@Erika R Well. I don’t know if you’re full of shit or not but at least you have youth, presumed health, and beauty and it looks like independence and stability. I don’t mean to downplay whatever you feel or are going through but: I recommend the movie Threads, and as usual, the small things that bring you happiness. It helps because I do know what you’re feeling and have many years of experience in that mindset. I feel for your generation because we all failed you guys as my generation has been failed. We’ve been duped and lied to by a lot of people with swaths of money, influence, and power & given very little guidance or…you might just need to do some soul searching: contemplate and meditate on what you want out of life and the things that interest you. Then learn to capitalize on it and find a secondary skill. You can most definitely find something, someone, or peers out there that fits you if you’re willing to explore. Everything is hard and takes work and reasonable judgement IMO. The mental barriers and hoops and loops and behaviors are tricky. There’s no reason to buy into the stupid trends online or whatever group is spitting nonsense, instincts. There’s a wonderful world out there with a rich history to explore. It’s also nice to learn & explore and fully operate and harness the power of your mind and body. Eventually, the only thing you’ll want is money, skills, home, your main interest, a partner, and whatever floats your boat sexually. Then it’s probably just creature comforts, stability, people close to share life with, peace, and health. Depends on the path, some people want a family or to be celibate, and all that’s okay too. So, I hope these words help anyone who reads them as well as our host. Cheers.
Being 22 with no prospects or plans isn't a huge deal. You're still super young and plenty of people with plans at 22 don't actually wind up sticking to those plans at all.
I'm way younger. I'm only 55. I too don't know what I'm going to do when i grow up. Some people are able to stay young for a long time. I love the way I am and I love the way I live my life.
Erika, be very careful putting yourself out there like this on social media. There are alot of caring people like myself wanting to help you but, a lot more that want to hurt you. Life deals most people a foul hand so don't feel alone. I'm over 60, no friends, legally blind - but I still smile... things could be worse.
I know people with Low Vision. For what it is worth, I admire you for interacting with this audio/visual platform and posting a comment. "Keep the Faith"!
That's how I(34) have been feeling all my life long and probably always will. It’s due to my chronical learning disability. My IQ is approx 80. I got tested twice in school. It is mainly because my mother drunk alcohol during her pregnancy (FASD spectrum/Fetal Alcohol Syndrome). Everything is harder in my life. No matter how hard I try, I always fail. I needed to visit special ed class till 18, I never had many friends, I never had the ability to visit college or achieve high education, I only work at sign holder jobs...or fast food...I also never had a girlfriend and probably never will. All I always wanted is to have a job I like, some friends and an own family. Instead I'm alone with nothing and no one.
No direction IS a problem! In generations past, women were married by 20, having kids, and running a household. Nowadays we think living with parents until 30, starting to look for a husband at 40, living alone, and dying with a cat is OK. It isn't! People need to change their attitudes about their entitlements, as this woman is finding. The modern day feminist has told her she can have it all, and that is a bunch of crap!
To be brutally honest, time is always depreciating if you're a women. Especially if you want to have kids. Every year that goes by puts you into a slimmer and slimmer selection pools of viable mates, on top of growing infertility. The average conception time for a 30 year old couple is almost a year now. Life does get harder if you fail to take advantage of connections in your prime. Eventually your parents die, your colleagues change jobs, and your friends move on to different life stages. Married women with children don't typically hang around with women that aren't in the same life stage. That may sound cruel, but it's the truth. It only ends up being awkward when you have less and less to relate to. Being single and separate is not a solution; it's a social media trend that ends in depression. Sure, there are some A Class type people that can run their company and live alone forever and die happy, but they are rare. Sitting around waiting for things to happen is the ultimate way to end up with nothing.
Nerds responding to me: you're right, being directionless in life isn't good for anyone, especially women who all too quickly lose the ability to be mothers. My initial comment isn't that it's okay to wait until you're 40 to get a direction in life. That's dumb. The point is that it's stupid be feel hopeless. I don't black-pill in life. She has 45+ years of life ahead of her to be without hope.
I’m Don and I’m 83 years old. If you cannot find a particular passion, then try this. Look around find something you can do really well. You don’t have to necessarily love it, but you will be paid for it because you’re good at it. Then see what happens it’s a beginning. Don’t give up.
Hey Don, you are right, but you don't have to do it well. Sometimes, you can try to do something totally out of your wheelhouse. My dad used to challenge me. Now I have to challenge myself. I'll eat the same thing in a resturant everytime, so sometimes I let other people order first then I copy their order. An old boss would ask me what I wanted for lunch, I'd tell him to choose. You are right though, busy busy bust, and you have no time for dark thoughts, or loneliness
Hmmm. I started to write a critical message on not doing anything. Now I am impressed she is trying something. She is avoiding being stuck. I wish her good luck. She will succeed.
You are young, able-bodied, not in jail, not pregnant, and have all the opportunities this world has to offer. Take your sweet time figuring out what to do with your life. You are allowed to try things, hate one thing, try another, change your mind, screw things up, ask for a do over, and do it all over again. Life and career are not a straight line nor a ladder. Its more of a curvy trail full of rocks, rain, sunshine, tripping, falling, getting up, and no clue where it will lead you. Life will work out in the end, guaranteed.
You are still young and have your whole life ahead of you. Don’t rush your life by. Take your time and find what makes you happy. Then do it. If you like to cook, go to chef school or baking/ dessert school. The sky is the limit for you! You can be anything you want to be and do anything you want to do. I have all the faith in you to follow your heart and go for it. It is kind of like marriage. Don’t marry someone you can live with. Marry someone you cannot live without! Find what lights the fire in your heart and you have your answer. If you need someone to talk to there are those you can reach out to. Just smile. It will make those around you feel better and you will feel better when they smile back at you. Take care of yourself and keep your chin up and Smile😊
I can ID with you. I’m 81 yo and I to roamed through life aimlessly. Multiple jobs, a few short careers, married with 2 kids and 4 grandchildren. At the end of the day everything turned out fine and it will with you. Your youth is your biggest asset right now. You can fail more then once and still have plenty of time to recover. Good luck!
@@adammorris2265 It's not a fixed age, as you get older though it has to become a factor in your goal setting. When you are 35-40 provided you are healthy you can realistically set a goal that requires 20 years of vigor and sustained input. when you get older than that, and depending on how you are doing healthwise, that may not be as prudent. You may think, I might only have 10-15 years of the required vigor left. It depends on the personal situation of the individual. Eventually you just won't be able to do all the things you could when you were younger, and your body won't tolerate the abuse anymore, but I would encourage anyone to push that limit as far as they sensibly can within their own limitations.
I too am 53. I have tried many things. I became good at some things and great at a few. Never stop learning! Life is a journey full of ups and downs, twists and turns. I nearly lost my life in a car accident a few months ago so now I strive to enjoy my time left with those few people close to me. We never know when our last day will be so we should enjoy life while we still can! Find pleasure in the small things.
Erika, I am a 63 year old male. I pretty much lived a wasted life. I never found my passion. As a result, I ended up working at a job I hated. I'm retired now, but even now that I have all the time in the world to find a passion, I can't seem to even do that. The one thing I know is, I wish I could learn to smile more. People are attracted to smiles. No one likes to hang with a frowner like me. I think it is too late for me to change, but you are young. Light up the world with your smile and soon doors will open up for you! 🙂
J e s u s John 14: 5 Thomas *said to Him, “Lord, we do not know where You are going, how do we know the way?” 6 Jesus *said to him, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life; no one comes to the Father but through Me. Hebrews 2: 4 God also testifying with them, both by signs and wonders and by various miracles and by gifts of the Holy Spirit according to His own will. John 8: 12 Then Jesus again spoke to them, saying, “I am the Light of the world; he who follows Me will not walk in the darkness, but will have the Light of life.” John 14: 21 He who has My commandments and keeps them is the one who loves Me; and he who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him and will disclose Myself to him.” 22 Judas (not Iscariot) *said to Him, “Lord, what then has happened that You are going to disclose Yourself to us and not to the world?” 23 Jesus answered and said to him, “If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our abode with him. 24 He who does not love Me does not keep My words; and the word which you hear is not Mine, but the Father’s who sent Me. John 7: 15 The Jews then were astonished, saying, “How has this man become learned, having never been educated?” 16 So Jesus answered them and said, “My teaching is not Mine, but His who sent Me. 17 If anyone is willing to do His will, he will know of the teaching, whether it is of God or whether I speak from Myself. 18 He who speaks from himself seeks his own glory; but He who is seeking the glory of the One who sent Him, He is true, and there is no unrighteousness in Him. 19 “Did not Moses give you the Law, and yet none of you carries out the Law? Why do you seek to kill Me?” 20 The crowd answered, “You have a demon! Who seeks to kill You?” You can start reading Scriptures (Bible) in New Testament: Gospel of John and/or Acts.
HuatulcoGuy, Try smiling at people like as if your smile is a gift to them with no strings attached. Even if you don’t feel like smiling. People love it when others smile at them. Put it into practice. Make it a habit. It’s very gratifying.
As a 63 year old male, who has been through it all and who has been married for 37 years now, you have everything it takes to make it big in life. Keep doing what you love and keep an even keel. Distrust novelties and keep your eyes open. Not everyone is an asshole, but keep your third eye open to con artists and losers. Some of the most charming people are the ones you have to worry about. Stay 100% natural and never compromise yourself to others. Your happiness depends on your ability to live life according to your own desires and beliefs. Never agree with anyone else’s beliefs just to fit in. Never get any tattoos or cosmetic horrors done. Live outside the box and live your best life as you see fit.
I am a United States Special Forces Naval Officer and I have been overseas on 8 Missions that each one lasted anywhere from 12-14 months in Both Afghanistan and Iraq. Cannot talk about details but the pain and horror that travels with me to this day remains. I fully understand what you mean more then you know. Believe me when I tell you this, you can overcome anything that comes your way. Always believe in yourself as I have combatted these feelings. May God bless you always and please Be Safe.
I noticed your description said, "...share my life *in hopes that it can help someone else*." I think you can build on that. Sometimes serving others is a great reminder of our own value.
@@ilia2178 Discipline means nothing other than 1. having a whiteboard 2. writing down the tasks on it 3. completing them one after the other, with sufficient time off
@@ilia2178 Discipline is what you need after you've accepted an opportunity to make your life better. Discipline by itself does nothing more than keep you locked in at whatever level you are.
All i have to say is youre not alone. What makes me so happy is that you are not blaming anyone or anything for what is happenig with you or with your life. I have done the same thing, seeing my old friends from high school on social media and thinking "man, what am i doing with my life? look at how great they are doing!" ive made many mistakes in my life, but no matter what i pick myself back up and try again. im 34 years old, divorced, male, work two jobs all week just to see my (4) kids on the weekends. This is the first video ive ever seen of yours and your brutal honesty is a great thing to have. Most people just blame everyone for everything, but you seem to own your own issues and want to ACTUALLY work on them, some way or another, even if you dont know how. Youre trying, and that is the most important thing!
Erica, I'm a few years older than you and I can say life changes all the time. Ive been a Karate teacher for 40 years, an electronic technician, a Police officer to a boat mechanic, and much more. The saying "Go with the flow" is a good motto. A few tips; 1. No alcohol 2. No drugs 3. Read books 4. Join a sport/club 5. Surround yourself with positive people. You have a lot of positive comments, im sure you're on the right track for success. Best of luck from Australia.
By no Alcohol and No Drugs you mean no PTSD. It is not the Drugs. It is the pain. American Medical Schools teach addiction is a symptom of PTSD. Dr. Lonny Shavelson in his book "Heroin" said that 70% of female heroin addicts had been sexually abused in childhood.Drugs fill receptors. What empties receptors (injury, PTSD) causes a desire for drugs. Drugs CAN'T cause addiction. Pass it on.
I'm 68 so I can listen to you from a very different perspective than you see yourself. You come across as being a very genuine person. Most people at 22 know less about were they are going or what they are doing than you. They are just not as self aware as you. I think this channel will be a big success for you! You got a lot more going for you than you think. Best of luck!
I understand the feeling of being "disconnected" from the world's flow. Knowing what to do, knowing what to want and knowing what to feel in life. People moving on, get kids, good jobs, loving partners... But the good thing is. You are not alone with this journey. A friend took me to a party, I'm member of a gym since last week (😅) and I try to connect, when I'm out with my dog. I wish you all the best on this journey. Try some things out, don't be afraid of breaks and time. It's okay to breathe and listen to the nature. And never let someone say you are not enough. I'm happy to found you and I will follow your path if you want to let us know. 💙
Hey Erika, there’s some very good advice in the comments and I’d summarise by saying; 1. Don’t think other people have it all figured out compared to you, most people are bumping along in life just trying to survive. 2. Try to figure out what you enjoy and do more of it; if that involves an occupation brilliant but sometimes an occupation can just be for paying the bills and you can follow any passions outside of work in your spare time and there’s nothing wrong with this. 3. Helping other people less advantaged than yourself really helps to put some context into your life and shifts the focus away from your own problems. Finally, my observations on your skills are that you’re honest, articulate, intelligent and your own struggles mean that you’ll have an empathy for others. These are already “super powers” when it comes to embarking on life’s journey and it is just that, a journey of experiences. Hope this helps in some way. My 3 kids have all found challenges in their 20’s. Best wishes from the UK
Excellent advice, and I can personally vouch for your third point: helping others led to hugely rewarding perspective in my life. Maybe there are some older people in your neighborhood that could use a quick assist with their lawn care or household maintenance. Maybe volunteer at a community center or food bank. This actions will create calm and give you learned experiences that may shape some of your own goals in life.
Hi Erika, you're not lost or hopeless. You are young and trying to figure it out. The fact that you are making this channel demonstrates that fact. You are interested in cooking or baking. That is a form of art. It's creative and what you make is unique only to you. You are creative. I encourage you to build on that. I encourage you to read, write, travel, draw, paint, meet new people. Spend less time thinking about yourself and more time thinking about others. Teaching or helping others brings confidence and belief in your own abilities. These are suggestions that I know work. I teach kids to ski race. It is my life's passion and I'm so fortunate to be paid to do it.
24 year old no-lifer here too. No job, no career prospects, no passions. My advice (for what its worth) is to just do something. Literally anything. This channel is already a great step in the right direction. The more things you try the more opportunities start to unfold, or don’t, but you learn things along the way.
As Jordan Peterson would say, "Start making your bed in the morning!" Grow up and take responsibility for yourself. She is young enough to recover, but she better change her attitude. Life crushes people like her.
As a 40 year old who had no idea what I was going to do for a career until I was 29, this is great advice. The more blocks you walk, the more streets you get to turn down. Pretty soon you’ll have gotten farther than you thought possible.
I feel like I was 22 last year, but I’m 63 now. I have done so much in that time and have no regrets. I always stayed true to myself and never had to question myself. If I had to do it again, there is little I would change. Life is incredibly complicated, but the pieces come together on their own.
stopping by quickly to say respect. for the honesty and the acountability to yourself. always a great start like this! no irony hope you do well and have fun on this journey
Girl I dig your honest and authentic REAL vibes, I can tell you’re a rare soul and definitely here for a reason so keep your faith and I’m sure you’ll be loved and recognised here on CZcams. I’m 23 and in a very similar situation, so I’m really excited to watch your videos and relate/ get to know you!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼
You have a big skill that I noticed, which is honesty. That's pretty rare, so that's a huge strength as a stepping stone to learning about yourself. Huge.
I just like that face she looks pretty decent without gobs of makeup. That and she's kinda random. I'll keep an eye on her channel like the creepy guy in the neighborhood.
Not sure this is great advice. Honesty will not get you far in life. You gotta be a bit cunning / ruthless to get ahead. Being too “nice’ in life can be a bad thing.
I used to be a son, brother, coworker, boyfriend, husband, father, and grandfather. Of all the names I have been called, "grandpa" was my favorite. I think you will be SOMEBODY if you just push a child on a park swing.
I'm 77 and married to my wife for 56 years. We married young and had nothing when I came out of the Army in 1968 - but we pushed each other and slowly made a wandering path in life. I have now been to 64 countries and lived in 5 for work and seen much of the world. What I learned is that all human beings have the same problems, desires, and worries as my wife and I. You are not different nor alone than I was at your age. For good advise listen to your Parents (and family they have your best wishes at heart for you) also go back to your high school and visit some of your old teachers. You will be surprised at how much they have learned and changed since you went to HS. They will and can give you some great ideas of next steps. Don't wait, act now - times a wasting! You are not alone!
I was very touched by your openness. You are not alone. Everyone feels that way at manny stages in their life…you are just more transparent and honest about hope you feel inside. In a short comment and never having met you, here is an actionable advice that may sound drastic, but I know firsthand it has helped with the inner journey: No drugs, alcohol, or sugar. Read. Walk, stretch, maybe even yoga regularly. NO negative relationships (or any at all right now). And watch videos on people live in their car for a year and have the freedom to hike in nature, journal, and live in simplicity. Nature bathing is a cure. And maybe you can’t get a cat or dog right now, but visit animals and hug, kiss and love them. They will love you back unconditionally. I believe you are in an ideal time of your life to do this. You seem like a lovely, honest person. I hope my insights help you. Take care! :)
I’m 50 and feel a failure. But I did learn some things, I’d love to be 22 again. I have 4 pieces of advice. 1. Travel. 2. Read. 3. Do something that makes you uncomfortable every week. 4. Learn how to determine reality so you don’t waste your valuable time on fantasies. Apply the scientific method to everything you think you know and test everything you’re told for logical fallacies. You do this and you will learn more about yourself and what you want out of life. My problem is I learnt this too late. I only have 20-30 years left. Too little time to make a difference.
It's not too late for you. You may be getting better slowly, but you clearly know at least four things that you didn't before! Sure it's too late to become an Olympic athlete, but you probably never had a shot at the presidency and that's nothing to be disappointed by. Maybe you can make a companion channel to this one?
@@AndyBHomethanks for saying this. I'm also 50 and in a comparable position. Only now have I been diagnosed with AAD, and I was medically retired in 2022 @ age 48. I really loved my job and the nature of it suited my condition so well that I believe it to be the reason that it wasn't noticed in my adult years. So being at home all the time it surfaced in a way that frustrates most people around me and I frequently feel quite useless. Getting my life back on track is really challenging and hearing someone say it's not too late is a welcome motivation.
For a ‘failure’, you gave some of the best and succinct advice I’ve seen, here… I sure as hell don’t want to be 22, again (grin!). I’d sure as hell like to be with twenty-something girls but I guess I probably wouldn’t make any sense in their lives. Gather ye rosebuds while ye may. We ‘failures’ should stick together, though. Fifty is a little young to be giving up! I’m seventy and I’m still kicking ass and taking names. I just spent the last six years as a medical train-wreck. Right now, I’m still trying to figure out how I could be with a 33-year-old girl that I fell in love with when she had just turned 27. If _I_ was still ‘50’, I’d be a shoe-in for that 33-year-old girl! I could probably even talk her into making babies with me!
Life is about learning. Even at 80 or 90, if you have learned through experience, then your life has not been wasted, and you carry that experience and what you have learned with you, hopefully, on into a better and more peaceful existence.
@@AndyBHomenot about me, my comment was for this young lady, things are a lot harder for the young with social media and all. It is making a lot of lonely people as they don’t have real relationships because most of their interactions are online, or through texts. So many people live through their phone these days, even if they are in company.
Hi Erika, I am a 73 year old man with some life experience. At 17 I joined the Army and never had an issue of needing a goal since. I am not suggesting you seek a military job. I suggest finding a church where you can volunteer in some ministry. Maybe serving food to needy people. Maybe visiting the sick in the hospital. Maybe visiting people in a personal care home. Maybe visiting people in hospice care. Maybe teaching pre-school to youngsters. When you volunteer to help others, the focus moves onto them and away from oneself. You are precious and special. I see great potential in you. Ask God to guide you. Blessings to you. Gordon
Yes I agree wholeheartedly with this advice. For myself I wish that I joined the army (South African), too old now. But serving others is probably a better way to get direction in ones own life, as well as being in the Lords service will definitely add value to ones own life too.
This is the best advice I have heard in a long time .I'm knocking on 65 and you will never ever go wrong with having a true relationship with God let him lead you the peace is really beyond your understanding.
I also joined the army at 17. Gordon's advice is solid. The more you make yourself your primary focus, the more anxiety you will feel. Focus on what you can do for others, not what they think of you. Even as an atheist, I also recommend finding community through church and being in the service of others. Then learn to treat yourself as you would treat others you care about. I know it's hard to see, but things will fall into place for you. I wish you the best.
Don’t ever give up on yourself. When I was 22 I had no idea what I wanted to do. And to be honest with you. I have skipped through life. Just making it the best way I can. Just please don’t give up on yourself! Just know it will get better😊 you have a friend in me. and have a wonderful day.
I'm 75 years old. Relations with people have been very disappointing. Relations with cats and dogs have been wonderful. Cats and dogs won't lie to you. If you give them love they will love you back. There are always cats and dogs who need your love and your help. My best relationships and joys in life has been with cats.
I was in a similar position once, I went into the army, then worked on ships, have worked as a waiter, a porter in a hotel, a night manager in a hotel, on emergency ambulances, been a carer for someone who became disabled, been a charity worker, a bus driver and am currently a project manager. In between all those jobs I have been a traveller, unemployed due to ill health and due to companies I worked for closing down. I have failed many times at things like starting my own business and at the age of 50 I have no regrets as everything has taught me valuable lessons. Ultimately I could have given up so many times in life such as when I had nothing but the clothes on my back and was living on the streets. You still have the possibilities that life will provide you over the next few decades to figure things out, as long as you find peace and a degree of happiness in life then you have some of the best blessing you can ever get.
You don’t realize how young 22 is when you are 22. I tried a variety of paths from 22 to 32 and had to reinvent myself along the way. I finally got going on a consistent path at 33 after finally completing a degree in finance and thankfully, my wife and I are in a good place financially and otherwise. Enjoy your 20’s. If you are going to make mistakes, now is the time to make them. Explore, and live your life.
Well you are already a success, look at all of the people you brought together here to speak positive things into your life and for us all to share in this journey with you. When you step out and reveal truth as you have , it will set you free. Your path at 22 is going to be a wonderful and wild ride, hang on and don't quit, your gonna make it. I look forward to seeing how your channel inspires others to grow with you ❤
The fact that you are willing to put yourself out there like this already shows me that you are a lot less lost than you may think. You mentioned that you want to run this channel for people so that everyone can learn together which shows empathy and the willingness to give up your time for the benefit of others. Everyone without exception has something to contribute to the world Erika. You have proven this by making this channel and this video. In many respects you are ahead of others your age, because you have not chosen a career just for the sake of choosing a career. You are young. Take your time. Try many things until you find something you truly enjoy. Although it may feel like you have been left behind in life, just remember life is not a race and everyone is on their own journey. Don't look outward to see what others are doing, look inward and listen to what your heart tells you, because although your mind may sometimes mislead you, your heart never will.
Hey Erika, Sorry to hear that you feel this way and well done on making this video. I feel the same also after getting out of a long term relationship about 8 months ago. I started playing golf and it has changed my life. It's crazy how it can rekindle friendships and help you meet new people. It also gets you out in the lovely weather. I'm sure you will find your path. I'll be following along regardless of what you do. :) All the way from Ireland.
Bless you child, you're speaking for so many who think and feel these things but never tell anyone. You got guts kid! I'm definitely going to be around to get behind you and anyone else like you who is opening their eyes to the world around them. You are so much more (right now) then you could possibly imagine! This is a special time in the universe and we are all going for one hell of a ride. You are right were you are, doing your thing as part of one beautiful story. The story never ends and neither do you. Just keep being you and doing you and sharing yourself with the world. I love what you are doing. So proud. I'm Kenny and I'll be around. 👍 I'm 62
Hi, Erika. I don't know why CZcams suggested your video, but I'm glad it did. I found your honesty refreshing. My heart goes out to you. I felt your discomfort through the screen and want you to know that you're not alone. You're going through some stuff, and it's OK and normal to feel how you're feeling. I'm encouraged by the direction you chose to move. Instead of sitting and moping, you were vulnerable and made forward momentum. You'll continue to fumble along - that's part of the journey. But, you'll grow and get better. That's also part of the journey. May God bless you and shine his face upon you.
You are young, beautiful, open and honest about yourself. Explore and find something that makes you happy. I am 65 and still not sure what I am doing with the rest of my life but I wish I had pursued something I enjoyed rather than doing what others thought was best when I was 22.
@@seangriffiths8036 That's an utterly asinine comment. The guy posts an entirely supportive comment on a video of someone who's struggling and you claim to know without a doubt that the guy is manipulative. If nothing else, give people the benefit of the doubt. If, in the extreme, none of us can do that for each other then we'll create a very depressing world indeed.
@@minimal3734 Thanks for your free analysis….that saves me paying a shrink. This girl is wallowing in her own self pity in spite of her clear intelligence and persuasion skills. We can either feed her self pity or try to shake her out of it.
@@jeffevio my comment is not against @leelawrence3379….its against the poster of this video. She is manipulative and obviously quite intelligent. Don’t feed her self pity. She needs to harden up. Evolution does not favour the weak.
The first step is THIS self realization at your young age. I'm proud of you for being this honest. I feel like I've been faking it into my forties and only realizing THIS now. And I have plenty to be grateful for BUT I know I missed out on so many opportunities in life because I was focused on working my butt off. But I missed out on seeing this beautiful world because I was so frightened by the media and even my mom to stay home. I settled on a house with dogs and some partners that weren't the ones and still looking for meaning. Like you, I just keep learning new things to keep flame alive. Best of luck to you on your journeys.
Hey Erika this is what helped me at your age...all on my own..I studied food and wine,started working in a restaurant,taught myself guitar,started eating healthy,started working out,bought a bike and NEVER looked back. Now I'm 59 now,still play guitar,still work out,and I ride my bike 6 miles to the restaurant I work...no college education,no drugs,just me and my determination to exceed MYSELF!! Cooking sounds like a great idea,I love to cook as well..There's a CZcams channel called Food Wishes,it's a fantastic channel. It's perfectly normal to be lost and to feel despair,just don't wallow in it. You'll be just fine Erika❤
Well done Erika on taking these first steps and even doing it openly on CZcams, that in itself takes courage. I hope you find what you are looking for, taking one step at a time, and sometimes that means taking a wrong turn. At least afterwards you know that that’s something you don’t want. And you are one step closer to what you do want. I love this quote from Saint Francis Assisi; "First do what is necessary. Then do what is possible. And before you know it you are doing the impossible." It helps to get started, create momentum and action and turns into a discovery/journey we call life. One thing I found particularly powerful when I found myself in a similar position is asking. Ask for help internally (from God, the universe, your internal guide) for what you would like, and expect circumstances to come up in which you will learn about what you are asking. At the end of the day give thanks to what the day has given you. I’ll be amazing what it does in the long run. 😉
Your vulnerability is so powerful and courageous. This is the first video of your channel that I just came across so I’m not sure how the videos and passage of time has progressed but the level of honesty on this is very rare these days, especially the world of CZcams
You are so young at 22, you've weathered a learning phase. You're at the age where you've learned enough to learn. Start where you stand, with what you have, now. You say you have nothing. Not true. You have realization that you need new direction. You have compassion for others in your situation. Many in all sorts of successful and unsuccessful situations never possess compassion. You cannot teach that. So there's that in your favor. Cooking, like any creative art (painting, writing, playing music, sewing, etc.) helps and changes you. The sustained act of creation changes you, and changes how you see yourself. Hang in there. You are so very young and have a lifetime to let things play out. ♥
this is half the problem: Boomers and Gen X'ers simply will not allow Millenials or Gen Z'ers to grow up. I'm almost 40 and they still call me young, or a kid....
@@phillyunrau4736 i mean, to me it just looks like any given kitchen in a 2 bedroom apartment. Nice, but nothing special. It's just clean. Not saying you're wrong, but its just funny that something like that is considered luxury now... simply amazing how Boomers and Gen X'ers have utterly destroyed the furture for anyone millenial and onward. Sad times ahead, i especially feel for the younger white Gen Z guys, their future is bleak...
She is not so young at 22 LOL. Stop telling people in their 20s that they are young. You could say that it is not late to start sth from scratch in their life.
Hi Erika. Im 68. I graduated HS in 1973, dropped out of college 18 mo later, lived off my parents doing nothing for 6 months. My mom forced me to go to a temp agency in NYC. I had no idea what I wanted or liked. They sent be to a brokerage firm. I met people, mostly good, enjoyed learning about stocks and bonds, and ended up making it a career. Good thing about temp agencies is they send you to different businesses and most times a business will hire you from the agency, so you get to experience different paths. Pay sucks in the beginning, but the exposure is great. You are very well spoken, which if I were interviewing you would be a huge plus. You also may be a bit depressed. Therapy could help. Its expensive, but most companies have it as part of their wellness coverage. Hang in there. Please be careful of folks taking advantage of young women, now that you are out there.
When I was 22 I felt much like you. The fact that you want more out of life is a wonderful impulse. It will drive you to search more deeply than those around you who have already found what they want. Your persistence and patience will ultimately flower in a life more deeply satisfying than you would otherwise have found.
When I was a young man I was very much like you. My parents were poor. I tried to get a grant for college but poor white guys didn't get grants. I did hard labor jobs for a while and at some point I realized that if I did not do something soon I was doomed to live a life of ditch digging. After much thought and prayer, I joined the Army and picked a skill that I thought would serve me when I left the service (electronics). It did. The military can be a good shortcut and for 2 or 4 years of your life you can gain a skill that can be parlayed into a career. You will also learn things about yourself that you never realized along the way. If it makes you feel any better, you are quite typical of 95% of the human race. One other thing: if you feel 'alone' you might want to read the New Testament. Try it, what do you have to loose?
Best advice I got from a college professor on graduating was stated in a kindly agitated voice: "…why are so many of you so focused on your "careers"? You don't even know what your real talents and interests are yet and won't until you're 30." At your current age of 22, all you've ever done is follow somebody else's roadmap. You're finally free. Enjoy it because now is when the real learning begins. And just know that you will always be making it up as you go, relying on experience and intuition or instinct. It's what we do - just don't pretend it's otherwise, and you'll be much happier than if you think you ever really figured it out completely.
Read a Bible. It's proven to be the best source of wisdom. That's really what we need. Observance of commandments is Where's it is at. Acknowledgement of a creator is where it's at. Cooking is good, yes, but there has to be a foundation or it means nothing. Really enjoyed your valunarbillity.
You will get there. You're heading in the right direction. You know that you need to find a direction in life and trying out new things can help you figure out what you enjoy doing. Good luck!
Erika, thank you for your openness and thank you for your bravery. As you have guessed, there are so many others out there who feel just like you do. And just by posting this you have already helped them more than you could know. I'm 74 years old and my life is better now than it has ever been. For the last five years I have been working on ways of teaching how I got here. In one afternoon/evening I believe I can provide anyone with all the tools they need for a fast track to happiness. Just sayin'.
A beautiful, blue-eyed blonde. My god, woman, you were born on third base! Whatever you set your mind and hands to, success is almost inevitable, you would have to actively TRY to fail. This cooking/baking thing is a good idea, and I'm sure you'll have lots of viewers. In only eleven days, you already have over 4400 subs, myself among them! That's more than 400 per day! You're going to be just fine.
I was in the same boat at 19 , loads of dead end jobs, no skills, no education, no girlfriend. I joined the Air Force and learned a trade as a heavy vehicle mechanic. I only did 6 years in the air force but it set me up for life and one thing has led to another and I’ve lived all over the world and had a great life from fixing buses in Australia to fire trucks in the uk . It’s just getting that first step moving, after that it’s like a snowball rolling, but you’ve got to really push out of your comfort zone and grab every opportunity that comes remotely near you, trust me they will.
Same, sort of. Was 21. Joined the Navy. Makes you grow up, become independent. Got married, had two kids, got into the police academy, got a career, bought a house, kept my head down, kept my nose clean, went to work everyday for 30 years, now I’m close to retirement, 6 grandkids - a life well led. The military was Step 1.
Erica, you deserve a great deal of credit for being brutally honest and vulnerable on CZcams. It takes real depth of character to do that, and you possess the beauty of a model, which I believe is an uncommon combination of attributes. I’m sure you are not alone in your situation. I have subscribed to your channel, and think it will be a success. All the best to you!
You are young go volunteer someplace. Help in a children's hospital. You will cry with joy seeing how upbeat kids are without legs or maybe arms. Make yourself help orhers. I enjoyed every thing you have said. God bless you. You are beautiful and gave gorgeous hair.
Absolutely! Volunteerism will also give you skills, both work and social. Help you build a personal community that could also be a support when you need one. Your situational recognition at 22 is a big deal. Stay honest with yourself and true to yourself. I try to live by the concept: “Be the man you want to be” That means I imagine the best possible me and everyday take steps and actions, sometimes very small steps, to move towards or at least not fall back from my goal. You can do that too. Get out in the world and try things. Not everything will stick or even turn out to be your cup of tea. But get out daily. Don’t just stay home. Maybe take a single night class, on a topic that interests you, at Community college or elsewhere. You have time on your side. Take advantage of that. You can do this. Good luck!
Oh wow, that's wonderful. It doesn't feed her or pay the bills. She can find a way to help people and get paid so that she can be self sufficient. Work at an auto parts store or hardware store or try learning HVAC or become an electrician. Step out of the traditional female jobs.
Consider volunteering as an assistant for a youth sport team (eg: Little League Baseball). You don't have to understand the game; you just have to be there to help out and support the kids. You have great communication skills. The kids will benefit from having you there. Their parents will appreciate all that you do. NOTE: While helping out, NEVER TOUCH your cell phone. Just leave it in the car when you get to the game, or the practice. Focus on the moment and where you are. Don't ever miss any of the team activities. The kids will love having you there. I did this at 21 when I left home and moved to Alberta (Canada). I coached minor hockey for the next 12 years. It was fantastic!😊
Your honesty, vulnerability, and decency are THE foundational moorings of a successful and happy life to come. You are valuable as being you. I came to this country 49 years ago with nothing. Literally, other than the clothes on my back. I ended up graduating from law school, finding a wonderful wife, and raising a precious child, which would have never happened when I seriously thought of quitting. Please don't. You have too much beauty and promise. Thanks for sharing, and God bless you.
Everyone needs to focus on three things their entire life, Physical, Financial. & Intellectual goals. Life is better when you are Physically Fit, do physical activities every day, your choice, walk, run, bicycle, dance, karate, whatever u want. Life is better when you are Financially Secure, a person needs to learn to live on 50% income and save 50% income for emergencies & retirement. Life is better when you have the skills and intelligence to handle life's problems, this is continuous learning, what ever u want to learn, cooking, medical, electronics, mechanics, whatever u want to learn, you can spend the rest of your life learning new things and never know it all.
I started working "new construction" plumbing when I was in Jr. High during the summer. Four kids (2 boys & 2 girls) and a wife later, none of my kids were interested in plumbing. I told them to "find something CHALLENGING that most other people can't do... You'll get paid well to do it". I plumbed a local Craft Brewery and got my oldest son a job there pushing a broom, he now runs the brew house at a large Craft Brewery in So Calif. My daughter works in the ER as a Surgical Tech at Loma Linda University Ca... My youngest son did 5 yrs on an Air Craft Carrier (Theodor Roosevelt) and is joining the Fire Dept. My oldest daughter manages 2 Hotel Casinos in Sturgis S.D. Find something you like that most other people can't do....Your phone will ring and you'll get paid well to do it. Hope this helps...
I was helping a friend move a barn when I was 25. One day we were doing our morning coffee chat and planning what to do next. He finally said “Well, let’s do SOMETHING, even if it’s wrong.”
Erin you have such immense value that at your age it is hard to see it from your perspective. 100% many other young people are feeling the same including all the youth that preceeded you like many other comments here including myself. My advice to you is to be open to new directions in life and use logic and reason to make decision mixed a tad bit of instincts and luck does come in occassionally. As I have learned in life, the universe naturally seeks balance and that means bad things also happen. Stay focused and just work your tail off at whatever opportunity you get and you will grow and learn and earn a decent life. Sticking to good values and be humble. I wish you the best!
22 years of age with no path? Get a job get motivated surround yourself with positive people and people who can give you direction. You have your whole life ahead of you the opportunities are endless. Get out there and get it.
Erika, you are a beautiful woman. You are worth a lot more than you think! Please consider looking for answers in the Bible. I struggled with loneliness and lack of direction until I discovered who and what Jesus Christ did for us. I now have an amazing church family and I now know where I belong. Please consider it. I will be praying for you!
...she say No discernible skills.. well she famous already .. a cooking 🍳 show and nice house 🏠 etc ... She not homeless..she is a scammer here ..a Fake ..
Hello Erika, you're not alone, and I have no idea what direction I am going. I am 44 and what you're going thru is affecting people of all ages. I am fortunate to have the love and support of my family. The best thing I can is we gotta hoping for the best, and someday we'll reach the light at the end of the tunnel. I am considering starting a youtube channel or a podcast, and your video inspired me a little. Best of luck to you! 😃
Erica congratulations for your bravery and honesty. Yes, I agree life takes its course and everything falls its place. I use one word to guide myself to way out: HAPPINESS ❤
I'm nearly 40 and I'm just about making it through life. Sometimes you just have to go with the flow. The worst pretense is social media with people attempting to post their perfect life for others to aspire to be. We're not perfect and everyone is going through stuff in their life.
Awww! And you're so pretty! 😊 I feel for you, and I understand how people can have trouble finding their purpose in life these days, with all of the complications and high expenses of choosing and starting a career. One solution is to seek God, try to live the way he wants us to, and he can guide you, and possibly even send someone to help you in your journey. Praying for you 🙏
This is what youtube was made for! Honest, unscripted videos of people talking their minds and making us think. Erika I'm in - pressing subscribe and I'm with you on this journey! You have it all ahead of you! Keep posting - you've got this girl!
WOW, simply WOW. You have already crossed the first frontier Erika - putting this vlog out there. It's such a brave start, so bravo to you. And it is a great start. Your brutal honesty about yourself and why you are here, doing this, speaks volumes. Someone else has already commented that getting out there into the community would seem a good starting point too. For me, an introvert teen geek, it was getting involved in amatuer radio (being 'forced' to talk to the world and, for the icing on the cake, several voice contacts with the astronauts on the old MIR space station) - which then led me into Mountain Rescue ... and the rest is history (over 40 years service worth all told!). Doing this content creation is good too, as I've seen it help others by giving them frequent 'pauses' in their busy schedules, where they can review what they've done, their plans, etc. Wishing you all the best with any ventures you do try - and I'm looking forward to seeing how you get on. YOU GOT THIS!
You do have a quality that is rarely seen….. sincerity. On that alone and based upon what you said I thumbed up and subbed and look forward to hanging out. Be yourself, that is what matters. May God bless you.
OMG, you are so brave for real. I am 47, and I was in the same place at your age. The difference is that I kept it all in my head and thought I the odd ball out that had no path laid out for me. Getting this out of your head was the most challenging first step you could take. Great Job!!! I saw a few of your other videos, and you seem to be figuring things out. To this day, the most challenging question I could be asked is, "What do you like to do"? The advice I gave my son when he was young (now age 20) is the following: the secret to a happy life is to work to live, have enough money to pay your bills, save a little each month, and take a week's vacation each year. One piece of advice I'm currently working on is to wake up each day and consider what kind of day I WANT, not what I can do to get ahead or what will please my parents. It's about slowly carving out my own path, as I'm the only one who will walk it. May your personal exploration and development be filled with safety and happiness. Here's to your journey!
What a great idea for a journey! So many times people focus on finding their “destination” and they lose the value of the journey to get there! Real explorers had no idea where they would end up, but they started by at least setting sail. Looking forward to sharing your adventure!
Hey, you’re a completely normal 22 year old. It’s a difficult age to be. You’re not quite a full adult but you’re also not a kid anymore. I can totally relate to what you’re saying. When I was 22 I had no idea about what I wanted in life either. I had a crap retail job after four years of college. You’re very well spoken. Your voice is very clear. I feel like I want to listen to you talk. That’s something! When I was 22 my passion was photography. Five years later I entered a two year program in college to earn a commercial photography degree and that got me a job that lasted ten years and I had a great time though I didn’t make a lot of money. Baking is a passion. That’s a good start. Think of other things that make you happy. Follow your passions and you’ll never regret it.
Many people feel alone and can't make sense of the purpose of life. I've struggled through life being jobless, wifeless and childless. Today I've turned to rehoming rescue cats which has brought purpose and meaning to my life. Being kind and helping another living soul is the best medicine against depression. My cat little boy BLUE fills that feeling of emptiness I once had. He's not just a cat he's my family. We share a special bond. Having a connection with animals is comforting and looking after their needs improves your own health and well-being. Take care.
My father said "Make something out of yourself" I did. It became my career. Only you can discover what that can be, and you can change your mind along the way as well. I did. He also said "Be productive." Always learn.
Great advice. I think another is that whatever you do, do it well. Try a variety of jobs and interests and see what works and what you enjoy. I loved science and went into food safety and then management of over 800 people covering 3 states. I had a successful career that I enjoyed very much and had a variety of responsibilities that made it interesting to me. Good luck young folks.
Thank you for sharing . I'm sorry that you are feeling lost , but you have your health & everything it takes to succeed in life , you can do it , smile & the whole world will smile back . Wishing you every success in life
I came across this purely by chance, firstly you’re a brave young woman posting this, it’s a refreshing change to someone showing their true self. My youngest son and daughter are 18 and nearly 17 respectively. They both feel as you do at the moment, just to let you know you’re not on your own out there. Take care and I hope you find your path in life soon
Hi Erika. I’m a 47 year old guy from New Zealand. When I was 22 I fell into quite a deep depression for more than a year and felt suicidal. Looking back there were a number of reasons why this happened but mostly it was the lack of direction in life and feeling worthless and unliked. I had trouble expressing myself and emotions, even just basic conversations with people I found hard. I only just stumbled upon this video of you now, you are very articulate and your plan of trying to learn some new things and document it sounds like fun and a nice thing to do. I’ll be watching and hope to learn something from you. Incidentally, I’m self employed now and loving life. Best wishes from NZ.
A couple of thoughts: 1. We make our own purpose 2. Don’t look for happiness, it’s fleeting. Instead, strive for contentment, the middle ground between the highs and lows. 3. When you are down, commit to some sort of service to others less fortunate. It’s therapeutic. 4. Life isn’t a competition or a race. Follow your passion, if and when you find it. 5. Learn to like yourself. What are your strengths and weaknesses? 6. Learn about stoic philosophy. Minimize the negative, and maximize the positive. 7. Life is not fair. 8. One day at a time. Those are a start. Good luck. ❤
You are beautiful, you are young.you are honest,engaging, - go for it girl, a day at a time, a small step is the start of a thousand miles, - I’ll watch you- tell us how you’re getting on- we’re rooting for you 😊🙏
When I was 22, I was pretty much in the same boat you are now. No friends. No GF. My job was working nights at a wastewater treatment plant with no real chance for advancement. I tried college, but I kept changing my major from Art to Science and back again, over and over, so I wasted a lot of time. My only passions were reading (especially comic books), SFF, and drawing, with occasional forays into writing. But things will get better for you. You just have to persevere. You have to find your passion(s) and strive to make it (them) work for you. You say you like cooking and baking, and that you're planning on exploring that here on your channel. That's a good start. If you work at it, you could possibly make cooking a career in some way. As for myself, I finally figured out that all that stuff I learned in college could be used by becoming a teacher. My art and writing helped in this, too. While I definitely did NOT become rich, my students and their parents loved and respected me, and my colleagues respected me, too. In my spare time (what little teachers have - lol), I began writing short stories and doing illustrations for a magazine. From there, I started writing novels. My first novel - published as an ebook - got great reviews and won an award. My second novel was also published as an ebook, and it got great reviews, too. Now that I'm retired from teaching, I'm working on writing more novels, trying to get a literary agent to represent them so they can be published as real books, still reading a lot, and I'm learning to play the 6-hole pendant ocarina and the 17-key kalimba. You just have to find your passions and work at them. Even if you never get a job doing them, you and your family and friends can benefit from them while you work at whatever job to pay the bills and provide you with funding for those passions. You've no doubt heard this before, but your only 22. You've got the rest of your life ahead of you with plenty of time to figure things out. Take your time to find the things you love. I know it sounds trite, but you'll get there.
Guys thank you so much for all the comments, it means everything. I am reading them all, I wish I could respond to all of them. Thank you!!😊
@Erika R Well. I don’t know if you’re full of shit or not but at least you have youth, presumed health, and beauty and it looks like independence and stability.
I don’t mean to downplay whatever you feel or are going through but: I recommend the movie Threads, and as usual, the small things that bring you happiness.
It helps because I do know what you’re feeling and have many years of experience in that mindset.
I feel for your generation because we all failed you guys as my generation has been failed. We’ve been duped and lied to by a lot of people with swaths of money, influence, and power & given very little guidance or…you might just need to do some soul searching: contemplate and meditate on what you want out of life and the things that interest you. Then learn to capitalize on it and find a secondary skill.
You can most definitely find something, someone, or peers out there that fits you if you’re willing to explore. Everything is hard and takes work and reasonable judgement IMO. The mental barriers and hoops and loops and behaviors are tricky.
There’s no reason to buy into the stupid trends online or whatever group is spitting nonsense, instincts.
There’s a wonderful world out there with a rich history to explore.
It’s also nice to learn & explore and fully operate and harness the power of your mind and body. Eventually, the only thing you’ll want is money, skills, home, your main interest, a partner, and whatever floats your boat sexually. Then it’s probably just creature comforts, stability, people close to share life with, peace, and health.
Depends on the path, some people want a family or to be celibate, and all that’s okay too.
So, I hope these words help anyone who reads them as well as our host.
Cheers.
Being 22 with no prospects or plans isn't a huge deal. You're still super young and plenty of people with plans at 22 don't actually wind up sticking to those plans at all.
Shes not about that full exit full delete She being patient and waiting for a lamp come on to light the path
I too am lost. Lets be
Lost together lol.
I'm 71 and haven't accomplished much in life......I figure I'll hit my stride soon and knock the world on it's butt!
Three things will destroy you in life.
1. Drugs
2. Alcohol
3. A bad partner.
4. Toxic family
5.Hoe stuff
@@nohulse 5. Small Pen*s
@@nohulse Check on all four.
@@nohulse 5. Do not commit crimes.
I'm 70, and I still don't know what I'm going to do when I grow up. I have no regrets about my journey thus far.
This will be me yet lived a life so far not many would live.
@@aminalone elegantly brilliant 👍
gold!
I'm way younger. I'm only 55. I too don't know what I'm going to do when i grow up. Some people are able to stay young for a long time. I love the way I am and I love the way I live my life.
We have to get older. We don't have to grow up. :)
Erika, be very careful putting yourself out there like this on social media. There are alot of caring people like myself wanting to help you but, a lot more that want to hurt you. Life deals most people a foul hand so don't feel alone. I'm over 60, no friends, legally blind - but I still smile... things could be worse.
I know people with Low Vision. For what it is worth, I admire you for interacting with this audio/visual platform and posting a comment. "Keep the Faith"!
Aside from the internet trolls, most people are not looking to hurt anyone. The trolls are just projecting.
Also beware of men who tell you I'm not like the other guys.
@@hi-ccowboy7983 Sounds like they learned that from their mothers!
@@lilblackduc7312 Hahaha!!
That's how I(34) have been feeling all my life long and probably always will. It’s due to my chronical learning disability. My IQ is approx 80. I got tested twice in school. It is mainly because my mother drunk alcohol during her pregnancy (FASD spectrum/Fetal Alcohol Syndrome). Everything is harder in my life. No matter how hard I try, I always fail. I needed to visit special ed class till 18, I never had many friends, I never had the ability to visit college or achieve high education, I only work at sign holder jobs...or fast food...I also never had a girlfriend and probably never will.
All I always wanted is to have a job I like, some friends and an own family. Instead I'm alone with nothing and no one.
Being 22 with no life path or skills isn't a problem. It's a sign that you have 45+ years of opportunity ahead of you.
No direction IS a problem! In generations past, women were married by 20, having kids, and running a household. Nowadays we think living with parents until 30, starting to look for a husband at 40, living alone, and dying with a cat is OK. It isn't! People need to change their attitudes about their entitlements, as this woman is finding. The modern day feminist has told her she can have it all, and that is a bunch of crap!
To be brutally honest, time is always depreciating if you're a women. Especially if you want to have kids.
Every year that goes by puts you into a slimmer and slimmer selection pools of viable mates, on top of growing infertility. The average conception time for a 30 year old couple is almost a year now.
Life does get harder if you fail to take advantage of connections in your prime. Eventually your parents die, your colleagues change jobs, and your friends move on to different life stages. Married women with children don't typically hang around with women that aren't in the same life stage. That may sound cruel, but it's the truth. It only ends up being awkward when you have less and less to relate to.
Being single and separate is not a solution; it's a social media trend that ends in depression. Sure, there are some A Class type people that can run their company and live alone forever and die happy, but they are rare.
Sitting around waiting for things to happen is the ultimate way to end up with nothing.
Nerds responding to me: you're right, being directionless in life isn't good for anyone, especially women who all too quickly lose the ability to be mothers.
My initial comment isn't that it's okay to wait until you're 40 to get a direction in life. That's dumb. The point is that it's stupid be feel hopeless. I don't black-pill in life. She has 45+ years of life ahead of her to be without hope.
@@vladimirofsvalbard9477 Being a guy sucks,too.
@@vladimirofsvalbard9477 WTF? She's 22! She is a baby... talk about depressing, had I thought this way @ 22 I would have missed out on my entire life!
I’m Don and I’m 83 years old. If you cannot find a particular passion, then try this. Look around find something you can do really well. You don’t have to necessarily love it, but you will be paid for it because you’re good at it. Then see what happens it’s a beginning. Don’t give up.
Hey Don, you are right, but you don't have to do it well. Sometimes, you can try to do something totally out of your wheelhouse. My dad used to challenge me. Now I have to challenge myself. I'll eat the same thing in a resturant everytime, so sometimes I let other people order first then I copy their order. An old boss would ask me what I wanted for lunch, I'd tell him to choose. You are right though, busy busy bust, and you have no time for dark thoughts, or loneliness
Hmmm. I started to write a critical message on not doing anything. Now I am impressed she is trying something. She is avoiding being stuck. I wish her good luck. She will succeed.
You are allready doing somthing...and positive!
Keep on doing these videos blogs and you will find your way 😂
You are young, able-bodied, not in jail, not pregnant, and have all the opportunities this world has to offer. Take your sweet time figuring out what to do with your life. You are allowed to try things, hate one thing, try another, change your mind, screw things up, ask for a do over, and do it all over again. Life and career are not a straight line nor a ladder. Its more of a curvy trail full of rocks, rain, sunshine, tripping, falling, getting up, and no clue where it will lead you. Life will work out in the end, guaranteed.
best answere !
Gosh i needed to hear that just for me
You are still young and have your whole life ahead of you. Don’t rush your life by. Take your time and find what makes you happy. Then do it. If you like to cook, go to chef school or baking/ dessert school. The sky is the limit for you! You can be anything you want to be and do anything you want to do. I have all the faith in you to follow your heart and go for it.
It is kind of like marriage. Don’t marry someone you can live with. Marry someone you cannot live without!
Find what lights the fire in your heart and you have your answer.
If you need someone to talk to there are those you can reach out to.
Just smile. It will make those around you feel better and you will feel better when they smile back at you.
Take care of yourself and keep your chin up and Smile😊
I hope the best for her - we are living in a dificil time and worst for this generation
As long as she prioritizes her health then she will be fine. Health is the most important thing at the end of the day.
I can ID with you. I’m 81 yo and I to roamed through life aimlessly. Multiple jobs, a few short careers, married with 2 kids and 4 grandchildren. At the end of the day everything turned out fine and it will with you. Your youth is your biggest asset right now. You can fail more then once and still have plenty of time to recover. Good luck!
Thank you for sharing
What age does that youth end? 40?
Im in my 50s completley alone and Totally content.
Did I renovation of my apartment,
Got a new car. I feel like I Finally my shit together.
@@adammorris2265 It's not a fixed age, as you get older though it has to become a factor in your goal setting. When you are 35-40 provided you are healthy you can realistically set a goal that requires 20 years of vigor and sustained input. when you get older than that, and depending on how you are doing healthwise, that may not be as prudent. You may think, I might only have 10-15 years of the required vigor left. It depends on the personal situation of the individual. Eventually you just won't be able to do all the things you could when you were younger, and your body won't tolerate the abuse anymore, but I would encourage anyone to push that limit as far as they sensibly can within their own limitations.
Another super account from a fellow human.
I'm 53 - still lost - still trying - still don't know where I'm going. Not always moving forwards but I keep striving for that perfect day
Sorry to hear that. I'm 53 too and found my footing when I turned 27.
I too am 53. I have tried many things. I became good at some things and great at a few. Never stop learning! Life is a journey full of ups and downs, twists and turns. I nearly lost my life in a car accident a few months ago so now I strive to enjoy my time left with those few people close to me. We never know when our last day will be so we should enjoy life while we still can! Find pleasure in the small things.
Erika, I am a 63 year old male. I pretty much lived a wasted life. I never found my passion. As a result, I ended up working at a job I hated.
I'm retired now, but even now that I have all the time in the world to find a passion, I can't seem to even do that.
The one thing I know is, I wish I could learn to smile more. People are attracted to smiles. No one likes to hang with a frowner like me. I think it is too late for me to change, but you are young. Light up the world with your smile and soon doors will open up for you! 🙂
It's never too late my friend :) As long as you're alive there's hope, and where there's hope, there's the potential for change. You can do it!
J e s u s
John 14: 5 Thomas *said to Him, “Lord, we do not know where You are going, how do we know the way?” 6 Jesus *said to him, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life; no one comes to the Father but through Me.
Hebrews 2: 4 God also testifying with them, both by signs and wonders and by various miracles and by gifts of the Holy Spirit according to His own will.
John 8: 12 Then Jesus again spoke to them, saying, “I am the Light of the world; he who follows Me will not walk in the darkness, but will have the Light of life.”
John 14: 21 He who has My commandments and keeps them is the one who loves Me; and he who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him and will disclose Myself to him.” 22 Judas (not Iscariot) *said to Him, “Lord, what then has happened that You are going to disclose Yourself to us and not to the world?” 23 Jesus answered and said to him, “If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our abode with him. 24 He who does not love Me does not keep My words; and the word which you hear is not Mine, but the Father’s who sent Me.
John 7: 15 The Jews then were astonished, saying, “How has this man become learned, having never been educated?” 16 So Jesus answered them and said, “My teaching is not Mine, but His who sent Me. 17 If anyone is willing to do His will, he will know of the teaching, whether it is of God or whether I speak from Myself. 18 He who speaks from himself seeks his own glory; but He who is seeking the glory of the One who sent Him, He is true, and there is no unrighteousness in Him.
19 “Did not Moses give you the Law, and yet none of you carries out the Law? Why do you seek to kill Me?” 20 The crowd answered, “You have a demon! Who seeks to kill You?”
You can start reading Scriptures (Bible) in New Testament: Gospel of John and/or Acts.
I'm 29 and feel this happening in real time, and I'm trying to reach out and stop it but it's so damn hard.
There are always possibilities as Mr. Spock was famous for saying.
HuatulcoGuy, Try smiling at people like as if your smile is a gift to them with no strings attached. Even if you don’t feel like smiling. People love it when others smile at them. Put it into practice. Make it a habit. It’s very gratifying.
As a guy in his late thirties, don't worry, I think the majority of us have all been there.
As a 63 year old male, who has been through it all and who has been married for 37 years now, you have everything it takes to make it big in life. Keep doing what you love and keep an even keel. Distrust novelties and keep your eyes open. Not everyone is an asshole, but keep your third eye open to con artists and losers. Some of the most charming people are the ones you have to worry about. Stay 100% natural and never compromise yourself to others. Your happiness depends on your ability to live life according to your own desires and beliefs. Never agree with anyone else’s beliefs just to fit in. Never get any tattoos or cosmetic horrors done. Live outside the box and live your best life as you see fit.
Not anymore. Neo-feudalism will be the future your grandchildren will know.
69 year-old male--best advice I have read in a long time.
I am a United States Special Forces Naval Officer and I have been overseas on 8 Missions that each one lasted anywhere from 12-14 months in Both Afghanistan and Iraq. Cannot talk about details but the pain and horror that travels with me to this day remains. I fully understand what you mean more then you know. Believe me when I tell you this, you can overcome anything that comes your way. Always believe in yourself as I have combatted these feelings. May God bless you always and please Be Safe.
I await your book, sir. (No, that wasn't a joke... I really do mean it.)
Don’t rush. You’re upright, you’re conscious, you’re cognizant, you’re experiencing what many other people do. Now, go make things happen!
I noticed your description said, "...share my life *in hopes that it can help someone else*." I think you can build on that. Sometimes serving others is a great reminder of our own value.
Money.🤌
You have youth, brains, honesty and beauty. You will find your way
Sadly, it's the discipline that you need and none of the above.
@@ilia2178
Discipline means nothing other than
1. having a whiteboard
2. writing down the tasks on it
3. completing them one after the other, with sufficient time off
@@ilia2178 Discipline is what you need after you've accepted an opportunity to make your life better. Discipline by itself does nothing more than keep you locked in at whatever level you are.
@@Quakeboy02 Looking for opportunities requires discipline. They are not just going to knock at your door one day.
@@ilia2178 Actually, they do. But most people are too busy to be bothered.
13 careers at this time in my life and I am still looking for what I want to do.
57 here - keep showing up and it will work out.
All i have to say is youre not alone. What makes me so happy is that you are not blaming anyone or anything for what is happenig with you or with your life. I have done the same thing, seeing my old friends from high school on social media and thinking "man, what am i doing with my life? look at how great they are doing!" ive made many mistakes in my life, but no matter what i pick myself back up and try again. im 34 years old, divorced, male, work two jobs all week just to see my (4) kids on the weekends. This is the first video ive ever seen of yours and your brutal honesty is a great thing to have. Most people just blame everyone for everything, but you seem to own your own issues and want to ACTUALLY work on them, some way or another, even if you dont know how. Youre trying, and that is the most important thing!
There are more of us out there like you than you realize. You really are not alone. Life is a journey.
life is a process if you want success. not a journey
Life is a total pain in the ass! Let's be real here! lol 😁👍
Erica, I'm a few years older than you and I can say life changes all the time. Ive been a Karate teacher for 40 years, an electronic technician, a Police officer to a boat mechanic, and much more. The saying "Go with the flow" is a good motto.
A few tips;
1. No alcohol
2. No drugs
3. Read books
4. Join a sport/club
5. Surround yourself with positive people.
You have a lot of positive comments, im sure you're on the right track for success.
Best of luck from Australia.
By no Alcohol and No Drugs you mean no PTSD. It is not the Drugs. It is the pain. American Medical Schools teach addiction is a symptom of PTSD. Dr. Lonny Shavelson in his book "Heroin" said that 70% of female heroin addicts had been sexually abused in childhood.Drugs fill receptors. What empties receptors (injury, PTSD) causes a desire for drugs. Drugs CAN'T cause addiction. Pass it on.
Add, don't cover in ink. I saw this in another post.
Do not surround yourself With positive people. Watch the News an look at war in the world and think “ I m not so bad”.
Very well said in a few short words. You speak the truth and I hope this very bright young lady hears it!
@@dalesnyder4831 Thanks mate, lets hope so.
I'm 68 so I can listen to you from a very different perspective than you see yourself. You come across as being a very genuine person. Most people at 22 know less about were they are going or what they are doing than you. They are just not as self aware as you. I think this channel will be a big success for you! You got a lot more going for you than you think. Best of luck!
I understand the feeling of being "disconnected" from the world's flow. Knowing what to do, knowing what to want and knowing what to feel in life.
People moving on, get kids, good jobs, loving partners... But the good thing is. You are not alone with this journey. A friend took me to a party, I'm member of a gym since last week (😅) and I try to connect, when I'm out with my dog.
I wish you all the best on this journey. Try some things out, don't be afraid of breaks and time. It's okay to breathe and listen to the nature. And never let someone say you are not enough. I'm happy to found you and I will follow your path if you want to let us know. 💙
You have it way more figured out than you give yourself credit for. I am 58 and still trying to figure it out.
I’m the same at 65 and yet here I am. 🙂
Yeah I'm almost 40 and wanted to say the same...!
There is no perfect career, no perfect relationship, no perfect anything. Everyone is still figuring it out until we die.
Likewise at 57
I’m 99 and still haven’t finished puberty
Hey Erika, there’s some very good advice in the comments and I’d summarise by saying;
1. Don’t think other people have it all figured out compared to you, most people are bumping along in life just trying to survive.
2. Try to figure out what you enjoy and do more of it; if that involves an occupation brilliant but sometimes an occupation can just be for paying the bills and you can follow any passions outside of work in your spare time and there’s nothing wrong with this.
3. Helping other people less advantaged than yourself really helps to put some context into your life and shifts the focus away from your own problems.
Finally, my observations on your skills are that you’re honest, articulate, intelligent and your own struggles mean that you’ll have an empathy for others. These are already “super powers” when it comes to embarking on life’s journey and it is just that, a journey of experiences.
Hope this helps in some way. My 3 kids have all found challenges in their 20’s. Best wishes from the UK
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What a nice comment Dean !
Yes, i agree with you.
That's a nice post, well said Dean.
Excellent advice, and I can personally vouch for your third point: helping others led to hugely rewarding perspective in my life. Maybe there are some older people in your neighborhood that could use a quick assist with their lawn care or household maintenance. Maybe volunteer at a community center or food bank. This actions will create calm and give you learned experiences that may shape some of your own goals in life.
You're just a regular 22 year old. In my 65 years I have had many careers , you will become a more rounded amazing person.
Hi Erika, you're not lost or hopeless. You are young and trying to figure it out. The fact that you are making this channel demonstrates that fact. You are interested in cooking or baking. That is a form of art. It's creative and what you make is unique only to you. You are creative. I encourage you to build on that. I encourage you to read, write, travel, draw, paint, meet new people. Spend less time thinking about yourself and more time thinking about others. Teaching or helping others brings confidence and belief in your own abilities. These are suggestions that I know work. I teach kids to ski race. It is my life's passion and I'm so fortunate to be paid to do it.
24 year old no-lifer here too. No job, no career prospects, no passions. My advice (for what its worth) is to just do something. Literally anything. This channel is already a great step in the right direction. The more things you try the more opportunities start to unfold, or don’t, but you learn things along the way.
Start selling that tuna while it’s still fresh.
"No-lifer" 😂. That's a funny term.
Great piece of advice by the way 👍
As Jordan Peterson would say, "Start making your bed in the morning!" Grow up and take responsibility for yourself. She is young enough to recover, but she better change her attitude. Life crushes people like her.
As a 40 year old who had no idea what I was going to do for a career until I was 29, this is great advice. The more blocks you walk, the more streets you get to turn down. Pretty soon you’ll have gotten farther than you thought possible.
😂😂😂😂yup, that's it! No skill, no talent, no craft, no problem- join utube and feed your narcissism 😂😂😂😂
You are so young and have your whole life ahead of you. Don't get discouraged. Most of us at 22 were no different!
Second that!
THIRD THAT! ❤
B.S. that!
Fourth that!
I feel like I was 22 last year, but I’m 63 now. I have done so much in that time and have no regrets. I always stayed true to myself and never had to question myself. If I had to do it again, there is little I would change. Life is incredibly complicated, but the pieces come together on their own.
stopping by quickly to say respect. for the honesty and the acountability to yourself. always a great start like this! no irony
hope you do well and have fun on this journey
Girl I dig your honest and authentic REAL vibes, I can tell you’re a rare soul and definitely here for a reason so keep your faith and I’m sure you’ll be loved and recognised here on CZcams.
I’m 23 and in a very similar situation, so I’m really excited to watch your videos and relate/ get to know you!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼
Same with me.
You have a big skill that I noticed, which is honesty. That's pretty rare, so that's a huge strength as a stepping stone to learning about yourself. Huge.
I just like that face she looks pretty decent without gobs of makeup. That and she's kinda random. I'll keep an eye on her channel like the creepy guy in the neighborhood.
You COULD NOT have made a more USELESS comment!!!
Not sure this is great advice. Honesty will not get you far in life. You gotta be a bit cunning / ruthless to get ahead.
Being too “nice’ in life can be a bad thing.
Honesty...such a lonely word. Everyone is so untrue.
@@dustinmiller2775 She just WASTED the last FOUR YEARS!!!
I used to be a son, brother, coworker, boyfriend, husband, father, and grandfather.
Of all the names I have been called, "grandpa" was my favorite.
I think you will be SOMEBODY if you just push a child on a park swing.
I'm 77 and married to my wife for 56 years. We married young and had nothing when I came out of the Army in 1968 - but we pushed each other and slowly made a wandering path in life. I have now been to 64 countries and lived in 5 for work and seen much of the world. What I learned is that all human beings have the same problems, desires, and worries as my wife and I. You are not different nor alone than I was at your age. For good advise listen to your Parents (and family they have your best wishes at heart for you) also go back to your high school and visit some of your old teachers. You will be surprised at how much they have learned and changed since you went to HS. They will and can give you some great ideas of next steps. Don't wait, act now - times a wasting! You are not alone!
I was very touched by your openness. You are not alone. Everyone feels that way at manny stages in their life…you are just more transparent and honest about hope you feel inside. In a short comment and never having met you, here is an actionable advice that may sound drastic, but I know firsthand it has helped with the inner journey: No drugs, alcohol, or sugar. Read. Walk, stretch, maybe even yoga regularly. NO negative relationships (or any at all right now). And watch videos on people live in their car for a year and have the freedom to hike in nature, journal, and live in simplicity. Nature bathing is a cure. And maybe you can’t get a cat or dog right now, but visit animals and hug, kiss and love them. They will love you back unconditionally. I believe you are in an ideal time of your life to do this. You seem like a lovely, honest person. I hope my insights help you. Take care! :)
I’m 50 and feel a failure. But I did learn some things, I’d love to be 22 again.
I have 4 pieces of advice.
1. Travel.
2. Read.
3. Do something that makes you uncomfortable every week.
4. Learn how to determine reality so you don’t waste your valuable time on fantasies. Apply the scientific method to everything you think you know and test everything you’re told for logical fallacies.
You do this and you will learn more about yourself and what you want out of life. My problem is I learnt this too late. I only have 20-30 years left. Too little time to make a difference.
It's not too late for you. You may be getting better slowly, but you clearly know at least four things that you didn't before! Sure it's too late to become an Olympic athlete, but you probably never had a shot at the presidency and that's nothing to be disappointed by. Maybe you can make a companion channel to this one?
@@AndyBHomethanks for saying this. I'm also 50 and in a comparable position. Only now have I been diagnosed with AAD, and I was medically retired in 2022 @ age 48. I really loved my job and the nature of it suited my condition so well that I believe it to be the reason that it wasn't noticed in my adult years. So being at home all the time it surfaced in a way that frustrates most people around me and I frequently feel quite useless. Getting my life back on track is really challenging and hearing someone say it's not too late is a welcome motivation.
For a ‘failure’, you gave some of the best and succinct advice I’ve seen, here…
I sure as hell don’t want to be 22, again (grin!). I’d sure as hell like to be with twenty-something girls but I guess I probably wouldn’t make any sense in their lives. Gather ye rosebuds while ye may.
We ‘failures’ should stick together, though. Fifty is a little young to be giving up! I’m seventy and I’m still kicking ass and taking names. I just spent the last six years as a medical train-wreck. Right now, I’m still trying to figure out how I could be with a 33-year-old girl that I fell in love with when she had just turned 27. If _I_ was still ‘50’, I’d be a shoe-in for that 33-year-old girl! I could probably even talk her into making babies with me!
Life is about learning. Even at 80 or 90, if you have learned through experience, then your life has not been wasted, and you carry that experience and what you have learned with you, hopefully, on into a better and more peaceful existence.
@@AndyBHomenot about me, my comment was for this young lady, things are a lot harder for the young with social media and all. It is making a lot of lonely people as they don’t have real relationships because most of their interactions are online, or through texts. So many people live through their phone these days, even if they are in company.
Hi Erika,
I am a 73 year old man with some life experience. At 17 I joined the Army and never had an issue of needing a goal since. I am not suggesting you seek a military job. I suggest finding a church where you can volunteer in some ministry. Maybe serving food to needy people. Maybe visiting the sick in the hospital. Maybe visiting people in a personal care home. Maybe visiting people in hospice care. Maybe teaching pre-school to youngsters. When you volunteer to help others, the focus moves onto them and away from oneself.
You are precious and special. I see great potential in you. Ask God to guide you.
Blessings to you.
Gordon
Excellent advice
Yes I agree wholeheartedly with this advice. For myself I wish that I joined the army (South African), too old now. But serving others is probably a better way to get direction in ones own life, as well as being in the Lords service will definitely add value to ones own life too.
This is the best advice I have heard in a long time .I'm knocking on 65 and you will never ever go wrong with having a true relationship with God let him lead you the peace is really beyond your understanding.
Your 73 .This isn't the " age " demographic she intended to reach.your better off to un- subscribe.
I also joined the army at 17. Gordon's advice is solid. The more you make yourself your primary focus, the more anxiety you will feel. Focus on what you can do for others, not what they think of you. Even as an atheist, I also recommend finding community through church and being in the service of others. Then learn to treat yourself as you would treat others you care about. I know it's hard to see, but things will fall into place for you. I wish you the best.
Don’t ever give up on yourself. When I was 22 I had no idea what I wanted to do. And to be honest with you. I have skipped through life. Just making it the best way I can. Just please don’t give up on yourself! Just know it will get better😊 you have a friend in me. and have a wonderful day.
I'm 75 years old. Relations with people have been very disappointing. Relations with cats and dogs have been wonderful. Cats and dogs won't lie to you. If you give them love they will love you back. There are always cats and dogs who need your love and your help. My best relationships and joys in life has been with cats.
I was in a similar position once, I went into the army, then worked on ships, have worked as a waiter, a porter in a hotel, a night manager in a hotel, on emergency ambulances, been a carer for someone who became disabled, been a charity worker, a bus driver and am currently a project manager. In between all those jobs I have been a traveller, unemployed due to ill health and due to companies I worked for closing down. I have failed many times at things like starting my own business and at the age of 50 I have no regrets as everything has taught me valuable lessons. Ultimately I could have given up so many times in life such as when I had nothing but the clothes on my back and was living on the streets.
You still have the possibilities that life will provide you over the next few decades to figure things out, as long as you find peace and a degree of happiness in life then you have some of the best blessing you can ever get.
Shout out to you for being honest and real, CZcams might end up being your thing.
You don’t realize how young 22 is when you are 22. I tried a variety of paths from 22 to 32 and had to reinvent myself along the way. I finally got going on a consistent path at 33 after finally completing a degree in finance and thankfully, my wife and I are in a good place financially and otherwise. Enjoy your 20’s. If you are going to make mistakes, now is the time to make them. Explore, and live your life.
Well you are already a success, look at all of the people you brought together here to speak positive things into your life and for us all to share in this journey with you. When you step out and reveal truth as you have , it will set you free. Your path at 22 is going to be a wonderful and wild ride, hang on and don't quit, your gonna make it. I look forward to seeing how your channel inspires others to grow with you ❤
The fact that you are willing to put yourself out there like this already shows me that you are a lot less lost than you may think. You mentioned that you want to run this channel for people so that everyone can learn together which shows empathy and the willingness to give up your time for the benefit of others. Everyone without exception has something to contribute to the world Erika. You have proven this by making this channel and this video. In many respects you are ahead of others your age, because you have not chosen a career just for the sake of choosing a career. You are young. Take your time. Try many things until you find something you truly enjoy. Although it may feel like you have been left behind in life, just remember life is not a race and everyone is on their own journey. Don't look outward to see what others are doing, look inward and listen to what your heart tells you, because although your mind may sometimes mislead you, your heart never will.
I'm REALLY impressed that you thought of putting this up! Thank you!
wow you must impress very easily
Hey Erika, Sorry to hear that you feel this way and well done on making this video.
I feel the same also after getting out of a long term relationship about 8 months ago. I started playing golf and it has changed my life. It's crazy how it can rekindle friendships and help you meet new people. It also gets you out in the lovely weather.
I'm sure you will find your path. I'll be following along regardless of what you do. :) All the way from Ireland.
Bless you child, you're speaking for so many who think and feel these things but never tell anyone. You got guts kid! I'm definitely going to be around to get behind you and anyone else like you who is opening their eyes to the world around them. You are so much more (right now) then you could possibly imagine!
This is a special time in the universe and we are all going for one hell of a ride. You are right were you are, doing your thing as part of one beautiful story. The story never ends and neither do you. Just keep being you and doing you and sharing yourself with the world. I love what you are doing. So proud. I'm Kenny and I'll be around. 👍
I'm 62
Hi, Erika. I don't know why CZcams suggested your video, but I'm glad it did. I found your honesty refreshing. My heart goes out to you. I felt your discomfort through the screen and want you to know that you're not alone. You're going through some stuff, and it's OK and normal to feel how you're feeling. I'm encouraged by the direction you chose to move. Instead of sitting and moping, you were vulnerable and made forward momentum. You'll continue to fumble along - that's part of the journey. But, you'll grow and get better. That's also part of the journey. May God bless you and shine his face upon you.
You are young, beautiful, open and honest about yourself. Explore and find something that makes you happy. I am 65 and still not sure what I am doing with the rest of my life but I wish I had pursued something I enjoyed rather than doing what others thought was best when I was 22.
Immediately I can spot that you’re intelligent and manipulative…become a politician.
@@seangriffiths8036 That's an utterly asinine comment. The guy posts an entirely supportive comment on a video of someone who's struggling and you claim to know without a doubt that the guy is manipulative. If nothing else, give people the benefit of the doubt. If, in the extreme, none of us can do that for each other then we'll create a very depressing world indeed.
@@seangriffiths8036 What you're judging here in someone else is actually your own self. It's called "projection".
@@minimal3734 Thanks for your free analysis….that saves me paying a shrink. This girl is wallowing in her own self pity in spite of her clear intelligence and persuasion skills. We can either feed her self pity or try to shake her out of it.
@@jeffevio my comment is not against @leelawrence3379….its against the poster of this video. She is manipulative and obviously quite intelligent. Don’t feed her self pity. She needs to harden up. Evolution does not favour the weak.
The first step is THIS self realization at your young age. I'm proud of you for being this honest. I feel like I've been faking it into my forties and only realizing THIS now. And I have plenty to be grateful for BUT I know I missed out on so many opportunities in life because I was focused on working my butt off. But I missed out on seeing this beautiful world because I was so frightened by the media and even my mom to stay home. I settled on a house with dogs and some partners that weren't the ones and still looking for meaning. Like you, I just keep learning new things to keep flame alive. Best of luck to you on your journeys.
Everyday is a series of opportunities for you. This is a great beginning! You go girl!
The fact that you made this video shows ambition. Well done for having the courage to put it out there.
Hey Erika this is what helped me at your age...all on my own..I studied food and wine,started working in a restaurant,taught myself guitar,started eating healthy,started working out,bought a bike and NEVER looked back. Now I'm 59 now,still play guitar,still work out,and I ride my bike 6 miles to the restaurant I work...no college education,no drugs,just me and my determination to exceed MYSELF!! Cooking sounds like a great idea,I love to cook as well..There's a CZcams channel called Food Wishes,it's a fantastic channel. It's perfectly normal to be lost and to feel despair,just don't wallow in it. You'll be just fine Erika❤
LOVE me some Chef John!
@SeansMusicVault love his Fondant potatoes!!
Well done Erika on taking these first steps and even doing it openly on CZcams, that in itself takes courage. I hope you find what you are looking for, taking one step at a time, and sometimes that means taking a wrong turn. At least afterwards you know that that’s something you don’t want. And you are one step closer to what you do want. I love this quote from Saint Francis Assisi;
"First do what is necessary.
Then do what is possible.
And before you know it you are doing the impossible."
It helps to get started, create momentum and action and turns into a discovery/journey we call life.
One thing I found particularly powerful when I found myself in a similar position is asking. Ask for help internally (from God, the universe, your internal guide) for what you would like, and expect circumstances to come up in which you will learn about what you are asking. At the end of the day give thanks to what the day has given you. I’ll be amazing what it does in the long run. 😉
Your vulnerability is so powerful and courageous. This is the first video of your channel that I just came across so I’m not sure how the videos and passage of time has progressed but the level of honesty on this is very rare these days, especially the world of CZcams
You are so young at 22, you've weathered a learning phase. You're at the age where you've learned enough to learn. Start where you stand, with what you have, now. You say you have nothing. Not true. You have realization that you need new direction.
You have compassion for others in your situation. Many in all sorts of successful and unsuccessful situations never possess compassion. You cannot teach that. So there's that in your favor.
Cooking, like any creative art (painting, writing, playing music, sewing, etc.) helps and changes you. The sustained act of creation changes you, and changes how you see yourself.
Hang in there. You are so very young and have a lifetime to let things play out. ♥
Well said, what she can use is more friends like you...
The glass is half full, and Jesus's loves you both!🙏🕊❤️
this is half the problem: Boomers and Gen X'ers simply will not allow Millenials or Gen Z'ers to grow up. I'm almost 40 and they still call me young, or a kid....
She a SCAMMER IT seems .. nice house 🏠 etc
@@phillyunrau4736 i mean, to me it just looks like any given kitchen in a 2 bedroom apartment. Nice, but nothing special. It's just clean.
Not saying you're wrong, but its just funny that something like that is considered luxury now... simply amazing how Boomers and Gen X'ers have utterly destroyed the furture for anyone millenial and onward. Sad times ahead, i especially feel for the younger white Gen Z guys, their future is bleak...
She is not so young at 22 LOL. Stop telling people in their 20s that they are young. You could say that it is not late to start sth from scratch in their life.
Hi Erika. Im 68. I graduated HS in 1973, dropped out of college 18 mo later, lived off my parents doing nothing for 6 months. My mom forced me to go to a temp agency in NYC. I had no idea what I wanted or liked. They sent be to a brokerage firm. I met people, mostly good, enjoyed learning about stocks and bonds, and ended up making it a career. Good thing about temp agencies is they send you to different businesses and most times a business will hire you from the agency, so you get to experience different paths. Pay sucks in the beginning, but the exposure is great. You are very well spoken, which if I were interviewing you would be a huge plus. You also may be a bit depressed. Therapy could help. Its expensive, but most companies have it as part of their wellness coverage. Hang in there. Please be careful of folks taking advantage of young women, now that you are out there.
Wow. I wish someone had sent me on that path.
@@minkorrh Never too late my friend
When I was 22 I felt much like you. The fact that you want more out of life is a wonderful impulse. It will drive you to search more deeply than those around you who have already found what they want. Your persistence and patience will ultimately flower in a life more deeply satisfying than you would otherwise have found.
So genuine. Lots of love to you. From my experience, it turns out that everything works out one day, one moment, at a time.
When I was a young man I was very much like you. My parents were poor. I tried to get a grant for college but poor white guys didn't get grants. I did hard labor jobs for a while and at some point I realized that if I did not do something soon I was doomed to live a life of ditch digging. After much thought and prayer, I joined the Army and picked a skill that I thought would serve me when I left the service (electronics). It did. The military can be a good shortcut and for 2 or 4 years of your life you can gain a skill that can be parlayed into a career. You will also learn things about yourself that you never realized along the way. If it makes you feel any better, you are quite typical of 95% of the human race. One other thing: if you feel 'alone' you might want to read the New Testament. Try it, what do you have to loose?
Fantastic
Best advice I got from a college professor on graduating was stated in a kindly agitated voice: "…why are so many of you so focused on your "careers"? You don't even know what your real talents and interests are yet and won't until you're 30." At your current age of 22, all you've ever done is follow somebody else's roadmap. You're finally free. Enjoy it because now is when the real learning begins. And just know that you will always be making it up as you go, relying on experience and intuition or instinct. It's what we do - just don't pretend it's otherwise, and you'll be much happier than if you think you ever really figured it out completely.
At 35, that sounds about right and is good advice.
Well said.
Omg how true google the song everyone is free to wear sunscreen ,, it’s worth it
Totally disagree. If you wait until 30 to figure it out you’re lost.
Read a Bible. It's proven to be the best source of wisdom. That's really what we need. Observance of commandments is Where's it is at. Acknowledgement of a creator is where it's at. Cooking is good, yes, but there has to be a foundation or it means nothing. Really enjoyed your valunarbillity.
You will get there. You're heading in the right direction. You know that you need to find a direction in life and trying out new things can help you figure out what you enjoy doing. Good luck!
Erika, thank you for your openness and thank you for your bravery. As you have guessed, there are so many others out there who feel just like you do. And just by posting this you have already helped them more than you could know. I'm 74 years old and my life is better now than it has ever been. For the last five years I have been working on ways of teaching how I got here. In one afternoon/evening I believe I can provide anyone with all the tools they need for a fast track to happiness. Just sayin'.
A beautiful, blue-eyed blonde. My god, woman, you were born on third base! Whatever you set your mind and hands to, success is almost inevitable, you would have to actively TRY to fail. This cooking/baking thing is a good idea, and I'm sure you'll have lots of viewers. In only eleven days, you already have over 4400 subs, myself among them! That's more than 400 per day!
You're going to be just fine.
Exactly, attractive women this day and age are set for life
@@ballbagchris6920 I think that's probably ALWAYS been the case.
@@craigcorson3036 true I’m just saying it’s even easier now bc they can literally just post pics and vids and make millions
@@ballbagchris6920 How fulfilling and meaningful that would be!
"Youth is wasted on the young". She can do anything she wants, and it'll be three times easier because she's young, attractive, and female.
I was in the same boat at 19 , loads of dead end jobs, no skills, no education, no girlfriend. I joined the Air Force and learned a trade as a heavy vehicle mechanic. I only did 6 years in the air force but it set me up for life and one thing has led to another and I’ve lived all over the world and had a great life from fixing buses in Australia to fire trucks in the uk . It’s just getting that first step moving, after that it’s like a snowball rolling, but you’ve got to really push out of your comfort zone and grab every opportunity that comes remotely near you, trust me they will.
Same, sort of. Was 21. Joined the Navy. Makes you grow up, become independent. Got married, had two kids, got into the police academy, got a career, bought a house, kept my head down, kept my nose clean, went to work everyday for 30 years, now I’m close to retirement, 6 grandkids - a life well led. The military was Step 1.
Hang in there Erika! Tomorrow will be a better day. Prayers coming to you from your friends in CT!
Erica, you deserve a great deal of credit for being brutally honest and vulnerable on CZcams. It takes real depth of character to do that, and you possess the beauty of a model, which I believe is an uncommon combination of attributes. I’m sure you are not alone in your situation. I have subscribed to your channel, and think it will be a success. All the best to you!
You are young go volunteer someplace. Help in a children's hospital. You will cry with joy seeing how upbeat kids are without legs or maybe arms. Make yourself help orhers. I enjoyed every thing you have said. God bless you. You are beautiful and gave gorgeous hair.
Absolutely! Volunteerism will also give you skills, both work and social. Help you build a personal community that could also be a support when you need one.
Your situational recognition at 22 is a big deal. Stay honest with yourself and true to yourself.
I try to live by the concept: “Be the man you want to be” That means I imagine the best possible me and everyday take steps and actions, sometimes very small steps, to move towards or at least not fall back from my goal. You can do that too.
Get out in the world and try things. Not everything will stick or even turn out to be your cup of tea.
But get out daily. Don’t just stay home. Maybe take a single night class, on a topic that interests you, at Community college or elsewhere.
You have time on your side. Take advantage of that.
You can do this.
Good luck!
Oh wow, that's wonderful. It doesn't feed her or pay the bills. She can find a way to help people and get paid so that she can be self sufficient. Work at an auto parts store or hardware store or try learning HVAC or become an electrician. Step out of the traditional female jobs.
Consider volunteering as an assistant for a youth sport team (eg: Little League Baseball). You don't have to understand the game; you just have to be there to help out and support the kids.
You have great communication skills. The kids will benefit from having you there. Their parents will appreciate all that you do.
NOTE: While helping out, NEVER TOUCH your cell phone. Just leave it in the car when you get to the game, or the practice. Focus on the moment and where you are. Don't ever miss any of the team activities. The kids will love having you there.
I did this at 21 when I left home and moved to Alberta (Canada). I coached minor hockey for the next 12 years. It was fantastic!😊
Your honesty, vulnerability, and decency are THE foundational moorings of a successful and happy life to come. You are valuable as being you. I came to this country 49 years ago with nothing. Literally, other than the clothes on my back. I ended up graduating from law school, finding a wonderful wife, and raising a precious child, which would have never happened when I seriously thought of quitting. Please don't. You have too much beauty and promise. Thanks for sharing, and God bless you.
This video really spoke to me, it made me feel not alone. Thanks Erika.
Everyone needs to focus on three things their entire life, Physical, Financial. & Intellectual goals. Life is better when you are Physically Fit, do physical activities every day, your choice, walk, run, bicycle, dance, karate, whatever u want. Life is better when you are Financially Secure, a person needs to learn to live on 50% income and save 50% income for emergencies & retirement. Life is better when you have the skills and intelligence to handle life's problems, this is continuous learning, what ever u want to learn, cooking, medical, electronics, mechanics, whatever u want to learn, you can spend the rest of your life learning new things and never know it all.
I started working "new construction" plumbing when I was in Jr. High during the summer. Four kids (2 boys & 2 girls) and a wife later, none of my kids were interested in plumbing. I told them to "find something CHALLENGING that most other people can't do... You'll get paid well to do it". I plumbed a local Craft Brewery and got my oldest son a job there pushing a broom, he now runs the brew house at a large Craft Brewery in So Calif. My daughter works in the ER as a Surgical Tech at Loma Linda University Ca... My youngest son did 5 yrs on an Air Craft Carrier (Theodor Roosevelt) and is joining the Fire Dept. My oldest daughter manages 2 Hotel Casinos in Sturgis S.D.
Find something you like that most other people can't do....Your phone will ring and you'll get paid well to do it. Hope this helps...
I was helping a friend move a barn when I was 25. One day we were doing our morning coffee chat and planning what to do next. He finally said “Well, let’s do SOMETHING, even if it’s wrong.”
Erin you have such immense value that at your age it is hard to see it from your perspective. 100% many other young people are feeling the same including all the youth that preceeded you like many other comments here including myself.
My advice to you is to be open to new directions in life and use logic and reason to make decision mixed a tad bit of instincts and luck does come in occassionally. As I have learned in life, the universe naturally seeks balance and that means bad things also happen.
Stay focused and just work your tail off at whatever opportunity you get and you will grow and learn and earn a decent life. Sticking to good values and be humble. I wish you the best!
Erika ! you are doing it right now , breaking the negative pattern ,keep at it !
You are the female version of me... Blonde, close to the same age, same problems, same situation. WE got this together!!!
22 years of age with no path? Get a job get motivated surround yourself with positive people and people who can give you direction. You have your whole life ahead of you the opportunities are endless. Get out there and get it.
Erika, you are a beautiful woman. You are worth a lot more than you think! Please consider looking for answers in the Bible. I struggled with loneliness and lack of direction until I discovered who and what Jesus Christ did for us. I now have an amazing church family and I now know where I belong. Please consider it. I will be praying for you!
I like that
...she say No discernible skills.. well she famous already .. a cooking 🍳 show and nice house 🏠 etc ... She not homeless..she is a scammer here ..a Fake ..
Keep sending this response to her
Again and Again. She needs to hear it. Again and Again
Hello Erika, you're not alone, and I have no idea what direction I am going. I am 44 and what you're going thru is affecting people of all ages. I am fortunate to have the love and support of my family. The best thing I can is we gotta hoping for the best, and someday we'll reach the light at the end of the tunnel. I am considering starting a youtube channel or a podcast, and your video inspired me a little. Best of luck to you! 😃
Erica congratulations for your bravery and honesty. Yes, I agree life takes its course and everything falls its place. I use one word to guide myself to way out: HAPPINESS ❤
I'm nearly 40 and I'm just about making it through life. Sometimes you just have to go with the flow.
The worst pretense is social media with people attempting to post their perfect life for others to aspire to be. We're not perfect and everyone is going through stuff in their life.
Truer words were never spoken
Awww! And you're so pretty! 😊 I feel for you, and I understand how people can have trouble finding their purpose in life these days, with all of the complications and high expenses of choosing and starting a career. One solution is to seek God, try to live the way he wants us to, and he can guide you, and possibly even send someone to help you in your journey. Praying for you 🙏
This is what youtube was made for! Honest, unscripted videos of people talking their minds and making us think. Erika I'm in - pressing subscribe and I'm with you on this journey! You have it all ahead of you! Keep posting - you've got this girl!
You have one major thing going for you, you are honest and are humble enough to be this way. This is positive step forward.
You're 22 you're healthy and already in the right head space, don't you worry girl you're going to do ok
WOW, simply WOW. You have already crossed the first frontier Erika - putting this vlog out there. It's such a brave start, so bravo to you. And it is a great start. Your brutal honesty about yourself and why you are here, doing this, speaks volumes.
Someone else has already commented that getting out there into the community would seem a good starting point too. For me, an introvert teen geek, it was getting involved in amatuer radio (being 'forced' to talk to the world and, for the icing on the cake, several voice contacts with the astronauts on the old MIR space station) - which then led me into Mountain Rescue ... and the rest is history (over 40 years service worth all told!).
Doing this content creation is good too, as I've seen it help others by giving them frequent 'pauses' in their busy schedules, where they can review what they've done, their plans, etc.
Wishing you all the best with any ventures you do try - and I'm looking forward to seeing how you get on.
YOU GOT THIS!
You have a good sense of humor, and with those beautiful eyes you will find something. Great voice. Nice temperment. I think you're worth following.
You do have a quality that is rarely seen….. sincerity. On that alone and based upon what you said I thumbed up and subbed and look forward to hanging out. Be yourself, that is what matters.
May God bless you.
OMG, you are so brave for real. I am 47, and I was in the same place at your age. The difference is that I kept it all in my head and thought I the odd ball out that had no path laid out for me. Getting this out of your head was the most challenging first step you could take. Great Job!!! I saw a few of your other videos, and you seem to be figuring things out. To this day, the most challenging question I could be asked is, "What do you like to do"?
The advice I gave my son when he was young (now age 20) is the following: the secret to a happy life is to work to live, have enough money to pay your bills, save a little each month, and take a week's vacation each year.
One piece of advice I'm currently working on is to wake up each day and consider what kind of day I WANT, not what I can do to get ahead or what will please my parents. It's about slowly carving out my own path, as I'm the only one who will walk it.
May your personal exploration and development be filled with safety and happiness. Here's to your journey!
What a great idea for a journey! So many times people focus on finding their “destination” and they lose the value of the journey to get there! Real explorers had no idea where they would end up, but they started by at least setting sail. Looking forward to sharing your adventure!
Hey, you’re a completely normal 22 year old. It’s a difficult age to be. You’re not quite a full adult but you’re also not a kid anymore. I can totally relate to what you’re saying. When I was 22 I had no idea about what I wanted in life either. I had a crap retail job after four years of college.
You’re very well spoken. Your voice is very clear. I feel like I want to listen to you talk. That’s something! When I was 22 my passion was photography. Five years later I entered a two year program in college to earn a commercial photography degree and that got me a job that lasted ten years and I had a great time though I didn’t make a lot of money.
Baking is a passion. That’s a good start. Think of other things that make you happy. Follow your passions and you’ll never regret it.
Many people feel alone and can't make sense of the purpose of life. I've struggled through life being jobless, wifeless and childless. Today I've turned to rehoming rescue cats which has brought purpose and meaning to my life. Being kind and helping another living soul is the best medicine against depression. My cat little boy BLUE fills that feeling of emptiness I once had. He's not just a cat he's my family. We share a special bond. Having a connection with animals is comforting and looking after their needs improves your own health and well-being. Take care.
My father said "Make something out of yourself" I did. It became my career. Only you can discover what that can be, and you can change your mind along the way as well. I did. He also said "Be productive." Always learn.
Great advice. I think another is that whatever you do, do it well. Try a variety of jobs and interests and see what works and what you enjoy. I loved science and went into food safety and then management of over 800 people covering 3 states. I had a successful career that I enjoyed very much and had a variety of responsibilities that made it interesting to me. Good luck young folks.
Thank you for sharing .
I'm sorry that you are feeling lost , but you have your health & everything it takes to succeed in life , you can do it , smile & the whole world will smile back .
Wishing you every success in life
I came across this purely by chance, firstly you’re a brave young woman posting this, it’s a refreshing change to someone showing their true self. My youngest son and daughter are 18 and nearly 17 respectively. They both feel as you do at the moment, just to let you know you’re not on your own out there. Take care and I hope you find your path in life soon
Hi Erika. I’m a 47 year old guy from New Zealand. When I was 22 I fell into quite a deep depression for more than a year and felt suicidal. Looking back there were a number of reasons why this happened but mostly it was the lack of direction in life and feeling worthless and unliked. I had trouble expressing myself and emotions, even just basic conversations with people I found hard. I only just stumbled upon this video of you now, you are very articulate and your plan of trying to learn some new things and document it sounds like fun and a nice thing to do. I’ll be watching and hope to learn something from you. Incidentally, I’m self employed now and loving life. Best wishes from NZ.
A couple of thoughts:
1. We make our own purpose
2. Don’t look for happiness, it’s fleeting. Instead, strive for contentment, the middle ground between the highs and lows.
3. When you are down, commit to some sort of service to others less fortunate. It’s therapeutic.
4. Life isn’t a competition or a race. Follow your passion, if and when you find it.
5. Learn to like yourself. What are your strengths and weaknesses?
6. Learn about stoic philosophy. Minimize the negative, and maximize the positive.
7. Life is not fair.
8. One day at a time.
Those are a start.
Good luck. ❤
You are beautiful, you are young.you are honest,engaging, - go for it girl, a day at a time, a small step is the start of a thousand miles, - I’ll watch you- tell us how you’re getting on- we’re rooting for you 😊🙏
I feel the same. I don’t know where I’m going or what I’m doing. It’s nice to watch your channel.💚👍
When I was 22, I was pretty much in the same boat you are now.
No friends. No GF. My job was working nights at a wastewater treatment plant with no real chance for advancement. I tried college, but I kept changing my major from Art to Science and back again, over and over, so I wasted a lot of time.
My only passions were reading (especially comic books), SFF, and drawing, with occasional forays into writing.
But things will get better for you. You just have to persevere. You have to find your passion(s) and strive to make it (them) work for you.
You say you like cooking and baking, and that you're planning on exploring that here on your channel. That's a good start. If you work at it, you could possibly make cooking a career in some way.
As for myself, I finally figured out that all that stuff I learned in college could be used by becoming a teacher. My art and writing helped in this, too. While I definitely did NOT become rich, my students and their parents loved and respected me, and my colleagues respected me, too.
In my spare time (what little teachers have - lol), I began writing short stories and doing illustrations for a magazine. From there, I started writing novels. My first novel - published as an ebook - got great reviews and won an award. My second novel was also published as an ebook, and it got great reviews, too.
Now that I'm retired from teaching, I'm working on writing more novels, trying to get a literary agent to represent them so they can be published as real books, still reading a lot, and I'm learning to play the 6-hole pendant ocarina and the 17-key kalimba.
You just have to find your passions and work at them. Even if you never get a job doing them, you and your family and friends can benefit from them while you work at whatever job to pay the bills and provide you with funding for those passions.
You've no doubt heard this before, but your only 22. You've got the rest of your life ahead of you with plenty of time to figure things out. Take your time to find the things you love. I know it sounds trite, but you'll get there.
Veritas!