How to Save Your Marriage When Your Spouse Is Unwilling (NEW!)
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Can you save your marriage right now even if your spouse is unwilling to do so? And if it is possible, how do you rebuild your marriage so it becomes stronger than ever?
How’s it going, CZcams! Brad Browning here. It’s been awhile since I released a marriage saving video so I decided to make one on one of the most asked about marriage topics - how to save your marriage when your spouse is unwilling to do so.
As you know, marital issues can be extremely complex. They can range from issues relating to sex, children, money, family, intimacy, and a whole wad of other things I probably haven’t listed yet… but there are a few key things that you can do right now to improve the situation with your spouse. Of course, fixing a marriage takes time, so I can’t promise that these techniques will fix your marriage overnight (it probably won’t), but I can assure you with enough time and effort, you’ll be able to turn the tide.
So take your pencils and paper out to take notes because what I’m about to reveal in this video might help save your marriage (and your family).
First, I’m going to go over some things you should NOT do… number one, you should never make the situation worse by inciting arguments and disputes. Although in order to mend your marriage fully, you both have to communicate your issues in the marriage. However, bringing up an extremely touchy subject when things are going really poorly will probably only makes matter worse.
Second, now is not the time to be overly emotional about everything. When your marriage is on the rocks, it can be stressful, but do your best to keep a straight face and concentrate on how you can actually improve your situation.
Third, don’t make fixing your marriage about fixing your spouse. Although it takes two to tango, right now you need to concentrate on yourself… everything else will fall into place later on. - Jak na to + styl
I followed many of your tips and strategies and I have seen a dramatic change in my husband. There was a point when I didn't think we were going to make it. But after realizing that I needed to focus on myself and to not come across as needy I was able to help him remember the better times by being more positive and preventing arguments. He actually told a family member he is grateful to have a spouse like me after seeing a few close friends recently go through ugly divorces. I just wanted to come back and say thank you for sharing your tips.
Did you get brads program? I need some type of hope....my wife says she is not in love with me anymore and wants to be done. We have been together 12 years and married 5 in august. we have 3 kids. I cant see how you fall out of love with someone.
I love your videos. You inspire me to have faith. Everything your saying makes sense and i hope to apply this on my marriage! We are going through a “phase” right now, and it’s been difficult, after watching your videos i am inspired to try harder. I was told god allow things to happen because he has a reason, and you’re tested on how much love you can render or sacrifice for that person.
Great! Hey you never know who else can benefit, so if it’s not too much to ask and if you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)
as from today I'll always follow you,Am so grateful to hear this thanks u👌
I appreciate the support. If it’s not too much to ask and if you haven’t done so yet, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it, too! :-)
What if like my husband he does not appreciate good things I am doing for him. Like the ways I try to be sweet thoughtful ,etc. Eventhough on my side I always appreciate what he does for me even the little things
He may have no idea as to how you're feeling. Have you tried the age-old technique to solve problems, like communicating? :-) Say something like "Honey, I feel better if you (insert what you do here)." Watch this, too: czcams.com/video/HYmw5TK4zhc/video.html
Charles Vidallon my boyfriend does not notice or appreciate me too also he refuses to communicate
my husband recently told me he doesn't love me anymore and doesn't want to to work on it hes been talking to girls online he claims I'm too needy and needs his space if I'm trying to work on it do I try to invite to do things with me on our days off or do wait for him to ask when trying to fix marriage
When has he started becoming distant? If it's fairly recent, it may not be such a good idea to invite him to do stuff. The man needs his space for whatever reason, so for now, focus on your own life first and try not to mind him as much. This will help you since his main complaint is you've become too clingy. All right? Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
So brad !! I was sceptical at first tough it was just my immediate emotions an desperation that I was feeling this way so I waited a couple weeks before I bought your program.i got it yesterday read an listen to it twice an it made me feel 100percent better I already applied things I learnt I'm currently still in the no contact but I think when the time comes I'll will be ready an if it doesn't work out I already know an I still will be 100satisfied ! Question will I use the same tactics if she is seeing someone else? An should I appply these when I know she is not around him ? Thanks...!!!
Hi Evan! That's great! I’m glad you now have the tools to guide you on what to do. Now I know it's difficult (and it's a different challenge all on its own) but try to follow the guide down to a tee, yes, even with her possibly rebounding with someone else, all right? Read it many times over until you master it. Take care!
Hi Brad!
My husband walked out on my daughter and I approximately 4 months ago. Over the past weekend, we were able to finally sit down and talk over dinner. I feel more confused than ever. He gave me no concrete answers to any of my questions. He just contradicted himself consistently. Now, feeling that he truthfully does not hate me, I feel that there is a chance he does want our relationship to work, but again I am not sure. I would do anything to have my marriage work out. I truly do love him. I tried not to show ANY emotion when he left, because I was so hurt that he could walk out on his wife and daughter that I did not think that he deserved to make me an emotional wreck. Therefore, I stayed so strong the whole time. However, I was slightly emotional on Saturday evening when we met for dinner. I got choked up and teary eyed a few times, but I was not an emotional wreck. I tried to stay well put together throughout dinner. I have been going to therapy since he left. He states that he has too. We tried couples therapy in May/June, but I quit going because he never allowed me to discuss anything that I wanted. PLEASE help! Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
The process of saving one's marriage is a bit complicated but this is why I've released a second book called Mend the Marriage. Check it out at www.marriageguy.com as everything is on there, from how to communicate more effectively, down to how to handle the kids (if applicable), monitor your progress through worksheets and stuff. These videos are for you, too: y2u.be/ij6__SVcMW8 and y2u.be/z262BzLvwAk or sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program at www.marriageguy.com/coaching Take care!
love everything you said about getting yourself healthy, to work on yourself
I'm glad you agree! :-)
brad browning not being able to acess your ex factor book. please help me
Hey brad, I have played no contact for 5 days, she messaged me yesterday night and this morning. The text this morning said 'hi :(' then said 'I'm missing something' and how am I doing. I told her I was doing amazing and I am living life to the fullest. She didn't reply... am I doing this right? and what is my plan now?
Thank you for replying to my last comment btw, I would buy your stuff but I'm freaking broke rn.
(Also, just adding on, she didn't reply but then she posted a status saying (time changes everything, head up) so I sent one small message 'Hope your okay'. Did I f*** up?)
It's still important to put the "no contact" rule into priority because if you've been in touch after the breakup too soon, then you BOTH aren't taking the time to process the breakup and been acting like it hadn't happened. Burying the problems which had caused the breakup in the first place is the first step towards a doomed relationship. Make sense now? Sign up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed, then guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
My husband wants to leave me after 28 y of mariagge. He madly fell in love wirh a younger woman. I am devastated.
That sucks! Sorry to hear it. How long has it been since things have been rocky? When did all the trouble started and what has caused it? These may help: y2u.be/WU0yhd3ADXU and y2u.be/W_vzHFqnasM but it's really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation... Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Hey Brad ... nice to meet you! 🙂 I broke up with my "ex" 🙂 and i tried to make the NC rule i block on fb and number and everything but it was difficuly bcz he start to write on fb friends and said very bad things about me unreal things only lies.... i talk to him but in a very badly way. Then after all this crazyness he just stop right away. Its been 3 weeks with the real NC rule... and its another problem: he has a real problem with depression he is on meds and its not at his first depression i think its the third every time he is breaking up with someone he is going through this so I think he is mentally instabil. And I think he is already dating with someone else,but still he posted a sad song few days ago,i dont know what to think. He is taking also medicine with serotonine so I dont know but it may have some effects that he is happy with that someone else and he stop thinking about me? I dont know what to do. It hurts me that he moved on and i dont know what to do. Should i let this go? its hard but i will try or should i wait a lit bit? I HOPE YOU WILL READ THIS BCZ I REALLY NEED IT plsss IM BEGGING YOUUUU😢😢😢
Hello, Dill Mill Gaye! There's really no need to block your ex though, that should be your last resort. If he has (clinical) depression though, then the most loving thing you can do in return is to give each other space while he/she gets help. Encourage your ex to seek treatment because clinical depression is something only a therapist specializing on this can handle, even this is outside of my scope. But I can help you how to handle things on YOUR end as you go through this difficult ordeal. I know it can be incredibly tough knowing you’ve given it your best shot, yet your partner still fails to appreciate it or is breaking up despite it being a good relationship. Anyway it's a bad idea to be friends. Consider signing up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed, then guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hello Brad and thks a lot for your response. He is taking treatment after we broke up...with some serotonine and others. I blocked him bcz he was sending me bad messages now i cant reverse this. But i think he is getting better and he is dating others womens. SO THIS NC RULE IS NOT WORKING FOR ME.... :(
I have learned a lot from your videos. I'm just a little bit worried that it's too late. My husband has already left and he has been gone for going on 4 weeks now. We have been married for 28 years and spent all of our time together. We did the date nights and we did the adventures because we bought a Harley not too long ago and he would surprise me with trips at least twice a month until he started working at Harley Davidson and we stopped taking our trips. I tried to get him to take more trips with me but he was so interested in working at Harley and selling bikes because he was good at it that he didn't take much time off for us anymore . He treated me like a queen at one time actually for most of our marriage and he has always been my king. Then we started having problems with disciplining the kids. I know I was wrong in the way I handled things and I tried to fix them but he said he needed his time and space anyway and I really didn't think he would move out but he did. I did the whole pleading and begging and everything you say not to do but now I am trying the 30 day no contact. It is a little more difficult because we have 3 kids together. They are older and one has already moved out but I'm not sure if the 30 day no contact is right for us. He does not consider himself married. He stopped wearing his ring long before he moved out. In fact, he says he has lost all feeling for me other than friendship. This has been the most difficult thing ever because we were so close and I still consider him my soulmate. I know that he is the one I'm supposed to be with. He doesn't want to be married anymore and said that if he stayed he would probably not be alive. I don't understand why he feels so strongly about this. I know we have had our issues but we have always been able to work them out and this time instead of trying to he left. During the time that I was pleading with him I tried talking to him about our relationship and he would always cry but he would not talk anymore and he would tell me that he couldn't and that he was only crying because he didn't feel the way he used to. I guess I just need to know if the 30 day no contact is appropriate for us and if it will work. Out of all the people in this world he was the one that I trusted the most. I have been completely blindsided because I never ever expected that anything like this would ever happen. We were the couple that everyone wanted to be like and when we went out together everyone thought we were Newlyweds. Also, this was not just in public we would always gross the kids out from kissing all the time and hugging and just being close so I really don't know what happened and he won't talk about it. Any advice that you could give me would help tremendously. Thank you!
Sorry to hear about what happened. I suggest you stop any pleading or begging though. I know it must be hard for you but muster the control never to do those again, okay? How's your sex life with him prior to things coming to an end? 28 years is a long time and it's not uncommon for sex to become routine. You may want to try out the few tips here: czcams.com/video/c7_0PxvHDmU/video.html Now please don't get me wrong. I'm not saying sex is the problem, but it could've been a contributing factor. I wouldn't know for sure, though. Consider signing up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Brad Browning Thank yoi so much for taking the time to answer me. I will definitely check that out. We actually had a very active sex life, until a few months ago. Then he started getting distant.
hey brad,
i was in relationship for 6 months everything was going good.. sometimes we had fights but that use to geth sought out ... then after six months things got changed .. simply we use to have fight as my boy frnds friends use to always talk ill about me and they had been doing it since we got into relationship... they said him that i was in a realtionship with the other guy before him and shit like that ... but truth is was not dating anyone but ya was pretty close and we had flirty talks to.....
one day sudeenly he said we cant be in relationship anymore .... few months went then he approched and we got back it was fine for 2 months again ... smthng struck in is mind and he said no i dont think so we can get married as my parents wont really agree for it .... then months went .... both our families ended up in same trip ... we had great time together ... but he always said we cant get married ... after trip we spoke for a month and again stopped..... then again i just randomly texted one of ur texts to him... later after 2 3 days he himself texted me called me spoke we again started flirting .... we planned and we met then ... the day we met he said see really we cant get married to be very honest its almost more than a year now i think i dont have any such feelings for you .... as i think my friends have put so much things about you that i really cant forget about those things..... but i really take u as my good friend.... we dint speak for months but i had always been concerned to know wat r u doing in ur life ... i take u as my very close frnd and i dont wana loose u as a frnd ... but sry we cant get married ... .
wat do u think wat do u think does he really love me and oly trying to test me or i shld move on
I'm not sure where his talk about "getting married" comes from and why he seems to be emphasizing it... when you're both still under your own parents care? He may not have the necessary skills to progress things further with you, especially if he was so quick to believe his friends and basically making a mountain out of a molehill. Consider moving on from this. Whatever the case may be, act responsibly yet try not to take things too seriously now since you may be in a period of growth and lots of changes, including preferences in attitude, personality, etc. Focus on your studies instead, all right? Take care!
Hey Brad i love your videos...do you cover marriage that has drinking problems?
Thanks, Andrea! Who has a drinking problem and how severe has it gotten? I'm not exactly an AA counselor, but I can help you get your marriage back on the right track, if that's what you're asking.
My husband has a drinking problem but he doesn’t think so. He drinks almost every day and get very angry when he is drinking. He doesn’t physically abuse me but does verbally abuse me…we been separated for almost a year now due to this. We have a horrible communication problem and a lot of hurt feelings/resentment. We have a long history... too long to explain here. I love him dearly and feel very sad but I’m thinking to call it quits because he is not willing to look for help for his alcohol abuse. Our wedding anniversary is this month :(
Hi Brad,
My husband of 4 years said he wanted a divorce 6 days ago. I have not cried in front of him or let him know I’m dying inside. We still live together (with my mother and father in law). We are sleeping in separate rooms but still in the same home (he knows that I have no where else to go and doesn’t want to throw me out). I let him know that I realize my faults and that I should have been kinder to him. He opened up and told me that he felt unhappy because of my depression. He said that even though he is opening up with his feelings this does not mean we are getting back together. What do I do? How do we act in the house? I stopped texting him and just see him at home. When I see him I smile and laugh and just act like I’m okay. Is this wrong? I know he’d rather I move out but I can’t right now due to finances. I just need some guidance going into my second week of this nightmare. He is not seeing anyone, he just didn’t enjoy our fighting.
Hi
My husband said it was over 2 months ago. He never left our bedroom even though he has a bed in his office. He wants to spend more time with me then before. I have changed some things that I really needed to. When I ask him how he’s feeling about the marriage now he says he’s afraid things will go back to how they were and that we aren’t good for each other. So confused? Do I just move on ? He is somewhat standoffish but all in all really kind too me still.
Sorry to hear that. What happened, though? When did all the trouble started and what has caused it? These are my top two marriage videos which may help: y2u.be/WU0yhd3ADXU and y2u.be/W_vzHFqnasM but it's really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation... Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Hi, Brad! I think I have a little bit different case. PLEASE HELP ME! My boyfriend and I haven't broken up yet. It's been a little less than a month since the last time we met. Everything was really good. But a few days after he started being cold, stopped texting and calling. I emotionally exploded one time on the phone and I complained about his lack of attention. Now that I've been watching your videos I understand that doing that was a big mistake cuz I seemed needy and desperate. After that he turned even colder and distant. I tried to give him space and time but continued to text him once a day or so.
Finally, last Thursday he called me and said that he was going through changes in his life and that he wanted to be alone in the process (he's a singer song writer and is finally starting to make money out of it). But he didn't break up with me directly. He offered me to be friends and I somewhat accepted. But then I watched your videos and decided to disappear, but I didn't know if I should start the No Contact phase since we hadn't broken up yet. The thing is, a coulpe of hours after that call I decided to change my wapp picture where we were together for one in wich I was alone. He immediately called me and asked why I did that, started saying that he missed me, etc. I didn't get it.
So, the next day (friday) I didn't text him at all, he called me 3 times but I didn't answer. He didn't called me again but Saturday he texted me late at night. He said he knew that I saw his calls and dind't called him back, that he was calling cause he wanted to invite me to a country house for the weekend, "to be together", he said. He started showing all the signs that you've mentioned. He said: "I want to know something. You don't want to know anything about me nor be with me, right?" and also asked if I was already dating someone else, that it hurted him that I didn't call him back and not to know who was taking my pictures (I sahred a few pics on instagram that obviously someone else took), he said that he missed me and wanted to see me. I accepted after making him wait a few minutes in a very indifferent way.
So, he came back on Monday but didn't called me. He called me on Tuesday morning, asked how I was doing, said "I love you", called me "love", said that he was feeling kinda bad about the distance between us but didn't say anything about meeting.
I don't know what I'm supposed to do when we meet. If he brings up the relationship issue, what do I do? I want to be with him, but this is the 2nd time he "breaks up" with me when he's feeling financial pressure. Hard times are supposed to make us stronger. I don't want this to happen again. I think we should talk about it to make things clear, but... should I tell him that on this first time or should I wait? If he brings up the issue of going on with the relationship... I don't want to be so easy, but I want to keep his interest. (We've been togehter for almost 2 years now and had a bunch of plans together).
Also idk if being so indifferent at this point might cause that he thinks that going on is not worth it, I'm afraid he interprets that I'm not interested anymore and stop trying.
Oh, God, please help me! PLEASEEEE!!!
Isabel, at this point, try to live in the present so you won't overwhelm yourself, okay? Take it one day at a time. :-) Since the breakup (him saying he wants to be alone means he needs space) is really fresh, try not to think too far ahead. Instead give yourself space first so you can take time to heal. And let him think clearly in the process as well. A plethora of emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, watch it to learn a few tips to understand your situation better: czcams.com/video/RN6ndJZ0J-w/video.html
hi brad. this is very helpful advice and i 100 percent agree with all of it but i struggle more wih the how than the what. even though i know the not to dos cold, i always find myself slipping, especially with.not.letting things go and trying to talk them out, convincing myself they wont become an arguement (they always do). do you have any specific tips on how to let something go without it becoming the elephant in the room and being awkward for days? thats my husbands method.but i always found it alot less healthy than talking it out... any middle ground?
If you're looking to talk it out, then try to find a positive outlet for letting go of things you should be letting go. If you think this is something that really needs to be discussed with him, then you can attempt to bring up the topic BUT make sure you don't nag him, and try to see that issue isn't a recurring one. If you find yourself trying to talk to him about the same topics over and over again, then there could be something deeper going on here. But it's really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation... Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Hi I am going through a breakup with my wife of 13 years. I never cheated with another women but have lied and betrayed in other ways. Such as not telling her where I was when I was in places she wouldn't of approved. Being other places when she thought I was at work. Partying and hanging out with the wrong people. Talking and flirting with girls even though cheating never happened.
She feels emotionally betrayed. She has been dealing with this for sometime now, almost two years. I was ignorant to what was going on in her mind because she never really expressed how bad it was and still continued showing love. I thought nothing was wrong. She has tried throughout the last couple years to forget but cannot and it has grown to her falling out of love with me. Meanwhile all that time I made the changes to be better to her and I stop that behavior. It was a slow process but now I am the best version of myself and she says its to late. I am and have been sweet to her, kind, respectful and super loving. I also I'm a bit of a neat freak so I take care of all the house duties and I'm great, have always been great to our kids.
She says she still loves me but is not in love with me. Now she WANTS to end our marriage, get a divorce and start a new chapter in her life. She says she wants to be alone! She won't even see a marriage counselor, i've tried. She simply has fallen slowly out of love with me. I love my wife I want her back. This women has been the best women to me in my life, she has loved me so hard and I'm still in shock that this is even happening to me.
Please help I want my soul mate back and I know she still loves me - I feel she is just lost and has convinced herself otherwise.
Eric
What were those places she don't approve of and was she being reasonable? Flirting is still considered emotional cheating, man, it's best not to downplay it. After all, it's no news that some folks leave their spouses last minute if that flirting escalated and plans were made. Help her heal her old wound by apologizing and never downplaying the issue. After that you can then proceed to work on rebuilding trust with her. Watch this: czcams.com/video/FNa8nYnposM/video.html Good luck!
Hey brad I took the quiz the thing about my situation Is that he is in the military he and i don’t live together , we are in a way long distant relationship. He is very positive about being done . He has been going out a lot more. He wanted to work things out but he got upset when we talked cause he though I didn’t care about his dad passing away because I said “weeks” which is true it was weeks but I don’t want this marriage to end he told me not to get my hopes up. He is unwilling to try or even fight because he thinks he has fought long hard enough(we have been married for almost a year). He says he doesn’t see a future with me anymore I don’t know what to do.
Give him time because he's out there doing something very noble. Having patience helps and showing your support to him by being understanding, will get you far. :-) Right now he's clearly grieving both about the loss of his dad and recently you. It takes a lot to process these things. Again, let him calm down first. ;) These may help: y2u.be/WU0yhd3ADXU and y2u.be/W_vzHFqnasM but it's really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation... Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
hello brad..what if my husband cheated on me and he's the one to stop our communication..but he send me email sometimes..by the way we are married for 14yrs have 2 kids but we are LDR for 4years.. is the no contact is the best way i can do?
My spouse had mentioned wanting a divorce. There's been some bad fights and infidelity and possibly control issues. I haven't always been nice. But I'm still fighting until it's final. I've compromised on the housekeeping. Normally it was so hard for me because I allowed my depression and anxiety to control me. He's noticed. We just started seeing a marital therapist ... I think his goal was to find peace and bury the hatchet on some things. But it'sgood that we're going. Could it help us reconcile? I'm doing the love dare. Reading a few books by John Gottman. Watching your videos and also videos from Marriage Helper. What else can I do? Is it too late?
Sorry to hear that. Has the divorce been finalized? When did all the trouble started and what has caused it? These are my top two marriage videos which may help: y2u.be/WU0yhd3ADXU and y2u.be/W_vzHFqnasM but it's really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation... Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Hey Brad! My exgirlfriend broke up with me 2 months ago. we were together for almost 2 years and now she just found a new guy a few weeks before and she already showed him to her mom and they started to have sex now. pls help me what should i do? I begged a little bit few times before and she has big trust issues and doesnt want to speak with me and she blocked me. I applied no contact rule more than a week before but idk and im afraid if this new guy is a rebound. I saw your videos about rebounds and contacting ex gf after no contact but idk. pls what should i do? may i contact her after after 30 days or more if she will have this new guy or just wait? we didnt see each other more than 2 months.
It’s most likely just your ex’s way of coping. More about that on here: czcams.com/video/5UT92IB5ugs/video.html Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: czcams.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/video.html social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : czcams.com/video/D1GpR5MApQk/video.html Good luck!
I think my spouse lives with another woman since we've separated almost 9 months. He SAYS he wants to make it work, when I give up (because he's putting in 0 effort) but once he feels me back in he falls back again. His side chick isn't walking away either (he SAYS he cut her off but I don't believe it bc she tells ME to back off). I personally believe he's torn...is this possible to get back on track after so much time away AND being that another woman is fighting for him is it worth even trying?
I think he's trying to get the best of both worlds. Try to see how much you're willing to put up with and for how long... and then decide a course of action. It may be time to file for a divorce (the odds will be on your favour) if he doesn't change his act.
My gf broke up with me 2days ago and after our breakup she said that she wants to remain friends with me but i rejected it n told that i can be her all or nothing. I can only be her boyfriend or nothing so she was saying that im not understanding it and she says that she will come back but she needs time for it. And i wanna share the most shocking thing which is that i had her instagram logged on my phone n the day we broke up she messaged a guy and they started talking and were having a conversation n she was flirting with him talking about how cute he was n she started hitting on him n she asked him if he was single n he said yes so she was saying that "oh yeah so i messaged the right person".. she was flirting with him badly n eventually he asked her for her number n she gave it to him. It hurts me so deep that even after we completed almost 3 years n the day we broke up she did not respect it n started flirting on the same day with that guy. I was so devastated n hurt that how could she do like that to me that we had so many memories together n so much time we spent together still she started flirting with that boy on the same day we broke up. She has since been msging me but i have ignored her texts. However she has been even flirting with this guy whom she had exchanged number on instagram. She finally messaged that let's patch up so i texted her but instead of patching up she is still like she needs time n wants me to talk to her but i refused to remain friends n told that we will be all or nothing. I dont know why she wants time and stuff i know she has been texting this guy so she wouldn't wanna get back to me right now because she told that guy that she will never patch up with me. So next day also i ignored n again she texted at night saying let's patch but started saying same thing that she needs time n stuff. So she told me to meet her today in the evening to talk so i told ok ill meet her n we will talk. Can u tell me what's going on in her mind and why she is doing like this saying that she needs time n stuff n also she has been texting this new guy. If she really wanted to be back together she would not simply send a txt saying that we will patch up and again start saying she needs time. Please help me sir n tell me what should i do.
Shawn Coutinho hey i am not Brad but i think she is just trying to keep you as a backup if she loose that guy she will come to you.. you have already done a good job by rejecting friendship.. now i suggest you to show her that you a man of his words , and won't be there for her if she doesn't want any relationship .. make her miss you .. show her you are okay with the breakup.. use no contact.. and its just a suggestions i m not an expert like Brad
Yeah, she's confused all right. Stay away from her first for a good while and try NOT to check what she's been doing/saying to other people. A plethora of emotions coming from an ex is a somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, watch it to learn a few tips to understand your situation better: czcams.com/video/RN6ndJZ0J-w/video.html
hey Brad...my man broke up with me like a month ago.we had a pretty raff time...I was cold and mean to him for a long time I told me many time I can't take it if I don't chance he needs to leave....We just had a baby 7 months ago...At the moment he is living at his friends house but he come every now and then to see his son...we He broke up he was saying that he still love me so when he still loves me there is hopefully still a change....Im so willing to work on my self to make him happy again I even entered a therapy....I hope you can help me somehow I just can't loose him.....We are together for 3 and a half years...I tried to talk to him to change his mind and beg him not to leave everything...He is so cold right now I don't even know him like this....please you need to help us
Sorry to hear that. Your hormones may have gone awry during this period. But if you have to continue therapy, do so for your own good, okay? Especially if it's getting you results. Your man may still be really hurt though, so give him time to process his feelings first and give him space to forgive you, even miss you a little. There's no rushing this part. Here, this may help: czcams.com/video/j--Pzmw3L4c/video.html
Hey Brad. I just got through no contact with my ex. I messaged her and I feel that the conversation between us now is alot better than the ones leading up to the breakup. When we broke up she said she wanted to remain friends, I went into no contact and now I have having a really positive conbersation with her. I know this may be a dumb question but is this a good sign?
Who initiates the conversation most of the time? Yes, it's a good sign, along with the rest of the signs here: czcams.com/video/CsVR7yV4X8k/video.html
Brad Browning A bit of an update. Sometimes she comes off as rude. She has not started a conversation yet. The last time we talked was yesterday and it was nice but when I said hey later because I had to go due to class she said she was studying but said I should know this. I am figuring a few days and wait and see if she contacts or should I wait longer
But what if u have already separated and he’s with someone else?
It might be too late. But take the quiz here first: www.marriageguy.com/coaching
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My wife wants to leave me bc of arquing, controlling, possiveness, anger problems and bondary issues and I kept begging and pushing her to stay and now she blocked me on Facebook and I'm just wondering what I can do I want to keep this marriage but she's not wanting too so what can I do
Give it time and stop doing all those mistakes. Your best bet is to cut off contact completely for around a month or more in order to clear your heads. Your ex would likely come back if you've got your sh*t together than if you were begging/pleading endlessly to the point where you got blocked. Well, there are a few rare who take their exes back if you beg/plead but it hardly ever lasts since these people are taking their exes back out of pity. So my point is, don't let your ex take you back out of pity, all right? The best way to avoid that is to work on yourself and get your life together by having fun, hobbies, etc. and to stop chasing your ex. I've made numerous videos about the "no contact" rule and why it's important. Check those out. Also watch the stories here and try not to be a statistic: czcams.com/video/1U_IOm8ofFo/video.html
Robert Skorich same what my husband did, But he didn't block me fb He just saw that he doesn't love me and he has a affair to the other woman, Same reason you have , i really want to fix my marriage to my husbad at the age of 22 im not suffering a depression for what he did now, The worst is We live here in the philippines and he's having an affair to the other woman How i can fix my marriage to him if It's gonna be like a broken glass
My wife has just told me that she's lost the attractive loving feelings for me and has given up on us. We have been together 13 years and have 3 amazing boys. What can do? I feel as though all is lost
Sorry to hear that. While I certainly need more information to know what's going on between you two for sure, I suggest you check out more marriage-saving tips which you may find useful, check out this new channel I've dedicated solely for this purpose. Here's the link: y2u.be/dr2JTi_bCRU
Brad I have one more question, should I reach out to my ex and ask her to hang out even tho she has a bf?(after no contact)
Yes, but not until much much later. Try testing the waters first and re-establish communication with her. Once you start to see some progress, sign up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed, then guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
You don't have to reply since I asked a lot of questions but it would be awesome! Do you think its a good idea to start seeing other girls or would that make my ex think I don't want her back and that ive moved on and then we would never get back together.
You don't have to reply since I asked a lot of questions but it would be awesome! When I start texting her how many times a day should I text her and how many times a week should I text her. Any other tips in when I talk to her again? Thanks Brad!!!
You don't have to reply because I asked some questions before but it would be awesome! Should I text her like every other day or what? If I keep reaching out to her I'm going to run out of those sample messages you taught us like " Hey you jacket stealer :)" or what do you think I should say the next time I text her again or should I just continuously talk to her with a delay? Thanks brad this will be the last I promise. :D
My ex just broke up with me. We dated 1 year. Her reasoning didn't really make any sense because it was inaccurate so clearly it was something else. but she even said she still loves me and we still talk like how we did like we were in a relationship still, minus the sexual parts. We were talking so good yesterday too. Completely catching me off guard she was even saying how she wants to spend the rest of her life with me. Usually you can see it coming but this totally blind sided me there was no clues hinting at it. She said she been feeling this for a while which is extremely hard to believe.
There was just literally no clues. We talked the same exact way and she acted the same exact way as always. I know guys who their gfs will reject sex from them than break up. Or give them 1 word answers. Have a feeling something is off. She will stop saying I love you as much. But I literally got no hints it was like someone punching me from behind.
I guess I'll give the 30 day thing a go because this is the craziest thing ever. You couldn't have told me when I woke up this morning that she was breaking up with me today. I would have not believed you and I would have bet a grand that she wouldn't.
Either way this shit hurts, 1 of the worst pains I ever felt in my entire life by far. We didn't get off on a bad note or anything remotely like that. I am still going to work on it and take advice when I can. I don't feel totally defeated but knowing there's a decent chance we won't get back together makes me sick. Never experienced a break up before this is as bad as people make it sound. I thought I would take it a bit better but it feels like my mom just died.
Sorry to hear you've been somewhat blindsided about this breakup. There's no reason why you'd automatically think it's hopeless though. Perhaps this should offer you a different perspective on things: czcams.com/video/t6IX-pUnGZQ/video.html For now, I suggest you get busy with a lot of stuff like hobbies, work, etc. focus on what makes you feel good and take time to heal as well. Also read my Ex Factor Guide, which covers commonly possible ‘what if’ scenario and will give you pretty much everything you need to know, so read it many times over until you master it. The aim of the guide is basically to put you in the best position to get your ex back...and to avoid the pitfalls to increase your chances altogether. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
I need advice, my husband is currently deployed & about two weeks ago, he told me he wants a divorce. Of course I don't want to and want to fight till the end. But he has not called me at all to talk about this. He hardly has time to text me so I don't know what to do. Wait till he texts back? Or send him pictures of the kids so he won't feel like I'm hurt and trying to keep them away? I'm desperate to find answers! Please help!
Really sorry to hear that. Deployed where, though? If he's busy, then yes, wait for him to respond, but try your best NOT to bombard him with messages as it can get really annoying, all right? :-) Let him miss the kids, too! Wait for him to ask for it. Right now, you ought to keep busy with other important stuff in your life. This is why I've released a second book called Mend the Marriage. Check it out at www.marriageguy.com as everything is on there, from how to communicate more effectively, down to how to handle the kids, monitor your progress through worksheets and stuff. These videos are for you, too: y2u.be/ij6__SVcMW8 and y2u.be/z262BzLvwAk or sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program at www.marriageguy.com/coaching Take care!
I now understand that an addiction is no different than an affair... I spent money, time and put more effort into getting my next fix then I did my marriage. We're not divorced yet but on the verge. Love that woman to death but not stopping for her... Ive seemed to have lost myself in the mix of things.
I agree with you. Well, awareness is key though, so maybe it's not too late to turn things around? Help yourself first and everything will fall into place. Best of luck!
Will this work if your spouse has moved out
Depends how deteriorated your marriage is...or if he's just trying to take a breather from you. How long has it been since the divorce was finalized? When did all the trouble started and what has caused it? These are my top two marriage videos which may help: y2u.be/WU0yhd3ADXU and y2u.be/W_vzHFqnasM but it's really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation... Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
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Thanks for signing up and sorry to hear! Hopefully my support guy John has already fixed the issue by now, but please email support@mendthemarriage.com ASAP for a quick reply and further assistance. Thanks and best of luck!
If my ex is seeing somebody else, do I wait till they end their relationship or I talk to her after 21-30 days NC?
Vader Sal get over her bro
ALAN PONCE 8 it's hard bro, we were together since we were 14 now we're 21. I actually broke up with her like 4 times and go with another girl, this is the first time she does it to me.
Vader Sal ok i went thow this befor try to be firends with her but dont get put in the firend zone give it time
Proceed as planned. What matters more is you're ready to reach out and deal with your ex again. Here are the basics: czcams.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/video.html
ALAN PONCE 8 yes I'll try that, the next week I'm going to text her, I know she's going to answer but don't know if she's going to agree going out with me. Because I know she wants to be she's going to say that's inappropriate or too fast or whatever.
How do i get him to want to try again if he's already kicked me out and is interested in another woman. It's 2 months today since I left. He's going away with her and her kids to stay with her mother (very cosy) this month. He's replaced one family with another. He keeps letting me know what's going on, I don't ask. He says nothings happened and they are good friends but he does like her and hopes something happens and is sorry for us not being able to make it work (13 year marriage and 4 kids) but there's too much resentment and he knows that if we tried again we'd end up in the same situation. It's like he's trying to convince himself that he's made the right decision. Hurts like hell especially, since I feel in my gut that our stories not over and I can see he's hurting. I grew emotionally and mentally over the last 6months but he had closed off so much he couldn't see I was better and refuses to believe that the cycle of arguing and breaking up will not be repeated. I believe in us knowing how solid the foundation is.
End up in the same situation? Exactly what is he talking about though? Was there any mention of a divorce? When did all the trouble started and what has caused it? These may help: czcams.com/video/WU0yhd3ADXU/video.html and czcams.com/video/W_vzHFqnasM/video.html but it's really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation... Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
scored a 64! scared shitless that i am gonna lose her. i did buy the coaching, but the area for me to describe my full situation was really small, so i filled out what i could. but i don't think it was enough. the response time felt like it needs to be immediate. not 72 hours. so i cancelled the coaching. i know you're a busy man, but my wife is far too important to me. i didn't invest 9 years to piss it all away. really lost here.
Hey man, sorry to hear that. I understand where you're coming from. I do prioritize my coaching clients first and the response time given is for me to provide a response to those who signed up and submitted their coaching forms ahead of you. Does that make sense?Also the word limit is only for the initial form since I encourage people to stick to the heart of the matter and not vent in one go. Wait for me to respond first so that way we'll have an interaction. :-) When there's an interaction via email, you can write way longer than that. All the best!
totally understand, just impatient when it comes to her. which has caused me to create more damage via texts, minimal space, and begging. i stop for a day, sometimes longer. but this is really wearing on me. i am trying to make positive changes for MYSELF, that i know she would love. but she won't give me the damn opportunity face to face to show her how much things have changed for me. all it took was her leaving and i immediately got a reality check, woke up, and completely restructured my lifestyle. it's obviously more complicated than that. maybe i'll attempt coaching again. can you tell me exactly how brief/minimal i should be? what to include and what not?
so I did your quiz and it just blanked my answers and took me right back to the same page. No email form to submit etc.
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my husband is ignoring me and I am panicked. He has asked me to let him go and at first I was begging him not to leave. Things seemed to get worse he distanced himself and is never home. I found he was talking to another woman by looking at our phone bill. I wish I hadn't done that. Well since then I agreed to let him go but he says he doesn't know what he wants. I am confused worried and panicked everyday that he will just leave. What do I need to do now I am living a nightmare. I need someone to tell me something. Thanks I still love my husband.
Sorry to hear that, Odilia. You might want to read my Mend the Marriage book at www.marriageguy.com/fbuy as everything is on there, from how to communicate more effectively, down to how to handle the kids, monitor your progress through worksheets and stuff. If your spouse is picking petty fights though, or making a mountain out of a molehill, then something else might be going on. Watch this: czcams.com/video/T9GbRm1J7mc/video.html and to find out your chances at saving your marriage, head over towww.marriageguy.com/quiz and take the free quiz there. Good luck!
Please help. My wife of almost 8 years is cold and distant says she is done with marriage. She says she wants to just be single again and that there is no way to work things out. We have 3 beautiful girls together and i have said and done some really stupid things in the last few weeks before finding your videos. We have lived apart for almost 4 years and just this year things were finally looking up. Income was more stable and we were looking to find a place for our family to be together. Then about 3 weeks ago she turned 180 degrees and said she wanted a divorce. Im lost at this point and don't know how to handle this. I feel like she is misguided in thinking that the best thing for our marriage is divorce so we can be happier later together. I know we have lost touch with each other but i just cant bring myself to believe that this is it and that its over. She is the best woman i have ever met and i don't want to loose her if it is really fixable. Help me please
I don't know what it is you've done, but if you've made some serious mistakes, you can try to apply the following tips here: czcams.com/video/j--Pzmw3L4c/video.html but like I said, it's really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation... Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
brad plz help me my dad and step mom are fighting and probley going for devorice plz help i cant go through this again help me give me tips on how to help them
Sorry to hear you're going through this. This may help: www.lovelearnings.com/divorce/stop-or-prevent-my-parents-divorce
My husband is deployed and asked for a divorce a month ago. He doesn’t want to come home when he returns and has deleted any sign of me from social media and blocked me on one platform and isn’t speaking to me other than about finances.
I’ve stopped pleading. I’ve accepted my faults and began to work on myself.
He’s set on being done with our marriage. Doesn’t want to do counseling. Does it seem like he’s really done?
I can't really tell unless I know more about your situation. If you wanna know what your chances are for saving your marriage though, take the free quiz at www.marriageguy.com/quiz
How to make your wife see your willing to fight when she is serious about a divorce
The process of saving one's marriage is a bit complicated but this is why I've released a second book called Mend the Marriage. Check it out at www.marriageguy.com as everything is on there, from how to communicate more effectively, down to how to handle the kids (if applicable), monitor your progress through worksheets and stuff. These videos are for you, too: y2u.be/ij6__SVcMW8 and y2u.be/z262BzLvwAk or sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program at www.marriageguy.com/coaching Take care!
Hello Brad my Husband of 12 years of marriage lied and cheated on me and continued to lied until I found out about it and he told me he doesn't love me anymore but he still leaving with me and he still talks to the other lady he keeps telling me he is confused and that's he doesn't want to make a mistake he sleeps on another room now and we barely talk and when we do I try to find out what's his plan so I can do something about it I don't wanna lose him I still love him even though I know he cheated on me what should I do I feel like he still is waiting on something to happen but he keep saying he more out the door then in help please.
Sorry to hear that. I think it's time for a one-on-one talk between you two. Follow the steps here first: czcams.com/video/U9oTGnDRms4/video.html
hey brad
..I ve tried no contact rule .. being happy .. started gym... but he doesn't come back ...now when I posted on my timeline that I m leaving my country "which actually I m not " he texted that remember me I loved u so much ... dont forget me ...now he says that he miss me n want to meet ...should I meet him??? but keeping this clear that he doesn't want to marry me and don't like my friends ... he says that I m negatively hyper active like hoping around all the tym .. he doesn't even want to get into a serious relationship
Don't try to give away your intentions right away. This is important so he won't think you're still gung ho on him.... but don't be overly cold either. A happy medium is best. You can meet up especially if it's already past the 30-day period without contact from him and especially since he initiated the meet-up. Watch these to help guide you: czcams.com/video/JbEoz81in-Q/video.html AND czcams.com/video/L9XcUEIGK38/video.html Good luck!
Brad Browning thank u so much for the advice ...we met and he was really emotional .. he cried in front of me ..he said he didn't fulfill my dreams and what I deserve.. I was a nice happy and emotional meet up ..but he did all this because he is thinking that I am leaving my country... he said that keep in touch ... and he will tell me when he will get married at that time I would be free to leave all the contact with him ..what to do
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Hello, Lydia. Sorry to hear. Have you tried contacting the support team? and what did they say? You may have to check with your bank, too, since there's no known issue/s with regards to purchases on our end?
Hi brad i recently find out from mutual friend that my ex boyfriend said to him that "I don't deserve her (it's me) and I will be happy if she gots a new1 who will make her happy more than me" and totally confused help me what to do
That's a really common excuse, believe it or not. It's similar as if your ex is saying "it's not you, it's me." Watch what I've discussed here: czcams.com/video/ZuHWCWeG1xs/video.html
Well brad my wife has filed for divorce but want to be friends, me personally, I don't think that will be a good idea, but a part of her is trying to hold on, I feel like she just want to hold on to me, just in case all the other guys she may meet don't work out, so do you think I should be friends or just cut all contact all toghether.
Do limited contact with her. It's okay to be on friendly terms in your case, without necessarily being friends. It's a bit tricky but this is why I've released a second book called Mend the Marriage. Check it out at www.marriageguy.com as everything is on there, from how to communicate more effectively, down to how to handle the kids, monitor your progress through worksheets and stuff. These videos are for you, too: y2u.be/ij6__SVcMW8 and y2u.be/z262BzLvwAk or sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program at www.marriageguy.com/coaching Take care!
Brad I seen a lot of your videos and I would like you too tell me how too get your ex back when they are going out and I have tried too use no contact and we've not spoke in 2 weeks please may I have help brad
Continue on with the 30-day “no contact” rule first and let your ex miss you. Watch this particular post here: czcams.com/video/b6aetsDDpjs/video.html In order to fully understand how this concept works, you ought to know why you're doing it in the first place, otherwise you’re just following blindly. So watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you (and why you’re supposed to be doing it) than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
Brad my wife said she done and moved out and has still been intament with me and in constant contact I think he has a lot of people pulling here away from me been married 12 years and have 3 kids what do I do
The process of saving one's marriage is a bit complicated but this is why I've released a second book called Mend the Marriage. Check it out at www.marriageguy.com as everything is on there, from how to communicate more effectively, down to how to handle the kids (if applicable), monitor your progress through worksheets and stuff. These videos are for you, too: y2u.be/ij6__SVcMW8 and y2u.be/z262BzLvwAk or sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program at www.marriageguy.com/coaching Take care!
Brad I was on the 28th day of no contact and my ex texted me I replied to her in person because she texted me like 15 feet away do I have to restart no contact?
There's no need to, for as long as you haven't responded? Communication is a two-way street. :-)
Hi Brad
My husband want a space by leaving the house to rent somewhere. How can i win him back since he is not staying with me in the same house?
Please guide me.
This vid is for you: czcams.com/video/HHkwa5tbNC0/video.html
Hello Brad ! My ex is behaving hot and cold to me...Can i use 'no contact' to solve this problem?? please suggest something..!
Hi Thakur. It's normal for an ex to give you the hot and cold treatment. Yes, using the No Contact method will definitely help in this case. Just make sure to stick with it for at least 30 days. Hope this helps. Best of luck!
Brad Browning hey brad awsome videos
i got a situation here may be you can help me
me and my ex broke up and she gave me no reason for breaking up with me and told me that she will not be in a relationship with anyone
and yesterday i found that she is not in relationship with 2 guys at a one time
my friends says thats move on she is not a good girl
pls tell me what to do
sry little mistake i found that she is in relationship with 2 guys
Two guys at the same time? Wow... your friends may be right, she's not the one for you if you're looking for a commitment. She's not ready to give it, so don't force it. Move on from this, okay? Good luck and I hope you find the right girl for you soon!
Brad Browning yea thanks brother good luck in future and awsome videos 😊
The quiz doesn't work, when I put in my email to get the results it gives an error code "Error code: 1014. Unknown user with id: 7337"
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Hey brad I just have one question why does my wife keep coming back she is with another guy but come back every once in a while and tells me she want to fix everything but she don't put the work in to fix the problem and it only goes back to the other guy and he don't do her right he don't have a job and sets at his house and does nothing I don't know what I need to do she wants to fix it but she get mad and blow up over nothing and she won't open up for nothing I just want to fix our marriage what do I need to do????
Let her come to you, man. Chances are she'll get bored with the other guy sooner or later anyway. BUT play your cards right! This is your wife we're talking about here. When was the last time you went on a date with her? Take her on one. These may help: czcams.com/video/WU0yhd3ADXU/video.html and czcams.com/video/W_vzHFqnasM/video.html but it's really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation... Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Should I still apply the no contact to my wife even if we have an 11 month old baby and we are currently separated
Only talk about the important stuff having to do with the stuff and nothing about the relationship/feelings or getting back together because those kinds of talk will only push your wife further away from you. All right? All the best!
My husband has cancer. Went in remission. Now it’s back. But now he says he’s not happy and wants a divorce. He is out of town working and we were arguing a lot. I have since told him I do love him and I don’t want a divorce but I am letting him go. And he needs to figure out what he really wants but don’t think I’m just going to sit around. No calls. No texts. Unless it’s about kids or his health. We have been together 19 years. I have not been calling him but he keeps calling me. I have been just happy and jovial when we have spoken. It’s only been a free days since I began this no contact. What are your thoughts? Will he come back?
Really sorry to hear that. When people get sick, like terminally ill, it tends to alter their behaviour and get really sad and stuff.. So there's that. An argument is the last thing he needs right now though. What have you been arguing about? That could have been the last straw which served as the deciding factor for divorce. He needs you the most right now though especially IF he's undergoing chemotherapy. Anyway Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Hello, me and my husband have been quit unhappy for some time. Lack of sex is the main problem. I have some health problems and it causes pain, so I avoid it. Well I finally brought up that we needed to talk. I ended up having to start the convo. So we talked about things. It went okay for that talk, but the next evening we talked and I said something he totally took wrong. He packed his stuff and left. But he's been coming by each evening for us to talk. Do you think our marriage can be saved. He's been gone 4 nights as of today. He said he's thinking about trying, but he's just been so hurt and I've apologized a few times. He says his feelings have soured and that he's broken. He says he may come home and we can try. Should he be here while we're trying? Thank you!!
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how do I go back to my ex that are how married and has 2 kids ? I think she is divorced but I still love her to death can't forget about her ?last time I saw her was 10 years ago ? I sent her a msg on instgram saying I found her profile normally and just wanted to see how ur doing and say hi that's it .can you make a video about this please
It's been ten years, so it's really important to test the waters first and see where she emotionally stands as well. Use one of the tips here to try and reach out and wait for a response: czcams.com/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/video.html Remember to take it slow and if she's isn't divorced, then it's a no-go. It's just too much trouble than it's worth, man. But if she's divorced and have had ample time to heal, then again, proceed with caution because you wouldn't wanna jump the gun too soon. If you still need my help further on this, however, then you and I both ought to take a look at a lot of various factors at play, so sign up for my coaching program so I can help take a look at all the various factors at play including your overall relationship history, issue/s, among many other elements, and to find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis. Check on availability first because I only have a limited number of clients I can realistically manage before I go into spontaneous combustion. :-) Here’s the link: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Brad Browning thank you sooo much for answering ill update you on my situation 👍🌹🌹
Been trying on my own with some progress, getting tired of trying now been too long, I feel stupid
How long exactly and what steps have you tried? Also, how often have you two been meeting up? Make sure you watch my other videos for more tips.
Hi I have been watching some videos it's been about 6 months we have made a lot of progress hugging and cuddle and some kisses but she is avoiding being intimate with me witch is really hard when you trying to heal
My partner of 6 years wants to leave. We still live together and she wants to live as roommates because she doesn't want to disrupt my 15 year old son's living situation. I want to save the relationship but she doesn't want to. I don't want to be roommates. What do I do?
If you're really hellbent in getting her back, then it’s important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: czcams.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/video.html and the top 5 questions here: czcams.com/video/YJGHEtlV1ac/video.html
Hello brad.. My husband applied for divorce... i don't want to leave him.. please advice me
Sorry to hear that. How long has it been since the divorce was finalized? When did all the trouble started and what has caused it? These are my top two marriage videos which may help: y2u.be/WU0yhd3ADXU and y2u.be/W_vzHFqnasM but it's really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation... Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
My wife and I are still together after she had an affair.We have been together for 22 years and I’m finding it very difficult to get through this.She says that she wants to try again but I know that her heart isn’t in to it and that her thoughts are still with the other man.She started the affair at the end of October 2019 and told me the day before Valentine’s Day this year. I could really do with some advice please
Sorry to hear that, John. Sure is not easy, but if you want to make it work with her, these tips might help so definitely check it out along with your spouse together: czcams.com/video/FNa8nYnposM/video.html I also have some workbook containing various exercises that you and your spouse can work in order to recommit to each other and strengthen your marriage .It's given for free if you get my Mend the Marriage e-book package at www.marriageguy.com Best of luck!
hey brad i m from india and i need ur help.......i had cheated on my would be unintentionally and nw he is confused whether he should marry me or not,wat should i do in dis situation... i love him a lot n i dun wanna lose him anyhow pls pls plsssss i need ur help badly....... please help me
Give him time to get over what happened. In the meantime, offer him your utmost sincere apology. Some people forgive quickly, some take a really long time, while others don't forgive. It depends on your ex's character and your overall history, to be honest. Follow the tips here: czcams.com/video/yYXBzltbx1E/video.html
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Hi BRAD,
I am from India. My wife needs divorce from me immediately. I thought we have living our life somewhat happily. But at the moment I came to know her decision I completely broke and don' t know what to do. I have tried some steps to save my marriage. But all are in vain. She is not willing to cooperate to take steps towards fixing our marriage. Currently we are living in a same house but upto this month end. Thereafter she is planning to separate permanently with my 5 year old kid. Kindly advice.
"Somewhat" happily? That's the first sign of trouble right there. When did all the trouble started and what has caused it? These are my top two marriage videos which may help: y2u.be/WU0yhd3ADXU and y2u.be/W_vzHFqnasM but it's really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation... Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
What can I do, if husband doesn’t want to communicate about anything and wants to leave, but is living under the same roof because we have 3 children. Says I’m at fault in everything and that there is no relationship.
Sorry to hear that. When did all the trouble started and what has caused it? These are my top two marriage videos which may help: y2u.be/WU0yhd3ADXU and y2u.be/W_vzHFqnasM but it's really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation... Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
hey brad my girlfriend said that she really dont want to continue with me..cause I've done a lot of mistakes that hurt her and irritate her..she also said she don't trust me anymore.. :( I wnt her back..what should i do..please help :(((
Hi there. The best place to start is doing No Contact for at least 30 days. You don't want to push her further away. Instead, you want to give her time to miss you and feel your absence. The idea here is to "shock" her into realizing what it really means to no longer have you in her life. All of this stuff is comprehensively covered in my Ex Factor Guide program, and I think you would find it very helpful. So please sign up ASAP through this link so you can maximize your chances of getting your ex back: www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy Best of luck!
Brad Browning actually my mistakes are that I've lied to her many times..i read her insta chats wdout her permission and irritate her asking same questions...she told me before that give me some space but i cant realise that thing at that time and text her everyday...is there anything more i can do with No contact thing? she is 2 years elder than me
My wife just moved to a motel in hopes of leaving the state and divorcing, what do I do?(desperate;/)
That quickly? Sorry to hear that. How long has it been since the divorce was finalized? When did all the trouble started and what has caused it? These may help: y2u.be/WU0yhd3ADXU and y2u.be/W_vzHFqnasM but it's really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation... Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Brad Browning there isn't a divorce she has packed her things and is ready to move to another state. She's told me that she is done.
My husband pretended to be single on Facebook for 5 yrs! What can I do
Some folks do that on their profile. It's not really a cause for concern UNLESS he's acting single too!
My wife filed for divorce and moved out of our house with our daughter. I can’t blame her cause she was a good girl who got sick of being verbally hurt all the time. She says it’s over and isn’t turning back and all I can do is change and be the best me I can be for my daughter and hopefully she will see these changes and give the relationship a try again. Doesn’t seem likely, but that’s what I hope for.
Sorry to hear that. To know your chances, consider signing up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
My wife left with my kid about a month ago any advice on how to get her to come back when their is a child involved
What happened? When did all the trouble started and what has caused it? These may help: y2u.be/WU0yhd3ADXU and y2u.be/W_vzHFqnasM but it's really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation... Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
My Wife And I... Been Separated For About 10 Months. Just About 2 Months Ago... She Told Me She Wants A Divorce... I Asked Why??? She Said That I Have Lost My Chance. It's Time To Move On. She Also Told Me That The Only Time I Can Talk To Her Is When, It's About My Kids. She Won't Talk To Me Just Like That.
Really sorry to hear that, man. It's time to put things into perspective. When did all the trouble started and what has caused it? These may help: y2u.be/WU0yhd3ADXU and y2u.be/W_vzHFqnasM but it's really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation... Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
What do I do if my wife left and right now she’s not willing to go to therapy together?
As mentioned, you can do your part instead. There's really no forcing her against her will, man. These are my top two marriage videos which may help: y2u.be/WU0yhd3ADXU and y2u.be/W_vzHFqnasM but it's really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation... Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Hi brad i follow your suggestion no contacts but what I want to know is in Facebook my ex is posting lots of stuffs everyday where he never been posted like this before he frequently used Facebook but after our break-up he is posting lots of things what that means can you please answer me
Christina Mukhia she trying to act like she happy she need you
Actually it is he not she but thanks to know that he needs me he frequently used Facebook but after our break-up he is posting lots of stuffs everyday but we were not friends in Facebook I just check out his fb he is posting lots of things everyday where he was not like this before.
Has he initiated the breakup? It could just be his means of coping with the pain, so it's best not to look too much into it. A breakup always hurts both people in it, regardless of who did the breaking up. Watch this first: czcams.com/video/sJg4udwCS90/video.html Take care!
you need to consider addiction in these conversations. how do you engage an alcoholic?
Watch this first: czcams.com/video/m27TLeyUmwg/video.html but given that you're married, this now boils down to whether you'd trying getting him to seek help with his alcoholism or not tolerate it. It's a tough decision to make.
What if my husband says his family is more important to him.and that he doesn't care about me.his family don't like me
You should not be competing with family, but it does sound like he's trying to find excuses to break up. If your ex is in the right age to make her own decisions that’s independent from their parents, then there may still be a chance. Otherwise, it's best to consider moving on from this, okay? I’m not quite sure why parents had to get involved in the first place. It's either you're both too young to date or it has something to do with culture. Understand that the choice is ultimately up to your ex on whether to fight for you or not despite the opposition going on. Good luck!
will the no contact rule apply even when I technically broke up with him? I mean he was kind of cheating on me and I ended things but I never wanted to. I just knew he didn't actually care about me as much as he used to. I've been crying non stop since we broke up. and ive been watching your videos for an hour and a half and im thinking about starting the 30 day no contact rule. But im afriad he's gonna think i moved on and then move on himself. I think he's already moved on though, as he was talking to a bunch of other girls. He's starting to become a little bit of a fuck boy. But i just want him to go back to the way he used to act and want me back. and only me. How can I do that????
How long has your relationship been on the rocks before all this happened? If he really cheated on you, and the relationship had been rocky to begin with, then perhaps you've dodged a bullet? Watch this, first: czcams.com/video/m27TLeyUmwg/video.html
My story ended in disaster. My wife had been hot and cold for sometime, i set my boundaries. We went to counseling, had dinner, and she still cheated.
Sorry to hear that, Sean. Have you tried to apply the dynamics I mentioned here first: czcams.com/video/bYHQQ78o_ow/video.html
Do you know some freindship expert ?? l
I don't think there's any expert on that field. :-) A friendship is still a relationship, but far from being romantic. What happened?
Brad Browning Well.. i wanted my ex back so i started using your methods like no contact i m still using it but i also need to be healed and to show her that my life very good without for which i need freinds.. but the said part is that while dating my ex i ignored most of my freinds and did'nt make any new one also(especially girls) bcz she was the only thing which was my world .. for me.. but now i have lost my freinds .. i would be thankfull to you if you could help me to get me back my freinds and advice something for making freinds (if possible girls it would be helpfull to me and make her a bit jealous) .. you are a expert Brad and it also a kind of relationship.. thncx Brad
Do you stop initiating sex , especially when they don't also ?
How are the other aspects in your marriage? Sometimes, a disintegrating sex life can be caused to bedroom boredom... but oftentimes, some other aspects of your marriage/relationship is on the rocks. I couldn't possibly know which is which until I know more of your story and it's really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation... Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Brad Browning thanks for your reply, yes there are other factors, we have been married for 15years and there was infidelity on my part last year
Can I save my marriage if he has moved out, plus and ex girlfriend is back, and the place he is at is her sisters place. We have 2 kids together.
A little separation can actually help. Watch this: czcams.com/video/HHkwa5tbNC0/video.html
I HAVE A QUESTION!!!! If during the no contact rule your ex hits you up am I suppose to respond? Thank you!
Hey John! Yes, you can actually respond. But you should wait a few hours at least. Keep the message simple, and in passing mention that you were busy with work or out with friends. Hope this helps!
Other than saving a marriage for kids, what logical reason would anyone in their right mind want to save a toxic relationship?
It's not the relationship that's toxic. It's the people in it. Both of you may have likely contributed to it. I doubt your relationship started toxic though, otherwise, you wouldn't have married each other! :-)
hi Brad I just got back with my ex we are talking on phone haven't met him face to face I don't have any reason to invite him in group activity or something if I meet alone he'll jump on me and I don't to have sex with again yet so how can I stop this? thank you so much xx
That's right, you don't have to. So follow the tips here: czcams.com/video/qoEZiPn9EH0/video.html
thank you so much for your help xx
I want my marriage saved, but how? How to saved my marriage if my husband because he cheated on me again for the 4th time and I don't see that he is willing to saved our marriage..
Apply the tips mentioned in the vid but with cheating involved, it really makes things challenging so I suggest you choose yourself and live your life and stop forcing him to fix things between you two. All right?
@@BradBrowning thank you
My wife wants a divorce,but i was to fight to save our marriage, but she is unwilling.we have a 2 year old son and i want him to be happy that he has both of us together everyday,can you help me i don't get paid much but i need help plz
If things seem hopeless and you're wanting to save the marriage on your own, my clients found their peace by having applied the tips similar to the ones I mentioned on these videos: czcams.com/video/F1nFUvtof7Y/video.html AND czcams.com/video/lvH0STXVqdI/video.html If you're still having trouble, consider signing up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
What if she’s already left me then what?
Why wait too long to try and save your marriage, though? Try to gauge your chances here first: www.marriageguy.com/quiz These may help, hopefully: czcams.com/video/lvH0STXVqdI/video.html AND czcams.com/video/F1nFUvtof7Y/video.html
You said seek professional help
Before my marriage is at where it is to the ends basically
She suggested marriage counseling and one I could not afford it two I was scared they may tell us it’s over.
Now that we’re separated I’m going the extra mile and doing and asking for profesional help
For my self and for us the problem is, is that she no longer wants the help
So how can I go about the tip of
Getting profesional help, I want to save my marriage
But she’s now stubborn about it
Hopefully you see and reply soon
Love your videos and I will put these in my everyday life to fight for my spouse back
Also she does have feelings for a co worker
How can I go about that can all these methods still be implied?
She doesn’t know why she’s attracted
Other than he’s a complete whole person
Saying that I’m too broken
Any help is appreciated thank you
God bless
The process is a bit complicated but this is why I've released a second book called Mend the Marriage. Check it out at www.marriageguy.com as everything is on there, from how to communicate more effectively, down to how to handle the kids (if applicable), monitor your progress through worksheets and stuff. These videos are for you, too: y2u.be/ij6__SVcMW8 and y2u.be/z262BzLvwAk or sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program at www.marriageguy.com/coaching Take care!
Brad...my wife and I are in dire straights. Since April things have gotten really rocky and I messed things up even worse in May and early June. I am trying anything to make things work between us but I believe the damage is done. I am not at all optimistic. Can you help?
The best thing you can do right now is to try to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you. Watch this particular post here: czcams.com/video/b6aetsDDpjs/video.html In order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy Good luck!
Lord I want my husband back in my life Aman.
Having faith does help as well as doing what you can to play your cards right. While I certainly need more information to know what's going on between you two for sure, I suggest you check out more marriage-saving tips which you may find useful, check out this new channel I've dedicated solely for this purpose. Here's the link: y2u.be/dr2JTi_bCRU
Could you please contact me. I would like to discuss my situation.
I've been doing my best to respond to everyone in the comments section. The last thing I'd do is reach out, as I simply don't have the time. The rest of the time I have is spent on my coaching clients, who gets prioritized, understandably. :-) However, you can reach me via the contact info on my website at www.breakupbrad.com or send me a message via my Facebook fan page: facebook.com/bbrowning/ Please do understand though, that I go by in the order that I receive these (just like here on CZcams) and that coaching clients take first priority. Sign up for my email coaching program instead if you think your situation is urgent so I can address it as soon as possible, all right? Take care!
Spaouse don't want to go to counseling
This vid is for you: czcams.com/video/-HhfBqLs-28/video.html
My husband is close to retirement now wants to take me off his retirement 401k. Take me off all his insurance coverage he has 3 life insurances. He changed to his daughter only but wants to live in the same home with me while we're leagaly separated. He just wants to make sure that if he dies his daughter gets everything and I get nothing.
Sorry to hear. That's just terrible, what happened between you two. How did it all come down to that?