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p.s. the guy I refer to in this video is now actually a friend of mine (great guy), and he had joked about wanting to one day make it into one of these videos, so I hope this gives him a good chuckle :) Also, I realize some people will think my 8-hour reply time is too strict--that's fine. The point of this video is not to argue boundaries, it's to empower people to state their boundaries, no matter if they come off as "too much" to someone else. I understand that there's a conversation to be had about compromise and long-term relationships, but I don't think that should apply to short-term relationships. We already sacrifice too much in the beginning. There is no need to entertain people who create unnecessary stress in your life, especially when you didn't even know them 1-3 weeks prior.
Sister, you are such an inspiring person! ♥️ I have been following you for years and years now and I think this is my first time commenting :D! Please keep up the great work. You are such a strong woman - if I ever reproduce, I’ll show your content to my kids, I swear! I wish you all the peace and happiness in the world 👊🏼✨♥️!
High value principle, well stated. Have you read Kartherine Woodward Thomas's "Calling in the One"? Highly recommend. Would love to see your review of it. I know your thoughts on it will entertain. Be well, Taylor. We're all with you. Andrew
Problem with me is (being frank) I have been used and abused and now have trauma.. I am taking time to heal the wounded hand cause it like to heal!! Good luck your look refresher and beautiful 😻
I’m sorry to hear you’ve been through that, no one deserves that. But also, in a curious kind of way, you now have the superpower of knowing what abuse looks like (which I’ve found can be an extremely helpful skill). Happy healing :)
In my dating years, I have learned that the ladies always set the rules or principles in a relationship. These principles tell me a lot about the lady I am interested in. If she sets no boundaries, I walk away.
This is weird. It’s a relationship, you both should set boundaries in order for both of you to be comfortable and live better. Plus maybe the women you talk to have had bad experiences and are conditioned to not have boundaries. By respecting her, you allow her to find and set new boundaries. Idk I feel your world view is limited
@@johnasamoah8668 A lady’s principles and rules are the reflection of her family values, what she holds dear. Dating is not the best time to negotiate the rules of relationships. If a gentleman cannot accept her dating principles, he doesn’t have to continue.
In your opinion what's a reasonable time to text back? I can excuse 8 hours if the person was working or caught up in something. If you're trying to get to know this person then yeah, I don't think it's a good look for him. As for boundaries, I almost thought it was standard to vocalize it haha. I don't see why anyone should have a problem with it, especially in the dating world since guys come off as too strong quite often.
I have a question. How can we still have our own "filtration system" based on our boundaries and some preferences, without it morphing into extremely high standards? I mean, this principle is actually pretty cool, and if it helps to find more people who are less likely to take away our peace and happiness, then thats really a healthy thing to do. However, no human will ever be perfect and fit one's standards 100% , but sometimes we expect too much without even realizing it and what if someone crossed one boundary and we let them go for just that one strike, and we lost a potential to build a beautiful relationship? The more we know each other, the more I can share some of my boundaries to my partner and begin to build a relationship. Even if we have fights or whatever, that might actually make a relationship stronger, cause if we both are willing to be better after we mess up and cross a boundary we might not even be aware of, then we are going to learn from that mistake and not do it again. Sometimes long term happiness and peace are found after little periods of struggle.
Going from experience, date and meet as many people as possible. You meet interesting and different people and learn what you want and don't want, and what values and principles you appreciate and which ones don't mean much. It's a bit of trial and error but that's life. Most dates don't result romantic partnerships but they may result in friendships. Be patient about it too because what you seek takes a ton of time.
I think that’s why it’s important to *vocalize* boundaries first, before taking any action to leave. If the person hears your complaint and adjusts to your boundaries, you continue forward. Also-I guess I’m confused what you consider too extreme of standards. Most of the time, the boundaries I’m talking about are just basic respect (e.g. being on time, responding in a timely fashion, not using insults, etc.). I do find that those standards alone weed out over 80% of people, but I don’t think those are extremely high standards. I think the problem is that the bar is just set too low for most people, and I think we should weed those people out asap (because they are bad for mental health long term). But, then again, I tend to choose being alone over compromising self respect.
@@yesreneau Oh, if we are talking self-respect, and crossing boundaries that compromise you dignity then yes, weed them OUUUT. What I meant was that, some people might begin setting basic boundaries but what if someone gets too excited and begins to demand too much, like if it begins with respect but then they begin adding more and more specific stuff that they confuse with respect but it's just being petty. I don't even know why I said that tbh, just had the tought. 🤔Thanks for the reply tho. I get to boast that YesRenau saw my comment hahah.
No offense but you're a good looking woman that's well educated in NYC. How can you not pick ONE guy to date? I feel like you're dealing with attractive / high value men who are likely dealing with multiple women. You need to either lower your physical standards or be willing to "share" basically.
This comment assumes way too much. Sure there are many guys in NYC but that doesnt mean one of them is the correct fit for her. Obviously she's beautiful and educated but that just means a thousand more dudes are gonna put their name in the hat. Beyond that, onlu Taylor and the guys she dated truly know how the dates went.
Forever Alone: The Scent of a Generation
p.s. the guy I refer to in this video is now actually a friend of mine (great guy), and he had joked about wanting to one day make it into one of these videos, so I hope this gives him a good chuckle :) Also, I realize some people will think my 8-hour reply time is too strict--that's fine. The point of this video is not to argue boundaries, it's to empower people to state their boundaries, no matter if they come off as "too much" to someone else. I understand that there's a conversation to be had about compromise and long-term relationships, but I don't think that should apply to short-term relationships. We already sacrifice too much in the beginning. There is no need to entertain people who create unnecessary stress in your life, especially when you didn't even know them 1-3 weeks prior.
Thanks for reminding me why I subed to you, really love your outlook on these topics
Love the channel, glad you’re doing ok
Sister, you are such an inspiring person! ♥️ I have been following you for years and years now and I think this is my first time commenting :D! Please keep up the great work. You are such a strong woman - if I ever reproduce, I’ll show your content to my kids, I swear! I wish you all the peace and happiness in the world 👊🏼✨♥️!
Thank you for such kind words ❤️
Do people just watch videos without ever commenting? no one I know in physical life has ever commented on youtube.
@@makisxatzimixas2372 as far as you know 😜
| love your content on this channel!
High value principle, well stated. Have you read Kartherine Woodward Thomas's "Calling in the One"? Highly recommend. Would love to see your review of it. I know your thoughts on it will entertain. Be well, Taylor. We're all with you. Andrew
Problem with me is (being frank) I have been used and abused and now have trauma.. I am taking time to heal the wounded hand cause it like to heal!!
Good luck your look refresher and beautiful 😻
I’m sorry to hear you’ve been through that, no one deserves that. But also, in a curious kind of way, you now have the superpower of knowing what abuse looks like (which I’ve found can be an extremely helpful skill). Happy healing :)
I wish I was a person that could just fling people out and go next, still stuck with the same surrounding, it’s a me problem..
In my dating years, I have learned that the ladies always set the rules or principles in a relationship. These principles tell me a lot about the lady I am interested in. If she sets no boundaries, I walk away.
This is weird. It’s a relationship, you both should set boundaries in order for both of you to be comfortable and live better. Plus maybe the women you talk to have had bad experiences and are conditioned to not have boundaries. By respecting her, you allow her to find and set new boundaries. Idk I feel your world view is limited
@@johnasamoah8668 A lady’s principles and rules are the reflection of her family values, what she holds dear. Dating is not the best time to negotiate the rules of relationships. If a gentleman cannot accept her dating principles, he doesn’t have to continue.
@@gordonchan8807 but does that mean you only adhere to her rules and principles? Because it seems like your true self will be buried underneath this.
So trueee! Also, loved the transitions in this video! :D :D :D
Yesss, I'll watch this video as soon as I have time, specially now that I'm starting dating lol
In your opinion what's a reasonable time to text back? I can excuse 8 hours if the person was working or caught up in something. If you're trying to get to know this person then yeah, I don't think it's a good look for him.
As for boundaries, I almost thought it was standard to vocalize it haha. I don't see why anyone should have a problem with it, especially in the dating world since guys come off as too strong quite often.
At this point, 245/3500*100=7℅ likes. This shows that your videos are really good.
Love this!
I have a question. How can we still have our own "filtration system" based on our boundaries and some preferences, without it morphing into extremely high standards? I mean, this principle is actually pretty cool, and if it helps to find more people who are less likely to take away our peace and happiness, then thats really a healthy thing to do.
However, no human will ever be perfect and fit one's standards 100% , but sometimes we expect too much without even realizing it and what if someone crossed one boundary and we let them go for just that one strike, and we lost a potential to build a beautiful relationship? The more we know each other, the more I can share some of my boundaries to my partner and begin to build a relationship.
Even if we have fights or whatever, that might actually make a relationship stronger, cause if we both are willing to be better after we mess up and cross a boundary we might not even be aware of, then we are going to learn from that mistake and not do it again. Sometimes long term happiness and peace are found after little periods of struggle.
Going from experience, date and meet as many people as possible. You meet interesting and different people and learn what you want and don't want, and what values and principles you appreciate and which ones don't mean much. It's a bit of trial and error but that's life. Most dates don't result romantic partnerships but they may result in friendships. Be patient about it too because what you seek takes a ton of time.
I think that’s why it’s important to *vocalize* boundaries first, before taking any action to leave. If the person hears your complaint and adjusts to your boundaries, you continue forward.
Also-I guess I’m confused what you consider too extreme of standards. Most of the time, the boundaries I’m talking about are just basic respect (e.g. being on time, responding in a timely fashion, not using insults, etc.). I do find that those standards alone weed out over 80% of people, but I don’t think those are extremely high standards. I think the problem is that the bar is just set too low for most people, and I think we should weed those people out asap (because they are bad for mental health long term). But, then again, I tend to choose being alone over compromising self respect.
@@yesreneau Oh, if we are talking self-respect, and crossing boundaries that compromise you dignity then yes, weed them OUUUT. What I meant was that, some people might begin setting basic boundaries but what if someone gets too excited and begins to demand too much, like if it begins with respect but then they begin adding more and more specific stuff that they confuse with respect but it's just being petty. I don't even know why I said that tbh, just had the tought. 🤔Thanks for the reply tho. I get to boast that YesRenau saw my comment hahah.
He just blocked me
Just saw your mental health and capitalism video. Been watching some videos… I love your sense of humor. 😂😂😂
i hope you’re happy and doing well T
#foreveralonegang, where are you? Lol
Comment for the algorithm
Omg for real 😂
Goated
Was he at work? Very narcissistic to expect someone who's just getting to know you prioritize you.
Do you think most people want to/feel the urge to be in a relationship? It always feels like a responsibility to me, even though I would enjoy it.
Boundaries are largely overrated. Unless someone is humiliating you or hurting you in some way, there's really no need for boundaries.
What?! We establish boundaries because there are things that make us uncomfortable. Very real discomfort.
No offense but you're a good looking woman that's well educated in NYC. How can you not pick ONE guy to date? I feel like you're dealing with attractive / high value men who are likely dealing with multiple women. You need to either lower your physical standards or be willing to "share" basically.
You’re assuming my goal is partnership. But my goal is happiness and peace, and I can accomplish that solo :)
This comment assumes way too much. Sure there are many guys in NYC but that doesnt mean one of them is the correct fit for her. Obviously she's beautiful and educated but that just means a thousand more dudes are gonna put their name in the hat. Beyond that, onlu Taylor and the guys she dated truly know how the dates went.
Then why give dating advice on CZcams if you're going solo that doesn't make any sense