JJ's Final Days

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  • čas přidán 12. 07. 2018

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  • @jaycee3718
    @jaycee3718 Před 4 lety +2770

    Thank you for sharing. I’m dying as well, and l just would like to say “l love you” to my ex wife and kids.

    • @stefaniecardoso7740
      @stefaniecardoso7740 Před 4 lety +122

      we love u

    • @sadiejackson5320
      @sadiejackson5320 Před 4 lety +92

      I love you ❤

    • @ruandreyer8134
      @ruandreyer8134 Před 4 lety +108

      Peace and respect to you..I'm in tears...

    • @stevenhensman2541
      @stevenhensman2541 Před 4 lety +206

      Well my dear friend I'm going to tell you a very very big secret there isn't no death no you're probably thinking whoa whoa like I said there isn't no death there is life After Life and I am a near death experience I have seen that other world and you or somebody around you must know about near death experiences deathbed visions if you have already passed away that's fine but if you are still here don't be scared there isn't no death at all what you will see you will come out of your body then you will see a white beautiful light it will feel the room it is beautiful then you will feel and see god then a beautiful tunnel send you will be going home your true home I am so sorry if this is so heavy for you or your family or Friends but I can only tell the truth love you all Steve

    • @sgt6711
      @sgt6711 Před 4 lety +41

      We love you...

  • @scarlette536
    @scarlette536 Před 5 lety +1174

    I love this woman. She is the epitome of a wife.

  • @Mark-yb1sp
    @Mark-yb1sp Před 4 lety +279

    When I watched this I realized I have NO problems in my life. And then I cried.

    • @Jinka1950
      @Jinka1950 Před 3 lety +10

      Mark Forquer you can say that again.

    • @billydeluca6776
      @billydeluca6776 Před 3 lety +3

      I've had a tear in my eye for this woman and her 2 sons

    • @Earl_TheSquirrel
      @Earl_TheSquirrel Před 2 lety

      SAME HERE. FUCK THAT CRYBABY SHIT LIFE IS FUCKING BEAUTIFUL

    • @gizmo7826
      @gizmo7826 Před 2 lety +8

      Enjoy it because tommorow can be totally different

    • @bloodymosquitobloodymosqui1337
      @bloodymosquitobloodymosqui1337 Před rokem +3

      Not true every One have problems,Not Just because someone Is about to diyng means we have no problems

  • @jessah2469
    @jessah2469 Před 5 lety +383

    "You can't think about assisted suicide in just one situation"
    Exactly. This goes both ways.
    I am so unbelievably overjoyed that you had this extra time. It is amazing and truly miraculous. Please know that your situation is unique, as everyone else's is. Do not take this choice away from those who do not have the same gift you have been given.

    • @meganfaber2854
      @meganfaber2854 Před 2 lety +30

      Well said
      Assisted suicide gives patients their power back. And is a merciful way to be let to compared to suffering

    • @thompsonmatthew
      @thompsonmatthew Před 2 lety +20

      Agreed. Patients should have the right to choose whether they live out their final days or not. This organisation wants to take away those rights. He made a choice to live out his days, not everyone should be forced to.

    • @bullsharkTM
      @bullsharkTM Před 2 lety +14

      @@thompsonmatthew That's true. I just watched Jill Finnegan's farewell party video. She chose to end her life, and everyone around her had time to say goodbye. It was her choice, her power over her life. Life is delicate and it's understandable that people around want the dying person to stay for a bit longer. But that's not their life. They're not going to suffer. I know experience is different for anyone but I hope we don't take away the choice and power over the lives of those who suffer

    • @wileyjb1951
      @wileyjb1951 Před 2 lety +4

      Agreed.

    • @katrabbit
      @katrabbit Před 2 lety +7

      Very well said. It's important to always remember not everyone is the same, even when it comes to dying.

  • @ann-mariebyrd
    @ann-mariebyrd Před 3 lety +125

    My husband died of cancer in January. I was his caretaker.He never gave up and he did it for his family! I will always love him for that. JJs story is inspiring! It shows that your quality of life is all about what your living for and the happiness you can have in that time you are here. I’ve seen it. God bless you and your family sweetheart!

    • @Lmaohavefun
      @Lmaohavefun Před 2 lety

      God bless you too

    • @Lmaohavefun
      @Lmaohavefun Před 2 lety

      Bless you

    • @Gurl-5150
      @Gurl-5150 Před 2 lety +1

      The point is though, that it is NIT for you or JJ's sweet wife to choose for others what THEY need.

  • @toyman9642
    @toyman9642 Před 5 lety +201

    Any person, suffering from an incurable illness, has the right to leave this world in peace and with dignity.

  • @JynxedKoma
    @JynxedKoma Před 3 lety +183

    *"We love each other, and always."* -JJ
    *"Always and forever."* -Kristen

  • @Bunkysworkshop
    @Bunkysworkshop Před 4 lety +488

    Only the person dealing with the pain and bodily problems should be able to make that decision. Quality of life at some point does matter.

    • @hollyfisher8811
      @hollyfisher8811 Před 3 lety +14

      She was saying that for them it was better to keep making memories~
      Maybe not for everyone, though💝...

    • @Royalsprincess1
      @Royalsprincess1 Před 3 lety +19

      correct. JJ Hanson Jr. felt that the memories outweighed the pain and the discomfort. He got to create two beautiful children, and he has left his wife with two young boys, that will leave his wife with some company. He didn't leave her alone, and widowed. He left her widowed, but she has two beautiful kids to still continue to make memories with.
      Others can't say the same, and every single circumstance is understood. Sometimes assisted suicide is the right move, the individual wants the control, wants to be able to die with dignity, they don't want to die bed ridden and hooked to a bunch of machines.

    • @Bunkysworkshop
      @Bunkysworkshop Před 3 lety +3

      @@Royalsprincess1 I truly understand and so does everyone in my family that the same goes for me. 🙏

    • @Praise___YaH
      @Praise___YaH Před 2 lety

      Guys, HERE is The TRUE Savior
      YaH The Heavenly FATHER HIMSELF was Who they Crucified for our sins and “HERE IS THE PROOF”
      From the Ancient Semitic Scroll:
      "Yad He Vav He" is what Moses wrote, when Moses asked YaH His Name (Exodus 3)
      Ancient Semitic Direct Translation
      Yad - "Behold The Hand"
      He - "Behold the Breath"
      Vav - "Behold The NAIL"

    • @KJ-lb4tj
      @KJ-lb4tj Před 2 lety +4

      @@Praise___YaH all I can say is
      .. Lacking empathy and love. Seek first to understand and to speak little.

  • @ComfortablyNumb24
    @ComfortablyNumb24 Před 5 lety +1354

    I’m so happy this popped up in my You Tube. I have been having a terrible time lately and was contemplating taking my life. I was tired of fighting and life felt too heavy. Then I watched this beautiful video and my whole attitude changed in an instant. Thank you J.J. I am as certain as anyone can be that you will be together in Heaven.

    • @kbot9197
      @kbot9197 Před 5 lety +31

      Jen Blossom Things will get better

    • @kathybuckley2338
      @kathybuckley2338 Před 5 lety +21

      How wonderful.....Hope your ok Jen ....God Bless you cc

    • @rnshi
      @rnshi Před 5 lety +53

      Please God, be with Jen. She is hurting and needs more and more signs that her life is valuable. Let her feel that so clearly that nothing can shake her.

    • @guardiansanimalrescuestate7289
      @guardiansanimalrescuestate7289 Před 5 lety +13

      @Lucy Heartfilia there's so many new things out there every single day to help those who want to take their own life. I was there. I still struggle and then I look at my kids and my dogs and kitty and I look at the lives of those who want so much to just have one more day. And I realize that today's problems are always fixable. And the people who are dying, they want another day. Something I have. Please get help. Email me. Maybe I can help. I hope so.
      l.bailey1478@gmail.com you matter. You matter to me and to others.

    • @geocape7060
      @geocape7060 Před 5 lety +15

      Please don't take your life. You are loved. There are so many options to help with depression. Please seek out help. If one thing doesn't work for you , something else will. Never give up please.

  • @mrs.hopwinkle6034
    @mrs.hopwinkle6034 Před 5 lety +249

    I lost my mom a few weeks ago. I'm still heartbroken. She had advanced cancer, was in remission for a year and a half, but the cancer came back. She didn't die of the cancer itself, but of sepsis during chemo. She was very clear that if she was told that she was terminal, that she would go for assisted suicide. That wasn't wrong, undignified or selfish of her, and I supported that decision wholeheartedly. It's not about me, or any other of the people that loved her, but offering relief when there was none.
    While she lay dying in the hospital, God forgive me, but I thought it would have been better for her if they had just ended it. I was very torn between my selfish wish and need to have her with me longer, and what was actually better for her.
    Please, let everyone decide for themselves what they want to do. It's not an easy decision one way or another.

    • @Brind-amour
      @Brind-amour Před 3 lety +6

      Ny heart goes out to you at this difficult time. 🙏🏼

    • @wordswritteninred7171
      @wordswritteninred7171 Před 3 lety +8

      YOU are the beautiful soul here! Not the liar in the video! I am sorry for your loss. I know it says 2 years ago. I lost my mom too. I get it. But I UNSELFISHLY LOVE my loved ones! Like you! And would NEVER DEMAND tht they SUFFER TO APEASE ME! I cant believe how many are praising this video and the woman in it. I am sorry she suffered such a great loss. But she is pushing an opinion, without true facts! and wanting to make decisios that are not hers ot make!

    • @marie-heleneallesiardi4989
      @marie-heleneallesiardi4989 Před 3 lety +4

      Been through the same situation 21 years ago when my dad was suffering from cancer. I was torn betweem my wish to be able to hug him one more day and my wish to see his pain end.

    • @lalala4ever
      @lalala4ever Před 3 lety +2

      @@wordswritteninred7171 What a horrible comment to make. I'm truly amazed at your insensitivity. You should be ashamed of yourself.

    • @MM-pj4bl
      @MM-pj4bl Před 3 lety

      God will forgive you if you only ask Him.

  • @surfingshewolf
    @surfingshewolf Před 5 lety +738

    Assisted suicide is about when THEY are ready to end the suffering. It's THEIR choice and THEIR right!!!

    • @sylviaoesterwinter8858
      @sylviaoesterwinter8858 Před 3 lety +22

      Amen. Not a lot of us have a person like this in their lives.

    • @jasoncatron1039
      @jasoncatron1039 Před 3 lety +3

      Shut your mouth ya moron, your opinion means nothing. Get off the internet.

    • @wordswritteninred7171
      @wordswritteninred7171 Před 3 lety +27

      EXACTLY! She spewed how she will "also fight to let him go" then regurgitatted how its about HER and not what HE WANTS by saying he would not have a right to say, I cant take anymore. How utterly selfish is that! "my son got to know his dad" Well isnt that special! Not everyone has a small child they need to consider! Not everyone who is terminally ill,will even be COGNIZANT enough to even be AWARE OF THEIR SURROUNDINGS! But hey, as long as the HEALTHY PERSON WANTS YOU TO SUFFER FOR THEIR WELL BEING, WELL, YOU SHOULD JUST DO IT! It is about THEM after all!

    • @K1NG0FW0LV35
      @K1NG0FW0LV35 Před 3 lety +17

      @@jasoncatron1039 ah yes the toxic troll makes their appearance

    • @jasoncatron1039
      @jasoncatron1039 Před 3 lety +1

      @cyber warrior,
      Hi

  • @kleedasantos3236
    @kleedasantos3236 Před 5 lety +298

    Your story is amazing but your story is NOT everyone s. Nobody should have to live in pain. He lived 3 good years, others might have suffered for 3 years. That's why it's a personal decision that we all should have.

    • @janneal9156
      @janneal9156 Před 3 lety +3

      I agree with you I left a comment she's selfish and why show it all in a video she's ...........

    • @lilred00051
      @lilred00051 Před 3 lety +13

      I too left a comment. Patients choosing the assisted suicide route aren't able to choose that legally until they are only a few months from the end of their life. They too often hope for a miracle but if that miracle does not come and living on is just too unbearable, they have a chance to go peacefully.

    • @kitkatcats3360
      @kitkatcats3360 Před 3 lety +16

      Appreciate their story, but in the end, this should be an INDIVIDUAL choice, no one else’s.

    • @BeautifulEnigma83
      @BeautifulEnigma83 Před 3 lety +18

      This guy had brain cancer, from the looks of it, and its terrible. Only thing I fear more than brain cancer is Alzheimers Disease. I feel that this lady is being selfish by telling everyone not to choose assisted suicide. Sure those moments were a gift, but were they a gift for her husband? How much did he suffer so that the older boy could know his dad or so they could have another kid together? The person suffering from an incurable, terminal disease needs to make the final call. Ill say this, if my husband was diagnosed with terminal cancer, he would get the final say and if he wanted to die early and escape the bullshit I'd make it happen. If he wanted to go through all of it I'd be there with him and make it as peaceful as possible. But it would be his choice and his alone and I wouldn't make a video telling people not to stop their suffering.

    • @vik7628
      @vik7628 Před 3 lety +1

      @@BeautifulEnigma83 life is suffering

  • @Misfit9405
    @Misfit9405 Před 5 lety +271

    Rest In Peace JJ. Kristen, You are a Beautiful person inside and out. Hugs

  • @Guppusmaximus
    @Guppusmaximus Před 5 lety +22

    And that's the beauty of having the right to choose what IS RIGHT FOR YOU. There shouldn't be any shame or guilt associated with having to make an immensely difficult decision like that. There are far too many variables for someone or some entity to have say, one way or another, over what you should do with your life. I only hope that people can truly weigh the positive & negative before deciding.... Rest in Peace, Mr. Hanson.

  • @thedigitalemotion
    @thedigitalemotion Před 5 lety +244

    Tell this to someone suffering with MND and then come back and try telling the same story. You won’t. Sometimes a pain free exit is a patients right. It’s their body, their decision that should be respected.

    • @bobs1356
      @bobs1356 Před 3 lety +1

      I totally agree

    • @LaceyNatasha41
      @LaceyNatasha41 Před 3 lety +1

      I do know how it feels to lose someone who means the absolute then have to let go.......

    • @lemoncurd5267
      @lemoncurd5267 Před 3 lety +6

      @ItIsWhatItIs exactly, for her, her choice/his choice. I can't imagine choosing an assisted death for myself but I know others who would and one that has. Patient's right to choose.

    • @yesterdayitrained
      @yesterdayitrained Před 3 lety +3

      All this video is saying that for this particular family, and their specific circumstances, and their level of comfort, and their understanding, and in their situation, the best option was to keep going. Doctors gave him 4 months- he lived 3 1/2 years, with a very obvious good quality of life.
      She is not advocating against assisted suicide- she is just showing people that 4 months doesn’t necessarily mean 4 months and to not give up hope- because in their case, it wasn’t 4 months- it was nearly 4 years.

    • @dominikfele9247
      @dominikfele9247 Před 3 lety +1

      Yes but this is tottaly differed illness.
      With MND he would not have 4 years the same way he had withn brain cancer.
      She just said that u have to think it twice.
      I am sure if he would have MND she would think different way.
      And even people with MND not all wanna die. It is different from person to person

  • @georgecherucheril9947
    @georgecherucheril9947 Před 3 lety +13

    I am in awe and speechless at the pure love, grace, joy, beauty, and goodness of this family.

  • @englishmommy4289
    @englishmommy4289 Před 5 lety +107

    I love how he stares at his wife and kids with such love omg im in tears he was a such a lovely man r.i.p xx

  • @dawndipierro373
    @dawndipierro373 Před 5 lety +42

    Wow. I went from a happy mood, listening to upbeat music and made my way here. I’m sooo sorry for your loss, love. You’re an *A M A Z I N G* wife and very supportive. God bless.

  • @twisted1800
    @twisted1800 Před 4 lety +58

    I have cancer and every night I go to bed I think about assisted suicide via "Dignitas" but every night I find a reason not to go through with it, Cancer not only destroys your body, it affects family and friends, depression sets in and it eats you alive. I just pray that when my time comes I don't feel any pain and that family is by my side.

    • @ashfaquehoque
      @ashfaquehoque Před 4 lety +13

      I hope your body does not suffer any pain and God makes it easier for you to live and recover you with a miracle. It's not impossible, The Creator is GREAT!

    • @othersbyuri
      @othersbyuri Před 4 lety +3

      I hope that you keep finding your reasons. Just know, if you were my loved one I would not want to be your suffering reason. If it came to that would respect your decision. I wish you no pain💗

    • @vanamutt43
      @vanamutt43 Před 4 lety +1

      i love you

    • @candykittiegaming3801
      @candykittiegaming3801 Před 4 lety

      Pls don't take ur life , I'm nt here to judge pls BT bcoz I care, just live a day as it comes I knw its hard, BT hang in there God works in miraculous ways, just b positive n don't even think abt it, try to eat healthily avoid meat or processed foods, N ABOVE ALL, MIX BLACK SEEDS POWDER WITH WATER N DRINK DAILY N EAT 5 - 7 DATES DAILY ,,, JUST TRY N DONT IGNORE. GOD BLESS U N HEAL YOU

    • @unkownoflife5959
      @unkownoflife5959 Před 3 lety +2

      Make sure the blood of Christ washes over you so you are saved. May God bless you and be with you beyond the end.

  • @Lanika1979
    @Lanika1979 Před 3 lety +58

    It is absolutely tragically sad that he had to die and leave his kids behind in this world. Im broke for this family r.i.p....🙏

  • @katyp855
    @katyp855 Před 5 lety +28

    It’s heartbreaking watching someone go through a terminal illness and those who do will all do it differently. For you guys assisted suicide wasn’t what you wanted but for others it is so we should all be mindful of people’s rights to choose. It should be a choice available for the person who is suffering the illness or disease. It’s not about those who are left behind. Sorry for your loss, I am happy for you that you had that time with JJ, it was a blessing.

  • @cheryljune1603
    @cheryljune1603 Před 5 lety +72

    I’m suffering bad ptsd and depression with anxiety, last weekend I wanted to die, JJ your an inspiration for me to keep going. Life is better now because i got help

    • @commonsense31
      @commonsense31 Před 4 lety +2

      Glad to hear you got help!
      And you are doing better, but its also different from what the video is about!
      And as someone who also had/has PTSD, anxiety, did have a (Drug abuse), OCD I can relate to what you are feeling!
      But I have thought about it but never even considered it realistically!
      But if I knew I was going to die in 6 months, when the pain became too much and organs starting to fail! I would also like to have the ability to decide to end it!

    • @frankpaya690
      @frankpaya690 Před 4 lety

      @@commonsense31 somebody dying of cancer would love to trade places with you in a second.

    • @breezelight3357
      @breezelight3357 Před 4 lety +2

      I hope u will get well soon

    • @sleptking1707
      @sleptking1707 Před 4 lety +3

      Dark Lady It’s not as well documented in places like India because it’s viewed in the exact same way you view it. Mental health and it’s disorders is real, you genuinely are a complete moron if you refuse to believe in scientifically proven disorders. I’m not religious but I pray that no family member of yours ever has to go through depression or something like it, people like you make it that much worse.

    • @unkownoflife5959
      @unkownoflife5959 Před 3 lety

      God bless you and guide you, may Jesus Christ be your lord and take away your pain.

  • @lisagibson8361
    @lisagibson8361 Před 5 lety +191

    I say this with all due respect and love! Everyone's situation with diseases and cancer it's different! I choose to leave that choice of assisted suicide to the person who is suffering! I am so very happy and you were blessed to have 3 more years with your husband! Which is a miracle within itself! Everyone's journey is different! And everyone knows what they can tolerate and what they cannot tolerate! I will never go against someone's choice to have assisted suicide! Please accept my condolences on the loss of your amazing husband and the father of your children! May you and your children be blessed always! ❤️

    • @dewilew2137
      @dewilew2137 Před 2 lety +12

      Thank you. I don’t understand why they would even want to take that choice from someone else. Just because it wasn’t right for you, doesn’t mean no one should be able to do it. I imagine he wasn’t in constant, severe pain, but many people who consider euthanasia are. They don’t want to live that way, and they shouldn’t have to.

    • @bobs1356
      @bobs1356 Před rokem +1

      I do to some people suffer so much pain nothing helps. It's hard to watch them in so much pain. If they want help to die it's there choice they are the that's hurting.

  • @link23218
    @link23218 Před 4 lety +14

    I believe in choices. So glad your choice worked for you all. Much love to you all.

  • @jaycee3718
    @jaycee3718 Před 3 lety +12

    Thank you. Still here. Still in chronic pain even after multiple and treatments. Hope you're all safe and well

  • @oscareasler1125
    @oscareasler1125 Před 3 lety +11

    This is real. This is life. Heartbreaking. Rest in peace, my brother.

  • @Daves_not_here
    @Daves_not_here Před 5 lety +494

    I prefer to be able to make my own decisions. Some wish to hang on till the very end, which I find no fault with. Some wish to go with dignity. I also find no problem with that.

    • @Slidapenguin
      @Slidapenguin Před 5 lety +6

      Dave Arndt amen

    • @ashlimac
      @ashlimac Před 5 lety +22

      People who “hang on to the very end” die with massive dignity.

    • @shavonneproctor7763
      @shavonneproctor7763 Před 5 lety +2

      You are clearly sucide prone. Thx for letting us know.

    • @LoriSF124
      @LoriSF124 Před 5 lety +27

      Dave Arndt
      I’m terminal and I feel exactly the same way.
      Am I ready to go right now? Nope.
      But when I get to the point I’m ready to go. I want dignity. I don’t want my kids watching me dwindle down to my death one day. I watched my mom draw her last breath. I don’t wish that on anyone

    • @Daves_not_here
      @Daves_not_here Před 5 lety +3

      Paige Marshall I’m so sorry, Paige.

  • @jackyeastwood9294
    @jackyeastwood9294 Před 5 lety +18

    What an amazing man and woman. Positivity and love gives hope. She is an angel.

  • @timothybrown1867
    @timothybrown1867 Před 4 lety +4

    Thank you for posting this!!! It has touched and impacted me.... more than I can say!

  • @tinaprewitt-mcmahon7178
    @tinaprewitt-mcmahon7178 Před 5 lety +6

    I'm sorry for your loss. I'm glad you had the choice. Whether to continue treatment or to end life with dignity. The Choice was yours...And it should be this way for all...

  • @sungirl2656
    @sungirl2656 Před 2 lety +2

    What a amazing tribute to your husband and to all of us watching!! God Bless!!

  • @TheJerimendoza
    @TheJerimendoza Před 5 lety +12

    This brought me in tears. Life is indeed a gift😁

  • @dallolandaconfurore
    @dallolandaconfurore Před 4 lety +3

    Thank you for every second of this video, my dream is to be pride and courageous like you. You 're helping to live my life better!

  • @marianodenwald9424
    @marianodenwald9424 Před 5 lety +6

    It broke my heart and made me smile at the same time you could see the love they shared and fill it in your heart

  • @sissyrayself7508
    @sissyrayself7508 Před 5 lety +2

    Thank you so much for this message. It means more to me than you can imagine!

  • @Paranormalin416
    @Paranormalin416 Před 5 lety +52

    Respectfully, I disagree. I’m currently 50 years old, 10 days after my 20th birthday I was diagnosed with an extremely aggressive case of Crohn’s disease, and a year later, when my large intestine ruptured, they also found intestinal cancer. Since that point I have had 37 absolutely brutal operations that has removed 95% of my entire gastrointestinal tract, I have Darryl three relapses of cancer, and I live each day just to fight to stay alive, but as the years have gone by, my suffering and pain is beyond words, and I’ve made my intentions clear to everybody that I love, I want to die with dignity, on my terms, before my diseases take me to a vegetative state, or I could stay in that stage for months, possibly years. The moment I am no longer able to get out of bed, into it please try my best to enjoy each day, in my life, as I see it, is over. To simply exist is not enough, for my heart to beat, it’s not enough, if I can’t live my life, then my life will be over. I’ve already made every arrangement necessary legally and personally. I even had a living wake, which was actually a lot of fun, they even step me in a coffin and push it up against the wall as they greeted my guests! Despite the indescribable pain and suffering, I still have not lost my sense of humor, and I can be pretty wild, as my guests found out that day. I think I scared half of them to death! LOL! I warned them that I wasn’t going to go out quietly, and I have no intention of doing so. I’ve already got the drugs necessary To stop my heart, I can take them anytime I wish, but not yet. While each day I deteriorates a little more, when the day comes when I can no longer do everything for myself, and become a burden to my spouse, my family, and all the people I love, I’m taking those pills, and leaving this world behind with grace and dignity, filled with the love and support of the many people I’ve been so blessed to have in my life. Generally it’s not up to us when our time comes, but in my case, and other similar cases, we seem to show our animals more compassion and then we do ourselves. We would never allow our beloved cats or dogs to suffer, and put them down, so what’s so terrible about doing the same for a human being that you love? I know for a fact I am beyond any treatments, I will never ever heal or be cured, can I see no logical reason why I shouldn’t do this. This one thing I’m not telling you, but I will, even though you probably will not believe me. With my colon ruptured, I flatlined for two minutes, and in those two minutes, I had the most beautiful near death experience you could possibly imagine. I went to Paradise, literally, where I saw my family, that had already passed away by that point, and was completely surrounded by the most overwhelmingly wonderful sensations of pure love, pure joy, contentment, happiness, and there was no more pain, no more sorrow, just love. Unfortunately my grandfather told me I couldn’t stay, because I still had work to do, so I awoke in the ICU. Every since that experienced I promised myself one thing, that while I really don’t want to die, if ever I’m in a situation where I face and agonizing and slow death, I would take whatever steps are necessary to end my life with dignity and to return to that beautiful place I once visited all those years ago, and to be with the people I love most. I am so sorry about your husband, I understand your apprehension’s about assisted suicide, And I respect your opinion, I just don’t agree with her, but you have my deepest sympathies, I know that your husband will be in a better place, and out of all pain and suffering forever. And sooner or later when your time comes, you will be reunited together in paradise forever. God bless.

    • @reneeelizabeth8822
      @reneeelizabeth8822 Před 4 lety +3

      Hells Fury I hope you’re doing well 💕

    • @factsoverfiction7826
      @factsoverfiction7826 Před 4 lety +7

      Love your unquenchable spirit. Love your grit & Grace. Love your sense of humor! See you on the other side, brother.

    • @dallas218
      @dallas218 Před rokem +2

      Yo yo yo
      Urlegs still kickin brotha?

    • @Paranormalin416
      @Paranormalin416 Před rokem +7

      @@dallas218 always, til I’m 6 feet under!

  • @oceanark77
    @oceanark77 Před 5 lety +3

    Amen! Praise Jesus! This family is a gift to the world! Thank you for sharing your story.

  • @bangbutton8322
    @bangbutton8322 Před 3 lety +28

    I understand what she's saying, and I'm glad he had time with his children which is so important for him AND them, but for some end of life with a disease is just too painful and people should have the right to make a choice if they want to consider that path.

  • @ELIZABETH25832
    @ELIZABETH25832 Před 5 lety +2

    I watch this and it make me cry so much, I thankful for so many things . I was diagnosed with colon cancer stage 4 in 2005 and I was told to live life to the fullest that only god knows when I would die, so I did and here I am 2019 . I lost a son put god gave me 5 grandchildren , just want to thank her for her beautiful love story so we can keep our faith . god bless her family

  • @reign427
    @reign427 Před 5 lety +6

    Heart breaking and what a beautiful perspective she has .Glad they got that extra time to share making loving memories.
    R.I.P

  • @antoniameli1880
    @antoniameli1880 Před 5 lety +13

    A very brave wife you really were to stand by your man.may god of the heavens keeps taking care of you every single day of your life a big hug and many kisses to you and your two angels.

  • @angelawilliams4239
    @angelawilliams4239 Před 2 lety +2

    I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ve been an RN a long time, but always remain amazed and inspired by people’s strength when facing death.

  • @madasafishcake5384
    @madasafishcake5384 Před 5 lety +1

    I can understand this young man predicament, I am in excruciating pain 24/7, but I don’t have the courage to do this. I wish this family blessings and a happy fulfilling life. God bless.

  • @yesterdayitrained
    @yesterdayitrained Před 3 lety +1

    Watching this, these people- I am so deeply humbled, and so deeply grateful. Thank you.
    I am so sorry for your loss.

  • @lindamonnett4450
    @lindamonnett4450 Před 5 lety +18

    God bless his soul. May his love bring you peace . Bless your family💕🙏

  • @MrJpm1989
    @MrJpm1989 Před 5 lety +9

    That hit me , to see what my mother and sister went through when my father passed away . I was 1 year 3 months when my dad passed away from cancer. Then my mother passed when i was 15 and my son died from duchenne muscular dystrophy at the age of 19. Life is a gift we can share with anyone and everyone. Dont miss a minute of it.

  • @frankwoods4532
    @frankwoods4532 Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you so much for posting this. Thank you!!!

  • @doxiemom95
    @doxiemom95 Před 2 lety

    What a brilliant message. What would have been lost, unknown, has been a beautiful, important gift. What heros you are.

  • @lorenaelena7876
    @lorenaelena7876 Před 5 lety +120

    Now is rest no more pain 💕💕💕💕

  • @markrobertson2363
    @markrobertson2363 Před 5 lety +16

    What a wonderful brave lady. Thoughts. X

  • @ArabellaPottery
    @ArabellaPottery Před 5 lety +149

    To all men take note. The love you give is the love you will get back.

    • @jeanbeauchamp7242
      @jeanbeauchamp7242 Před 5 lety +5

      @Michael Bing I like that and so true it is a two way street a

    • @KimPhilby203
      @KimPhilby203 Před 4 lety +6

      You sad bitter woman

    • @kipdon
      @kipdon Před 4 lety +3

      Geeze... I was gonna say that "this needs to be said to my wife"
      But then, I see these other comments...
      Why some of you dudes gotta be dick wads tho.?.?..? Dayum

    • @johnswaim3919
      @johnswaim3919 Před 4 lety

      Mary Potter
      One can certainly hope so, but this is an imperfect life, so expectations should be nil.

    • @CoryASMR
      @CoryASMR Před 4 lety +2

      Whats the point of saying this in this type of video? Most reasonable men already knew that.. Sigh

  • @fortheloveofmusic3723
    @fortheloveofmusic3723 Před 5 lety +46

    Rest easy James 💜
    we will all see each other at the end 🙏🏼

  • @reallyrandomthings615
    @reallyrandomthings615 Před 5 lety +26

    3.5 years is amazing!!! Thank you for sharing your story

    • @denisepaulsenful
      @denisepaulsenful Před 5 lety

      What are you talking about? 3 years is a heartbeat in these times when you're sick. You obviously have no idea about pain and how it can be ruinous.
      She said she loved him so much. And I believe that.

    • @reallyrandomthings615
      @reallyrandomthings615 Před 5 lety +2

      @@denisepaulsenful I do not understand your comment. I stated 3.5 years with your loved ones is time well spent...assisted suicide is not for everyone. I also know pain can be horrible...but its ones own choice to make.

    • @keelinmorris2115
      @keelinmorris2115 Před 5 lety +1

      Denise Paulsen chill out

    • @reallyrandomthings615
      @reallyrandomthings615 Před 5 lety

      @@keelinmorris2115 I am confused about what she means...she said 3.5 years is a blink but that blink was well spent with family and having another child together. I am unsure is she watched and listened to the video.

    • @keelinmorris2115
      @keelinmorris2115 Před 5 lety +1

      Really random things I was thinking the same thing it’s amazing caused he was told he would passed away in 4 months but ended up living a extra 42 months

  • @americandevo
    @americandevo Před 5 lety +7

    Bless you for your strength and committment!

  • @jennygrotemeyer9722
    @jennygrotemeyer9722 Před 5 lety +1

    I gave my word to honor my husband's wishes. He fought, then decided he was done, he wanted to go home to God. It was truly hard for me, but l had promised him. He chose hospice at home, we got him home on Wed, he died on Friday. God bless the Angel's of hospice. What a great group. I would not have missed a minute with him from diagnoses to the very end. I was reminded there are three ways to heal. Physical, spiritual and pyscologicly. I think he hit two out if three really well. Sometimes there is much healing even with losing your loved one.

  • @serenitynow288
    @serenitynow288 Před rokem +1

    You are so insightful and loving. He chose the right person to speak up for himself and I’m so glad you four experienced those priceless memories. I’m so sorry for your family’s loss. ❤

  • @queengfamilyempire9536
    @queengfamilyempire9536 Před 4 lety +5

    😭😭😥😥 So encouraging. Love each other as if it's your last. God bless your family.🙏🏽

  • @originaljazzgirl
    @originaljazzgirl Před 5 lety +4

    This is so inspiring, thank you so much for sharing it with us. Every moment is a gift!

  • @wendyhawkins127
    @wendyhawkins127 Před 4 lety

    What a wonderful life to share with us. Thank you

  • @paula3280
    @paula3280 Před 5 lety +7

    What a beautiful love story! I feel everyone should be able to choose when the time is right to end their own life! There is enough suffering in the world , why would we want to prolong it? Let people choose how to leave this world with dignity!

  • @crystalleblais9875
    @crystalleblais9875 Před 4 lety +13

    I believe that everyone should have the right to make these difficult decisions that doctors can't/won't make for their patients. 😔

  • @1220b
    @1220b Před 3 lety +5

    Looking after others is what makes us human. This Women is the definition of humanity.......

  • @charlesc.parker1164
    @charlesc.parker1164 Před 4 lety

    Thank you and may God bless and your family. I'm 66 and don't have much time. This has helped me. Craig in Alabama.

  • @dawnb7972
    @dawnb7972 Před 3 lety +1

    My aunt was hit by a car while crossing a street. She was in a coma and her brain swelled so they removed part of her skull. After 2 weeks of no signs they said to my uncle to let her go. But he refused. They put on the pressure to end her life every time they came into the room. My uncle had no money and they literally kicked them out. Back in their small town a doctor heard what happened. He knows them and helped. She is now walking, talking and laughing. Loves my 2 year. It's amazing. I'm so glad my uncle had the courage to fight for her right to continue her life's journey. She has 6 kids of her own. All grown and she enjoys her grandkids. You just don't know.

  • @mikemasterson5437
    @mikemasterson5437 Před 5 lety +8

    Dang I was feeling down on myself this morning and this vid was very moving. Rest easy James and thank you to his family for sharing!

  • @TheDebbyrose
    @TheDebbyrose Před 5 lety +7

    Beautiful couple, just broke my heart🙏🏽💖

  • @JabberJawz.
    @JabberJawz. Před 5 lety +21

    What works for some doesn't work for others. WE ALL SHOULD HAVE THE RIGHT TO CHOOSE, without issue.

  • @kimsmith7212
    @kimsmith7212 Před 3 lety

    Very touching life you and JJ had. Something special. May JJ rest in peace. Thank you for sharing this.

  • @julieh311
    @julieh311 Před 5 lety +16

    The power of love 💖 what an amazing couple you are RIP JJ x

  • @matrixcolor
    @matrixcolor Před 5 lety +268

    I don't think people do assisted suicide upon hearing they are terminal. They usually wait until they are incapacitated.

    • @annsturtevant1684
      @annsturtevant1684 Před 5 lety +18

      It would ideally be before they get to that point, probably once they start to feel the true impact of their illness or condition.

    • @malgorzatasweet8479
      @malgorzatasweet8479 Před 5 lety +5

      @@annsturtevant1684 amen .Go away with dignaty intact

    • @ralphfurley404
      @ralphfurley404 Před 5 lety +5

      It's a final celebration of life for the person leaving it gives them and who's left here closure and better memories

    • @lorindarogers5701
      @lorindarogers5701 Před 4 lety +4

      @Amanda Charlebois yes.
      They need to be aware and able to do it themselves.

    • @lillyrose3545
      @lillyrose3545 Před 3 lety +1

      Part of the laws is that they have to do it with sound body and mind.

  • @pamfeist5462
    @pamfeist5462 Před 3 lety

    Thank you so much for sharing this

  • @go234ko96ts5
    @go234ko96ts5 Před 4 lety

    What an inspiring video and story. A story important to all on the joy of living your life but most important in helping others cope with adversity.

  • @temptwostrong
    @temptwostrong Před 5 lety +60

    Look, I was 15 when I watched my bio dad suffer a horrific death from lung cancer. He went from 250 pds to 90 in 6 months. I held his hand as he has last breathe. He was in sever pain, the meds no longer worked. It caused me tremendous amount of stress and sorrow. I developed a drinking problem at 16 because no one helped me deal with it. His good sure didn't go it either.
    I turned 26 and developed NHL b cell and my kids had to watch me suffer, I almost ended my life then, but I survived by science. Got throat cancer at 32 and again at 43. I did plan on suicide but science has come along way. Life has been a bitch but I fought to survive and it had nothing to do with a god just good treatments. I now suffer from PPMS and pain is a constant and pain meds can not be used for to hypermetabolizing them. I will end my life in my terms and these people saying I don't have a right is nuts. My whole family , husband children parents all agree that I should end it on my chooosing.
    Humans can only take so much give compassion.

    • @th3azscorpio
      @th3azscorpio Před 3 lety +6

      I too watched my dad suffer from to til last breath from lung cancer... It was a horrific experience, and I'm still traumatized by having to watch him go out like that. Though I'm glad he went quickly. I don't blame anyone for choosing to end their lives earlier, than to experience such a horrific end. Compassion, and care for quality of life at this point is a must

    • @th3azscorpio
      @th3azscorpio Před 2 lety

      @RickReviews Thanks friend. 💪🙏 Wish you all the best.

    • @davidpetri4938
      @davidpetri4938 Před 2 lety

      +

    • @voutoo7899
      @voutoo7899 Před 2 lety +1

      Hope you are in a better place now.

  • @ellioshiem7892
    @ellioshiem7892 Před 5 lety +6

    An amazing couple.
    Truly beautiful and special.

  • @lisaklit5825
    @lisaklit5825 Před 3 lety

    And that is what life and love is all about. Thank you for showing. I wish all the best for you and the children, Kristen, until you all meet again.

  • @SpringRain23
    @SpringRain23 Před 5 lety

    Thank you both!

  • @virginiakeim
    @virginiakeim Před 5 lety +692

    I understand where you're coming from, but I think most people who are considering assisted suicide are in excruciating pain. I think many people will choose to live as long as they can, but when the pain starts, it's a different story. So please don't take that away from them.

    • @jeffkernan3647
      @jeffkernan3647 Před 5 lety +19

      Virginia Keim thank you for those kind and understanding words. Xxxx

    • @jeffkernan3647
      @jeffkernan3647 Před 5 lety +13

      Perfect words.

    • @ew7512
      @ew7512 Před 5 lety +6

      Yes. ❤️

    • @VABee59
      @VABee59 Před 5 lety +4

      How do you know he wasn’t in pain?

    • @virginiakeim
      @virginiakeim Před 5 lety +26

      @@VABee59 I pray that he wasn't. It was his choice to live and die as he wanted. I just want the same choice.

  • @mimosasmagnolias1243
    @mimosasmagnolias1243 Před 5 lety +5

    Just sending Love and Prayers as I know from experience ~ this holiday season will be a bittersweet one for you... Love is Eternal ~ 💞

  • @brielleanyez7113
    @brielleanyez7113 Před 3 lety +4

    I lost my husband in 2009 when our kids were little. My heart goes out to you, who knows? Maybe you'll see him again. That's my hope at least 🤗

  • @br.samuel4754
    @br.samuel4754 Před 2 lety +1

    Let we remember JJ and his beloved wife and kids. God is protect you, and we pray for you all.

  • @catinawhite1253
    @catinawhite1253 Před 5 lety +9

    Rip J. J. Sad but a beautiful story. You are wonderful individual. God bless you your children your family and friends. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞

  • @robertgmd6289
    @robertgmd6289 Před 4 lety +5

    Great wife and mother so strong and loving....

  • @zyxvwu
    @zyxvwu Před 4 lety +1

    Thank you, much love and respects

  • @gaberielisaunivalu9506

    wow im so touched..thank you for sharing..you are truly blessed

  • @izbitenfeljen7560
    @izbitenfeljen7560 Před 5 lety +32

    May he Rest In Peace May god give you strength,,, god bless you lady and your kids!

    • @teviottilehurst
      @teviottilehurst Před 3 lety

      The god who took his life away then. No God.

    • @angelaposey3394
      @angelaposey3394 Před 3 lety

      @@teviottilehurst God is good, Always good and they are together now. God knows this man's heart. 🙏 for forgiveness please so one day you too can be with God in Heaven.

  • @l.myhanhbarden7290
    @l.myhanhbarden7290 Před 5 lety +5

    Amazing video! Be with the Angels! ❤️

  • @madeleine7411
    @madeleine7411 Před 2 lety

    This is so beautiful.

  • @viennakill
    @viennakill Před 3 lety

    Rip my friend im so sry I he is such a great motivation for me thank you so much for giving us this video!!! Always and for ever! ❤️

  • @mariannebaskerville-hillia406

    God bless you. As caretaker for my husband it's very hard. May your husband rest in peace.

  • @zestydude87
    @zestydude87 Před 5 lety +128

    take notes ladies... this is what a dedicated loving wife looks and acts like.

    • @kristinfenstermacher4575
      @kristinfenstermacher4575 Před 5 lety +1

      zestydude87 agreed

    • @noturbuisnesssolo3881
      @noturbuisnesssolo3881 Před 5 lety +33

      Well if you treat a woman right , not cheat, value all she does, and respect her fully put her first and kids before your family and respect your home , tjis is what a husband will receive in a wife!! A loving caring wife

    • @noturbuisnesssolo3881
      @noturbuisnesssolo3881 Před 5 lety +19

      So take notes man!

    • @StephenSmith-ge1qf
      @StephenSmith-ge1qf Před 5 lety +6

      This is what love looks like.

    • @antonialong4415
      @antonialong4415 Před 5 lety +14

      Easy to be a good woman if you pick a great guy...

  • @jefferee2002
    @jefferee2002 Před 3 lety

    I couldn't agree more. Thanks for your love.

  • @nairobib.3732
    @nairobib.3732 Před 5 lety

    For me your Story really gave me a lot of hope. Thank you so much for sharing your familylife with us.

  • @sofiadidonna3655
    @sofiadidonna3655 Před 5 lety +4

    I am a palliative care nurse. I work with People Like J.J. and my job is to give them the best life they can possibly have until the end. And it is possibile to die in peace, with no pain, without suicide. I just would love everybody to know this. My patients are one of the most beautiful gifts I recieved and I am honored to be by their side.
    I am not saying it's easy. But "easy" doesen't mean "beautiful". Life is not easy, illness is not easy, but I have seen so much beauty...

  • @trubrit5036
    @trubrit5036 Před 2 lety +5

    I am Stage IV CRC patient, and I have thought allot about assisted suicide. I too have been blessed beyond my prognosis, and grateful for every year, indeed, for every single day; but there may come a time, when this becomes unbearable, and I would like to have the choice, to depart on my own terms. Many Cancers and other diseases, are a long, wicked, painful time before the end arrives, I do think that we should have the choice. I am so happy that your little one got to know daddy, and you he has definitely left a beloved legacy. Rest in peace, JJ.

  • @krellman7
    @krellman7 Před 9 měsíci

    I realize this video was from 4 years ago, but my heart goes out to you. I’m so glad you and your children were able to have that time with him. I was diagnosed with cancer in July of 2020. I can’t even begin to explain how it has affected me physically, mentally and emotionally. No one will understand how the chemotherapy creates what is referred to as “brain fog” and how severely the combination with the radiation affects your cognitive ability. I try very hard to continue to move forward everyday, but of late I feel like it’s time for me to move on so to speak. Both my sister and my brother live in other areas of the country and are not close by. I do have a handful of cousins in the area who have remained close and very helpful. This actually the first time I have expressed these feelings. I have not told my family my current thoughts and I’m not sure that I will. I know in my heart this is a decision I will have to make alone. My mom died of cancer and when she went through treatment I thought I knew what she was going through. Trust me, you really don’t know until you are going through it yourself. Believe me, it’s a whole different ball game. Consequently I don’t expect others to truly understand. I wish you all the best!

  • @lashawnab.441
    @lashawnab.441 Před 3 lety +2

    I'm so sorry for your loss but it blesses my heart to see the love you shared and all the beautiful moments you experienced and can hold in your heart forever

  • @stormykeifer3118
    @stormykeifer3118 Před 5 lety +42

    Condolences to the family

  • @deborahaviles708
    @deborahaviles708 Před 5 lety +32

    It's such a personal decision. One size does not fit all. We need compassion and choices. This was exactly what was right for you but it isn't right for everyone. I send you love and light and I see why this was a good thing for you and your family.

    • @janneal9156
      @janneal9156 Před 3 lety +1

      Yes for her what about him I didn't like some of the things she said about how long he has to live what was she doing videoing this is going to make a.movie......

  • @IVORY123100
    @IVORY123100 Před 2 lety

    I am living . Diagnosed with Stage 4 Melanoma in April of 2020 . When I was told the oncologist was upset to tell me .. I lowered my head and said " His Will Be Done " .. A few months ago I was told " We didn't expect you to still be here " and even as of yesterday was told " You have been one of the most joyful patients " .. I am here for A reason .. No matter the pain that has been laid upon me .. The Lord covers me and for The Glory of God ..My heart beats to Hope . . I will go when I am called

  • @carterbishop2935
    @carterbishop2935 Před 2 lety

    beautiful, thank you.