Agreed....I use negative people as a mirror to prevent negativity in myself....its quite empowering...for instance,.when I see road rage guy it reminds me not to be "that guy", and instead of becoming incensed I laugh inside at the spectacle "that guy" makes of himself.
Assim o juiz se uniu para ficar do lado dela e contra mim o juiz se unir para ficar do lado deles dela e contra mim então agora ele se une para matar ela que todos os juízes já tem todos os processos na mão que ela tá mentindo e que Ela montou e projetou minha vida tudo mentira todo juiz já tem as provas concretas na mão deles todos os juízes e todo mundo já tem as provas que eles confessaram que me deram eles confessa direto que me deram para o juiz e povo na rua então agora cabo juiz yunire para condenar ela juntar as peças toda todos juízo junta as peças toda da montagem que ela fez e pede para apresentar as provas se ela não tiver mata ela se vocês não mataram a decisão é de vocês eu vou mandar botar fogo no Congresso inteiro Vocês escolhe ou mata ela com vocês vai ficar aqui vai queimar o conversa de vocês para vocês acabar toda hora de vocês porque a sujeira tem que ser queimada e limpa
Eu minhas forças para isso para pegar o juiz corrupto que eu sabia que ia ter um monte por isso que eu não ia se fosse para pegar o juiz corrupto que eu sei que tem um monte no mundo inteiro tem um monte e aqueles que se uniram para fazer ficar contra mim sabe muito bem ciúme fazer da mesma forma julgar a pessoa que tá mentindo escolhe tenho dinheiro que ele escolher ou eles faz o correto eu infelizmente converso vai ser queimado porque a chuteira tem que ser limpa o jeito Tem que ser queimada tá ok sujou jogou debaixo do tapete vai ser queimado Agora se vocês não acredita Tô com a******** que você gosta d********* continua porque eu já tava fechando o circo e eu te garanto que não vou demorar muito não que eu não gosto de esperar muito eu não tenho tempo a perder não reagiu logo quanto mais rápido você fizer melhor porque eu não vou dar muito tempo para você não deu tempo eu já dei demais eu nem as forças para isso que eu sabia que ia encontrar uma escova para passar por cima dele por isso que é unir as forças que eu sei muito bem com quem eu tô mexendo por isso que eu não ia as forças que eu sei os lixos que tá no meio e vocês acha que eu não sei então continua p****** porque eu vou responder e não vou
"Oh those people . . . " That alone succinctly sums them up. You know the type, those that immediately came to mind when he said it, whoever they are for you lol
Back in the 90's and early 2000's all this information and techniques had to be found in a library in the psychology section. Jocko's podcast, as well as others, give such a wealth of knowledge in such a small amount of time. I've been mining this gold mine since podcast #1.
oh are you another one of those people who like an easy ride, need to be spoon fed. You obvioulsy diddnt get Jocko's philosphy. Good things take "time" and "effort" if that means going getting up going to the library, then so be it. I think there are tougher things than that.
@@TMGVideoDiaries it's also about time management dummy, go ahead and waste precious hours hunting down that book I'll sit listen and ponder the wisdom he gives us and apply it to my life in less than an 30 min
He hits it at the right spot. I too already dealt with negativity and found out that Jocko is right. Takes strength to take and absorb but not call them out on their negativity. Negative people dont believe they are negative!!!! I love this episode!!!!
I used to be that negative guy. I still struggle with it, but in my older years, I realize how much people avoid a person like me at all costs. It wasn't the fact that I was right or wrong; people just didn't want any part of the negativity. I appreciate people like Jocko who have tolerated people like me and helped me to become better. After all, acid does more damage to the vessel it is carried in, than whatever it's poured on.
Nice comment dude 👍 I know a few negative people and I know there is a better person behind the negativity, I guess you just try to help them see the positives and one day someday they might see the positives... even if it’s just for a little bit...
I have to do this on the daily with someone who works under me. It insane. Absorb and don't take it personally. Besides I think it is WAY more fun to hear them not get the response they wanted, then they have no idea where to go from there. When there is no resistance, there is no conflict.
Dude, do what you need to to be happy in your life, I cut my dad out of mine three years ago and I've been succeeding on new levels since. Obviously our stories with them are probably very different but from someone who has taken that leap and has stuck to the decision for three years now, it feels alot better not having him and his issues he brought hanging over my head
@@ravenousmma1554 that sounds harsh, but a good decision to be made, better surround your with less negative people, but more true openness to see the world more clearly and in a better way for you
It's taken me years to learn how to deal with negative people...I'm talking about people I have been involved with for years...Mostly family..They refuse to change...Sometime you have to just eliminate them...
I'm stuck on this. What if a family member is loving, amazing, thoughtful and has dedicated their life to you yet they are negative as negative can be. My mother will go from family member to family member picking pointless fights. A big part of it is mental issues. I love my mother more than anything so cutting her from my life is not an option. I try to go a week at a time without talking to her but that hurts me too because she has no friends or anyone to talk to. She doesn't work so she doesn't leave her house. It's a tough situation. I'm a Strong believer in never giving up on family. And having kids of my own now I see how much dedication it takes to be a parent so I can't dismiss the life my parents provided me. I feel.like there is no perfect answer. Just try my best to see the best in her and one day when she dies hopefully I won't regret anything.
@@northface484 I don't know. The. bad is bad but she was an amazing mother growing up. Mental health and depression.os the issue I believe. So hard to know what the right thing to do is. I have walked away from friends and relationships when they became toxic but a close family member is a tough one. My biggest fear is when she is gone and thinking that I just let the last years go without trying. Guess there is no right answer.
Everyone has a reason to see things through dark lenses. If you can see things through his dark lense and fortify your own will, you just learned how to win.
Walk away and don't give them the time of day. They are addicted to conflict and will cause caustic and toxic situations to prove themselves right, as they live their lives in a self fulfilling prophecy.
I learned the hard way to cut my losses with anyone who doesn't take an olive branch / chance to grow. Yet if you have to deal with them, this is a good backup plan.
Tbf, these people generally became negative like that because people kept walking out on them since they were a child. Only things that can change them are death or to show them you're not like the rest, usually their biggest wish is to be proven wrong tbh.
Thank you. This is a great way to react. I’ve found myself apologizing and trying to take on other people’s emotions when I’m confronted with negativity. This is a much better way to redirect the energy rather than to take it as a personal attack.
Became a manager at my job recently and this video is going to help me a lot. Quite a few angsty teenagers that are very negative and you're completely right. They just want that little explosion, but it is time to use their negative energy and turn it into positive!
Thank you for an excellent piece of advice. I am a bus operator in a public transportation field and deal with negative and on the defense people. I have lashed back at them only to find an escalated situation. Humor them with their better way of thinking and as you say turn the situation around. When people feel they have gotten their way they become more cooperative and less confrontational!
Jocko has a good handle on this. Some negative people are looking for the bomb but some people are just concerned types looking to be heard. His choice of action provides a little comfort for the cautious that they have been heard and that can at times embolden them. He isn't looking to "wrek" people he is looking to build them up. This is awesome and something we need a lot more of.
You have to play the “ push and pull” method with these individuals. Don’t make yourself easily predictable. Play into their disinterests as a strategy to gain insight into their weaknesses and use it against them covertly
I've been like that & what Jocko says is spot on. Really cool of you to "Bring people back to the light", good on you man. All these people talking about "just ignore them" are completely wrong - you're not obligated to be nice to people who are negative, or give them the time of day...but ignoring them certainty does nothing to help change them. Setting a badass example and having the Roger That (google David Goggins) attitude can make them think "damn that person's got it squared away - I want to be like that". Thanks you to all you people who deal with negative people and try to help them rather than ignoring them/leaving them in the dust, it takes guts to do that.
Hey guys, Love the podcast and everything you do. Marine Corps OIF veteran here. This message is very useful for people you encounter on a regular basis. How about defusing an agitated person who has turned aggressive but hasn't taken physical actions. This was a recent experience that occurred after a traffic accident.
Seals we some of the nicest, calm, and cool dudes I’ve ever met in my life... always trying to pass it forward. I remember during the fight for Sadr City in 2004. My squad was on the move. Conventional army movements, ducking and diving behind cover and concealment at every opportunity. Bullets and explosions everywhere. Behind us from down the road walk these two seals. Just kind of give us that nod like, “what’s up”. I’ll never forget that day. It’s all about respect.
Then if you really respect the Navy SEALS, and other special ops soldiers what are you doing and are in the process of doing in order for you to accomplish "Making yesterday jealous"??
Jennifer Dana I do not intend on making yesterday jealous. Yesterday already happened, I’m looking ahead to tomorrow and paving the way for tomorrow’s success.
@@danthaman7777 I did 20 slow rep push-ups today. Sonny Puzikas said, "If you want to be a warrior, do 20 slow rep push-ups every day." How many slow rep push-ups did you do today?"
Thanks for your no nonsense message. You remind me of my leadership in my Marine ANGLICO unit that got disbanded. Great mentors. Was in from 99-2003 with 3rd Marine Div. Kaneohe Bay. I worked with some of the SDV guys at Pearl Harbor on a couple FX such as RIMPAC. Off the USS Boxer.
The idea of creating a positive self fulfilling prophecy in a teammate has never crosses my mind, but in retrospection now realize the impact that strategy has had on my own development. Hot damn, that’s some quality leadership advice.
These are very good pieces of advice. I work in an IT company where MANY people have negative vision. I guess it's part of developers mentality. And now I see which mistake I did. I overreact. It draws me out. When you debate with a person whose primary concern is to make you feel bad do not connect emotionally. It's very hard. Especially for people like me. I am very emotional. And they use it. Against me. As a result, I feel tired. They just suck energy from me. All positive things are not relevant to them. Some of them very weak. They don't train, learn and love. Some of them are alone at their 30s. And every time when I start a small conversation about bjj or Jocko's podcast they laugh at it and say that Jocko is a dumb or that I have a hero complex. And etc. Suggestion from my psychologist was not to talk about personal life at all. Do not touch personal topics. It's very hard for me because I am a very open man. I like to talk to people. I cannot simply spend 8 hours per day by just sitting and coding. It's not my way.
It's important to remember that they are not they, they are us, just in a different state of mind. I've been the possitive one most of my life, but there have definitely been moments in life where I was the negative one. Some are in a perpetual state of that mindset, but they are still us. Don't make them them. That's the important part. The further we make divides the more we encourage people to distance each other from one another.
This is why I love Echo, such a generous guy. Always handing out large, pre-taxed donations to random people in the comments, people he doesn't know, like me.
Ahhh omg my new boss is doing exactly that too me on my new contract job!! To be fair it works a treat. I'm not negative btw, really helped me enjoy my 1st day! Deffo feel like solid part of the team making me want to work harder as a result!
A lot of the time negative people are perfectionists who give up when they don't think they can get the perfect outcome. The challenge presented is to make them okay with a passing grade instead of an A. Because it's better to pass than it is to fail.
NO WAY!!! It's better to gradually work towards a perfectly satisfying, extremely rewarding, outcome...than by refusing to take action and do necessary things to achieve your wants, desires, interests, wishes, hopes, likes, fantasies and goals.
Toxic/negative people will slowly infect you and the team. If you are able to get rid of them, do so. If not, 'absorbing' their negativity is like playing with a nuclear reactor.
Jason Salistean it’s hard you could come off as to polite and they think you’re trying to insult them or they could just turn what you say into a negative it’s hard
I tend to ask those people, "What do you see, what did I miss" and that gives them an out but it also gives me an in with them. I totally disarm them in that moment.
I love the advice! One thing that I would like to ask is how would you counter people who are constantly saying negative things about themselves? This is on a similar vein for sure, but I think it's worth asking. Great video!
Negative emotion can bring as much happiness as positive emotion, if not more so. The problem is some people get addicted to negative emotion and use it as their sole source of happiness, especially when they're losing.
Wow, feel like I've sort of been doing this with some of my SSgt's without really realizing it, ha. Sort of a load of stress because I'm lower ranking but idk, it could make a positive change. Thanks you guys, good stuff right here
ive always done this. always try to stay positive cause everything that happens each second is happening cause it was supposed to happen, theres a reason. and i mean that as non religious as possible
I'm far from being a psychologist but what you are saying is spot on. It is how I think. I'm not saying I can execute like you do, but I sure agree with what you say. My opinion
In the late 70's there was a TV show based on the movie Operation Petticoat, Jim Varney played Seaman "Doom and Gloom" Broom, if I remember on one episode the sub lost power and was going too deep and he said "We're going to get squished like a can of rotten tomatoes." When some told him to think positive he said "I'm positive we're going to get squished like a can of rotten tomatoes." ;-)
Its super hard when its your son thats being negative. My son is 23 and works for me and is negative a lot, I try daily to help him see things in a positive light, but its super taxing sometimes.
Hi jocko, I like your podcasts, these are very good to listen and take action. Please, if you are able to put subtitles at least in english would be amazing. I am from Mexico. thanks
Jocko, I always need to use my discipline when I read negative comments about you and other guys haters make negative, unkind, comments about. Who I feel are like my family, and who I have decided it is way better for me to respect, care about and admire those I want to be like. "OK...don't get bent out of shape and lose my cool. I feel so angry that I know I WANT TO BEHAVE aggressively violently towards these guys dissing ..you and others I care about and won't resolve my anger issues if I handle things the wrong ways. Which won't solve the problems. What I will do instead is: BE DISCIPLINED. TAKE ACTION. EAT LESS CARBS. STAY HYDRATED. WORK OUT. DO CARDIO. IMPROVE MY PHYSIQUE. BE MY BEST. BE MORE TROUBLE TO EVIL BAD GUYS. FORGIVE MYSELF. MAKE MY LIFE BETTER. THANK YOU for helping me and being a terriffic Angelic Blessing in your own ways!!! I realize I need to accept and take responsibility for my health, my actions, my behaviors, thoughts and instead of complaining...do things to improve myself and my life. Be and physically look and improve my physical appearance so I will behave more like the guys I respect, admire and want to be exactly like. Modify and correct my own attitudes and behaviors to improve. Stop blaming these haters. Since I want to be aggressively physically violent towards them...but that won't solve my issues. Being disciplined, taking action by doing everything I need to do to get better will be: MORE EFFECTIVE HELPFUL JUST FAIR FEEL BETTER Allowing me to accomplish greatness. Take charge of making my life better. Because getting angry and not channeling that the right ways will only make everything worse instead of better. I WILL TAKE ACTION & DO WHAT I NEED TO SO I GET MYSELF TO WHERE I WANT TO BE.
Be careful if it’s someone you have to be around for a while, like parents. They may interpret this as you trying to be better than them or something, and might try to destroy you
Some people take your constructive criticism as you being a negative person. It’s hard for some people to distinguish negativity from actual criticism.
Watched this thinking I was gonna figure out how to deal with negative people and realized I’m just as negative as others just on a different subject matter 😂😂🤦🏼♂️🤦🏼♂️ very funny how dumb I was thank you for this man I’ll learn from this fr
See a negative person as a blessing, by improving your self-discipline not to get embroid in their negativity.
Sounds like a Stoic reading of the situation.
Well said. Check your ego at the door
Good strategy, whatever keeps you calm and able to think. 👍🏻
Agreed....I use negative people as a mirror to prevent negativity in myself....its quite empowering...for instance,.when I see road rage guy it reminds me not to be "that guy", and instead of becoming incensed I laugh inside at the spectacle "that guy" makes of himself.
Embroiled
Jocko is the only man who wears sunglasses to protect the sun from his eyes.
Connor Francis “GOOD”
Very nice 😂👌
shut up XD
Assim o juiz se uniu para ficar do lado dela e contra mim o juiz se unir para ficar do lado deles dela e contra mim então agora ele se une para matar ela que todos os juízes já tem todos os processos na mão que ela tá mentindo e que Ela montou e projetou minha vida tudo mentira todo juiz já tem as provas concretas na mão deles todos os juízes e todo mundo já tem as provas que eles confessaram que me deram eles confessa direto que me deram para o juiz e povo na rua então agora cabo juiz yunire para condenar ela juntar as peças toda todos juízo junta as peças toda da montagem que ela fez e pede para apresentar as provas se ela não tiver mata ela se vocês não mataram a decisão é de vocês eu vou mandar botar fogo no Congresso inteiro Vocês escolhe ou mata ela com vocês vai ficar aqui vai queimar o conversa de vocês para vocês acabar toda hora de vocês porque a sujeira tem que ser queimada e limpa
Eu minhas forças para isso para pegar o juiz corrupto que eu sabia que ia ter um monte por isso que eu não ia se fosse para pegar o juiz corrupto que eu sei que tem um monte no mundo inteiro tem um monte e aqueles que se uniram para fazer ficar contra mim sabe muito bem ciúme fazer da mesma forma julgar a pessoa que tá mentindo escolhe tenho dinheiro que ele escolher ou eles faz o correto eu infelizmente converso vai ser queimado porque a chuteira tem que ser limpa o jeito Tem que ser queimada tá ok sujou jogou debaixo do tapete vai ser queimado Agora se vocês não acredita Tô com a******** que você gosta d********* continua porque eu já tava fechando o circo e eu te garanto que não vou demorar muito não que eu não gosto de esperar muito eu não tenho tempo a perder não reagiu logo quanto mais rápido você fizer melhor porque eu não vou dar muito tempo para você não deu tempo eu já dei demais eu nem as forças para isso que eu sabia que ia encontrar uma escova para passar por cima dele por isso que é unir as forças que eu sei muito bem com quem eu tô mexendo por isso que eu não ia as forças que eu sei os lixos que tá no meio e vocês acha que eu não sei então continua p****** porque eu vou responder e não vou
This is why I love Jocko. He’s always positive, always spartan. He’s the guy I wanna be around when shit hits the fan.
And most importantly, I'd say, you also wanna become that guy.
@@aripmjr Anyone with any sense would.
May all the men who had weak fathers find an influence like this man
As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.
Proverbs 27:17
Definitely sent chills down my spine.
Am En E!
I repel negativity as if my life depended on it. This is helpful advice.
Your life does depend on it! Keep it up.
"Oh those people . . . "
That alone succinctly sums them up. You know the type, those that immediately came to mind when he said it, whoever they are for you lol
Back in the 90's and early 2000's all this information and techniques had to be found in a library in the psychology section. Jocko's podcast, as well as others, give such a wealth of knowledge in such a small amount of time. I've been mining this gold mine since podcast #1.
oh are you another one of those people who like an easy ride, need to be spoon fed. You obvioulsy diddnt get Jocko's philosphy. Good things take "time" and "effort" if that means going getting up going to the library, then so be it. I think there are tougher things than that.
@@TMGVideoDiaries Hey look, a negative person, lmao.
@@TMGVideoDiaries it's also about time management dummy, go ahead and waste precious hours hunting down that book I'll sit listen and ponder the wisdom he gives us and apply it to my life in less than an 30 min
Thank god for podcasts
Which is why we are in a world of misinformation where opinions are the new facts. Not being negative now😅
This is some mental judo.
I think he’s prefer “mental bjj” lol
Yeah, Aikido all of that negative force into a positive one. lol
A Survey of Metaphysics by E.J Lowe is mental BJJ.
Jiu jitsu
He hits it at the right spot. I too already dealt with negativity and found out that Jocko is right. Takes strength to take and absorb but not call them out on their negativity. Negative people dont believe they are negative!!!! I love this episode!!!!
"Come back to the light." lol that's awesome
I used to be that negative guy. I still struggle with it, but in my older years, I realize how much people avoid a person like me at all costs. It wasn't the fact that I was right or wrong; people just didn't want any part of the negativity. I appreciate people like Jocko who have tolerated people like me and helped me to become better. After all, acid does more damage to the vessel it is carried in, than whatever it's poured on.
Nice comment dude 👍 I know a few negative people and I know there is a better person behind the negativity, I guess you just try to help them see the positives and one day someday they might see the positives... even if it’s just for a little bit...
Without negative people, you have no way to gauge what is positive.
I have to do this on the daily with someone who works under me. It insane. Absorb and don't take it personally. Besides I think it is WAY more fun to hear them not get the response they wanted, then they have no idea where to go from there. When there is no resistance, there is no conflict.
. When there is no resistance, there is no conflict. yes
Amazing way of looking at it, ‘where there is no resistance there is no conflict’ , these are words to live by when dealing with these people 👏
My father is the most negative person I have ever met... I gotta get away
How though? Is he a bitch
Sometimes hard boundaries are necessary
Try applying Jocko's philosophy on this and you may find out that your father gave you more than you thought...
Dude, do what you need to to be happy in your life, I cut my dad out of mine three years ago and I've been succeeding on new levels since. Obviously our stories with them are probably very different but from someone who has taken that leap and has stuck to the decision for three years now, it feels alot better not having him and his issues he brought hanging over my head
@@ravenousmma1554 that sounds harsh, but a good decision to be made, better surround your with less negative people, but more true openness to see the world more clearly and in a better way for you
It's taken me years to learn how to deal with negative people...I'm talking about people I have been involved with for years...Mostly family..They refuse to change...Sometime you have to just eliminate them...
I'm stuck on this. What if a family member is loving, amazing, thoughtful and has dedicated their life to you yet they are negative as negative can be.
My mother will go from family member to family member picking pointless fights. A big part of it is mental issues. I love my mother more than anything so cutting her from my life is not an option.
I try to go a week at a time without talking to her but that hurts me too because she has no friends or anyone to talk to. She doesn't work so she doesn't leave her house.
It's a tough situation.
I'm a Strong believer in never giving up on family. And having kids of my own now I see how much dedication it takes to be a parent so I can't dismiss the life my parents provided me. I feel.like there is no perfect answer. Just try my best to see the best in her and one day when she dies hopefully I won't regret anything.
@@carpentryfirst3048 Sounds like she has some other qualities that will out weigh the bad...
@@northface484 I don't know. The. bad is bad but she was an amazing mother growing up. Mental health and depression.os the issue I believe. So hard to know what the right thing to do is. I have walked away from friends and relationships when they became toxic but a close family member is a tough one. My biggest fear is when she is gone and thinking that I just let the last years go without trying. Guess there is no right answer.
Everyone has a reason to see things through dark lenses. If you can see things through his dark lense and fortify your own will, you just learned how to win.
Perfect mate!
Jeffrey Stewart why can’t I remember this stuff when I’m out at work or social stuff
Walk away and don't give them the time of day. They are addicted to conflict and will cause caustic and toxic situations to prove themselves right, as they live their lives in a self fulfilling prophecy.
Yup
So true.
Facts
I learned the hard way to cut my losses with anyone who doesn't take an olive branch / chance to grow. Yet if you have to deal with them, this is a good backup plan.
Tbf, these people generally became negative like that because people kept walking out on them since they were a child.
Only things that can change them are death or to show them you're not like the rest, usually their biggest wish is to be proven wrong tbh.
Thank you. This is a great way to react. I’ve found myself apologizing and trying to take on other people’s emotions when I’m confronted with negativity. This is a much better way to redirect the energy rather than to take it as a personal attack.
I agree this is a great approach, negative people are like leeches.
Became a manager at my job recently and this video is going to help me a lot. Quite a few angsty teenagers that are very negative and you're completely right. They just want that little explosion, but it is time to use their negative energy and turn it into positive!
These are great tactics to use with negative students in the classroom. 👍
Holly White I’ve been applying them with my coaching and I’ve seen improvement 🙌🏻
Thank you for an excellent piece of advice. I am a bus operator in a public transportation field and deal with negative and on the defense people. I have lashed back at them only to find an escalated situation. Humor them with their better way of thinking and as you say turn the situation around. When people feel they have gotten their way they become more cooperative and less confrontational!
“Oh those people” I do not ever want to be “one of those people” with jocko peering into my soul
Do you have a topic for dealing with toxic n negative family? It’s easier with “people” but how do you deal with negative family?
Jocko has a good handle on this. Some negative people are looking for the bomb but some people are just concerned types looking to be heard. His choice of action provides a little comfort for the cautious that they have been heard and that can at times embolden them.
He isn't looking to "wrek" people he is looking to build them up. This is awesome and something we need a lot more of.
Thanks to you sir. I'm getting after it 🤘
And shave that head bold.
You have to play the “ push and pull” method with these individuals. Don’t make yourself easily predictable. Play into their disinterests as a strategy to gain insight into their weaknesses and use it against them covertly
Jocko per usual you're saving lives with these lessons.
I continue to listen to these and not only do I learn, and really listen, and sometimes write stuff down, I always laugh. Thank you
I've been like that & what Jocko says is spot on. Really cool of you to "Bring people back to the light", good on you man. All these people talking about "just ignore them" are completely wrong - you're not obligated to be nice to people who are negative, or give them the time of day...but ignoring them certainty does nothing to help change them. Setting a badass example and having the Roger That (google David Goggins) attitude can make them think "damn that person's got it squared away - I want to be like that". Thanks you to all you people who deal with negative people and try to help them rather than ignoring them/leaving them in the dust, it takes guts to do that.
That is a great approach
Very helpful!! "You just got deflected!" love it...thank you!
I used this to such good effect that the person no longer contacts me. Thanks Jocko.
I had to search this because of some personal things I experienced in the navy and wow what an insight. This will really help.
Hey guys, Love the podcast and everything you do. Marine Corps OIF veteran here. This message is very useful for people you encounter on a regular basis. How about defusing an agitated person who has turned aggressive but hasn't taken physical actions. This was a recent experience that occurred after a traffic accident.
Seals we some of the nicest, calm, and cool dudes I’ve ever met in my life... always trying to pass it forward.
I remember during the fight for Sadr City in 2004. My squad was on the move. Conventional army movements, ducking and diving behind cover and concealment at every opportunity. Bullets and explosions everywhere. Behind us from down the road walk these two seals. Just kind of give us that nod like, “what’s up”. I’ll never forget that day. It’s all about respect.
Then if you really respect the Navy SEALS, and other special ops soldiers what are you doing and are in the process of doing in order for you to accomplish "Making yesterday jealous"??
Jennifer Dana I do not intend on making yesterday jealous. Yesterday already happened, I’m looking ahead to tomorrow and paving the way for tomorrow’s success.
@@jenniferdana5665 lol ur a clown
@@danthaman7777 I did 20 slow rep push-ups today. Sonny Puzikas said, "If you want to be a warrior, do 20 slow rep push-ups every day." How many slow rep push-ups did you do today?"
@@jenniferdana5665 - That's quite the mini work out lol.
Awesome!! Thank you for another excellent podcast 🙌
Thanks for your no nonsense message. You remind me of my leadership in my Marine ANGLICO unit that got disbanded. Great mentors. Was in from 99-2003 with 3rd Marine Div. Kaneohe Bay. I worked with some of the SDV guys at Pearl Harbor on a couple FX such as RIMPAC. Off the USS Boxer.
That’s amazing advice! Thank you Jocko. You the man.
The idea of creating a positive self fulfilling prophecy in a teammate has never crosses my mind, but in retrospection now realize the impact that strategy has had on my own development. Hot damn, that’s some quality leadership advice.
This is such great knowledge to have! Thank you! I've been wondering how to combat this sort of attitude for a while.
Looking at things detached and realistically works best for me. Not positive, not negative.... but how they are.
These are very good pieces of advice. I work in an IT company where MANY people have negative vision. I guess it's part of developers mentality.
And now I see which mistake I did. I overreact. It draws me out. When you debate with a person whose primary concern is to make you feel bad do not connect emotionally. It's very hard. Especially for people like me. I am very emotional. And they use it. Against me. As a result, I feel tired. They just suck energy from me.
All positive things are not relevant to them. Some of them very weak. They don't train, learn and love. Some of them are alone at their 30s. And every time when I start a small conversation about bjj or Jocko's podcast they laugh at it and say that Jocko is a dumb or that I have a hero complex. And etc.
Suggestion from my psychologist was not to talk about personal life at all. Do not touch personal topics. It's very hard for me because I am a very open man. I like to talk to people. I cannot simply spend 8 hours per day by just sitting and coding. It's not my way.
It's important to remember that they are not they, they are us, just in a different state of mind. I've been the possitive one most of my life, but there have definitely been moments in life where I was the negative one. Some are in a perpetual state of that mindset, but they are still us. Don't make them them. That's the important part. The further we make divides the more we encourage people to distance each other from one another.
Sonny Brown So true. And some of us don’t want to stay negative. Learning to not fall into those old habits is not easy.
Nah
Individuals are individuals you are who you are, life is full of choices.
This guy is a genius. He literally has a good response for EVERYTHING.
I start my day with listening to u , u make my day .thank u
y t u welcum
I'm humbled by this guy :o
This is why I love Echo, such a generous guy. Always handing out large, pre-taxed donations to random people in the comments, people he doesn't know, like me.
If only I found this before. I got one of the most negative coworker everrrr. Glass half empty kinda person.
"oh those people".. This is everyone I work with.
Thank you jocko I been overreacting sometimes and I realized I just gotta absorb and deflect thx.
Your response to this was a little surprising at first, but then I got it. Thank you.
Ahhh omg my new boss is doing exactly that too me on my new contract job!! To be fair it works a treat. I'm not negative btw, really helped me enjoy my 1st day! Deffo feel like solid part of the team making me want to work harder as a result!
OMG your channel. Emotionally lifesaving.
Thanks from France sir !
A lot of the time negative people are perfectionists who give up when they don't think they can get the perfect outcome. The challenge presented is to make them okay with a passing grade instead of an A. Because it's better to pass than it is to fail.
NO WAY!!!
It's better to gradually work towards a perfectly satisfying, extremely rewarding, outcome...than by refusing to take action and do necessary things to achieve your wants, desires, interests, wishes, hopes, likes, fantasies and goals.
Toxic/negative people will slowly infect you and the team.
If you are able to get rid of them, do so.
If not, 'absorbing' their negativity is like playing with a nuclear reactor.
The deflecting is easy the complimenting negative people in the workplace is what I struggle with.
Jason Salistean it’s hard you could come off as to polite and they think you’re trying to insult them or they could just turn what you say into a negative it’s hard
I wish I had more leaders like Jocko in the past.
I really want to do this stuff, thanks J
Jocko goes to a war to relax 💪
As someone who can be too negative on the job, he's 100% right. That stuff would totally work on me.
Explain and share how you feel and why. Jocko Willink does. In his own way. 😊😎👍👍👍👍
you're great! and make me smile.
Simplify and amplify, great method gunna use
I tend to ask those people, "What do you see, what did I miss" and that gives them an out but it also gives me an in with them. I totally disarm them in that moment.
I love the advice! One thing that I would like to ask is how would you counter people who are constantly saying negative things about themselves? This is on a similar vein for sure, but I think it's worth asking. Great video!
Oh man. This is exactly what I'm doing right now with people :-D
God i needed to hear this.
Negative emotion can bring as much happiness as positive emotion, if not more so. The problem is some people get addicted to negative emotion and use it as their sole source of happiness, especially when they're losing.
Nice gameplan! Will try this next time !! Thanks for sharing!!!
Talksserious sence
Cant believe only came across Jocko within last week r 2 ,savage stuff.
Wow, feel like I've sort of been doing this with some of my SSgt's without really realizing it, ha. Sort of a load of stress because I'm lower ranking but idk, it could make a positive change. Thanks you guys, good stuff right here
Excellent leadership.
These are always spot on with what is going on in my life thanks for the upload JOCKO
Jocko is always on the money
This is great! Jocko is fantastic.
How do you deal with negativity disguised as humor? I am afraid I will encourage it if I absorb it.
ive always done this. always try to stay positive cause everything that happens each second is happening cause it was supposed to happen, theres a reason. and i mean that as non religious as possible
Watching jocko during chem exam... GOOD GET SOME
must be talking about my boss. thanks jocko!!
I'm far from being a psychologist but what you are saying is spot on. It is how I think. I'm not saying I can execute like you do, but I sure agree with what you say. My opinion
In the late 70's there was a TV show based on the movie Operation Petticoat, Jim Varney played Seaman "Doom and Gloom" Broom, if I remember on one episode the sub lost power and was going too deep and he said "We're going to get squished like a can of rotten tomatoes." When some told him to think positive he said "I'm positive we're going to get squished like a can of rotten tomatoes." ;-)
Could have used his advice in high school. Mentally tough.
I DEAL WITH NEGATIVE PEOPLE ALL THE TIME...
NO PROBLEM
BUT I DO HAVE A PROBLEM DEALING WITH PEOPLE WITH SKINNY KNEES
Hahahahahaha
It's so overused that it starts to getting funny again :D
What’s wrong with skinny knees lolol I’m a real skinny guy fast metabolism
unironically excellent advice
Some folks NEED to express and push negativity on others.To make their “pain” make sense.
That's unexcusable though
Wow Awesome approach
Its super hard when its your son thats being negative.
My son is 23 and works for me and is negative a lot, I try daily to help him see things in a positive light, but its super taxing sometimes.
Hi jocko, I like your podcasts, these are very good to listen and take action. Please, if you are able to put subtitles at least in english would be amazing. I am from Mexico. thanks
This makes perfect sense
Real, effective and simple. 👍👍
Jocko,
I always need to use my discipline when I read negative comments about you and other guys haters make negative, unkind, comments about. Who I feel are like my family, and who I have decided it is way better for me to respect, care about and admire those I want to be like.
"OK...don't get bent out of shape and lose my cool. I feel so angry that I know I WANT TO BEHAVE aggressively violently towards these guys dissing ..you and others I care about and won't resolve my anger issues if I handle things the wrong ways. Which won't solve the problems.
What I will do instead is:
BE DISCIPLINED.
TAKE ACTION.
EAT LESS CARBS.
STAY HYDRATED.
WORK OUT.
DO CARDIO.
IMPROVE MY PHYSIQUE.
BE MY BEST.
BE MORE TROUBLE TO EVIL BAD GUYS.
FORGIVE MYSELF.
MAKE MY LIFE BETTER.
THANK YOU for helping me and being a terriffic Angelic Blessing in your own ways!!!
I realize I need to accept and take responsibility for my health, my actions, my behaviors, thoughts and instead of complaining...do things to improve myself and my life.
Be and physically look and improve my physical appearance so I will behave more like the guys I respect, admire and want to be exactly like.
Modify and correct my own attitudes and behaviors to improve. Stop blaming these haters. Since I want to be aggressively physically violent towards them...but that won't solve my issues. Being disciplined, taking action by doing everything I need to do to get better will be:
MORE EFFECTIVE
HELPFUL
JUST
FAIR
FEEL BETTER
Allowing me to accomplish greatness. Take charge of making my life better.
Because getting angry and not channeling that the right ways will only make everything worse instead of better.
I WILL TAKE ACTION & DO WHAT I NEED TO SO I GET MYSELF TO WHERE I WANT TO BE.
Your brilliant Jocko.
I want this man's discipline and command
/khyati // start workin’
Take action and behave in ways Jocko speaks of.
Be careful if it’s someone you have to be around for a while, like parents. They may interpret this as you trying to be better than them or something, and might try to destroy you
Some people take your constructive criticism as you being a negative person. It’s hard for some people to distinguish negativity from actual criticism.
thank u,,, good stuff,,,,
Watched this thinking I was gonna figure out how to deal with negative people and realized I’m just as negative as others just on a different subject matter 😂😂🤦🏼♂️🤦🏼♂️ very funny how dumb I was thank you for this man I’ll learn from this fr
Factssssssss
Sir yes sir!
To reach success one has to go through C.R.A.P. Which stands for criticism, rejection, assholes, and pressure.
Good presentation jocko willink in abu dhabi school.
I really enjoyed it.
Stay away from negative people...they will never EVER change= its who they are
mont john ah, what a positive comment
@@stevebean1234 hahaha yes or no but its the truth......
mont john, they can change. People can change.