I mean. That just means you’re logical in the placement of your human body. Why leave your room if you have basically everything you need in there and humans tend to be the most dangerous thing on the planet? Should we leave our rooms just because not doing so makes others think weirdly about it? I don’t think so. If you don’t have a reason to leave your room - probably don’t do so. ~INTP
Completely agree with the notion that 90% of me is hidden to the outside world. Which is possibly why I enjoy my own company and consider myself my best friend. Edit: that’s not to say I don’t have real friends. Of course I do, but they don’t understand me to the level I understand myself or even to the level I understand them.
Not necessarily true. I know myself inside and out and can describe everything. However, I'm not usually comfortable talking about myself like that, and I feel that actually getting to know me or reading my writing is a better way to understand me (or anyone) as an individual than providing a broad summary that could potentially apply to a lot of people.
We INFPs often get emotionally adopted, I've noticed. Like a stray cat someone decides to lure into a forever home, no matter how mangy and weird that cat [thinks it] is. I've yet to fully comprehend the reasoning behind this behavior, but I got married SOMEhow, which is nice.
Good for you, I have a similar thing where I am on good terms with tons of people but have no clue why them, my closer friends, mentors, and family seem to like me
My 17-yr-old son is an INFP. He goes out with his friends, and despite conventional wisdom about how dumb groups of boys can be, I feel confident that if a bad idea came up, he wouldn't participate. He's got his compass, and no amount of peer pressure is going to persuade him. It's my ESFP 13-yr-old I'm worried about. 😂
From my own experience as a 25-years-old INFP guy, that sounds about right. The only times I've seen something really dumb brewing up, I took a step back and just watched whatever was about to happen while making some effort to de-escalate but mostly just being curious as to how badly it was going to flop. And from what I've gathered from the Internet, it seems to be a pretty common INFP characteristic to be the wise but detached friend that is going to stay out of trouble (mostly) and council you if you're willing to listen but that will definitely let you fail to learn whatever lesson can be learned from it. TL;DR: I wouldn't see a typical "observer" type get in much trouble to be honest.
@@Akranejames As a 33-years-old INFP, in my teens and even now, my friends will left me out whenever they are going to attempt some really stupid things.
@@angelagoodwin5758 Yep, same here. Even as a teenager and college student, I was not one to get in major trouble. Being around that kind of behavior even to this day is unsettling and one of the reasons I don’t like to go to bars and clubs, for example.
I love the INFPs. They are so enigmatic and positive. They think on their feet and have deep philosophies - but they’re so humble. Undyingly loyal. So very true to themselves. Always trying. I think there’s this idea that INFPs are lazy...and yeah I think that’s probably true a lot of the times - but they’re always reinventing the wheel. They’re always getting back up again and taking a crack at life in a new and different way - trying to improve themselves and their understanding of the world. It makes them incredibly resilient. They can get cut easily and deeply - but killing them is another matter entirely. They heal surprisingly fast and then they rebound. They’re never the same version of themselves twice. Their emotions are like rocket ship fuel. When their emotions and their desire to produce something combine - they can be powerhouses of work and dedication. They’re not easily intimidated by learning new things. They’re incredibly hard to phase when it comes to sharing intense philosophies or crazy ideas. You can get away with murder. It’s okay - they’ll forgive you. They always surprise me too with the weird random skills they have. Just out of nowhere - and the creativity they bring to those skills. There are very few humans I would suggest are unpredictable at this point in my social intelligence development - but INFPs are one such genre. They just always leave me guessing - and that’s what keeps me coming back. If only I had dated an INFP male. Maybe I would have ended up married 🤷♀️ ~INTP PS: I forgot my favorite part. You can vanish on them for weeks and then come back like nothing happened and they act like they’re just totally okay with that. No other type seems to be like this. I have to have massive anxiety every time I go into ghost mode because most of the people I know are going to voice emotions about that.
INFP.. this touched really close to my heart. I love you ❤️ INTPs are some of my favorite types aswell. I’m going to go think about this for the rest of the day.. thanks lol
I LOVE YOU GIRLLL. Also yes we are totally ok with the ghosting thing cause we do it 2. As long as we know your not mad at us and that you need time away we are totally fine with that!
I was reading this article on resilience and infj and infp were on the top of the list. But they had very different type of resilience, the infj type is more like a Rock, where it takes so much to break them. On the other hand infps are something like a spring where they easily get pushed down under pressure but they come back up again and again and again.
i must be a weird infp then, cos i tend to cut ties with people when they ghost me too hard. and i have recently done that to my intp friend i really liked. its ok that she was busy and didnt always have time, sometimes we didnt speak for a while, but when she would constantly ghost me MID-conversation (we only knew each other online,so we were texting) when i really needed/wanted to talk, I just had enough of it at some point.
I would add that we don´t push our beliefs and philosophies on others and even hesitate to talk about controversial topics and show our true colours in order to avoid conflict and I would add that we value kindness.
Sometimes we do find it '' annoying'' to fit in this society, because we see it as limited and conforming. Do I rather do the dishes or travel to non ordinary realities? The choice is easy. But the more we mature, the more we find the balance, and the more we expand our vision of what is actually possible to create in the physical realm too. So we start to combine both worlds. Its exciting!!!
I know some of them and like them. I think they tend to have a hard life, because of questioning lots of things and being moral. That's what I appreciate very much, therefore I hope they'll survive well. Feel loved INFPs
What do I do for a living?...Daydream. People constantly categorize me as an extrovert (like ENFP-ish), and then they’re offended when I disappear 👻..and then I feel bad for not reappearing soon enough, and I just stay hidden ☁️ inside my own world. 🙃
I'm INTJ and I also struggle with the disappearing for too long and then feeling too awkward to reappear. Not sure if I should apologize for the absence; make an excuse (sry imma iNTroVerT lol!); or just pretend like nothing happened!
@@angelbear_og Aw yes, I get stuck on which route I should take when I’m ready to reappear, so I usually choose the trusty option, keep hidden so I don’t have to make a decision 🙃 lol! Luckily my inner circle understands/accepts this side of me and they don’t make a fuss or fish for an apology, so I’m quite grateful 🙏.
@@angelbear_og I think it depends on the circumstances under which you last interacted with the person. If I know there were several texts & phone calls I never responded to, or I was supposed to call them back but never did, then I will apologize ... briefly. Don't belabor the point and draw too much attention to the negative. Sometimes when I apologize people don't even remember what I'm talking about lol. But I'd use their reaction as a guide: If they say NBD or don't care (and seem genuine), quickly move forward. And if they are upset about your absence (and this person actually means something to you), well, I think you owe them an honest explanation. On the other hand, if there aren't any loose ends like unfulfilled obligations or broken promises looming over you as the elephant in the room, then I see no reason why you shouldn't act as if nothing happened. I have friends I can go years without seeing and I can't possibly imagine guilt tripping them over not talking to me. I mean, come on, we all have lives, and who wants the attention of someone they have to chase after? To me, if someone doesn't want my company, I don't want theirs (and not in a "fine then!" petulant way, lol). Just think of your presence as a gift they should be happy to have bestowed on them whenever you should feel so generous 😅 I don't recommend making excuses. It can make you seem disingenuous, dishonest or placating them, and it can eat you up with guilt later on if you lied or exaggerated. But the worst part is it can give people the wrong idea... that you actually WANT to see them more but there are pesky obstacles in your way... then all of a sudden you find yourself in a situation where they're blowing up your phone or trying to help you remove those obstacles so you can spend allv your time together... 😨 Don't unwittingly encourage undesired behaviors.
@@angelbear_og I'm infp and my bff is intp we are both so grateful we both need to disappear for a while. We never get mad at each other bc we understand the need for escape lol! Perfect dynamic imo, she lets me know when I'm being too naive and I let her know when she's being too cold and together we are both sooo weird and strange. I think both of us were extremely blessed in life to be able to have each other. Our lives have literally been the same, yet we are still different.
"Physical comfort and intellectual variety" - yes, I'd say those are two principles that govern my world. Thanks Nathan, for summing me up so astutely! (~ INFP)
THANK YOU for mentioning our grounded sides! I hate the "manic pixie dreamgirl" stereotype-it's not me *at all.* Also the part about not pushing emotions onto others and disliking it when others push emotions onto us is very accurate. I can't stand it when people make their emotions everybody else's problem. Thank you for your insight!
Yeah, every time someone talks about a supposed INFP who’s being annoying by being upset about everything and crying all the time I’m just thinking that’s not an INFP. Maybe young and immature ones can be like that but usually we quickly learn to tamp that down. I absolutely hate showing my emotions like that. If I cry at all I’ll do it in privacy.
I wanted to fit in, but my internal barometer wouldn't let me. I think us INFPs know very early in our lives that we are a breed apart. In my experience, this has caused a lot of insecurity in my life due to comparing myself to peers who seem able to function better in life.
The INFPs in my life have a hard time being clear in communicating how they feel, so it's sort of necessary to be able to ask the right questions. Is this true for anyone else?
My experience is more of it being a concerned hesitation with being forth coming with their emotions. It always made me feel like they just didn't trust me enough to open up. Like they are really careful with it, and just almost playing emotional poker.
As an Infp, I would definitely appreciate being asked more in-depth questions than the usual “how are you?” Usually when people approach a conversation casually, it makes me feel like they don’t care for the answer. That said, I don’t think it’s always a matter with the questions, but just a matter of whether you’re someone worth trusting. The things you ask will force an infp to get out of their comfort zone, and since a lot grow up to feel misunderstood, they can feel like it’s not worth answering. This doesn’t mean the person is depressed or insecure either. I’m personally in a mentally good place, but still find myself being discerning of people. It’s nothing personal; they usually open up on their own terms.
I can clearly communicate how I feel, but I don't do it with anyone who doesn't feel like family. Ask too many questions and I will just disappear, family or not.
For me it's really easy just not share my feelings. I just don't care anybody to know about them. I have to make a conscious choice and turn a switch in my brain to start explaining my feelings and thoughts out loud. For example, if you ask me "how are you?" I just say "I'm fine" If you continue "no but really, how are you, how do you feel?" I can sigh and be like "ok lets see..." and start explaining. And it's important for me that I can convey all nuances and that they hit home.
Alice in wonderland is about a mathematicians daydream, I would hazard that this idea is subjective but the kind that everyone experiences when they search for the thing they want the most, knowing it lies in a cave they dread
Is it filled with compassion and a strong desire for self development?-yes Does it feel emotions more strongly than other people?-yes Does it daydream a lot?-yes Does it have anxiety and depression?-yes Does it have daily 2 hour sessions of 'why am I like this'?- yes Does it create a fake lover and go on dates inside their head when they listen to a love song?-yes Does it think other hoomans are mostly fake and shallow?-yes Does it worry about other people more than they worry themselves?-yes Is it incapable of being angry and cope by being passive aggressive instead?-yes Does it stay inside all day and believe commenting on youtube is socializing?-yes
False. INFPs can be angry. And when they are, really are I mean, they're like a calm supernova. But people are always with their "cute filter" regarding INFPs, so they don't take an INFP's anger seriously at first. Then, they're just dead so...
I'm an INFP, and I express a lot of emotion; Way too much emotion! I'm like a little kid! I just want to be kind and make other people feel happy. Acting robotic and emotionless seems rude to me.
My ENFP friend is extremely emotionally expressive, and gets mad at an INFP friend for not being as emotionally upfront. He feels like the INFP is hiding themselves, like they are being dishonest by not expressing it. Like it's rude.
I am like you too! Like when somebody is talking about pain i can’t sit and make them laugh? I sit and cry with them,share their pain. That is more like me thing. Probably INFP thing cuz we want no one to feel alone or awkward or i don’t want them to see me as a unkind person..
I mean, I'm expressive, yes... but if I feel something DEEPLY, I'm going to keep it to myself and maybe drop a few hints in the hope s someone will notice, and then probably deny it once if they DO ask just to test if they really care. But I get uncomfortable in certain emotional confrontations like when people overshare. Like if a speaker gets up on stage and starts talking about something personal, fully knowing he's going to get really emotional about it... it can often feel like he's exploiting his own personal emotions to manipulate mine. And because emotions can be very powerful to me, I guard against it a LOT. In the same way, when I was a kid, I would not be easily bribed if I felt something went against my natural instinct. You couldn't bribe me or guilt trip me... you have to persuade me and make me WANT to do something.
@@ohifonlyx33 This description of your experience sounds exactly like what I felt was going on with my INFP friend, but didn't express overtly. More accurately described then I could ever put into words. Probably especially because I'm not INFP, and couldn't relate.
0:55 “their natural balance is physical comfort and intellectual variety” Guys I am watching this while being cozy in my bed, and after just having watched videos about flowers, physics, acting, and psychology
As an INTP, one of my proudest social achievements will always be 'forcing' my INFP friend to stick around after high school and ditch their emotionally unstable friendship I just sit in my room most the time, but I'd be DAMNED if my new little sibling had drifted off by themselves
Whoa hey now WAIT. Who gave you this superpower? You've just summed me up WAY too clearly in ways most people don't get. ✔ Value-based framework, inner moral compass ✔ Eccentric and individualistic ✔ Bad at functioning in the practical systems, despite needing structure ✔ A dreamer, but grounded by a desire for security ✔ Feels strongly and deeply; therefore, actually very guarded ✔ Uncomfortable when people show too much open emotion (it feels manipulative) ✔ Out of place in physical reality ✔ Must fight against inertia to get anything done
Wanderers, ponderers, day dreamers. Hello me, as I sit here with a drink in hand relishing in the fact I should travel back to the northwest where I've called home for 30 years.
@@proin111 INFP's are known as empathetic being which can make them a 2. Some also (including myself) wants attention/love from others so that can be 2w3? I'm a 4w5 tho so I can't really tell but that's how I think INFP's can be 2w3 😊
@crazywarlord777 As an INFP 4w5 myself, I think it makes me a creative, hopeless romantic, emotionally invested person but also very introverted/private at the same time? tbh I don't even know how to describe myself but I hope this helped out somehow? 😅
I watched the 2 minutes videos about other personalities, I obviously only relate to and understand this one, it's very accurate, I wish I can switch the functions so I can be other types, they just seem like other dimensions but they're just humans
What an accurate video!!! Thank you! My enfp boyfriend asked me once "do you dream at night?" I answered no and he replied "I know why, you daydream too much". Yes I am INFP.
I need to get over my INFP "Crush/Love" or whatever she is. This is bad. I'm obsessing over her. Fml. Why. Am. I. Watching. This??? Im INTP though some argue that im not introverted enough. But cognitive functions say I'm a mix. Idk i once got ISTP, plenty of times INTP, once INFP a couple of times ENTP and recently ENFP and INTJ And ENTJ That can't be right. I'm INTP. With facets. I improved. I learned to respect feelers and to keep a schedule and not be unorganised. I can handle money and i pay my bills immediately. My room is tidy, my mind is chaotic. I work a lot. I go to a party from time to time. I am able to well recognise that i have feelings. Expression is meh but i don't deny them any more. My point is: I'm an INTP obsessing over this INFP girl and i need to stop. Immediately. I have finals that i have yet to fail. Y'all INFPs are f ing irresistible...damn me I became soft. Where is the undo button??
As an INFP, it's somewhat nice to know that other types go through this too. Not that i like seeing anyone in pain, but it's almost like it adds a certain element of humanity to my personality to make me feel a little less alien 🖖 One thing is for sure- you can't force an INFP to do something they don't feel is right for them, or occasionally maybe you can, but the results are going to be disastrous. Assuming she know how you feel, your best bet is likely to try to move on and either work on yourself (the best option) or at least try to remind yourself that there are legitimately, literally billions of figurative fish in the equally figurative sea and work towards meeting someone else. If it's not reciprocated, it probably would also be best to minimize time around this person as much as possible as well, for a better chance of moving forward. If she does NOT know how you feel, it's possible you should have an open and honest discussion about it- there's a fair chance she's too much in her own world to even realize it and equally likely that she sees something there, but is unsure and unwilling to make the first move. Rejection is always a possibility in this case, and it's Definitely painful, but near as painful as pining over someone with whom there is no chance of being with for an extended period of time because you're too afraid to speak up and find out. Like for instance, someone having a ridiculously large crush on someone of the opposite gender for like 3 years only to be able to finally work enough of something casually into a conversation to find out that not only is the person in a committed very long-term relationship, but also gay. (True story! Lol)
@@jesthebob naaw thank you very much for your kind words and that you actually took the time to write this comment. For me, i know she's bi and I'm gay so that wouldn't be a problem and i did indeed had a crush on her for a good year or so(?) And as stereotypical it may sound i didn't make a move until last month. We're very close friends and she rejected me. Idk i can't force her into something. i know she likes me. Platonically. Thats it unfortunately. Sometimes i do struggle if im not good enough or " worthy " but i try to not blame it on me, meaning that she doesn't like me because i suck but because she just doesn't like me for no specific reason. From my experience INFP are not superficial. She doesn't mind me being broke ( I'm a student). Quite the opposite she "helps" (mocks) me with money by reminding me of how much money i can spend. I am a kind person evn tho i hide it. Im the type of guy who will go after you as brutally honest as it gets but when we are alone i will show my soft side. Im dressed completely black but show me a cat or a dog or any animal and ill behave like a happy child on Christmas eve. She knows my soft side. And i hate it. She teases me alot b of it. I pretend to be tough and at the end we cry together. we also share the same humor, can laught together for hours, i am intelligent and creative. We make great art together. Well she draws i come up with the idea. and i hadn't had a traumatic relationship that i need to recover from. I do struggle with emotions and mental health tho but i don't think any of this is the reason. I don't fall often. 3 times in my life so far. But when i do, oh boi call 911 bc its gonna be a heavy fall. Squashed. Anyway this isn't really interesting for somebody else to read tho so ... thanks again for your kind words and enjoy the day.
@@user-tk2ql5mm8z Hello, I'm just another INFP stranger and I just have to say that I found your story both cute (cuz tough to softie-peeps are my kryptonite) and sad, and I am sorry that she didn't see you as you see her. As said before you can try to minimise your time together and see if that works out at all, but then again I know myself I can spiral into future visions and made-up conversations being alone as well... I hope it isn't too painful for you, stranger, and I hope you find another gem in the future whom sparkles only for you. (Yes, all the cheese)
my question is: why do infp tend to disappear? why does it seem like they need no one? and ultimately, might there be cases in which you're mostly disconnected from emotions and can't really feel anything? you truly are fascinating to me, also partly because I do not get you, but you're all cute
The disappearing thing, atleast for me comes down to a strong need for reflection, like almost when you lose touch with who you are or what you want in life. These two things are especially important and oftentimes its easy to drift away from that when being overwhelmed by the presence of certain other people and situations that are stressful. I dont think in my life ive ever been disconnected from my emotions but rather confused by them, where im depressed for no reason. I would say as an infp a lot of life just comes down to learning emotions and people and in my mind once ive done that to the best i can i will be a better person externally :)
I detach myself and wander into my own worlds for a lot of reasons. It can be to vent to people who aren't actually there, for pure amusement and enjoyment as if I'm watching a TV show or movie, sometimes to reflect on feelings and thoughts I've faced recently. I see it for myself as both a coping mechanism and a form of meditation. I never detach myself from reality whilst other people are around, at least not anymore (maybe as a kid playing games) because the events that unfold in our worlds are incredibly personal. At least for me, the world I enter is almost always a reflection of a happening in my life. When I lose my privacy, I lose my ability to wander through my worlds and really sort out my feelings and thoughts, which can be incredibly overwhelming. Sometimes, we just disappear because we need a break from people. Too much overexposure to even someone we feel inseperable from can feel tiring after a while. There are also people who are just flat out uninteresting or uncomfortable to be around lolol. Truth is, at least for me, people are an absolutely vital part of life. Close friends and family are my lifeblood and it's pretty bad when we lose connection with someone. I prefer to appear to everyone as joyful, fufilled and full of energy but sometimes I am the complete opposite. I put on a facade not because I don't want to bring everyone's mood down but because I don't want to fully realise the gravity of my situation because once it's out there, it becomes really real. I don't know if this is true for most INFPs but personally, if I ever opened up to someone wholly and completely and on my own terms, it usually means I'm desperate for help or validation. The person I go to also has to be someone I completely and wholly trust and respect. And to your last question, there are definitely times where I am trying to feel something but literally can't. Moments where I just completely spiral and become void of emotion. In these moments, I can't detach and I definitely won't reach out and instead will likely just go to bed and sleep, no matter what time of the day it is.
@@slipskolt7300 I really relate to what you said about venting to people in my head (not always actual people that I know, sometimes ones I've created) as a coping mechanism because they are often more gentle on me and validate me more than people in the outside world. I also relate to the part where, when I express what's going on with me inside into the external world, it becomes real and that's often scary for me. -INFP
For me, I try to at least make it seem like I need to no one (or feel the need to make it seem like I need no one) because a lot of the people in my life are always telling me how to live it. And that's very infuriating. -INFP
As an INFP, this is so spot on! I am just astonish how you can describe people's personality types better than themselves. Can you please make videos about type's compatibility with other types as friends, in family, work and relationships? I think it would be so interesting!
The closer your cognitive functions are the more compatible you are as friends, for example I know an INFP and their closest friends are all other INFPs, some variety is good but a lot of types clash especially over time when the relationship gets deeper. I'm not saying it can't happen, but INFPs need different types to be very mature in order to tolerate them.
@@spring7643 I totally agree! One of my bestfriends is an INFP. And I get along really well and harmonious with ENFPs and INTPs. But I also get along with other types like ESFJs, ISFJs, ESFPs, ENFJs and surprisingly also with ESTPs and ESTJs (my hubby being an ESTJ) but I’d say it’s very challenging to get along with them. It’s either hate or love relationship though. I also find it challenging being with ENTJs and I am kinda amused by ENTPs.
Great video as always. I’ve been feeling particularly lost lately, and am taking some time to reconcile that. It’s so complicated and heavy. Yet everyone around me is so oblivious to the inner turmoil. And at the same time, I like being quirky and complicated. 🤔
THANK YOU so much for rescuing my sanity! My best friend of ten years just told me he felt like I'm not open with him, but I feel like I tell him everything! It was really messing with me, but you explained the inexplicable.
Actually, I've been meaning to ask: Do you think you'll ever do an INFP analysis on Scarlet Witch? After watching Wandavision I felt as if I completely resonated with everything happening and I think she's a pretty good example of what it's like to be an INFP. Like if I had the ability to warp reality on that level, I'm pretty sure I'd have done the exact some thing as her lol, but I'm interested to see your thoughts!
I would say this all fits me really well. I've learned to overcome the daydreaming, realizing that it doesn't necessarily serve me unless I'm plotting a book or as a means of relaxing.
@@danann2700 Basically, I pretend to be Sherlock Holmes. It helps if you can get your imagination on board with the real world. So (secretly) play a character to whom it's important to be present. I do my best to pay attention to things around me as well as the image I'm currently projecting. I started to dislike being absent minded when I was a teen and just put forth conscious effort to be more and more self aware. I don't know if there's a simple solution, except repeated effort which will build habit. Of course, this is more when I'm around people. We INFPs need ample alone time to let our creative minds wander.
I have not found really anyone who could explain my behavior or the reasons for it, and i am not really trying to be mysterious or anything. Maybe even the opposite, i will give people every bit of information they need to make conclusions of me but they still get it wrong, every time. You really can explain my behavior and im still trying to get my head around it. It sure feels nice that someone understands. Thank you.
I always agree with everything you say about INFPs, like I am. The only thing I never really fitted in is that I don't keep my emotions for myself. I express them openly.
"Intellectual variety". Yes. Be in only one thing, concept or topic it is too boring. Exploration of world and its endless possibilities is what keeps me alive.
Love this so much. I want my daily needs to simply be taken care of so that I can freely let my mind wander on intellectual topics. Trying to find a career path that is meaningful, yet also pays decently and is not intrusive if my life is INCREDIBLY difficult. Plus, our dislike of institutions brings out our cynicism which is very difficult when you have to become a sycophant to become inducted into the institution/career you are trying to join. I'm in grad school as a bit of a career change/correction to hopefully become a psychologist -- a career I believe will be more meaningful to me than what I went to undergrad for. But I'm also slowly realizing that despite the higher credential, more often then not a psychologist is paid more mostly because of having a wider scope of responsibilities. I think I will enjoy and find meaning in the profession, but it wouldn't surprise me either if I were to be a very laid back psychologist who would rather work a little less, even if it means a pay cut -- have a work-life balance where I can keep my career in check from limiting my personal life too much. But, as it stands, first year in my master's program, and I'm feeling a little overwhelmed at times with the expectations (i.e. -- applying to practica for next year right now and being de-prioritized because of lack of experience, trying to get research experience to be competitive for PhD applications next fall, etc.).
I was just trying to describe myself the other day and... it... never got an answer. Thanks for doing this video for infp.. 💙 keep daydreaming my fellow infp :)
I met an INFP today. I showed interest in what she does and even came up with ideas about her field of interest which she liked. She agreed for an evening with wine, and tomorrow we are also going to paint together. But the problem is...I am an ISTP lmao. No compatibility at all. Lets see how it goes :D
enfp here but... describing emotions like no others, intense/deep feelings, daydreamers and the best of all sentence “alice’s in their own personal wonderlands”! yeah it kinda defines me
I wonder if people think "theres a wild INFP there " when they see me, my friend that got me into the mbti assumed because of my shyness and artistic hobbies and eccentric appearance, in school you could find me alone in the cafeteria drawing or just sitting in the grass under a tree looking around
Yo, man, could you do a "Genius of the ENFJ"? Cause I really like your videos, and I would like to see my type represented on them - it may be because you don't personally know one, but I think it'd still be pretty good if you gave it a shot
“Seemingly unconcerned with ‘what is’ …because they know that ‘what is now’, was once imagined.” 🤯 see you in a week once I integrate the mic drop. - INFP
That was great! The only thing I didn’t like was the mention of a link in the description below which I don’t get. Is it a laptop thing? I just have my ipad. Maybe typing this will help me to think.I may watch this again.
Yay, embracing the hyper short format. This will take you places. Anyway, maybe condense a little less info next time. Very hard to folllow (while writing this at least) ;-)
How to spot an INFP:
You don't, we're always inside our rooms.
True :(
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That’s true, and I love it!!
I mean. That just means you’re logical in the placement of your human body. Why leave your room if you have basically everything you need in there and humans tend to be the most dangerous thing on the planet? Should we leave our rooms just because not doing so makes others think weirdly about it?
I don’t think so. If you don’t have a reason to leave your room - probably don’t do so.
~INTP
@@AK-jt7kh yeah...seeing that the reality is often disappointing compared to the ideal image we have in our head is...daunting. 😞
So much of an INFP is internal. So very much of what makes me me isn’t and won’t ever be seen. Spotting us isn’t easy.
Big facts
Completely agree with the notion that 90% of me is hidden to the outside world. Which is possibly why I enjoy my own company and consider myself my best friend.
Edit: that’s not to say I don’t have real friends. Of course I do, but they don’t understand me to the level I understand myself or even to the level I understand them.
but the people that have an insight on the internal parts of us should consider themselves lucky :)
I know more INFPs than any other type, so I am pretty good at spotting them
I completely agree.
We INFP don't even know how to describe ourselves!
Facts my infp homie tried to explain himself to me and another friend for like 30 mins and we just had to stop him
@@daq_w lol
I can try but it would just be a caricature of myself.
Not necessarily true. I know myself inside and out and can describe everything. However, I'm not usually comfortable talking about myself like that, and I feel that actually getting to know me or reading my writing is a better way to understand me (or anyone) as an individual than providing a broad summary that could potentially apply to a lot of people.
True.
"... Because what is now was once imagined." that was brilliant...
Thisx1000. Salient and poetic.
Whew
lol
💯
It was perfectly stated
“...their natural balance is typically physical comfort and intellectual variety.”
ENFP here. INFPs are pretty great. I welcome my introverted brethren with open arms in a hug that's probably bigger than necessary.
"A hug bigger than necessary"... how to spot an ENFP in 2 seconds. 😂
Heck yes! [You have acquired 1xINFP in your gigantic hug]
hellooo a really warm hug back thank you dear 💓💓
Im an INFP and i have an ENFP friend and he is literally exactly like this
☺️☺️☺️ I love all my friends so much for dealing with me when I disappear and always being there when I pop back up.
We INFPs often get emotionally adopted, I've noticed.
Like a stray cat someone decides to lure into a forever home, no matter how mangy and weird that cat [thinks it] is.
I've yet to fully comprehend the reasoning behind this behavior, but I got married SOMEhow, which is nice.
Good for you,
I have a similar thing where I am on good terms with tons of people but have no clue why them, my closer friends, mentors, and family seem to like me
My 17-yr-old son is an INFP. He goes out with his friends, and despite conventional wisdom about how dumb groups of boys can be, I feel confident that if a bad idea came up, he wouldn't participate. He's got his compass, and no amount of peer pressure is going to persuade him. It's my ESFP 13-yr-old I'm worried about. 😂
From my own experience as a 25-years-old INFP guy, that sounds about right.
The only times I've seen something really dumb brewing up, I took a step back and just watched whatever was about to happen while making some effort to de-escalate but mostly just being curious as to how badly it was going to flop.
And from what I've gathered from the Internet, it seems to be a pretty common INFP characteristic to be the wise but detached friend that is going to stay out of trouble (mostly) and council you if you're willing to listen but that will definitely let you fail to learn whatever lesson can be learned from it.
TL;DR: I wouldn't see a typical "observer" type get in much trouble to be honest.
@@Akranejames As a 33-years-old INFP, in my teens and even now, my friends will left me out whenever they are going to attempt some really stupid things.
The same can be said about INFP girls. I was an observer of dumb behaviors rather than participant.
@@angelagoodwin5758 Yep, same here. Even as a teenager and college student, I was not one to get in major trouble. Being around that kind of behavior even to this day is unsettling and one of the reasons I don’t like to go to bars and clubs, for example.
@@angelagoodwin5758 SAME LMAO
Every INFP I've met is pretty damn cute not even going to lie
For the most part I agree with this
@@spring7643 every INFP I've met I have had a romantic interest in varying degrees
May I ask what type you are?^^
@@forevah007 I'm an entj
wait till you meet me
I love the INFPs. They are so enigmatic and positive. They think on their feet and have deep philosophies - but they’re so humble. Undyingly loyal. So very true to themselves. Always trying. I think there’s this idea that INFPs are lazy...and yeah I think that’s probably true a lot of the times - but they’re always reinventing the wheel. They’re always getting back up again and taking a crack at life in a new and different way - trying to improve themselves and their understanding of the world. It makes them incredibly resilient. They can get cut easily and deeply - but killing them is another matter entirely. They heal surprisingly fast and then they rebound. They’re never the same version of themselves twice. Their emotions are like rocket ship fuel. When their emotions and their desire to produce something combine - they can be powerhouses of work and dedication. They’re not easily intimidated by learning new things. They’re incredibly hard to phase when it comes to sharing intense philosophies or crazy ideas. You can get away with murder. It’s okay - they’ll forgive you. They always surprise me too with the weird random skills they have. Just out of nowhere - and the creativity they bring to those skills. There are very few humans I would suggest are unpredictable at this point in my social intelligence development - but INFPs are one such genre. They just always leave me guessing - and that’s what keeps me coming back. If only I had dated an INFP male. Maybe I would have ended up married 🤷♀️
~INTP
PS: I forgot my favorite part. You can vanish on them for weeks and then come back like nothing happened and they act like they’re just totally okay with that. No other type seems to be like this. I have to have massive anxiety every time I go into ghost mode because most of the people I know are going to voice emotions about that.
INFP.. this touched really close to my heart. I love you ❤️ INTPs are some of my favorite types aswell. I’m going to go think about this for the rest of the day.. thanks lol
I LOVE YOU GIRLLL. Also yes we are totally ok with the ghosting thing cause we do it 2. As long as we know your not mad at us and that you need time away we are totally fine with that!
I was reading this article on resilience and infj and infp were on the top of the list. But they had very different type of resilience, the infj type is more like a Rock, where it takes so much to break them. On the other hand infps are something like a spring where they easily get pushed down under pressure but they come back up again and again and again.
INTP are also so methodical and meticulous in explaining complex topics like this one. Thanks for you intelligences and conciseness
i must be a weird infp then, cos i tend to cut ties with people when they ghost me too hard. and i have recently done that to my intp friend i really liked. its ok that she was busy and didnt always have time, sometimes we didnt speak for a while, but when she would constantly ghost me MID-conversation (we only knew each other online,so we were texting) when i really needed/wanted to talk, I just had enough of it at some point.
I would add that we don´t push our beliefs and philosophies on others and even hesitate to talk about controversial topics and show our true colours in order to avoid conflict and I would add that we value kindness.
Sometimes we do find it '' annoying'' to fit in this society, because we see it as limited and conforming.
Do I rather do the dishes or travel to non ordinary realities?
The choice is easy.
But the more we mature, the more we find the balance, and the more we expand our vision of what is actually possible to create in the physical realm too. So we start to combine both worlds. Its exciting!!!
Damn now I'm excited. What's up with people in the comment section giving me so much hope and determination? Stop that!
I know some of them and like them. I think they tend to have a hard life, because of questioning lots of things and being moral. That's what I appreciate very much, therefore I hope they'll survive well. Feel loved INFPs
Thank you. I needed to hear that.
You too! Ty
thank you
THANKS :D
:)
What do I do for a living?...Daydream.
People constantly categorize me as an extrovert (like ENFP-ish), and then they’re offended when I disappear 👻..and then I feel bad for not reappearing soon enough, and I just stay hidden ☁️ inside my own world. 🙃
I'm INTJ and I also struggle with the disappearing for too long and then feeling too awkward to reappear. Not sure if I should apologize for the absence; make an excuse (sry imma iNTroVerT lol!); or just pretend like nothing happened!
@@angelbear_og Aw yes, I get stuck on which route I should take when I’m ready to reappear, so I usually choose the trusty option, keep hidden so I don’t have to make a decision 🙃 lol! Luckily my inner circle understands/accepts this side of me and they don’t make a fuss or fish for an apology, so I’m quite grateful 🙏.
@@elizabee Nice. My inner circle is ... basically a point.
@@angelbear_og I think it depends on the circumstances under which you last interacted with the person. If I know there were several texts & phone calls I never responded to, or I was supposed to call them back but never did, then I will apologize ... briefly. Don't belabor the point and draw too much attention to the negative. Sometimes when I apologize people don't even remember what I'm talking about lol. But I'd use their reaction as a guide: If they say NBD or don't care (and seem genuine), quickly move forward. And if they are upset about your absence (and this person actually means something to you), well, I think you owe them an honest explanation.
On the other hand, if there aren't any loose ends like unfulfilled obligations or broken promises looming over you as the elephant in the room, then I see no reason why you shouldn't act as if nothing happened. I have friends I can go years without seeing and I can't possibly imagine guilt tripping them over not talking to me. I mean, come on, we all have lives, and who wants the attention of someone they have to chase after? To me, if someone doesn't want my company, I don't want theirs (and not in a "fine then!" petulant way, lol). Just think of your presence as a gift they should be happy to have bestowed on them whenever you should feel so generous 😅
I don't recommend making excuses. It can make you seem disingenuous, dishonest or placating them, and it can eat you up with guilt later on if you lied or exaggerated. But the worst part is it can give people the wrong idea... that you actually WANT to see them more but there are pesky obstacles in your way... then all of a sudden you find yourself in a situation where they're blowing up your phone or trying to help you remove those obstacles so you can spend allv your time together... 😨 Don't unwittingly encourage undesired behaviors.
@@angelbear_og I'm infp and my bff is intp we are both so grateful we both need to disappear for a while. We never get mad at each other bc we understand the need for escape lol! Perfect dynamic imo, she lets me know when I'm being too naive and I let her know when she's being too cold and together we are both sooo weird and strange. I think both of us were extremely blessed in life to be able to have each other. Our lives have literally been the same, yet we are still different.
"Physical comfort and intellectual variety" - yes, I'd say those are two principles that govern my world. Thanks Nathan, for summing me up so astutely!
(~ INFP)
I love the quote “What is, was once imagined.” Nathan is a genius with words!
THANK YOU for mentioning our grounded sides! I hate the "manic pixie dreamgirl" stereotype-it's not me *at all.* Also the part about not pushing emotions onto others and disliking it when others push emotions onto us is very accurate. I can't stand it when people make their emotions everybody else's problem. Thank you for your insight!
Yeah, every time someone talks about a supposed INFP who’s being annoying by being upset about everything and crying all the time I’m just thinking that’s not an INFP. Maybe young and immature ones can be like that but usually we quickly learn to tamp that down. I absolutely hate showing my emotions like that. If I cry at all I’ll do it in privacy.
I always thought the “manic pixie dreamgirl” stereotype belonged to the ENFPs...
A video on my type? On my birthday what a special treat.
Happy birthday!
happy birthday!!!
Thanks, everyone.
Lá breithe sona duit!
@@angelbear_og Cool that u know Irish Gaelic.
I wanted to fit in, but my internal barometer wouldn't let me. I think us INFPs know very early in our lives that we are a breed apart. In my experience, this has caused a lot of insecurity in my life due to comparing myself to peers who seem able to function better in life.
I’m so lost in my own world that it impacts my relationships.
I'm so happy in my own world, I barely need relationships.
The INFPs in my life have a hard time being clear in communicating how they feel, so it's sort of necessary to be able to ask the right questions. Is this true for anyone else?
My experience is more of it being a concerned hesitation with being forth coming with their emotions. It always made me feel like they just didn't trust me enough to open up. Like they are really careful with it, and just almost playing emotional poker.
As an Infp, I would definitely appreciate being asked more in-depth questions than the usual “how are you?” Usually when people approach a conversation casually, it makes me feel like they don’t care for the answer. That said, I don’t think it’s always a matter with the questions, but just a matter of whether you’re someone worth trusting. The things you ask will force an infp to get out of their comfort zone, and since a lot grow up to feel misunderstood, they can feel like it’s not worth answering. This doesn’t mean the person is depressed or insecure either. I’m personally in a mentally good place, but still find myself being discerning of people. It’s nothing personal; they usually open up on their own terms.
I can clearly communicate how I feel, but I don't do it with anyone who doesn't feel like family. Ask too many questions and I will just disappear, family or not.
For me it's really easy just not share my feelings. I just don't care anybody to know about them. I have to make a conscious choice and turn a switch in my brain to start explaining my feelings and thoughts out loud. For example, if you ask me "how are you?" I just say "I'm fine" If you continue "no but really, how are you, how do you feel?" I can sigh and be like "ok lets see..." and start explaining. And it's important for me that I can convey all nuances and that they hit home.
@@Gio-sx7kt Emotional poker, love that analogy
Alice in wonderland is about a mathematicians daydream, I would hazard that this idea is subjective but the kind that everyone experiences when they search for the thing they want the most, knowing it lies in a cave they dread
My dream is to have an Infp girlfriend 😭 We'd isolate ourselves in a cottage and have adventures id be so fun lol (im INTP)
Sounds fun!
Oh, I'm INTP with INFP wife. Ask me anything, I guess.
I INFJ thought this was a good idea for a few years, now I'm thinking I should've found an INTP to try this with.
@@tomasbrousek2244 you won
@@Gio-sx7kt it’s actually a good match lol
Is it filled with compassion and a strong desire for self development?-yes
Does it feel emotions more strongly than other people?-yes
Does it daydream a lot?-yes
Does it have anxiety and depression?-yes
Does it have daily 2 hour sessions of 'why am I like this'?- yes
Does it create a fake lover and go on dates inside their head when they listen to a love song?-yes
Does it think other hoomans are mostly fake and shallow?-yes
Does it worry about other people more than they worry themselves?-yes
Is it incapable of being angry and cope by being passive aggressive instead?-yes
Does it stay inside all day and believe commenting on youtube is socializing?-yes
False. INFPs can be angry. And when they are, really are I mean, they're like a calm supernova. But people are always with their "cute filter" regarding INFPs, so they don't take an INFP's anger seriously at first. Then, they're just dead so...
@@Heliorhodonite totally true
WAIT
Commenting on CZcams isn't socialising?
I'm an INFP, and I express a lot of emotion; Way too much emotion! I'm like a little kid! I just want to be kind and make other people feel happy. Acting robotic and emotionless seems rude to me.
ENFP maybe?
My ENFP friend is extremely emotionally expressive, and gets mad at an INFP friend for not being as emotionally upfront. He feels like the INFP is hiding themselves, like they are being dishonest by not expressing it. Like it's rude.
I am like you too! Like when somebody is talking about pain i can’t sit and make them laugh? I sit and cry with them,share their pain. That is more like me thing. Probably INFP thing cuz we want no one to feel alone or awkward or i don’t want them to see me as a unkind person..
I mean, I'm expressive, yes... but if I feel something DEEPLY, I'm going to keep it to myself and maybe drop a few hints in the hope s someone will notice, and then probably deny it once if they DO ask just to test if they really care. But I get uncomfortable in certain emotional confrontations like when people overshare. Like if a speaker gets up on stage and starts talking about something personal, fully knowing he's going to get really emotional about it... it can often feel like he's exploiting his own personal emotions to manipulate mine. And because emotions can be very powerful to me, I guard against it a LOT. In the same way, when I was a kid, I would not be easily bribed if I felt something went against my natural instinct. You couldn't bribe me or guilt trip me... you have to persuade me and make me WANT to do something.
@@ohifonlyx33 This description of your experience sounds exactly like what I felt was going on with my INFP friend, but didn't express overtly. More accurately described then I could ever put into words. Probably especially because I'm not INFP, and couldn't relate.
seemingly unconcerned with what is, because what is, now, was once imagined, kskjsdghg
0:55 “their natural balance is physical comfort and intellectual variety”
Guys I am watching this while being cozy in my bed, and after just having watched videos about flowers, physics, acting, and psychology
As an INTP, one of my proudest social achievements will always be 'forcing' my INFP friend to stick around after high school and ditch their emotionally unstable friendship
I just sit in my room most the time, but I'd be DAMNED if my new little sibling had drifted off by themselves
To be clear, they were very willing, the use of forced was only to emphasize the gravity of the situation
You got them out of a toxic friendship? Good job!
@@Heliorhodonite I think infps empathy and openness and take it as it comes approach to life is like a target to narcissistic users
Whoa hey now WAIT. Who gave you this superpower? You've just summed me up WAY too clearly in ways most people don't get.
✔ Value-based framework, inner moral compass
✔ Eccentric and individualistic
✔ Bad at functioning in the practical systems, despite needing structure
✔ A dreamer, but grounded by a desire for security
✔ Feels strongly and deeply; therefore, actually very guarded
✔ Uncomfortable when people show too much open emotion (it feels manipulative)
✔ Out of place in physical reality
✔ Must fight against inertia to get anything done
Wanderers, ponderers, day dreamers. Hello me, as I sit here with a drink in hand relishing in the fact I should travel back to the northwest where I've called home for 30 years.
I'm an INFP 4w5, but I sometimes find it hard to describe my emotions.
:0 I’m an INFP but Im 2w3
@@jams1e706 How is a 2w3 infp? I always imagined 2w3 as an esfj or enfj
Btw im 9w1 infp
same!!
@@proin111 INFP's are known as empathetic being which can make them a 2. Some also (including myself) wants attention/love from others so that can be 2w3? I'm a 4w5 tho so I can't really tell but that's how I think INFP's can be 2w3 😊
@crazywarlord777 As an INFP 4w5 myself, I think it makes me a creative, hopeless romantic, emotionally invested person but also very introverted/private at the same time? tbh I don't even know how to describe myself but I hope this helped out somehow? 😅
I watched the 2 minutes videos about other personalities, I obviously only relate to and understand this one, it's very accurate, I wish I can switch the functions so I can be other types, they just seem like other dimensions but they're just humans
Studying the cognitive functions really helped me demystify other types, now they make sense
What an accurate video!!! Thank you! My enfp boyfriend asked me once "do you dream at night?" I answered no and he replied "I know why, you daydream too much". Yes I am INFP.
I feel like you just described the quirky heroine that I read about in some YA dystopian novel back in middle school
I'll take it as a compliment
@@alexandra9944 😂😂😂
@venska u remember the name??
I need to get over my INFP "Crush/Love" or whatever she is.
This is bad. I'm obsessing over her. Fml. Why. Am. I. Watching. This??? Im INTP though some argue that im not introverted enough.
But cognitive functions say I'm a mix. Idk i once got ISTP, plenty of times INTP, once INFP a couple of times ENTP and recently ENFP and INTJ And ENTJ That can't be right.
I'm INTP. With facets. I improved. I learned to respect feelers and to keep a schedule and not be unorganised. I can handle money and i pay my bills immediately. My room is tidy, my mind is chaotic. I work a lot. I go to a party from time to time. I am able to well recognise that i have feelings. Expression is meh but i don't deny them any more.
My point is: I'm an INTP obsessing over this INFP girl and i need to stop. Immediately. I have finals that i have yet to fail. Y'all INFPs are f ing irresistible...damn me
I became soft. Where is the undo button??
First step is to not watch this video then again,you proly already did.Good luck anyways!
As an INFP, it's somewhat nice to know that other types go through this too. Not that i like seeing anyone in pain, but it's almost like it adds a certain element of humanity to my personality to make me feel a little less alien 🖖
One thing is for sure- you can't force an INFP to do something they don't feel is right for them, or occasionally maybe you can, but the results are going to be disastrous.
Assuming she know how you feel, your best bet is likely to try to move on and either work on yourself (the best option) or at least try to remind yourself that there are legitimately, literally billions of figurative fish in the equally figurative sea and work towards meeting someone else.
If it's not reciprocated, it probably would also be best to minimize time around this person as much as possible as well, for a better chance of moving forward.
If she does NOT know how you feel, it's possible you should have an open and honest discussion about it- there's a fair chance she's too much in her own world to even realize it and equally likely that she sees something there, but is unsure and unwilling to make the first move.
Rejection is always a possibility in this case, and it's Definitely painful, but near as painful as pining over someone with whom there is no chance of being with for an extended period of time because you're too afraid to speak up and find out.
Like for instance, someone having a ridiculously large crush on someone of the opposite gender for like 3 years only to be able to finally work enough of something casually into a conversation to find out that not only is the person in a committed very long-term relationship, but also gay. (True story! Lol)
@@notanartist9908 unfortunately i did watch it but i didn't pay that much attention bc i was caught up in fake scenarios ^^
@@jesthebob naaw thank you very much for your kind words and that you actually took the time to write this comment.
For me, i know she's bi and I'm gay so that wouldn't be a problem and i did indeed had a crush on her for a good year or so(?) And as stereotypical it may sound i didn't make a move until last month.
We're very close friends and she rejected me.
Idk i can't force her into something. i know she likes me. Platonically. Thats it unfortunately. Sometimes i do struggle if im not good enough or " worthy " but i try to not blame it on me, meaning that she doesn't like me because i suck but because she just doesn't like me for no specific reason.
From my experience INFP are not superficial. She doesn't mind me being broke ( I'm a student). Quite the opposite she "helps" (mocks) me with money by reminding me of how much money i can spend.
I am a kind person evn tho i hide it.
Im the type of guy who will go after you as brutally honest as it gets but when we are alone i will show my soft side.
Im dressed completely black but show me a cat or a dog or any animal and ill behave like a happy child on Christmas eve. She knows my soft side. And i hate it. She teases me alot b of it. I pretend to be tough and at the end we cry together.
we also share the same humor, can laught together for hours, i am intelligent and creative. We make great art together. Well she draws i come up with the idea.
and i hadn't had a traumatic relationship that i need to recover from.
I do struggle with emotions and mental health tho but i don't think any of this is the reason.
I don't fall often. 3 times in my life so far. But when i do, oh boi call 911 bc its gonna be a heavy fall. Squashed.
Anyway this isn't really interesting for somebody else to read tho so ... thanks again for your kind words and enjoy the day.
@@user-tk2ql5mm8z Hello, I'm just another INFP stranger and I just have to say that I found your story both cute (cuz tough to softie-peeps are my kryptonite) and sad, and I am sorry that she didn't see you as you see her. As said before you can try to minimise your time together and see if that works out at all, but then again I know myself I can spiral into future visions and made-up conversations being alone as well... I hope it isn't too painful for you, stranger, and I hope you find another gem in the future whom sparkles only for you. (Yes, all the cheese)
my question is: why do infp tend to disappear? why does it seem like they need no one? and ultimately, might there be cases in which you're mostly disconnected from emotions and can't really feel anything?
you truly are fascinating to me, also partly because I do not get you, but you're all cute
The disappearing thing, atleast for me comes down to a strong need for reflection, like almost when you lose touch with who you are or what you want in life. These two things are especially important and oftentimes its easy to drift away from that when being overwhelmed by the presence of certain other people and situations that are stressful. I dont think in my life ive ever been disconnected from my emotions but rather confused by them, where im depressed for no reason. I would say as an infp a lot of life just comes down to learning emotions and people and in my mind once ive done that to the best i can i will be a better person externally :)
I detach myself and wander into my own worlds for a lot of reasons. It can be to vent to people who aren't actually there, for pure amusement and enjoyment as if I'm watching a TV show or movie, sometimes to reflect on feelings and thoughts I've faced recently. I see it for myself as both a coping mechanism and a form of meditation. I never detach myself from reality whilst other people are around, at least not anymore (maybe as a kid playing games) because the events that unfold in our worlds are incredibly personal. At least for me, the world I enter is almost always a reflection of a happening in my life. When I lose my privacy, I lose my ability to wander through my worlds and really sort out my feelings and thoughts, which can be incredibly overwhelming. Sometimes, we just disappear because we need a break from people. Too much overexposure to even someone we feel inseperable from can feel tiring after a while. There are also people who are just flat out uninteresting or uncomfortable to be around lolol. Truth is, at least for me, people are an absolutely vital part of life. Close friends and family are my lifeblood and it's pretty bad when we lose connection with someone. I prefer to appear to everyone as joyful, fufilled and full of energy but sometimes I am the complete opposite. I put on a facade not because I don't want to bring everyone's mood down but because I don't want to fully realise the gravity of my situation because once it's out there, it becomes really real. I don't know if this is true for most INFPs but personally, if I ever opened up to someone wholly and completely and on my own terms, it usually means I'm desperate for help or validation. The person I go to also has to be someone I completely and wholly trust and respect.
And to your last question, there are definitely times where I am trying to feel something but literally can't. Moments where I just completely spiral and become void of emotion. In these moments, I can't detach and I definitely won't reach out and instead will likely just go to bed and sleep, no matter what time of the day it is.
@@slipskolt7300 I really relate to what you said about venting to people in my head (not always actual people that I know, sometimes ones I've created) as a coping mechanism because they are often more gentle on me and validate me more than people in the outside world. I also relate to the part where, when I express what's going on with me inside into the external world, it becomes real and that's often scary for me.
-INFP
For me, I try to at least make it seem like I need to no one (or feel the need to make it seem like I need no one) because a lot of the people in my life are always telling me how to live it. And that's very infuriating.
-INFP
I don’t like being a bother 🙂
"seemingly unconcerned with what is, because they know that what is now, was once imagined"
- speaks to me in a spiritual level
“Seemingly unconcerned with what is because they know that what is was once imagined.”
That’s a good quote
Love how concise your videos are, no lengthy introduction just the best information in a small video!! Perfect!
How very INTP lol
@@aprilbl00m INFP actually lol
@@graceg5523 Oh hey I'm an INFP too! My comment was more in regards to Love Who being an INTP, but I can see how it was confusing
@@aprilbl00m Oh right yeah, So true!!
As an INFP, this is so spot on! I am just astonish how you can describe people's personality types better than themselves. Can you please make videos about type's compatibility with other types as friends, in family, work and relationships? I think it would be so interesting!
The closer your cognitive functions are the more compatible you are as friends, for example I know an INFP and their closest friends are all other INFPs, some variety is good but a lot of types clash especially over time when the relationship gets deeper. I'm not saying it can't happen, but INFPs need different types to be very mature in order to tolerate them.
@@spring7643 I totally agree! One of my bestfriends is an INFP. And I get along really well and harmonious with ENFPs and INTPs. But I also get along with other types like ESFJs, ISFJs, ESFPs, ENFJs and surprisingly also with ESTPs and ESTJs (my hubby being an ESTJ) but I’d say it’s very challenging to get along with them. It’s either hate or love relationship though. I also find it challenging being with ENTJs and I am kinda amused by ENTPs.
Great video as always. I’ve been feeling particularly lost lately, and am taking some time to reconcile that. It’s so complicated and heavy. Yet everyone around me is so oblivious to the inner turmoil. And at the same time, I like being quirky and complicated. 🤔
Hope the ocean swell inside settles soon and washes up treasures to your shore x
@@Wonder_Woman_Of_Pole Thank you Ebony. That sounds so eloquent. 😊
I usually wish I wasn't an INFP. But when you put it like that, it is hard to imagine being any other way.
INFJ here. I can definitely relate to INFPs when it comes to daydreaming and spending time in our heads. 🧐
THANK YOU so much for rescuing my sanity! My best friend of ten years just told me he felt like I'm not open with him, but I feel like I tell him everything! It was really messing with me, but you explained the inexplicable.
Actually, I've been meaning to ask:
Do you think you'll ever do an INFP analysis on Scarlet Witch? After watching Wandavision I felt as if I completely resonated with everything happening and I think she's a pretty good example of what it's like to be an INFP. Like if I had the ability to warp reality on that level, I'm pretty sure I'd have done the exact some thing as her lol, but I'm interested to see your thoughts!
My mum is exactly this! Great video yet again - infj daughter
The infj is like the organisation and structure an INFP needs. lol
@@joshy2joshy No. I don't need anything from them.
@@marioordonez8135 PLSS this is how I feel when ppl try to say infj’s will fix our lives. Like no ty
I would say this all fits me really well. I've learned to overcome the daydreaming, realizing that it doesn't necessarily serve me unless I'm plotting a book or as a means of relaxing.
how did you do it? i find myself daydreaming unintentionally all the time
@@danann2700 Basically, I pretend to be Sherlock Holmes. It helps if you can get your imagination on board with the real world. So (secretly) play a character to whom it's important to be present. I do my best to pay attention to things around me as well as the image I'm currently projecting. I started to dislike being absent minded when I was a teen and just put forth conscious effort to be more and more self aware. I don't know if there's a simple solution, except repeated effort which will build habit. Of course, this is more when I'm around people. We INFPs need ample alone time to let our creative minds wander.
@@aprilw2287 great advice thanks :)
I know that I personally talk more about my ideas than anything related to feelings, so that emotional stereotype we get slapped with is like 🙄
I have not found really anyone who could explain my behavior or the reasons for it, and i am not really trying to be mysterious or anything. Maybe even the opposite, i will give people every bit of information they need to make conclusions of me but they still get it wrong, every time. You really can explain my behavior and im still trying to get my head around it. It sure feels nice that someone understands. Thank you.
I always agree with everything you say about INFPs, like I am. The only thing I never really fitted in is that I don't keep my emotions for myself. I express them openly.
"Intellectual variety".
Yes. Be in only one thing, concept or topic it is too boring. Exploration of world and its endless possibilities is what keeps me alive.
Well INFP are free all the time when depressed. Lol. Like me.
Physically free, but not so much emotionally
LMFAOOO noooo 🧢 but when you’re not everybody wants to hang out with you at the same time
I don’t have depression but I‘m depressed a lot. So I have lots of time too.
As an ENFJ we are your perfect match..just wanted to say that:)
Technically, it's the estj who is the entire opposite
@@55pm sorry to inform you that ENFJs are infps best match :)
@@55pm In practice though, most of the time we don't get along with each other.
I agree!! Enfj women cmon start looking for these infps :)
Ideal,maybe
It's so clever you make most of your videos about "N" types b/c we all know the S types are likely out in the world, not watching CZcams.
Yuppp
Quick and straightforward, great video!
Love this so much. I want my daily needs to simply be taken care of so that I can freely let my mind wander on intellectual topics. Trying to find a career path that is meaningful, yet also pays decently and is not intrusive if my life is INCREDIBLY difficult. Plus, our dislike of institutions brings out our cynicism which is very difficult when you have to become a sycophant to become inducted into the institution/career you are trying to join.
I'm in grad school as a bit of a career change/correction to hopefully become a psychologist -- a career I believe will be more meaningful to me than what I went to undergrad for. But I'm also slowly realizing that despite the higher credential, more often then not a psychologist is paid more mostly because of having a wider scope of responsibilities. I think I will enjoy and find meaning in the profession, but it wouldn't surprise me either if I were to be a very laid back psychologist who would rather work a little less, even if it means a pay cut -- have a work-life balance where I can keep my career in check from limiting my personal life too much. But, as it stands, first year in my master's program, and I'm feeling a little overwhelmed at times with the expectations (i.e. -- applying to practica for next year right now and being de-prioritized because of lack of experience, trying to get research experience to be competitive for PhD applications next fall, etc.).
Amazing! Every word on spot. And the last sentence, I just clapped alone in my room. Wonderful! Thank you for the video!
Excellent summation of hours of study and observations.
Such a good description. Particularly the last sentence. Something I say all the time to the skeptics I encounter!
The part about knowing that "what is now" was once imagined is so spot on. Cheers!
You are only fascinating me more and more by time you are amazing keep going
And The Amazing simple thumbnails deserves to be mentioned
Thank you. You did such a good job with this one.
Thank you for this accurate description of me ❤️
Yesss it’s here.
Why am i seeing INTPs simping on INFPs here.You need to know INFPs simp on INTPs as well lol
(i may be joking)
what's this "simping" you speak of?
@@tomasbrousek2244 INTPs can speak for themselves 😂
This is such a kind and stunningly accurate picture of my kind of personality
I love your style 👌🏼
Accurate but could be more defined thank you for your work!
I think INFPs don't express emotions but are more connaiseurs of emotions liking to experience all things but in a slightly detached way
accurate
That was almost poetic. Thank you. :)
Finally hit the dreaded notification bell since I'm not watching on my tv this time lol
I was just trying to describe myself the other day and... it... never got an answer. Thanks for doing this video for infp.. 💙 keep daydreaming my fellow infp :)
Incredible Truly
I met an INFP today. I showed interest in what she does and even came up with ideas about her field of interest which she liked. She agreed for an evening with wine, and tomorrow we are also going to paint together. But the problem is...I am an ISTP lmao. No compatibility at all. Lets see how it goes :D
enfp here but... describing emotions like no others, intense/deep feelings, daydreamers and the best of all sentence “alice’s in their own personal wonderlands”! yeah it kinda defines me
As a 9w1, I still don’t know if I’m an INFP or INTP😅Inner peace is everything
great vid~
I wonder if people think "theres a wild INFP there " when they see me, my friend that got me into the mbti assumed because of my shyness and artistic hobbies and eccentric appearance, in school you could find me alone in the cafeteria drawing or just sitting in the grass under a tree looking around
INFPs definitely have a wild side to them. I’ve been lucky enough to experience that myself and live to tell the tale! ~ Nathan
Yay for a new video! Haha I may have liked it before I watched it. #iknowitwillbegood
Amazingly all true and what a relief to know I’m just born this way!!😂🙏
The way you talk makes it so much harder to understand because you sound so smart
Spot on!
imagine if you could get paid for just daydreaming? Like can someone make that a job? Us INFPs need it 😂 Society is built against us.
Yo, man, could you do a "Genius of the ENFJ"? Cause I really like your videos, and I would like to see my type represented on them - it may be because you don't personally know one, but I think it'd still be pretty good if you gave it a shot
Well, I have a much more easy way to spot an INFP, I simply look into the mirror ;)
🥰 you get us
Fantastic!
“Seemingly unconcerned with ‘what is’ …because they know that ‘what is now’, was once imagined.” 🤯 see you in a week once I integrate the mic drop. - INFP
Feeling called out as an INFP 😂 ... thanks for posting
How? How do you know us better than we know ourselves? 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Yup! That pretty much sums it up...
Oh, INTP brother! Just 5 minutes ago I was thinking once again if I'm really INTP or rather INFP... GOOD TIMING!
Accurately well-worded.
This is such a wonderful idea for videos and so much fun 🎀 thanks for keeping it up 🥳
Poetic 😂 but yet so clear
Me: i know english
After watching him saying all the words i don’t know a shit about: -ok
That was great! The only thing I didn’t like was the mention of a link in the description below which I don’t get. Is it a laptop thing? I just have my ipad. Maybe typing this will help me to think.I may watch this again.
It worked! I got it.
Bro just described the majority of my personality in less than two minutes
I'm aiming to eventually get it down to one minute ~ Nathan
@@lovewho quick question, could we pretty please have a hint of what your mbti type is 😉
Definitely my daughter!
Yay, embracing the hyper short format. This will take you places. Anyway, maybe condense a little less info next time. Very hard to folllow (while writing this at least) ;-)