Autistic Unmasking Tips (quarantine edition)
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- čas přidán 7. 09. 2024
- Finding ways to be positive about our circumstances due to the Corona virus, and using this time to begin unmasking! Tips & helpful advice.
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Persona is the worst for me, I have this shitty fake personaly I use for everything and it’s so damn hard to turn it off that I don’t even know who I am anymore. Partly a result of decades of abuse and neglect.
Then who are you?
I completely agree, i mask as a complete dick and people dislike me and ill go home and cry
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I'm not autistic, but judging by the comments this video is very helpful to autistic people. I'm leaving this comment to help boost the algorithm so that it might reach more people who might need to see this 🙂
Thank you for helping to boost this video! I'm glad I, an autistic, was able to see it! So, thank you!
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Thank you. I'm 35 and just discovered my autism. It's so hard when you've been raised NT your whole life. Really hoping I can start living in a way that's not so difficult for my brain. I'm so tired of melting down and burning out.
Same here, I found out a few years ago and I'm about to be 33. It answers so many things though, and the burnouts and the meltdowns make much more sense now.
I have like masked so much throughout my life I mask more than i be myself I constantly feel so drained and I feel like I have lost who I am and I don’t know who I am anymore tysm for this video ❤️❤️
saying autism is misunderstood would be a gross understatement, thank you for clearing this up for me quite a bit.
I'm 35 and I'm now strongly suspecting I've been masking all my life without being aware of it. That and not knowing what stimming is so I just ignored it as fidgeting and liking to move around. So I often crash and sometimes melt down but never connected it to anything.
I'm so used to being the person I'm expected to be that I'm unsure of who I am.
On top of that I recently worked out (or admitted or understood) that I'm trans.
So it's gonna be a whole process to work out what's a mask and what's under it.
I relate to the content of this video quite profoundly. I already came to much the same conclusions recently during these socially distanced times, which coincidentally began around the same time I experienced my most intense and longest burnout in life thus far.
I did not realize the toll masking has taken on me, and had no idea how much of my self I had been suppressing. Not only mentally, but physically. While in lockdown and in burnout, not only did I no longer have to continue suppressing myself, but my natural body language began emerging without my approval. I suppose, I simply no longer had the energy to withhold it any longer.
This burnout was like being on survival mode, all unnecessary systems just crashed. Or in computer terminology, it was a bluescreen of death that I could only boot on safe mode.
Every program I had created throughout life to conceal my true nature was no longer of priority and I didn't have the energy to support it.
It's worse than a shutdown in that the effects are prolonged and you feel stuck like you can't return to the mask even when your energy is being replenished. I think it might have permanently damaged some of my masking programs if that makes any sense. However, I am still not fully recovered so I do not know how permanent exactly it truly is.
As I mentioned, I am still currently in recovery, but now I am debating how much of my former mask I should return to. I know we all have to mask to some extent, and I need to still effectively communicate with others and build healthy interpersonal relationships.
I just wish I knew where the line should be in between being authentic and being appropriate/considerate of others and the setting. Still not quite sure how to determine this.
Thank you for your video. It aligned quite well for my personal experience on this topic as well. I cannot believe I have not found your channel previously. At least I have now.
Take care & stay safe 💚🙂😷
Asperger's from the Inside has a really helpful video on the topic. It's related to the #takethemaskoff hashtag and it's called "The worst advice you can give an autistic person." It's basically about striking the balance between being authentic and functioning in NT society, and I found it helpful. I hope you're feeling better! I definitely relate to your post and your struggle.
Ready to go back to the real world?
Your explanation is perfect. It explained my exact situation.
Thank you for this 😭 I needed this. I’ve been really struggling to unmask but desiring too very much ❤️ I appreciate the tips!
This was great, I'm just diagnosed autistic (f47) & feeling pretty lost as to who I am. Feel like I'd built up something (persona) that I walk about in, and now questioning if the whole thing's a full-body mask. And if so, where's my actual personality? It's really tough. I'm constantly caught between expressing my authentic reactions & not wanting to be annoying or inconsiderate. I feel like I've lost all my social skills thru being self-aware. And I agree lockdown had a big effect. I realised I liked wearing an actual physical mask as I didn't have to think about what my face was doing. But now it seems like a big effort to convince my face to "behave." Think this is gonna take a while to sort thru!
it’s so scary to unmask! i feel bad for the people around me
she mentioned masking as a social persona, i think im doing that when my family is around, playing the perfect extroverted family member. its really fun to do so and social stuff doesnt take anytging near the usual amount of energy with my perfect mask on
This was very helpful, for someone who never understood my autism and not knowing my own emotions and what was going on. This was helpful to open my door to understanding how to be myself... I love your armour hair, I also don't shave I think it's beautiful. Thank you for this video, very cool decor
No idea why this video is so underwatched.
Thank you for your tips, they are very helpful. (I hope you won't be upset but the music made difficult to listen to you, but it's probably because I am very stressed right know, so please, don't get it wrong 🙂)
I get so angry at computers too. I expect them to work a certain way and when they don't (which is more often than not) I get all agitated. I don't use computers for things I don't need to use a computer for. Unfortunately, we are using computers for everything now. I'm worried about my future because I hate computers and I won't be able to do anything without them.
that was brilliant!!! thank you! so so intelligent and wonderful and im feeling excited to be me fully openly after this! x
I watched it after 2 years of pandemic and in the middle of my ASD diagnosis (f43) - and whether or not I am autistic (though it've already turned out I can be in BAP), you were right: pandemic could catalyze self-awareness and self help, also in autistic point of view.
I've just got done with about 4 months of weekly interviews at various places (done now as I've landed a new job) and I totally feel that bit about personas. I'd be going into an interview with the intention of /not/ masking (because I don't want to set an expectation that'll force me to do so at a new workplace) but as soon as the call started I could feel that persona slipping into place. Feels something like putting my head in one of those whole head latex masks I remember from the 90s, only if they were form fitting.
thank you🥺
I would like to follow you, but background music and effects are too much on the senses.
Hi, are you able to upload this without the background music? Can’t watch it like this. Thanks
And also without the weird glitchy graphics over the top. Hurt my eyes & overloaded me.
Same. This hurts my eyes
Thank you so much
Thank you for the content but plz remove the music and those visual effects. #sensoryattacks
What you say is interesting enough you don't need the props.
Great tips thank you!
i wonder, does stimming make NT people feel better? cause it does for me but i dont do it usually cause im not used to it