It would be necessary to have a partner who is equally capable of effective communication. Sadly, most people don’t read books anymore and so they’re dumber than a sack of nails. Case in point - the divorce rate. Read a book. Save a relationship.
True but it's really the fact that one can only do whatever is in their control. You cannot control everything, anyone or thoughts. But to try and communicate while eagerly awaiting the other to communicate In a healthy manner really matters. If a relationship ends and you feel like you did everything you could have in the moment and tried to communicate your feelings as an adult then you can't be too mad it didn't work out. To be sad is one thing. TO be mad is another. Move on and keep trying. That's life! Be positive but realistic and try your best everyday for everyday should be grateful
God bless in Jesus Christ's name. and may He have mercy on you for acknowledging that (Amen). I hope she knows that you are humbly aware that you have hurt her. Genuinely validating a loved ones hurt that you may have provoked, and making a consistant effort to change is gold.
I'm struck by the ingenuity of this content. A similar book I read encouraged significant changes in my thinking. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
He says “your case is much better made than if you just have one.” In other words if you wait until it happens 3 times, then you’ll know it’s not just a one time thing and then bring it up. If you bring up every infraction you don’t like, it becomes less important to the other person. They’re less likely to listen. Makes sense to me.
@@kristinekakes2955but if not addressed directly the first time, they may forget that they acted that way, while you harbor resentment or hurt. It may work if the behavior happened within a short time span, but not over months for example.
I read in a book about boundaries that it is very easy to assume a pattern of bad behaviour where it doesn't exist. Sometimes, you might misinterpret something your partner said or did but they never repeat it, and to address it at that point is just divisive. However if it is actually a problematic pattern, then 3 times is early enough to actually address it. Of course, if something very hurtful is said, and both know that it was hurtful, then by all means, call it out on the spot. I just think that relationships are tricky, and if every little infraction is called out, that can cause a lot of pain, particularly when in all likelihood it was never intended to cause harm.
@@mirak7470he also said somewhere along the lines that the 3 times isn't necessarily that 1 particular act or thing done 3 times. But if that incident or thing causes resentment or anger, sadness. Over and over again. At least 3 times it is needed to address it
While we are waiting a message of goof night.. an the answer at the next day is "I fall asleep"... 😢 Get bussy at the same time... less laegr covverstauons... It hurts.
Did this with my mother. Both of us agree to not use foul language again. This is very helpful. Thank you
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It would be necessary to have a partner who is equally capable of effective communication. Sadly, most people don’t read books anymore and so they’re dumber than a sack of nails. Case in point - the divorce rate. Read a book. Save a relationship.
Reading books should solve all relationship problems, right;
True but it's really the fact that one can only do whatever is in their control. You cannot control everything, anyone or thoughts.
But to try and communicate while eagerly awaiting the other to communicate In a healthy manner really matters.
If a relationship ends and you feel like you did everything you could have in the moment and tried to communicate your feelings as an adult then you can't be too mad it didn't work out. To be sad is one thing. TO be mad is another.
Move on and keep trying. That's life! Be positive but realistic and try your best everyday for everyday should be grateful
Breakups are the worst.
I've hurt her too many times
God bless in Jesus Christ's name. and may He have mercy on you for acknowledging that (Amen). I hope she knows that you are humbly aware that you have hurt her. Genuinely validating a loved ones hurt that you may have provoked, and making a consistant effort to change is gold.
I'm struck by the ingenuity of this content. A similar book I read encouraged significant changes in my thinking. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
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And if they become argumentative, play mental gymnastics and tell you its "in your head" - what do you do??
Walk away
Why three times? I would say address it the first time it happens.
He says “your case is much better made than if you just have one.” In other words if you wait until it happens 3 times, then you’ll know it’s not just a one time thing and then bring it up. If you bring up every infraction you don’t like, it becomes less important to the other person. They’re less likely to listen. Makes sense to me.
Friendships as well they can be the worst
@@kristinekakes2955but if not addressed directly the first time, they may forget that they acted that way, while you harbor resentment or hurt. It may work if the behavior happened within a short time span, but not over months for example.
I read in a book about boundaries that it is very easy to assume a pattern of bad behaviour where it doesn't exist. Sometimes, you might misinterpret something your partner said or did but they never repeat it, and to address it at that point is just divisive. However if it is actually a problematic pattern, then 3 times is early enough to actually address it. Of course, if something very hurtful is said, and both know that it was hurtful, then by all means, call it out on the spot. I just think that relationships are tricky, and if every little infraction is called out, that can cause a lot of pain, particularly when in all likelihood it was never intended to cause harm.
@@mirak7470he also said somewhere along the lines that the 3 times isn't necessarily that 1 particular act or thing done 3 times. But if that incident or thing causes resentment or anger, sadness. Over and over again. At least 3 times it is needed to address it
While we are waiting a message of goof night.. an the answer at the next day is "I fall asleep"... 😢 Get bussy at the same time... less laegr covverstauons... It hurts.
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