Hi thank you for this video because I am at a point where I was thinking why i don't because a few weeks ago i had a high drive then all of a sudden it just went and I was so confused because i couldn't last long in the bedroom. Your video helped put my mind at ease
My sex drive was gone for a whole month and I feel like I completely pushed my partner away. We had alot of stress and fights which did not help the situation either....I lover her with all my heart, I just don't want her to think that I don't want her. I want to fix this problem in general. I am tired of feeling rhia, and I have no outlet or research otherwise. This is as close as I can get.
I stopped lasting long and am going at 1 turn, max 2 it's been going on for 3 weeks it all started after a fight i too don't wanna lose her i feel like i found the person i wanna settle with, prematurely.
I asked my Urologist and he checked my testosterone and said it was to the high side of normal. So I said to him, it must be something that comes with age. In a way, it's kind of a relief.
Since I was 13 I watch porn, at 21 I became conscious and I was leaving it although with a lot of relapse, but I think I am also addicted to technology, the few days that I manage to disconnect and do physical activity such as going for a run I have noticed a slight increase in libido, but it is still very low, I am 28
Also, he says that when we experience low sex drive that we should lean into the anxiety and accept uncertainty about our sexual orientation......well then how do we even know if it's OCD. Shouldn't we then just start making out with people of the same sex....? Come out to our parents immediately???? The very fact that HOCD sufferers (including myself) think and constantly check arousal levels, etc.. and are constantly thinking if we are or aren't homosexual, confirms that we have OCD. That's not enough to stop it though, but we know what it is. A doctor has to know this, a physician has to know this in order to treat it appropriately. ERP is not administered to closeted homosexuals. Do you get my point? You have to first accept that this is OCD. Then proceed with ERP honestly. All psychologists have said that this behaviour is OCD. Gay people who first have thoughts of other men are confused because they don't have/ didn't have information on what it is to be gay; due to all sorts of reasons such as growing up in a catholic/ conservative community where there are no gay people/ no gay bars. Or being isolated from people with same interests. An actual Homosexual doesn't check and re-check. THAT'S A BIG POINT! A Homosexual does not keep checking arousal levels with people of the other sex. HOCD is distinguished with how it starts. It occurs with panic (severe) and a lot of anxiety. When a gay person has homosexual feelings, panic does not happen - even if they're in denial. What does happen is immediate anger. But not panic. They might hate themselves for this, but they don't panic. BIG DIFFERENCE!
That's the point homie. Choosing uncertainty! Everything you've just written is textbook opposite of how to treat this condition. Don't take it from me. Watch the videos I've posted with two therapists that have been in the field a combined 60 years and literally nearly every other OCD expert on the planet. Plenty of folks who are genuinely confused about their sexual orientation and also have high levels of intolerance of uncertainty and anxiety will spend obsessive amounts of time trying to figure it out. Please don't provide reassurance on my vids. I don't want to be the guy deleting comments but for the sake of the community I will.
@@ocdmindful618 This isn't reassurance sir. Some basic facts need to be established. I said in my post above this is not for treating OCD. I know this won't work. I'm going through this myself, I know it doesn't work. You're helping HOCD patients; I respect that. But you have to first admit you have OCD. Regardless of your sexuality........... I'm all for ERP. Practicing it myself every day. If you think my posts have no merit to them, delete them. This is your channel and I'm not holding a grudge against anyone.
@@chinmay6249 if you're obsessing and doing compulsions you have OCD. End of story. Good therapists all agree that you get in trouble when you use it's just OCD and therefore not a real threat which is exactly what you're doing here. Your post was rife w reassurance! Saying gay people don't do xyz. This is why the internet is a blessing and a curse. Half the content is geared towards doing treatment correctly and the other half is people living in reassurance world not listening to the advice of most experts and all the research that's been conducted.
Hello sir I am 28 years old and i am suffering from some serious problem of low sex drive. I have read so many sex story and watched porn from 2014 to 2023. And my brain is totally fucked up. Now i don't feel anything in sex with female partner 😢 No feelings in sex Can i get sex drive back😢 What can I do for that Please reply ?😢😢
Hey mate! Hope you doing good. Sir, I had ocd since I was young but I never k know it was ocd and it kept coming and going the contimination one..but suddenly I was hit with hocd and its where I found out obout ocd and you I then did some exposurez and it vanished completely but now it feels like it has came back i can see it gettinh stronger infront of me I dont wven get i trusive thoughts now I just get some evidences or there is something I cant figure out which is making me anxious. I've lost girl attraction again. I did accept all the thoughts and feelings but now I feel like I've worsened the situation I dont feel guilty aur gross while thinking of sex with a guy and that makes me anxious. Please I wamt to get out of it and even thinking this simethi g says in my mind that I dont actually want it. Whay should I do???
Maybe a lot of this is true for some people, I'm at a point what's the use I mean honestly once you get to your sixtys how do you perform like your a 25 or 30 year old man again you can't and no matter how much you try and please a woman who might be 15 or 2o years younger then you and she is a real nympho then you are not going to please her for ling if at all and she will eventually m9ve on and replace you with a younger man who can and will provide her with the hard driving sex she desires
I had a lot of stress and i was addicted to porn and masturbation. Nowadays I'm taking antidepressants and now i lost entire sex drive. I last time I had a little success. I had an erection but without ejaculation. Maybe I'll be able to get a full experience.
Hi Brian. Could you do a video on same sex attractions (if you went through that) and how to stop spiralling out of control when they occur. Any tips or advise on how to just get on with your day?
Accept that Maybe the attractions are real and that you might be gay and you’re not going to try to figure it out. Don’t ritualise as it will only make it worse.
@@gamebred2094 Yeah, I do try and do that but as you know (if you're going through the same) my brain just goes onto auto pilot "what does it mean etc?" then the depression follows after that and I can't seem to just "accept" it. I suppose it just takes time and more exposures...
@@igallagher4 You can't accept it because accepting is not a thing you actively do. If you try, you are already in a compulsion. Its just moving on and not paying attention anymore even if it feels crappy that there is something unsolved there. Theres a good video of Mark Freeman about that (e.g. accepting the existence of an apple), check it out maybe
@@RetrosenescentPlease let us keep the comment section civil and respectful . i understand your frustration but feel free to share your thoughts from your perspective about this matter. Egodystonic values , emotions , behaviors is a serious condition.
Good video. What's your recommendations for someone that's had HOCD but, had experimented in their youty sexually but, decades later has no interest in men but, the memories lead to the anxiety and HOCD.....??
Hi thank you for this video because I am at a point where I was thinking why i don't because a few weeks ago i had a high drive then all of a sudden it just went and I was so confused because i couldn't last long in the bedroom. Your video helped put my mind at ease
HOCD, TOCD and POCD all at once, cheers brain👍🏽
My sex drive was gone for a whole month and I feel like I completely pushed my partner away. We had alot of stress and fights which did not help the situation either....I lover her with all my heart, I just don't want her to think that I don't want her. I want to fix this problem in general. I am tired of feeling rhia, and I have no outlet or research otherwise. This is as close as I can get.
How are you now
Low testosterone
I stopped lasting long and am going at 1 turn, max 2 it's been going on for 3 weeks it all started after a fight i too don't wanna lose her i feel like i found the person i wanna settle with, prematurely.
I haven't experienced it for 5 years 😔
@@x.kasiouris5503same
I asked my Urologist and he checked my testosterone and said it was to the high side of normal. So I said to him, it must be something that comes with age. In a way, it's kind of a relief.
Since I was 13 I watch porn, at 21 I became conscious and I was leaving it although with a lot of relapse, but I think I am also addicted to technology, the few days that I manage to disconnect and do physical activity such as going for a run I have noticed a slight increase in libido, but it is still very low, I am 28
But should I give up dating then and wait till it comes back? How the hell am I supposed to date without a sex drive?
Such a good video !
Porn addiction happened
Want do you mean?
@@stijn6271 Porn addiction destroys Libido over time.
@@stijn6271he had a porn addiction and that took his libido away since that’s one of the many bad things that porn does when u get addicted to it
Also, he says that when we experience low sex drive that we should lean into the anxiety and accept uncertainty about our sexual orientation......well then how do we even know if it's OCD. Shouldn't we then just start making out with people of the same sex....? Come out to our parents immediately????
The very fact that HOCD sufferers (including myself) think and constantly check arousal levels, etc.. and are constantly thinking if we are or aren't homosexual, confirms that we have OCD. That's not enough to stop it though, but we know what it is. A doctor has to know this, a physician has to know this in order to treat it appropriately. ERP is not administered to closeted homosexuals.
Do you get my point? You have to first accept that this is OCD. Then proceed with ERP honestly. All psychologists have said that this behaviour is OCD. Gay people who first have thoughts of other men are confused because they don't have/ didn't have information on what it is to be gay; due to all sorts of reasons such as growing up in a catholic/ conservative community where there are no gay people/ no gay bars. Or being isolated from people with same interests. An actual Homosexual doesn't check and re-check. THAT'S A BIG POINT!
A Homosexual does not keep checking arousal levels with people of the other sex.
HOCD is distinguished with how it starts. It occurs with panic (severe) and a lot of anxiety. When a gay person has homosexual feelings, panic does not happen - even if they're in denial. What does happen is immediate anger. But not panic. They might hate themselves for this, but they don't panic. BIG DIFFERENCE!
That is just plain reassurance man. You won't get anywhere by reassuring yourself.
That's the point homie. Choosing uncertainty! Everything you've just written is textbook opposite of how to treat this condition. Don't take it from me. Watch the videos I've posted with two therapists that have been in the field a combined 60 years and literally nearly every other OCD expert on the planet. Plenty of folks who are genuinely confused about their sexual orientation and also have high levels of intolerance of uncertainty and anxiety will spend obsessive amounts of time trying to figure it out. Please don't provide reassurance on my vids. I don't want to be the guy deleting comments but for the sake of the community I will.
@@ocdmindful618 This isn't reassurance sir. Some basic facts need to be established. I said in my post above this is not for treating OCD. I know this won't work. I'm going through this myself, I know it doesn't work. You're helping HOCD patients; I respect that. But you have to first admit you have OCD. Regardless of your sexuality...........
I'm all for ERP. Practicing it myself every day.
If you think my posts have no merit to them, delete them. This is your channel and I'm not holding a grudge against anyone.
@@chinmay6249 if you're obsessing and doing compulsions you have OCD. End of story. Good therapists all agree that you get in trouble when you use it's just OCD and therefore not a real threat which is exactly what you're doing here. Your post was rife w reassurance! Saying gay people don't do xyz. This is why the internet is a blessing and a curse. Half the content is geared towards doing treatment correctly and the other half is people living in reassurance world not listening to the advice of most experts and all the research that's been conducted.
@@ocdmindful618
I've said everything I wanted to sir.
Best,
Chinmay
Hello sir
I am 28 years old and i am suffering from some serious problem of low sex drive.
I have read so many sex story and watched porn from 2014 to 2023. And my brain is totally fucked up.
Now i don't feel anything in sex with female partner 😢
No feelings in sex
Can i get sex drive back😢
What can I do for that
Please reply ?😢😢
same
Thank you for this video. How long does this take
How did I get here? I have the want.. im just shifting with a softy😂😂😂😂😢😢😢😢😢😢
Hey mate! Hope you doing good. Sir, I had ocd since I was young but I never k know it was ocd and it kept coming and going the contimination one..but suddenly I was hit with hocd and its where I found out obout ocd and you I then did some exposurez and it vanished completely but now it feels like it has came back i can see it gettinh stronger infront of me I dont wven get i trusive thoughts now I just get some evidences or there is something I cant figure out which is making me anxious. I've lost girl attraction again.
I did accept all the thoughts and feelings but now I feel like I've worsened the situation I dont feel guilty aur gross while thinking of sex with a guy and that makes me anxious. Please I wamt to get out of it and even thinking this simethi g says in my mind that I dont actually want it.
Whay should I do???
I read article where they say being gay is not a choice. After that my hocd started,
What do you mean by ‘ritual’?
Is it really possible to find out you are gay even if you have HOCD?
Maybe a lot of this is true for some people, I'm at a point what's the use I mean honestly once you get to your sixtys how do you perform like your a 25 or 30 year old man again you can't and no matter how much you try and please a woman who might be 15 or 2o years younger then you and she is a real nympho then you are not going to please her for ling if at all and she will eventually m9ve on and replace you with a younger man who can and will provide her with the hard driving sex she desires
That's just a reality of aging. That's not what this channel is about however
I had a lot of stress and i was addicted to porn and masturbation. Nowadays I'm taking antidepressants and now i lost entire sex drive. I last time I had a little success. I had an erection but without ejaculation. Maybe I'll be able to get a full experience.
About if I’m already gay and this happened
Hi Brian. Could you do a video on same sex attractions (if you went through that) and how to stop spiralling out of control when they occur. Any tips or advise on how to just get on with your day?
Accept that Maybe the attractions are real and that you might be gay and you’re not going to try to figure it out.
Don’t ritualise as it will only make it worse.
@@gamebred2094 Yeah, I do try and do that but as you know (if you're going through the same) my brain just goes onto auto pilot "what does it mean etc?" then the depression follows after that and I can't seem to just "accept" it. I suppose it just takes time and more exposures...
@@igallagher4 You can't accept it because accepting is not a thing you actively do. If you try, you are already in a compulsion. Its just moving on and not paying attention anymore even if it feels crappy that there is something unsolved there. Theres a good video of Mark Freeman about that (e.g. accepting the existence of an apple), check it out maybe
@@vidnir5259 Makes sense. I suppose I haven't figured it out yet.
@@vidnir5259 Can I ask, are you recovering or still suffering?
Hocd can make your brain stop thinking about women??
Yaa same going with me.it also says you dont want girls but i want.Are u cured from hocd ?
@@Anonymous-cc9if yes sure
@Ridhay Ahujayes my id name is Manav madhpati
What is H.O.C.D?
Apparently homosexual ocd
Bigotry essentially. People who think homosexuality is a bad thing.
@@RetrosenescentYou’re the real bigot here, HOCD has nothing to do with being homophobic. Maybe do some research before you say stuff like that.
@@RetrosenescentPlease let us keep the comment section civil and respectful .
i understand your frustration but feel free to share your thoughts from your perspective about this matter.
Egodystonic values , emotions , behaviors is a serious condition.
Good video. What's your recommendations for someone that's had HOCD but, had experimented in their youty sexually but, decades later has no interest in men but, the memories lead to the anxiety and HOCD.....??
I've got so much dopamine from porn that I don't get a morning wood and that scares me.
Even slightly morning wood
Now it works
motivation I stopped until 2 weeks ago. Everything is alright.
motivation I stopped until 2 weeks ago. Everything is alright.
what you did to get rid of that?