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Divorced, lost the house, child support, and had to file bankruptcy. No woman is worth me going thru that again.
Amen brother.
Pre-nup brotha. Make them sign a 20 year contract.
What city you in.
@@etan5716 Eh, Any half assed divorce attorney can get any prenup thrown out of court without much effort. Prenups are toilet paper in divorce court.
Same here
I divorced and fought for custody of my daughter in court. It cost me every penny but I won. My daughter was 4 at the time. My ex-wife never paid me a dime in child support! The courts and the child support agency would not enforce my ex to pay! If that had been me refusing to pay - I'd be in jail! The system sucks! but at least I had my daughter living with me. She's 28 now. I have the memories, I'm luckier than most men/fathers.
Respect my man. My daughter lived with me throughout elementary school on a verbal agreement with her mother. In 5th grade her mom came to visit and decided with no notice that she was taking our girl. Legally I could do nothing as she was the custodial parent. Nearly 20 grand later, I obtained full custody of my daughter when she was 12. She’s almost 16 now so we have a few years ahead of us still. I wholeheartedly agree, you can’t put a price on the time and memories you get to make with them.
Respect Brother , A good father is one of the most unsung , upraised , unnoticed , and yet one of the most valuable assets in a society .
I am a child of divorced parents and in my situation it was different my dad was the one who had to pay but he didn’t and the courts never enforced him
Yeah but the courts should endorse the child support if she was doing nothing to help
The court system is so broken and sides with the mother more than the father. Bet if you missed all your payments you would been locked up quickly. Guys if you plan on having a child and it doesn't work out don't bother making more and dealing with this with another woman and have 2 cases or more. The first one might as well be the last one.
Ex wife took everything I worked for starting at 18 years old and I had to start over again at 37 with horrible credit, no retirement, no savings, etc. And she got all that even though she cheated and I kept the kids! No woman is worth that and I'm happy to be single still 12 years later. Women are proud to bring nothing to the table. I'm a good dad and was very happy to raise my kids as a single dad but women just want me to raise their kids. Um ... No. And they are proud to not be able to cook, clean, do laundry, etc. - all the things I do. It's just being a functional adult and they are proud to not be functional adults! I'm financially secure again and I'm not willing to give that up for what? Bad sex? 😂 No thank you!
Good man!
The feminist movement has destroyed most women’s minds.
Women have absolutely nothing to lose by leaving a relationship. Men pay the full price.
what exactly do men lose?? enough of them sit there moaning theyve lost their freedom, get nagged, dont get sex etc. They should be happy to be given back their freedom right? Last guy I was with did nothing but mistreat and abuse me... then cried to the world when I left him and declared to everyone i was a bitch. Men are pathetic. He still owes me money too.
@@karenKristal men get stuck with alimony, lose half of their retirement, lose easy access to their children, lose at least 17 percent of their income to child support for each child. The system is now structured to benefit women which is why more than 60 percent of divorced are initiated by women. I know that you already know this and are just offering your reply in support of the sisterhood but in reality you are just gaslighting.
@@joelex7966 but men only want sex, so they just use women, then end up paying fimanially and then moan. Total lose lose situation for everyone involved. Im not gaslighting Im evening the perspective. Why should a man not contribute to the children he conceived? they are not free, and not solely the mothers financial responsibility
@@karenKristal you, like most women look for the best looking guy that you can attract. 90 percent of the women are chasing 10 percent of the men. They know they can have a new date by the weekend. Look for comparability then help him work on his look.
@@joelex7966 men seem to constantly make statements like that online these days - men are clueless
Yep. After 17 years my wife wanted a divorce seemingly out of nowhere. Literally up to that day it was I love you, hugs, kisses, etc.
I left her a little love letter before I went to work like I had literally thousands of times before and that day it just came out of nowhere.
Days after I moved out she even wrote me a letter telling me how great of a husband and provider I was and that I was a perfect father and that she would always love me, but it was time for her to move on.
Well it turns out she had been having affair since she had gotten layed off and I was working extra. Her other guy asked her to marry him.
Well he was younger, he was a gym rat, tanned, pretty boy that literally shaved his entire body daily.
That marriage lasted her 2 years. Now she is a fat pill popping broken bodied woman.
Oh. And I just gave her the land the house and virtually everything else besides my truck, camping gear, guns, tools, and dog.
The house, garage and land, new house by the way, had tons of equity and after I had refinanced the mortgage was only $1400. Her and her new husband lost it all in 1year.
We are still cordial to each other and I have even done a bunch of work on her current place because I love my kids and my daughter is 17 and lives with her, but she makes my skin crawl.
I just cannot trust women because of the dishonesty and manipulation that is possible. Why don't people just break it off clean before going through all of the hurtful dishonest b.s. that wrecks the other person.
You do not have the right to steal someone's trust and hope for a new future from them.
Sorry, my friend. You sound too nice and soft-hearted. Unfortunately, life is a jungle, and if you are treated like a prey, you better use all your defenses to survive. I would say don’t even sneeze at that bi$$h. You deserve better than that.
I'm sorry you went through all that! I
I can relate to your story and your words (eventho Im female): "I just cannot trust wo[men] because of the dishonesty and manipulation that is possible. Why don't people just break it off clean before going through all of the hurtful dishonest b.s. that wrecks the other person.
You do not have the right to steal someone's trust and hope for a new future from them."
There are good men and women out there, unfortunately there are more self-centered & imature ones out there. But I feel ya, and I feel for you.
I had a friend who would knowingly use men for certian things and didn't care the men she manipulated were good men. So I disassociated myself from that friendship as it did not reflect my values, it was so wrong what she was doing without caring that she hurt another human being (her boyfriend) and then just dumped him after she got what she wanted (vacations, money, etc). He was the real deal, a good guy, who was genuinely loving. The type of guy I was looking for and wanted a life-long partnership with. Im no longer friends with that girl because I believe like you...nobody has the right to break another human that way. She knew she wasn't going to stay with him but used him & broke his heart by levaing him for a younger guy who was terrible & immature. Yep, they belong together as karma came back to bite her... the younger guy left her shortly after and she was a mess. She got what she deserved. Those rotten eggs ruin it for the rest of us, but karma is a B, just count on that.
Hope your life is better now.
I think its possible that you can love a woman too much to the point that it pushes them away.
@@deadcell4837 if that is the case, then you must be in the wrong place. Such person is definitely sick and is not worthy of love. Sadly some people welcome abuse more so than attention.
@@dalisabe62 it happens more often than you think. Most women dont actually like being overly saturated with affection, as it is borderline feminine to do. The thing that caught my eye on this post was the '1000s of love letters' aspect...
On my Dad's deathbed in April, he and my Mother were married for 57 years. One of the last things he managed to say to her was "you've been a good wife to me"
You and your father are so incredibly blessed to have had a dedicated mother and wife, respectively. Super jealous, but super happy for you.
@@jjgalletta66 I grew up extremely fortunate. My parents were (my mother is an angel) amazing. They supported me in everything I did and wanted to do. It's even more amazing as I am adopted.
Thanks for sharing this JWB. I teared up while reading your comment and it truly touched my heart. God bless you and your Mother. I’m so sorry for the pain y’all endure at the loss of your Dad. Keep making him proud. Sending love to you all.
😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
My sympathy for you and your family. I bet your dad was a good man and husband
No matter how much she says she loves you, no matter how much you do for her, it is always a matter of what have you done for me lately. You can support her through her tough times, help her get through school and get a career started, but the moment you struggle, she leaves and says you are useless.
I paid for my own school. I raised my kids alone. No family. 2 full time jobs and with cancer 3 times. Y'all are funny.
@@drgeorgegreen Where was the father? You chose to sleep with a guy or guys who didn't bother to stay around to raise their kids. You ignored what kind of losers they were when you slept with them. That's called failure.
At 63,that's why I'm glad I stayed single . Even girlfriends over the years always cost me a small fortune that I could have saved for my retirement.
You said it brother
@@drgeorgegreen Thank you brother
The benefit of marriage with a modern women does NOT outweigh the cost! Don't do it young king!
So true….
But even then the man 👨 never knows.
Truly
Black men need to stop acting like they are white men who actually took care of their race.
time to make a passport, bros
“We’re not afraid of marriage. We’re aftaid of divorce” - Comedian
Aries Spears
Feels man, hang in there
I’m afraid of marrying because I’ve been down that painful path and financially I won’t go for broke again! Screw that!
Yeap. *Aries Spears* said so in this bit: czcams.com/video/91kriWQSfbk/video.html
Prenuptials: exist
“Men are logical”
Me, a man: “I bet I can close the garage door and slide under it at the last minute like Indiana Jones”
😂😂😂
They are also adventurous, daring, and inquisitive.
@@Powertuber1000 it sounds like you’re trying to sell me a Labrador, my dude
You practicing for when sh@t goes south?
Men are logical and women are emotional. That’s the dynamic. When you think with your emotions you can be extremely illogical and do things that don’t make sense but when you think logically you tend to hurt a lot of peoples feelings because you put facts above everything.
F it!!! you are absolutely right! Been single for over a decade and for once in my life, i start to be happy!
Same
@@mreshadow no interest in vagina then right?
For once? As in just now?
@@BeNechelle over the past 40 years, thr past 10 i started to be happier, yes! With the ladies i met so far in my life, lets just say it wasnt compatible! The idea of breaking myself in so many parts to make the lady happy, to be thanked and yanked back at with negativity, was very exhausting. I spent most of my life trying to build something with someone to see it destroyed constantly. At one point, you got to remove the toxicity of your life! Believe me, if i meet one women, who would fall in love with me, just one, who would be as authentic, honest, passionate, like i am, i will reconsider.
@@francis8955 trust me, men are as bad
Me after watching this video: now it's time to read the comments
🤣🤣🤣
Oh yesss🤣
The counsel summons me. 😂😂
Right lol
yessir
She cheated on me with multiple men after 11 years of marriage
While I worked like a dog to give her everything she never appreciated.
Stole from me, lied, cheated, stabbed me in the back and broke my heart. Its not her I miss its my children.
I feel what you are feeling because I experienced the same thing.
Well, to be honest it is your fault. You should have guessed something was wrong. If you can't tell you merriage is sinking, you are not paying attention.
been there
Heartbreaking
And stole your sole heart and best years of your life and still thinks it is funny because you deserved it women is killing everything
Facts to the max.. brothers STAY SINGLE invest in yourself🙏🏿
stay single, invest in yourself and if the RIGHT women comes then it will be better. Don’t settle for anyone, don’t rush into marriage, I still believe that true love is out there as god intended, but I’m losing hope.
Stay single guys, it's not worth the pain and heartache anymore, I went through it too many times
Too*
Yeah. There are times when I'm lonely, but then I start the next day and I do what I want and when. I enjoy just doing my thing. Previously, been through the worst times in my life thinking I found the one and she was just the one who also left. Not worth it
Good advice. Been there.... won't ever do that again.
And the saddest part isnt that everything she said is true, it's the fact that she's barely scratched the surface of the problems.
Speak the whole truth a lot of women leave to save their life.
@@cyntreciaholden7779 some do, and they have many resources they can access if this is the case. Meanwhile feminists have actively fought to prevent men's shelters from being created by convincing everyone that men didn't need them. Look up Earl Silverman, a Canadian man who suffered from abuse from his wife. The feminist movement basically expended a lot of resources drawing as much attention away from this project. If they were truly for equality, especially back then, they would have supported him in his plight.
All this nonsense plus some is still going on today.
@@cyntreciaholden7779 a lot? 😂😂😂
@@cyntreciaholden7779 😂😂😂😂😂😂 that like half a percent of the women she’s not talking about u she’s talking to u? Try to keep up
@@cyntreciaholden7779 or theyre just making an excuse so they dont have to hold themsleves accountable. " its literally violence" is the battle cry of people who have never seen violence
Lost my dad this year at 54 years old.
Divorced by my mother in his late thirties, his daughter stopped seeing him, & I did my best to keep my relationship with my dad because he was one of the best friends I could ask for. He Never had a serious relationship after my mom, he was never going to go through the same pain again. I will go as far to say I’ve never seen him smile like he used to since.
If only this world was full of happy endings dad.
Also thank you all for your kind blessings.
I understand there’s a time for everyone to move on, I just found it particularly saddening that my dad never found the same motivation for himself after my mom. It’s just an explicit picture of how you can destroy a person.
Sorry for the lost of your father.Sounds like you did the best you could .lm sure your dad knew that you loved him very much and he left this world knowing that .Godspeed bro...
Just being there even as a friend is worth more than silver and Gold. I know he left this world with love and pride, his life regardless his experience was not wasted, so keep the good memories alive. Stay blessed ✌🏽
May i ask: What happened at that young age of 54?
I’m so sorry to hear that :( may he Rest In Peace in Heaven and that you may be reunited one day.
Your post made me cry. I’m in your dads shoes
Sorry for your loss. Sounds really good you had that friendship, however. Thank you for sharing. Wishing you strength and wellbeing through your grief.
She seems genuinely broken by the actions of the women around her. I wanna give her the biggest hug
She's faking. Women don't have feelings. Women cannot love.
@@diggernick8535 Alr lil bro, no need for depression
@@yappior I'm not your bro. I'm not your friend. You like every one else mean nothing.
She's not broken. She's making money on her podcast using talking points from Fresh and Fit, who by the way, don't like women.
@@constanceclark4541 , the biggest badasses of all time are sigma males and sigma females hence why anime/manga and Japanese video games are dominating the Western market completely because Japan is more filled with realists and idealists than the West is nowadays outside of the Incel community that for some reason SJWS like yourself despises even though their talking points have more objective standard data than your claims.
Men, stop worrying about gold-diggers when there's no gold to dig.
My father was married & divorced 3x. Every time he was divorced, his wife, including my mother, took the house he paid for. When the end of his life was close, I asked him if it was worth all the money he spent, he told me "Yes & no. I have 5 children & only 2 don't suck. Your sister & you were worth it. The other 3 don't stack up to dried shit." I have always tried to be the man that my father would be proud of.
The three children “that didn’t stack up to dried shit” are that way because of him. He sounds like a shitty person.
love ur last sentence. good on you 👏
🤝🏾
If someone is divorced 3 times, it's a hard case to blame the 3 partners instead... but regardless, glad to hear he was a great father to you.
Respect 👌
My husband and I wrote a small list in our vows that was the attributes we wanted to bring to our marriage, and which chores we were going to do lol. After 12 years, I still look at my vows every morning, and remind myself that I still want to bring honesty, loyalty, and compassion to the table. And that I was stupid as hell to pick sweeping and mopping while he got dishes.
Lol thats cook
SWIFFER, WOMAN! SWIFFER! Kill two birds with one stone!
LOL
Or move y'all into a boat! Hose it and then just turn on the bilge pumps!
Hehehe
@@RKmndo lmao best idea ever, BRB going to Walmart.
@yamumsyadad I got wash and dry lol the best part of laundry
Ya had me in the first half and then had me rolling with that final bit lmfao...
we need to protect this women she's real
This is getting embarrassing smh
@@heyhey439what’s getting embarrassing?
@@heyhey439 fr😂
No she isnt. She endorses people stay with abusive spouses and says that cheating shouldnt be a dealbreaker for marriage. She has also never been married and has been the toxic one in all of her relationships
@@TBone4Breakfastnice try, she says to leave if the abuse continues. But if it happens once or twice to work through it because marriage is death till us part. And for cheating it's only if the guy is top tier and is pretty perfect otherwise and takes care of everything. She doesn't support it for the average and typical relationship.
As a woman who has seen and knows first hand how money hungry and vicious women can be, I urge all good men to take your time when marrying a woman. The system is for them and against you, especially if the woman lies and says she’s a victim of domestic violence. It’s become lucrative for a women to claim domestic violence! 😏
Yes it is so true. My ex did that very thing but she was never able to prove it because it NEVER HAPPENED. She even tried to manufacture evidence by taking the kids to a therapist shortly before our marriage ended and then refusing to spank the children and asking me to do it. That way, they would tell the therapist i was 'hitting' them in session. Thankfully the good Lord protected me and made me feel VERY uncomfortable with that situation and i told her that i would not discipline the kids for something I did not witness when she is their mother and should be doing it. She got Very angry at me because i was not following her plan to jinn up abuse charges against me. Now, I trust no woman to ever marry again. I worked like a dog to provide a home so she could stay at home with the kids. She never respected me or what i sacrificed being away from the kids so she could be with them.
@Marv The dog ❤ bless you bro good luck in your future endeavors
Yup. Just look at Amber Heard.
Thanks for being honest 🙂
*Why did you add the smirk emoji? It sounds like a threat now*
A lot of men have the same philosophy nowadays: "Women are cheaper by the hour." cause once you're finished, you can walk away without any headaches or hangups
“This man had nothing. And that bitch took half of that” - Dave chapelle
true tho
Still never thought of pulling his plug tho 😂😂
Did she take the "not" or the "hing"? Or the "noth" or the "ing"?
I just saw that vid like an hour ago lol
then let women earn the same as men from their jobs .
*removes wife from cart*. Well that was a close one.
lmao
@Anonymous fully agreed. Good thing I’ve got full custody of my son.
@Anonymous There are more ways to leave a legacy than children. Children are just the easiest
@Anonymous the way kids are these days...not really a legacy anyways.
The mindset that a child is your legacy is so antiquated and caustic. If the only thing that you leave behind is a child, no matter what that child goes on to achieve that will be that child's achievement. The parents will be a footnote in the history books. So to say that a child is a legacy is only an easy cop out for you to be lazy and not make the change or the legacy yourself. And to top that off you are rolling the dice that in the current state of this society the legacy that one is bound to leave has a higher chance of being negative than positive.
Women like this one are so valued and appreciated. Guys, we need allies like her. She’s fantastic.
Amen ,
But I don't see a ring on her finger,just saying
She’ll find a nice girl to settle down with one day!
@@christopherg465She looks young, she’ll find the right person anyway.
Someone marry this girl. She is beautiful in every way imaginable.
😂 I'm 37 and just did a backflip yesterday just to see if I still could do it LMFAO
maybe I'd do that, lol
I would if I could 😪✨️🤗✨️
@@Joetoy90You think she's a grifter just because she tells the male point of view? Lol, sounds like you're jealous she's successful
If she was worth it she wouldnt still be on the market with all the great men around :O But she has hit the wall the red pill community screams about? Based on that logic what does she have to offer beyond parroting of their beliefs. She can talk their talk but clearly she cant walk the walk or she would already be married and pregnant
Man… I really love my wife. She’s loving, a great mom, pure, kind, smart, patient, and my best friend. When I was dating I made the decision to date to marry. That meant I didn’t waste a ton of time with fools and their issues. I picked a woman who would choose me every day as I choose her. Two kids and a bunch of years later: I’m still excited to wake up next to her and call her my wife.
I'm the same as you after 32 years together.... but that's how it starts for most men then things go sour and for different reasons. the problem is how the system views men, most men are made out to be the "bad guy" and a lot of times is true but not all the time. But the great and good dads out there have to suffer the inequity of an unjust system. I'm all for equal rights! But then let it be equal.
This is sweet power up bosses
@@anthonypadilla943 I’m 29 and for my generation, I’d say it’s not the same for most men when starting. Most folks I know my age aren’t even in a serious relationship, let alone married with kids. And my friends who were married (if not in a church) are divorced and they all have a similar story: She was hot. That’s basically it. They marry broken women who are unwilling to acknowledge their need to grow or change or the men are the same thing. Social media has bred a generation of narcissistic people who can’t have a healthy marriage.
You got it good brother you got really lucky and found one of the few rare good ones it sounds like congrats brother happy for you! If only there were more halfway decent women on this planet.....
Hopefully that never changes
Her: “he doesn’t get purity anymore”
Subtitles: “he doesn’t get puberty anymore”
Lmao thought I was the only one 💀
@@kvde999 Why would you think....you were the only one?..
Purity, puberty. Same difference 😂
Technically its true
I’d be behind this is she just didn’t say that so fucking cringe
I've been "unmarried" since 1984, and there's no way in hell I would ever marry again. No way in hell! I learned my lesson. I've taken the Charlie Harper attitude: "As long as I have some one to clean my house and I'm getting some action on a regular basis, why would I want to get married and give someone half my stuff?"
Truth, my wife left me. Lucky for me we didn't have any kids or any serious money so the divorce was clean cut. Before I signed the paperwork she asked me if she could come back in 5 years, I said NO. IM NOT GOING TO PUT MY LIFE ON HOLD FOR YOU, HOW DO I KNOW THAT YOU'RE NOT GOING TO PICK UP AND GO AGAIN! I still don't really understand WTF happened. Life goes on.
Man, I’m three months into my separation. I3 years of marriage, raising a daughter that is not biologically mine plus my two sons. I helped get my ex through school while running a business, covid caused me to have to sell my business and go back to a 9 to 5. I started using the extra time to do things around the house that never got done, like cooking for the kids, and cleaning. My ex started working making great money, she came up to me and said she wanted to end things. After all the work, after all the money I put into her career, after moving away from home to live near her family last year after the business sold. She waited till I was financially unstable, alone, and had everything she needed to let me go. It’s like she sucked me dry and I ended up weaker while she ended up stronger. Crazy. Just trying to stay strong for the kids.
First i would like to say, You got this! You have to, for you and your kids. Secondly im sorry to hear, but it's not the end. Don't feel defeated nor even allow her to see you that way/nor think. At the end of the day/night it's her loss not yours. Your feelings are Valid myboy 🤝💯💪
its almost like they like seeing us suffer, or maybe that is indeed the fact. Hell hath no fury
I've seen this same scenario multiple times,with friends and family.them bitches will kick the snot out of you when you're down.dad allways told me this,if it fks,Flys or floats,rent it.its cheaper in the long run
Unfortunately it does happen like that a lot, that's why I'm iffy on if I'll ever be willing to make a commitment like that.
This is the reason why we need God guidance in a marriage. Life is a struggle !!
I'm a single dad, and I've literally found the key to happiness. I don't date. I have a son. He keeps me busy full time. My guy friends envy me because they're married. I can't even tell you how many of my friends regret getting married, and at first when she left me, I was devastated. After I got over her, I have the time of my life all the time. The only person's expectations I get to live up to are my own.
THANK YOU
Would kill to find a guy like you these days...
Same here brother. Life is BETTER without a spouse.
I just need to learn to get over her. I’ve never even met our daughter because she put a restraining order on me. She was born 2 months ago. Had to get a lawyer just to start process
@@mydocumentame2475 Will you?
Well than, welcome to army you can enlist anytime
Divorced twice, lost my kids, lost two homes. I'm not the only one. Younger men, are not getting married. Don't blame them. I say to women. If you are not like your grandma. Buy a dog. Die alone.
My son's mother left after 5yrs together! Why? Well I still don't know. She never would say. She had a very young daughter when we got together maybe that was the problem. After me she quickly had a new partner within a month. I always thought we would be together forever. Still today I'm alone. I mean I like my alone time but it also gets lonely after a while. Seems the older we get the tougher it is to find a partner. Women need to learn to satisfy a man and keep him for life. This way we can start building families again.
God takes away people before they hurt you even more brother.
Can’t do it. My father got divorced and I remember that day. 23 years down the toilet. My mom had packed us up like luggage one night; no explanation no word. Threw us in the back of a van and as she was driving off I looked out the back window and saw my dad standing there by himself so helplessly with a flickering light above him. It was as if he just been robbed from his happiness. He’s been supporting us ever since and I see him once every two weeks, he told me it was like, “Getting stabbed in the chest and having it drag down to your gut.”
im really sorry about that, glad you're still on good terms with your dad.
That's fucked
:(
😭😭😭
Sad story. I lived through the same thing
Married for 11 years, had a stroke, couldn’t do much for a while, I’m better now but during that time I couldn’t do much to take care of my wife and 2 children, she packed up, took the kids and left. She said she didn’t sign up for this… It’s been over 6 years, I’m still alone and still trying to figure out what I did that was so wrong. It’s still painful at times.
Here’s a bow to the men and women who truly Love unconditionally, and respect each other.
So much for in sickness and health.
There’s a special place for her, I hope you find peace
I'm so sorry this happened to you. Men are 6 x more likely to leave a sick spouse than woman. You were very unlucky.
She did sign up for it.
@ Brittany no matter what people like you always try to belittle and lie and gaslight
Women can't be satisfied, and when she decides to leave, she will most likely decide to devastate her husband's life. I'm speaking from experience.
As the divorced father of 3 adult kids, what this woman is saying is 110% Correct. No woman wants a "damaged" man with "baggage"... marriage is not worth the trouble anymore.
There are still women out there who appreciate you guys, we truly do.
@@lillithjones3787I agree. My 2nd partner had a teenage daughter and a 5 year old. His wife left him " to go find herself. " Over 18 yrs now and still happy.
If you ask for a pre-nup and she gets mad, she's not marrying you, she's marrying your stuff.
Edit: I'm not responding to anyone who gives me another childlike defense of why you think I'm wrong. I've wasted my time responding to the exact same argument over and over again.
If she loves you she won't mind signing a prenup, if she won't sign one move on. That simple
Most judges don't even recognize pre-nups as a legal document anymore either. I've heard many stories of men who had a pre-nup with their wives and when the divorce went to court and the man's lawyer showed the pre-nup the judge just ignores it and says I don't recognize that as a legal contract.
Gotta be careful these days. That's why I'm single and have a cat. That cat is child and when I need my needs met I'll pay for it. Sure seems like low standards and shit but I ain't got time to try and court a woman at a bar and hope something happens.
@@Gutenburg100 takes a lot to admit that! That being said, holy shit youre a simp. Man up and go pull a chick. Its not that hard. Out here wasting a shit ton of money on hookers cause you dont wanna get married lol. Thats some straight cuck shit!
I remember when my ex-husband asked me if I would sign a prenup and I just said well I don't love that you're asking me but if that's what you want then yes I will because I love you. I never ended up signing one but I remember that coming up. I mean he never drew one up so..
Yeah, I thought women today are "Independent."
@@Gutenburg100 who cares bro if you enjoy it
All the dads out there struggling and not seeing your kids and still paying child support....💚
Your not alone.
Nah, say the truth, they are all alone, thats sadly the whole point
God bless you bruh, stay strong, you are not alone. Just as diamonds, gold, and even swords are forged through fire so will you be in adversity.
Women keep their options always open. Not try to put effort into relationship.
It sure feels like it. It’s funny how you can be nice to people and treat them with respect only for them to turn their back on you without even talking to you about the situation first. This is one of the downsides of being in a relationship with attractive women, Everyone believes her even if it’s all bullshit.
I needed to see this..great words brother
Don't get married. It's a scam for women.
True story, my brother!
We as men are simple, when we say „until death do us part“ then we mean it. She’s dead to me now and I‘m emotionally dead as well. Never will I ever be so attached to a woman again. Keeps me and my spirit safe from all that bulls#%!
Been divorced for 12 years now. I can't imagine ever being with someone again.
Same as me 12 years
I’m separated and I think the same
Amen bro
Never divorced but was engaged. Lost my house, my dogs and my hope almost when we split. I thought I was being nice by giving her the house but it really messed me up because she slept and got with someone a week or so after we split and I was still trying to move out of the house. She's married now and I'm still trying to figure things out 2 years later.
@@rigsfix1067 was it you’re house or in both you’re names?
This broke my heart, I love my wife my children and grandchildren and we celebrate our 40th wedding anniversary this year... I guess I struck very lucky.
bruh stop acting as if you had a perfect 40years. Everyone who's married knows you both had to work at that, but 40years married women from your time are mostly principled
@@1ma4ighter As were the men.
Been married 40 yrs so far myself.
@@1ma4ighter my parents were married 50+ years. She passed away in 2020 from Covid.
In talking to my father , he said the only way his marriage lasted was because my mother was of the last generation of American women who were content being wives, mothers and home makers. In those years it was an honorable and noble life. I was married 20 years and just recently my wife wanted a divorce. I am successful, tall , athletic, Ive been told good looking, loyal, involved, warm , and a loving father. Far from perfect of course with faults but who is ? And she just didn’t love me anymore and didn’t want to be married. My young sons 13,11 are my life and I’d rather die than enter into another relationship of any kind, other than casual sex, with a woman ever again. I gave my best. It wasn’t enough.
Fuck them all. Really.
My husband and I have been together for 17 years and have two daughters. I still love him very much.
Congratulations on your 40 years
Pearl, I’m a conservative Catholic woman. I’m 38 with two kids, my Husband and I have only ever been married to each other( no divorces), we’ve been married for 17 years, together for 20, and we were friends throughout high school before dating. Please invite seasoned women, such as myself, onto your show to speak from experience. We can tell others what worked and what almost broke our marriages, because we’ve actually lived it.
It’s nonsensical to learn cooking by someone who’s never been in the kitchen. You hear what I’m saying?
Seen plenty of guys dumped by their long term gfs with nothing to show for it. People getting out 5 or 6 year relationships; in that exact same time span I managed to get 2 degrees lol.
Real feminists fight for equality, not power over the other.
Even if that's the case, the word "Feminist" only highlights one gender... I get that the Actions of a Group should matter more than the name and all...
but when one Gender alone is highlighted above another... that alone implies that one will be favored over another...
Because either consciously or subconsciously some people tend to see -/think the situation as that...
Most Feminists of today see it exactly as that... "Oh we're the prize, we should stand on top, we're supposed to be the boss"
That is why I prefer the term "Egalitarian" over "Feminism"...
@@LivingFireShadow I don't think it's grammatically correct to use a '...' after every single sentence...
@@totallynotpaul6211 his . button was set to BURST
Amen 💛 so toxic and insecure what she 8a saying, brainwashed by the patriarchy
The "real feminist" is very very illusive.
My ex b/f went through this. (To clarify: I was not the reason for his divorce, we met later.) He lost his wife, kids, house, and half of his income to child support. He couldn't afford to live on his own anymore, so he had to move back in with his mom. Family law is inhumane to men and children.
Are you my X?
It is very biased...I see it all the time, it's like men are punished for WOMEN leaving THEM....but turn the tables and men are still f'd...
I have given up on women to stay I just think we are simply disposable. I know this from experience. We are expected to provide and be their protector yet who has our back. I went out and made more money than we needed working myself to the bone only to leave and take stuff. Now I'm retired comfortably and they are beating down my door to get with me. I just don't think so
My heart goes out to the guys who believed to be in a genuine relationship with mutual love only to be betrayed and broken in the end, but I can’t tell you how many times I see good men throwing their time, money, and life away for a woman who is OBVIOUSLY using him. Quit choosing shallow women just because they look good on your arm and suit your current agenda! Guys get on women for this same problem. If everyone can hold themselves back in relationships until the other person has proven WITHOUT A DOUBT that they are worthy of your time and efforts, THEN grant them full access to you. Otherwise, quit airing out your problems to the masses and muddying the societal narrative. The issue isn’t Men vs Women. How many times do we have to be reminded that there are idiots in both sexes? We have hurt each other EQUALLY. Both sides have betrayed EACH OTHER. So fix it and treat each other fairly or at least try not to be the fool that allows themselves to be used.
we ‘choose’ shallow women because they’re the only options. Men go for 90% of women while women go for the top 10% of men. There’s so little options now, being unhealthy is a dealbreaker for me and most others, and 70% of men and women are obese or overweight. That leaves 30%, and if we assume 15% are attracted to you, that’ll leave 7.5% that you’re also attracted to. 90% of them will be incompatible and that leaves 0.75%. It’s bleak.
Single for 9 years 21-30 was the best 9 years of my life.
Do you have kids? If no , once you do I think you’ll say those are new best days of your life! I had fun single n young but I wasn’t truly living my best life til I had my own children
I’m 21 now, single, and finishing my degree. What about being single made those 9 years the best of your life?
@@QuincyThomass I guess less stressful life and more freedom..
@@QuincyThomass bruh just take his word frfr... Unless u have some crazy urge to have kids jus take the mans words
I spend most of my 20's single to. Now I just dont give a f.
“The benefits we bring nowadays don’t outweigh the cost for most men” Preach you absolute diamond 💎
The juice isn't worth the squeeze. Not even close.
That's why I broke up with my gf. She wanted kids and to marry. She can't cook, barely clean and have no hobbies.
Not worth it a life time of commitment.
@@ShadSGamer With a woman like that you wouldn't have a "lifetime of commitment". A woman like that would nag you about making more money, but then complain about you never being home. Then, she would have an affair and leave you, taking half or more of what you've paid for with her AND, you'd get to pay child support because short of you secretly getting a vasectomy she WOULD get pregnant. Hell, even if you did get a vasectomy she might get pregnant anyway, by a another guy. Guess who the courts presume the father is, and who would get stuck paying for the kid????
Now ponder a the complete absurdity of a legal system where a DNA test can get you out of prison or even off of death row, because the state discovers it has the wrong guy, but that same test might not get you out of child support for the very same reason. Yeah.....ponder that one gents.
@@ShadSGamer If you got married, her hobby would be cheating on you then getting fat and having chronic depression.
Well, mine’s a sub, so…
Thank you, whoever you are lady. Sad but true facts of life rn.
Not necessarily true, the data is objective enough but the conclusions are dishonest. Men are more likely to cheat. Men are more likely to be abusive. That’s probably why women are more likely to divorce.
Pearl. Think that's her CZcams channel. Or pearly things maybe. 👍🏻
So true, I'm single at 39 and it seems my only options are to find a women with kids. So it's incredibly risky when I look at the numbers for success. Sticking it out alone and focus on work might be the smartest move.
Pray for going into any relationship. God knows all and will direct you.
@Kellyann Costanzo Proverbs 3:6 In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct your path.
Yeah understand if you put God first he will help you. Yet I'm shrouded with doubt I feel like we're living in the end days with how corrupt our generation has become, if I avert my attention to finding a suitable companion I'll probably screw it up.
@@brentmorris736 the same way good men like you exist, good women exist.
I’d just stay single tbh.
I thank God for my wife. 11 years in January and I waited until I was mid 30s and found the right one. 4 kids and we work in business together. I know I am blessed.
Don’t count on it. Bill Gates and Jeff Bezos and Donald Trump were all happily married one time and built a business together with their ex wives.
Good for you bud, I think we all thought this right up to the moment before our wives said 'we need to talk, I've met someone else'.
We will celebrate 35 years of MARRIAGE in June of 2023! I didn't MARRY the first girl/woman I "thought" I was in "love" with. I was PATIENT. I learned what I WANTED in a wife and, more importantly what I DIDN'T want in a wife. A couple HAS to have "common" goals. They have to have MORALS & INTEGRITY. a couple HAS to learn to COMPROMISE and to LISTEN to each other. You LEARN about each other as you DATE. It was THOUGHT "back in the day" that couples who "lived together" BEFORE marriage would be MORE LIKELY to STAY TOGETHER. The BIG SURPRISE was that it didn't affect the divorce rate at all. There are NO SHORT CUTS!!
Make it a point to go out of your way to tell show her this is how you feel. That isn't a general statement, I mean do it, today!
Good luck
“Women are paid to take our kids”damn that hits harder than saying child support
Because women are not paid to take the kids. Kids are more costly than the support they get or in my case, didn't get. Plus the time and effort. I wish my ex would have helped by getting a job and staying around in the area. He could have been part of a great kids life. His total loss. My son is 25 now and says if he ever sees him again, he will probably punch him in the face. That's sad.
@@angelabroyles5344 it's called child "support" not child "paid in full". It is money to help with the financial burden of raising children. Why should one person pay for everything to get weekend visitation? Most women get paid in the hundreds; if not, thousands of dollars a month per child. That is more than adequate to help provide for a child. The lady in this video doesn't even touch alimony.
That's what this society has done. There's so many women out there that don't work and live off child support and then get HALF OF THEIR RETIREMENT! WTF IS THAT! I've worked for over 30 years, why do u have to share? The kids are grown. B@$ch, go get a damn job! You wanted to be single, welcome to the jungle!
@@angelabroyles5344 If she has the right to abort it, I have the right to abandon and not pay for it.
@@angelabroyles5344 it's about the women who live off the child support. Every situation is different but how fair would it be for you to have your kids for 8 days a month, sometimes less, and pay 50% or a week of their pay. Yes they should help with the kids but you ain't married, you should have to support that ex. The money should be based on the time they get those kids. If they don't want to pay, then share 50/50...just sayin. Then they get half of their retirement too? Even if only married for under 10 years. You don't even get a pension vested until 1o years and now you have to give up money to someone you haven't been with in 20 plus years. Put the shoes on your feet and see how that looks.
There is ZERO incentive for a man to be in a relationship with a woman or to court her for anything beyond casual sex and a casual relationship.
The last time I spent months courting a woman. Did everything right, she was telling me how she can't wait to marry me and all this garbage. And then after a date that went amazingly well, she sent me a random a** message saying "sorry I just don't feel the chemistry. I wish you all the best. I spent days trying to figure out why my feelings are like this and I can't". Imagine investing in someone who can do a 180 on you like that for NO REASON WHATSOEVER. Over some weird feelings that came over her.
I will NEVER IN MY LIFE not have a rotation of women available to me. Ever. I will never invest in one, I'd rather die. The creature is WAY too fickle. It's always changing its mind about everything.
Women like this are the reason why I've been happily single since 1997...wouldn't waste my time or energy on any woman.
"She wants a family but don't know what a home is, she wants a soul mate but don't know what her soul is.."
All right, you just need a couple more verses and you got one of the coolest rap songs any of us have heard in a while. Not sure how you're going to do it but I wish you luck.
Is this from a song? Lol
@@Rowsy91 "You already know, I could tell ya but you already know, you already know, I can't tell ya cause you already know"...
I cant even see my son, I brought her here yet right after she left me, divorce me she has had her second boyfriend, but I cant see my son
You hit the hoe I mean the nail on the head.
Love seeing a girl who can see just how much pain it is to be a man in this age
hurts both sides, guys would rather stay safe after being hurt. while the good women out there suffer from the girls that trashed the playing field
Oh no, have men had a rough 20 years or so? Oh, diddums.
@@daisysw3147 women that haven't had it bad their entire lives, using evidence from a time where none of us lived, as some sort of "gotcha" to men... It's comparable to black people asking for reparations from white people that didn't have shit to do with it.
Get over yourself darling
@@daisysw3147 there you go..there's always that one.
Prolly seen her dad go through it maybe
Protect this woman at all costs!!!
The one girl who tried to cut her off:
👁 👄 👁
HAHA
Naw this lady is a pick me
@@snowfang467 "to the slaughterhouse". Talk about emotional hyperbole.
@@snowfang467 You should work on your sentence structure so that you make sense and maybe someone will take you seriously. Please note that just because you agree with this lady, does not make it the end all be all and not everyone agrees with her opinions. Also, just because someone doesn't agree or doesn't worship her (some of y'all are weird on here) does not mean they are "gaslighting." 🙄
@@snowfang467 lol no. She definitely a pick me. Watch more of her videos. She's a misogynist.
This woman is a rare gem, we men need to protect her at all cost.
Truth
M8 she is a grifter jesus there is a reason she aint married. She is just making money on simps like you buddy
Relationships are a liability, you're better off paying for sex
Marriage is the most expensive sex you can buy.
The amount of 20 year old women I talk to that have children is fucking ridiculous
My wife got caught cheating on me and went and filed for a divorce even though I begged her for us to go to counseling and she wouldn't have any part of it. She asked me one day if I would ever forgive her for what she did to me and I told her that I had forgiven her or I wouldn't be talking to her, but I will never forget what she did to me, if I forget that means I would allow it to happen again. Been single for 12 years now and I love life now more than I ever had before.
Tragic. Very similar here. No penalty for her misbehavior. You do everything perfect and even take the high road and she can destroy you with no restriction. What does she stand to lose? Nothing. So this cycle happens over and over. Then they teach other women the benefits of this strategy and it multiplies in society.
@@ronlewis8398 As humans, we are incapable of doing everything perfectly, and relationships are not all one-sided.
Figure out your responsibility in this, learn from it and move on. Playing the victim and/or blaming others is really unattractive.
My first ex wrote me a letter 7 years after splitting and eventually divorcing. She said I was a good man, but didn't realize it until she endured being beaten for those 7 years by the man she cheated on me with.
@@whip689 do women have some form of cognitive dissonance?
You were willing to take back a cheating woman? You are the problem, your ex smelt your weakness and it made her puke.
I'm come from a broken home, my father recieved custody of my older sister and myself in the divorce. Kinda happens when your mother empties the bank accounts and drops the kids off at their grand mothers house and dissappears for a few weeks. I watched my father work 12-16 hour days, 6-7days a week to fill that financial void as my mother only had to pay $75 per child for support. I only got to have quality time after I was 18 and he partially retired. I myself have raised a few children that weren't mine thru the years and what real sucks is when they decided to leave, it's not just them you lost its also the kids that you emotionally invested yourelf into. This is why I personally decided to not get married our have children of my own. At the age of 32 I have come to terms with the fact that I will leave this world alone and it no longer bothers me like it once did.
This thought haunts me. I'm 25 and I don't wanna get married too.. too many whishes and too less time to raise kids.. I just hope I'll figure out what I want before it's too late..🥲
That quality time you think you missed out … what about your dad? Or do you think he wanted to work that whole time? He spent that time busting his butt.
@@robinsaini5842 i make women sign a waiver before we reproduce
@@graceamerican3558 yeah to take care of the kids he was responsible for but seeing his dad go through that makes him not wanna do it. I to came from a shit child hood and invested in the way wrong women. I now have joint custody and no child support of my son. Basically if your a man and you didn't do shit wrong and get a good attorney you'll be alright in a few years and the kid is totally worth it in my opinion.
One of my moms baby daddies only had to pay $50 a month for child support since he only worked a part time and got most of his money from drug dealing. He was recently in a car accident which literally turned him into a newborn had to learn how to speak, walk, write had to re-learn who his kids are. I hate to say it but that’s karma thankfully if the system doesn’t work out what’s fair the universe will and the universe doesn’t discriminate
that women just spoke some real shit.
I was married for 23 years, and she cheated, and broke trust. Now...i have trust issues, so it's hard to go back out there, especially these days. I'd rather be single and make myself happy, and no worries of getting hurt again.
This woman even acknowledging these realities makes me happy. I hope she finds or has a good man beside her and they can feed each other with happiness. A logical woman. Wow!
'A good Woman☕️" "slurp"
Could be she has a woman at her side. And it could be she herself isn't logical in her personal life, but she is smart so understands logic in men.
@@alexsarkol86 huh....
I suppose it could be a woman too. Either way, it's refreshing to hear a woman who actually pays attention to reality
@@durasicgecko3263 yeah that custody battle is gonna be fun. Oh wait gay people can't have babies they could just adopt and scar a rescue one
The men that do leave only leave as a very last resort.
@@Theworldismine5 OMG, pay attention & stop being defensive and deflective for crying out loud. She just explained it to you- if you cant compute the point she made, it's exactly the contrary to your beliefs as she clearly demonstrated that its mostly society's fault that a man has to stay in a bad relationship in hope that he can fix the "problems" & therefore not loose all his shit!! ;)
@@carlosmario1096 who hurt you?
@@jessiejeanne9717 lol & wtf!? Sorry, seems that CZcams attached my response to ur comment in error. 🤦♂️
@@carlosmario1096 🤣
Yep, last resort
Thanks God there is still good woman around like this good one, but we will take the big risk to find the "Quality one" from the quantity ones. good tip: Get love it before you love it, and there you will find out the right one before you get blind when you star falling in love. 😎
It’s a breath of fresh air to hear another woman give the brutal truth 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Exactly, I would rather be agonizingly lonely than go through it again.
You’re seeing this with more and more men. Guys are lonely in record numbers because they don’t wanna deal with that.
Same here, a sad truth
Thank you. You saying that gives me perspective and helps me in the place I'm at now so much
Fact is because of how things are now I don't even feel lonely being alone and I'm happier to be on my own I have no interest in being in a relationship unless they start getting back to how it was when people worked equally together in a relationship to build a stable family I look at my parents my father died not too long ago but they both worked so hard to provide and they worked through there personal problems together now I feel like people are just selfish and aren't willing to compromise with each other and are more interested in materialistic than things that actually matter
"she got the house the kids the car
i got the right to remain silent"
You mean she now has to pay for the house, the kids, and the car
@@tokhote dont worry they make you pay for that too
@@tokhote you'd think huh
@@sunbear9374 no. Haven’t you heard? “every woman deserves…”
"She got the gold mine, I got the shaft"
Not all women. And as a woman divorcing a narcissist after 32 years of doing all the childcare, cooking, cleaning, organizing and transporting for appts and practices and games, shopping, gardening, bookkeeping for the company, AND working full time as well, as he lived like he was single, yes, DAM STRAIGHT I contributed and deserve to be secure for what remains of my life, once I find that girl i used to be. This does happen but you cant use the same brush for all.
I know but it's the %. I have 3 kids to 2 women and I was the one to leave both times and let me tell you if it wasn't for the children I would of definitely committed suicide in one of those relationships if I didn't walk. Am I a Saint no but I left for the same reasons as yourself. Did you feel better being single and free of all the BS that comes with relationships like that ?
@@stevenewton7787 I am only 1.5 years on my own and getting excellent help from a counselor and some good online therapists like Dr Les Carter and Doctor Ramani, Crappy Childhood Fairy.... I'm healing, and as memories resurface it shocks me how dysregulated I became along the way in the marriage. God be with you.
Maybe the problem was that you were also working full time? It was double the burden
@@yogeshkrishnaLevelup I left because he was a narcissist and destroyed my health. What I contributed holds value in the courts.
@@daisylane5721 how much you took from him by divorcing him?
Wealth? Kids?
Divorced. Lost everything I worked for for a decade… single now for 5 years… she says facts
Bro if u r still healthy and positive energy there is always a new beginning it’s up to you to make it worth it!!!
@@Eddy_builder yea i'm all fer burnin em at the stake Salem style
Me to brother. She married me for kids cause the second she got pregnant she was out the door. Now single and father for the past five years and paying child support out the ass. Hell freezes over if I’m getting married again.
Me too
@@MrGuitarshred777 🤓
My ex became a nightmare, yeah the first couple of years we sailed along great, I treated her like a lady, and I was on a first-name basis at the jewelry store. She pointed to a house we walked by saying; "I always wanted that house." a month later it was her home.
She was a awesome cook, but never cleaned or did the dishes, she only did the laundry once in a while.
She was great in bed & never told me no, but (thinking about it) I don't think she ever told anyone else no either.
She cheated, lied, wrote bad checks so had to canceled her account, she forged my name on the next four checks. While I was away on business she forged my name for the title on my truck & my car, stole a thousand dollars from our daughter's savings & denied everything, she bought some guy a new boat propeller then he dumped her.
I left sent her divorce papers twice & finally called her to convince her to sign them.
At the divorce court she was a no show.
The judge asked me; "What are the grounds for your divorce?"
And I said; "My sanity your honor."
You are a brick man!!! Your sanity is priceless and your life has more to it than just serving this unholy, treacherous creature you had married to make her happy. All the best, hope that you found your happiness!🐤
Stay strong king!
This is why?? If your a man..n .out defe etly..want to. get married. The hell with a prenuptial agreement.. good lawyers..most times can work around this... a man must have his partner sign. A ((((( co habitat agreement)))
This means. Both parties keep. What both brought into the marriage..plain n simple.. its iron clad... to be honest..most marriages end in divorce 65 percent of the time. Yes..one gets lonely.. but much better..then goin through..some other guy sleeping in your bed n house that you sweated for..
@@twinrg What happened to me in my life was devastating & then extraordinary.
I moved to another small town, when I saw a woman I had seen in a vision when I was 8, this is now fourty years later, I heard voices in my head saying; "You need to know her." (Thought I was going crazy.)
So I ran out of there.
I went home & wrote a poem about seeing her, two days later, out of boredom I went bowling, then I noticed that same woman was serving drinks to the bowlers, suddenly I could feel the pain in her life (it made me angry) & out loud I said; "I'll save her!" (I thought I was going nuts) I ran back to my bowling score for a dose of reality.
Next thing I knew my feet started walking me up the steps through a crowd of people, still looking at my feet I saw a pair of pink & white sneekers, I looked up & it was her.
We got married a year later, & she's the best thing that ever happened to me.
Crazy huh?
☠️
And that's why I'm feeling way better alone.
I loved you, I was there when you needed me, I drove 900km a week for you while you were home, I even paid your rent because you had problem at work and was low on money.
Thanks for throwing me without any explanation, and good luck with the guy you started hanging with about two day after you broke.
And almost every woman who leaves has another man waiting.
She's seen her dad suffer. She was about to cry... I'm 100% certain. She knows too much. Dead on accurate.
And yet if you marry her she can and probably would screw you over. Don’t trust anyone. It’s a trap.
So what does she think women should be, Stepford Wives? This is so much B.S. Most of the divorces I've seen are douche bag, immature, irresponsible dudes who don't maintain contact with their kids and keep hiding any income that make up child support.
Not her dad… her brother.
@@claytonbolton1847 ok, ty. That makes sense. If not the dad, then the brother. Had to be a solid male figure right in front of her. Showing her allllll the motions. Wow. This is deep.
@@lawrencetomlinson761 some, not all. Dads get a bad rep.reputation.. and honestly, give up. .. I have my days. But i push.
"Women aren't wives today." So much truth.
This one had me focused.
Maybe he clear on what you want from a wife and be willing to give as a husband. Not all women the same and neither are men.
Most women aren't wives....there's still some out here with morals and values and know that relations are hard but still put the work in to keep it going.....the problem is now a days people love anything that's easy and marriage is far from easy.....marriage is work and people are too lazy to put the work into a marriage
@@rikki06teater communication is the key.
Not in islamic world bro
Maybe these comments apply to a certain generation 🤷🏼♀️
My ex told me to get out, I blew it off the first time, 2nd time was a wake up call. I was 44/46 at the time, he was older.
2.5 years after separation I was $60K+ in debt, pushed for divorce, made an offer, ended up in court and I got way more than offered. 🤷🏼♀️
The “break down” was WAAAAY before this point. Lots of dynamics. One issue I hope rises above the breakdown.
We are not taught how to “do” a budget.
Everyone needs to understand the cost to “live”. Housing payment (rent/mortgage), car payment , insurance (house/car/health), food (groceries/eating out/bar tabs), non-food (detergent/toilet or paper towels/toothpaste/deodorant/etc), car fuel (fossil/elec), taxes (real estate/personal property/other), clothing/house decor, travel/vacay, I’m sure I’ve missed a category that should be in this list.
It cost at least $60K to survive with NO vacation…with NO dependent children (I have 3 adult kids), it’s been a struggle. Education should include budgeting in my opinion. School systems are no longer teaching it, parents need to wake up. My 2c commentary/opinion 🤷🏼♀️whatever…
Been with my wife for 9 years, with last 4 being rocky. Watched as we slowly drew apart. No matter how much I tried, I was always wrong, never did enough, never provided enough and just felt like she had made up her mind her life was miserable because of me. We have 4 kids and she left in march with them. Pulled them out of schools and completely ghosted me. I had to hire a pi to find them and to legal nofications to her. Had 3 temporary hearings that brought nothing. For 3 months, she didn't even let me speak to the kids. It was her dad that eventually let me start having phone calls with my kids. It's took 221 one days for me to even be able to hold my kids for a day. Still no court orders in place, I have had to be the one to prove my living condition, my work, my pay, my character. But her, nothing. Not once did judge ask her to. Even thought I knew they were living on the floor over there for months, judge didn't do anything about that. My wife doesnt even take care of my kids, just drops them off on her parents and goes lives her best life. She bad mouths me infront the kids and doesn't let them call me saying I don't want them to. I was soo happy to clear that up with them when I finally got to hold them. Now I just have to hold out for a few more weeks to finally get to custody court where I can finally have a chance of getting my kids back. This pain isn't worth repeating with another down the road. Will see how it plays out in 3 weeks.
Wish i best:'(
good luck bro.
That’s horrible man, my prayers for you. The system is beyond broken. If I had a wife do that (all you said) to me, I’d look at it like this. Hard to fight for custody if there’s only one parent.
And it wouldn’t be me taking the dirt nap.
Nobody, kidnaps my children...including their quitting mom
Dude I’m not even 15 and I see what ur going through. Best of luck because I know that you probably love those kids more than her or anything in the world. 🤞👍
Thank yall for the support. It means a lot.
She touched a lot of mens hearts with this one. Stay strong my brothers out there
Who is she?
@@rickstapylton9948 justpearlythings
She deserves her back being blown brothers
This girl is about to get herself canceled with all this truth in one big serving, it’s illegal to the progressive, when your so woke you can’t accept facts dressed in honesty’s clothes
She sure got my heart.
Never again. "The juice ain't worth the squeeze".
Im soo happy I listen too the older guys when I started working in high school, they were miserable and they werent even that old. I was just like man, im never gonna out myself through that and at the same time women were already bad too me so. I just kept my head down and worked my ass off for me and NOW IM ENJOYING LIFE!! THANK YOU FOR THE GUIDANCE!
WOW. She actually put this in words. I am speechless. She nailed my life.
I took the lesson from Eddie Murphy's RAW, and where he talked about woman that will take half your shit, so i never got married and have no kids. I had a few girlfriends and when that was over it didn't cost me a penny. And i never give up my home to move in with a woman, because then i always have a home to get back to. Hell, i rather fuck a hooker once a month, and have a housekeeper once a month because that is waaay cheaper than having a woman!
So you make stupid decisions huh?
Both my dad and my current step dad experienced this. They lost their kids, house, and half of their cheque to their first wife. Shits tuff.
And the one of lots of my friends. Some did it twice before getting it.
Mark my wards, that’s why you will See a lot of women in hell then Men..!
Amen.
Separated from my ex of 7 years with two kids because I “work too much” despite paying all the bills AND doing all the cooking and cleaning.
Every little thing was an inconvenience to her, to the point where her only chore was laundry and she would half ass it. Watching the kids while I cooked supper pissed her off because it meant she’d have to get off her phone, which she was glued to 90% of the time.
Every little thing would piss her off, she’d yell at the dog, me, our kids, and it was always someone else’s fault.
Still, I stood by her because I was loyal and put family first, until she suddenly left having used months of childcare benefit (that would go directly in her account) to afford her own apartment.
Now it’s just me and my kids, and it’s like a weight has lifted. Suddenly everything is easier, and the house is much more calm and relaxed, and I’m no longer having to clean up after her.
Somehow having no partner is easier than having her as a partner.
Sad but true.
It's an amazing thing, it's just human nature, that when one in a relationship sees opportunity to take advantage of the others kindness, they just can't seem to help but to do so. Horrible. I really believe those 50, 60-year marriages occur so incredibly rarely, because it's that incredibly rare that you can have two people of a decent and kind nature that won't take advantage of the others kindness, and use it to prop themselves up.
Just make sure she doesn't inveigle her way back into your life when she finds out how hard it is without you!
That was the psychopathic narcissist otherwise known as a demon possessed lying cheating stealing fake false personality with no true self. They're everywhere. What you described is exactly the same pattern as all the rest of them except you are obviously too busy to have noticed her extremely large number of other lovers and boyfriends that she has now and had over the years. Thank God you are spared that pain
I think we were married to the same exact person. Lazy af, won't listen and self absorbed... today's generation women
Built a house around the time I got with my partner, was happy as Larry for a long time, ignored the “red flags” so to say. She moved straight in, we’ve been together for just shy of two years, just had our first child. Over the last few months I’ve found her hard to deal with, bossiness has gotten way worse, affection has been next to nothing for a while now, before the pregnancy. Now I regret having the child with her. However I don’t regret my daughter, felt instant love for her.
Benefits hardly outweigh even the risk. One way to break your spirit is when you do everything you can for her, she lies, cheats, and everyone still takes her side
"Don't ever sign a pact with someone that's rewarded for breaking it"
~ Someone Wise, most likely
nah this shit hard gonna steal this one
Divorce is no reward it’s a pain in the ass lol
That is 🦉 wisest quote I've heard in a very long time
WOW!!!! Best comment ever. Nothing but truth!!!!
@@Lyn.isGrey getting half of the man's property is a reward.
I swear I’ll never go through the pain again I had with my first separation and divorce. She’s right about everything.
You guy's are choosing the wrong women! Stop chasing instagram HOES and maybe that won't happen to you!
What sucks the most is that while you were devastated, she was elated. I’m sorry you had to deal with that 😞
I agree! A lot of women are like this!!!!👍🏻👍🏻
Exactly and when they do leave it's easy for them as getting rid of an old pair of jeans. No guilt, no repercussions if they time it right and often no genuine explanation or no felt need to work at the relationship.
In a relationship living with someone for 4 years, Was diagnosed with stage 4 hodgkins lymphoma, found out at my last chemo treatment she had been cheating for about 2 of the 4 years together. Been a year now and haven't tried much to date since. I was kicked when I was down and that one hurt more than anyone could know.
Dating isn't worth it anymore...
“You want a husband but you don’t want to be a wife”
-Bishop TD Jakes
Please put that on some bill boards and accross social media...because it's the truth
They want the assets, the support network, and the protection. But they don't want to to hold up their end.
You want a wife, but you just want to be a wallet, not a man.
@@leahwhiteley5164 Being simply a wallet or an ATM is how men are viewed by a lot of women. Men don't just want to be wallets, it's what we get relegated to in relationships and by society. 93% of all alimony payments are made by men to women. Women get the kids about 83% of the time, which means dad is paying child support. About 80% of divorces are initiated by women. No man wants to simply be a wallet.
@@dawnmckenzie1619 You're right....there are those rare exceptions. Just like someone wins the lottery....just not usually the same person, or very often.
Hearing a woman talk bout this and be accurate af just blows my mind, she understands us for sure
Its the reason they're tryna destroy logical thinking. Because too many people will end up agreeing
They All Know But They Don't Wanna Acknowledge It Because It's Not About Them
She knows
Nope. Be a real Husband and partner and there is no divorce. What a concept.
turns out patriarchy can infect the minds of women too interesting
Friends going through ugly, expensive divorces, especially with kids, discouraged me from settling down until I was almost 41. I met my smart and beautiful wife at a fitness center, dated for a year, and lived together for around a year before we married 25 years ago.