How to Turn Shyness into Confidence

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  • čas přidán 15. 06. 2024
  • If you want to learn how to be more confident and stop being shy, this is for you! The motivation to become confident can be difficult to come by - especially when you’re used to being the awkward one. But you can turn shyness into confidence quickly if you know the simple steps… in this video :)
    Sources:
    Confident Ways to Overcome Shyness
    www.inc.com/lolly-daskal/13-c...
    Ways to Overcome Shyness and Social Anxiety
    psychcentral.com/blog/7-ways-...
    How to Overcome Shyness
    www.psychologytoday.com/us/bl...
    Psychologist Explains How to Beat Social Anxiety
    www.theverge.com/2018/3/21/17...
    4 Ways to Overcome Shyness
    www.psychologytoday.com/us/bl...
    How to Overcome Your Social Anxiety
    www.psychologytoday.com/us/bl...
    Building Confidence and Self Esteem
    www.psychologytoday.com/us/bl...
    Music: “Cute” and “Ukulele” from Bensound.com
    Thanks to Tristan Reed (writing), Troy W. Hudson (VO), HowlingCreations for helping to create this video!
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Komentáře • 107

  • @olivertambo6794
    @olivertambo6794 Před 4 lety +33

    1. Just start
    2. Never say you are shy
    3. Lower the bar, short sweet amd simple
    4. Look out to body language of others
    5. Casual ownership
    6. Get out of safety nets

  • @lovemessi2652
    @lovemessi2652 Před 4 lety +218

    How many introverts here?

  • @pyschologygeek
    @pyschologygeek Před 4 lety +28

    Attitude is a choice,Happiness is a choice,Kindness is a choice,Optimism is a choice,Respect is a choice,whatever tou choice you make makes you, choose wisely

    • @amyavraam8986
      @amyavraam8986 Před 4 lety +5

      I chose to be happy at school.. Anytime I was happy I was automatically bullied until I wasn't happy anymore

  • @lowxyy
    @lowxyy Před 4 lety +6

    wanna not feel shy? Look at the person that you want to be friends with but don’t look at him-her long, say in your head “I will go talk to my mom or sister or any person of your family” then just take a deep breathe and go straight to that person and smile and look at her-him face and say “hello I’m feeling a little bored so can we talk a little” AND DONT WORRY if that person looked at you in any reaction say in your head “what tf is the face they’re making it’s funny” and start talking about name and stuff ya like and that’s it, thank you if you’re reading this :)

  • @brianhoule3219
    @brianhoule3219 Před 4 lety +10

    I've been called out as shy and all I said was I try to be observant!

  • @bkroberts89
    @bkroberts89 Před 4 lety +18

    When your safety net is leaving any social situation.

  • @GXrevolution96
    @GXrevolution96 Před 4 lety +12

    For me, I am more on the introverted side of the spectrum. Normally, in group, I‘d just hang back and listen in on the conversation unless I have something to say or when the topic switches something I am interested in or have experience with. Sometimes I will sit there, stressing myself out, trying to think of something to say or any topic but it is extremely difficult. I also find this when I am in conversation with someone, I spend a lot of time thinking about what I can say next so the convo doesn’t die.
    I have tried forcing myself out of my comfort zone by going to social meets ups frequently but it doesn’t seem to help and I I struggle to socialise, particular in big groups of people. Small talk is just so mentally draining . I am so jealous of extroverts lol

    • @martinwalters8677
      @martinwalters8677 Před 4 lety

      Yeah I can relate to this a lot. Especially the part about being in a conversation with someone and thinking about what to say next. I mean it doesn't happens all the time. Some times the convo flows naturally, but if I have something on my mind or I'm stressed that's when I don't really talk much.

  • @Jouhzu
    @Jouhzu Před 4 lety +32

    I find that by pointing out awkward moments that they will appear less awkward and trick people into thinking I am less shy. If i don’t make sense, I titled the video “How to increase your Awkwardness tolerance”
    Hope it helps 😊

    • @jennyhighten3580
      @jennyhighten3580 Před 4 lety +1

      I do the same aha!

    • @ellaloise
      @ellaloise Před 4 lety +2

      I have seen the video. You are very good at what you do :)

  • @PracticalInspiration
    @PracticalInspiration Před 4 lety +10

    Great point on not identifying yourself as shy. Your self talk has a huge impact on you as an individual, so it's important not to let the negative self talk define

  • @amirf4779
    @amirf4779 Před 4 lety +7

    I've got some of those safety nets where I feel stable. Like It takes great pain for me to walk outdoor unless I've got something in my hand, a mobile phone, a notebook, a pen, sounds dumb ha? don't know how to fix it.
    This video really let me learn about myself and be more familiar with my habits and behaviour and their consequences. Thanks so much!

    • @Fildoggy
      @Fildoggy Před 4 lety

      ik its late but if u feel more comfortable with a pen in ur hand just have a pen in ur hand!

  • @firestorm7977
    @firestorm7977 Před 4 lety +4

    This has helped me understand more about how to deal with shyness. Thanks.

  • @tigerx36
    @tigerx36 Před 4 lety +2

    Still struggling with shyness but have gotten better. I don't say I'm shy, I just say that I get nervous. Short, sweet and simple? Got it. If someone calls me on it, I just tell them. I try to do what it takes to be outside my comfort zone.

  • @amethystessence
    @amethystessence Před 3 lety +1

    I have been through the journey of moving from reserved to bold and confident and I know a thing or two about overcoming shyness. First, it must be an intentional decision to avoid being shy and a willingness to work towards it. Initially, it might to uncomfortable but I have gone pass the reserved stage and at a point where I'm helping other people overcome shyness. Overcoming shyness and communicating confidently can take one places..

  • @michaeldelacruz1201
    @michaeldelacruz1201 Před 4 lety +64

    Just act like a drunk, problem solved.

    • @joereal9012
      @joereal9012 Před 4 lety +6

      Why act, have a drink

    • @carmenalcala6947
      @carmenalcala6947 Před 4 lety

      There are a few factors in treating shyness naturally. One place I found which succeeds in merging these is the Seans Shy Program (google it if you're interested) definately the best guide that I have ever heard of. look at the incredible info .

    • @maurisvasquez3866
      @maurisvasquez3866 Před 4 lety

      There are a few components to treating shyness at home. One place I found that successfully combines these is the Seans Shy Program (check it out on google) definately the most useful resource that I've heard of. Check out the incredible information .

  • @alexvon3873
    @alexvon3873 Před 4 lety +43

    I em talking to random stranger right now tho

  • @NBC1232014
    @NBC1232014 Před 4 lety

    Thanks for another insightful moment of peace in this time of ridiculousness and anxiety filling worry.
    Flash Frame: 2:29 & 3:30

  • @fereshteha8501
    @fereshteha8501 Před 4 lety +1

    Excellent,thanks

  • @drewescareyou963
    @drewescareyou963 Před 4 lety +4

    On step at a time we can kill our shyness sometimes.😅😅👌🙏 thank you Top coz we Thinkmore because of you👊😁

  • @WayneMac1992
    @WayneMac1992 Před 4 lety

    Thanks guys i love all your video's, i find them very helpful

  • @Mensmentalwealth911
    @Mensmentalwealth911 Před 4 lety +6

    Often, practice is the way to achieve any skill. Yes, sometimes a person needs to develop skills and knowledge (assertiveness, small talk, body language) but developing positive self-talk and even visualizing confidence can be very effective.

  • @indumathikr7774
    @indumathikr7774 Před 3 lety +3

    I tried to overcome my stage fear by grabbing each opportunity to go to the stage and speak up. But I can't overcome it completely and I still become nervous and I pause for long time or stamer sometimes when I am in stage or when the unexpected questions comes from someonene. But I don't give up speaking and try to make it up.

  • @loisaili
    @loisaili Před 4 lety +13

    I am shy but I don’t want to be shy. I just cant talk a lot when I am around a lot of people people

  • @youniqca1489
    @youniqca1489 Před 4 lety +1

    Love it~~ nice advice ha

  • @nelanelasupergirl
    @nelanelasupergirl Před 4 lety +1

    here's several tips to try
    Work out why you suffer from shyness - the first step to solving a problem is to understand why you have it.
    Be at ease about yourself - this makes it easier when you meet others.
    Challenge youself - you will gain confidence by doing things - especially by doing activities which stretch your limits.
    (I learned these and more ideas from sebs shyness tactic site )

  • @mohammadiqbaldawah
    @mohammadiqbaldawah Před 4 lety

    Thanks bro. Awesome

  • @00kidney
    @00kidney Před 4 lety

    Very nice tips!

  • @julesjaay822
    @julesjaay822 Před 4 lety +3

    I’ve learned how to ask questions and be interested in others, instead of being all inside my head. And to act relaxed so others will be relaxed. Good video!

    • @kornaxon3522
      @kornaxon3522 Před 4 lety

      How/from where did you learn that?

    • @julesjaay822
      @julesjaay822 Před 4 lety

      Kor Na Xon I learned by observing successfully sociable people in action. They are good at getting others to open up and talk about themselves. And they really listen and follow up with more questions. I practiced that skill. “Fake it till you make it” - It feels like acting at first, but gradually it becomes who you are.

  • @solveiglilli4379
    @solveiglilli4379 Před 3 lety +1

    for all of you guys who have social anxiety (including me): watch "The F**k-It List"
    I just watched it in german so idk if it's just as good or even better in english... whatever u always wanted to do but were afraid of bc people could judge in a negativ way... 'FUCK-IT', just do.. no matter what

  • @irenamartinovic1733
    @irenamartinovic1733 Před 2 lety

    The thing is I can initiate a conversation but mostly I pick introverted people like me and then there are awkward pauses and I physically get sick when they happen

  • @fangchloe2559
    @fangchloe2559 Před 4 lety

    I almost say out that I'm so nervous yesterday, but luckily, I only say it in my mind xD I didn't tell anyone that I'm freaking shaking at that moment

  • @supersaiyanjalil
    @supersaiyanjalil Před 4 lety +16

    I start college in January and I have a bit of social anxiety but I wanna make new friends and approach girls, anyone got any tips for making friends in college?

    • @josegallaga4502
      @josegallaga4502 Před 4 lety +1

      Galaxin Rax you are not the only one starting college I assume, so you don’t need to stress about making new friends. Remember that others are just as socially anxious as you might feel. Hope that helps.

    • @mattpolati9832
      @mattpolati9832 Před 4 lety

      Galaxin Rax remember you belong there just as much as anyone and just get involved in things

    • @rohaniyer7589
      @rohaniyer7589 Před 4 lety

      Simple! Carry around business cards with your name and number on them and write “Coffee?” in fancy handwriting. Then proceed to hand them out at parties instead of trying to start up a conversation. That should work.

    • @dotwat345
      @dotwat345 Před 4 lety

      Say hi

    • @anthonykaps9174
      @anthonykaps9174 Před 4 lety

      Hey mate, hit me up on @theboringkaps I'll give a free 60days action plan to build confidence, speak to strangers and get girls

  • @francescoalosi5388
    @francescoalosi5388 Před 4 lety +2

    Wow talking about me all the time

  • @28MUSE
    @28MUSE Před 4 lety +9

    Each one has an internal outrage... Some covered in shyness others ooze in Confidence. It's only a matter of tapping the internal sound

  • @knightace2002
    @knightace2002 Před 4 lety

    I get the cops called on me "people-watching". Makes me retreat even more.

  • @tiarajessy9491
    @tiarajessy9491 Před 4 lety

    stop telling people that you're a shy person....instead tell them that at the moment you are shy (and u wont feel bad about yourself ) ♡

  • @cloudyminami2623
    @cloudyminami2623 Před 3 lety +1

    I disagree about that when you tell people that you're shy or timid they not gonna notice, In fact my friend said that I was shy but I didn't even tell her that

  • @navaneethakrishnan4910

    Super

  • @edwindeleon1130
    @edwindeleon1130 Před 4 lety

    latte and cinnomon make me feel more confident

  • @sinyandanso9552
    @sinyandanso9552 Před 2 lety

    Good

  • @dvoraisdancing
    @dvoraisdancing Před 4 lety

    🌸

  • @qrcus
    @qrcus Před 4 lety +2

    What if I have social anxiety? I sometimes don't even go to school...

    • @VVS30187
      @VVS30187 Před 4 lety +1

      vXV_introvert with social anxiety_VXv haha it happens to me sometimes but I keep telling myself...fuck it. We all humans

  • @geanlucas6563
    @geanlucas6563 Před 4 lety

    So optmistic

  • @lovepeaceisneverguaranteed7385

    Yea i wish I had the courage to ask this one chick out but nah this sh*t is hard man😅

  • @edwindeleon1130
    @edwindeleon1130 Před 4 lety

    cinnomon good for deprssion nurse

  • @expastelline_sof2742
    @expastelline_sof2742 Před 4 lety

    am i the only one who is socially akward, nervous and wont talk to anyone unless they start the conversation. But when im pissed at someone i have so much confidence telling them to fuck off-
    only me?..

  • @iguessiamsometimes4911

    *I guess I am sometimes*

  • @shimmyon6979
    @shimmyon6979 Před 4 lety +1

    I'm a super confident get over me will you person..like if you want to be me.

  • @joppsday
    @joppsday Před 4 lety +3

    8
    INFINITUM
    Symbol of infinite energy. The eternal flow of energy, everything has a rhythm to it. You must give positive energy in order to receive it and vice versa! (karma) You must also make room for energy flow in order to set the CIRCUMSTANCE of receiving. Rid yourself of negative thoughts//ideas(which causes anxiety)
    In Islam 8 represents the infinite oceans of atoms// matter and operation from the soul. To operate from the soul is to subconsciously attract matter and receive what energy you give off, perfect the soul in order to do this effortlessly.

  • @toxicmale2264
    @toxicmale2264 Před 4 lety +3

    6:15 (Guy with red pants)
    Wow... Just ask her out already.

  • @brentfaiza1597
    @brentfaiza1597 Před 3 lety +1

    Turning a short introvert guy to a alpha Short guy

  • @nsp74
    @nsp74 Před 6 měsíci

    הסרטון הזה עוזר מאוד

  • @edwindeleon1130
    @edwindeleon1130 Před 4 lety

    coffe good for first date yale study

  • @user-nq2zg2jo8y
    @user-nq2zg2jo8y Před 4 měsíci

    .West=42.5 Inch

  • @SANJUFVRoffl
    @SANJUFVRoffl Před 4 lety +1

    Be like pump

  • @alexvon3873
    @alexvon3873 Před 4 lety +1

    Hi

  • @sofiacalanez628
    @sofiacalanez628 Před 3 lety

    I have spent months researching reducing shyness naturally and discovered a great resource at Seans Shy Program (google it if you are interested)

  • @osse1n
    @osse1n Před 4 lety +8

    *Shyness is lack of belief in the self* so to get rid of it, one has to improve the self-esteem.
    Iron like self-esteem will open the doors you never thought existed.

  • @alexanderpadalka5708
    @alexanderpadalka5708 Před 4 lety

    🗽

  • @edwindeleon1130
    @edwindeleon1130 Před 4 lety +1

    people you drink coffee seem more agreable Tony Robbins

  • @brownpunk1794
    @brownpunk1794 Před 4 lety

    Hi .pls hear me out..im an alien and want to hook up with a human western woman..what should i do?

  • @amyavraam8986
    @amyavraam8986 Před 4 lety +2

    My safety net is being invisible

  • @za1pp
    @za1pp Před 4 lety

    *The Answer is Money*

  • @tenminutetokyo2643
    @tenminutetokyo2643 Před 4 lety +1

    Introverts make the big bucks. Losers party.

  • @vieve111903
    @vieve111903 Před 4 lety

    This guy does a lot of narrating for many different videos and profiles

  • @adel1234534
    @adel1234534 Před 4 lety +1

    I wish someone would translate in Arabic.

  • @katherinemarsh7429
    @katherinemarsh7429 Před 4 lety +1

    I'm not afraid of talking to people - I didn't ask your "point." You don't communicate well.

  • @dougiedoug9990
    @dougiedoug9990 Před 4 lety +1

    Why did you put that black man looking at that white woman in this thumbnail ?