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- čas přidán 2. 04. 2024
- here is why and HOW to break the cycle of attracting toxic people into your life. We attract what we tolerate and what feels "familiar." here is what to do about it that will change your life. Join the High Vibe Tribe: aarondoughty.com/highvibetribe
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What if the reason is because I’m the toxic one. Can you share more about that?
Thanks Aaron!!
Yessss me to !!!
Yes, that was me but now I surround myself with animals & nature. I'd rather be with animals anyway. 🌻🐈🐕🌳🌲🌴🌻🦋🐝🥰
I can totally relate!❤
This !
I to totaly relate to this. My dog and my horse never judge me! But it's a kind of get out of jail card because animals dont judge. So that's comfortable. But as humans we need to learn to be around humans with discernment.
Animals are wonderful ! My cat is my Love guru ♥
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FREEDOM IS THE COURAGE TO BE DISLIKED. Wow, love it ❤.
It’s so good….. I have always been so afraid of that….now I like it🌷
I'd rather be disliked than be everybody's prisoner, sooo yeahh I totally love it too..... 😊❤
Me too ✋️ ❤😅
Wow there must be something in the air. I’ve just walked away from my toxic narc best friend and our 30 year friendship I’ve been hanging on to because I was afraid to let go. Since I walked away I feel more alive, motivated and lighter. The drama followed her and I was exhausted after every contact from listening to her chaos. This 43 year old woman has been holding me down all my life. Finally I am free and have made space for new people on my frequency. 🙏🏼🦋💙
Just happened to me
I know I just let go of a friend too but maybe she also deserves someone who says no and does not put up with everything. In the long run people who never understand or tries to give anything are a bit exhausting. Still I feel guilty as if I ought to help her out but whatever I did , it did not help anyway so maybe people just outgrow each other 😢
That's great ! 👍🥳 I've heard similar things from in-person friends lately. And I've done it too 😊 sharing in that energy of freedom with you 🙏
It me 60 years to learn the lesson. Better late than never.
That’s what I say. I went to several years of counseling. And still it took me looking into narcissism because my daughter was dating one to realize that I myself was with one. I cried soo hard when I finally made that realization.
I'm in the same boat. 60 years old and no close friends anymore. I want healthy or nothing
Over 20years I was blind and now I see thank God , I'm so done with toxic behavior,
I love your message there. We don’t attract what we are, we attract what we need. So often we get stuck in accepting poor treatment, instead of realizing it’s teaching us something. We don’t deserve to be treated badly, we deserve to stand up for ourselves and our boundaries to feel safe and grow. Beautiful reminder Aaron, thank you so much.
I moved out at 17 to get away from my extremely controlling parents. Now I care for my 86 year old dad 24/7 who has dementia but also very negative energy. So I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place as I cannot leave until this “job” is complete.
@@angie7278 🫂
beautiful message/comment, i agree, we grow, in relationships if we are reflective and self aware
@@angie7278 what about this shows they were inflicting what their expectations were upon you? Releasing that aspect from your subconscious from the facts as they are, the reliance upon you is still emotionally tolling. All situations are temporary, I forget this when I’m trying to find a solution. I need to feel free from what is causing me to feel oppressed, or frustrated or imposed. I can definitely relate to the opposition of freedom and subconscious attachment. The more you listen to your thoughts, give them the value and space to be heard, the easier it is to let go of what is keeping them stuck in the creation of your circumstance. It almost frees them up to be like “whew I just needed to get that thought off my chest,” and then it feels better. Thinking less is a powerful idea, but we can’t just turn the thoughts off when they are ambushing us. We have to tap into the thoughts for intuitive guidance. Release what is from instinct in thought and tap into the intuitive thoughts. You recognize the pull back into the situation you instinctively ran from to survive. What does your intuition think about how to heal from it? Only you know.
Me in my hermit phase with currently no friends hoping to manifest my bestie while watching this 😍🥹
I have been letting go of people that I feel are weighing me down. I let it go. I am still letting go of people that are not evolved.
Don't let them go because they are not evolved. Let them go if they're not making an effort to evolve. Sometimes people need to see what it looks like when someone they know starts to evolve. I know it's easier said than done, but make sure you're not throwing away opportunities for growth. 🖖
Yes, let go, turn away, move on. Those who are ready, will follow :)
Awareness is crucial. I use this technique at work to cut the toxic BS. I purposefully walk away from negative talk mid conversation. It may be considered rude to them but to me, wasting minutes of my life to talk about your toxic issues is considered rude to me. My time is valuable so if you don't have anything constructive or positive to say, I will just leave! Their issues is not my problem, so why burden me with it. I'm not liked and I don't care! They don't pay my bills.
Over time you will find they'll stop talking to you. At work, I sit by myself for lunch on a different time slot from everyone else. My focus is to get through the working day and go home to the people I love the most - My children. Life is too short for all this nonsense! Silence is power, removing yourself from toxic surroundings is just as powerful. Protect your peace at all cost!
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very good talking
I am now saying no to the things I really don't want to do and yes to the things I do want to do!
Yes!!! Keep going :)
Be no-man in outer world be yes-man inner world
Yes I sit with people at lunch who hate our jobs, but do nothing to get out of it. I hate participating in those convos and try to keep to myself, but people always want my energy because it's positive or light.
There’s something strangely off about people like you who are so “positive” that you indirectly judge others who “kill your vibezzz.” Just something that’s not so positive about the so called “positive” person that you “are.”
I get out the building for lunch, I can't stand spending all day in that building + my lunch hour. J just finished 11 hours of work. Help.
Someone said either you evolve me or don't involve me.
That someone clearly uses people for his own personal gain then. Not the ideal mindset to be in.
@@Mr.Honest247 that interpretation seems off base. The saying means you either make me a better person or, if you make me a worse person, it’s best we don’t have any involvement.
@@misscritique8863I'd agree. I choose to spend time with curious people, who want to understand the world - 'evolving ' together 🙂🌍
Evolve WITH me sounds more appropriate.
Our lord Jesus did his ministry ,he wasn't liked by everyone. He continued to do what was right regardless of popular options and traditions
After watching your every video since 2.5 years, and following exactly the steps you share, I manifested being a math teacher now for 1 month. You do not know what you share here are so and so much powerful. Thanks a lot for sharing for free with us such vital high quality information!
Yay! Congratulations! 🎉❤️
@@KaraKahn Thanks a lot!
Could you help me please. I tried to join ,but cant get past the profile bs.
@@rebekahnorris7392 Which profile? Where are you trying join? Will you elaborate please! 💗
Did you “ manifest “ being a math teacher or did you just do the curriculum to sit for the required exam to become a math teacher… things that make you go hmmmm 🤔
Thank you for sharing this!! I’ve been in hermit mode for 3 years now. Learning to appreciate the journey more and let go of anything that no longer serving me. Thank you ❤
This could not of been uploaded at a more perfect time, thank you.
So on point ! Totally agree ! I’ve said no to two of my friends today whereas before I would do anything to be accepted ! Joined the high vibe tribe 🙌🏾💙
Funny how people disappear around you when you say no or when you stand up to them. 🙏
Courage: correct use of rage
That makes no sense because courage really doesn’t require rage. It’s simply acting despite the fear you’re feeling. Sounds just like someone tried to rip apart the letters of the word “courage” and make something “intelligent” about it.
i attract toxic people but won;t let them stay in my life. so once i figure out they are a mess i let them go from my life.
I really needed this right now..I've been in a relationship for 23 years with what I believe is a narcissist and also came to the realization that my mother is a narcissist also and I just want to get away. I don't want anyone to give me anything or do anything for me I'm just tired of them making me feel like I don't have a life without them in it. God please give me the strength I need to be on my own and provide for my children and myself without depending on someone else who is always going to manipulate me into believing I have nothing without them 🙏🙏 and just to be clear I know I have everything just having my children and trying to stay strong but ... well...as strong as I am I still have no money and still can't get away from the abuse...I don't want to fix a narcissist any longer I just want to fix myself but let me tell you the narcissist are not going to let you go that easy
I’m praying for you and sending you many blessings as I know how narcissists can be VERY controlling and love having power over people. May you receive all the blessings the easiest and fastest ways possible! I’m rooting for you. Don’t give them anymore supply (your emotions, reactions, explanations, attention or energy) Don’t tell them your plans. Matter of fact if you really want to break free from a narcissist, you gotta play dumb and boost their ego! I know it’s going to feel cringe and gross but girl you can’t let them have power over you anymore. You have to flip the script! Get a support group to create a plan for you to escape!
My story of last 21 years and I realised that’s it’s narc cycle with psycho abusive violent estranged husband whom I no longer want to fix… hear tried to unalive me several times, still forgave him… why can’t he just get married to someone from his harem and let go of me and my children… I pray for it everyday that I want him to leave me …. Totally isolated but he lives rent free in my head 24x7… feeding into my energy
I learn to be by myself 🎉 and I'm my best friend ❤. Leave lot of people behind and feels great... Life is short so... No more wasting time!
Yes, you are right about toxic elements from childhood coming through into your life for ever if you don't grasp that nettle! I had a miserable time growing up but I seemed to have some guidance or insight quite early on . Reading lots of self help books later on when there were things that didn't sit well, so I started taking note and joining groups to this effect, teaching myself to go 'visit my inner child' and to examine things internally and talk with myself. Of course you either grow thicker skin or thinner skin. You become empathic and know things that others don't get. Toxicity exists on the outer layers of humanity but recognising it is the key, you have to continue to, face fear and conquer it, hiding from it will not help. You can love people on a different level too. Good video.
I was born and raised in Vegas and worked at Nordstrom abused by a narcissist and am a empathic infj person also. I agree with you on what you said it feel familiar. Once I tried a small church joined the worship team. I found out two people were narcissistic and the rest were nondependent. They were all abused and were so used to that environment. I spoke out and called them out for manipulating hurting others and only cared about power and control. Of course the head pastor and wife they all were narcissistic and in a clique. I hate we have to be so careful and I can’t go to church because narcissists and psychopaths are always there.
Perhaps your church is in nature, instead of a building, like mine. 😊
Like maybe it was a message. Js ❤
They say the word narcissist is being widely over used these days 😅
Something that helped me as an empath was understanding that we live in a law of attraction based universe. So when you say I have to be careful of narcissists your putting yourself in more situations where you find narcissistic and try to be careful about them. Remember trying to protect yourself from something is manifesting more unsafe situations .
I realised a few years ago that I was a 'fixer' and attracting narcassists due to both my parents being the same way. I became very disliked once I stopped being everyone's psudeo therapist. To the point that I started to think that I was the narcassist because everyone started to either drop away or turn against me. I'm still coming out of it. It's such a hard process, especially if you were once a chronic people pleaser and loved by everyone to standing up for yourself and creating contrast everywhere you go! I'm not sure if I've perhaps swung too far the other way 😳
This was so good. I’m getting better at releasing emotionally unavailable people as they are familiar to my parents who are also emotionally unavailable. It hurts to let go but I know the version of me thats surrounded by emotionally available is most likely a BEAST at rejecting emotionally unavailable people because she’s too available and authentic about the way she feels for those type of people to feel comfortable to be around her.
Excellent video. Thank you, Aaron. There is so much truth in this for me. "Freedom is the ability to be disliked." I love it! So true. Im in transformation, leaving the toxic ones behind. So liberating! Bless you.❤
I was wondering where you’ve been lately and here you come with the exact video I need to hear. Many blessings to you Aaron. Love your content ✨☀️
IM BACK! :)
All the toxic people that were in my life have passed. Not my intention...it just happened. I'm alone now.
Oh my, this was so me before. I'm an empath and I have a narcissist parent. I have this co-dependency to fix people and after a series of things that happened to me, I started to set boundaries. Toxic people started to fall out of my life. Thanks Aaron for this video 🙏
My family members causes me pain I had to block them instead and been feeling alot better now ❤
Black Sheep are the Strongest 💎 Proud of You!
My grandmother had brought my awareness to this a while back. I chose to not take this message to heart at the time, thinking I was strong enough. My ego was too dense at the time. I'm humbled enough now to accept this.
Damn Aaron you have a lot of good letting go videos but I have to say this is by far the most divine one! You nailed everything going on in my life. Thankful for you all you do . Please keep shining ✨🤲🏽
You are the vibrational and success sum of the five people you spend your time with
The way you describe the energy dynamics, no one planet does, and that is why I only look for answers of energy dynamics in your channel only.
I cannot believe, every topic you are sharing in this video are the ones that I have been looking for so eagerly for the past 5 - 6 days. Feeling so relieved to watch this video!
Thanks very much brother.
Wow so true!! It's taking me so many years to learn this . I no longer want to fix anyone " it's not my task " !
Being aware is the knowledge with difficulty. Always learning some take longer but . Change is on the way.
Yes and learning from the mistake also try to move forward and be in the present , and I'm heading still and learning to love myself and take better care of myself too , 🙏 I'm just thankful that the Glory belongs to God Almighty , I was blind and now I see , decernment is life long wisdom, it talks about it in the Bible
I just figured out my mom is a Narcissists.
Welcome to the club
Yeah, I didn’t know my dad was one until this year. I’m 40
You’re probably one too and don’t know it. Everyone is a narcissist nowadays even if it’s misdiagnosed. Hell even your new born baby is a narcissist.
@@PsicoReligioso😂😂😂
My mother is Jezebel.
I love this guy he puts it down in the way I can understand and relate.
the fact that I was thinking this for the past few days and the universe sent me this video today🙏
Thank you Aaron incredible powerful message
Wow, Aaron very insightful! You are on a roll!☀️😎☀️
OH WOW! Thank you so much Aaron. I so needed to learn this ! I always blamed my self , and the truth is my father rejected me and was very abusive as I was born with a rare genetic disorder, also blamed my mother and her his abuse escalated. My sister is and was on a pedestal . I am also an empath. I realized I don't try to fix people. But bring them up like personal cheerleader. I didn't understand, why if they hated me so much ,not let me go. And I do need to set boundaries. And stand up out of victim mode, and hopefully establish some sort of self-esteem. Thank you so much Arron. You're the best! ❤
The toxic energy is: wanting to heal others. Letting go is telling yourself it’s not your task. Therefore you’ll meet more people like you who are confident and self assured. (Not a narc etc)
Thank you for sharing your enthusiasm and knowledge.
It's catching!
Love this!! Finally someone who understands and explains everything I’m thinking.
I really appreciate your growth since I've been watching your channel through the past several years. It's really nice to see.
Lol Aaron, will you be my twin flame? 😁 you cant blame them; the world needs a lot more healed masculine energy. 💚🦋
Thank you so much for this!!! I truly needed to hear this ❤ keep being the light Aaron!
I’ve truly enjoyed your evolution in seeing through these videos .
This was beautiful. Thank you ❤
My mom just wants me to have a job, but I prefer to be a singer/rapper so then I see a dream me on the job all just wanting to be who my mom wants me to be because I love my mom. But if I follow my mom wish who she wants me to be I could never be who I choose to be.
Same for me. I will go for a job to be able to move out so I don't have the constant pressure. I will focus on my dreams in my spare time when I finally get to live by myself. Saw someone similar needing to get a job to be able to pay for equipment and to leave, now he is following his dreams becoming quite successful with his singing.
22:40 - This is where I'm at solidly. The Hermit Phase of grounding myself, finding myself. Very much.
Thankfully I'm good with alone space, and that helps get me through.
But the Courage To Be Disliked part is very, very challenging. ♡ ♡ ♡
*I* like me. But others, from my recent community, and from my family, when I'm am truly authentic? Oof.
Aaron I so needed to hear this today, fantastic. I love your work.
If I attract toxic people, I must be doing something right. It is up to me to see that which will keep my soul safe. My defense is to live, in love, hope, and peace to save mankind and the world.
Needed this today 🙌
it does make a lot of sense actually. thanks! will apply this.
You are such a beautiful spiritual being, Aaron.
In my opinion, this is one of the best Video that you have been created.!! Thank you so much! It really shows my reality and my past! I'm trying to take conscience of my Life, and everything that is happening to me. Thanks🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
I literally have been thinking about this so much. I also just started reading the book Letting Go and it's resonating already. I love your book recommendations!
I have been so dissatisfied, drained by, annoyed, disappointed by so many of the friends I've had over my adult life. It's no wonder Ive distanced myself/cutoff from so many and find myself wondering how I end up here when I've done nothing but be a drama free, good friend. It's why so many want back in but I'm not interested. I figured out because of your videos, it validated what my intuition was telling me was that Ive never found people I've naturally vibed with. People who have different values, lifestyle, behaviour, beliefs, people who are insecure or fat when I am neither, these are the types that I felt dissonance with. It's always been me, a very sensitive empath, meeting people where they're at because I could tell they couldn't meet me where I'm at. It's such a lonely feeling. I've been in this lonely state since 2018 after a dark period, then that spiritual lightness, then a depressing, lonely period of not even wanting to let people in. I'm only now getting back to being open to allow new people in my life. But this time I will be A lot more conscious of peoples vibes, I'm more clear about who I want to exchange energy with, as Aaron talks about here, if you're super sensitive to energy, then you have to be super selective.
I've always just gotten in where I "fit in" but never felt like I belonged. Same feeling in my family. Parents are emotionally distant, I never get the kind of presence, and caring I so need. It's very triggering which is happening now. A lot of anger, sadness, feeling that not good enough for unconditional love feeling, etc. How do I release this??
Brother!
What a timing of your videos, I was so badly needing these info for the past few days! 💗💗💗
Thanks a lot and may Allah always keep you happy and abundant!
my family was often times held me back to doing me and being me. but recently, i just taken back my energy and dont give a shit about what they think about me or what they expect me to be. i am just being me, and living my own path. thanksss Aaron
Whats up bro. Good to see you man. Thanks for the video!
Aaron, Thank you for your video tonight. I really needed to hear it. 🥰
Thanks mate, well put.
Listening while im working, the visualizations are great lol ❤ hoping this can help me. Im a validation seeker and I really enjoy where this is going for me. Thank you.
Absolutely spot on this message! I don’t surround myself around negative people. I refuse to sit and listen to their bs whinging! My life is in a happy place. I surround myself with positive only! Thank you Aaron 🩷
Omg I needed this like I would rather try to fix someone else while I literally not work on myself, Thank you 💖😊
Thank you so much, Aaron!! I really appreciate all your CZcams videos!
Aaron your videos help and guide me to a much happier life, ty so much!
I've watched a lot of your content lately. A lot of what you say is very useful and wise, but this stands out in a way that nothing you've said before (that I've seen) does. This sums up so much of my life, and those of the women I've loved. My family. My current purpose, the path I've been walking since I moved cities to get sober.
Thank you Aaron.
It's also fitting that about two months ago, in the pit of self-destruction and co-dependency before I left that life behind, I started writing a song
Chorus:
"Living outside ourselves
Push it all farther, past the frame
Looking inside ourselves
But not really liking what we see
Talk about a whole lot of nothing
Doing even less with the means to be
Never going to wake tomorrow when
All of our dreams burn here again, today"
I didn't know about "the frame", I was thinking about it from a perspective of looking at a painting and not seeing the content, distracted by anything other than the painting in front of us (self-indulgence etc). How little did I know, how fitting this would be in the coming months. I was writing from a position of pain (it's a grunge/90s vibe song) and now I'm walking a better path to not be that character anymore
Awesome..love this...great video
love this thanks Aaron! Just joined the community
Thanks for all the advice and awesome videos, Aaron
Thank you so much, I really needed this. I always attract the worst supervisors.
Perfect timing for me. Thanks!
Your a beautiful soul,Thank you for the inspiration! I will have to read this book letting go ❤
Hey Aaron, this resonated alot, thank you! ❤
This is so powerful thank you !❤
Aaron you are such an inspiration. Thank you for this clear guidance, and in so many of your videos. I always find answers for what I am dealing within your videos. it’s so obvious that you put your heart & soul into this. Thank you from my heart 😊
Perfect!!!Lovely energy🌹🌹
So true! Some good among 8 billion people are waiting for me now❣️
Right on with this video, thank you!!
WOW! Thank you Aaron. I so resonate with this video! P.S. I actually just realized that you are definitely my twin flame!! LOL
I atract stalkers. I can't bear it anymore. When I'm free of one, comes another. That's the worst experience someone can have and I'm pretty sure it's not my fault, because it happened even in the streets, without saying a word to begin the problem
Currently reading Mark Wolynn's book - It didn't start with you...
Grateful for the lessons this reality presents and people, such as yourself, working towards healthy solutions.
Your video really speaks to my soul...Thanks Aaron 🙏🍀
Definitely need this right now!
A much needed video just what I need right now
Sh1t…I’ve been feeling this way for the last few months! This video came at the perfect time ❤
You are amazing. Ty for sharing your wisdom
Hi Aaron, I joined your 21 day challenge to try and break attracting narcissists and toxic managers. As a child I would try and prove my sense of worthiness by getting good grades, working hard, being creative, defending my dad from criticism
Not only fear of leaving old toxic love fear of not having new and worthy of new good friends
that and money
It is, yesss,Super sharing from CR,thanksss!!good morning,really so great freedom energy mode,❤😅
Haven't watched you in ages, and this popped up. Hope all is well bud 🙏
legend! thank you ❤
Lol the book changed perspective with the cam as his face 😂 this editor is creative! 😅
Being aware of your behavior is one thing, but it goes deeper than that. Understanding attachment theory. Know which one you are dominantly in and understand the opposite attachment you attract. Once you understand that. Then you need to do the hard work and do inner child mediation to go back to the core wounds while also including breath work. Be gentle on yourself because it will take time. We been programmed since child birth in an environment that wasn’t so healthy. It’s baked into our subconscious so we must be aware of what type of attachment we have then use those tools I mentioned to work on it daily to rewire those subconscious ways.
Keep posting I love learning new things every time you post 🎉 DOING GODS WORK FR
(breeze in wind JJ,i love this,Congrats!!😮❤)