The Courage To Be Disliked Summary (Animated) - Stop Caring What Others Think So You Can Be Happier!

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  • The Courage To Be Disliked Summary will teach you 3 easy ways to be happier. Don't let the opinions of others - or even your own past - get you down.
    0:00 - Introduction
    2:19 - Top 3 Lessons
    2:51 - Lesson 1: Your past does not determine your future.
    4:00 - Lesson 2: Don't hate yourself or worry about your flaws.
    5:23 - Lesson 3: Competition isn't real. Forget about it.
    6:49 - Outro
    The Courage to be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga is a global phenomenon. It was an instant bestseller in Japan. It is a Japanese analysis of the work of 19th-century psychologist Alfred Adler, who established that happiness lies in the hands of each human individual and does not depend on past traumas.
    Our animated book summary of The Courage to be Disliked will give you the tools you need to become happier by letting go of your past traumas, limiting beliefs, and what others think of you.
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Komentáře • 66

  • @terrapin52
    @terrapin52 Před 3 lety +112

    I have to be honest. There's a lot more to the book than this. Some very key aspects weren't mentioned here, and it's not full of these cheesy aphorisms. In fact, it is full of contradictions to these. The book is very easy to read. I suggest to anyone seeing this to just get the book and read it. It can change the way you deal with people without burdening them or yourself with unnecessary obligation or expectation.

    • @rashmeetkaur1246
      @rashmeetkaur1246 Před 2 lety +2

      Hey can you please add some more points to it..I mean the review of this book? Like if there is something which the readers need to know before buying the book.

    • @fktudiablo9579
      @fktudiablo9579 Před 2 lety

      Hearing that post traumas are an excuse for not being happy (meaning we coule consciously change this) seems bullshit

    • @safreenan5706
      @safreenan5706 Před 2 lety +6

      @@rashmeetkaur1246 Actually the book is very easy to read and engaging. It's written in dialogue style. One thing that I find unique is that the book foresee probable contradictions that comes to its claims and theory and then explains it. I suggest to get the true essence of main points u should really read it and its gonna change or at least question your worldview. Give it a try, if you are overwhelmed by repetative contents of self help books.

    • @rashmeetkaur1246
      @rashmeetkaur1246 Před 2 lety +1

      @@safreenan5706 Thanks a lot!

    • @VijayJayaram-yr7pn
      @VijayJayaram-yr7pn Před měsícem

      Thank you for mentioning this🎉

  • @AudAkos
    @AudAkos Před 3 lety +17

    The universe has spoken to me 🙏🏽

  • @titobungo01
    @titobungo01 Před 3 lety +15

    This video couldn't be more timely, thanks

  • @fa8273
    @fa8273 Před 2 lety +6

    Thank you for this,currently reading this book at night and got sleepy.This summary shows me the book is worthy to be reading.I will continue reading it in the morning

  • @Cats4nelson
    @Cats4nelson Před 2 lety +12

    I love this it gives me the ability to actually change my life. I hope to read the actual book, thanks!!❤️

  • @steffidas4785
    @steffidas4785 Před 10 měsíci

    Pure bliss the lessons are❤

  • @haberdasher999
    @haberdasher999 Před rokem +1

    Great summary, and it inspired me to read the entire book. Had it not been for this summary, I would not have been aware or motivated to read it. “In summary”, the four minute video was perfect to determine if you want to learn more than the summary. Thank you again for this excellent source. Keep up the great work!!

    • @FourMinuteBooks
      @FourMinuteBooks  Před rokem

      Thank you so much! This is why we're here and what we hope to achieve. Every minute read is a minute won in our book (pun intended) :)

  • @Onserio.
    @Onserio. Před 2 lety +2

    Thanks Nick!

  • @anirbangupta510
    @anirbangupta510 Před 2 lety +3

    Wonderful

  • @vinodghutukade8249
    @vinodghutukade8249 Před rokem +1

    YOUR STORY TELLING IS BEST...

  • @nsc2443
    @nsc2443 Před 2 lety +4

    This disregards one's desires and the illusion of free will. We are more often unconsciously controlled by what happened in the past (e.g. growing up environment).

    • @Spengleman2
      @Spengleman2 Před 2 lety +3

      If that’s your outlook you are certain to be controlled by your past. For those of us who consciously choose a different path, no such restrictions need come into play.

  • @waxon2
    @waxon2 Před 5 měsíci +3

    Adler nailed it. Competition and comparison breed misery.
    The combination of social media and western capitalism seems to keep lots of people in the chronic stress loop.
    Probably better for promoting commodity fetishism and increasing profits of pharmaceutical treatments for life.
    Perhaps those aren't the healthiest priorities.

  • @ekennahutchinson1636
    @ekennahutchinson1636 Před 2 lety +2

    Thank

  • @zeyadelhalaby5282
    @zeyadelhalaby5282 Před rokem +1

    Thanks

  • @dailymotivational5977
    @dailymotivational5977 Před 2 lety +4

    Good analysis brother

  • @dr.mukeshvalecha3690
    @dr.mukeshvalecha3690 Před 4 měsíci +1

    THANKS🌹

  • @hassankarim3909
    @hassankarim3909 Před 2 lety +6

    Im 24 and have no confidence left in me to make conversations with no motivation at all to interact with humans i always think i need to believe in myself more but just trying to figure out how had some instances where i was used, bullied, back stabbed and made fun of i regret a lot of things in life i hope this book could help

    • @daveyrice
      @daveyrice Před rokem +1

      Hello your confidence come from self belief. Low confidence arises when you try and meet the expectations of others. When talking and engaging with people drop the need for their approval and only speak if you want to. Focus on them when you talk and let them do most of the taking. Ask questions but do it from a place of genuine interest every interaction is a opportunity for growth and learning.

    • @soul17169
      @soul17169 Před rokem

      Dude where others didn't even earn their strengths you may have. World need you to balance the scales. Come on back.

  • @animus3328
    @animus3328 Před 2 lety +3

    Fantastic video..

  • @YoutubeLoves2Cenosor
    @YoutubeLoves2Cenosor Před rokem +9

    You're under no obligation to be the same person you were 5 minutes ago.

  • @alessandrocipolla5579
    @alessandrocipolla5579 Před 6 měsíci +1

    I really like reading, in fact, I classify myself as a reader, but I have never heard about this book, and after this summary of the book I think I will buy it and have a look. Thanks for making me find it 🤣

  • @Dashaina
    @Dashaina Před 3 lety +11

    I have zero time to read right now, raising a pile of little kiddos. Thanks for giving busy home moms the ability to "read" a whole.book and stay healthy too!

    • @FourMinuteBooks
      @FourMinuteBooks  Před 3 lety +2

      Thank you for doing the important work you do - raising awesome humans!

    • @av98
      @av98 Před 2 lety

      @@FourMinuteBooks nice reply :)

    • @CJ-ft9yo
      @CJ-ft9yo Před 2 lety

      czcams.com/video/_z4Q7jddEKs/video.html
      You can listen to it on your headphones !

    • @mu.jedi1
      @mu.jedi1 Před 2 lety

      you may try its audiobook

  • @ceeemm1901
    @ceeemm1901 Před rokem +1

    "Egocentricity loves Self-improvement"

  • @Duckman75
    @Duckman75 Před 2 lety +1

    this was more enlivening than the book

  • @Faceonmediya
    @Faceonmediya Před 8 měsíci +1

    Hi sir... nice work...

  • @SnowSNS11
    @SnowSNS11 Před 4 měsíci +1

    The past shaped the present, and the present the future.

  • @universeforest5386
    @universeforest5386 Před 2 lety +3

    I was first read 2020. Think people are important.

  • @inajosmood
    @inajosmood Před 2 lety +3

    I think therapy, psychotherapy and the concept of trauma are incredibly misunderstood by the authors. It's either they're lacking knowledge on the subject or they're consciously giving out wrong information.
    I like the core idea, that our whole xperience is generated in our mind. It's true, that happens. But we shouldn't forget that our body and mind aren't untouched by anything it processes (including outside world, past events). All this influences the experience the mind generates in the moment. This gives a great sense of ownership.
    The trap is guilt or shame. Because placing all the ownership and responsibility on the individual, might subconsciously lead to victim blaming (including yourself). Time has learned that we're dynamic individuals in dynamic and super complex systems. These two things combined form who we are.

  • @jojowisa1270
    @jojowisa1270 Před 2 lety +2

    Thank u pretty voice baby

  • @rsdtknqr
    @rsdtknqr Před rokem

    the video doesn;t answer the question on how to have courage being disliked.

  • @krunchy8118
    @krunchy8118 Před 2 lety

    NOBODY HAS PROVEN GENERAL RELATIVITY

  • @rhrh2015
    @rhrh2015 Před 3 měsíci

    Germany is a compettitve country and US not?? So why does Germany has a free health system for everyone ? Why does Germany has an free education system? idk but that conclusion seems wrong to me...

    • @FourMinuteBooks
      @FourMinuteBooks  Před 3 měsíci

      It is saying US & Germany both are competitive. But this is more of a cultural point than an economic one. They are talking about competition between individuals being something that is openly acknowledged and valued. In the East, individuals also compete for jobs etc., but it is more subtly and covert, usually, and "serving one's nation" is higher on the cultural totem pole.

  • @kirstinstrand6292
    @kirstinstrand6292 Před 2 lety +2

    If Adler's Theory catches on, this spells trouble for Freudian Psychoanalysts, as if they aren't becoming outdated from all new treatment modalities developed these past 20 years!

  • @timetobenotdo
    @timetobenotdo Před 2 lety +2

    “Stop caring” does not work for me. It turns me into an a-hole. Change/reword that to…Stop factoring/regarding what you think that others think of you in the shaping of decisions, actions, appearance, etc, etc

  • @kirschrot77
    @kirschrot77 Před 2 lety +2

    Not a good review at all

  • @annaynely
    @annaynely Před 2 lety +1

    Booooooo