6 Signs He Is Using You & Does NOT See A Future Together
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- čas přidán 25. 12. 2023
- I really think the worst thing is seeing a woman being strung along by a man who sees no future with her. Here are your 6 signs.
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1. If he lives on your expense
2. He does not want to build a future
3. He only connects w you when he’s sad
4. Forgetfulness
5. He only talks about himself
6. If all responsibility is on you
Thank you bestie
I agree with everything except for #1
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If youre readinf this, i pray you receive the highest form of love. You are worthy, good enough and deserving of the best just for being you.💗🙏🏼
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if youre reading this, just date men below your leaugue. go for a shorter guy, or a guy that is balding or that uses glasses, or a guy that is brown skin, or a guy that is fat. date a guy below you in pysical looks by two points. !!! these men will die for you !!!
@@amandaburleson2035that’s the sure recipe for a sexless marriage.
Thank you 😊
"You are someone's dream" wow... So powerful that i almost cried.
“If he’s not sure, he can be unsure not on your time.” ⬅️ THIS!
"Don't play the wifey role if you're not his wife. If you're just his girlfriend, do all the fun but don't do anything that comes with a sacrifice to you, don't do anything that makes you feel resentful towards him"
This hits me hard.😢
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"You are someone's dream" That is so beautifully said Margarita, thank you for this amazing video once again!!
Ladies - get yourself a good education, a well-paid job and make yourself independant of men. If the guy does not meet your standards, thanks next. Be your (and your kids) own provider so you do not need to put up with a cheater, user or lyer or any other type of man. It is better for kids to grow up partly in daycare than in a toxic family. Build up a network of girlfriends/mom- friends who help each other when needed.
You need to stand on your own feet first, then romance can add to your life.
Amen to that! ❤
True. There are no guarantees in life for a proper husband no matter how hard you look. They need to teach this to all young women. Don't cling and bring down your self worth. A lot of men aren't looking for love. They're looking for desperate.
she said our time is finite what if we education will take awhile??
@@aena5995 Education is an investment in yourself, spending time with the wrong man because of dependency is a waste of your finite and therewith precious time.
@@spoofsister yes so u education over marriage right ? but she talks about biological clock and stuff this stuff makes me overthink because 25 is probably when I can think about anything else after education is done as I had a bit of a gap 😕
Not sure if I wanna think about kids just a life partner I can travel with XD
This video resonated with me. I dated a man for 4 years who always was lost, confused, didn't know what he wanted, just "wanted to see", when I told him I want something serious & long-term and to know that he's in it with me, he would say that he wants that as well, but his actions stayed the same. As you said, he would never bring up the topic himself. Still, my delusional ass believed in him, in us, always thought things would change. They didn't. He left as soon as another woman showed the slightest bit of interest in him and he thought he did not need me anymore. Our relationship had beautiful parts but I was left in my late twenties feeling used and incredibly heartbroken, knowing I stayed in that relationship for far too long and did not respect myself enough to leave. So please, if they show you that they are not as committed as you, BELIEVE them, choose yourself and leave!! Yes, you might love them deeply, and they might love you back, but your time and energy are precious and your needs are valid. You will find someone who loves you AND chooses you every day.
I hate the fact so many people will say women are the sly and cunning ones when its really men who know what they want that are the most cunning and sly.
there are many women who have kids at 40 plus... I had my first and only baby at 40. I largely agree with your stance as I usually do which is why I am a sub. You're my favorite CZcamsr you are a natural as you keep it real yet in a classy and decent manner. I know you must be beyond excited with the arrival of your baby girl.... so much to look forward to🤗✨🙏💖
there are many women who have kids at 40 plus... I had my first and only baby at 40. I largely agree with your stance as I usually do which is why I am a sub. You're my favorite CZcamsr you are a natural as you keep it real yet in a classy and decent manner. I know you must be beyond excited with the arrival of your baby girl.... so much to look forward to🤗✨🙏💖
@prttyprincess Nah, men show you they don't want/like you (ex: the story of the woman you're replying to), but you feed yourself delusions that they do.
Women, on the other hand, can show AND tell you they like/want you but really, they don't. This is true in any relationship being romantic, family, relative, colleague or friendships. Women are queens of passive aggression and fakeness. It's Mean Girls way into adulthood, don't kid yourself.
The same, but I'm in my almost 40....Feel absolutely lost after such relationships
I was a placeholder for 4 years. Fun fact: He left me for a girl he knew for one week. After our breakup he didn't even bother to wish me merry christmas or happy bday despite that he knew that it is really important tradition for me. These years meant nothing to him, so girls, please, first you see the signs of disrespect or being way too comfy, run! He is just a waste of time. Take care and much love 🥰
i have been a place holder for almost 10yrs it was so hard for me to leave that relationship as he was a narcissist i suffered so much in my entire life
I just left a 6 months relationship like this. He is very SELFISH and honestly didnt like me but loved the ego boost and emotional support. I remember being so sick thinking it was covid. Not once did he call to check up on me or ask if i need anything
Whew! Glad you left.
@janellee_ yes girl he ghosted me for a week while I healed then popped back up saying I thought you needed space so you can get better smh
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Goooood for you!!!!
“My time is more precious “ that hit me hard❤
Indeed, whatever his reasons, it will literally crush you to be with a man you choose but he isn’t choosing you back. Leave his a** now before you have to pick the pieces of your shattered heart on the floor.
So true !!!
My ex bf was like my pet. Followed me around everywhere and “helped” me like my assistant but couldn’t hold down a job. When we met he actually had a good job otherwise I wouldn’t have even considered dating him. He was sweet and like a 7 year old at age 30. No money to buy gifts or take me out even for a sandwich.
Wanted to marry me too. I couldn’t take another day as I lost all attraction to him and became very masculine. I turned into a person I didn’t like or recognize. Went ballistic and kicked him out. I’d rather be single than with the wrong person. He met someone new and proposed in 8 months. They are now married 😂
I dodged bullets!!
Sounds like my experience too. Mine was living on me and wanted to marry me just to get hold of my assets. Don't ever get yourself into this situation ladies, make men pay for themselves, trust me, they are only using you. Don't lose your hard earned cash as well as your heart !
He dodged a bullet girl. You didn't want him then after that whatever he decides is not your choice
Some men marry for convenience 😂 not because of love trust me 😂
@@WildAntics13 You are 100% correct. My ex has ADHD and BPD so he needs a mommy to take care of him.
Wow, good for you!
I'm 29. I was married to this man for a year. With him for 8. He married me while he was *finally* excelling in his life (or so it seemed). Then quit his job shortly after and became the manifest of all 5 points you discussed in this video. Played WoW while I worked. The red flags were always there though, so I'm the fool. The biggest mistake I've ever made. I finally woke up and left. It took me hitting rock bottom and meeting the exact opposite man to realise what was happening. Exactly as you put it, my authenticity was gone. I was the mum and the masculine. Completely betrayed and lost myself. Your videos are so incredibly helpful 🙏 thank you for being the truth bomb we all need.
Proud of you for recognizing quickly and leaving early while you're still young 👏🏽 a lot of people wouldn't have had the strength for that
8 years? I’m asking because I want to be sure we’re in the same shoes as I was with mine for 10 years
@@queenielynn9985 Yes, sadly. I met him when I was 20. We've been separated for 6 months now.
@@Nycgoomba thank you so much 🙏
So I’m 27, been with my partner 4 & a half years and I’ve felt the same for perhaps the last year or so. Ive never felt so drained. The amount of responsibility been in my hands alone while he’s just floated through,or complained of being tired if I try to share the load of every day life. I’m honestly at the point where I think I’d rather be on my own 💯. To anybody else in the same boat, I pray we find the strength to leave and find ourselves again❤
Im 31 and just ended a 6 year relationship. Took up the majority of my 20’s and never committed to me and never tried to have kids even though he said he did in the beginning of our relationship. I feel so strung on. Now I’m 31 having to start over and dating has become SO different in 6 years my god. What have dating apps done to people?
You are a woman. All dating apps are win win for a woman. You can get 200 dates in 24 hrs. Goid luck 🙏🏻
Dont use dating apps. They are crap.
I feel exactly the same. 32 years old, been single for 3 years after a 5 year relationship. I was very naive and he was a manipulative little rat who did not have the balls to face reality.
I'm 30. After 5.5 years of being told that he was going to propose to me I'm finally giving up and walking away. I feel sad that it took me so long to realize that.
Thank you for posting this. I just left my husband after 30 years of being the place holder. I just found out he was cheating on me for at least 7 years - probably more. I wish someone would have told me these things years ago. Women of my generation - ( I am in my 50’s and older) were taught to be subservient to their husbands. This has been detrimental to women’s mental health and well - being. Women should be treated with love, honor, and respect. Actions speak louder than words. Listen to your intuition ladies. Honor yourself. I am grateful for your validation of my feelings about this topic.
I hope you're doing okay!
someone said "men are emotional gold diggers and we don't talk about it enough" and AMEN. there are *so many emotionally immature men out there and they treat their partners like their mothers* - ie. expect them to completely emotionally and physically support him, teach him how to be a grown up, AND love him unconditionally - forgiving all thoughtless mistakes and draining shortcomings, but news flash - people are supposed to be emotionally responsible for themselves first and foremost. Only children live off others emotionally/financially/physically, use others as a base to grow from, leave all responsibilities up to others, don't contribute to building a future, don't manage their own emotions without someone else's help, and are only able to relate things directly back to their own personal experiences in life - therefore they lack awareness and empathy, and can ONLY talk about themself. (Bonus points if they have a substance/screen/exercise/shopping/gambling/food addiction)
never put more time and effort into a man than you put into yourself.
if he needs 100 hours of lessons from you on how to be emotionally aware aka not a selfish asshole, you better already be spending 200 hours on your own emotional awareness and self-care.
THIS! 💯 ⭐
I just realized that the 2 men I dated long term (1 year and almost 4 years)in my early twenties just used me, worst enough I was sexually objectified and alone in a foreign country, during that time I got acne issues, and lots brain fog, I even hated every inch of myself till the point I lived in isolation.. yes wasted a lot of time, but now at 26 I have my own concept of myself, I am confident in who I am and about the intrinsic value of my soul, I wake up everyday being grateful for my life as woman, I am aiming to create and have a formal relationship with a masculine man and I also hope more young woman hear your advice, there are good and responsible men willing to love and value a woman, but it is on us women to welcome this type of men ❣️
At your age, I'm happy about that I hope we find someone who deserves us and loves us. I think we have to change and not give anything so that we are not put in the relationship of the giver who must do everything. It is my fault that I was sympathetic and always asked. This made people not care about me now. I try to be feminine and do not give anything and receive protection and security from men.
I pray all woman are balanced in their divine feminine energy 🙏🏽
If he blames you for everything and says you are immature because your reaction to his behavior 😢
Time is precious don’t waste it. Date with intention . Set time limits. Otherwise ,You’re better off getting to know yourself, investing in yourself , volunteering or supporting a cause you support. When I met my husband we had a discussion of what our expectations were . It was spelled out , no guessing . Closed on his end and closed on mine .
I never want have babies. Im 44 and single. You are right. I waste 20 years with wrong partners as l always attract men who dont wante babies neither etc....Never waste more then 2 years with guy if he not make some move with you❤❤❤
I wish met you in my 20y.old......😢
Dating when you don't want children/are finished having children is SO MUCH harder. SO MUCH. People do not understand. How do you find a man who wants something serious when they are the type of man who doesn't want children/a family? They have no reason to commit. Or men who have already had children/a family - you will always seem less than the ex. I struggle with it.
“You are someone’s dream”🥹💕😭
you are literally describing my mother and father, I grew up watching him use her in every way possible, never took responsibility for once, and I feel resentful on her behalf 😭 I wish she watched your video 30 years ago😭😭😭😭😭
Same like my mom! I don’t know why some women are dusties as well! Thats why wisdom is power
Very true! I think a lot of my friends think and wants an "equal" partnership where they are independent from the partners and they can buy themselves flowers, be your own best friend etc. I also fell into that trap. While I think it's important to build yourself to that person, it's almost a detriment to have that mentality when you actually have a partner. Because if your partner (and that includes you too) isn't adding anything meaningful in your life then they aren't it. What's the point of having an almost roommate/friend relationship? Ask for more because you know you deserve it and you know you will give the same back. And if they can't or don't want to give you more then you know this person isn't for you.
I am 49 when I was 45 I discovered I had DDD degenerative disk disease and needed to stay in a rehabilitation and nursing home for a bit....my husband has still not picked me up I have been in a home for 3yrs...he has used every exuse...I know not to go back but sometimes I feel I have no other options...then I watch your podcasts 😊I am empowered to find a better man and life❤
Please empower yourself. You are worthy of a good marriage and a good life. Divorce him, he will have to give you 50% of anything he has, including his job earnings. Make it your number one goal to get out of the home you’re in. Prioritize your health❤. There are programs out there that can help you get started looking for a place to live. You deserve so much more in this one short life you have💕
OMG! I always felt like he was only calling me because the girls he wanted didn’t want him, but I could never prove it, he would gaslight me into thinking I was crazy for thinking that. This just confirms my suspisions. I have moved on though
Same thing happened with me
@@user-cu6mw2qj1b don’t be sad, we are better off 🫶🏻
This video has broken down a hard true realization for me. Although my partner and I don't have kids and he does work, I still pay my own bills, try to plan the future dates that don't end up happening, he forgets his responsibilities because videogames are of most value to him. So, I'm here getting my head up to put myself first unapologetically.
Stop assuming his responsibilities, let him see the results of his actions until he feels and takes a step. By doing so, you are encouraging him to make a mistake and destroying yourself.
"you are someone's dream" 💕
I’ve recently just gone through a break up that has been really tough on me. I needed to hear this. Thank you so much for taking the time to help other women❤️
#1 Sign you played yourself: You need this video
The way you just describe my entire first marriage. WOW! Where we’re you 14 years ago? I desperately needed that advice then!
Watching this video made me realise that my bf that I’m dating now is doing all the opposite of those points. TBH it made me feel guilty because I’ve been acting very carful around him and questioning everything he dose and try to look at what is he doing wrong, so I’ll be watching this every time i suspect my bf. Thank you ❤
Be careful. If you are together for 2 years plus and he didnt propose he will make you lose your precious time. Even if he sound like a dream man. They can change too.
@@etcwhatever thank you so much for your concerns, and tbh I don’t except anything lol, i feel im always assuming he is going to show him real self one day (we’ve been together for 3 months so far) i don’t expect anything serious because him and i are in a long distance relationship and we both study, but he said he is thinking when we both finish our studying we should get married( we’re going to graduate in the same year). I’m always ready for the worse, i just hope this time I’m wrong and he is really serious.
@@imfatima277 yes 3 months is very recent indeed. I hope hes the right one, but if a good man who is close by shows up i would start a friendship and leave all options open. Ive been burned too much so i wish younger women to fulfill their dreams and avoid problems.
Thank you for this video, women need to hear tbis, there is many users out there, we need to guard our hearts and our wallets, men can be gold giggers too and look for a woman to take care of them
4 is a classic. My husband was like that for 15 years. Everyone told me "all men are like that" 😑😑😑
2 yrs & couldn’t even get a Merry Christmas or a gift.. some men egos are so far up their 🍑
this video helped me realize - or it's better to say accept - that i am being used like an emotional support in times of need while i get less than a bare minimum in terms of the support and care that i deserve. and also videos about detachment helped me with my situationship a lot. thank you, Margarita. i am in love with your channel, it's been so helping and reassuring for me these past few days. спасибо.
this was brutal and thank you. i need this
Good to see/hear from you again. Will save this for later... On the move 💃🏾❤️
This video has so much good advice!
Thank you Margarita. Now I can fully agree with everything. It’s sad sometimes we forget that time is one of the most important resources in the world, even more important than money.
I waited 4 years for my ex to propose to me and he dumped me because I wanted committment and he didn't. 4 years wasted, I'm 51 now and it's way too late to start again. I'm finished. Great video ❤❤❤
It’s never to late everyone is on a different timing ❤️
You can still find love. My grandma got a boyfriend at 85. They were together until he passed at 93. They were so good to each other and were so happy. It’s never too late to find love.
@@CF. Hi. Thank you for your reply. I guess I'm just feeling down because I feel very single at 51. But you're story is sweet, so there might be hope for me ❤❤
@@kaylagomar5571 thanks, I will try to remember that. ❤
Never, say never.
Such excellent content to share in chrismas break !!!🥂🎉👏👏👏, thanks a lot !!!
I am so thankful for your videos!🙏
Yesssss!!! Thank you for this content!! You are changing the world. 🎄🥳 Thanks for being you!
Thank you for speaking to all of this
You are amazing , a sister I never had ! Thank you for sharing your wisdom
Great video ❤thanks Margarita
Love your videos Margarita!
Always down to the point and you use such good examples 🫶🏻
Wow, every time I watch your videos, I always learn something new.
I listened to the podcast yesterday and I’m still here!!!! Hi queen
Perfect timing for this video❤
Thank you for this video!
Love this!! Thank you
I could watch you all day !! You have the best videos 💕
I have been watching so many of ur videos! Ur so healing and u make it simple: “have boundaries so you never have to heal”
Amazing advice thanks for this
I normally don't comment on any videos but I do listen to you religious but oh boy oh boy oh boy this video just hits home. thank you so much for helping all the woman out here in the world. you truly are doing Gods work and I loved your both courses, much love
You are so spot on. I sent it to my friends and daughter 😊
Such a great video 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Thank you Margarita ♥️
I appreciate the captions
Thank you dear Margarita and Merry Christmas to you and your family ❤🎄Francesca
Thank you so much for This Video !
You Look Stunning Margarita! As always🥰
😮 I wish I seen this 6 years ago!! Very true!! Thank you!! ❤❤
Thank you for this 🙏🏼❤️
Good to know because looking back I always wonder, “was it real?” But no… he was def using me.
Thank you for sharing all your insights and knowledge. I wish I had known all of these things when I was younger, but it’s better late than never. You’re amazing!!
Said it before, will say it again - words of wisdom!
i learn so much from you margarita ❤
Thank you 🙏 and happy Christmas.
I'm someone's dream girl
NUMBER TWO!!!!! Thank you!!!! I recently ended a 6 year relationship because of NUMBER TWO. Thank you. It's true!
Thank YOU!
Love this ❤
Absolutely love this. Hit home ❤
Gold of a video. But to the editor:
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Great video, I wish this video was around 15 years ago.
I was a placeholder for 3 years now he’s realized the grass isn’t greener and he wants me back. Or maybe it’s his ego, either way it goes he’s wasted enough of my time. I am good on him, I don’t want him.
Everything you mention is very true and important. Thank you. More similar subjects would be appreciated. How to spot the difference between real or fake pursuit? Real caring or just wanting a possibility for better country benefits/residency?
Brilliant yet again . Hitting a heart chord . Interesting … always was paying 😮 why the hell did I even bring out my purse 👛 . Learned many boundaries after this experience
Маргарита, ты даёшь мне столько уверенности и вдохновения. Спасибо, что делишься такими важными знаниями. Я люблю тебя ❤
I truly am so happy I discovered your podcasts they're reminding me of who I used to be❤and I really need that ..thank you
💯💯💯 I so agree with you!! ❤️
Just starting watching your videos !! You are spot on ❤
Happy Xmas
Thank you @margarita
Happy Holidays 🎉 lovely❤
I appreciate you ❣️
Margarita, I’ve been listening to your vdo/podcast. I’ve got a lot from you. Thank you so much for making these vdo to help us. ❤ hope you have a good energy right back to you. ❤
You all ways tell us something that nobody tell us
Thank you margarita i failled again and i feel sad that again someone using me again and it is really hard to exept❤
I love you for this❤
I so needed to hear this today. Thank you!!! I am looking for a husband, not a pet! ❤
This is such valuable information. Can you direct the same topic to older women and relationships?
Thank you.
But I have heard some stories where a guy talks about their future, the life they want to build together and everything and yet after the engagement, a few months later they still end up cheating 😔😔
This gem of a woman posted again! ❤Your videos are consistently fantastic, and they've become a staple in my morning routine here in Amsterdam, dear!💕 Your insights and facts are always on point. Thank you, Margarita, for creating such great content that brightens up my mornings with so much wisdom Wishing you and your beautiful family a joyful holiday season! 🎄✨❤
I wish I’d learned this 25 yrs ago! 😫
Love you queen ❤
What johnny Depp quote gave me chills and brought me to tears…
You are amasing
Is what I told to a man few weeks ago
Thankyou so much
I am watching you now every Day
It is helping me so much...to feel I am allready ON m good way as a female
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This was so difficult to listen to because it's true and I've known it for 13 years.