"I HOPE THEY MAKE YOU HAPPY” - Storytime + Luxury Judgement
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- čas přidán 6. 09. 2024
- Several weeks back I saw some of you in the comments discussing with one another your bags. And there was a topic of "do your bags make you happy though?" raised, which I think is a fascinating aspect to explore and discuss!
I thought I'd include in here some short storytimes, plus, what is REAL happiness?
Let me know what you think, I'd love to know!xx
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My bags make me so happy, I like to arrange them on their shelf and just look at them. My husband has a running gag of when I'm feeling down he takes all my bags and starts hanging them all over me because I had told him how happy they make me and when he does that it makes me laugh LOL.
Aww your husband sounds so sweet!! I hope you're keeping well my friend xxx
I love this! So sweet 🤗💕!
Such a sweet husband ☺️
Well done husband!!!! This is a sign of a very happy marriage! Congratulations!
I have the same enabler hubby. He buys me my bags especially when I feel guilty in buying them. It does not have to be high end ones, I guess it is just finding the people that gets you 👍😘 I l❤️ve this topic and the community of bag lovers. Stay Happy guys with your bags and with life! ❤️😘
My handbags make me happy…and so do donuts. People comment on both. I don’t care. I happily eat my donut with one hand as I rock my luxury handbag in the other 😂
Amen!
Rock on, sis! You’re an inspiration to us all!
You go girl😎🤩👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
Krispy Kreme glazed donut in 1 hand and Hermés Kelly 25 in the other!
Sounds good to me😁🍩👜👛👝
My grandma used to say money can’t buy you happiness but it can buy you options! Great topic x
Very nice saying
Smart woman your granny !
Just came here to say exactly that 👍🏻
Very smart....Options is what I do.
Very true x
I've gotten to a point in my life where I don't care about what people think about my car, jewelry, bags, etc. It's my money to spend the way I want to...it's not anybody's business. Also, I've learned that "objects" don't make you happy. Happiness comes from the inside. ❤️Great topic!
So true just enjoy, life's too short.
I like my bags. I love my two Birkins. I tell people that they can tell me how to spend my money when they start paying my bills. Enjoy life. Buy the bag. 👜
I quit drinking a few years ago, and always made it my aim that the money I saved from quitting, half would go towards saving for something especially for me. My most expensive handbag is a tangible reminder of that sacrifice but also the reward from it I guess.
wow that is amazing, you should feel very proud of yourself
My dad did that when he quit smoking
OMG! I am a single teacher and I was once told that my Bottega bag was like..."The Emperor's New Clothes". I didn't respond because I knew she was just ignorant. I don't talk about my luxury bags and I subscribe to channels like yours so that I can interact with like minded people. I worked part time at Neiman Marcus for ten years while teaching and going to grad school to get the bags I have. I love my bags and have no regrets. I'm happy with my choices!
your bag isnt the emperors new clothes because she absolutely saw your bag and was jealous lol
Hello my friend! Wow, that's a rude comment to have been told about your bag and it's up to you what you choose to spend on. I personally also love it on here because it's a community of people who all enjoy the same interest! Hugs to you xx
Andersen's fairy tale, The Emperor's New Clothes, is about the effects of conformity--and being the one to stand up for truth, without submitting to pressure. I'm sorry, but who ever said your bag was like an Emperor's New Clothes needs to actually read the story; he or she is just ignorant. You worked hard for your money, and you want to look and feel good; no one has the right to dictate that. I really don't get how that person got Andersen's fairy tale from your bag haha
I love this, people really dont have to understand, as long as you are happy, thats the most important thing!
Sometimes just sitting in a quiet cafe, having delicious tarts n cakes, sipping hot tea while reading a book or magazine during my off days just make me feel soooo good ❤
In my opinion whoever said money doesn't buy you happiness doesn't know where to shop.
Haha, that made me laugh!xx
An iconic quote by Blair Waldorf
@@smileyyomiji indeed✨
EXACTLY 😭☠️
Or has never been poor lol!
My Granny was always saying- money can't buy happiness, but it's better to cry in the fancy car than on rust ridden bike. Her family lost everything during war and she survived hunger and poverty and she was never money oriented. But she always was saying- just like you did - that money give you freedom and security. And that's my approach. I love travelling- and although not business class - I prefer to not travel on tight budget.
I love my makeup and skincare- and occasionally mid shelf handbag.
I love the fact that I don't have to skip on nice food ( there was a time when I couldn't afford any decent quality food or had to limit meals). And I like nice things- so now I'm ignoring haters lol
Thats what patrizia reggiani from house of gucci said. Well she spent 18 years in prison for money, so it will kinda make sense for people like her. She missed on her kids marriage and birth of her grandchildren. Hope that was worth it. Hope she is catching up now.
Go Granny!
Plenty of studies have found income to be positively correlated with happiness levels. It's time for people to stop tiptoeing around that fact.
Yes but up to 70k. After that it’s not so clear
100%
@@dva5610 there was a follow up study that actually found that to be incorrect, it just hasn’t attained as much media coverage.
@@CoKiEsAnDcReAm07 there were many significant limitations to that critical study which is why it hasn’t gained attention
Money doesn’t buy you happiness, but it does buy you OPTIONS, which gives you a better opportunity to find what makes you happy. ❤️
Thank you Sophie. I am generally frugal and living a life of "luxury" vicariously though CZcams. I do have a wardrobe of tailored dresses which sometimes I am embarrassed about because I know "i don't need another dress" as I already have enough. But every time I wear each dress, that fits me perfectly, that is unique in its design, it makes me feel special and pretty.
I am a railroader. I do okay, I am no means rich, but I love luxury goods. I treat myself every 6 months to something nice. I remember one day I was at a gas station covered in grease, almost looking like a homeless person because I was so dirty, and a very fancy lady in line behind me said she liked my Hermes wallet, and it made me smile. It's not just a language for rich people, it's a language for people that know what these products mean!
So yes, these things do bring me happiness, and who cares if they do?
This is a lovely story, thank you for sharing! xx
LOL I love this!!
That is adorable ✨
YES! This is how I feel.
As a 37 year old woman with a career and no kids, I find myself around alot of people who expect an apology for being able to buy myself nice things. I say f**k em!
Amen! As a stay at home mom who has three kids, I find myself around people who expect the same because my husband likes to buy me nice things. I also say f**k em. People will judge no matter what your position. As long as you’re living within your means and marking sound financial plans, do what you want. Enjoy!
Exact same! 37 with career and no kids and love my bags. I get some judgy eyes when I wear a luxury bag. Almost like I have to justify myself spending my own money…. 🙄
The takeaway from both your and The Luxe Angel's comment: it doesn't matter what you do, or who you are, as women we are going to be judged regardless.
Hell ya Gemma
@@antoa5825 yes indeed. Haters will always find a reason to shame you and make you feel unworthy of what they wish you didn’t have. If you’re blind, they’ll say “you can’t see your beautiful bag so it’s wasteful”. If you’re missing an arm they’ll say “you cant carry it so it’s wasteful and someone else should have it”. If you’re in full health they’ll say “someone less fortunate could have used that money”. Miserable people will find any reason to lessen your joy. It’s sad. But it’s good, because once the words leave their mouths you will know who you’re really dealing with; a miserable person. Act accordingly.
The confidence that I can afford things makes me even more happy than things itself🌷
My bags do bring me joy. I do get negativity sometimes about my spending on Bags , Starbucks , Clothing or Luxury in general. I also drive a BMW which really gives them something to talk about😂😂😂. I have my own Business and work hard so whatever. Life goes by fast ❤️☕🇬🇧 Good topic !!!
You are like Sophie and that's great .
Thanks for sharing this Deb, I think it feels weird to admit that material items can equally bring a bit of joy into your life! Like you with your BMW, I do actually always have a grin on my face when I'm driving. One of you told me that in the Buddhist religion, they see the human experience on earth as being about spirit and material goods. They see material goods as good karma coming back to you, so it's not a bad thing. It's what you do with it that counts. Pretty interesting I thought! Hugs to you my friend xx
I think that's why the bible said:
Jesus looked at him and said, "How hard it is for the rich to enter the kingdom of heaven! Indeed, it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for someone who is rich to enter the kingdom of heaven."
For me rich people can go to heaven if they don't make materialism the purpose of their life.
People doing good will always bring me more happiness than any luxury goods I possess.
Money can actually buy happiness. Money makes life very easy and all of my designer things brings me great joy and happiness.
Hear, hear!
OMG, this is so true and I unfortunately agree 100% as a woman! I've never heard about a guy who would question whether to wear his fancy watch/shoes/car to work/meeting etc as it very much symbolizes his success/power and well being compared to the women who have to second guess everything just to be 'treated and viewed better in a public eye'. It is extremely unfair and I hate that we have to go through it all the fucking time
Hello Dominika! I totally agree with you and I'm confused as to why this is. I wonder if it's a hangover from back in the day when men were the ones who (predominantly) earned the money and paid the bills? Thank you for sharing your thoughts my friend! xxx
They want to keep us down. Men and some woman. You are totally correct. They never talk this smack to a guy
I was talking to a friend about a Tudor watch I was eyeing and she said: "what does your husband think about this expensive purchase?". Girl, that's my money I'm spending, not his 😂
Plus, none of your business...
That’s not the friend you discuss your finer things with 🤦🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
Designer things are pieces of art and art universally makes one happy whether one knows it or not.
Happy for a couple of hours then jumps to the next ones 😂😂😂😂
@@not-even-german4892 what is the one thing in life that makes you happy to the point if you have it you will never do or want anything else? None! So stfu
I will admit since my mum passed away I have become an emotional shopper. Part of it is to fill the void and the other is because before she passed she said she wished she did more.. she had cancer and was so savvy with money but didn't get to enjoy it. She believed in treating yourself and I think as long as you're not getting into financial difficulties then who is to judge?
I have no idea how someone can feel entitled to make a comment about how another person spends their money. Bullies come in a lot of forms.😈
Your'e right Heather!xx
It's pure jealousy!
Well said
I see your point, but it is time everyone learns the definition of a bully. A bully is a person who habitually seeks to harm or intimidate those whom they perceive as vulnerable. Someone who comments on your things is not someone seeking to harm or intimidate. They’re just being rude.
Very good point.
My luxury bags do bring me joy I will admit, because they aren’t just lovely to look at and wear, but are also a symbol of my success - I never thought that I would be able to own things like that when I was younger. I worked hard and paid for them using the money that I earned and nobody can ever take that away from me. I have also been careful in selecting which bags I do choose to buy, all of which have since either retained or gone up in value since I purchased them so I know that I have something to fall back on should I ever come across hard times. I think that everyone measures success in different ways, one of mine just happens to be materialistic! However I agree with you Sophie that true happiness comes from within, your relationships, your health, putting food on the table, those things are invaluable.
THIS!!!
I just can’t imagine being the type of person who would shame or try to embarrass someone who had a nice bag, wallet, car, or jewlery. We should celebrate others accomplishments, material, physical, emotional, we should all celebrate one another. ❤️
Yes my bags make me happy! I often use Aspinal of London for work. At work I often would get comments and ‘side way’ looks from a few (females) in my work place. It was ironic b/c the the same people that commented spent upwards of $3,000 or $5,000 or more USD on a dog. One breed the dogs for sale. While I do love animals I prefer to give a rescue a home. And spend my money how I choose to spend my money. It is nice to finally be able to share this store.
Thanks for your video!
My thing is perfume and anyone that knows me knows my eyes light up when I talk about them and smell them. They help me get up in the morning! Like you said, everyone has their thing, and other people don’t have to understand it. Many won’t
Judgement is always there no matter what the cost.
Before I watch the video:
Basic needs aside: Yes. Because my life is in my opinion very mundane and do not have very much to enjoy except the treats I do manage to buy here and there. I do not have many people around, that I love or that love me, I don't have that many experiences that I can look back upon and say 'I enjoy moment x' so I am rather materialistic in that sense and really do treasure what little amount of luxury I can buy.
It's my security blanket in that sense.
Now that I think about it, I sound quite miserable...🤣😢
hehe you don't sound miserable. you've worded how I feel so very well. lots of love x
I understand what your saying I don’t travel a lot just once a year and when I go that’s the only time I buy luxury.
There is nothing wrong with having that ambition, girl. You have to visualize what you want before you go out and earn it. You can do it.
My bags make me happy!! I use them and rotate them. I can only really afford one nice one a year, so I save up and get excited when it's time to go buy it! This year im planning the ysl camera bag, just not sure if I want beige or black, but either way, what makes me happy doesn't make others happy
My bags, jewellery and other fashion items do make me happy and do wonders for my confidence because I did it all on my own.
I can see where you are coming from. Money can’t buy happiness in all situations but it can buy security and a lot of peace. Anybody who has layed awake at night stressing about debt or how to pay the bill’s knows what a relief it is when that doesn’t happen anymore.
I collect perfume and most people do not get it and get quite judgemental about it... I think those situations happen mostly when it's about goods associated with vanity 🤔
I can understand the perfume thing Karolina! Yes it's strange how these judgements exist and why. Hugs to you xx
Oooo this is lovely though. All the different scents and the bottles! I can see wanting to collect based on all the beautiful perfume bottles alone! Just don't have a care what people think. It's your life and it brings you joy!
when i'm feeling down, i sometimes just go through my fragrance drawer with several slips of paper and just spray the papers and experience all my perfumes! it's so fun. i suspect i had covid a few months ago despite testing negative, because i can't smell my fragrances nearly as much as i could before. i'm really bummed about it. but i hear my full sense of smell may return in a few months, so i'm just trying to be patient!
Ooooo I love perfume snd scented candles and diffusers! They just make my day!🥰
I used to collect perfume but after a couple years they no longer smelled nice. So I realised it was a waste of money and only have one perfume at a time now.
I love perfumes that come in atomiser bottle.
I started getting into designer bags when I was diagnosed with breast cancer shortly after losing my father. I used it as a distraction. But now I’m in a better place and my love for beautiful bags hasn’t faded. Life’s too short and my motto is work hard play hard… growing my bag collection keeps me motivated and with having three teenage daughters, I know they’ll never go to waste 💖 👜 💖
I love my bags and I love luxury, I also love to travel, eat at fancy restaurants etc. I do feel that I deserve them, I did not have these things growing up, and life has been really hard on a personal level. I have worked hard on a professional and personal level to be where I am today. What makes me most happy is the people I chose to have in my life and the little things like the sun warming my cheeks. I am very blessed and wish the best for others, so people who don't like that are not people I want in my life anyway so it really doesn't matter.
Gosh, I identify so much with literally everything you’ve said here. We never went anywhere nicer than a fast food restaurant growing up, and we only got to go every two years or so if we were on a driving trip to see family (no real vacations except a rare day trip to Six Flags). It was a treat to eat at a McDonalds! I still want to pinch myself sometimes that I can go into a nice restaurant and order anything I want or stay in a luxurious hotel. It never gets old. I’m actually really grateful for that. I can afford nice things and I haven’t lost my awe of them.
it’s funny pre covid era i tend to be very picky about the occasions when i dress up and use my expensive stuff…in present, I regretted buying all these things that I thought I’d come handy for special occasions but lately, those perceived special occasions didn’t come. Now, I’m just using my nice things for regular days and I am genuinely quite happy about it!
Every day is a special occasion 😎
Yes, life is short and long at the same time, enjoy it and everything/everyone. I do this with my perfumes. Since I was a little girl, I loved scents and later I started spending my money on perfumes from the drugstore. Later I started getting more expensive perfumes and I used them frequently and I remember my mom telling me to "save them" for special occasions. She has been saving hers in boxes and never used them. That was the point when I realized that every day is special and you should use what you have every single day. Because every day is special and you should enjoy what you have not "keep it for a special occasion".
I never had luxury handbags. My most expensive bag is COACH, I paid around 400€ for it. Don't use it very much but love it and will never sell. I bought 7 COACH bags and spent around 2000€ on them.... Shortly after that I discovered for myself vintage COACH bags. I fell in love with them. I sold all my other bags and newly bought bags I didn't even use. Absolutely adore using my vintage bags. I really like them, I like the feeling of soft leather and craftsmanship. Maybe it is weird, but can not help it. I collected around 40 vintage Coach bags to understand which ones will work better for me. They are all beautiful and I have chosen 9 or 10 to keep and using them on daily basis. Still would like to get 1 or 2 luxury brand bags, but not quite sure what I would like....probably BVLGARI as an evening bag and maybe LADY DIOR. I like all your bags and outfits you create with them. You always look very elegant even with trainers on. And my answer is YES, MY BAGS MAKE ME HAPPY when I use them or when I look at them. Thank you for the video!
I wear all my high end jewelry, including diamonds to work. That is my thing. One co-worker asked me if I am not nervous wearing them or losing a stone etc. she told me she has one Diamond pendant but keeps it in a safe and only takes it out for special events. I told her life is too short to just keep things tucked away. They make me happy wearing them each day. If I lose a stone, we’ll that is why Jewelers are here to help.
I love jewelry, so I have a small collection. It makes me so happy to get up in the morning and pick out what pieces I'm wearing today. But I do get negative comments from family members and work colleagues sometimes. Especially if I happen to be in sweatpants and a tshirt/hoodie/graphic tee. It hasn't stopped me from getting jewelry but it can dampen my mood if someone makes a comment because my jewelry is what I wear to boost my confidence and make me feel more feminine.
I love jewelry and they're basically tiny art pieces that you can wear. They definitely make me happy.
At the end of the day clothing, expensive cars, watches, are beautiful things curated by designers among other professionals.
And things that are beautiful to the eye are known to make us happy, just like beautiful landscapes and sunsets and nature make us happy.
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Short answer YES 🙌 I love my luxuries especially handbags 👜 they make me feel good everyday I carry them out I always get compliments on my bags which makes me happy as well!
Totally agree with this!! 🤩
When I first started my collection I think they made me happier. Now that I have several luxury bags I think the feeling has faded a bit. I still love styling them with outfits but the excitement isn’t there like it was in the beginning.
Like any purchase, I'm afraid. The thrill is often in the chase!
This is what I'm afraid of. Better not to hurry to buy all the bags I like. To leave something for later. To extend the joy
I love the topic Sophie. I am someone who loves exploring different type of crafts. Each new craft I explore cost me a lot of money (tools, material, etc). But people don't judge me for it. Because the they don't see the "behind the scene" expenses. They only see the end products. To be honest, all my craft related tools and materials that I buy, would easily add up to a designer bag price. But yet, people see me as a non materialistic person. If only they see the "behind the scene" stuff I buy 😁
Yes, at the age of 50, I know what matters and what doesn't . My bags bring me joy but at my age, they don't define me. I have worked very hard and have achieved the success that I wanted. I always tell my teens, self accomplishment is the greatest gift in life. Do what you wish with it. If you are judging others, then you need to ask yourself why others happiness ( no matter the source) unravels you . There must be discontentment there. I love my life and won't apologize for that. Great topic. xx
I do what makes me happy. I've been doing beauty treatments all my life. This is my untouched photo I'm 70 just last weekend so I'm happy with my choices. My bag brand of choice is Micheal Kors even though I have 4 LV and my next goal is Chopard
Take it from this 68 yo, you look great.
I love my Michael Kors collection and a few Chanel and Dior, they make me happy to decide “ which one should I wear today”
@@emmamusic4600 Thank you
I brought my first designer bag at the age of 30 this year - being able to buy the bag has been a real milestone for me, finally treating myself to something special brought me such happiness. I don’t spend money going out like other people I know and I spent nearly 10 years going back and forth out of guilt before finally paying - I don’t regret it one bit xx
Sophie I am soo into bags thanks to you. I realised that I had some designer bags that I wasn’t showing the care they require and they are investment pieces. In the last two weeks I watched many of yours videos constantly and I digged my wardrobe and taken out my existing luxury items, cleaned them and displayed them nicely including my belts . To my surprise I had quite a few luxury items like Versace, Gucci, Prada . Watching them makes me happy and you are sooo right. I bought them Worked very hard to get them and I could effort to buy more . I wasn’t buying just because people was critical about the money I am spending.
Spending our well deserved money to what makes us happy should be our pride and motivation. Go girls !
I love your videos 💯
Collectible items can range from bags, cars, watches, paintings, art works, digital assets, etc... and they can also reveal a person's social status. The people who are sarcastic and giving you a hard time are simply jealous of you. They think they are better than you or more deserving than you so, just ignore them because they are not your friends.
Thank you for this. My bags give me so much joy because of their beauty & also the reminder that I have worked hard & can afford them. And I love that they are wearable, functional art.
for me, its my books. My absolute faves I will collect multiple editions and special editions. I recently discovered book boxes ($90 to get them here to aus, but they are only 27pounds for uk) but so far they are stunning. My copy of Empire of Vampire is just beautiful, and looking at it makes me happy (and its now worth 200pounds or about $400 aud second hand, so its not a cheap hobby haha). Same with art work. I have some prints that just make me smile.
I feel like people who judge you for what you buy are just jealous of you spending money they might wish they had. But you never really know another persons financial situation to know how they paid for anything so its a bit silly.
Its hard today with social media constantly throwing in your face what you SHOULD love because other people love it i've found. But focus on the self and what you enjoy is more important to me. It's hard, but you will be happy in yourself and the goals you achieve for yourself. And asking yourself WHY you want something. Do you actually want it... or did social media tell you you want it?
What are book boxes? Like a subscription box of books or a book that has been converted into a box?
Hi Sophie, if it brings you joy and you can afford it....go for it. Shouldnt matter if it's collecting bags, cars, lipsticks or garden gnomes 😊 we should never judge others choices 💗
My bags and shoes really do bring me happiness, especially when dressing up, I feel lifted up. What was bringing more happiness was when my bf loves taking pictures and video with me with those items! Another time is when I take them out to wear to pretty places ☺️
I do get a lot of judgement about my items, especially when meeting friends/then meeting more friends of friends, but I bring them out anyway because it's what I love to wear. If one judges you so much buying luxury and feel disgusted by it, then it's an easy way to realise that they won't be someone you want to spend time with. But if they can see past that and actually get to know you, then I feel like I found a friend that genuinely wants to know me than feel blocked by.. a handbag 😅🤣
No, my bags, jewelry, the house I bought, the mani/pedi I treat myself to regularly, don't make me happy, rather the lifestyle that I have worked to cultivate that allows me to afford them makes me happy. But I do enjoy them a great deal, thanks for asking!!!
Thank you so much for talking about this subject! Having a nice home is absolutely central to who I am as a person! I can't wait to look around my home and be happy with what I'm surrounded with (hoping to move soon). I spend a lot of time choosing items for the home that reflect me and my tastes. I want to be able to look at things and think about how much I like them every time I use them.
The home thing is definitely something I'm with you on! I love coming home and everything looks nice and is in its correct place! Best of luck with moving soon :) Hugs xx
Another great topic, I love my small collection and honestly there will always be envious pocket watchers.
I deserve to have happiness when I had a man they wouldn't even buy my favorite fragrances .
I've recovered from 3 mini strokes so I deserve to do and buy the things I love shoes, bags, cars, I get more happiness from material things than a salty man..
I don't even want a home its too much for me to handle alone 🙃
Money will make you happy if you are grateful for it (as you are). So at the end of the day, it is gratitude that makes you happy
To me, money buys me freedom. There was a point in my life when I was jobless and Covid didn’t really help. I was struggling to save and I had so much going on. To pay bills, to feed myself and family etc. Yes there are a few materialistic things that does make me happy but at the end of the day, I know money gives me freedom. I learnt how to prioritise properly with my money 😊
"I hope your bags make you happy.." My response? "You're in luck, because they do!!" As for me and my bags, we meet and greet daily...I keep one on my desk at home at all times, and they bring me joy and good luck...Thank You, Coco.
Luxury bags and shoes make me smile and feel excited everyday. You are right, life is short so we have to enjoy it to the fullest. Thanks Sophie for this video 🥰❤️
I find so much happiness in premium products! I do definitely feel uneasy sometimes where I am but actually find the jealously almost more motivating. I don’t take super premium products to work but more my SLG’s and there definitely are comments…but equally if I work hard why shouldn’t I be allowed these treats! As you say, people are entitled to spend their money how they want…some people at work choose to spend thousands on bikes…I choose handbags 😍 xo
Several weeks back I saw some of you in the comments discussing with one another your bags. And there was a topic of "do your bags make you happy though?" raised, which I think is a fascinating aspect to explore and discuss!
I thought I'd include in here some short storytimes, plus, what is REAL happiness?
Let me know what you think, I'd love to know!xx
Hi Sophie, trying to make sure you see this comment!! Hugs xx
I saw your name flash-up on my phone Jill and came looking for you in case YT had added you to spam!!! I'm glad to see it appears that's over now! Great to see you here as always, I hope life is good with you and your family xxx
Absolutely they keep my spirits up throughout the years! I’m a gay man and I love my luxury handbags always have since 2000 I’m 41 now! It’s my happy place ❤️
My stuff makes me happy. Especially my books. Does my happiness depends on it? NO. I like having them, wearing them and enjoying them. I wear my jewellery when I am alone and looking all blinged out because my family/husband's family judge me when I wear my stuff. So, I enjoy them at home. My husband and I are very lucky that we are successful but we don't let family know because I feel like they think(not my family, his) that we don't "deserve" it. They are nice people but judgey. We enjoy our life together with our kids and now grand puppy, we are so grateful that we are blessed.
Well said Sophie. I recently bought a luxury belt from the outlet mall and there was so much of questions and skepticism on the belt's worthiness. Sometimes you just need to do what makes you happy, regardless other's opinion.
Lol one of the best parts of my day is getting up before anyone else, hanging out with my dogs, and making that first pot of coffee. Sometimes I go to bed at night thinking about it 😂 🌄
Material things can bring you moments of joy, and while money can't buy you happiness (I dislike that phrase too) it brings me peace of mind and stability. I am not into luxury items but when I get something I want I feel joy.
You make me happy Sophie! I love the sound of your voice & your down to earth outlook. I love that you try to pass on some of the life lessons you have learned along the way in hopes that it might help someone else. I love that when you open your mail that you are so grateful for every letter you receive. I would have to say that my dog gives me a great deal of happiness. I also enjoy collecting & using my designer bags both real & fake.💕
What a sweet and kind comment 🙏🏽 thank you for the love my friend, I ADORE having you all in my life ☺️❤️ Pets are actually one of the best happiness attributes! I love our rabbits so much, I couldn’t imagine not having animals ❤️😊 Hugs to you and your pup!xx
My bags make me happy , I've worked hard for them, My bags ,my money my business. A delight as always Sophie, Greetings from an ICU Nurse from Down Under.
I own one expensive designer bag because I really like it... in general, I like quality things, not necessarily designer items. But I love board games, that's my thing, and I have spent A TON of money on that hobby. My sister always laughs when I tell her I bought yet another game because I have so many. I don't need to buy more, but I want to. And yes, it makes me happy. I love that excitement when I open the package for the first time, I love looking at my board game collection, and I love that feeling of sitting down with my friends and playing a game. Anyone who will shame me for actively enjoying something that makes me feel good will be removed from my life.
Yep stuff can make you happy.
I have spent so much money through the years buying and owning horses, if I had bougt chanel, dior, hermes I would still have valuable stuff. But horses make me happy! (Still own horses)
In my personal circumstances, yes, my bags (& other designer/luxury items) do make me happy (or add to my happiness), fashion is my thing, it’s my indulgence. I think the question should be could you be happy without them, rather than do they make you happy? I completely agree, of course being able to afford good quality healthy food & life’s necessities, the opportunity to own, love & take care of my pets as well as being able to maintain meaningful relationships with the people who matter the most to me provides me with the most happiness. I am extremely grateful I’m in the position to have a few nice things as well, & gratitude definitely makes you happy.
My answer…absolutely it makes me happy😂But the best hater comment I’ve heard “what’s missing out of your life that you need to turn to luxury?” I wanted to say “Nothing b!$&, but I’ll be happIER when I get my hands on the tan LV Coussin bag” 🤣
hahahaha yes
What's missing out of her life that she has become such a jealous and mean person?
@@maryokeefe5351 well said!
As long as you have built good foundations in your life (family, friends, etc) having money to buy things you love can bring an added measure of happiness to an already happy life. Bags are my thing but I didn’t think about them or covet them all the years I was working as a teacher. I remember someone asking me if a bag I was carrying once was a Mulberry and I didn’t even know what they were talking about then! Now the mortgage is paid off and the children have left home I’ve developed an interest and have the time to enjoy watching videos such as this. I have a lovely and growing collection but it’s not something I talk about with any of my friends and I don’t think they would recognise the brands. They don’t define who I am and I like to talk about other things with my friends. Like Sophie said it’s nice to hear from other people who enjoy buying luxury goods and get inspiration.
I'm a teacher and I get judged constantly for the bags I have. It's weird because it's very common for women in Korea to have a fancy handbag but as a foreigner, I seem to get judged more by other foreigners or men (Korean and foreign) the most for saving up my teachers salary to buy handbags, stay at luxury hotels for holidays and my birthday and eat nice food. I save up all of my money. So because at least I'm doing the work it takes to treat myself, I've stopped caring about their judgements. But it used to bother me.
Hi, Sophie. This is such a great topic. I've had a rollercoaster ride with the purchase of my first Louis Vuitton bag and wallet. I was so happy when the bag came and couldn't wait to use it. Along the way, somehow the happiness left as I've felt judged many times because of the bag I had and have since stopped using it. So while it did make me happy at first, I found that the judgement that came along with using it has made me uncomfortable. I think this is a case of having to develop an "I don't care about you" attitude and reconnect with the initial joy I felt.
Yes, develop your “*itch please” energy. 💯
Money goes a looooong way into making one happy. No, it is not only money, of course, relationships matter too. But if you have money you have access to stability, healthcare (unfair since everyone should, I think), and food. I'm older and after many years, I'm finally able to afford good things in life, and I am unapologetic about it. But I do want to remind everyone that giving to others (in time, charity, volunteering) is also part of this wonderful recipe of happiness. I say: enjoy all your beautiful bags, shoes, etc. (I do and am looking forward to buying some key items!), but also.....don't forget to give to others who truly might not have much support in life.
Great topic! I’m the only person in my family “into bags”. I don’t even have a huge collection, yet they judge me for it every opportunity. The number one comment is handbags are a waste of money. You’re so right, everyone has a hobby or something they spend money on. It’s okay though if it’s spending $500 a month on Starbucks, or Amazon, etc. No judgement for them🙃
I don’t wear my bags around them anymore, nor did I carry them into work. In these circumstances I switch to a random tote bag and use my slgs inside! I’ve been thinking of ditching my Target tote bag for a nice Longchamp lately!
It's just a whole different feeling for me to walk around with an old shopping bag and messy hair OR my favourite bag and fresh styled hair 😁 instant queen feeling! I just grab my favorite bag and it makes me feel more confident and myself.
I bought my first designer bag (YSL) this past week. I've always had nice bags (Coach, Brahmin, etc), but never designer. I actually do feel happy about it; I worked hard and finally reached a salary where I can afford nice things. I really wouldn't care if someone commented on it at this point. Funnily enough, I have one of those "catch-22" jobs (security services) where unexplained affluence is encouraged to be reported on to the authorities for "fear" we may be up to something shady. LOL! I will not be wearing my new bag into the office.
I absolutely love sitting down at a cafe, having a coffee and watching your videos...your voice is so relaxing
People I work with
So called friends and family had way to much to say about the bags, cars and homes I have owned
But guess what? I am one of the happiest people on earth
Love getting up to coffee my dog, gym and putting beautiful bags and clothes to wear for the great day ahead.
Yes my bags and cars make me happy. I spend my life serving others particularly as a front line provider. Could care less what anyone says.
Nice to hear that you treat yourself to the odd nice thing, when you spend your life giving to others.
OMG!!! The food one is totally me … every time I go grocery shopping for my family and get food tailored for everyone’s preference simply gives an unexplained high that I can’t explain…I’ve always thot it was weird considering how much I spend on luxury… thanks for mentioning it … I’m happy someone can identify 😍
You and I have these things in common: Coffee, hubby, luxury bags, and working your way up in your career to a point where you don’t have to worry about how you’re going to pay your bills. I feel this on a very deep level!
Yes my luxury bags and my book collection bring me so much happiness ❤️
Of course they do! Every single piece I own gives me immeasurable joy. It’s incredibly comforting to see my bags neatly lined up according to size and colour. A wonderful pick me up whenever my mood’s a bit off. I frequently plan my outfits around my bags, makes me feel more confident and put together when I strut them about. Plus they are so easy to purchase! There’s something for everyone there, don’t you think?
A man who buys an expensive car is deemed powerful, successful and a go-getter. A woman who buys an expensive handbag is judged to be superficial, vapid and high-maintenance.
I’ve definitely experienced that issue of being judged at work for dressing up/wearing nice bags. Teachers are generally known for being left-wing, dressed-down and not so “materialistic”. Thus I often don’t get taken seriously or people think I’m immature because of my love for nice bags. Same goes for makeup - I defo get a lot of heat for being decked out in makeup on a Monday morning while others are carrying cups of coffee and give me funny looks or make stupid comments about how I probably don’t have many responsibilities outside of work 😳
You were meant to stand out and not to fit in. Embrace it and have confidence in who you are regardless of the shaming tactics of others.
I enjoy beauty, craftsmanship, tradition, and creativity in any form. This makes me happy. My husband and I have traveled the world and love eating delicious food that looks like it should be hung on a wall as art, or exploring an incense shop where the same family has done their craft for 300 years. Luxury bags, decor, clothing, cars, watches, art, or whatever, are outlets for people to express themselves. You can carry a truly beautiful item with no logos and people will notice, because beauty attracts people. Yes, beauty is subjective, but speaking of it in general terms, there are things that the human brain is just naturally attracted to. Call this symmetry, or the golden ratio (aka divine proportion) things that are "pleasant" to the eye draw our eye. Whether we can appreciate it or not is a different story, but no one should be made to feel bad for appreciating something they consider beautiful and makes them happy.
Sophie, thanks for this video. In my experience, the people in my life who constantly preach "money can't buy happiness" are the ones who don't have luxury goods or can't afford other nice things due to their own doing; meaning that they don't make good money because they aren't willing to grind and work very hard to increase their earning potential, invest in their professional skills, and are content with their own mediocrity due to their own laziness. Thanks for addressing this
Sophie! Thank you for sharing this! I actually just had a situation happened to me. I work 2 jobs, and yes… I love my designer bags and I proudly wear my things.
(I’m a makeup artist) last weekend I had a client and while I was at their home (really nice neighborhood btw) the husband made a comment “ Are u going to charge us extra since you have all those Louie bags?!” I bring my makeup in my keepall and yes it was matching my Palm Springs and my hat 😂 but still… I was mortified!!! I felt so bad. Thank you truly for this video. I work very hard Bc I love to work and I love to be able to have nice things and no one has the right to me feel ashamed… I paid for it!
There’s no Louie tax, but the judgmental attitude will cost you, sir. 😉 Seriously though, I cannot imagine. If I had my makeup done and the artist had LV bags, I’d assume she must be amazing at her job, because she’s making enough to afford luxury items!
Thank you for starting this discussion! This is something I have been asked many times and can’t help but think that having a fashion collection doesn’t have to bring happiness s happiness is different for everyone. At the same time when you work really hard, having a symbol of that work and success is really gratifying. I just always wish that fashion items have the garner same respect for that which luxury cars and watches do which I can’t help but just assume it comes down to misogyny
Great topic.. I think a lot of the negative comments come from envy/jealousy.. I admire someone that stands tall..walks with confidence…fills the room.. and if a luxury bag or clothes gives you that extra boost…great 👍 there are a lot of things I cannot afford to do/buy..but I save up and eventually I can get it… love this chat 🤗 thank you Sophie 💕🇨🇦
I can relate alot, I get judged almost on the daily, im a soft hearted person somethings it gets to me, but I won’t let other people’s problems, because it’s there issue not mine, I don’t brag or show off, I just love luxury 😍
I won’t let them stop me living my life the way I want! I do often leave my bag in the car for the school run , but defo feel I still get judged for my designer clothing, but I’m going to get my cost per wear and rock my Chanel coat on the school run! 😍if they don’t like it that’s ok it’s not my problem!
Miss Sophie! thanks for opening this discussion! I have few thing in life (material and non material) that makes me happy. One of those are my desgner bags and jewellery. At the time that we are living on at the moment, where i cant see my family ( another thing that make me truly happy) , then my bags and jewelleries are one of the few things that i can pull happiness from! Life is short, do and have things that make you happy. You cannot bring your money to the grave
Thank you for the many perspectives you outlined, and I’ve appreciated reading the comments sections too. Personally I am happy that I have been able to work hard and afford the things that I need and like, whether it is from Target and IKEA or from a luxury brand. It is a wonderful feeling to know that through MY hard work I have been able to pay for life’s necessities as well as some other things to treat myself without piling up credit card debt. Do I have everything on my wish-list that can be categorized as ‘unnecessary’? Nope, but that is just something to work towards and look forward to. As long as my loved ones and I have our health and our honest day’s work can get us life’s necessities, I consider us blessed and accomplished. Wishing you and your YT community many blessings❣️
Hi Sophie, Thank you for the in-depth talk about being happy with objects. Let's face it, there will always be remarks (positive or negative), it's very human. For me, certain clothes and bags are pieces of art, that makes me happy when I wear them. Prices have nothing to do with it, cheap or expensive, I get the same feeling. To each their own !!! Yes, happiness are many things, just enjoy what you have, and don't compare 😃
I love my designer handbags and work hard in my tech sales career to buy them! There are sales goals that I set for myself personally and when I hit them my reward is a new handbag. There are times someone makes a comment about my expensive handbags but they are a symbol to me of my hard work and reaching a goal.
Great topic! "Money buys freedom" I definitely agree on that. Like you said, it doesn't solve all your problems in life and make bad/sad things go away, but being able to pay bills, buy food, pay rent etc. that does take an enormous weight of ones shoulders and lessens stress, which I'd bet makes most people happy. A stress-free life and financial stability I think are two things most people dream of having and in a perfect world everyone should have that. Also buying things you've always dreamed of can definitely make you happy. The things I've dreamed about buying and eventually have bought still make me giddy and happy everytime I look at them and use them, even it's seemingly insignificant like a new dress or a bag. I agree it's definitely a mix of the material stuff and things like family, friends, work, health etc.
My bag collection make me happy but lately I feel I have enough and will be not buying so many anymore. I bought most of my LV while grieving my eldest daughters death but I love all of them. I’m at purse peace for now ☺️
My beret collection makes me happy. They're not designer or expensive - what I paid for them range between £10 and £30 - and all but two are the classic plain wool one with the little tag thing in the middle. But I happen to think I really suit a beret, they can be worn in a host of different ways, and they top off my outfits and gives me that classic-vintage-parisian vibe that I love.
OBVIOUSLY looks aren't tied to a person's worth, yet there is no denying that stepping out of my front door looking nice and put together makes me feel confident, which in turn makes me happy, especially since my confidence was at one point VERY low - and that's how my bags and shoes and nice coats (and my berets!) makes me happy.
7:56 onwards perfectly said! 😊 For me, money is a tool I use so that I can more easily access happiness. Happiness come in all forms and we can have multiple joys that come from within us and also those that come from things we appreciate.
That is so true! Happiness is not a destination, it’s the journey itself that everyone should enjoy