Jimmy Carr Doesn’t Think He’s Punching Down | Conan O'Brien Needs A Friend

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Komentáře • 422

  • @mjr2451
    @mjr2451 Před 9 dny +225

    “Intention and context matter… There’s a big difference between homelessness and camping“. That killed me.

    • @dimitrimozhovy230
      @dimitrimozhovy230 Před 9 dny +11

      *Intention and context

    • @INRamos13
      @INRamos13 Před 9 dny +1

      You didn't even understand it.

    • @mjr2451
      @mjr2451 Před 9 dny +8

      I use voice dictation on my phone. Damn autocorrect :p

    • @BleachDemon99
      @BleachDemon99 Před 9 dny +1

      ⁠@@INRamos13could you enlighten me? I missed the point…..

    • @Ou8y2k2
      @Ou8y2k2 Před 7 dny

      @@BleachDemon99 I'll bite, assuming you're not joking: Carr didn't say that line in jest but meant that comics aren't usually malicious because of their 'intention and context'. Furthermore, Conan and co. didn't laugh at that point. What was there to laugh about when comparing camping and homelessness? You see, comedy is subjective.

  • @treasonabledoubt7251
    @treasonabledoubt7251 Před 9 dny +93

    If I ever meet Conan, I vow to thank him for the years of laughter from so many things, in so many ways, pause, and say "my wife, though... Not a fan."

  • @annyrisaponte4161
    @annyrisaponte4161 Před 7 dny +91

    "People laugh at the wrong thing because they know what the right thing is."

  • @ronhudson3730
    @ronhudson3730 Před 9 dny +213

    Carr has to be one of the most articulate people I have ever heard or seen. His ability to convey complex thoughts, at a machine-gun pace, while being comprehensible, is astounding.

    • @morbidmanmusic
      @morbidmanmusic Před 9 dny +7

      it isn't rocket science though...

    • @mikebrown8251
      @mikebrown8251 Před 9 dny +5

      Would you say that if he were a person of color?

    • @IanDavidH
      @IanDavidH Před 9 dny +9

      @@morbidmanmusic Whats the difference between a good speaker and rocket science?

    • @TheLunarnotes
      @TheLunarnotes Před 9 dny +5

      agreed. Problem is, he's just not funny. He hasn't made me laugh once in the 20 years he's been on the UK circuit.

    • @jesperjee
      @jesperjee Před 9 dny +16

      @@mikebrown8251 Huh? What does that have to do with anything??

  • @coreybangs
    @coreybangs Před 9 dny +34

    (3:40) I can relate to "Comedians, we desperately, desperately, want to be loved; entirely on our own terms". It is enlightening and a burden. 😆

  • @thl205
    @thl205 Před 9 dny +57

    Harvard-educated comedian meets Cambridge-educated comedian and we get probably the most articulate and deep dive into the "cancel culture" subject I've seen. I've heard a thousand boring variations of "oh no, people are so sensitive these days" but no one ever explained the controversy -- or really, lack of controversy -- so well.

    • @joshuafisher4241
      @joshuafisher4241 Před 5 dny +6

      It's not really a lack though, they just don't realise you can't judge it by what happens to decades established comedians like Gervais and Chappelle. People tried to get them kicked off Netflix. That's cancel culture (the attempt). The real test is would Don Rickles be able to start today? I don't think he would and we're a poorer culture for it

    • @jedinxf7
      @jedinxf7 Před 4 dny

      ​@@joshuafisher4241people with no power tried to get multimillionaires off a nearly trillion dollar company's platform, and the result was additional specials in the 10M to 20M range for them. if only we all had such problems.

    • @kutark
      @kutark Před 2 dny +3

      Thank you. Saved me having to type out the same basic post.
      It's great to hear 2 guys with 7 or 8 figure bank accounts and 20+ year careers telling everyone else that cancel culture doesn't exist.​@joshuafisher4241

    • @thl205
      @thl205 Před 2 dny +3

      @@kutark I love people with no experience of comedy pretending like they know the industry better than working comedians.

    • @hurrayforanonyms
      @hurrayforanonyms Před 2 dny +2

      ​@@joshuafisher4241I love how the argument that comedians are being cancelled is so easily disproven that you have to move to goal posts. So now it's about imagining that unknown comedians are being cancelled.
      Everyone can name numerous comedians famous for anti-woke comedy, so you have to pretend that it's nobody comedians, ones that people can't immediately name, who are being silenced somehow. At what point do you question your argument instead of making it increasingly niche?
      Since stand-up began there's been a never-ending string of comedians who court controversy and it helps make them famous. In 5 to 10 years the people you're pretending are suppressed will be famous. But you'll likely just replace '2024' with '2029', '2034', and blindly carry on making the same incorrect argument.
      Of course Don Rickles could start today. He just mightn't do as well with a few of the hacky racist jokes. Rickles would point at a black audience member and say 'your brother is robbing my hotel room'. He'd pull his eyes while saying 'ching chong' and call it an impression. Which of these jokes do you think is a huge loss to our culture? I'm not even sure how you think this junk has disappeared when Shane Gillis literally got famous by doing the same lazy asian impersonations that Rickles did in the 70s and 80s.

  • @7dwyerm
    @7dwyerm Před 9 dny +45

    I love Conan. Thank you for using your intellect to spread laughter and joy ❤

  • @KevRyanCG
    @KevRyanCG Před 9 dny +49

    The funniest thing about Jimmy Carr is the disparity between his eloquent musings on the nature of comedy itself, and his actual jokes.

    • @AntonGully
      @AntonGully Před 6 dny +1

      Yup. He's funny. His comedy is dire. Some people like it. Which is also dire. Akuna matata.

    • @thecocktailian2091
      @thecocktailian2091 Před 5 dny

      You have to be bright to make dim funny.

  • @jessi2077
    @jessi2077 Před 9 dny +62

    I saw Jimmy at OHare airport and I admit I didn’t go up to him…I just excitedly texted my family 😆

    • @DavidAlvarado-js3qq
      @DavidAlvarado-js3qq Před 9 dny +7

      Ironically, your family would have probably gone up to him to take pictures to send to you.

    • @littleshopofrandom685
      @littleshopofrandom685 Před 9 dny +1

      My brother harassed jerome iginla in an airport line. I just felt so bad for the guy, he's been on a plane for 5 hours. leave the guy alone. haha.

    • @otter011
      @otter011 Před 8 dny

      My dad accidentally bumped into an actor who I had a huge crush on when I was as teenager. He told him that I had a crush on him, bought him a drink, texted me that he’s sitting next to him, and left. I was so embarrassed. Plus mad that he didn’t ask for anything 😄 it hadn’t even occurred to him

    • @chelsea-pv3bm
      @chelsea-pv3bm Před 4 dny

      ​@@littleshopofrandom685I love this random reference to Jerome Iginla! The only celebs I've ever met are hockey-related: Iginla and Walter Gretzky, who came over to my family at the airport when we said goodbye to my dad for a NATO tour. The Iginla interaction was also completely unprompted; my family visited a close neighbour in the Stollery Children's Hospital in Edmonton, where one ward was for adult stroke patients at the time. That neighbour who's suffered a stroke was like an uncle to us and it was a difficult visit, but Jerome Iginla was doing rounds visiting kids at the hospital that day! He dropped by our room (my neighbour is a massive hockey fan) and gave my neighbour, my younger brother & I autographed photos of him on the ice, with personalized messages. I've never been a sports fan at all really, but that is a hockey hero right there - just a kind & altruistic person :)

  • @user-dh6mw7ok8o
    @user-dh6mw7ok8o Před 9 dny +13

    I've literally watched Jimmy Carr's Netflix special just to get offended by his rudeness - it's part of the attraction

  • @pochatablet5948
    @pochatablet5948 Před 9 dny +9

    Love Jimmy. Always funny, articulate, and lightening fast.

  • @Vyzard
    @Vyzard Před 9 dny +3

    So glad that most of this discussion has been uploaded in video format. Now I wonder if they'll also upload the last bit where Carr thinks he need to do an ad read

  • @AcEo0
    @AcEo0 Před 9 dny +4

    best combo ever! ❤

  • @thoughtgale
    @thoughtgale Před 9 dny +2

    I've really enjoyed the spate of Jimmy Carr appearances on podcasts, the conversations have been interesting and funny!

  • @badacob
    @badacob Před 2 dny +1

    can we please get the whole podcast here on youtube insted of 10 min clips

  • @lmac40762
    @lmac40762 Před 4 dny +1

    I agree with his bit about intention and context. It's not hard to tell if you are being laughed with or laughed at.

  • @kool263
    @kool263 Před 7 dny +1

    I love horror for the different real life themes but comedy and comedians can cut through to the emotions and feelings of everyday life. It’s funny and they make it comfortable to talk about things

  • @noahdoss1967
    @noahdoss1967 Před 6 dny +3

    Trust the experts extends to comedians too. If a comedian says “cancel culture is a self-made illusion” and a bunch of schmucks in youtube comments say it’s a real, problematic thing, I’ll trust the experts, dummies.

  • @todddavis7438
    @todddavis7438 Před 8 dny +2

    I could listen to Jimmy Carr all day. Like his comedy, love his engaging conversation.

  • @mohamed_m_hagag
    @mohamed_m_hagag Před 9 dny +5

    Jimmy Carr really looks like a young Nixon, I guess that is the closest Conan will get to his dream of having Nixon on the podcast, he might be subconsciously enjoying this interview just for this

  • @JMPT
    @JMPT Před 9 dny +4

    Very Nice 🧡🖤

  • @Jayk129
    @Jayk129 Před 9 dny +8

    The two funniest people on the planet having a nice little conversation.

  • @lachauntiswashington231

    This is great 👍 👌 😂😂

  • @shiryu22
    @shiryu22 Před 9 dny +4

    sona seems like a huge fan!

    • @summerrr1
      @summerrr1 Před 9 dny

      No she’s just a huge lump

  • @Where_is_Waldo
    @Where_is_Waldo Před dnem

    3:24 Great musicians haven't got that either. Sure, there's plenty of broadly popular musicians who think that way and they have many fans and, even if most of their fans just join in the trend, some of those fans truly think they sound awesome or think they're saying something deep and meaningful that needs to be said even if it's been said thousands of times by many different artists but I really think that all of the music I love is music that was created by people who really loved what they were creating even if no one else likes it. You can hear the passion in that music. It doesn't come and go with a trend, the people who love it *really* love it.

  • @zane8116
    @zane8116 Před 6 dny +1

    Spot on about dragging partners to the show! My wife is as intelligent as they come but she's just not very good with puns. I probably missed half of Jimmy's jokes because I was explaining the previous one to her 😂

  • @DoctorFurioso
    @DoctorFurioso Před 9 dny +24

    I agree with Carr here and think he has a strong ethical stance about "dark" or "edgy" humour, but "punching down" clearly has everything to do with power and nothing to do with self-image. I've noticed comedians like Carr or Frankie Boyle reject this idea outright, but clearly they are, in a social sense, powerful figures on a stage, commanding an audience. Whether it's a fair accusation to say they're "punching down" is another story, but it's a term that exists for a good reason.

    • @DarkMoonWayfarer
      @DarkMoonWayfarer Před 9 dny +8

      Frankie Boyle does not punch down, in fact he's roasted Ricky Gervais for doing exactly that.

    • @raidwipe
      @raidwipe Před 8 dny +2

      It has been a while but doesn't Boyle punch up? He makes edgy jokes but I only remember them being about figures like the queen

    • @lolz1317
      @lolz1317 Před 4 dny

      I think that's the point he's making. I'm gonna exagarate your point a bit, i know that it's not what you mean. But let's say you mean he is punching down because he's in command of an audience, it says more about your point of view then his. It is offcourse a discussion with multiple point of views, opinions and a lot of examples far left and right.

  • @guinnessharvey4476
    @guinnessharvey4476 Před 9 dny +4

    “My wife. . . .not a fan “:)

  • @dbm212
    @dbm212 Před 3 dny

    It’s amazing the people that complain about cancel culture still sell out arenas full of people that want to hear them talk.

  • @elitenight815
    @elitenight815 Před 9 dny +37

    I'm not a fan of Jimmy but he has good points about the reality of cancel culture. But the punching down joke at the end was disingenuous to what "punching down" really means and the vid cuts off and doesnt get to him explaining what he thinks about it. The title for the vid can probably be different

    • @brucelee4996
      @brucelee4996 Před 9 dny +2

      You sound like a whiny, sniveller.
      🤫 🚼🍼

    • @marcomartinez8608
      @marcomartinez8608 Před 9 dny +5

      That's as deep as he gets into it

    • @elitenight815
      @elitenight815 Před 9 dny +10

      @@marcomartinez8608 thats a shame. The title isnt very good then

    • @sqronce
      @sqronce Před 9 dny +3

      Yeah, with the cut so quick after the joke, I immediately got curious as to whether/how many people in the comments wouldn't understand that that bit was a joke (especially because of the video title.) I'm not keen to put a number on how many I've seen misunderstand it, because I'd need to mind read to properly categorise anyone, but, maybe 4-ish?

  • @DavidAlvarado-js3qq
    @DavidAlvarado-js3qq Před 9 dny +4

    The Overton Window is indeed shifting. I must admit to getting a little thrill watching Conan go after La Bamba's lifestyle back in the naughties (2000s).

  • @zarazen8110
    @zarazen8110 Před 9 dny +1

    LOVE YOU, CONAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAN ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @roberthoward9500
    @roberthoward9500 Před 9 dny +98

    Ricky Gervais is the perfect example of using "cancel culture" to his own ends. When he tells a bad joke that the audience didn't laugh at he screams "your cancelling me" rather than being strong enough to admit to himself the joke sucked. Too easy for comedians these days to cry "cancel culture" whenever people don't laugh at their jokes. I am glad Jimmy Carr is not one of those comedians.

    • @somanytakennames
      @somanytakennames Před 9 dny +15

      I always found it ironic that Ricky gets so much praise for his Golden Globe moments considering how important and amazing he sees himself to be.

    • @jerekorsumaki437
      @jerekorsumaki437 Před 9 dny +16

      What are you on about. Ricky's literally saying 'I don't care, f*ck off!'. Cancel culture truly has gone too far. Actors (and others as well) have been fired for nearly decade old tweets. And Ricky has another motto: just because you're offended, doesn't mean you're right.

    • @DrainYouOut
      @DrainYouOut Před 9 dny +33

      @@jerekorsumaki437 people have always been "cancelled" and fired for saying things, its just that said "things" have changed into things you might not agree with

    • @DrainYouOut
      @DrainYouOut Před 9 dny +10

      while I might not agree with firing someone for something they said 10 years ago when they have since showed they don't believe such things, its still not something new and has been happening forever.

    • @danielbeaumont3744
      @danielbeaumont3744 Před 9 dny +15

      @@jerekorsumaki437 brace yourselves, the gervais simps have arrived

  • @somanytakennames
    @somanytakennames Před 9 dny +213

    How refreshing to hear a comedian, who tests the line as regular as Jimmy does, talk about how blown out of proportion cancel culture is.

    • @marcomartinez8608
      @marcomartinez8608 Před 9 dny +51

      Right. It's very original. No other comedian does that lol

    • @francescaa8331
      @francescaa8331 Před 9 dny +1

      💯

    • @karlalden2076
      @karlalden2076 Před 9 dny +18

      That's all comedians do ever anymore and it's not funny shut up

    • @DoomPlague
      @DoomPlague Před 9 dny +42

      @@karlalden2076 Comedians are always claiming that cancel culture isn't real and isn't ruining comedy? Because I still hear many comedians whining about cancel culture.

    • @rishabhpb
      @rishabhpb Před 9 dny +41

      ​@@marcomartinez8608by blown out of proportion, they mean how it's a bunch of nonsense that isn't really a threat to anybody

  • @lonelyone
    @lonelyone Před 7 dny +1

    It's not punching down when you're an equal opportunity offender. It would be worse if some groups got preferential treatment for "not being able to take a joke."

  • @TheMichaeljmanzella
    @TheMichaeljmanzella Před 9 dny +1

    i miss the string dance

  • @jackprather81
    @jackprather81 Před 9 dny +17

    If I use vocabulary that is currently common on network television at my job on a consistent basis I would not be asked to return. I'm talking about vocabulary that has been treated this way since long before I was born. Censoring yourself to make your own life better has always been a thing. People are just salty that what they need to censor changes over time.
    Also, I'm betting many religious people wouldn't recognize that they've been exercising the same control of personal expression for centuries. These are the same people whining about "cancel culture."

    • @patreekotime4578
      @patreekotime4578 Před 9 dny

      Well, the first example is more like code-switching. Your work personality can be Florence Nightengale while your off-work personality can be a filthy sailor. Code-switching isn't always censorship though... a mild mannered person may take on a "tough" persona when in a scary situation. Self-censoring would be that even the filthy sailor isnt saying things they really want to say because they fear some kind of backlash. And self-censoring is also different than genuine evolution which is when a person grows up a little and decides for themselves they no longer think that way or find thst thing appropriate to say. It's important I think to understand all three as different things. It goes back to intentionality and context as Jimmy said. So no, it isnt all "cancel culture"... that is a specific thing with a specific impact on people.

    • @jedinxf7
      @jedinxf7 Před 4 dny

      ​@@patreekotime4578I think an honest look at most code switching would recognize it as a form of (potentially benign ) self censorship. it is "voluntary" (but with perceived or real consequences for not engaging in it) change of expression to accommodate social norms that are externally imposed. sure some of it is simply a form of bilingualism or a species of it, when some welcome personal or social contexts allow or demand use of other language or social register , but when it's about confirming to an employer's norms built around a particular dominant culture? calling it code switching doesn't mean it isn't self censorship; some rhombuses are also squares.

    • @patreekotime4578
      @patreekotime4578 Před 4 dny

      @@jedinxf7 That's the thing though: maybe the first time you ever walked into a job interview it was voluntary self censorship. Like meeting your in-laws or attending a church service when you don't normally go. But after you have worked a few decades you don't even realize that you *arn't* using profanity until you accidentally do. It's no longer a voluntary conscious act, it's a persona you strap on without even thinking about it. That's code switching. Not only is it unvoluntary, but sometimes we don't even know when we are doing it, and it isn't until someone else points it out that we even realize it. Ask anyone who has worked in customer service jobs for a long time. It just becomes part of the "auto-pilot" mode we all go into in the day-in day-out of life.

  • @jalavela
    @jalavela Před 9 dny +1

    Jimmy’s laugh makes me laugh

  • @shaunoezkewl8271
    @shaunoezkewl8271 Před 5 dny

    I think Jimmy Carr is hilarious but I also kind of hate him and want to insult him
    But the brilliance of Jimmy Carr is that like all Real Comedians he is happy to laugh at himself. He talks offensively to everyone laughing, then when people insult him back he laughs harder because he agrees he's a massive jerk.
    That is what a real comedian is, you can't make fun then cry when someone insults you back.

  • @Chimponaut
    @Chimponaut Před 9 dny +10

    Be sure to let me know when you find someone admitting to punching down.

  • @DarkMoonWayfarer
    @DarkMoonWayfarer Před 9 dny +28

    It's not just punching down that's a problem, it's inclusive humour vs exclusive humour.
    You've all seen it in action, when someone makes a joke at somebody's expense in a social setting. That makes them the joke and differentiates them from the group. When you do that on stage directed towards a group of people it's the same thing. When you do it to a group that's already marginalised in society, that's punching down and further compounds the problem.

    • @Jnoooooo
      @Jnoooooo Před 9 dny +1

      Why is it a problem when a comedian does it on stage? You can either watch them, or not. No big deal.
      PS I'm from one of these so-called marginalised groups, and I love the work of Jimmy Carr.

    • @retrospectology
      @retrospectology Před 9 dny +16

      Exactly. I think he's being a little dishonest when he tries to "turn around" the question and accuse the people criticizing 'punching down' as being the ones with a hierarchy.
      It shows that he actually doesn't understand what people mean when they talk about punching down.
      Social injustice creates the hierarchy, acknowledging the existence of that hierarchy and pointing out when a comedian's rhetoric reinforces it isn't advocating for the hierarchy. That's like saying criticizing slavery is admitting you think people should be slaves.

    • @DarkMoonWayfarer
      @DarkMoonWayfarer Před 9 dny +7

      ​@@retrospectologyWell said. It's worth noting that Jimmy Carr was caught evading taxes for millions of pounds in 2012. When I take that into account, plus his Cambridge school education, plus working in marketing for Shell Oil....I come to the conclusion that this guy doesn't see his privilege and also doesn't have a very good moral compass.

    • @Willbassyeah1
      @Willbassyeah1 Před 9 dny

      Have you seen Carr performance? He literally insults the paralympics.

    • @Banned4Life
      @Banned4Life Před 9 dny +1

      ​@@DarkMoonWayfarer Read a bit about the taxes and what happened there.

  • @Nobody-nw6jw
    @Nobody-nw6jw Před 5 dny

    Conan and Carr host and narrate a documentary/biography series collab with Ken Burns on comedy and western culture

  • @dbm212
    @dbm212 Před 3 dny

    What’s even more hilarious is he tried to goad Conan to throw his own staff under the bus as being a “filter” to his true humor. Yeah back track from that buddy

  • @NoHandle537
    @NoHandle537 Před 8 dny

    Jimmy Carr kills me. He's hilarious.

  • @williamalexander7481
    @williamalexander7481 Před 15 hodinami

    I adore Jimmy Carr so much

  • @CaptainCologne
    @CaptainCologne Před 9 dny +10

    Comedy doesn’t have to push boundaries. It just has to be funny.

    • @Uarehere
      @Uarehere Před 8 dny +7

      Comedy is funny BECAUSE it plays with boundaries and expectations.

  • @ThomasKameo
    @ThomasKameo Před 5 dny

    As an autistic person, who has stated openly that I want to get into a job by merit, not simply because I'm autistic, and in saying that have been removed from support groups due to that line of thinking, I must argue that cancel culture is very much a thing, even to those the policies are supposedly advocating for. And good lord, even the single-digit-aged kids in my families are getting into divisive politics now. Manic times.

    • @IntoTheWeeds71
      @IntoTheWeeds71 Před 5 dny

      Fellow autistic person, here. I can understand wanting to get into a job by merit, but the practical truth is that opportunities are rarely given by merit alone. Opportunities are given by people, and people are flawed - having been on the other side of the desk, I know sometimes it comes down to whoever the hirer likes best or thinks will be a good culture fit. None of that is about merit, but it happens all the time, which is why diversity & inclusion policies exist. It's easy to think about the opportunities one might miss based on a policy, but it's important to also consider how many opportunities other people missed, despite how much merit they had, because such policies didn't yet exist. As a close-to-home example, I'm hyper verbal, but non-verbal autistic folk or those who need far more accommodations will likely miss out on a bunch of opportunities, regardless of their on-paper merit. Apologies if I misunderstood what you said.

  • @davidb5173
    @davidb5173 Před 9 dny +6

    Jimmy is great and very thoughtful, but he's playing dumb at the end of this video. Punching down is absolutely a thing - if your jokes have real world impact and make life harder for groups of people who already have it tough, you're a bully

    • @DarkMoonWayfarer
      @DarkMoonWayfarer Před 9 dny

      He has to play dumb because his entire act revolves around making fun of people.

  • @idde4345
    @idde4345 Před 8 dny +5

    "Who is below me?"
    Come on Jimmy, you're an intelligent guy.
    I'm sure there are quite a few people you can think of who are having to deal with more crap in day to day life just by virtue of their skin color, religion or sexual orientation that you don't because you are a white, cissexual, straight guy. Who, as a most conservative estimate, is worth 15 million dollars. Other personal difficulties you or they may have not withstanding.
    And who are easy targets because of skincolor/sexual preference etc.. Surely you can grasp your place in a societal hierarchy, and how there are people 'below' you, and how punching down works. I don't believe for one second you actually think you're at the bottom of the totem pole in life.

    • @davideberhardt6150
      @davideberhardt6150 Před 2 dny

      I think the point he tried to bring across is that people talking about "punching down" project this social hierarchy onto other people and put these folks below "the comedian", which he rejects. In a way he's right, in actual society (what with him being a famous, well-heeled comedian) that's a bit of a moot point though.

  • @darinsingleton3553
    @darinsingleton3553 Před 6 dny +1

    I really like Jimmy .. and Conan; but the suggestion that "I'm not affected by cancel culture, ergo cancel culture doesn't exist," is rather myopic & self-serving.
    Further stating that part of the allure of comedy clubs, is as an arena where people can say or hear whatever they want .. the fact that there is a designated area for such freedom
    also belies that convenient dismissal of social / economic pressure.

  • @user-gj7yb4rg9t
    @user-gj7yb4rg9t Před 9 dny +4

    Conan O Brian Is The Worlds Most Funniest Person Alive I Love Him To Death He Is So Funny I’m A Huge Fan Blessings To Him Always From Dee Rico Ramirez

    • @BirdsElopeWithTheSun09
      @BirdsElopeWithTheSun09 Před 9 dny +1

      If only you loved writing normal sentences as much as you love Conan

    • @roosasainio3744
      @roosasainio3744 Před 9 dny +1

      ​@@BirdsElopeWithTheSun09English isn't everybody's first language and also some people aren't talented at writing in a way that's found generally "normal".
      If only you had the same enthusiasm to creating an actual personality that isn't reliant on bashing on other people's grammar as you do for making dumb CZcams comments.

    • @BirdsElopeWithTheSun09
      @BirdsElopeWithTheSun09 Před 8 dny +1

      @@roosasainio3744 It was a joke lol, and English not being your first language doesn't mean you don't know that you don't Capitalize Every Word.

    • @jedinxf7
      @jedinxf7 Před 4 dny

      my wife though , not a fan

  • @hm7745
    @hm7745 Před 5 dny

    "You laugh at the wrong thing, because you know what the right thing is" is a Ricky Gervais Quote. Could have said that.

    • @thecocktailian2091
      @thecocktailian2091 Před 5 dny

      You sure he is the originator? It has rather become a ubiquitous quote in the arena of our hyper PC world. I have no idea, I just know I have heard from multiple people.

    • @davideberhardt6150
      @davideberhardt6150 Před 2 dny

      That is just a fairly obvious observation. Pretty sure people thousands of years ago knew that, so no ... not a Gervais quote just because he may have said it at some point or other.

  • @GuidoGrasso
    @GuidoGrasso Před 9 dny +2

    Preference Falsification

  • @koho
    @koho Před 9 dny +6

    Jimmy is incredibly insightful and articulate. Oh - and funny. I'd ask him for a selfie, and I'd tell him that I like him.

  • @highdownmartin
    @highdownmartin Před 2 dny

    You try doing some of the stuff that Carr and chapelle and gervais do on your up and coming twenty minutes slots round the clubs. You’re going to find out that the rich can do what they like and the poor have to toe the line

  • @avtomatt554
    @avtomatt554 Před 9 dny +3

    Jimmy is absolutely brilliant, and I never thought I'd see this cross over. For all his brutal jokes, he's very down to Earth. I hope he and Conan do more stuff together. I love that Conan is trying to pick his brain, and he's delivering. I hope Jimmy comes back to the US soon, I'd love to see him live. Great comedian, one of my favorites.

  • @caffedinator5584
    @caffedinator5584 Před 9 dny +12

    Speaking of conflation… the term “punching down” doesn’t refer to thinking people have relative worth, rather it’s an acknowledgment that there’s a power hierarchy in society based on numerous factors - whether you actively participate in it or not.
    I think he’s too smart to misunderstand that.

    • @IAmebAdger
      @IAmebAdger Před 9 dny +1

      If you work in education you realise that nobody is ever too smart to misunderstand something. Every person, no matter how smart, has stupid moments, or ignorant moments. It's the human condition.

    • @theoriginaltommysteward
      @theoriginaltommysteward Před 9 dny +4

      He completely understands it and thinks it's irrelevant to comedy. As do most people.

    • @RobertSaxy
      @RobertSaxy Před 9 dny

      7:47 I think this is were he acknowledges what you’re saying and were he found the joke in this part of the conversation

    • @chocolatechimichanga
      @chocolatechimichanga Před 9 dny +1

      ​@@theoriginaltommystewardand he's right

    • @theoriginaltommysteward
      @theoriginaltommysteward Před 9 dny +1

      @@chocolatechimichanga I figured that would be implied in what I said but apparently not...

  • @Danetto
    @Danetto Před 7 dny

    jimmy carr is really funny

  • @mused89
    @mused89 Před dnem

    That is such a disingenuous argument by Carr at the end. "Show me your hierarchy of humans" - like we live in a completely equal society where everyone is treated the same way, and it's the people who point that out who are being the jerks. Entitled pr*ck.
    The fact that he's pretending to be an "everyman" gets even worse when you realize he's both grammar school and Cambridge-educated -so he was absolutely taught he was superior to others throughout his childhood.

  • @dikoo6506
    @dikoo6506 Před 9 dny

    When's Season 2 coming out?

  • @silverwing4153
    @silverwing4153 Před 4 dny

    I find an interesting idea behind it. Jimmy's jokes never come off as his serious opinion. I don't believe that his jokes about women are serious. I don't think his jokes about LGBTQ are serious. Nor about Africa, the middle east, or asia are serious. It's all the kinds of jokes you tell your friends at a party, but out loud and in public. They know you are joking. You aren't hiding your opinion behind a joke. And on top of that while he is throwing punches left and right up and down he also punches himself in the face just as offten.

  • @aaronarcee
    @aaronarcee Před 9 dny

    Comedy has been making fun of itself for like 30 years, with Letterman, Conan, etc to where it has become the "thing" and if it does not hit and is really funny in this" immortalized "way its just comes off as really bad and that is when people jump on it and say you cant say that blah blah

    • @thecocktailian2091
      @thecocktailian2091 Před 5 dny

      30 Years? Try 100. You ever seen some of Joey Bishops sets? Don Rickles? Dangerfield? Read any interviews or anecdotes with Larry Fine( three stooges)?

    • @aaronarcee
      @aaronarcee Před 5 dny

      @@thecocktailian2091 Yeah, like 4 of em. and they were outliers it was not part of the culture like it is now

  • @mrrd4444
    @mrrd4444 Před 9 dny +17

    The title sure is misleading and should probably be changed - all that being said, they're both right. People reward jokes that are intelligent, empathetic, and understand what they're talking about, and punish jokes that are ignorant and lazy. A lot of people make really smart trans jokes, for example, with obvious knowledge of the trans community and riffing on that, whereas others are just lazy, disconnected rehashes of often harmful stereotypes, or complaining about cancel culture or whatever. And definitely the worst version of this is when a comedian is super rich and joking to an audience that isn't that, because then what's to laugh about?

    • @elitenight815
      @elitenight815 Před 9 dny +1

      i feel the same, the title is misleading and could have better talked about their points and not the shallow joke at the end

    • @user-by8cl7wc9u
      @user-by8cl7wc9u Před 9 dny

      The issue is, I don’t think human beings are a hive mind collective. We have different tastes as to what is “smart” or “intelligent” or “harmful” which is why some people love Bill Burr and some people want to…cancel him.

  • @brianalbert8077
    @brianalbert8077 Před 9 dny +23

    Comedians who push the boundaries like Jimmy Carr owe a huge debt of gratitude to the immortal Lenny Bruce

    • @ellan.124
      @ellan.124 Před 9 dny

      No, Jimmy Carr is a bigot while Lenny Bruce was an actual comedian.

    • @guitarmatricide4834
      @guitarmatricide4834 Před 9 dny

      Practically every comedian since the 60s owes a tremendous debt to Lenny Bruce.
      Also, what the American justice system did to Lenny Bruce is a seriously unforgivable blemish on our résumé.

    • @artemislogic5252
      @artemislogic5252 Před 9 dny

      why is that

    • @brianalbert8077
      @brianalbert8077 Před 8 dny

      @@artemislogic5252 Lenny Bruce was the first stand up comedian to challenge obscenity laws that existed in the 50s and 60a. He was arrested multiple times for things he said but ultimately prevailed. He did more for freedom of speech than any human in the history of our planet. a true American Hero

  • @IrvSauce
    @IrvSauce Před 4 dny +6

    The intention is everything. Does Gervais have good intentions? No. Does Chapelle have good intentions? No. But Jimmy Carr, Bill Burr, Tina Fey, Colin Jost, Michael Che, and Tracy Morgan, etc do have those good intentions. That's the crux of the conversation around comedy in 2024.

    • @jedinxf7
      @jedinxf7 Před 4 dny

      bill burr's "intentions," like Chappelle's, are neither consistent nor always respectable. sometimes they are. the inability of people to agree on their intentions, though, is all the proof you need that they are not conveying them with enough clarity to expect applause where others get opprobrium

    • @JohnSmith-ot3zt
      @JohnSmith-ot3zt Před 4 dny

      excellent points, IrvSauce

    • @DarkMoonWayfarer
      @DarkMoonWayfarer Před 2 dny

      It's also about self awareness and realising you have deep seated issues about something. Bill Burr knows he has issues with women, so that factors into his comedy. He didn't always realise this, so his older stuff has a bit of a different flavour and probably hasn't aged well.

  • @krylesangerbeaver
    @krylesangerbeaver Před 9 dny +6

    Carr and Jeselnik are great for "crossing lines" and making it funny

    • @Spaghettaboutit
      @Spaghettaboutit Před 9 dny +4

      Cept Jeselnik never would pretend that he didn’t know what punching down was or what that means. He knows to toe the line and deliberately doesn’t punch down. He’s talked a lot about this and talks about wanting the challenge of making good jokes while working around hurting people that don’t deserve it.

  • @BURP39R
    @BURP39R Před 6 dny

    Jimmy's shoulder pads are huge

  • @seanfaherty
    @seanfaherty Před 3 dny +1

    I like Mr Carr but this last special was not his best work.
    If in attempting to be edgy you are in fact just cruel you are no longer funny.
    That being said I did find his terrible joke about the Roma hilarious on many levels. I’m probably going to hell.

  • @MrThemogget
    @MrThemogget Před 2 dny

    Broadly good conversation, and love Jimmy, but seriously, two incredibly rich people with enormous platforms talking about how cancel culture doesnt exists is absolutely tone deaf.

  • @sweetpain67
    @sweetpain67 Před 3 dny

    He looks like…a 327 yo man with an endless supply of hair dye. Just me?

  • @Spaghettaboutit
    @Spaghettaboutit Před 9 dny +4

    “I don’t see race.” - Jimmy Carr

  • @GPS379
    @GPS379 Před 9 dny

    I wish I could talk to you

  • @Dolphins_are_our_Overlords

    Cancel culture is an easy hack for unfunny/untalented comedians who cant do anything else.
    Go talk to clubs & talk to real funny comics & you will 100% get a majority of them calling it BS.
    People in the past saying wildest things that were also unfunny, got the heat from the public & rightfully so.
    Jimmy, gervais have been doing comedy on most sensitive like religion,race etc & are still here today and not 'cancelled'.

  • @samfilmkid
    @samfilmkid Před 9 dny +3

    He's like the love-child of Ricky Gervais and David Byrne.

    • @TheLshadows
      @TheLshadows Před 9 dny +2

      Ricky would love to be half as fast as Jimmy. Ricky's stand-up is abhorrent comparatively.

    • @samfilmkid
      @samfilmkid Před 9 dny +1

      @@TheLshadows Honestly, I always found his stand-up pretty mid at best, even before the press made him their new punching bag. I wish he would go back to writing shows and movies because I think he expresses himself in writing much better.

    • @TheLshadows
      @TheLshadows Před 9 dny +2

      @@samfilmkid Ricky has never written anything well by himself. He needs Stephen Merchant. Derek was trite, Afterlife was one of the worst shows I've ever seen.

    • @ryanyates4124
      @ryanyates4124 Před 9 dny +1

      ​@@TheLshadowsSpot on. Merchant's more recent stuff is very well written and has heart. People liked the emotional gut punch of Afterlife but Gervais' writing is awful

  • @claytonmorada
    @claytonmorada Před 5 dny

    I can explain it Conan. Your humor is overtly sophomoric with subtle tones of wit. Having to explain to someone else why I think you are funny ruins the joke and I then know these people are stuck in their own head and will never enjoy life as much as your fans do.

  • @davidliddle6477
    @davidliddle6477 Před 7 dny

    Have you heard Jimmy’s joke about the secret service? Had something to do with being Irish and serving the president…maybe it was a different comedian. It was tough making a joke about taking a bullet, blah, blah…

  • @INRamos13
    @INRamos13 Před 9 dny +4

    Comedians who hold all the establishment-approved opinions, one of which is personal friends with the Obama family, wonder what's this cancel culture everyone keeps whining about. They're free to say whatever they think, so clearly everyone else must be too!

  • @Pagliacci_Rex
    @Pagliacci_Rex Před 4 dny +2

    Punching down is when your humor is targeting people or groups already facing oppression and hatred from stereotypes. George Carlin stated it very well in regards to Andrew Dice Clay's antisemitic jokes despite being Jewish himself.

  • @scharaboosh
    @scharaboosh Před 5 dny +6

    It's really stupid to complain about journalists taking jokes out of context and then willfully misunderstanding what punching down means

  • @classiclife7204
    @classiclife7204 Před 8 dny +10

    Well, Jimmy, when George Carlin said "punching down", he meant punching down on those systemically marginalized by society and those who have chronic disabilities, stuff like that. So yeah, there are billions "lower" than a wealthy Englishman.

  • @ScottsBigCountry
    @ScottsBigCountry Před 5 dny

    I prefer to listen to Jimmy talk than do stand up. His latest special was awful, so tired, obvious and boring. But hey, he said something about cancel culture...again.

  • @JamesSmith-sw3nk
    @JamesSmith-sw3nk Před 9 dny +18

    Cancel culture doesn't exist once you get famous enough, average people still get cancelled from school or work opportunities because of 10yr+ social media posts.

  • @klausgartenstiel4586

    try to write "m*ron" without the * in a youtube comment, i dare you.

  • @colonialstraits1069
    @colonialstraits1069 Před 9 dny +17

    Not buying Jimmy’s line about him not being above anyone. It completely denies the role wealth and “status/class” play in the UK (and US). He’s a notorious tax evader and he suffered no consequences.
    Jimmy also has a tendency to overinflate or elevate the role comedy plays in society. Comedians are not philosophers. Comedy can be art and our culture fetishizes artists but that’s a bug of capitalism and it’s a perversion of the relationship that humans historically had with art.
    I do enjoy Jimmy’s comedy but I’m not convinced about him, as a person. Fortunately, I can separate the two.

    • @IAmebAdger
      @IAmebAdger Před 9 dny +5

      "Notorious tax evader"
      He did it once, then paid all the money back and apologised (although legally he could have kept the money, but he felt guilty).

    • @sqronce
      @sqronce Před 9 dny

      The last bit about punching down was a joke. I'm obsessively going through the comments fascinated by the mix of people getting that it was a joke vs not, and I think the high portion of not is due to the quick cut off of the video at the end, which removes some tone information. But yes, he's not stupid enough to believe that that is a good argument.

    • @michaelatuegwu2576
      @michaelatuegwu2576 Před 9 dny

      He seem more like an actor than a comedian

    • @DarkMoonWayfarer
      @DarkMoonWayfarer Před 8 dny +2

      ​​@@IAmebAdgerhow many times should people get involved in tax evasion schemes for it to count?

    • @nicolad8822
      @nicolad8822 Před 6 dny

      Notorious tax evader as in was advised a then perfectly legal scheme by professional advisers?

  • @shittyspeedpaints1012

    Jimmy: *inhales*
    Sona: Non-stop laughing.

    • @jmclaughlin
      @jmclaughlin Před 7 dny +1

      Cant stand her constant laugh.

    • @shittyspeedpaints1012
      @shittyspeedpaints1012 Před 6 dny

      @@jmclaughlinI understand Conan likes hanging out with his friends, but she brings nothing to the conversations.

  • @jamesp5408
    @jamesp5408 Před 8 dny +2

    3:46 This. Cancel culture is just a recycled version of people whining about criticism that they receive. I'm hot and cold on Jimmy's comedy, but he really nailed that part of modern culture.

  • @rahuldubey652
    @rahuldubey652 Před 9 dny

    its my theory comedians who just go for the joke are the funniest in my opinion punching up punching down doesn't really matter
    jimmy carr dave chappele ricky gervais bill burr shane gillis anthony jeselnik

  • @DeadeyeJim327
    @DeadeyeJim327 Před 9 dny +21

    Punching down simply means making cruel jokes at the expense of people who society oppresses, for the delight of the oppressors.

    • @bendover7841
      @bendover7841 Před 9 dny +6

      If you can't take a joke, that's a you problem. You can't laugh at jokes at the expense of some and get mad when they're about others. If you think you can't take jokes, don't watch comedy. Watch something else. The "punching down" argument is delusional.

    • @Gino565
      @Gino565 Před 9 dny +4

      Which society? Go all around the world and you’ll find oppression everywhere. And to the delight of oppressors? Right so it’s only punching down if a comedian has an all white audience (I’m guessing that’s who you mean by oppressors) and if there’s a member of the oppressed group who finds the joke funny then what? The hint is in the word ‘joke’. Not to be taken seriously.

    • @darthgon146
      @darthgon146 Před 9 dny +1

      "Can't take a joke" argument is completely delusional. Even Conan said it in this clip. Some comedians make jokes with malicious intentions. Some even have hatred toward humanity. Intention and context matter. Sometimes jokes are funny. Sometimes they are made purely to spread hate.

    • @KanesTheName
      @KanesTheName Před 9 dny +1

      ​@@bendover7841 the argument of the oppressor

    • @bendover7841
      @bendover7841 Před 9 dny

      @@KanesTheName go explain to the people in Palestine how you are oppressed because a comedian made jokes. I'm sure they'd empathize.

  • @growupjohnny9374
    @growupjohnny9374 Před 9 dny +2

    It’s called social desirability bias.

  • @ThatsOnYoutube
    @ThatsOnYoutube Před 9 dny +10

    If Jimmy were to punch Conan, he'd he punching up. Way up. Like at the sun.

    • @UnwiseWings0973
      @UnwiseWings0973 Před 9 dny +4

      Agreed. Jimmy tries way too hard to reiterate he’s edgy that it just comes off as needy. Especially when he hypes up a joke on how “offensive” it’s going to be, then proceeds to deliver the most lukewarm joke you’ve ever heard.

    • @ThatsOnYoutube
      @ThatsOnYoutube Před 9 dny +12

      @@UnwiseWings0973 I just wanted to see someone fight Conan.

    • @The_Butt_Cracker
      @The_Butt_Cracker Před 9 dny

      ​@@UnwiseWings0973I think he was just making a joke about Conan's being tall, chief.

    • @hmzammh2190
      @hmzammh2190 Před 9 dny +4

      @@ThatsOnCZcamsbro thought you were speaking metaphorically 😂

    • @UnwiseWings0973
      @UnwiseWings0973 Před 9 dny

      @@The_Butt_Cracker I’m talking about Jimmy’s stand up in general, “chief”.

  • @lenaspiro6446
    @lenaspiro6446 Před 9 dny +3

    The point about punching down didn't make any remote sense, and it's a redflag if he thinks one can't punch down with words.

  • @heliotropezzz333
    @heliotropezzz333 Před 22 hodinami

    Conan has bad sunburn.

  • @wrenbo4816
    @wrenbo4816 Před 8 dny +9

    Yeah, it's a hierarchy of who has the power in society, not a hierarchy of worth as a person, that's a bit of an intentional look the other way, Jimmy. In general love and respect him. Really like how poetic he is in his points, even when he's missing the point.

    • @jedinxf7
      @jedinxf7 Před 4 dny

      and the answer to that question that the Twitter mob refuses to acknowledge, is that the mob has the power. it always has.

    • @wrenbo4816
      @wrenbo4816 Před 4 dny

      @@jedinxf7 did i ask a question? if your argument is something about how the proles can cause revolution and thus have the ultimate power then I agree but that is so far away from this conversation that I'm not sure why you're bringing it up.

  • @user-hx2xo9qf5u
    @user-hx2xo9qf5u Před 3 dny

    Seems to me that Conan doesn't like this guy.

  • @palaceofwisdom9448
    @palaceofwisdom9448 Před 8 dny +1

    Most of Conan's jokes are at his own expense, so he hasn't had to reign himself in. If Sona or Jordan were black, the cancel mob would have come for him years ago. "How dare you portray them as not doing any work! That's a stereotype!"

  • @maximilianschmid9890
    @maximilianschmid9890 Před 8 dny +1

    "Theis "opinnion pools" vr alvejs a sellecchtiw fachinh croch aw schitt leik tha seggmennt Steve Schirripa Judgemental Bastard."

  • @dooshdashcams2629
    @dooshdashcams2629 Před 9 dny +1

    This Carr, like many cars, just makes terrible noises out of his rear end.

  • @itcouldbelupus2842
    @itcouldbelupus2842 Před 6 dny +3

    I think Jimmy needs to learn more about systemic oppression, the hierarchy in our society according to our institutions.
    When people talk about 'punching down' it's not that they see certain people as being below him inherently, it's the acknowledgment that they are disadvantaged in ways he isn't in our society.
    Failing to acknowledge that reality and making shallow and ignorant jokes can contribute to dehumanization of oppressed groups, they can reinforce hateful attitudes.
    people can enjoy those jokes for the wrong reasons i.e bigots laughing at a joke because they sincerely agree with the awful thing being said.
    People need to look uo what Norm Macdonald said about why he stopped telling jokes about trans people.

  • @oledevo
    @oledevo Před 6 dny

    "In Sumerian history, the Igigi were the group chosen to travel to earth with Anunnaki royalty to perform various tasks"

    • @AntonGully
      @AntonGully Před 6 dny

      You don't need to tell me! I used to clean the Anunnaki carriages. Filthy the lot of them!

  • @laffingist218
    @laffingist218 Před 9 dny +18

    i love jimmy but this is
    1) wrong; lots of people are lower than him
    2) he's smart, he knows social bits like this are trying to move a needle; he's trying to move the needle the wrong way here
    sitting across from conan it's wild to joke that it's cool to punch down.

    • @marcomartinez8608
      @marcomartinez8608 Před 9 dny +5

      He's not smart, which is why he doesn't get that there's people below him. His comedy is just saying naughty things

    • @Gino565
      @Gino565 Před 9 dny +3

      Yes but what a lot of you seem to have trouble understanding is that if you start protecting certain groups from stand up comedy, then there will be no jokes left. Because anyone can claim offence at anything, and if you start saying “well actually you can’t joke about this group, but those other ones are fine”. Well then those other groups are gonna start asking why they aren’t protected in the same way. I don’t get what people find difficult about comedy being free for all. They’re jokes. JOKES.

    • @marcomartinez8608
      @marcomartinez8608 Před 9 dny +8

      @@Gino565 no one is protecting any group lol.
      It's just easier to punch down, and so it's less funny. You're right though that anything is open to comedy, but if you're being labeled as the punch down guy then you're doing it wrong

    • @darthgon146
      @darthgon146 Před 9 dny +2

      ​@@Gino565 You're really watching Conan, THE Conan O'Brien, and saying comedy is dead without offending minorities?

    • @DarkMoonWayfarer
      @DarkMoonWayfarer Před 8 dny

      ​​@@Gino565thought experiment...if you went to a party and found yourself standing in a group with someone who was suffered brain damage in a car accident the previous year, would you make some jokes about him to the rest of the group?
      Because according to your logic you would, as "you're just joking" and if anyone gets offended it's their problem.
      If you say that you wouldn't, then your whole argument is flawed. It's all just jokes right?
      Hey... here's a better one...would you perform a stand up gig for active duty troops in the middle east and tell jokes about soldiers being killed or blown up?
      They're just jokes, so you should be fine....your argument is paper thin and it removes responsibility from the person who is telling the joke and placing all the responsibility on the person hearing it.
      It's actually an excuse used by narcissists for their behaviour.