THE POWER OF SILENCE - 5 ways to MOVE IN SILENCE & be mysterious in your 20s
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- čas přidán 6. 06. 2024
- Hi my loves! Back with another 20 series episode and in this one I discuss the power of silence and how to move in silence. Hope you find these steps helpful!
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Hi my loves! Back with another #20s series episode, and in this one I discuss ways to move in silence and ways to avoid oversharing! Hope you enjoy and feel free to drop your own tips or experiences x
What a Great Energy & Content! Thank you❤
This is one of the hardest lessons to learn. There's been plenty of times I've told people about myself and what I'm doing and realized they never needed that much info about me. And I hate when it replays in my head. 😩
Me too. ❤️ This hits home for me and I’m glad I get to see stuff on here that reminds me of my goal to attain a better version of myself. ❤️❤️❤️ we’ll all get there. I’m rooting for you.
This hit home too .. we are all learning
I've been here so many times. We keep learning indeed!
This hit me to the core thanks❤️
This is literally meeeeee😫😫😭😭😭😭😭😭
I'm struggling so much with this. But ny mom keeps telling me this, even when I travel she tells me not to tell anyone, post my travel when I get back because people and family are evil and can say bad things.
Even moneywise she tells me to keep it to myself.
So yeah I definitely am trying to practice keeping quiet.
“You owe nobody any explanation” is what I constantly tell myself in this new phase I’m in.
As a public figure people will always have something to say, rumors will be spreading left and right.
It’s better to be silent, give them the Lori Harvey & wizkid treatment ❤️
Purr king and queen of silent treatment lol
Very insightful video, Big Kam.
I'll add just two more. If you've spilled on something or shared more than you should, and you get questions or check-ins on that, stop yourself from continuing the cycle. Smile it off. Deflect. Say something like, "Oh, that? You don't want to know." If they say they want to know, insist they do not want to. Do something other than feed into the impulse.
The second would be to be pick up people skills, understand social cues, work on your charisma. It sounds contradictory to moving in silence, but if you do it well, soon, people would realize they know of you and not you.
I'm sorry. I know I said two, but a third would be you need a best friend, a buddy, a sister, a something. Sometimes, we share more than we should (to the wrong persons) because we weren't sharing in the first place. If you've talked about something a million times over with your best friend, trust me, you'd be so uninspired to talk about it with another.
Perfect contribution!
Love this!
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The third point ✅
My goodness!!
Thank you for this comment. 💐
I am really learning to move in silence. really it's one of the hardest things I am trying to learn.
Learnt this in my final moments in Uni, been a ghost since then. Unfortunately I lost lots of “friends” but I’m glad for the people I have now❤
Silence has saved me from alot of problems in this life o ❤ plus it guarantees your blessings not being tempered with bad energy 😊. Great video ❤
Thank you 💕
Love this !❤💯🙏🏼
Uuummm can we please get my girl to 100k before the year ends?😘
Recently I’ve sitting on my “blessings” and “goodnews” until I’m ready to share. ❤
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Avoid defending yourself is a big problem I face and this video has helped me realize I don't need too, it's always been like a pin pricking me I have to speak defend myself but I now understand silence is best thank you kamsi.
You’re welcome hun
Same here 🥺❤️
Boundaries are something I learnt very late but I’m so grateful I’m unlearned all this 😅 it saved my
Life
You don’t have to burn every bridge ✅
Listen more , say less ✅
Omg ...thanks Kam Kam 🎉 this video is filled with so much wise words
You're so welcome!🤍
Something I've learnt and still learning is to not divulge too much information. Being a free minded person i say certain things that i shouldn't even say to just anyone. I've discovered that being intentional about not sharing too much really helps.
Period though … like live in silence you don’t know that the next person friend or not is thinking…. But me watch first 😅
The first line, is probably my new mantra… “ I owe no one any explanation “ ❤.
The ability to be quite is now a skill to be practiced in recent times.
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Facts!!!
I hate to think I talk too much but I know for a fact that in my struggling moments, (guilt, need to be understood) I’ve shared a lot more than I should and then sometimes it turns into a fight and then it clicks… they didn’t deserve that explanation. I’m beginning to learn that people often times decide to misunderstand you cos it feeds their crazy selves. Funny right? Yeah, humans are complex.
Then the part of getting out of character with people. It’s always due to see finish.
Surprisingly, I hardly share on social media, like I never feel the need to comment or have an opinion on every thing. That keeps me sooooo sane. Vulnerability on this internet highway is expensive and I don’t ever want to be a scape goat.
Being the smartest person in the room. Damn sisssss I get so irritated that I use want to screammmm, “can you just hold your horses.”
There is so much power in silence. Sitting in silence is definitely one of the things I’m learning to do based on experience of “sharing.”
I battle shame and guilt as an inherent emotion and that makes me share unnecessary details cos I feel if I do maybe they’ll understand me. (Some PTSD shit) I’ve been doing a lot of work on my self with regards this.
Loving myself and knowing that they don’t need to know about my past or struggle to live and accept me. I mean I’m not VICTIM. If they love me understand me and want me around, great!!! And if not, GREAT.
Don’t share your plans before the process is forthcoming. Cos I mean, if it doesn’t come through, you’re gonna have to do some explanation cos I mean, you put it out there.
So much to learn. ❤❤
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This was literally the best video I watched about this topic, you gave an explanation that made a lot of sense instead of just repeating "oh don't tell people about your life"
Loveeeeed watching this. So many gems! You should do a TED talk on boundaries, you've definitely mastered it.
I think have gotten to a point in my life where I gradually open up to people. What i do that works for me,well I have very few friends and for me to share something to you, i will analyze the way you talk about people and the way you share stuffs your friends share in confidence and this will help me know the kind of person you are not what to share or not to share
this is me and due to the fact i dont talk or join my other friends in gossiping it has made me loose almost all my friends and sometimes makes me feel like im very weird.. but dz video is everything i need... thank you
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Today I’m taking this line seriously
“You owe nobody an explanation“ and that’s on period 😌
I am a victim of these and I am honestly Grateful to see Kamsi speak about my weaknesses. I am intentionally unlearning these habits especially that number 4, I always feel like I owe my friends all explanations when the whole time they really don’t care, they just want to know what’s happening in my life… I had someone in my life who I thought was a friend to me, I confided in her and told her everything about myself (I mean everything) this person went round telling people everything I told her including people that she is very much aware of their hate for me. What pains me most is she telling them about a life threatening incident that happened to me and I told her about it ( I don’t want to go deep into this as it is too hurtful )… This is someone that I single handedly celebrated her surprised bridal shower when all her other friends didn’t show up. Well, I’ve learnt my lessons as my mum always told me that my problems in life will come from friends and I didn’t listen….
Thank you Kamsi for this video ❤
I hope you heal from this ❤️
🥺 praying you heal🤍
@@favourofudje1763 Amen🙏🏻
@@kamsinnamani Amen 🙏🏻
I’m so sorry love, sending you hugs. You’ll heal from this.
I'm low key obsessed because tell me why I'm keeping count of your subscribers, 100 each video. 100k our end of the year goal
You go girl
Sisss, tough truths. I am trying to learn these because talking too much isn't helpful. Sometimes you make comments and then start regretting it so much.
Girll…like why did I tell her all of that?!😭
That last point makes so much sense. I keep saying I’ll do something to my friends and we’ll talk about it but when it comes down to starting the actual work I feel so demotivated.
This video has so much insight. Thank you Kamsi ❤
1)Listen more and talk less
When you talk less your words hold more weight and you avoid over sharing.
2)Learning to not defend yourself
Especially when they have their minds made up
3)Learn to play the fool sometimes
You don’t need to attack people for every information you hear they did,just learn to protect yourself from them
4)You owe NOBODY an explanation
•You do not need to answer every question especially if it’s rude
•Respond to unnecessary questions with questions
•Don’t ask questions you don’t want to be asked
•Be more assertive
5)Keep your plans to yourself
•Delayed gratification is better than instant gratification
•saves you the stress from dealing with things from people
Okayy sis coming through with the summary
New subscriber and I am still learning at 54 years old. Thanks for this video. Mental health therapy❤
Thank you so much for this information
I really enjoy this series.
This is eye opening
The neatness of this video❤❤❤
You’ll remain my fave ❤
I love these kind of videos
kamsi, you’re so full of wisdom
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Kamsi has shook the table 🤣🤣😂💖💖💖Loved it!💖
I really enjoyed this ❤
This video is screaming quality🔥
I enjoyed this! Well done kam kam🥰🥰
thank you so much for this. i really need to keep silent in this season
Love the background!
Thank you so much Kamsi, this was a lot of value. I really appreciate.
These had to be said. They’re so helpful
Thank you for this. Learning so much from you and your lifestyle
Nice one Kamsi❤️ every point made is very valid💯
This was so insightful. Thank you ❤
Girl I love your energy. I'm so inspired
Great points and tips. Just subscribed. Cheers to almost 100k🎉
Beautiful kamsi…. Thanks for always sharing
She's looking good♥️💯
This video is so insightful. Thank you Kamsi 🤗🙏🥰
I really needed this. Thanks big Sis✌️💜
The magical boundary thing is so true.
The first line stood out for me the most 🥰😊😊❤️
Thank you for this 🤦🏾♀️🙏🏾👸🏾 seems you were talking to me 🫶🏿
This video actually came through at the right time 🥺
Appreciate this
I have missed this series so muchhhhhh❤️❤️❤️❤️ thank you Kamsi
I couldn't agree more with everything you said ❤️
This video is so so valid, thank youu. I’m working on being less defensive. I have already mastered keeping my plans to myself.
This is one of the best lessons I've received this year, thank you kamsi
I was just talking about this issue with my friend today and just what , Kamsi has given it to us ❤
Silence is power, I really loved these points❤thank you Kamsi
This is intelligent kamsi
Will definitely work with this tips
Thank you 🤗
Am your Kenyan fan here love your content 😍🇰🇪❤️
Am kenyan too this video was so insightful
I love you for your wisdom… Much love from here kamsi and I hope to see you in person soon 🎉
Thank you so much,Kamsi for this video!
You always speak with much wisdom 🤍
I'm glad I came across this video.
It taught me a whole lot.
Thank you, Kamsi.
You've earned a new subscriber. ❤
The video quality is top notch
Much love from Ghana 🇬🇭 dear❤
Silence is power..the video we all needed🇰🇪
Thank you for these important lessons, Kamsi. Truly appreciate these thoughtful pieces of advice.😊💪🏾
Always educative. I learn alot from you.
Thanks for teaching us how to navigate life easily...
I totally agree with your first statement 💯
Literally my mantra lol
Facts facts and more facts!!!! 😊
Thank you so much Kam
Yes Sis thank u for reminding me to shut my mouth.
Sooo important!
Thank you so much 😊 for this video 📸. It was really eye opening
Talking to much actually spoils a alot of things. I will definitely put this Ur tips into practice
It really does, thank you x
Love love learning from you girll💜
🥹 thank you so much 🤍
✨”You owe Nobody an explanation”
Okay this whole video is too deep mehn
People don’t really have to know your whole personality, and that part about saying your plans before it happens! Hmmmm 📌
Enjoyed the whole video 👏💜
Point 2 was a really hard one for me… And I learnt it in a really tough way😢 But yeahhh I know better now😊 Thank you Kamsi ❤
Great video Kasmsi I would also add move you languages you are learning or that you speak in silence to. Once people know you speak their language they can act funny or if you speak more languages than them
This is the best video I have watched this year in terms of relevance ❤
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Thank u 🤍
Hey kamsi! 😃❤️
Thank you so much Kamsi for this wonderful video, it’s very informative and helpful. I learnt a lot ❤
Happy to hear🤍
My goodness, people have audacity to ask really personal questions. I literally don’t ask people questions I don’t feel comfortable answering myself and guess what…..they’ll still ask you. I just started telling lies abeg which’s actually difficult. I’m going to start throwing these questions back and say “I won’t disclose that information” when they answer. 🤭🤭🤭
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Spot on
Thank you 😊
Chaiiii I am first todayyyyyy 💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽
Kamsi I love youuuuu🥺❤️
Kpocha Kpocha,I hear you.
Thanks 😊
This video felt like an entire church sermon..Thank you
Haha aww🤍
Truth!!!
You don't have to burn every bridge 💯
I love this topic alot
Cuz i know i talk too much
Immediately u post thus and it pop up on my phone, i just av to leave the site i am to watch this🔥
I love u now and always Kamsi👑🤝
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But you know if we are to meet, it is going to be weird. With both parties trying not to talk too much.
Hi Kamsi Girl!!!!
U've hit the nail at the right spot 😇😇😇👏👏👏, uve said it as it is Girl!! Kudos to you girl!!!! Nobody is ever obliged to disclose what we don't have to, even to our loved ones, not to talk less of an outsider🤐🤐🤐🤐 some people are too nosy 🤬🤬🤬, we need to tell them to shut the f××× up, when they start prying into ones business, no one owes anyone any explanation. As you mentioned, the village people will twist the information they may have about the person out of proportion, in order to have 5 minutes of fame. Tell the village people to go on si òúń, LOL. I bet your advice will go a long way to everybody and to Kamsi Gang, Gang!!!!!, let's continue haling our Sister. Greeeeeeeat vlog girl
🥹 thank you 🤍