Growing Up the Child of a Recovering Alcoholic - Hooked with TMO Fishing Podcast - Episode 4

In this episode I sit down with my daughter, Katie, to talk about what it was like to grow up with a father in recovery. We talk about her perspectives on my divorce from her mother, moving, and her own struggles with addiction and alcoholism. We also get to hear what it was like for her as I worked my way into the recreational fishing industry.
My name is Tim Moore. I am a professional fishing guide and outdoor promoter from New Hampshire, and a recovering alcoholic. This podcast will cover various topics with friends from across the country as we discuss topics ranging from fishing to recovery, and sometimes both.
Intro song: Backwoods used courtesy of the band Scissorfight.
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[@cygnals524]

This was excellent to come across. I am a Fly Fishing/Guitar Playing/ Non-drinking alcoholic who happens to also live in New Hampshire like you both do. I haven't been perfect but over 21 years I can count how many times I have drank alcohol on my 2 hands but it has been done to the best of my ability. My children were young when I went to rehab in 2002 at the age of 36. My daughter was 9 & my son was 6 so they were still young enough to have the remainder of their time growing up to not be the chaotic mess it had become the last few years I was using. I did manage to get a 5 year time period without alcohol at one time before this but I had not written out the step work the way I needed to. I switched over to N/A at pone point because I needed to get away from hearing war stories and just focus on doing step work and N/A gave me that framework in a better way. Both are excellent & I needed each one for different reasons at the time I was seriously involved with them. Both of my children also spent several years going to both AA & NA meetings and they really enjoyed it. It also helped when my daughter became a teenager because while my wife(they Mom) and I are still together married 39 years next month. My daughter had problems in areas I had no clue in how to help her but I was friends with a young lady in her early to mid 20s who took my daughter under her wing and helped her out with this issue.
@21:30 your daughter Katie mentions how even though she had gone to AA she was still surprised at how she became an alcoholic at such a young age even with the insight and knowledge you learned when you were young. My Dad was and is still an active alcoholic and drug user and spent my first 8-10 years of life locked up in jail, prison and psych wards before getting it together. He still did not quit drinking until I was 20 years old and I moved out when I was 17 when I moved out because growing up in a house with an active alcoholic is a chaotic disaster I couldn't deal with. My Mom, bless her soul stayed with him until she died through all of it but was miserable the last 15-20 years of her life. The reason I mention what you brought up @21:30 Katie is a point I figured out when I was young but did not understand how to verbalize it. I knew I was different in the way I drank and partied at a very young age, even when I was 10, 11, 12, etc... I knew I "partied" different than most regular people do. I basically knew I was an alcoholic right from the beginning once I had the insight to understand. When I was 20 years old I already was married and had a decent job making more money than most of my friends and worked tons of hours while trying to put bands together, etc... and one day my dad said he quit drinking because he was an alcoholic. I was completely blown away because I had never viewed him as being an alcoholic never mind myself yet. While he worked days my mom worked 3rd shift. Dad passed out on the couch with a bottle of whiskey on the coffee table every evening, spent the first almost 10 years of my life in and out of jail/prison and the police showing up at our extremely violent domestic abusive drunken home. How my mom never drank always boggled my mind. It took me a few years to work through the denial to see my dad actually was an alcoholic and that was how I was initially introduced to AA, etc... My dad was straight for basically 8-10 but NOT once did he do a line of step work and making amends was something other people talked about and did but not him. He also has Borderline Personality Disorder on top of everything. He got another domestic charge with drugs on him and spent the entire summer he turned 75 in the Merrimack County House of Corrections which was embarrassing because it was in the paper as well and it is also extremely sad he never got the recovery part of things. Both of you obviously have and it is a joy to have found your channel tonight. I was looking for a fishing channel locally here in NH and I came across your site. So, it is nice to meet both of you. My name is Eric, I am 57 and I live in Concord, NH Take Care & I look forward to watching the other videos you have posted. Thanks for sharing this side of yourself, not everyone can be as brave as you both are.

[@johnjuza2659]

Thanks for sharing Tim! Love your video's ! Hopefully this will help someone struggling with addiction.

[@ronmacdougall9612]

Keep it going strong

[@lynnda4104]

👍 Beautiful girls!

[@danielfenton8851]

Grammy, mummy,SISSY