finally I have been roasted thoroughly. here's to every recovering people pleaser who's successfully said no a handful of times and is now slowly beginning to boil over with years of suppressed rage.
@@stilianifakidaraki3724 People pleasers go out of their way to try to include everyone, which is well intended, but poorly received by people who do not want to take part. People pleasers can often be overbearing and too committed to trying to pry shy people out of their shells, cheer up depressed people, etc. If your daily life is miserable and someone at work keeps bugging you with small talk that you don't want to engage in and telling you to smile more or something like that, you will not like that person even though they mean well.
protip: it's a lot more effective to be a people pleaser if you create the illusion that you do have a mind of your own, by doing things like choosing a different movie or scented candle flavor as your favorite, or occasionally disagreeing with certain viewpoints. that way it feels more genuine and legitimate rather than just being friends with an AI program.
as a people-pleaser, i entirely agree! no, i mean actually actually agree: in my personal experience, disagreeing with people on the most surface-level of things has done nothing but train me better in the social theatre of 'safe' disagreements it has made my conflict avoidance easier to practice and more covert, as i can always disagree on the little things and people can form a cartoon-like image of me, based on what colours i wear or my favourite scented candle flavour, with all other aspects being assumed to be similar to their own what i hate more than being a people-pleaser is the advice people give me to get out of it 'ooh you don't have to please everyone all the time' 'pick strawberry even if the other picks chocolate' this will surely make me stop feeling like i need acceptance from strangers
I still struggle with the people pleasing personality type and he's spot on. It stems from growing up with controlling types that you just want affection from.
@@meditationsfortheanxiousmindmate what a performance, you absolutely barbecued that poor sod, i bet their great great grandparents are laughing so hard at the utter foolishness of their future reincarnation right now
As a lifelong People Pleaser, i was truly enjoying getting a jab ...that is until the bloke's complaint on name spelling! Had to go back to beginning and reduce speed to catch the name flash -- so my fav host is NOT a Ppl Plsr as not even least unapologetic that on this side of pond "y" generally masculine and "ie" fem (Something like Pol-ski and Rus-sky, I guess?)
this video hurt my feelings a little bit but it’s totally fine like seriously whatever, i’m glad you were able to present the message you wanted to!!! lmk if you ever need anything like at all :)
@@dahshnee i think you just have to learn to listen deeply to yourself. Take plenty of time in nature, meditate, and just figure out what you like doing. It's a process but it's very rewarding ...i wish you the best!
This video tickled and delighted me in equal measure, especially your trademark head down, low speed sprint away from the camera at the end - does that make you a people pleaser Frankie?
Please can you do one on people who wear pool slides in public? With particular focus on branded pool slides - eg Balenziaga. Keep up the good and hilarious work!
Culture gonna get observed fr
Fr on god no cap based
@@meditationsfortheanxiousmind📠🚫🧢
It's giving cultural observations and he ate.
Braindead comment
finally I have been roasted thoroughly.
here's to every recovering people pleaser who's successfully said no a handful of times and is now slowly beginning to boil over with years of suppressed rage.
😅😅😅
No way! That's been my experience too.
I had the rage pretty bad in 2023, I think it's died down though thankfully. Cheers!
here we go boys. BOILING WITH JUST RAGE
The boiling... it's so hot 😭
On behalf of the people pleasing community, we are sorry
same
me too
I'm sorry you finally did one about me I hope it wasn't too much trouble haha you did really well man haha thanks haha
No way! That's been my experience too.
People pleasers are hated by people who don't like themselves.
That's a great observation
I don’t understand! Can someone explain why??
@@stilianifakidaraki3724 People pleasers go out of their way to try to include everyone, which is well intended, but poorly received by people who do not want to take part. People pleasers can often be overbearing and too committed to trying to pry shy people out of their shells, cheer up depressed people, etc. If your daily life is miserable and someone at work keeps bugging you with small talk that you don't want to engage in and telling you to smile more or something like that, you will not like that person even though they mean well.
protip: it's a lot more effective to be a people pleaser if you create the illusion that you do have a mind of your own, by doing things like choosing a different movie or scented candle flavor as your favorite, or occasionally disagreeing with certain viewpoints. that way it feels more genuine and legitimate rather than just being friends with an AI program.
as a people-pleaser, i entirely agree!
no, i mean actually actually agree:
in my personal experience, disagreeing with people on the most surface-level of things has done nothing but train me better in the social theatre of 'safe' disagreements
it has made my conflict avoidance easier to practice and more covert, as i can always disagree on the little things and people can form a cartoon-like image of me, based on what colours i wear or my favourite scented candle flavour, with all other aspects being assumed to be similar to their own
what i hate more than being a people-pleaser is the advice people give me to get out of it
'ooh you don't have to please everyone all the time'
'pick strawberry even if the other picks chocolate'
this will surely make me stop feeling like i need acceptance from strangers
Guys being a people pleaser isn't a good thing..
As a people pleaser I can say, I agree with whatever it is he said, or ever will say.
“People pleasers please people for their own personal profit” Say that 3 times fast.
almost perfect alliteration lol
Master manipulators
People pleasers please people to propagate personal profit
I still struggle with the people pleasing personality type and he's spot on. It stems from growing up with controlling types that you just want affection from.
Actually laughed out loud at "through your pleasure, they pleasure themselves"
That was the first lol moment, but definitely not the last!
As an old time people pleaser I can confirm everything you said is true!
Is that what you really think, or just what you think he wants to hear?
@@jesuispretentieux cough...possibly what he wants to hear as long as it pleases him.. cough
Be my friend. Give me the pleasure of having a friend. XD
This man cannot decide on an aspect ratio.
That’s a very good cultural observation.
He just isn't a people pleaser.
Yes, and that's the beauty of it. My personal favourite is this 1:1 ratio. It's just so... square, you know?
charlie day says 4:3 was better
I think there needs to be a "cultural observations on franky's jackets" meta special
I agree but also i spell my name at the start of every video why do people still get it wrong , should be an observation on wilful dyslexia
hahahahah omg@@meditationsfortheanxiousmind
@@meditationsfortheanxiousmindmate what a performance, you absolutely barbecued that poor sod, i bet their great great grandparents are laughing so hard at the utter foolishness of their future reincarnation right now
@@I.I.I....IoI....I.I.I jeez ur such a ppl pleaser, huh?
As a lifelong People Pleaser, i was truly enjoying getting a jab
...that is until the bloke's complaint on name spelling!
Had to go back to beginning and reduce speed to catch the name flash -- so my fav host is NOT a Ppl Plsr as not even least unapologetic that on this side of pond "y" generally masculine and "ie" fem
(Something like Pol-ski and Rus-sky, I guess?)
Sometime Frankie’s joking psychobabble has a superficially accurate ring to it
joking? this is a documentary
Frankie don't joke....
The suppressed rage is realllll
same
The transitions are so smooth here, good job!
this video hurt my feelings a little bit but it’s totally fine like seriously whatever, i’m glad you were able to present the message you wanted to!!! lmk if you ever need anything like at all :)
transforming my urge to people please into living a life guided by virtue helped me...on the road to recovery:)
What are some tips that you'd give to a people pleaser trying to break out of it?
@@dahshnee i think you just have to learn to listen deeply to yourself. Take plenty of time in nature, meditate, and just figure out what you like doing. It's a process but it's very rewarding ...i wish you the best!
people pleasers please people for their own personal profit
great alliteration. love a bit of alliteration. its almost a tongue twister too
As a hand held leaf blower, I take solace in my loud air being used for a job well done.
As a millennial, I cried
I feel like the people that can't hold in their laughter should get punished.
This video tickled and delighted me in equal measure, especially your trademark head down, low speed sprint away from the camera at the end - does that make you a people pleaser Frankie?
As someone who used to be a people pleaser, I can say this is accurate.
How did you quit being one?
@@adoskg7391 by quitting pleasuring others maybe lol
@@adoskg7391People can handle a 'no'
@@adoskg7391 I said no to people. Instead of constantly agreeing with them to be on their good side, I was honest.
I smell poopy kaka
Feeling real fucking called out here
Getting people pleasers to stand in the video being the easiest thing ever done is so real 😂
amazing analysis, one of my fave ones so far :D
It's nice to know the Kool-Aid man was able to find a job that he can put his unique skills to use at. OHHHH YEAH!
I'm glad he didn't meet a people pleaser in an elevator
Actually a good description.
I have an avoidant attachment style, thank you very much
Ok you can stop attacking me now. The stoner and introvert ones were enough
this one’s important
You rock buddy!
Genius insight & commentary! 👏👏👏😂😅😆
We need observations of people who don't like people
Funny you should mention that, because I am gonna do one on people who are “just being honest”
It’s written already
@@meditationsfortheanxiousmind 👍
Keep the observation, Frankie! You're doing society a favour.
I observed those drippy kicks! Level up.
Can’t think of what you’d want to hear quick enough
People pleasers chosen superpower is invisibility
Please can you do one on people who wear pool slides in public? With particular focus on branded pool slides - eg Balenziaga. Keep up the good and hilarious work!
No smoking within 7.5 meters of this building, very exact
Video idea: People with perfect pitch 😂
Look at mah boy discovering codeswitching
Wild ending man ^^'
This fuckin guy needs to be cast in a Scorsese movie.
psa: people from rhode island would be a goldmine for frankie's anxious meditations. as well as people who wear ughs for shoes.
... 🤔 Ugh or Ugg? ✌🏼
@@Texaca same difference. intentionally said "ughs" to emphasize disapproval, lmao.
2:22 I like her outfit
same
That hurt.
I feel personally attacked ahaha ❤
cultural observations: homebodies
cultural observations: gamers
Yes gamers
same
Frankkkkkieee
Those pink shoes are sick
My people pleasing side is a result of CPTSD and parentification though 😅
Hopefully I can recover from being a people pleaser. I've gotten abit better, though I feel like I unconsciously do people pleaser things.
Best observation to date , or am I just saying that to Please You?
You're welcome
Honestly, you crack me up lad.
i feel seen 🎉❤
People pleasers are like perfectionists.
Every second person claims to be one, almost no one really is and in any case they're all annoying!
very astute observation I agree
same 😅
Well I feel seen :D
1:27❤❤
👀 just observing 👀
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Woah look at those sick creps
I feel attacked...
2:42 that was seemingly close
literally me
0:27 cute guy with the skateboard 😍
Is the exit inspired by Napoleon Dynamite?
Im a geese goose
Oh shit, so that’s what’s wrong with me
Shit u got me fucked up
I like yr shoes....
Im still lost as to what a people pleaser is
I NEED to stop pleasing people!!... if that's alright with everyone?
Hahahahahahahaaaaa
That part starting at 1:44 is a bit too accurate...
Please do one on BJJ guys/girls?
i am first person to watch this video!
no
what a people pleaser you are.
thank you so much 🙏🏻
@@Muskatnuss1701 yes, i am
@@boo_ yes
Where my Enneagram 9s at?
do one on linux users
#MeTooEd
People pleasers and psychopaths are one and the same
Why are you wearing pink? Are you keeping your sister's request?
Obama loves me this I know. For the affordable healthcare act tells me so.
can confirm as a people pleaser i am a selfish person
it’s usually a case of covert narc
No way! That's been my experience too.
@@epicfreakshow I don't think people pleasers are manipulative, I think they're afraid of being alone
@@zekun4741 👀
Same
Autism maskers where you at
Librans basically lol
who???
1:07 ah yes so irish
Frankie needs to strengthen his legs. Every time he runs away at the end he looks so awkward.