect for helping these troubled kids. They need understanding, compassion and guidance. Not more trauma. ❤️

    • @nicolecodbrajoe5229
      @nicolecodbrajoe5229 Před 2 lety +1

      Oh... that ending though ❤️😭

    • @margaretrangel7223
      @margaretrangel7223 Před 2 lety +3

      What techniques worked for you? I have a child who experienced a major trauma a few years back and hasn’t been the same since. She has such a big heart but her behavior has been a struggle and she’s only 7. We’ve done therapy with specialist for the trauma for over a year and nothing is working. It’s heart breaking.

    • @nicolecodbrajoe5229
      @nicolecodbrajoe5229 Před 2 lety +12

      @@margaretrangel7223 Mine mostly struggled with anger issues and my youngest had really bad temper tantrums. For the older ones, it was learning how to talk to them, acknowledge their feelings, let them know their feelings were valid but also setting boundaries and enforcing them.
      The youngest, I was taught non-violent crisis intervention holds and techniques to help myself remain calm through his tantrums.
      It was years of modeling this behavior. I slipped up sometimes and we had set backs but I just kept up with the positive reinforcement and eventually they grew up to be amazing young men. 🥰❤️

    • @bebykezia9464
      @bebykezia9464 Před měsícem

      maybe dont get divorced in the first place would've been nice

  • @rachelmartin3631
    @rachelmartin3631 Před 2 lety +94

    Pain = rage, and rage can't be contained. These kids aren't bad kids, they're hurting, and not able to express that pain .

    • @nl-ho4wm
      @nl-ho4wm Před 2 lety +1

      so if one of these kids tries to kill you, you would still say that "oh no they arent bad kids"?

    • @jealous6434
      @jealous6434 Před 2 lety +9

      @@nl-ho4wm trauma isn’t an excuse, it’s an explanation. No one said that they don’t face consequences for their actions, it just explains why they got to this point

    • @jealous6434
      @jealous6434 Před 2 lety +4

      @@TRC2002 no it means they need psychological help and stay in therapy so they learn how to deal with stuff in non aggressive ways.

    • @Ammie_Mae
      @Ammie_Mae Před 2 lety +6

      @@TRC2002 you’re trying to set up a paper tiger, anyone who attempts to / succeed in killing someone (excluding self defence) is arguably a “bad person”. But especially with children you can’t honestly look at them and say they’re just behaving badly. Any child who’s capable of either attempting or following through with a violent crime has something DEEPLY wrong with them. Trauma is never an excuse it only offers an explanation or insight into a disorder. And acknowledging that a child has a serious issue does not absolve them of consequences.

    • @karencobham4967
      @karencobham4967 Před rokem

      That's correct

  • @Celtas87
    @Celtas87 Před 2 lety +127

    What a great documentary, thanks for the upload. I was abused during my entire childhood and became very "disruptive" in class - especially between age 9 to 12. I had no respect for any adults. Nobody could control me. I finally felt that I needed some help so when I turned 13 I went to our school councelor to tell what went on at home but she just called my mother on the phone and told her that I had disclosed the "big family secret". My mother beat me to a bloody pulp so nothing good came out of that. I never got the help I so desperately needed. Look at me now. I have been diagnosed with severe PTSD, depression, anxiety. I have nightmares every night, and no family or friends left in my life. Life is far from being easy...

    • @katiekelleher2560
      @katiekelleher2560 Před 2 lety +24

      I'm so sorry that happened to you and that the adults in your life didn't protect you as they should have 😔

    • @Celtas87
      @Celtas87 Před 2 lety +5

      @@katiekelleher2560 TY 🧡

    • @nl-ho4wm
      @nl-ho4wm Před 2 lety

      of course the school councelor did not believe you, you were a menace after all. He or she maybe though you were making it up to hurt other people

    • @Celtas87
      @Celtas87 Před 2 lety +2

      @@candifloss Hi Candice. I'm very sorry that all of this happened to you. May you heal and feel better soon, you are NOT alone. 💕

    • @pinlight97
      @pinlight97 Před 2 lety +10

      Oh brother, that’s awful! I have had students disclose and I’ve had to call student services (it’s the law here that teachers are legally obligated). Never ever would I phone the family directly…so not okay. I am so sorry that your reaching out for help resulted in that extra trauma on trauma.

  • @edwinharlow9719
    @edwinharlow9719 Před 2 měsíci +6

    Anger is a secondary emotion, people are always hurt or scared underneath it. This school is approaching anger in a great way

  • @nickygammon6056
    @nickygammon6056 Před rokem +91

    Those 2 dads were amazing, such an incredible level of commitment and compassion for Josh and his brothers.

    • @JamesBrown-gv1vg
      @JamesBrown-gv1vg Před 3 měsíci

      Already left a reply with @TheMaybella77 about my feelings for these two.

  • @dangerbirb4981
    @dangerbirb4981 Před 2 lety +81

    Josh I hope you're doing okay all these years later. It's clear to me you're a very smart kid from the way you speak and you've got a big heart for taking care of others. I know you have emotional triggers but that doesnt make you less of a person, it's the way you respond to them that matters.

  • @Jacoe413
    @Jacoe413 Před 2 lety +75

    These kids break my heart. I started dealing with mental health at 15. I'm an adult now, and I can't imagine how scary this must be for those precious little ones.

    • @sallyann985
      @sallyann985 Před 2 lety

      Just 15? You were lucky lol.

    • @ry.butterfly
      @ry.butterfly Před 2 lety

      @@sallyann985 uhhhh that is really distasteful of you to say. Nobody is "lucky" when dealing with mental illness

    • @mariagriffin5873
      @mariagriffin5873 Před rokem +6

      @@sallyann985 that’s invalidating

    • @sallyann985
      @sallyann985 Před rokem

      @@mariagriffin5873 I'm aware of that

  • @IZaubermausI
    @IZaubermausI Před 2 lety +108

    I feel so sorry for these kids - what do they have to struggle with in early years to get so angry and aggressive? No one is born as a bad person!!!

    • @candifloss
      @candifloss Před 2 lety +10

      because many are being abused by a parent, its a normal reaction to an abnormal situation

    • @No-sv6mu
      @No-sv6mu Před 2 lety +14

      Childhood trauma literally rewires the brain. These children need intense and consistent help. I work in the same type of school but near Chicago. Our staff members are the consistency and love these kids need.

    • @MmCelliste
      @MmCelliste Před měsícem

      Neglect, different forms of abuse from their parents/caregivers, and the effects of their mothers using alcohol/drugs when pregnant. Combination of all the above. Very sad.

  • @michellecarice
    @michellecarice Před rokem +48

    The world is a better place because of people like Phil and Stig! They are so patient and caring with those boys and are just truly amazing parents! They are restoring faith in humanity one child at a time ❤️

    • @nickygammon6056
      @nickygammon6056 Před rokem +6

      They were amazing. So glad those boys ended up with such a caring couple.

    • @JamesBrown-gv1vg
      @JamesBrown-gv1vg Před 3 měsíci

      Amazing parents don't let there adopted children with mental health issues go to a school where there problems will be aired for the whole world to see with there faces un-blurred & there names un-bleeped so the school & themselves can look like heroes.😠

  • @planetearth1705
    @planetearth1705 Před 2 lety +68

    Anger is easier to choose. Rejection, fear, anxiety are scary and we don’t feel in control but we can choose anger because it doesn’t leave us feeling vulnerable.

  • @sherri-jean198
    @sherri-jean198 Před 2 lety +89

    Siblings should never ever be separated..and it's all about positive loving and an understanding sense of discipline. Unless one is effecting the others with their behavior that truly effects the rest.even so it's really hard to be a good parent we just want the best for out kids but yet it's just so hard.

  • @shelbydorman5878
    @shelbydorman5878 Před 2 lety +27

    i work in a school similar to this and it can be hard but it’s the most rewarding thing in the world to see children grow and heal.

    • @pinlight97
      @pinlight97 Před rokem

      Agreed! ❤️

    • @JamesBrown-gv1vg
      @JamesBrown-gv1vg Před 3 měsíci

      Hopefully you guys don't shove a camera in your students faces during their worst moments like with these jerks.

  • @yikesgina
    @yikesgina Před rokem +21

    Josh seems like such a sweet child - just super misunderstood. hopefully he has a great life.

  • @aevahz
    @aevahz Před rokem +36

    I go to a small highschool like this in Australia. Everyone is nice, the teachers are really understanding too. Obviously sometimes people have outbursts but it's never towards other students, I think there's an understanding that we all relate to each other in some way or another.

    • @babycakes8434
      @babycakes8434 Před 4 měsíci

      That's good. I just had a conversation with my momm about bullies in primary school we went to. Then also in middle school. It can be so horrible to be taunted and abused by them, physically and mentally.

  • @linda9115
    @linda9115 Před 2 lety +108

    Kudos 2 the teachers, hard job undoing learnt behaviours.

    • @madji6886
      @madji6886 Před 2 lety

      They are not teachers😅🤦🏻‍♀️

    • @nicolecodbrajoe5229
      @nicolecodbrajoe5229 Před 2 lety +6

      @@madji6886 teachers/ staff You knew which people Linda was talking about. 🤷‍♀️
      Edit for typo

    • @nicolecodbrajoe5229
      @nicolecodbrajoe5229 Před 2 lety +3

      Very hard job indeed.

    • @MrZzToOoFlyY
      @MrZzToOoFlyY Před 2 lety +8

      @@madji6886 some of them are teachers! They refer to several of them as teachers but the place has other staff too.

    • @beverlyledbetter4906
      @beverlyledbetter4906 Před 8 měsíci +1

      Most of this dysfunctional behavior begins in the home. Makes you wonder what kind of parents these kids have!😒

  • @eunicestone838
    @eunicestone838 Před 2 lety +30

    My nephew has all these problems. He stayed with me for a couple of months and I swear I just didn't see any of the problems everyone said he had. He came straight away saying he had all these problems and I said sure...I have the same. He did not know what to do or think. I think he was scared straight. As soon as he was back home all the behavior came right back. It was so bad at home he would beg to come by me. I'd relent most weekends but the parents just could not understand. Their jealousy kept him home. Sadly for him he just kept on with his behaviors until he landed in foster care. After foster care Juvenile detention then big boy jail. Sad. He still contacts me. I really don't know why he thought so much of me. I just treated him equally and like a person. He tells every one I'm the only person in his life that ever treated him decent.

    • @al-sz6ry
      @al-sz6ry Před 3 měsíci

      empathy is unfortunately rare to come by sometimes. i didn’t feel like i truly experienced it until i was in my 20s.

    • @Champagneyear
      @Champagneyear Před 3 měsíci

      Underrated

  • @nicolemyers4584
    @nicolemyers4584 Před 2 lety +104

    I have three adopted children from foster care with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. I see strong signs of FAS in Josh, particularly in his behavior, but also his upturned nose and eyes.

    • @Duvmasta
      @Duvmasta Před 2 lety +4

      Why did you adopt children with FAS?

    • @nicolemyers4584
      @nicolemyers4584 Před 2 lety +39

      @@Duvmasta because I love them and they needed a home. Children with disabilities are children just like those without disabilities. The challenges are just different

    • @Duvmasta
      @Duvmasta Před 2 lety +3

      @@nicolemyers4584 did you start out as a foster parent?

    • @nicolemyers4584
      @nicolemyers4584 Před 2 lety +3

      @@Duvmasta yes

    • @Duvmasta
      @Duvmasta Před 2 lety +3

      @@nicolemyers4584 what made you want to foster children?

  • @seamonster2445
    @seamonster2445 Před 2 lety +17

    Oh little josh, you remind me of myself. i was neglected and abused, and had very bad anger issues. the calm collected way you talk about manipulation, and not being afraid of a tussle. It really becomes easier to be numb, but don't lose all those emotions. it's not worth it. i can say from experience that trying to fix emotions is worse than feeling them in the first place. memories aren't really my thing, as i have D.I.D. but i do remember the rage. i also remember realizing that it wasn't normal for a child to be able to manipulate so well

  • @heatherbowlan1961
    @heatherbowlan1961 Před rokem +21

    Josh is acting out his last two weeks because he knows change is coming in his life, and that’s very stressful for Josh !

  • @godisgoodallthetime7622
    @godisgoodallthetime7622 Před 2 lety +6

    What grace you have. Self-control. And great care. Thanks so much for your dedication.

  • @Tammissa
    @Tammissa Před 2 lety +60

    Anyone can make a baby. It just seems so unfair to these kids that they had parents that screwed them up. These kids got a crapy start to life. I really hope they can work through their problems. I wonder if the camera being there worked Josh up more. He seems to be desperate for attention, ANY kind of attention.

  • @daddysangeljetta
    @daddysangeljetta Před 8 měsíci +13

    Phil and Stig are truly amazing and they are examples of unconditional love which these boys needed so desperately I hope Josh comes around and sees how truly loved and lucky he is he seems to show remorse so i have no doubt he’ll conquer his trauma. Stig and Phil thank you for being the wonderful men you are

  • @helRAEzzzer
    @helRAEzzzer Před 2 lety +34

    I wish psychiatric workers in America were emotionally understanding like these workers when I was a kid in the 2000s. Most of the ones myself and my cousin's dealt with seemed to hate us, and the ones who did care about us didn't really try to understand us. We were all heavily medicated. I have added trauma from my psychological care growing up now on top of my other issues.
    I'm crying from the one worker telling the one kid that it's okay to be angry. I was drugged up for feeling anything that outwardly showed, not just anger. Emotions weren't allowed.

    • @marialiyubman
      @marialiyubman Před 2 lety +6

      I’m sure that if America makes a documentary about troubled kids and their teachers, they’ll find some angels in America as well, but most of the system is absolute junk and I don’t understand why some of them, if not most of them, even get into that line of work…
      I was lucky to find one school counselor who beloved me when I told her I had fatigue and chronic pain and that’s why I was skipping school…. Before her, they’d just claim I’m making it up to cut school.

    • @pinlight97
      @pinlight97 Před 2 lety +3

      I tell my students on the regular that angry is okay. I am naturally one who tended toward anger…fuelled by anxiety and trauma. So, I “get” anger. What I tell them is, no, I can’t expect you to like all of your classmates or even me, let alone the schoolwork. You can even hate it, hate me, hate them. However, what we DO WITH that anger is the key. How can we work it through and find the other side? Dealing with one particularly angry kiddo in my class right now…and have worked with kids similar to the ones shown here.

    • @perfumistaful
      @perfumistaful Před 3 měsíci

      So sorry for what happened to you... take care of yourself. :)

  • @SkepticalTeacher
    @SkepticalTeacher Před 2 lety +85

    Speaking as a teacher: the children are seeking physical contact by kicking off and being restrained. They don't know how to seek physical contact in a normal way, like hugging, etc.

    • @madji6886
      @madji6886 Před 2 lety +13

      You’re a teacher not a therapist, stop pretending you know what these kids need. If your watched the video you would know these kids were abused and neglected. Sit down

    • @raea3588
      @raea3588 Před 2 lety +30

      @@madji6886 She's right. I know. I was one of these kids. It hurts too much to ask for love the way a child would usually get it because you're afraid of being pushed away or trusting. It takes a lot of time to look at your own pain and realize that by yelling "let me go!" you're saying "hold me tight!" and you'd do anything for a safe adult to hug you but you're just too scared. Hopefully in time, sometimes a long time, healing can take place and the child knows there are some safe people to trust and to love in the right way

    • @peaceonakalu7852
      @peaceonakalu7852 Před 2 lety +15

      @@raea3588 Yeah, I was also like that as a kid. Behaving ‘badly' to get attention, nice words, hugs, etc. But my behavior only pushed people away and I always wondered why.

    • @raea3588
      @raea3588 Před 2 lety +8

      @@peaceonakalu7852 I'm so sorry you had that pain inside of you. You are worthy

    • @peaceonakalu7852
      @peaceonakalu7852 Před 2 lety +3

      @@raea3588 Thank you 🤗

  • @jenniferfuller8026
    @jenniferfuller8026 Před 2 lety +88

    Good that places like this exist to help the children who struggle, but also to give them a separate place away from others until they can be more stable In school. I’ve seen violent kids trash classrooms and hurt kids and teachers in a regular school over and over but never be removed. It’s really scary

  • @katefevre6222
    @katefevre6222 Před 2 lety +13

    my heart

  • @sherri-jean198
    @sherri-jean198 Před 2 lety +38

    Truly takes a village to raise a child..thank God for good people 🙏

    • @margaretboyle8719
      @margaretboyle8719 Před 2 lety

      That statement is lunatic leftism at its worst. It came from a narcissistic, power grubbing, corrupt politician: Hilary Clinton. Her daughter was "raised" by nannies while her parents feathered their nest. It takes a committed, married couple with good values to raise a child in a society that reflects those same values. Since the West has gone down the toilet morally, good parents are usually on their own. What if your neighbors dumped their kids on you for a night/weekend and claimed you as part of their village. The sane reponse: you would call social services immediately. Pull your head out.

  • @Lmlm8168
    @Lmlm8168 Před rokem +8

    The comfort thing, them being able to lay down and cover with a blanket & feel “comfy “ -children need this . Especially children suffering from emotional issues .

  • @naturewoman1274
    @naturewoman1274 Před 2 lety +15

    Those poor children, I wish I could scoop them all up and cuddle them and keep them safe, it breaks my heart what they have endured. Thank goodness for the special home and loving foster homes

  • @DowntownTasty
    @DowntownTasty Před 2 lety +25

    It’s also nice to see how much they care for these kids in the UK. Unfortunately in the USA often they either fall thru the cracks or go to schools where they’re basically retraumatized.

    • @nzurimalkia6293
      @nzurimalkia6293 Před rokem

      Then eventually they end up in prison, addicts and homeless.

    • @beverlyledbetter4906
      @beverlyledbetter4906 Před 8 měsíci

      The UK is one of the worst places for kids. This is an exception, not the norm!🙄

  • @emilyfeagin2673
    @emilyfeagin2673 Před 3 měsíci

    Thank you so much for uploading this. It was such interesting. I appreciate

  • @DowntownTasty
    @DowntownTasty Před 2 lety +15

    Some of these kids anger also is actually a symptom of learning disabilities that haven’t been managed. Growing up there was a boy who was a bit of a neighborhood bully. He was older than me and basically illiterate. Me and my mom actually taught him how to read and he was extremely sweet and thankful after.

  • @scottnewton9619
    @scottnewton9619 Před rokem +1

    Thankless and tireless work that you need to be committed to for the long haul. Teaching and working in these schools/ program is the equivalent of doing hard time.

  • @christinemalaka8636
    @christinemalaka8636 Před 2 lety +26

    Everything beautiful and positive is in this story. What a shining light. So progressive. May it grow and spread.

    • @JamesBrown-gv1vg
      @JamesBrown-gv1vg Před 3 měsíci

      Yeah, I noticed the like from origin & knew I just had to reply to this one. It's truly disgusting that channels like these peddle these horrible documentaries exploiting & humiliating troubled children so that educators as well as parents/guardians can look good on camera & a bunch of idiots can feel better about themselves by watching kids who are worse off then themselves. These children should have every right to privacy in their lives. I really wouldn't be at all surprised if this turned out to be a bot set up by origin as this appears to be the only comment the've liked.😠

    • @christinemalaka8636
      @christinemalaka8636 Před 3 měsíci

      Did u even watch this video?
      I agree w u. There's far too many postings of children just to get views. I detest it like u do.
      Thats not what this vid is about. Its a documentary on a very different approach to teaching some kids who would otherwise be chewed up in the regular education system. Its showing the progress possible and sharing some of the insights that make it possible.

    • @JamesBrown-gv1vg
      @JamesBrown-gv1vg Před 3 měsíci

      @@christinemalaka8636 But then why does it need to be made for public consumption when it can just be a private teaching tool for educators & psychology students? The answer is because not only does this sort of content Bring in morbid viewership, it also makes the parents & teachers look heroic & gets viewers such as yourself to leave positive comments.

  • @No-sv6mu
    @No-sv6mu Před 2 lety +10

    I work at a school for kids with behavioral disorders. Learning disabilities go hand in hand with that. I don't know why I'm watching this after getting off work. This is my work life daily.

    • @No-sv6mu
      @No-sv6mu Před 2 lety +1

      One big difference I see is in Illinois where I work we are no longer allowed to restrain a child (because of a student being held wrong and suffocating in California a few years ago). My school had already moved away from restraining; but now it's law. And if we do restrain there is a ton of paperwork that is needed to be reported to the state within 24 hours.

    • @No-sv6mu
      @No-sv6mu Před 2 lety +2

      I probably say "you are not making safe choices right now, can we please figure out a better way to x y z" at least 100 times a day. Great to see how similar these staff members are to our own

    • @beverlyledbetter4906
      @beverlyledbetter4906 Před 8 měsíci

      Everyone can always learn more. Perhaps that's you, and that's good! Learn all you can.☺️

  • @CallemJay_McNeill
    @CallemJay_McNeill Před 4 měsíci +3

    Josh is such a good brother, Having three boys would be a dream come true for me. How can parents not realise how blessed they are? I'm never going to be able to have kids of my own, I'd do literally anything to have kids of my own 😢 Take care of your children and love them. Theres no such thing as too much love ❤️

  • @nealaxr1898
    @nealaxr1898 Před rokem +15

    I find it fascinating how Luke will cuddle himself up in a blanket when he is feeling troubled. It seems like his sort of escape. I wonder if it was something he did when he was younger to soothe himself when no one else was?
    Probably feels so lonely and misunderstood.

  • @ws-ff9bs
    @ws-ff9bs Před 2 lety +7

    all of these poor babies need love and hugs they are in my prayers. I feel that many of these adults need to listen more to these kids, my main concern being that if they say don't touch them do NOT touch them, I feel these baby's pain :(

  • @jodie1survives136
    @jodie1survives136 Před rokem +1

    Kids in pain is so hard to see. Their faces when they do laugh and smile must seem like the finest jewels

  • @pinlight97
    @pinlight97 Před 2 lety +24

    I love the glitter activity and building a feelings sensory jar….better way to gain info than weird questions, while providing a tactile and visual way for the student to see what their emotions are doing. Going to use that one! (I really feel like the girl in this piece has a degree of ASD too…having it myself and knowing how differently it presents in girls).

  • @_pudu661
    @_pudu661 Před 2 lety +15

    I cant help but also look at this thru a 3rd world lens, bcuz wow the treatment provided to these troubled kids is incredible, the facilities are clean, staffed and equipped. The people there try their best and arent abusive and torturing them, they genuinely care u can see it they genuinely want the best, its not a control or power abuse thing, they care about the kids, they have good hearts. Its very touching to see that this is the type of care being given to such young ppl coming from broken homes who didnt deserve such a bad experience so young.

  • @charlieeinhorn7573
    @charlieeinhorn7573 Před 3 měsíci +1

    I'm absolutely amazed that some off the kids can explain really well how they feel in an "anger situation". I can't explain it as good as the wee lad 👍🏻

  • @ShanaeMarie
    @ShanaeMarie Před 2 lety +18

    As someone who worked with high risk children ages 0-15 for 8yr prior to furthering my education and becoming a Pediatric (0-19yr old) Healthcare provider…I am wondering something that is essential to being able to handle high risk children.
    Do all of you get on going
    training that teaches you how to empathically connect with a child when they are in a state of heightened rage?
    Saying to a child in a state of rage, “Clearly you just want to be in control…” You need more training on empathic connect-ability and patient verbalization.

  • @anovemberstar
    @anovemberstar Před 9 měsíci +3

    How awesome for Josh, to have not one, but two Dad's - and - two Dad's rhat really care 🥰

  • @seekyahwehandneverbeafraid1952

    This documentary has opened my eyes on thre perspective of the children that we as adults overlook and just judge them. God Bless these people who help and guide them 🙏

  • @jojobee42
    @jojobee42 Před 2 lety +51

    Josh worries me. He is manipulative, aggressive, has harmed an animal(s), has no empathy/guilt etc.. That's a psychopath right there. He's also smart and can appear extremely pleasant. I'm not 100% convinced he's really learned to feel guilt and regret - could just be he's learnt that's how he's supposed to feel, so he's just saying it, saying the 'right' things.. He worries me.

    • @marialiyubman
      @marialiyubman Před 2 lety +9

      Agreed 100%

    • @teresahiggs4896
      @teresahiggs4896 Před rokem +5

      I agree.

    • @superdupersnowflake
      @superdupersnowflake Před rokem +4

      I completely agree . He’s very much not a good person. I know all these people say aww no bad kids kids aren’t ever bad blah blah . Kids can still have bad behavior, that’s what matters, how they behave . They can be the best kid but I’d they behave disgusting that’s what it is .

    • @romansunflower
      @romansunflower Před 10 měsíci +4

      And the fact that he described to his adoptive parents how he was going to kill them and what he will tell police exactly 😳

    • @aykakatibli7249
      @aykakatibli7249 Před 6 měsíci

      @@superdupersnowflakekids can be be bad people, wdym? They can be psychos. It’s hereditary.

  • @mesholberatsonallibi
    @mesholberatsonallibi Před 2 lety +16

    I go to a therapeutic behavioral school it’s so hard and it’s so scary being in empty rooms and being restrained it’s so sad😭

    • @ElsebelseElsbeth
      @ElsebelseElsbeth Před 2 lety

      Would you say, it still helps or is it just adding to the trauma?

  • @sasharemez7459
    @sasharemez7459 Před 3 měsíci +1

    These kids need love to heal them!
    I feel for them and I hope they find healing at some point in their life

  • @erin9110
    @erin9110 Před 2 lety +8

    What an amazing school. I'll have to see if there's something like this near where I live

  • @jillyanebeckman723
    @jillyanebeckman723 Před rokem +11

    I wish more nurses and psychologist would just work like this in regular schools especially in the USA it would be so incredible or each child involved

  • @aleishamartell3041
    @aleishamartell3041 Před 3 měsíci +1

    I was one of these kids, now I run multiple businesses! I wouldn't have made it if not for teachers like these that understand some kids just need "more"!

  • @bricunningham9441
    @bricunningham9441 Před rokem +4

    When people say that family structure, and the way parents treat the child during early years as well as to the teen years don’t affect you in adult life…. The child’s brain is developing and when you add trauma, the brain won’t develop “normally”. I love how the head teacher said that there are no bad kids.

  • @daddysangeljetta
    @daddysangeljetta Před 8 měsíci +1

    Way to go Danni conquering your fear and kicking butt on that exam is super awesome pretty girl

  • @isabellawilson3948
    @isabellawilson3948 Před 3 měsíci

    being misunderstood is so lonely. these kids are acting out because they’re pleading for someone to notice how they feel. having trauma at such a young age will forever change you. kids are resilient and when they figure out that it doesn’t have to be that way, it can be scary.

  • @katerinawasileva6316
    @katerinawasileva6316 Před rokem

    Love and respect

  • @heatherbowlan1961
    @heatherbowlan1961 Před rokem +6

    God Bless these children . Just like the one teacher said “I don’t believe in bad kids” she’s so right , the parents mess up these great children , and this school is helping , parents just don’t know how to love and protect , and they never learned it from there parents , it’s getting higher in rates because it’s just being passed down the generations of these certain groups of parents all over the world , and the children are suffering from the lack of good parenting , is so sad ,also getting worse .

    • @MrsYolandicook
      @MrsYolandicook Před 7 měsíci

      It’s not always both parents or even the parents… sometimes in these situations a single parent has to work multiple jobs to provide for a kid… some of these kids also have mental health struggles that are outside of the parents control. The parents are always to blame and the kids are not to blame either.

  • @lindasmolsson
    @lindasmolsson Před rokem +10

    I feel sorry for the little dog 😞

  • @kaylakain6039
    @kaylakain6039 Před 2 lety +26

    I have autism and had behavioral problems as well people would often say don’t use your behavior as excuse just yesterday a lady bullied me calling me a bully and saying other stuff over time I was mock and bullied because my mind thinks different I suffered form anxiety depression and anger issues because I was bullied so badly over several past years I still get bullied which is really annoying

    • @candifloss
      @candifloss Před 2 lety

      don't listen to them they don't understand what autism is like.

    • @tomsbeingtheleo
      @tomsbeingtheleo Před 2 lety +2

      Truly sorry to hear that, it's unfortunately almost the same as my experience! Luckily I'm at the end of my final year of highschool but the marks of stuff that's happened to me still remains, especially one instance...
      Stay strong, we'll get through that; take care 💙🐈‍⬛

  • @kittyfunland851
    @kittyfunland851 Před 2 lety +3

    I wish every child could have a second chance at life from a place like this. Poor broken hearts and scared souls, just utterly shatter me 💔 You can just see that hurt in then.

  • @user-by5hq1ow1k
    @user-by5hq1ow1k Před rokem +5

    I cannot express how amazing these people are. I really wish that we had more of this in the USA. The UK is working with children at risk with such compassion, understanding and the resources which we somehow cannot manage here because of Capitalism. If only we had a "people first" model here, we would be better off as a society.

  • @selenagrinage5631
    @selenagrinage5631 Před 2 lety +36

    “Hurt kids Hurt kids!!!”👀🥺👀🥺
    It all boils down to being NEGLECTED and feeling ABANDONED and feeling ALONE with receiving little 2 no attention
    😞☹️Such bright kids it’s so sad to watch😕😞☹️😩🥺
    Thee adults in these kids lives SEVERELY FAILED THEM🤬👎🏾🤬
    I just want 2 grab each child up and squeeze them so tight not letting go THEYVE NEVER I’m sure have ever had or experienced that feeling of stability and Love🥺☹️😩🥺🥺🥺

  • @armchairwrestler
    @armchairwrestler Před 2 měsíci

    Josh is a wonderful and bright boy. I hope everything turns out well for him.

  • @annaclarke7643
    @annaclarke7643 Před 3 měsíci +2

    These children when they look back to this time in their lives, will realise just how lucky they are. Resources like this do not occur very often and these teachers are beyond wonderful.

    • @JamesBrown-gv1vg
      @JamesBrown-gv1vg Před 3 měsíci

      I'm pretty sure these poor kids will grow up with serious trust issues as the parents/guardians & school that were supposed to help them with their problems just let a camera crew follow them around while they were having episodes & there "saintly" adopted parents told the whole world horrific personal stories about their mental health issues so that for the rest of their lives they'll be known as the "psycho" kids by their communities. there's nothing lucky about being exploited during you're childhood so that the adults in your life can get some clout. gross videos like these outta be banned.😠

  • @KitKatB83
    @KitKatB83 Před 3 měsíci

    I've been working with a handful of kids on this same road. Just subbing for an aide, but these kids are seriously amazing and I really enjoy them.

  • @robbodeeo1621
    @robbodeeo1621 Před rokem +6

    It would be absolutely horrible not to have a choice for who a fostered one gets put with. That in itself can make all the difference.

  • @drenamurphy9193
    @drenamurphy9193 Před 6 měsíci +4

    Sorry to say this but Josh’s future isn’t looking too bright. This kid has no empathy he knows he can manipulate people and he is quite proud of that fact.

  • @melissalove2463
    @melissalove2463 Před 2 lety +12

    I don’t want to sound negative but unless something drastic changes all I see for Luke is jail in his future ! 😢 poor josh is actually quite scary to see at such a young age how he knows how to manipulate people into what ever he wants & unless he realises that’s not the right way to go about things I worry for his future also !

  • @ButterfliesAreNinjas
    @ButterfliesAreNinjas Před 2 lety +5

    Our mental health system in the US isn’t equipped to even deal with anyone under the age of 21 for mental health issues especially ones who self harm and have other diagnoses. They fail to focus on the self harming aspect and more on the others like depression, anxiety, etc and tend to not address the self harm which IMO is more important and needs addressing first as that triggers the others as I’m speaking from having two of my own as well as taking in numerous other kids whose parents kicked them out due to self harming.

  • @heatherbowlan1961
    @heatherbowlan1961 Před rokem +2

    These children if not helped the way these brilliant teachers ,councillors , help and care for ,these children would be terrible people in society , with out saying the worlds ,you can figure out what or how they would be ,with out the awesome trading ,teachings ,counciling they all get from these brilliant teachers who should be acknowledged big time for all they do ,God Bless them all !

  • @jackrusselpupper1979
    @jackrusselpupper1979 Před 2 lety +10

    The psychiatrist estimation is correct about the importance of child’s first six years of development. These children are made by the people who should NOT have had children!
    I think that there should be some sort of counseling before becoming parents, learn how to manage a baby and the importance of those developmental, the foundation, years!
    I’m sure many are drug

  • @TroyRubert
    @TroyRubert Před 2 měsíci

    I survived two programs in the US and Costa Rica 20 years ago. It kills most of us surviors to know kids are still stuck and suffering in these places. No one is coming to save them if we dont.

  • @yesimemoin0935
    @yesimemoin0935 Před rokem +3

    25:15 in a mainstream school, he'd never be allowed to negotiate the behavioral norms for the term with a teacher; either you follow the class rules or they put you out. The therapeutic school puts such a big emphasis on managing the kids' need for control but the set-up gives them way more autonomy than what other children get.

  • @marienkablack6737
    @marienkablack6737 Před 2 lety +8

    Josh was very lucky to get his gay dads. They are doing a fantastic job for the boys.

  • @davidhale3450
    @davidhale3450 Před 2 lety +5

    When I was a kid I was in a place like this kids like these usually don't know or understand how to express thier selfs or handle thier emotions alot of times this starts with parenting and their home environment alot of times they are mocked looked down on they don't need to be ignored or thrown away somewhere they are normal and special in their own ways and alot of times need love special care and attention unlike so called normal kids define normal most kids and adults have mental or behavior issuses

  • @stephaniedavis7370
    @stephaniedavis7370 Před 2 lety +3

    I like that lil dude “well why do you think I’m here?”

  • @legster983
    @legster983 Před 2 lety +4

    My god I’ve never felt such weird emotions watching this , I didn’t know whether to be sad, happy , angry, agitated?! I’m really confused and my anxiety is really bad !!

    • @pinlight97
      @pinlight97 Před 2 lety

      Perhaps all of the above is understandable. Were there specific bits that you could relate to or particularly empathize with?

  • @kaylakain6039
    @kaylakain6039 Před 2 lety +3

    I want to spread awareness about mental illness and bullying and autism no one deserves to be bullied just because they do it but it still happens and people get very angry because of it people can be very rude online now and often name call others so sad I don’t know how many adults and kids bully now in schools but happens very often even though we try and stop it it still hasn’t worked

  • @SilentEchoes91
    @SilentEchoes91 Před 2 lety +2

    I'm addicted to this show now lol

  • @snorkle5041
    @snorkle5041 Před 6 měsíci +1

    What wonderful teachers and families for these kids 😊

  • @dhhallstrom7933
    @dhhallstrom7933 Před 2 měsíci

    I wonder when away from caregivers and therapists, what will he choose?
    He has gotten through school years with constant intervention but teenage and adult years seem so vulnerable. It will take a miracle won't it..

  • @mrcoffee5909
    @mrcoffee5909 Před 2 lety +13

    I've noticed the shoes the children are wearing are a bit scruffy. Maybe an activity could be to wipe shoes and keep them brushed off and polished a bit and placed neatly in their place could be maintained. Thus giving the child a sense 'learned responsibility' .. And pride. Just an idea.. I am retired nursery school teacher trained in the 1930's book of childcare. You all are doing a very good job with those children. You really are. ✨💚✨

  • @Littlemouse884
    @Littlemouse884 Před 2 lety +20

    I worry for the dog Hetty 😣

    • @yugihoe4111
      @yugihoe4111 Před 2 lety +6

      Im sure that poor pup has some trauma from that. Its a cycle..

    • @Littlemouse884
      @Littlemouse884 Před 2 lety +11

      I just hope the cruelty towards her didn't continue if so the dog needs to be taken out of that environment ASAP !

    • @gabrielleandrew542
      @gabrielleandrew542 Před rokem +4

      Not fair to have a dog at all
      Call RSPCA

    • @Littlemouse884
      @Littlemouse884 Před rokem +1

      @@gabrielleandrew542 I agree no animal should be put in an unsafe situation when the owners know it's being abused its SO not ok ! 😡

  • @sandrazimmerman917
    @sandrazimmerman917 Před rokem +2

    I've been so concerned about the kid with his face taped in the into of all these videos, it's so funny to see he put it there himself and is just fine!

  • @Rodmic-hd9pn
    @Rodmic-hd9pn Před rokem

    We need more of these schools in the US

  • @_pudu661
    @_pudu661 Před 2 lety +1

    The educators did pretty well in their calm and manner of communicating, altho nothing is perfect, these kids take a lot of work on the people there. I think a change in environment would help and opening them to very different experiences of life

  • @renro4435
    @renro4435 Před rokem +6

    I felt so much pain for them and at the same time powerless cause i wouldnt be able to do that extraordinary job they do there.
    Amazing pair of parents that Josh has... two angels that went for it despide everything! If u would be given the options, would you choose them?

  • @taylorm1997
    @taylorm1997 Před 3 měsíci +1

    I went to school with some kids like this. They had the audacity to put psycho children into a school with a bunch of other”normal” kids, which is extremely dangerous.

  • @alexisbutler5650
    @alexisbutler5650 Před 3 měsíci

    I was extremely violent from ages 3-8. Unknown to my family at the time I am autistic. I had (and still have) issues understanding my emotions and regulating them. This plus sensory issues led to me lashing out through violence. I was never intentionally hurting others but I would throw things, scream, destroy things, and be over all very hostile. I was put in cbt therapy, which didn’t work and was moved to occupational therapy. We found that when I would lash out I needed pressure to regulate and get myself under control, now I rarely lash out (only at my parents).

  • @catloverKD
    @catloverKD Před rokem +4

    I love the armchair professionals in the comments who think they know what these kids need.

  • @_pudu661
    @_pudu661 Před 2 lety +6

    i think it would do him well to not think about himself so much. Give him a break from all the criticism and correction of his behaviour, its stressful and frustrating when you cant handle ur emotions well and process ur feelings and communicate. That lady was spot on about identity and comfort in familiair behaviours, he needs new experiences to see himself in a new light. thats my two cents

  • @ekasmar1991
    @ekasmar1991 Před 2 měsíci +2

    Rehome the dog please, for her safety

  • @MegaSophiesmom
    @MegaSophiesmom Před 3 měsíci +1

    The staff is so patient and caring, that means the world to those children. They will always remember the staff