I've had 2 miscarriages. The hardest part about it, for me, is the invisibility of the pain. If you break your arm, when you go through your day, people can see that you are clearly injured. The checker at the store will be able to see you need a little help. Your co-workers will automatically jump in with difficult tasks. People will ask what happened and if you need help. No one expects you to act normal. To act like nothing happened. With miscarriage, you suffer immense pain and grief. And you are forced to go about your day as if nothing happened. No one can see any injury. No one sees at the grocery store that you are in so much pain, it takes everything to pay and get out of the store without crying. Friends and family ask normal everyday questions like “what are you wearing for brunch” when brunch is the last thing you want to do. Women go through the everyday tasks without so much as skipping a beat, all while hiding this invisible trauma that no one can see. It’s a superhuman task to expect of us.
All of this 100 percent! The theme of this TexTalk conference was “invisible realities” which is why I chose this topic. So everything you said is so spot on for me, too! I’m so so sorry for your loss. Hugs !!!!
Mommy J i can understand ur pain. The invisible pain that m going through after losing my first born after 8 days of his birth. Since he was born in 6th month, he was in incubator and i didnt get chance to embrace him when he was alive. M finding it very difficult to act normal. The vaccum is killing me.
It's almost been a year since I lost my baby boy. Lost him at 33 weeks. Named him Ever. Still breaks my heart, but he will always be my first baby boy. I've been very depressed more lately and I just found out I'm 10 weeks pregnant. Makes me so emotional. Every Dr appointment I go to makes me cry and I hate it. But I'm mostly scared for my baby. Needing prayers please 💕 and bless all you mommies!
Victoria Spharler I’m so sorry for the loss of sweet Ever. Pregnancies after loss can be very scary and difficult but what you are feeling is normal! There are support groups that can help too. As hard as it is, try to enjoy this pregnancy at any small moment you can. Fear won’t change the outcome- it only takes away your joy now. Hugs to you and tons of prayers going your way! Please keep me posted!
Same here.. i lost my baby boy a year ago on December14, 2018. At 28 weeks..still depressed. I hope you had a healthy pregnancy later and delivered a rainbow baby 😊
I know exactly the fear you're going through. Hugs to you. I was so terrified to let myself bond with my daughter (my rainbow baby) while I was pregnant. I was so scared of something going wrong. I hope you had a healthy baby.
Especially if you didn't even try to begin with..I even took a Plan B. I thought well it must be meant to be then! To have it taken away is heart wrenching..it gets easier to deal with but the triggers and getting stuck in the though patterns of self blame and guilt is hard to release.. hang in there ♥️
Yes, it’s become so normalized for people to dismiss the baby loss as “just a fluke”. This was a whole person inside of me. If I get pregnant again the child would never replace my little girl I lost.
Had a miscarriage today. It hurts so much. Im 20 years old and was 6 weeks pregnant up until today. I will pray for anyone who lost their baby ❤️ and I pray for every pregnant women to have a healthy pregnancy & delivery
Just lost my first baby at 7 weeks. And you are right, we talk about other deaths but feel shameful about miscarriages. It's one of the worst feelings I've ever felt.
I’m sorry for your loss, I lost mine at 7 weeks also, it was hard. I instantly loved my baby so much even with all the doubts of being ready to be a mother and with being tight with money not knowing how me and my partner were gonna do it I still was so excited to bring life into this world and then having that feeling ripped away like it was nothing. Before I could even comprehend what had happened. I found out at 5 weeks I was pregnant and with only 1.5-2 weeks of having that feeling of knowing I I felt like I didn’t even have time to enjoy it 😓
@@lilfloosh1001 Hello dear🌟, if you have been trying to conceive or you're likely having miscarriage all the times. I can recommend you to Dr Chris🌀 an extra ordinary man who does extra ordinary things, I strongly believe he can help you too..
@@dayastarfire110 I lost my baby girl at 19 weeks April 20th. I prayed to God and ask him for a baby girl last year September and thought my prayers was answered only to be left with empty arms and a heavy heart. I pray that you find peace, I’m still trying.
The odds of miscarriage for most women is actually fairly low. There is a much higher chance of miscarriage once a woman has had one miscarriage. At the moment of conception you are technically 2 weeks pregnant. By the time you show positive you are 3-4 weeks pregnant. The odds of miscarriage at week 7 are below 5%. So there is that small window of 3-7 weeks (1 month) where you have a high chance of miscarriage but also this is the time when your average person who has never been pregnant or with someone who was will think "eh you weren't really pregnant". The speaker in this video had miscarriages where the odds were well under 1% on average, repeatedly. That definitely is tragic and I'm sure the response she got from her loved ones is different than the woman who had a miscarriage at 3 weeks before many would even figure out if they were pregnant. Her 25% statistic includes these extreme early miscarriages which much of society barely counts as pregnancies unfortunately.
Hello dear🌟, if you have been trying to conceive or you're likely having miscarriage all the times. I can recommend you to Dr Chris🌀 an extra ordinary man who does extra ordinary things, I strongly believe he can help you too..
My husband and I have had 3 miscarriages and 2 stillbirths, over the last 8 years of our marriage. To say I am hurt and devastated is an understatement. I feel hopeless. Thank you for this, really needed this. I know that one day we will be blessed with children❤
"You can always have another", "Something must have been wrong"... these words are killing me. My parents refuse to let me grieve openly. My husband wanted to live like nothing had happened too. My son was actually born alive! But he lived only one day. And it was less than a month ago! I know, that something really was wrong because he had an anasarka. But it didn't make my grief any less.
Oh I am so so sorry for the loss of your son. Maybe you can send your parents/husband this talk to help them understand? I think people are well-meaning and just want to make it better but they are very misguided. So many hugs your way.
I am going through the same. My son was born at 24weeks last month and he lived only for 8 days. It’s really hard to believe the fact that I am mother who don’t have a child. I miss my Son and eagerly waiting for him to come back
It’s terrible that they expected you to just move on within a month of your loss! I’m trying to walk the line between talking and holding back my feelings because even my husband doesn’t fully understand what I’m going through. If people aren’t sure of what to say, then don’t say anything.
OMG! I'm exactly going through same phase what ever you said here. My husband and my parents think I'm exaggerating and my husband gets irritated with me when I feel depressed. My family says you can always have another baby. Loss of one child can't be replaced with another child when will the world understand.
I've had about five miscarriages. No kids yet. I just had I think my fifth giant mental breakdown last night. I don't know..this grief hits different. It really does. And you can't escape it constantly being bombarded by seeing other people's children and pregnancies. It's destroying my marriage and mentally I'm cracking. As hard as I try to not be jealous, it just doesn't work that way.
I know this is an old comment, but I felt every bit of it. My husband and I have been together for 6 years, and throughout those years, 6 miscarriages. No living children. We pursued fertility testing years ago, abandoned that course, and are now giving it one last shot. "Unexplained recurrent loss" is my status. It sucks. It's incredibly painful. And on top of that, hubby's best friend just helped to deliver his second little one last week, which has uncontrollably opened old wounds regardless of how happy we are for them. I hope that you are ok. I hope that you have found some kind of peace or perhaps a purpose that fills the void that the loss has left in your heart. Be well.
I am sorry for your loss. I know the pain of losing a child as well. I recommend this book ,"Lessons from a Place of Pain" on Amazon. It's a great read and I know it can give you a extra dose of strength.
@@DrFrankenbuns I am sorry for your loss. I know the pain of losing a child as well. I recommend this book ,"Lessons from a Place of Pain" on Amazon. It's a great read and I know it can give you a extra dose of strength.
@@sylviaombati7057 Hello dear🌟, if you have been trying to conceive or you're likely having miscarriage all the times. I can recommend you to Dr Chris🌀 an extra ordinary man who does extra ordinary things, I strongly believe he can help you too..
It’s true we prepare to grieve in silence in order to not make other people uncomfortable...but also to avoid people’s strange reactions to your loss, so awkward.
@@leeleel.674 Hello dear🌟, if you have been trying to conceive or you're likely having miscarriage all the times. I can recommend you to Dr Chris🌀 an extra ordinary man who does extra ordinary things, I strongly believe he can help you too..
I just lost my baby girl almost 4 weeks ago. I was 22 weeks and 5 days when I went into preterm labor. Honestly I feel like I don’t know what to do. I try to keep busy. I try to talk to people. But I keep hearing the same “you’re so young, you have plenty of time to have lots more children”. Or “it just wasn’t the right time”. But for me, being pregnant was perfect. Every aspect of it. A child is a blessing. No matter what stage of life you are at. Her name was Avianna Rose. She had lots of hair and looked just like her father. And every single day I think about her. And it hasn’t gotten any easier yet. I’m not sure if it ever will.
People often day that wrong thing, trying to give hope or peace. You are grieving, and it's important you don't stuff that down. Reading, talking (therapy or close friend or family)... reach out.
I lost my my first baby in 2009. I had every one of those phrases said to me. They don't help at all. There is NOTHING you can say to make us feel better. If a woman you know lost a baby, give her a hug. Let her cry on your shoulder and just be there for her. Listen to her when she needs a sounding board for her anger and sorrow. That's all we need.
@@georgeliving6872 It’s definitely different for the fathers. My husband is sad but it’s not the same kind of sadness I feel. Our baby was inside of me and I felt her, connected to her in a way he couldn’t. So when she passed, I literally lost a part of myself. That’s why words don’t help. They don’t even scratch the surface of this kind of pain. 💔
My wife and I have had two miscarriages in the last six months. Thank you for this. We're still hoping and praying for the day we get to meet our first child
I just lost my baby yesterday at 7 weeks. I was told that the probability for miscarriage was high. Yet the reality hit me hard. I feel sad,angry and shame. I wasn’t ready for the intensity of the emotions.
everyone around me is having a baby. I'm happy for them but I feel deeply saddened by my loss. I lost mine at 5 weeks. It happened last year but I still cry about it every now and then. everyone said to me "try again", "it happens more often than you think", "better lose it early than later on", "wait until you're married". Only 1 cousin said get help & talk about it. reading through the comments really helps. sending you strength & love moms and dads.
just lost my little baby boy at 21.5 weeks... he was born alive, fully formed. He was beautiful. He reached out to me and held my hand. he was trying to take a breath but couldn't breath. watching my son die in front of my very eyes with 4 doctors just sitting there staring at me saying "theres nothing they can do" was awful. I felt absolutely powerless. I was SCREAMING for somebody to do something. Was in the hospital for a full 7 days prior with severe bleeding. had to have 8 blood transfusions and nearly died. Fiance had left me for someone else the month prior, so I had to go through this alone. Its only been a month. Picked up his ashes today at the funeral house and nearly lost it. Im scared ill never be happy again. And the man I love doest want me anymore, so I have to grieve the loss of the both of them at the same time. Im scared I'm never gonna be happy again :/ terrified ill never see my son in the next life. Im not religious, so the thought of never interacting with his soul again is unbelivevly heartbreaking. I don't know where to go from here. No one understands
I am sorry for your loss. I know the pain of losing a child as well. I recommend this book ,"Lessons from a Place of Pain" on Amazon. It's a great read and I know it can give you a extra dose of strength.
Same… the emergency doctor was truly sympathetic for me too. He shared that he and his wife were never able to have a successful pregnancy…. Somehow it was helpful to have them understand the pain instead of just medicalising it
I lost my child at 7 weeks… I had already figured out what my announcement would look like as I imagined revealing our little presence to the rest of the world. And then the rug was suddenly whipped from beneath my feet. A future I had begun to visualize was suddenly erased before I could even wrap my head around what was happening. And a family of four slipped through my fingers. We've been trying for 2 years already. We've started for another baby when our daughter was 5. There were tests, drugs, shots, unsuccessful insemination…There were two failed IVF cycles, and along the way, one miscarriage. The social media algorithms became absolute torture. Only a few mnths prior, I was clicking through a zillion ads and articles daydreaming about the tiny person growing in my belly... Now they're nothing but a constant and incredibly painful reminder of what could have been... And this is so unbearably hard. Your body heals slowly. Your head even slower... And your heart may never heal completely.
I am sorry for your loss. I know the pain of losing a child as well. I recommend this book ,"Lessons from a Place of Pain" on Amazon. It's a great read and I know it can give you a extra dose of strength.
@@corinatralala2556 I am sorry for your loss. I know the pain of losing a child as well. I recommend this book ,"Lessons from a Place of Pain" on Amazon. It's a great read and I know it can give you a extra dose of strength.
@@mags7283 God is right there in the storm with you. I pray for your strength and healing in God. There is a testimony of God's healing power in this book I recommend on Amazon, "Lessons From a Place of Pain: An Account of God's Healing Power and Restoration After a Great Loss".
Feeling very isolated and unsupported ; throwing yourself back into work - that EXACTLY what I did ! The feeling of coming into the hospital pregnant & leaving without your child is just an experience I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. My son, the first boy to be born into my family since my grandmother was giving birth, pasted away full term , fully developed. 2 years later - I am still lost and confused because I don’t think I allowed myself to mourn and grieve correctly. I miss my son so much I pray God gives him back to me but I’m terrified of pregnancy now. 😢😢😢
Thank you for sharing your experience. We lost many through natural pregnancy and IVF. To me, never any difference between a 6 week loss or a 12 week loss. People who have not lost a baby are so fortunate. Sorry for your loss. As a man and a husband, I hope you know it also affects us badly.
Thank you for sharing Patrick. I just lost my baby at 6 weeks and as a man I am having a really hard time expressing how devastated I feel to those around me. I feel like fate robbed me of getting to know my child and even if I have another I won't get to hold the one I lost.
Thank you for sharing your story 💙 I'm sorry for your losses..I lost my baby at 10 weeks to a missed miscarriage .I had to get a D and C. My body thought I was 14 weeks. the pain doesn't stop and all the grief is real..I know sharing my story with others has helped me tremendously and probably vice versa. I am grateful for the short amount of time I had with my baby.
I just lost my first at 7 weeks and it has been really hard. I felt like everything was going ok and that my partner and I were getting through it but after a month of distracting ourselves we have both realized that maybe we aren’t ok and need to get some extra help. Thanks for your video and for all of you in the comments sharing your stories it helps to know we aren’t alone. ❤
This is so important. My wife and I lost ours a month ago. And although I appreciated all the support, I to was shocked at how many people in my life had losses and never told anyone.
This is sooo true. I had 2 second trimester miscarriages, and when I shared my story I was so shocked by the number of people who came forward with similar stories. It’s not easy, but that’s why I think it’s so important to share our stories 💛☀️
Appreciate this talk so very much. Remembering my 7 babies gone too soon. Baby Wichita 1999, Baby Augusta 2002, Ean Rigel 13w2d born 13w6d on October 30, 2017, Riley Ember 8w4d born 12w on April 14, 2018, Baby Wynn 3w6d December 12, 2019, Baby Zita 4w5d January 18, 2020, Willow Rayne 8w2d born 10w6d September 19, 2020.
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This woman is so amazingly strong! I don't know how she did this excellent talk without pausing or crying. Thank you so much. You are helping me to deal with my loss I'm actively going through.
'It wasn't meant to be' and 'your body wasn't ready' is something that was said to me when I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks in December 2021. Little did they know that was my 5th miscarriage. I had 4 miscarriages over the space of 4 years. I had a successful pregnancy and gave birth to mt gorgeous little boy in February 2021. I found out I was pregnant again in the September and I was absolutely over the moon. I was frightened to transition from one baby to 2 and have 2 babies under the age of 2 but I was so ready. I had already planned out our lives for the next 5 years. I was so ready to give my son a little baby brother or sister. When the process of the miscarriage started my heart just broke into a million pieces. This miscarriage hurt so much more than the previous 4 because I had finally got to experience the end result when having my son. I finally knew all the love I was losing. All the memories i would never get. And people thought it was appropriate to say things like 'you can just focus on logan now' (logan is my 1 year old son) and things like 'it would of been really hard for you to have 2 babies so close in age, this was for the best' Its only been 4 months today since my miscarriage. I would of been 7 months pregnant right now and that absolutely kills me every single day. I pray every month that I miss a period or that I wake up and it was just a bad dream. That loss has sent me into such a horrible depression. Its changed me completely. Im not happy anymore I struggle to make it through the day sometimes without crying. People say 'logan should be enough to forget about it' or 'you can't be depressed youve got logan to think of' but what they cant seem to understand is that... everytime I look at my son all I see is what his little brother or sister should of looked like. All I think about is how we should of already known the gender and have decorated a nursery for him/her by now. I should have a big pregnant belly by now but I dont. And I'm not okay about it. I can't just move on from what I've lost. I love my son to pieces and hes the only reason I get out of bed in the morning hes the only reason I survive each day. People who haven't experienced a pregnancy loss should never try and give advice if its just going to be a back handed piece of advice.
Thank you for validating my experience. I lost my baby at 5 weeks and struggled between telling people and keeping it to myself. I also heard all of the 'do not say these things' list but for those I opened up to and supported me, it meant so much. I feel like I do not need to keep it a secret or push it out my mind after watching this.
1 yr loss, this month... I have endometriosis and it meant everything to me. Never was sure that I could even conceive and when you find out that you are, I started a registry at only around 16 weeks... didn’t tell anyone except close family & friends, but felt ashamed as if I couldn’t do what i felt most women can. Didn’t realize post partum depression also comes with loss of a baby & this should be talked about more thank you ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing. So glad I found this video. I just had a miscarriage on May 22. My princess Kailey was only 19 weeks. She was my fiancé and I first child and it hurts so much. I feel like I don’t have anyone to talk to because everyone around me has never been through this. I never would have thought I would have had to bury my own child. We visit her grave every week and I never want to leave. We tried for 5 years and when we found out we were pregnant we were was so excited. It’s a wonderful feeling❤️. Come to find out I have a incompetent cervix and its crazy because I just had a doctors appointment the week before and everything was fine. I feel your pain and I’ll be praying for everyone who has been through this❤️
Kowanna McCain oh I am so sorry for your loss! After trying for so long, that is devastating! When you get pregnant again, make sure to get the stitch or whatever is necessary to keep that from happening again! Hugs mama, you are lot alone and you will be ok eventually.
Just know God will never give you more than you can bare. I have hope and faith that you will go on to have a beautiful healthy baby. I also lost my first pregnancy. No amount of words can heal that pain. Just know you’re loved, your pain is valid and God sees you and loves you so much.
my wife and I just lost our first baby last night at about 6 weeks. It is utterly hopeless, as a husband knowing that there is nothing you can do when your wife is suffering! you're supposed to be The Protector, The Provider but how do you protect against something you can't see!? The grief is just as bad! We had little cutesy names for our baby, "lil sweetpea" "lil blueberry" "baby lentil". The stress and worry while you're a work wondering how she is doing is unbearable! I can't imagine how she was feeling. Then, you get that call, "honey I'm not feeling well, I'm going to go see the doctor". I had to leave work in the middle of the day, to drive and meet my wife at the hospital, the longest 40mins of my life wanting to bulldoze every car on the highway because they were keeping me from my wife and our baby! the stress of sitting in the waiting room while she's having cramps praying that everything turns out okay. wanting to punch through a wall getting the call that you're baby is gone! I'm thankful I was able to be there with her but the pain is excruciating! All i can muster up to say is I'm sorry for all your losses and it is okay to feel how you feel! 😔
That’s crazy they wouldn’t let you be with your wife during a time like that!! Unbelievable, but not really. I’m glad you could be with her immediately after. Lots of virtual hugs to you and her 🤗💛
Thank you for this. This is exactly what I needed to hear. The immense joy I felt finding out I was pregnant to the extreme devastation. I am still trying to figure out how to move forward a couple months later. I am so sorry to anyone who has had a misarrange or stillborn. I find peace knowing I will one day see my baby in Heaven.
I just lost my twin babies at 24weeks this was our first pregnancy, I went into labour unexpectedly while my husband was abroad and he could not be around to see them, they were born alive, held them in my hands with their little fingers holding mine and their tiny toes moving around, but unfortunately they couldn't make it, I feel guilty and worthless don't know what to do except that I trust God and please keep us in your prayers 💞
God…I needed this video so much…I’m struggling just like any other mother that had lost her baby. I’ve had 3 miscarriages. Two in the first trimester and one at 13 weeks, which had happened on December 19,2021. I delivered the baby. I caught it in my hand…I can still remember and see his/her body in my palm…he/she was as big as my palm, a tiny baby, with a beautiful nose which reminded me of mine …and I had to stay silent…because just like she said…I didn’t announce my pregnancy and consequently I had to stay silent… I needed to see this video so much…she gave me hope… Thank you!
Read the infertility solution by Dr. Ira Roth. This maybe the reason. A bacteria in the cervix can cause healthy pregnancies to mis carry. His simple treatment of Antubiotics works even when in vitro fails My vets wife mis carried 3 times and was on her 3rdi nvitro. Instead I gave them the book they had 2 healthy children.
Everything she said touched me and I truly understand. I go through those things still. I don't want to talk to my friends or family about it because they don't understand.
Im so sorry you feel alone and cannot talk about it. Maybe you can find a support group in your area so you do have others to vent to and discuss your loss with- it really can help. Hugs to you. Im sorry for your loss.
I just lost my baby at 8 weeks 3 days ago. There’s no other pain compared. Feeling that physical pain and going through it and theres nothing you can do is just so frustrating and sad. The worst is the aftermath when you have so many questions as to why.
Thank you for your talk and for contributing to breaking the silence. I have had nine miscarriages, and am a mum to two healthy girls. I am now advocating for breaking the taboo surrounding pregnancy loss through a Miscarriage Podcast and coaching for bereaved mums. It seems so hard and like running against a brick wall... we can do so much better as a society.
I lost two premature babies,I delivered my second baby in 22weeks , 20days ago ,I don't have kids and feel really broken ,sad ,numbed .seems like my life is just over.
I am sorry for your loss. I know the pain of losing a child as well. I recommend this book ,"Lessons from a Place of Pain" on Amazon. It's a great read and I know it can give you a extra dose of strength.
@@maryumbill I am sorry for your loss. I know the pain of losing a child as well. I recommend this book ,"Lessons from a Place of Pain" on Amazon. It's a great read and I know it can give you a extra dose of strength.
I’ll admit, i used to think it was sad but it wasnt the worst thing that could happen. I used to think that having a stillborn or a newborn die was the absolute worst and that an early miscarriage wasn’t that bad. But i had a loss only 2 days after finding out, and I will never minimize anyone’s journey again. Im currently pregnant again and I still grieve my first pregnancy and think about the what-ifs. I’m so sorry that i ever dismissed anyones loss. Any loss is a loss, and you deserve to grieve however and whenever.
I hope you are well. I pray you had a successful, healthy pregnancy. I had an early miscarriage, too. It is a deep, quiet, gut wrenching pain I carry. Prayers for you sweetie!
Thank you for sharing this. I've had 3 miscarriages now the first about 9 week and the last 2 6 weeks. It's been less physically traumatic but my heart is in pieces. But I didn't give myself enough time because I didn't feel like it should be as hard as the first time
😭😭😭😭 the guilt. I had an early loss a week ago. I feel like I have no right to feel sad. I have 11 beautiful kids. But this baby was dreamt of, prayed for, loved. We were all excited. And now nothing. Empty. I feel like I can’t be sad. I’m trying to hide it but I’m so so sad. I feel depressed but I don’t know what to. And we only knew for a week. I can’t imagine going through this more than once, further along, with no children. I can’t imagine it 😭💔💔💔💔
There’s just a hole in my heart where hope lived, a dream that ended too soon, and now the unknown stretches out, vast and dark before me. I’m afraid to try again.
You aren't alone. It doesn't stay this way forever. It doesn't go away but light start looking light again and eventually you will feel like you can breathe again
had one loss too many, this time via surgery. lost a right fallopian tube. it's been about 3 months since this recent loss. been in denial of the surgery , and yet the loss of the three other babies, including this recent one (3 total) have been weighing on me every day. didn't realize i've been mourning until recently. and depressed. i feel very alone in this and yes, it is easier not to talk to anyone because of the depth of the pain. i've just been isolating myself. can't talk about it. it isn't acknowledge.d they "weren't real". but they were real to me. i wanted each one. thank you for letting me finally cry .. been cryhing for the majority of this video. much needed.
This was so helpful for my grief. I lost my daughter in may at 22.5 weeks and I'm in therapy but currently looking for someone else. I felt everything the speaker has said. I'm also an early childhood educator and it's a painful profession to be in.
Emily3383 oh I’m so sorry for your loss. And yes, being in the field adds an extra level. Feel free to fin me on Facebook and message me if you want to talk. We lost our daughters at the same gestation. Hugs to you.
My husband and I had a few miscarriages over 12 years of ttc. I've never actively and mindfully stayed silent about them, but I think because my pregnancies were still so early and so private I didn't want to share my miscarriages right away. I felt like all the hope was mine and my husband's and I didn't want anyone making the wrong comment out of kindness only to make our pain worse. In the moments after my miscarriages I wanted it to be our loss, but the truth is it wasn't just our loss. And realizing this helped me grieve so much better. It was my mother-in-law's grandbaby she lost, my sister's niece or nephew, my niece's cousin. We all had a loss, and not staying silent let me know how much this baby meant to everyone around me and they wanted to share the hope, the joys of future baby, as well as the pain and anguish of losing that possibility. I even saw a change in my dog after my last miscarriage. She quit laying by my belly at night, something she began very early on in the pregnancy. She became very gentle with me, but was barking more at other animals and was very antsy. Then one night, I laid in bed and just began balling my eyes out, while by dog put her head under my chin and just stayed there until I had no more tears. She gave me a sweet little kiss on the cheek and we fell asleep. She stopped barking began playing like she did before. She was feeling my pain with me, and needed me to grieve; to get my energy back to our normal.
My husband and I are going towards our 12th year of trying - 3 little angels at 4.5months (Baby Europe), 6 weeks (Baby Asia) and 7 weeks (Baby Manestel) I've put on a brave front, no-one ever talks about it and I pray I get another chance to fall pregnant again. I cry when I need to but believe that I will get to meet my babies soon. The loss and pain doesn't go away I just mask it so I can live and hope for a new Day. Praying for you to one day experience motherhood and all the Mummys to be that are in the same boat. Lord hear our hearts 🙏🥺
I really thought I was in the clear. I had just accepted her, and was ready to become a mom of 2. I've had 7 miscarriage and with elith I was 18 weeks. I just don't understand. There isn't any words to help, I just want my baby. She is absolutely beautiful and unscathed. I'm grateful she only knew comfort safety and love. R.i.p elith Annemarie. 3-1-22❤️
I lost my baby boy at 29 weeks and 5 days. It’s been a month now. Can’t believe this is my story. But I really appreciate watching this video. Thank you for sharing your story.
The worst response I got was " At least you lost it at 6 weeks and not further along" I was told that more than once. To me it wasn't better because I lost it at 6 weeks. I was expected to just keep moving on with my life and pretend nothing is wrong. So here I am a month later pretending I don't care so everyone else is comfortable.
After my ectopic pregnancy and near-death due to medical neglect, round 2 of being traumatized was getting these awful comments from family and friends. The isolation lasted a lot longer than the anemia and surgery recovery. Think before you speak, ya'll.
How horrible. I’m so sorry for what you’ve gone through, both physically and emotionally. No one will ever understand unless they’ve been through the same pain themselves. Sometimes not even then
I just miscarried yesterday after finding out I was pregnant earlier this week. It’s absolutely heartbreaking even though it was short lived. I wasn’t even sure if I was going to keep my child. But the fact that that choice was taking from me is just, devastating . I can’t even sleep
I see that your comment is from a year ago, but I know that you never forget and your always changed forever after this loss. I hope and pray that you have somehow found healing in this period of grief. God bless you
I jst lost my baby at 8weeks I feel guilty coz me and my partner we were not getting along so I used to tell him that am going to abort buh sadly I lost it am feeling guilty coz I talked about it am feeling too bad
I lost my baby at 12 weeks. It's been more than a year and my baby, if she was born, would be one by 01.01.2020, I never got to hold or see her. I never got a chance to hear her heartbeat and even know the gender but I always thought it would be a baby girl. I named her Natalia Claire and even after a year, it still breaks my heart remembering her.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage as well in 2018. And after that, it seemed like everyone else was not only getting pregnant but having a healthy one and having a chance to see and hold their baby. I get mad at God sometimes because this is the same God that says he hates abortion but yet allow miscarriages to happen. Sometimes it's hard to be happy for other women.
Thank you for your story. I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks and never had the chance to listen to my baby’s heartbeat either. I was also wishing for a girl and was going to name her Clementine 💗 I feel guilt everyday feeling like I wasn’t strong enough to protect her.
Lost my son on 12/20/21 at 19weeks! The worst experience of my life. Such a traumatic process and lonely even if you have people around you for support. I have family, friends and my boyfriend. However, no one will understand it quiet like yourself.
I’m so scared to get pregnant again. It’s joy, but it’s also walking on egg shells because you never know especially if you had recurrent miscarriages.
I lost my baby at 9 weeks 3 days ago. All the plans.. the excitement I felt just knowing my baby was growing in me. I’m hurt. I’m broken. I feel empty without my baby..
I am going through a miscarriage and the hardest part of it is the invisible pain. I was told I was going to have a healthy baby then to be told there is absolutely nothing I can do to save my baby, when the doc told me the news I felt my heart shatter into a million pieces! I never felt so much pain inside. I’m in constant prayer and can only remind myself that I have an Angel baby watching over me, and baby will always be in my thoughts with any and everything I do. My heart goes out to everyone going through this, I understand your pain. And I love you
In October 2021 my husband and I suffered a miscarriage. We hadn't told everyone yet, I was waiting for the ultrasound first. It was at the ultrasound that we found out that our little one had passed away. There was no way I could grieve the loss of my baby without letting the world know that my baby exists. It was hard, but I made a post that detailed everything and let everyone know that we lost our little one. Fast forward to tonight and I am 6 weeks pregnant and telling everyone. I figure that I want everyone to know of my baby either way and society will just have to deal with it. But all of that love and joy of being pregnant again is overshadowed by terror that I might have to announce a second miscarriage. My back yard cannot handle that many more trees.
First miscarriage was 2015. Recently my niece and I were pregnant at the same time. I was 9weeks she was 8. I lost my baby and niece is still pregnant. I’m so excited for her and I keep thinking about her baby. Very bittersweet bc I’m still mourning the loss of mine. Idk how to shake the feeling. Please pray for me.
Oh I am so sorry. I had a couple close friends who were pregnant at the same time but I lost mine too....it is so difficult. It did get better with time for me. Just allow your feelings and do not feel guilty- you are grieving. I will definitely pray for you.
I feel you on this. My sister is pregnant and was five weeks behind me. I lost my baby girl last month but she’s still going. I’m happy for her and not jealous because I would never want anyone to go through this, but it’s so hard dealing with this conflicting grief
Well let’s fast forward to July 30th 2020 right now I am currently 9 months pregnant and due in 2 weeks. God will always make a way just in his own time !
Me and my girlfriend also just lout ours at 7 weeks. I’m 21 and she’s only 19. Yes we are young but we were so happy with thought of us becoming a family. We even moved into a 2 bedroom apartment but we ended up losing our first baby
Thank you 🙏🏾❤ Also thank you to everyone sharing their stories in the comments. It takes courage that I can’t seem to muster up. I can’t believe it’s happened to me again…I can’t speak about it any more than that. I’m just grateful I ran across this video. ❤
thank you for sharing your experience and showing people that going through a miscarriage isn't easy.. but us woman are strong...and god is with us, he walks with us through every storm that we face in life....
From the bottom of my breaking heart, Ty for helping me feel wayyyyy less alone. For the past 4 weeks I’ve been made to feel I’m dramatic & I’ve got to just move on. 😢
Just lost my baby yesterday. I was supposed to be 28weeks but my baby died at 15weeks. I carried him without knowing for so long. My insirance wouldn't cover more than 4ultrasounds so I had to wait a long time. I can't even finish this video because her talking about her sons makes me so angry and jealous. I want my baby back.
I had lost my baby at 10 weeks. I kept bleeding for about 2 weeks I would go to the hospital. Eventually the dr told me to go home it wasn't an emergency and to come back when i lost my baby. One night i was bleeding so bad i was loopy my mom had told me to go to the er and i told her i didnt want too because of what the dr said. My mom took me to another hospital. They almost gave me a blood transfusion because i was bleeding to death. The bleeding finally stopped and they did a sonogram and found i lost my baby. I was devastated i hated that dr. Eventually i got pregnant with my son he was born 2 months early i kept telling the dr that i was loosing water and they said i wasn't they finally gave me an ultra sound and they realized i lost two pockets of water and my son was dieing they induced me after i had him he stayed for a month in the NICU the nurses were neglecting him he had a massive bum rash that was blustered and a nurse put regular tape on him then ripped it off and his skin with it every night i cried for my baby i felt so helpless. I finally got to bring him home they ruined him from breastfeeding he had separation anxiety for the longest time. Now he's almost two and I've been trying again but I've had about 5 miscarriages and my recent one was about 2 months. All i really want is one more chance to have a positive pregnancy and delivery. I want to experience what i didn't the first time. But i dont know if I can do this anymore.
Just found out I had a missed miscarriage. I did not expect myself to feel the way I do. I feel so broken and alone. I keep replaying when they told me that they couldn’t find a heartbeat. I know miscarriages are common but I just never expected it would happen to me.
I cried and cried and cried whilst watching this. After losing 7 babies, with 1 being stillborn at full term and 1 I buried when he was 6 months old. So this was difficult to watch but I needed to hear it.
I would’ve been 31 weeks pregnant today, with my last pregnancy and I’m still grieving the loss of both my babies, I’ve had two miscarriages 💔 my husband doesn’t like to talk about the subject because it hurts but I suffer alone. I keep hearing “you’re young, you’re healthy” I’m only 23 but why haven’t I been able to carry a pregnancy full term ? 09/19/18 🙏🏽 08/28/20 🕊
There’s nothing wrong with your body. You are beautiful and perfect and I have faith you will have a healthy, full term pregnancy. We are still mothers even though our babies are not in our arms. Stay strong momma ♥️
Thank you for this TED talk Cassandra Blomberg! I've found your TED talk to be more comforting and understandable than other resource I've connected with. I had a miscarriage this past Saturday, they would have been 8 wk 1d and I am trying to find ways to support myself, allow space and ability me to grieve. Thank you!
I lost our baby at last day of my 9th week. I'm really devastated. I'm really sad and cry silently. Especially I imagine what my baby will become in the future. I have to much plans on us. I feel really sad I had this kind of guilt and regret. I'm not that kind of emotional but I really love my baby. So so much, I always say I'm sorry and cry silently. I'm hoping that I can get over this. I love you my baby.
It's been 1 year and 1 month my sunshine since I lost you. I'm praying that I could hug you right because I really missed you so much and it still breaks my heart knowing that I can never have you by my side. The pain is still here and it keeps deeper and deeper every 17th of the month comes. Please help me get over this my love, please.
@@healwithsunshine I'm sorry for ur loss I also lost my baby at 23 weeks recently .can I ask u what was the reason?in my case it's infection and umbilical cord stincture
I lost my baby on Father's Day at 3.5 weeks last weekend. I had just started having terrible pregnancy symptoms. That week was awful, but I was so excited. I never knew I could love or want something so much. I am still going through terrible grief and I am so angry at the lack of resources for dealing with miscarriages. Thank you for making this video. I am definitely going to talk about this and make a video about my experience for my channel to help other people. Nobody should have to deal with this alone. ❤️
I had a miscarriage with my first baby at 11 weeks then stillbirth at 23rd week... My heart breaks everyday and everything doesn't matter anymore. Its like a nightmare waking up and the pain doesn't go away....
Am here to thank God for using Dr Efe to help me, I was married for over 6years without kids. and he gave me herb medical and now I'm a mother of two kids
Oh SHEESH. LOUDER for the people in the back. We had our loss earlier this month, found out at 19 week appt, a "missed late miscarriage". When I was told by one of my closest friends the "something must have been wrong" spiel, I about was ready to lose my mind. I was so angry and upset that I haven't talked to her since this conversation, a few weeks ago. I love this woman and I know we're still friends but my deep gut feelings when hearing these words were that I felt ultra furious and mad at her, disgusted by the idea, overall just more brokenhearted than before hearing it. It's exactly like Cassandra says. I wanted my baby!!!!!!! I WANTED my baby, no matter what she looked like, no matter her health situation, whatever, yada yada. That baby will always be my little saint, my princess and to me she was/is PERFECT...
This video helped me so much- I feel seen... I went through a miscarriage with my first and only at 10 weeks, not too long ago. We are TTC again and the emotional rollercoaster is overwhelming at times. I feel isolated in my own emotions and all the words that people meant to be helpful, hurt more...
Thank you Cassandra for this message. Thank God I can understand English and watch this video, because in my country there is still a strong stigma around perinatal losses. We do have a developing foundation Light In Hands, but this is not enough now. Most women grieve silently and become heavily depressed and then even more stigmatized, because depression is also not much talked about in the society. I lost my baby on week 10 just a couple of days ago. Still feel pain which will never go away. But your video helped to untighten the pain in my chest somehow - I see and feel that I am not alone.
You are not alone! I am so glad you found my talk. Maybe you can get involved in that organization, Light in Hands. Maybe using your awful circumstance to make change can help you heal- help you make something positive out of a tragic situations. Im so so sorry for your loss. Hugs to you- reach out any time!
@@cassandramarie9593 Thank you for your kind words! Just wanted to let you know, I volunteered as a translator in this organization actually a couple of days ago - I will help them translate foreign articles and researches related to the topic. I hope it will help spread the info about perinatal losses in our society and help someone else eventually.
I've had 2 miscarriages. The hardest part about it, for me, is the invisibility of the pain. If you break your arm, when you go through your day, people can see that you are clearly injured. The checker at the store will be able to see you need a little help. Your co-workers will automatically jump in with difficult tasks. People will ask what happened and if you need help. No one expects you to act normal. To act like nothing happened.
With miscarriage, you suffer immense pain and grief. And you are forced to go about your day as if nothing happened. No one can see any injury. No one sees at the grocery store that you are in so much pain, it takes everything to pay and get out of the store without crying. Friends and family ask normal everyday questions like “what are you wearing for brunch” when brunch is the last thing you want to do.
Women go through the everyday tasks without so much as skipping a beat, all while hiding this invisible trauma that no one can see. It’s a superhuman task to expect of us.
Mommy J thank you. This is how it feels.
All of this 100 percent! The theme of this TexTalk conference was “invisible realities” which is why I chose this topic. So everything you said is so spot on for me, too! I’m so so sorry for your loss. Hugs !!!!
Mommy J i can understand ur pain. The invisible pain that m going through after losing my first born after 8 days of his birth. Since he was born in 6th month, he was in incubator and i didnt get chance to embrace him when he was alive. M finding it very difficult to act normal. The vaccum is killing me.
@@betseygeorge1378 I'm sorry for your loss. 💖
This is exactly how it feels 💔 Thank you for saying this. Prayers for you and all other super mommies.
It's almost been a year since I lost my baby boy. Lost him at 33 weeks. Named him Ever. Still breaks my heart, but he will always be my first baby boy. I've been very depressed more lately and I just found out I'm 10 weeks pregnant. Makes me so emotional. Every Dr appointment I go to makes me cry and I hate it. But I'm mostly scared for my baby. Needing prayers please 💕 and bless all you mommies!
Victoria Spharler praying that you have a safe and healthy pregnancy❤️
Victoria Spharler I’m so sorry for the loss of sweet Ever. Pregnancies after loss can be very scary and difficult but what you are feeling is normal! There are support groups that can help too. As hard as it is, try to enjoy this pregnancy at any small moment you can. Fear won’t change the outcome- it only takes away your joy now. Hugs to you and tons of prayers going your way! Please keep me posted!
Delivered ur baby?
Same here.. i lost my baby boy a year ago on December14, 2018. At 28 weeks..still depressed. I hope you had a healthy pregnancy later and delivered a rainbow baby 😊
I know exactly the fear you're going through. Hugs to you. I was so terrified to let myself bond with my daughter (my rainbow baby) while I was pregnant. I was so scared of something going wrong. I hope you had a healthy baby.
All I’ve heard is “try again”.
It’s not OK to say that, I had hope with this pregnancy, I felt so much love already...
Especially if you didn't even try to begin with..I even took a Plan B. I thought well it must be meant to be then! To have it taken away is heart wrenching..it gets easier to deal with but the triggers and getting stuck in the though patterns of self blame and guilt is hard to release.. hang in there ♥️
Yes, it’s become so normalized for people to dismiss the baby loss as “just a fluke”. This was a whole person inside of me. If I get pregnant again the child would never replace my little girl I lost.
Yeah I’m just fed up of hearing that.. I feel U
What is the OK thing to say?
@@catherinen8547 “Sorry for your loss”. It’s the only thing you can say
Had a miscarriage today. It hurts so much. Im 20 years old and was 6 weeks pregnant up until today. I will pray for anyone who lost their baby ❤️ and I pray for every pregnant women to have a healthy pregnancy & delivery
Hope you can heal and that the people around you are there to support you. Wish you all the best. ❤
@@natschi13 Thank you❤️this means a lot. I hope one day i can heal from it.
I’m so sorry
Blessings ❤
Just lost my first baby at 7 weeks. And you are right, we talk about other deaths but feel shameful about miscarriages. It's one of the worst feelings I've ever felt.
I’m sorry for your loss, I lost mine at 7 weeks also, it was hard. I instantly loved my baby so much even with all the doubts of being ready to be a mother and with being tight with money not knowing how me and my partner were gonna do it I still was so excited to bring life into this world and then having that feeling ripped away like it was nothing. Before I could even comprehend what had happened. I found out at 5 weeks I was pregnant and with only 1.5-2 weeks of having that feeling of knowing I I felt like I didn’t even have time to enjoy it 😓
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@@dayastarfire110 I lost my baby girl at 19 weeks April 20th. I prayed to God and ask him for a baby girl last year September and thought my prayers was answered only to be left with empty arms and a heavy heart. I pray that you find peace, I’m still trying.
i lost five babies...i do not have children... its a very lonely experience... not being able to be a mommy ....its devestating
I am so sorry for your losses.
@@shannonturner7028 thank you for this helpful video ... i ordered two christian books on miscarriage... helpful prayers for the agony
I am sorry about your losses dear. I'm wishing baby dust for youuu. 😘
@@WIthLoveAriane thank you for your kind words...God bless your heart xx
I think wanting to be a mom and it not happening is one of the hardest things. I’m so sorry for what you have gone through. So many hugs to you.
I don't understand why people don't take miscarriages seriously
Look at abortion
The odds of miscarriage for most women is actually fairly low. There is a much higher chance of miscarriage once a woman has had one miscarriage. At the moment of conception you are technically 2 weeks pregnant. By the time you show positive you are 3-4 weeks pregnant. The odds of miscarriage at week 7 are below 5%. So there is that small window of 3-7 weeks (1 month) where you have a high chance of miscarriage but also this is the time when your average person who has never been pregnant or with someone who was will think "eh you weren't really pregnant". The speaker in this video had miscarriages where the odds were well under 1% on average, repeatedly. That definitely is tragic and I'm sure the response she got from her loved ones is different than the woman who had a miscarriage at 3 weeks before many would even figure out if they were pregnant. Her 25% statistic includes these extreme early miscarriages which much of society barely counts as pregnancies unfortunately.
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My husband and I have had 3 miscarriages and 2 stillbirths, over the last 8 years of our marriage. To say I am hurt and devastated is an understatement. I feel hopeless. Thank you for this, really needed this. I know that one day we will be blessed with children❤
Sending you love and healing ❤
Blessings ❤
"You can always have another", "Something must have been wrong"... these words are killing me. My parents refuse to let me grieve openly. My husband wanted to live like nothing had happened too. My son was actually born alive! But he lived only one day. And it was less than a month ago! I know, that something really was wrong because he had an anasarka. But it didn't make my grief any less.
Oh I am so so sorry for the loss of your son. Maybe you can send your parents/husband this talk to help them understand? I think people are well-meaning and just want to make it better but they are very misguided. So many hugs your way.
Sending love 💕 I'm very sorry for your loss 🙏 you have a right to feel how you feel, wish I could hug you xo
I am going through the same. My son was born at 24weeks last month and he lived only for 8 days. It’s really hard to believe the fact that I am mother who don’t have a child. I miss my Son and eagerly waiting for him to come back
It’s terrible that they expected you to just move on within a month of your loss! I’m trying to walk the line between talking and holding back my feelings because even my husband doesn’t fully understand what I’m going through. If people aren’t sure of what to say, then don’t say anything.
OMG! I'm exactly going through same phase what ever you said here. My husband and my parents think I'm exaggerating and my husband gets irritated with me when I feel depressed. My family says you can always have another baby. Loss of one child can't be replaced with another child when will the world understand.
I just loss my baby at 17wks...the pain is so horrible..but im trusting God to pull me through!
faybay moore I’m so sorry for your loss. It will be a rocky journey but you will pull through. So many hugs and prayers your way.
faybay moore just checking in - how are you doing?
Faith Bryant I just lost my baby girl on May 22 she was 19 weeks. The pain is so horrible but we will get through it! I’ll be praying for you🙏🏾❤️
Faith Moore lost my baby yesterday at 16 weeks. Mad 😡 at the whole universe
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I've had about five miscarriages. No kids yet. I just had I think my fifth giant mental breakdown last night. I don't know..this grief hits different. It really does. And you can't escape it constantly being bombarded by seeing other people's children and pregnancies. It's destroying my marriage and mentally I'm cracking. As hard as I try to not be jealous, it just doesn't work that way.
I know this is an old comment, but I felt every bit of it. My husband and I have been together for 6 years, and throughout those years, 6 miscarriages. No living children. We pursued fertility testing years ago, abandoned that course, and are now giving it one last shot. "Unexplained recurrent loss" is my status. It sucks. It's incredibly painful. And on top of that, hubby's best friend just helped to deliver his second little one last week, which has uncontrollably opened old wounds regardless of how happy we are for them. I hope that you are ok. I hope that you have found some kind of peace or perhaps a purpose that fills the void that the loss has left in your heart. Be well.
I am sorry for your loss. I know the pain of losing a child as well. I recommend this book ,"Lessons from a Place of Pain" on Amazon. It's a great read and I know it can give you a extra dose of strength.
@@DrFrankenbuns I am sorry for your loss. I know the pain of losing a child as well. I recommend this book ,"Lessons from a Place of Pain" on Amazon. It's a great read and I know it can give you a extra dose of strength.
I have lost 3 pregnancy, n it makes me feel like I am failing, it breaks my spirit.
I am a person of faith that's where I get my strength from
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Yes I’m technically still on postpartum leave and I dread going back to work where everyone knew I was expecting a baby. 😔
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I just lost my baby girl almost 4 weeks ago. I was 22 weeks and 5 days when I went into preterm labor. Honestly I feel like I don’t know what to do. I try to keep busy. I try to talk to people. But I keep hearing the same “you’re so young, you have plenty of time to have lots more children”. Or “it just wasn’t the right time”. But for me, being pregnant was perfect. Every aspect of it. A child is a blessing. No matter what stage of life you are at. Her name was Avianna Rose. She had lots of hair and looked just like her father. And every single day I think about her. And it hasn’t gotten any easier yet. I’m not sure if it ever will.
People often day that wrong thing, trying to give hope or peace. You are grieving, and it's important you don't stuff that down. Reading, talking (therapy or close friend or family)... reach out.
So sorry about this. I am going through the same process and it is crazy
I try to get stay busy too but it doesn't help it doesn't take away the pain guilt heartbreak.....
I know the feeling. My heart goes out to you!
Does it get easier? We’re struggling. Especially her
I lost my my first baby in 2009. I had every one of those phrases said to me. They don't help at all. There is NOTHING you can say to make us feel better. If a woman you know lost a baby, give her a hug. Let her cry on your shoulder and just be there for her. Listen to her when she needs a sounding board for her anger and sorrow. That's all we need.
Exactly. Perfectly said
Thanks ,trying to support my partner her pain hurts me on top of it all
@@georgeliving6872 It’s definitely different for the fathers. My husband is sad but it’s not the same kind of sadness I feel. Our baby was inside of me and I felt her, connected to her in a way he couldn’t. So when she passed, I literally lost a part of myself. That’s why words don’t help. They don’t even scratch the surface of this kind of pain. 💔
I wish I had this. I just get shrugged off. How i wish I had someone to vent about this with.
Yes
My wife and I have had two miscarriages in the last six months. Thank you for this. We're still hoping and praying for the day we get to meet our first child
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i lost my son at 41 weeks i have so much support around me but ive never felt so alone
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I just lost my baby yesterday at 7 weeks. I was told that the probability for miscarriage was high. Yet the reality hit me hard. I feel sad,angry and shame. I wasn’t ready for the intensity of the emotions.
How are you doing now? We’re going through it and I feel like we, and especially her will never get out of our depression
So sorry ❤ blessings ❤
I’m so sorry. My heart hurts for you
everyone around me is having a baby. I'm happy for them but I feel deeply saddened by my loss. I lost mine at 5 weeks. It happened last year but I still cry about it every now and then. everyone said to me "try again", "it happens more often than you think", "better lose it early than later on", "wait until you're married".
Only 1 cousin said get help & talk about it. reading through the comments really helps.
sending you strength & love moms and dads.
Wow!! The things people have said to you. My goodness. Sending you so many hugs 🤗
@@healwithsunshine thank you lovely. Hugs to you too 🤗
just lost my little baby boy at 21.5 weeks... he was born alive, fully formed. He was beautiful. He reached out to me and held my hand. he was trying to take a breath but couldn't breath. watching my son die in front of my very eyes with 4 doctors just sitting there staring at me saying "theres nothing they can do" was awful. I felt absolutely powerless. I was SCREAMING for somebody to do something. Was in the hospital for a full 7 days prior with severe bleeding. had to have 8 blood transfusions and nearly died. Fiance had left me for someone else the month prior, so I had to go through this alone. Its only been a month. Picked up his ashes today at the funeral house and nearly lost it. Im scared ill never be happy again. And the man I love doest want me anymore, so I have to grieve the loss of the both of them at the same time. Im scared I'm never gonna be happy again :/ terrified ill never see my son in the next life. Im not religious, so the thought of never interacting with his soul again is unbelivevly heartbreaking. I don't know where to go from here. No one understands
I hope you’re ok bby ❤️
I am sorry for your loss. I know the pain of losing a child as well. I recommend this book ,"Lessons from a Place of Pain" on Amazon. It's a great read and I know it can give you a extra dose of strength.
It sounds so heartbreaking. I'm so sorry.
I know your feelings, I can relate to both, how did you do it..please help
❤️🙏Hope life brought some sunshine for you. Thank you for sharing your heartbreak
One of the best things for me while I was in the ER with my miscarriage was the doctor referencing the miscarriage that he and his wife had had.
A Little Bit Hailey I love that the dr opened up that way! Thanks for sharing!
Same… the emergency doctor was truly sympathetic for me too. He shared that he and his wife were never able to have a successful pregnancy…. Somehow it was helpful to have them understand the pain instead of just medicalising it
I lost my child at 7 weeks… I had already figured out what my announcement would look like as I imagined revealing our little presence to the rest of the world. And then the rug was suddenly whipped from beneath my feet. A future I had begun to visualize was suddenly erased before I could even wrap my head around what was happening. And a family of four slipped through my fingers. We've been trying for 2 years already. We've started for another baby when our daughter was 5. There were tests, drugs, shots, unsuccessful insemination…There were two failed IVF cycles, and along the way, one miscarriage. The social media algorithms became absolute torture. Only a few mnths prior, I was clicking through a zillion ads and articles daydreaming about the tiny person growing in my belly... Now they're nothing but a constant and incredibly painful reminder of what could have been... And this is so unbearably hard. Your body heals slowly. Your head even slower... And your heart may never heal completely.
so sorry for your loss! I lost my child even earlier, at 5 weeks.
I am sorry for your loss. I know the pain of losing a child as well. I recommend this book ,"Lessons from a Place of Pain" on Amazon. It's a great read and I know it can give you a extra dose of strength.
@@corinatralala2556 I am sorry for your loss. I know the pain of losing a child as well. I recommend this book ,"Lessons from a Place of Pain" on Amazon. It's a great read and I know it can give you a extra dose of strength.
I am losing mine right now. I’m devastated.
@@mags7283 God is right there in the storm with you. I pray for your strength and healing in God. There is a testimony of God's healing power in this book I recommend on Amazon, "Lessons From a Place of Pain: An Account of God's Healing Power and Restoration After a Great Loss".
Feeling very isolated and unsupported ; throwing yourself back into work - that EXACTLY what I did ! The feeling of coming into the hospital pregnant & leaving without your child is just an experience I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. My son, the first boy to be born into my family since my grandmother was giving birth, pasted away full term , fully developed. 2 years later - I am still lost and confused because I don’t think I allowed myself to mourn and grieve correctly. I miss my son so much I pray God gives him back to me but I’m terrified of pregnancy now. 😢😢😢
Thank you for sharing your experience. We lost many through natural pregnancy and IVF. To me, never any difference between a 6 week loss or a 12 week loss. People who have not lost a baby are so fortunate. Sorry for your loss. As a man and a husband, I hope you know it also affects us badly.
Thank you for sharing Patrick. I just lost my baby at 6 weeks and as a man I am having a really hard time expressing how devastated I feel to those around me. I feel like fate robbed me of getting to know my child and even if I have another I won't get to hold the one I lost.
Dear Patrick and Matt, you aren't alone. Our hearts are broken together. 💔
Thank you for sharing your story 💙 I'm sorry for your losses..I lost my baby at 10 weeks to a missed miscarriage .I had to get a D and C. My body thought I was 14 weeks. the pain doesn't stop and all the grief is real..I know sharing my story with others has helped me tremendously and probably vice versa. I am grateful for the short amount of time I had with my baby.
I just lost my first at 7 weeks and it has been really hard. I felt like everything was going ok and that my partner and I were getting through it but after a month of distracting ourselves we have both realized that maybe we aren’t ok and need to get some extra help. Thanks for your video and for all of you in the comments sharing your stories it helps to know we aren’t alone. ❤
Thank you for speaking out. This taboo needs to be broken.
This is so important. My wife and I lost ours a month ago. And although I appreciated all the support, I to was shocked at how many people in my life had losses and never told anyone.
This is sooo true. I had 2 second trimester miscarriages, and when I shared my story I was so shocked by the number of people who came forward with similar stories. It’s not easy, but that’s why I think it’s so important to share our stories 💛☀️
Appreciate this talk so very much. Remembering my 7 babies gone too soon. Baby Wichita 1999, Baby Augusta 2002, Ean Rigel 13w2d born 13w6d on October 30, 2017, Riley Ember 8w4d born 12w on April 14, 2018, Baby Wynn 3w6d December 12, 2019, Baby Zita 4w5d January 18, 2020, Willow Rayne 8w2d born 10w6d September 19, 2020.
Thank you so much for this message, i really needed needed to hear this from someone who actually experienced miscarriages like i did, God bless you
Irene Kalala I’m so sorry. Hugs your way!
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This woman is so amazingly strong! I don't know how she did this excellent talk without pausing or crying.
Thank you so much. You are helping me to deal with my loss I'm actively going through.
'It wasn't meant to be' and 'your body wasn't ready' is something that was said to me when I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks in December 2021. Little did they know that was my 5th miscarriage.
I had 4 miscarriages over the space of 4 years. I had a successful pregnancy and gave birth to mt gorgeous little boy in February 2021. I found out I was pregnant again in the September and I was absolutely over the moon. I was frightened to transition from one baby to 2 and have 2 babies under the age of 2 but I was so ready. I had already planned out our lives for the next 5 years. I was so ready to give my son a little baby brother or sister. When the process of the miscarriage started my heart just broke into a million pieces. This miscarriage hurt so much more than the previous 4 because I had finally got to experience the end result when having my son. I finally knew all the love I was losing. All the memories i would never get. And people thought it was appropriate to say things like 'you can just focus on logan now' (logan is my 1 year old son) and things like 'it would of been really hard for you to have 2 babies so close in age, this was for the best'
Its only been 4 months today since my miscarriage. I would of been 7 months pregnant right now and that absolutely kills me every single day. I pray every month that I miss a period or that I wake up and it was just a bad dream. That loss has sent me into such a horrible depression. Its changed me completely. Im not happy anymore I struggle to make it through the day sometimes without crying. People say 'logan should be enough to forget about it' or 'you can't be depressed youve got logan to think of' but what they cant seem to understand is that... everytime I look at my son all I see is what his little brother or sister should of looked like. All I think about is how we should of already known the gender and have decorated a nursery for him/her by now. I should have a big pregnant belly by now but I dont. And I'm not okay about it. I can't just move on from what I've lost. I love my son to pieces and hes the only reason I get out of bed in the morning hes the only reason I survive each day. People who haven't experienced a pregnancy loss should never try and give advice if its just going to be a back handed piece of advice.
The ONE thing i wish i had known when i went through each of my 3 miscarriages was that i wasn't alone.
Thank you for validating my experience. I lost my baby at 5 weeks and struggled between telling people and keeping it to myself. I also heard all of the 'do not say these things' list but for those I opened up to and supported me, it meant so much. I feel like I do not need to keep it a secret or push it out my mind after watching this.
1 yr loss, this month... I have endometriosis and it meant everything to me. Never was sure that I could even conceive and when you find out that you are, I started a registry at only around 16 weeks... didn’t tell anyone except close family & friends, but felt ashamed as if I couldn’t do what i felt most women can. Didn’t realize post partum depression also comes with loss of a baby & this should be talked about more thank you ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing. So glad I found this video. I just had a miscarriage on May 22. My princess Kailey was only 19 weeks. She was my fiancé and I first child and it hurts so much. I feel like I don’t have anyone to talk to because everyone around me has never been through this. I never would have thought I would have had to bury my own child. We visit her grave every week and I never want to leave. We tried for 5 years and when we found out we were pregnant we were was so excited. It’s a wonderful feeling❤️. Come to find out I have a incompetent cervix and its crazy because I just had a doctors appointment the week before and everything was fine. I feel your pain and I’ll be praying for everyone who has been through this❤️
Kowanna McCain oh I am so sorry for your loss! After trying for so long, that is devastating! When you get pregnant again, make sure to get the stitch or whatever is necessary to keep that from happening again! Hugs mama, you are lot alone and you will be ok eventually.
Just know God will never give you more than you can bare. I have hope and faith that you will go on to have a beautiful healthy baby. I also lost my first pregnancy. No amount of words can heal that pain. Just know you’re loved, your pain is valid and God sees you and loves you so much.
Exact same situation I'm in right now. It's so hard.
my wife and I just lost our first baby last night at about 6 weeks. It is utterly hopeless, as a husband knowing that there is nothing you can do when your wife is suffering! you're supposed to be The Protector, The Provider but how do you protect against something you can't see!? The grief is just as bad! We had little cutesy names for our baby, "lil sweetpea" "lil blueberry" "baby lentil". The stress and worry while you're a work wondering how she is doing is unbearable! I can't imagine how she was feeling. Then, you get that call, "honey I'm not feeling well, I'm going to go see the doctor". I had to leave work in the middle of the day, to drive and meet my wife at the hospital, the longest 40mins of my life wanting to bulldoze every car on the highway because they were keeping me from my wife and our baby! the stress of sitting in the waiting room while she's having cramps praying that everything turns out okay. wanting to punch through a wall getting the call that you're baby is gone! I'm thankful I was able to be there with her but the pain is excruciating!
All i can muster up to say is I'm sorry for all your losses and it is okay to feel how you feel! 😔
That’s crazy they wouldn’t let you be with your wife during a time like that!! Unbelievable, but not really. I’m glad you could be with her immediately after. Lots of virtual hugs to you and her 🤗💛
its so heartwarming to hear how you much love your wife, praying for healing for you and your wife🤍
I’m so sorry. I just lost mine on Monday at 5/6 weeks.
Oh I’m so sorry for your loss. People forget how hard it is for the husband too- my husband can relate. Sending you guys love and hugs!
Each and every word makes sense. Lost her at 34 weeks..The pain is so real.. nicely addressed!
Thank you for this. This is exactly what I needed to hear. The immense joy I felt finding out I was pregnant to the extreme devastation. I am still trying to figure out how to move forward a couple months later. I am so sorry to anyone who has had a misarrange or stillborn. I find peace knowing I will one day see my baby in Heaven.
Lost my first baby at 7 weeks. Gestation age doesn’t change the amount of grief you carry, it’s been 4 months and i still cry nearly every day.
I just lost my twin babies at 24weeks this was our first pregnancy, I went into labour unexpectedly while my husband was abroad and he could not be around to see them, they were born alive, held them in my hands with their little fingers holding mine and their tiny toes moving around, but unfortunately they couldn't make it, I feel guilty and worthless don't know what to do except that I trust God and please keep us in your prayers 💞
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I know this pain all too well. It’s not your fault. Lots and lots of hugs to you 🤗💛🤗💛
That sounds terrible poor little bubbas. Sorry for your losses and prayers and 🙌 blessings for you
So sorry for your loss…
I am so sad to hear of your loss. I will pray for your healing journey.
God…I needed this video so much…I’m struggling just like any other mother that had lost her baby. I’ve had 3 miscarriages. Two in the first trimester and one at 13 weeks, which had happened on December 19,2021. I delivered the baby. I caught it in my hand…I can still remember and see his/her body in my palm…he/she was as big as my palm, a tiny baby, with a beautiful nose which reminded me of mine …and I had to stay silent…because just like she said…I didn’t announce my pregnancy and consequently I had to stay silent…
I needed to see this video so much…she gave me hope…
Thank you!
Oh my gosh, that brought tears to my eyes. I can't even imagine the pain you had to go through. Thank you so much for sharing.
@@shimmeringchimps3842 thank you for your support 🙏🏻
This was so touching. Lots of hugs to you 🤗💛. Would you consider sharing with close family/friends even tho your pregnancy wasn’t announced?
I lost my baby boy one month ago, i was 25 weeks 😓😓
Just lost our third baby at 12 weeks. Thank you so much for this
Oh girl, that is so difficult...I am sorry. have you undergone testing to see what the potential cause could be? So many HUGS to you.
Rachael Fleming I just lost mine too at 11 weeks.. this is so hard
Same well 2nd 😔 so sorry for your loss x
So sorry for your loss. May you have as many healthy babies as you want. I lost my 1st one at 7 weeks yesterday.
Read the infertility solution by Dr. Ira Roth. This maybe the reason. A bacteria in the cervix can cause healthy pregnancies to mis carry. His simple treatment of Antubiotics works even when in vitro fails My vets wife mis carried 3 times and was on her 3rdi nvitro. Instead I gave them the book they had 2 healthy children.
Everything she said touched me and I truly understand. I go through those things still. I don't want to talk to my friends or family about it because they don't understand.
Im so sorry you feel alone and cannot talk about it. Maybe you can find a support group in your area so you do have others to vent to and discuss your loss with- it really can help. Hugs to you. Im sorry for your loss.
I feel the same way. Even with aunts who had stillbirths I don’t feel like they understand how I’m processing my grief
I honestly feel like I’m losing my mind
I feel the same. I feel that nobody understands how I feel.
I just lost my baby at 8 weeks 3 days ago. There’s no other pain compared. Feeling that physical pain and going through it and theres nothing you can do is just so frustrating and sad. The worst is the aftermath when you have so many questions as to why.
Thank you for your talk and for contributing to breaking the silence. I have had nine miscarriages, and am a mum to two healthy girls. I am now advocating for breaking the taboo surrounding pregnancy loss through a Miscarriage Podcast and coaching for bereaved mums. It seems so hard and like running against a brick wall... we can do so much better as a society.
I lost two premature babies,I delivered my second baby in 22weeks , 20days ago ,I don't have kids and feel really broken ,sad ,numbed .seems like my life is just over.
I am sorry for your loss. I know the pain of losing a child as well. I recommend this book ,"Lessons from a Place of Pain" on Amazon. It's a great read and I know it can give you a extra dose of strength.
@@maryumbill I am sorry for your loss. I know the pain of losing a child as well. I recommend this book ,"Lessons from a Place of Pain" on Amazon. It's a great read and I know it can give you a extra dose of strength.
I’ll admit, i used to think it was sad but it wasnt the worst thing that could happen. I used to think that having a stillborn or a newborn die was the absolute worst and that an early miscarriage wasn’t that bad. But i had a loss only 2 days after finding out, and I will never minimize anyone’s journey again. Im currently pregnant again and I still grieve my first pregnancy and think about the what-ifs. I’m so sorry that i ever dismissed anyones loss. Any loss is a loss, and you deserve to grieve however and whenever.
I’m so sorry for your loss! Yes, it often doesn’t matter how far along you are - it is still devastating. Congrats on your new pregnancy! Hugs mama.
I hope you are well. I pray you had a successful, healthy pregnancy. I had an early miscarriage, too. It is a deep, quiet, gut wrenching pain I carry. Prayers for you sweetie!
Thank you for sharing this. I've had 3 miscarriages now the first about 9 week and the last 2 6 weeks. It's been less physically traumatic but my heart is in pieces. But I didn't give myself enough time because I didn't feel like it should be as hard as the first time
😭😭😭😭 the guilt. I had an early loss a week ago. I feel like I have no right to feel sad. I have 11 beautiful kids. But this baby was dreamt of, prayed for, loved. We were all excited. And now nothing. Empty. I feel like I can’t be sad. I’m trying to hide it but I’m so so sad. I feel depressed but I don’t know what to. And we only knew for a week. I can’t imagine going through this more than once, further along, with no children. I can’t imagine it 😭💔💔💔💔
There’s just a hole in my heart where hope lived, a dream that ended too soon, and now the unknown stretches out, vast and dark before me. I’m afraid to try again.
You aren't alone. It doesn't stay this way forever. It doesn't go away but light start looking light again and eventually you will feel like you can breathe again
had one loss too many, this time via surgery. lost a right fallopian tube. it's been about 3 months since this recent loss. been in denial of the surgery , and yet the loss of the three other babies, including this recent one (3 total) have been weighing on me every day. didn't realize i've been mourning until recently. and depressed. i feel very alone in this and yes, it is easier not to talk to anyone because of the depth of the pain. i've just been isolating myself. can't talk about it. it isn't acknowledge.d they "weren't real". but they were real to me. i wanted each one.
thank you for letting me finally cry .. been cryhing for the majority of this video. much needed.
This was so helpful for my grief. I lost my daughter in may at 22.5 weeks and I'm in therapy but currently looking for someone else. I felt everything the speaker has said. I'm also an early childhood educator and it's a painful profession to be in.
Emily3383 oh I’m so sorry for your loss. And yes, being in the field adds an extra level. Feel free to fin me on Facebook and message me if you want to talk. We lost our daughters at the same gestation. Hugs to you.
My husband and I had a few miscarriages over 12 years of ttc. I've never actively and mindfully stayed silent about them, but I think because my pregnancies were still so early and so private I didn't want to share my miscarriages right away. I felt like all the hope was mine and my husband's and I didn't want anyone making the wrong comment out of kindness only to make our pain worse. In the moments after my miscarriages I wanted it to be our loss, but the truth is it wasn't just our loss.
And realizing this helped me grieve so much better. It was my mother-in-law's grandbaby she lost, my sister's niece or nephew, my niece's cousin. We all had a loss, and not staying silent let me know how much this baby meant to everyone around me and they wanted to share the hope, the joys of future baby, as well as the pain and anguish of losing that possibility.
I even saw a change in my dog after my last miscarriage. She quit laying by my belly at night, something she began very early on in the pregnancy. She became very gentle with me, but was barking more at other animals and was very antsy. Then one night, I laid in bed and just began balling my eyes out, while by dog put her head under my chin and just stayed there until I had no more tears. She gave me a sweet little kiss on the cheek and we fell asleep. She stopped barking began playing like she did before. She was feeling my pain with me, and needed me to grieve; to get my energy back to our normal.
My husband and I are going towards our 12th year of trying - 3 little angels at 4.5months (Baby Europe), 6 weeks (Baby Asia) and 7 weeks (Baby Manestel) I've put on a brave front, no-one ever talks about it and I pray I get another chance to fall pregnant again. I cry when I need to but believe that I will get to meet my babies soon. The loss and pain doesn't go away I just mask it so I can live and hope for a new Day. Praying for you to one day experience motherhood and all the Mummys to be that are in the same boat. Lord hear our hearts 🙏🥺
I really thought I was in the clear. I had just accepted her, and was ready to become a mom of 2. I've had 7 miscarriage and with elith I was 18 weeks. I just don't understand. There isn't any words to help, I just want my baby.
She is absolutely beautiful and unscathed. I'm grateful she only knew comfort safety and love. R.i.p elith Annemarie. 3-1-22❤️
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I lost my baby boy at 29 weeks and 5 days. It’s been a month now. Can’t believe this is my story. But I really appreciate watching this video. Thank you for sharing your story.
Mama, I’m so sorry for you loss. Please reach out to me if you ever want to chat - hugs. - Cassandra Blomberg
The worst response I got was " At least you lost it at 6 weeks and not further along" I was told that more than once. To me it wasn't better because I lost it at 6 weeks. I was expected to just keep moving on with my life and pretend nothing is wrong. So here I am a month later pretending I don't care so everyone else is comfortable.
Thank you for shedding so much light on this painful time for me. God bless you and you beautiful family.
After my ectopic pregnancy and near-death due to medical neglect, round 2 of being traumatized was getting these awful comments from family and friends. The isolation lasted a lot longer than the anemia and surgery recovery. Think before you speak, ya'll.
Elle Kelsheimer so sorry for what you have gone through 😢 hugs
How horrible. I’m so sorry for what you’ve gone through, both physically and emotionally. No one will ever understand unless they’ve been through the same pain themselves. Sometimes not even then
I just miscarried yesterday after finding out I was pregnant earlier this week. It’s absolutely heartbreaking even though it was short lived. I wasn’t even sure if I was going to keep my child. But the fact that that choice was taking from me is just, devastating . I can’t even sleep
I see that your comment is from a year ago, but I know that you never forget and your always changed forever after this loss. I hope and pray that you have somehow found healing in this period of grief. God bless you
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Me too I can’t sleep! I just lost mine Monday
I jst lost my baby at 8weeks I feel guilty coz me and my partner we were not getting along so I used to tell him that am going to abort buh sadly I lost it am feeling guilty coz I talked about it am feeling too bad
I lost my baby at 12 weeks. It's been more than a year and my baby, if she was born, would be one by 01.01.2020, I never got to hold or see her. I never got a chance to hear her heartbeat and even know the gender but I always thought it would be a baby girl. I named her Natalia Claire and even after a year, it still breaks my heart remembering her.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage as well in 2018. And after that, it seemed like everyone else was not only getting pregnant but having a healthy one and having a chance to see and hold their baby. I get mad at God sometimes because this is the same God that says he hates abortion but yet allow miscarriages to happen. Sometimes it's hard to be happy for other women.
Thank you for your story. I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks and never had the chance to listen to my baby’s heartbeat either. I was also wishing for a girl and was going to name her Clementine 💗 I feel guilt everyday feeling like I wasn’t strong enough to protect her.
Lost my son on 12/20/21 at 19weeks! The worst experience of my life. Such a traumatic process and lonely even if you have people around you for support. I have family, friends and my boyfriend. However, no one will understand it quiet like yourself.
Thank you for sharing your difficult journey, and for encouraging others to do so as well
Joe Schmidl thanks joe!
I’m so scared to get pregnant again. It’s joy, but it’s also walking on egg shells because you never know especially if you had recurrent miscarriages.
I lost my baby at 9 weeks 3 days ago. All the plans.. the excitement I felt just knowing my baby was growing in me. I’m hurt. I’m broken. I feel empty without my baby..
I am going through a miscarriage and the hardest part of it is the invisible pain. I was told I was going to have a healthy baby then to be told there is absolutely nothing I can do to save my baby, when the doc told me the news I felt my heart shatter into a million pieces! I never felt so much pain inside. I’m in constant prayer and can only remind myself that I have an Angel baby watching over me, and baby will always be in my thoughts with any and everything I do. My heart goes out to everyone going through this, I understand your pain. And I love you
In October 2021 my husband and I suffered a miscarriage. We hadn't told everyone yet, I was waiting for the ultrasound first. It was at the ultrasound that we found out that our little one had passed away. There was no way I could grieve the loss of my baby without letting the world know that my baby exists. It was hard, but I made a post that detailed everything and let everyone know that we lost our little one. Fast forward to tonight and I am 6 weeks pregnant and telling everyone. I figure that I want everyone to know of my baby either way and society will just have to deal with it. But all of that love and joy of being pregnant again is overshadowed by terror that I might have to announce a second miscarriage. My back yard cannot handle that many more trees.
First miscarriage was 2015. Recently my niece and I were pregnant at the same time. I was 9weeks she was 8. I lost my baby and niece is still pregnant. I’m so excited for her and I keep thinking about her baby. Very bittersweet bc I’m still mourning the loss of mine. Idk how to shake the feeling. Please pray for me.
Oh I am so sorry. I had a couple close friends who were pregnant at the same time but I lost mine too....it is so difficult. It did get better with time for me. Just allow your feelings and do not feel guilty- you are grieving. I will definitely pray for you.
I feel you on this. My sister is pregnant and was five weeks behind me. I lost my baby girl last month but she’s still going. I’m happy for her and not jealous because I would never want anyone to go through this, but it’s so hard dealing with this conflicting grief
Well let’s fast forward to July 30th 2020 right now I am currently 9 months pregnant and due in 2 weeks. God will always make a way just in his own time !
Both of you ladies will have your time as I did and I’ll keep you both in my prayers
Shantiqua Brown I’m so happy for you! Good luck on your delivery! ❤️
Just found out yesterday that i lost my first baby at 7 weeks due to blighted ovam. Thank you for this I needed to hear that im not alone
Sorry to hear this - I know I’m not alone WE ARE NOT ALONE - How are you feeling now? I just found out at 10weeks I miscarried 😭
Me and my girlfriend also just lout ours at 7 weeks. I’m 21 and she’s only 19. Yes we are young but we were so happy with thought of us becoming a family. We even moved into a 2 bedroom apartment but we ended up losing our first baby
I get to know today that I lost my 6 weeks baby first pregnancy 😣
After trying for 2 years i got pregnant after 9 week pregnancy and lost it ...😔 my first child
It's been 20 years for me but feels like it was yesterday I miss my baby boy Gabriel 😔
Thank you 🙏🏾❤ Also thank you to everyone sharing their stories in the comments. It takes courage that I can’t seem to muster up. I can’t believe it’s happened to me again…I can’t speak about it any more than that. I’m just grateful I ran across this video. ❤
thank you for sharing your experience and showing people that going through a miscarriage isn't easy.. but us woman are strong...and god is with us, he walks with us through every storm that we face in life....
Sandra Feliciano thank you and yes!!!
Thank you for sharing this. We just lost our Angel Baby in August 2019. I’m glad to know I’m not the only one going through this. Thank you ❤️
From the bottom of my breaking heart, Ty for helping me feel wayyyyy less alone. For the past 4 weeks I’ve been made to feel I’m dramatic & I’ve got to just move on. 😢
Just lost my baby yesterday. I was supposed to be 28weeks but my baby died at 15weeks. I carried him without knowing for so long. My insirance wouldn't cover more than 4ultrasounds so I had to wait a long time. I can't even finish this video because her talking about her sons makes me so angry and jealous. I want my baby back.
I had lost my baby at 10 weeks. I kept bleeding for about 2 weeks I would go to the hospital. Eventually the dr told me to go home it wasn't an emergency and to come back when i lost my baby. One night i was bleeding so bad i was loopy my mom had told me to go to the er and i told her i didnt want too because of what the dr said. My mom took me to another hospital. They almost gave me a blood transfusion because i was bleeding to death. The bleeding finally stopped and they did a sonogram and found i lost my baby. I was devastated i hated that dr. Eventually i got pregnant with my son he was born 2 months early i kept telling the dr that i was loosing water and they said i wasn't they finally gave me an ultra sound and they realized i lost two pockets of water and my son was dieing they induced me after i had him he stayed for a month in the NICU the nurses were neglecting him he had a massive bum rash that was blustered and a nurse put regular tape on him then ripped it off and his skin with it every night i cried for my baby i felt so helpless. I finally got to bring him home they ruined him from breastfeeding he had separation anxiety for the longest time. Now he's almost two and I've been trying again but I've had about 5 miscarriages and my recent one was about 2 months. All i really want is one more chance to have a positive pregnancy and delivery. I want to experience what i didn't the first time. But i dont know if I can do this anymore.
Just found out I had a missed miscarriage. I did not expect myself to feel the way I do. I feel so broken and alone. I keep replaying when they told me that they couldn’t find a heartbeat.
I know miscarriages are common but I just never expected it would happen to me.
I know this feeling so well and am so sorry. You are not alone.
I cried and cried and cried whilst watching this. After losing 7 babies, with 1 being stillborn at full term and 1 I buried when he was 6 months old. So this was difficult to watch but I needed to hear it.
Hugs to you!!
Hi jade, how’re you doing?
I would’ve been 31 weeks pregnant today, with my last pregnancy and I’m still grieving the loss of both my babies, I’ve had two miscarriages 💔 my husband doesn’t like to talk about the subject because it hurts but I suffer alone. I keep hearing “you’re young, you’re healthy” I’m only 23 but why haven’t I been able to carry a pregnancy full term ?
09/19/18 🙏🏽
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There’s nothing wrong with your body. You are beautiful and perfect and I have faith you will have a healthy, full term pregnancy. We are still mothers even though our babies are not in our arms. Stay strong momma ♥️
This touched my heart ❤️
Thank you for this TED talk Cassandra Blomberg! I've found your TED talk to be more comforting and understandable than other resource I've connected with. I had a miscarriage this past Saturday, they would have been 8 wk 1d and I am trying to find ways to support myself, allow space and ability me to grieve. Thank you!
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I really needed this 💔 was avoiding my grief but it is real & should be acknowledged. Thank you for this video
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I lost our baby at last day of my 9th week. I'm really devastated. I'm really sad and cry silently. Especially I imagine what my baby will become in the future. I have to much plans on us. I feel really sad I had this kind of guilt and regret. I'm not that kind of emotional but I really love my baby. So so much, I always say I'm sorry and cry silently. I'm hoping that I can get over this. I love you my baby.
Thank you for the encouragement.
Jana Wright you are welcome 💙
It's been 1 year and 1 month my sunshine since I lost you. I'm praying that I could hug you right because I really missed you so much and it still breaks my heart knowing that I can never have you by my side. The pain is still here and it keeps deeper and deeper every 17th of the month comes. Please help me get over this my love, please.
Lost my first baby at 23 weeks, it's been 3weeks since delivered my baby boy...I still find myself crying at awkward times of the day💔💔🕊🕊
I lost my first and second at 22 weeks. I know the pain and grief well. It was in 2012 and 2013. I still have my moments, but it does get better 🤗💛🤗💛
@@healwithsunshine I'm sorry for ur loss I also lost my baby at 23 weeks recently .can I ask u what was the reason?in my case it's infection and umbilical cord stincture
I lost my baby on Father's Day at 3.5 weeks last weekend. I had just started having terrible pregnancy symptoms. That week was awful, but I was so excited. I never knew I could love or want something so much. I am still going through terrible grief and I am so angry at the lack of resources for dealing with miscarriages. Thank you for making this video. I am definitely going to talk about this and make a video about my experience for my channel to help other people. Nobody should have to deal with this alone. ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing your story.
This is so relatable and I’m glad that I’m not alone because like you said it’s very isolating and lonely
Thank you for you message ❤
Rumbi Lu you are so welcome! 🤗
Thank you for sharing your story, it helped me a lot 💙
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Oh SHEESH. LOUDER for the people in the back. We had our loss earlier this month, found out at 19 week appt, a "missed late miscarriage". When I was told by one of my closest friends the "something must have been wrong" spiel, I about was ready to lose my mind. I was so angry and upset that I haven't talked to her since this conversation, a few weeks ago. I love this woman and I know we're still friends but my deep gut feelings when hearing these words were that I felt ultra furious and mad at her, disgusted by the idea, overall just more brokenhearted than before hearing it. It's exactly like Cassandra says. I wanted my baby!!!!!!! I WANTED my baby, no matter what she looked like, no matter her health situation, whatever, yada yada. That baby will always be my little saint, my princess and to me she was/is PERFECT...
Just lost mine at 15 weeks... the pain is unbearable. No one understands unless they’ve been through it.
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Thank you so much. I lost my baby July 19th. & this has given me the emotional support I needed
I’m so sorry for your loss but glad this has helped you ❤️ 🙏🏻
This is exactly how I feel.
Loved the message ❤️
Thank you! :)
I needed to hear this.
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Mother’s Day is always the hardest. I thank you for this video as I sit her alone.
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This video helped me so much- I feel seen... I went through a miscarriage with my first and only at 10 weeks, not too long ago.
We are TTC again and the emotional rollercoaster is overwhelming at times. I feel isolated in my own emotions and all the words that people meant to be helpful, hurt more...
Thank you Cassandra for this message. Thank God I can understand English and watch this video, because in my country there is still a strong stigma around perinatal losses. We do have a developing foundation Light In Hands, but this is not enough now. Most women grieve silently and become heavily depressed and then even more stigmatized, because depression is also not much talked about in the society. I lost my baby on week 10 just a couple of days ago. Still feel pain which will never go away. But your video helped to untighten the pain in my chest somehow - I see and feel that I am not alone.
You are not alone! I am so glad you found my talk. Maybe you can get involved in that organization, Light in Hands. Maybe using your awful circumstance to make change can help you heal- help you make something positive out of a tragic situations. Im so so sorry for your loss. Hugs to you- reach out any time!
@@cassandramarie9593 Thank you for your kind words! Just wanted to let you know, I volunteered as a translator in this organization actually a couple of days ago - I will help them translate foreign articles and researches related to the topic. I hope it will help spread the info about perinatal losses in our society and help someone else eventually.
thank you for this encouraging message...😚
You are welcome!
Thank you for sharing this. I just lost my angel baby at 9 weeks.
Caitie W I’m so sorry for your loss. Hugs.