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  • You're trying way too hard figuring out what to do with your life.
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    Hey, I'm Cole Hastings. I'm a vegan athlete/content creator with a passion for videography/video editing, among other things. I try to help people through sharing my experiences and evolution through life.
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Komentáře • 599

  • @PeliculasClub7
    @PeliculasClub7 Před 3 lety +730

    “Start where you are, use what you have, do what you can”💪🏽

    • @luissoltero9775
      @luissoltero9775 Před 3 lety

      @̣ huh

    • @bartleon
      @bartleon Před 3 lety +3

      Jesus: John 14: 21 He who has My commandments and keeps them is the one who loves Me; and he who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him and will disclose Myself to him.” 22 Judas (not Iscariot) *said to Him, “Lord, what then has happened that You are going to disclose Yourself to us and not to the world?” 23 Jesus answered and said to him, “If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our abode with him. 24 He who does not love Me does not keep My words; and the word which you hear is not Mine, but the Father’s who sent Me.
      Jesus: John 8:29 And He who sent Me is with Me; He [a]has not left Me alone, for I always do the things that are pleasing to Him.”
      1 Peter 5: 7 casting all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you.
      Proverbs 15: 29 The Lord is far from the wicked, But He hears the prayer of the righteous.
      John 7: 37 Now on the last day, the great day of the feast, Jesus stood and cried out, saying, “If anyone is thirsty, let him come to Me and drink. 38 He who believes in Me, as the Scripture said, ‘From his innermost being will flow rivers of living water.’” 39 But this He spoke of the Spirit, whom those who believed in Him were to receive; for the Spirit was not yet given, because Jesus was not yet glorified.
      Romans 6: 23 For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.

    • @TheDoomWizard
      @TheDoomWizard Před 3 lety +1

      Just exist

    • @mariananundu3
      @mariananundu3 Před 3 lety

      @@bartleon but im lazy not only lazy unmotivated not only unmotivated numb not only numb unproductive not only unproductive I have no feeling absolutely no feeling like im empty I used to be so much better but now it’s like i am pushed to sit and do nothing this has been happening for about a year I have prayed but it’s coming to a point where im losing the presence of God in my life I’m lost I don’t understand life like why all im asking is why

    • @bartleon
      @bartleon Před 3 lety

      @@mariananundu3 Do you have facebook?

  • @benjaminpepin2247
    @benjaminpepin2247 Před 3 lety +126

    When i was younger i used to think that once people become adults they instantly have everything figured out, it was a pretty harsh awakening lol

  • @Dooality
    @Dooality Před 3 lety +627

    Fucking truth. “Life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans”

  • @bigsasquatch44
    @bigsasquatch44 Před 3 lety +289

    I had a moment yesterday where I thought "how can I be productive right now?". I realized that I don't have to be productive every second of the day. I can just be alone with my thoughts and it's all good.

    • @vickystricks
      @vickystricks Před měsícem

      That's what i am thinking right now that's the reason i am here

  • @awadehondt
    @awadehondt Před 3 lety +117

    This is what self-help should be. Making people realize you’re okay as you are, and not falling in to this beachbody-millionaire trap that is the norm on social media/conventional self-help. Knowing that you are okay and accept yourself is THE steppingstone to improving yourself by living and experiencing things. Thanks for the video Cole!

  • @someguy1365
    @someguy1365 Před 3 lety +403

    "If someone tells you they've got their lives all figured out? They're delusional, or a liar. Or they're trying to sell you something."
    Something my mom said to me a long time ago. Sort of just stuck with me, and it makes me smile every time I think of it.

    • @ColeHastings
      @ColeHastings  Před 3 lety +39

      That's fire

    • @erenjeager5290
      @erenjeager5290 Před 3 lety +8

      I mean I get that not everyone has answers and no one really knows everything but I’m 18 and still trying to see if I’m going to major in medicine or do something in banking. I’m a pretty well off person but imagine all the people in my situation who are less fortunate or don’t have the means to achieve their goals. At this point I’m just grinding and learning as much from my parents as possible

    • @mihaismoleac7856
      @mihaismoleac7856 Před 3 lety +1

      But if you watched this video, you kind of figured out your life already

    • @szymonozimek
      @szymonozimek Před 3 lety

      or they are right and you're just stupid, no?

    • @FireJach
      @FireJach Před 3 lety +1

      I dont get it. If someone wants to be eg a engineer and he becomes to be. Didnt he figure out the life?

  • @AliMalik-yt5ex
    @AliMalik-yt5ex Před 3 lety +93

    One thing that helped me and my therapist told me this is to think about your values rather than goals. This does not mean abandon goals but rather than thinking, "I will be happy when I get X", think about values such as integrity, honesty, compassion and try to live every day of your life incorporating these values. These are constant compared to a goal, that when reached, leaves you with this empty feeling such as "What now?". Every time a thought comes to my head about my life, I just ask myself "Does this bring me closer to the kind of person I want to be?" and if the answer is yes, do that thing. It does not have to be a goal, it can be living up to a value. And you are right that getting that job, getting that money does not solve all the problems because it was never the root of those problems.

  • @care4rami
    @care4rami Před 3 lety +80

    If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.💫

  • @CalebM_
    @CalebM_ Před 3 lety +152

    I am glad to know I am not the only one feeling this at 20 years old.

    • @camfre4k
      @camfre4k Před 3 lety +19

      Twenty? Try 30

    • @BabyKaleido
      @BabyKaleido Před 3 lety +13

      Ye I 29 still there haha

    • @randomrandom5316
      @randomrandom5316 Před 3 lety +5

      Try 18

    • @randomrandom5316
      @randomrandom5316 Před 3 lety +1

      @Mythical chan hahaha i just wanna say that i feel like i should've figured things out in my age tho👍👍

    • @Dafreshcut
      @Dafreshcut Před 3 lety +2

      Honestly tho. I'm undergoing dopamine detox tomorrow, start doing things differently. I want to find a job because being a student and having to pay rent is gonna be an expensive thing in autumn for me. And I'm tired of having my parents put so much money into me when they gotta invest them into something much more important. So yes, the pressure is real, but I for one can't let things just happen.

  • @ballwizard6
    @ballwizard6 Před 3 lety +6

    Find a focus and just give it everything. You will know what that is. And you must know if u can be great. But once you find that. Find the drive and plan. Then give it your all.
    And if maybe you chose the wrong path ... be excited to the next ...
    But NEVER EVER let others affect your path. I moved to Santa Monica and all the crazy cars and money ... it was discouraging ... more than inspiring. And so you need to only focus on your goal. Try to ignore anything else that needs to be ignored. You’re chasing your dream. Not competing with anyone. Money doesn’t mean much. But reaching your dream. That’s everything.

  • @hudson701
    @hudson701 Před 3 lety +17

    Just quit my job, starting over again at 38 years old nearly half way through my life. Seriously, some of these 20-somethings in the comment section worrying it's too late, you're babies compared to me lol- you have plenty of time to figure it out and re-direct the course of your life. It's scary, but even more scary is getting to proper old age and realising it really is too late then! Good luck one and all.

    • @carladossantos1142
      @carladossantos1142 Před 4 měsíci +1

      43 here. Quit my job 2 weeks ago. Yday and today feeling weird and lost, to come up again after watching this video :) we stress way too much...due to societal pressures, family or friends. If we had the courage to quit something that did not make us happy, things will fall into place in it's due time, we just have to keep on living ❤

    • @roarred
      @roarred Před 4 měsíci

      @@carladossantos1142well said, we usually worry about things that when we actually put on paper we don’t really care about, or realistically they don’t matter that much, I am only 19 but feeling so lost in life right now, but life is a journey not a problem to be figured out

  • @brainymeathead9206
    @brainymeathead9206 Před 3 lety +111

    Bro your message is fucking spot on man, been feeling really pressured about life in college, my career as well as my financial gain. It made me fear about what my life would be in the future that I have to manage every single little detail in my life to ensure success. And it really hit me my drive to go do things just drop, and I would waste my time thinking about how much my life sucked. But right now after having binged a shit ton of your stuff I am currently learning a lot, picked up no fap as well as journaling daily, I also read berserk which really changed my view in life as well as how struggle functions to keep us alive. Keep up the amazing work 🤝

    • @ColeHastings
      @ColeHastings  Před 3 lety +9

      Dude thats sick, Im really happy i helped

    • @vaughanh824
      @vaughanh824 Před 3 lety +1

      whats berserk bro?

    • @brainymeathead9206
      @brainymeathead9206 Před 3 lety +4

      @@vaughanh824 it’s Manga about struggle and humanity, really worth the read

    • @Artsu1993
      @Artsu1993 Před 3 lety

      Berserk seems interesting. Should I watch the movie or read the manga?

    • @brainymeathead9206
      @brainymeathead9206 Před 3 lety +2

      @@Artsu1993 100% manga, would only watch the 1997 anime for the soundtrack, but apart from that the manga is the best way to really experience Berserk

  • @samjefferson5540
    @samjefferson5540 Před rokem +248

    Beautiful Video ❤️ I think the pandemic and economic crisis have taught people the importance of multiple streams of income, unfortunately having a job doesn't mean financial security. I really appreciate the transparency and giving people a fighting chance during these troubling times.

    • @kasukiotto6167
      @kasukiotto6167 Před rokem +1

      Forex trading and stock investments are really profitable, now is the best time to take advantage of the market and earn a lot. And of course to do that you need the help of a professional.

    • @ukuranashkoy8270
      @ukuranashkoy8270 Před rokem

      You are right! I lost my Job during the pandemic, I lost almost everything I had including my savings. I started an investment which today is the reason I have my own business.

    • @westlofdave7266
      @westlofdave7266 Před rokem

      I agree with you 100%. Did you know that the unemployment rate increased significantly between 2020-2021. people found themselves unemployed. we should not depend solely on wages and salaries.

    • @Spalletti923
      @Spalletti923 Před rokem

      @Amira Rasha I thought I was the only one who knew Alicia Seda Rich. Her techniques are quite exceptional. I had the privilege of meeting her at a Summit in Singapore. It feels really good to see you talk about her.

    • @Spalletti923
      @Spalletti923 Před rokem

      I started with about 7,000, which I could afford at the time. Now I have €. 200 k as generated ROI, and it's been only a year. The most interesting part of it is that you don't need a lot of money to start with. Alicia is the best Professional Broker I know, she has a way of making huge profits in just one week.

  • @vandabiss
    @vandabiss Před 3 lety +49

    all things are subject to change so there really is no point in stressing over everything. just hold yourself accountable for the things that u can control, and for the rest, just let things be

    • @zaink7037
      @zaink7037 Před 3 lety +3

      Can agree here. I studied in uni for 4 years to become a scientist. Last year when I was in my last year coronavirus came in and ruined the job market. For graduates I see only 1 vacancy a month come out for a trainee scientist. Thankfully I was ambitious and started doing a course in mortgages and now thankfully got a job in a broker and a full time job in my local hospital which thank God I can both do. I still am a little blank as I need to create a new plan but plans change

    • @vandabiss
      @vandabiss Před 3 lety +3

      @@zaink7037 good luck dude!

  • @Tonqra
    @Tonqra Před 3 lety +75

    Stuff in life just happen, can't plan it - just live it.

  • @ric21122
    @ric21122 Před rokem +9

    Boy this described everything about me and I’m old. I was in my 40s when I started to realize these truths. And even with those truths I struggled to stop thinking I could analyze my way through life. As if others understood the math I could not comprehend.
    I was always struggling with what I wanted to be when I grow up. Then someone I trusted said something very profound to me. “Why don’t you do the opposite? Stop trying to figure it out and just go with the flow? It’s not like it’s working for you. You told me you have been trying to “figure it out” since you left home as a 19 year old kid. Stop. Literally stop waking up with that thought that you have to figure it out.”
    Wow! I had never not thought that way. And once I let my self off the hook my life started to effortlessly get better. Even though I was in a job I “hated” I began to try and master it rather than think of it as something I was putting up with while I worked to figure out what I wanted to be. I got good at dissecting how I wanted to be at my own current job. “Flow” started to happen after that. Opportunities just effortlessly came to me. I knew I was on the right track when a manager came to me to give me a higher position/more money managing workers like me. I said no. I was not ready. That I had not mastered the role yet and I did not want to mange people doing my role when I did not fully understand all of it. He was shocked. And a little pissed. But at that moment I didn’t care. 2 years later the opportunity came back around. I was ready and I did take it. But not because it was more money or status. It was because I thought I could really help drive the team to better things.
    All the time wasted in my youth thinking my life’s purpose would fall in my lap. 🤦‍♂️ So this guy is right. Just live, learn, try.

    • @carladossantos1142
      @carladossantos1142 Před 4 měsíci +1

      Ric, what an awesome insight, thank you! I wish you the best ❤

  • @katiemcdonald449
    @katiemcdonald449 Před 3 lety +18

    This is a wonderful video. I spent 11 years of my life after college trying to figure out what I want to do with my life and it was very mentally exhausting and I felt like an utter failure. So for 2021 I decided just forget what everyone else says and just do what I've always wanted to do which is have a home based call center. I actually have my first two contracts with two companies and I'm really excited about it. Yes to some "Ew working in a call center that's the lowest of the low, but I'm so excited."

  • @GuiCastellani
    @GuiCastellani Před 3 lety +23

    I cried so damn hard watching this, i really needed it, thx Cole

  • @izaag4545
    @izaag4545 Před 3 lety +20

    I can't stop feeling jealous of the people who had it easier in life. They all seem so happy...

    • @iliveinsideyourhouse3943
      @iliveinsideyourhouse3943 Před 3 lety +6

      Those are out of your control, let go of that feeling.

    • @garyblade2332
      @garyblade2332 Před 3 lety +2

      Appearances can be deceiving

    • @IAmSol0
      @IAmSol0 Před 3 lety +2

      I struggle with the same issue. I still get jealous and pissed off from time to time about it, but I've realized that I have to let go of that for my own mental state. Is it fair? No, but like he mentioned, I have to try to not compare myself to how easy others may have it because in the end it will only consume me and make me a miserable person. In turn, that'll ruin my life even more than it already perceivably is to me.

  • @alexboicsgomore7903
    @alexboicsgomore7903 Před 3 lety +17

    Realize this:
    Everybody is just like you
    Deal with whats in front of you, just do something(doesnt matter what, anything that comes to your mind just do it) even if you might fail, just do it. NOTE: just don't harm people in any way lol(bad karma is the only failure)

  • @honeyiroam
    @honeyiroam Před 3 lety +11

    this is an important message, especially for people in their 20s trying to "figure everything out" we've been there, got what we were chasing, and it sucked lol . fast forward to early 30's and since then, we've quit those high paying, high-stress corporate jobs and are living simpler than ever and it's incredibly liberating. on the other hand, I do think it's important to push yourself sometimes and do things you don't love to do so you can appreciate the good things in life even more.

  • @sparshrastogi2646
    @sparshrastogi2646 Před 3 lety +10

    Living in the moment is so important. We all get so caught up in what’s next that we forget to enjoy and experience what is happening today and actually LIVE it. Thanks for this video Cole!

    • @RohanD9987
      @RohanD9987 Před 8 měsíci

      But if we live the moment how can we prepare for the future? Is life really about having about being fulfilled and excitement or is it suppose to be planned out and financially successful. What is it? !

  • @swordsnorchids1997
    @swordsnorchids1997 Před 3 lety +17

    At this point I don't just feel lost about my life, I just feel lost about life itself and it feels messed up..

    • @TheNuclearMantis
      @TheNuclearMantis Před 3 lety +10

      We're all just advanced monkeys spinning on a rock on space, wondering how we got here, and where we're going. But the answer will never be known, so I guess have fun while you're here

    • @carladossantos1142
      @carladossantos1142 Před 4 měsíci

      Volunteer. Help others. I guarantee you will start to see what is really important to you and meet people who can be open doors

  • @dot.888
    @dot.888 Před 3 lety +9

    " Rejection is Universe's Redirection ... "
    You not getting that job led you here ♥️

  • @matthewaddai5336
    @matthewaddai5336 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Im about to turn 33 and glad i came across this. I've been in a finance job for 4+years, and while im grateful for having earned the salary i have i grossly feel inadequate in my lack of an exciting social life, having few friends, being terrible with money and having been single for a very long time now. I havent allowed myself to live, and it eats at me almost everyday. Videos like this remind me that everyone has their lane in life and that we don't have to achieve the same things, let alone at the same time 🙏🏽

  • @isaacc.mp4
    @isaacc.mp4 Před 3 lety +50

    the one person who disliked thinks they have their life figured out

    • @isaacc.mp4
      @isaacc.mp4 Před 3 lety

      @Zekarias Fikrelol i fixed it

  • @shinewithinthedark
    @shinewithinthedark Před rokem +4

    "life is not meant to be fully figured out. It's meant to be experienced" -- WOW. I really, really needed this reminder. We just need to start living our lives, not intellectualize it and have it all figured it out. Thank you Cole -- a new subscriber here.

  • @nidaspace1863
    @nidaspace1863 Před 3 lety +3

    idk why, but i'm so glad i found this video, i've been in overthinking state about my future and constant worrying about my life, and you make my mind at least be at ease and thinking more calmly, thank you

  • @TheSoundofTanay
    @TheSoundofTanay Před 3 lety +70

    "step outside and start living..."
    Pandemic: "HOL' UP A MINUTE"

    • @emilio5779
      @emilio5779 Před 3 lety +3

      get vaccinated and live life

    • @TheSoundofTanay
      @TheSoundofTanay Před 3 lety +2

      @@emilio5779 yes! Got my first dose recently. Looking forward to travelling now.

    • @allthatjazz9000
      @allthatjazz9000 Před 5 měsíci

      My son's friend took the vax. He died in school shortly after. Sudden unexplained death. Aged 16 😢

    • @namedrop721
      @namedrop721 Před 3 měsíci

      @@allthatjazz9000ah yes, unexplained sudden death, I’m sure your son’s friend is real
      When I was 16, years ago,I also had a friend suddenly die, did they time travel and get the vaccine ?
      🤔
      No, they had an undiagnosed health condition and just oops in the middle of dinner one day.
      People like you really contribute nothing to society with your fearmongering and actively opposing attempts to protect society and its most vulnerable.

  • @Jay-sw1yl
    @Jay-sw1yl Před 3 lety +3

    Dude, you make me feel seen. I don’t say things like that normally, but bro. Thank You.

  • @MamaSwole
    @MamaSwole Před 3 lety +10

    I love how you share your own personal stories.You're goated Cole

  • @鄭緁玲
    @鄭緁玲 Před 3 lety +4

    really encouraging! life isn't just job, reputation and others' expectation...

  • @elieoni-6213
    @elieoni-6213 Před 3 lety +42

    Life is actually pretty simple, just LIVE.

    • @blueeyesgaming3921
      @blueeyesgaming3921 Před 3 lety +4

      Yeah but we need money in order to survive.

    • @elieoni-6213
      @elieoni-6213 Před 3 lety

      @Cactuss Get some Courses From Udemy and start career in programming, for everything nowadays u had opportunity, i work remote and have enough money to don't give a fck and i started late at 23 when i was working whatever i find. Yes life is easy u guys make it hard by yourself.

    • @blueeyesgaming3921
      @blueeyesgaming3921 Před 3 lety

      @@elieoni-6213 hello I'm currently studying about programming. But I'm still lost I don't know what course should I take path. There are wide areas in programming like android dev. Web, software. And many languages. I'm soo confused what should I choose?. I'm currently working on c#. Most of my classmates are web div, they keep encouraging me to switch full stack developer but idk what path should I take :( can you help me pls.

    • @elieoni-6213
      @elieoni-6213 Před 3 lety +2

      @@blueeyesgaming3921 Programming is not about language at all u need to learn the fundamentals then u can switch between languages easy, C# is a good choice because is easy to learn fundamentals on it but most of all i'm gonna tell you to learn whatever is fun for you and interesting try some frontend but if u don't like it don't be afraid to get back to backend, also my advice is to learn Linux if u do that u had big plus when u search for jobs a lot people are afraid to learn it but Linux is essential for programming. Linux gives you a lot opportunity when it comes to searching for jobs and i highly recommend you to spend some time learn it :) good luck.

    • @angelg3642
      @angelg3642 Před 3 lety +2

      @@elieoni-6213 EXACTLY. Life is easy, people just like to overcomplicate shit and further more making life much difficult by doing that

  • @relaxin2074
    @relaxin2074 Před 9 měsíci +2

    So true, the happiest time in my life was *not* when I got into college, or when I was working at that high paid job or when I was receiving an award for a hobby or when I was travelling. In fact I remember being really really down during all of those moments. The happiest moments were when I just spent time out of the house doing simple fun things offline, particularly social things.

  • @sacdaabdurhman
    @sacdaabdurhman Před 3 lety +5

    “The world is full of nice people. If you can’t find one, be one.” Sharing some love and positivity from small CZcamsr.

  • @piyush4933
    @piyush4933 Před 3 lety +8

    Man you literally saved me from all of this...
    I literally journal everyday trying to figure out my life .
    As earlier you are always the person I can relate to.
    Thanks please ensure to upload this type of videos on life .💖

  • @GutRegeneration
    @GutRegeneration Před 3 lety +13

    Sometimes we can't figure out the Chaos, what we can do is experience. 🔥

  • @toothclon
    @toothclon Před 3 lety +3

    i think a major part of ppl dreading existance is the constant pressure from peers and family that you HAVE to have a good job, you HAVE to get an education and you HAVE to be a fully fledged member of society and the workforce in your 20s, nobody understands that we have to work until we re 60-70 maybe higher in the future, which is a lot of time so just "wasting" a couple years of it just to see where life takes you until you stumble upon smth that you want to continue doing for as long as you have to/can do

  • @manchesterunited3118
    @manchesterunited3118 Před 3 lety +22

    I needed this, thanks Cole❤️

  • @av8840
    @av8840 Před 3 lety +4

    This is true at the same time we need money to actually experience life. Cause regardless if we have life figured out or not, we still have bills to pay.

  • @samueladusu4033
    @samueladusu4033 Před 5 měsíci +1

    Bro this video is really helpful. Very grateful dawg. Thank you so much for making this video.

  • @morsecode980
    @morsecode980 Před 3 měsíci +1

    I’m 23 years old,
    Most people my age would be graduated from college and either starting their professional careers or moving onto graduate school - but I’m still stuck in undergrad and will be for years despite being in college since age 18.
    Rather than “locking in” by prioritizing doing well in my classes, working jobs and finding internships, prepping to be a teacher (I’m an Ed. major,) etc, I spend every day just doing the bare minimum to get by each day without thinking about the long-term impacts, and then just wanna party and drink/do drugs with my friends or watch tv/my phone/play video games the rest of the time. I have absolutely no sense of urgency or care for my future as a working adult.
    The worst part is, **I DON’T WANT TO CHANGE.** I don’t want a degree, or a job or a family. I just want to live like an undergrad college student on other people’s money forever, or just be done with life. I absolutely DO NOT CARE about getting a degree or finding a job, despite knowing I need to and getting anxious about it sometimes. But I also feel like I don’t truly care about that stuff because if I did, I would’ve worked hard to solve those problems already.
    Basically my only priorities in life are:
    * Socializing; making friends and finding women to get romantically and/or sexually involved with.
    * Figuring out what to eat each day, without much care for how healthy it is beyond avoiding dessert-type foods.
    * Entertaining myself.
    But at the same time, I know I shouldn’t be living like this. I feel as though I’m “behind schedule.” I just don’t know what to do. I feel like I’m not in the right mindset to be a successful adult, and I’m not sure about how to change it. I also don’t know if I really even want to.

  • @serrgio006
    @serrgio006 Před 3 lety +2

    Thank You Man. This Video was really helpful.
    "Life is an experience not a puzzle"
    Time for me to start experiencing

  • @zigafide
    @zigafide Před 3 lety +5

    bro I needed this so bad. the weight of figuring out life was starting to get to me.

  • @shortycareface9678
    @shortycareface9678 Před 3 lety +2

    I have friends who are years older than myself, and I realized this through observing them. There is no magical destination or end goal where you'll have it all figured out. Life will continue to happen for you, no matter where you find yourself. So just try to make the most our of those experiences.

  • @eingrid5645
    @eingrid5645 Před rokem +1

    With all honesty, thank you Cole. Many of your videos helped me figure out the mess I've made my mind into and finally start to enjoy life as it is. Every moment is ever so fleeting and yet I'd sit there sweating over work, status, wealth... while all I really needed is to live life as it is.

  • @badasszombiekillingmachine7000

    I failed an exam today so I needed this to keep my head up

  • @sparksoul_xyz
    @sparksoul_xyz Před 3 lety +2

    thanks, I'm a little happy crying now at 04:28 a.m
    youtube recommendation is magic

  • @zoemellow5092
    @zoemellow5092 Před 3 lety +5

    I just graduated high school and ive been asking my self what should i do everyday since then. Really appreciate your videos 💯🙏🏾

  • @misstrunchbull3953
    @misstrunchbull3953 Před 3 lety +10

    I'm 25 and this is what I'm watching

  • @firestorm7977
    @firestorm7977 Před 3 lety +2

    100% relatable. I’m graduated 3 years now and can’t find work. Everyone I know is getting jobs after their degrees and I’m still trying to get one. It does make you compare yourself to others but your parents or family start talking about how well other are doing compared to yourself.

  • @SilverLumberjack
    @SilverLumberjack Před 3 lety +4

    Thank you Cole. "Just experience life." Really resonated with me.

  • @quinndo3042
    @quinndo3042 Před 3 lety +1

    I tried figuring things out, got so worried, had anxiety attack every day, stressed out becuz I have no idea what college to go, what major to learn and what job to take. But after over 1 month, I'm feeling better now knowing I don't have to figure things out right now, just keep living, learning, working, having fun

  • @gdeco707
    @gdeco707 Před 3 lety +3

    This is so true my parents and family members ask me what I’m doing with my life about school,work ,and girl friend etc. They give me their opinion what should l do. In a way l feel like if they are telling me how to live my life.

  • @Mockduck2020
    @Mockduck2020 Před 2 lety +2

    Shit! I’m 62 years old and I think this kid is right!

  • @YooB1
    @YooB1 Před 3 lety +2

    Great message. Do what you love and love what you do. Life is impossible to figure out. Just live and enjoy life moments. Life is short

  • @ChazEevee
    @ChazEevee Před 3 lety +2

    Wow Cole. Love this man, thank you so much for this.

  • @francisco1495
    @francisco1495 Před 3 lety +2

    oohh man, what a good timing. due to the pandemic and remote work, I went back to my home country, having a job in the U.S. while living in a place with cheaper cost of living made me think that I would be like this forever, investing 75% of my income and building my house was my main goal, however a trip to NYC made me rethink everything, now I am like should I move there for the experience and get onto the grind of getting a new job or continue here. I thought I had it all figured out now, but like you say everything is subject to change. thank you for the video, it eased my mind and I know it will prepare me to make a better choice.

  • @MysticalCheshireKat
    @MysticalCheshireKat Před 3 lety +3

    I watched this about three times, i needed this. Thank you, im so happy i found your channel!

  • @lex1421
    @lex1421 Před 3 lety +4

    You posted this at the perfect time.. wow thank you 🙏🏽❤️

  • @mason8774
    @mason8774 Před 3 lety +2

    Thanks dude.

  • @Jbren323
    @Jbren323 Před 3 lety +1

    This is 100# the truth and thanks for helping me realize this. I just graduated highschool a few days ago and have been super stressed out because all my family, friends, parents, even people like my barber have been in my ear asking me what I want to do for the rest of my life and that I need to go to college and get things figured out. I stresses me out a lot and I even had a kid I graduated with tell me I’m going to become a nobody because I don’t want to go to college. I’ve always put pressure on myself thinking I need to have things figured out and it’s been even worse with others telling me what I need to do. I think I do just need to not worry about it and just start actually doing more shit and experiencing life instead of sitting around thinking and dreaming about how to do it all. Thanks for making great videos man

  • @relaxedofficial
    @relaxedofficial Před 3 lety +3

    This is what I needed mate. Thank you for this!

  • @CarlosLopez-px9nq
    @CarlosLopez-px9nq Před 3 lety +8

    Damn this is some of the realest shit ive ever heard

  • @KingCharles3000
    @KingCharles3000 Před 6 měsíci

    I like that idea. One can step outside, go for a bike ride, workout or hopefully they live in a nice place where they can go for a nice walk and talk to someone cool.
    Events, hobbies, these are great ideas. At least its better than nothing. Music might make some creative juices that could leap you to the next thing.

  • @MikeNico
    @MikeNico Před 3 lety +5

    Your timing on subject matter that applies to my life at the moment is now uncanny.

  • @Greedy_Pot
    @Greedy_Pot Před 3 lety +3

    legend

  • @Beowolfenstein
    @Beowolfenstein Před 3 lety +1

    Whoa, I'm 34 years old and I'm at this point, where I sit in my apartment trying to figure shit out, but I will take your advice and go outside & experience life.

  • @oliviahumphrey7985
    @oliviahumphrey7985 Před 8 měsíci

    this is what i've been thinking lately. i'm tired of striving to reach goals that i'm not sure i even want anymore. i just want to enjoy all the wonderful things in my life now and do things that make me happy.

  • @oneworldonehome
    @oneworldonehome Před 3 lety +20

    "You have come into the world at a time of tremendous change and challenge. It is not an easy time to be in the world, but if contribution is your purpose and intention, it is the right time to be in the world. You have come at a great turning point. It is not the beginning of a new age. It is the beginning of a great transition, a transition from tribal culture into a world community and into interaction with the Greater Community, of which your world is a small part. You have not come here to live a normal life under quiescent circumstances. You have not come here to retire, to go into repose or to live a life of quiet meditation. You have come to serve a world whose needs are immense and pressing and whose time has come for a greater encounter with life beyond its borders."
    If this quote speaks to you, it comes from *Greater Community Spirituality* Chapter 11: What is your preparation for? - by Marshall Vian Summers. Check out the book, its free online.

    • @shrach8
      @shrach8 Před 3 lety

      Aliens exist and are going to come in the year 2170

    • @nica8695
      @nica8695 Před 3 lety

      @@shrach8 I'm coming back to this comment to see if what you said is actually true. See you in the year 2170!

    • @nica8695
      @nica8695 Před 3 lety

      @@shrach8 I'm coming back to this comment to see if what you said is actually true. See you in the year 2170!

    • @ericjohnson2162
      @ericjohnson2162 Před 3 lety +4

      Thanks bro!

    • @julieann1975
      @julieann1975 Před 3 lety +4

      Thank you

  • @jupiterfourth
    @jupiterfourth Před 7 měsíci

    The past weeks I've been thinking about what I want or how to figure out my life. But thanks for that reminder: EXPERIENCE LIFE.

  • @kidhuman1
    @kidhuman1 Před 3 lety +1

    Love to see this coming from another Buffalo kid. Keep your head up Cole!

  • @leuchis18
    @leuchis18 Před 3 lety +1

    Your job interview situation happened to me 1 week ago, dude is amazing that i found this video

  • @bhuwanregmi5193
    @bhuwanregmi5193 Před 3 lety +3

    No secret - just live your life.

  • @siddhant3852
    @siddhant3852 Před 3 lety +2

    hey man, at 3:17, I am going through same shit right now. I am 20 and I want a fucking job and nothing else matters and this line of thinking is definitely taking a toll on my learning process, focus, and curiosity. It's like I don't give a shit about the subject matter and my only focus is to get a job. gr8 video

  • @angieorozco94
    @angieorozco94 Před 3 lety +1

    In order to not feel like I should "have my life figured out" is that no one does, and everyone is just making it up as they go along. Some people are just very good at making it seem like they do. Our entire life's journey is all about figuring out what you want versus what people expect of you. I think once you can do that you can stop that feeling of "failure."
    Also we are living in a different reality compared to our parents and our grandparents. We have different challenges and obstacles like student debt and constantly thinking if we can even hope to have kids because the planet is literally on fire and dying.

  • @makthemoonpie
    @makthemoonpie Před 2 lety +1

    MAN THANK YOU

  • @Litassa
    @Litassa Před 3 lety +1

    Ever since I found your channel your videos gives me hope to live and stay calm at the same time and be motivated about being better!

  • @reeceburger
    @reeceburger Před 3 lety +2

    Your evolving bro keep up the good work 🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @daisy20031
    @daisy20031 Před 3 lety +2

    Everyone has their own way of life, than busy comparing life with others, it's better to be busy focusing on our own way of life.

  • @KingCharles3000
    @KingCharles3000 Před 6 měsíci

    I’ve been so depressed lately. But I could step out the door and workout or I could begin learning the harmonica like I had planned on doing. This is actually so helpful. Sometimes I get stuck in the house by myself doing nothing.

  • @yaboyedollazgaming
    @yaboyedollazgaming Před 3 lety +4

    my dawg just drop another banger, binge watching these joints for motivation everyday

  • @Shyningfade
    @Shyningfade Před 3 lety

    As someone who is knock-knock-knockin' on 40s door, this advice is still valuable.
    On one hand, I've lost SO many years of my life due to crippling anxiety and depression. It's only within the last year that I managed to kick my depression and anxiety to the curb for good. Have I found my dream job and partner? Nope. Instead, I'm enjoying life more than I ever have, which is something I never thought I'd get to experience again.
    TL;DR - enjoy the moment! It's never too late to turn things around and find happiness in life.

  • @steezytracks7815
    @steezytracks7815 Před 3 lety +21

    Ayo Cole, you familiair with Peter Crone? I think you will absolutely love his work.
    Aubrey Marcus has 3 podcasts with him that are all equally great, much recommended!

  • @l0singzanity1
    @l0singzanity1 Před 3 lety +1

    This video just popped up while I am in an existential crisis. Thanks man!

  • @prabhjotkaur11111
    @prabhjotkaur11111 Před 3 lety +1

    Your content deserves alot of appreciation 🙌🏻

  • @psykovipergaming967
    @psykovipergaming967 Před 3 lety +2

    Hey man, I’m 16 I used to live in Zimbabwe and my family recently relocated to South Africa , in Zimbabwe I was farming and had a job, my whole career is based off farming but now in South Africa I can’t farm because I don’t have a farm anymore but on the side I know HVAC work so I’ve tried doing that and made at least R1000. South Africa is getting really bad with crime so we might move to the uk, it might be hard for me to farm and do hvac that side, and now I’m stuck thinking of what I should with my life

  • @tacuska7
    @tacuska7 Před 3 lety

    You gave me things to think about.
    I am older than you, still compared to myself, you are wiser Than me.
    This is why i belive in you. You are right.

  • @meiliu1020
    @meiliu1020 Před 2 lety

    The more I watch your videos, the more I I’m drawn to! Everything you touched is blowing my mind!

  • @liljayred5953
    @liljayred5953 Před 3 lety +1

    Love watching this guy CZcams I need this video god bless y’all enjoy life don’t do anything for clout

  • @Anika99356
    @Anika99356 Před 10 měsíci

    Dear Cole, your videos have been very helpful and life-changing for me in my self-improvement journey. I'm beyond grateful ❤ thanks.

  • @AnabolicMind
    @AnabolicMind Před 3 lety +3

    Feeling very lucky to find this channel🙂🙂.tnq

  • @israelruiz8706
    @israelruiz8706 Před 3 lety

    I heard something similar in metal gear solid. The quote went like this "most people waste so much time trying to figure out their purpose in life that they don't get to do the simple thing of living" it haunts me because I am jobless at the moment with debt. And I feel like everyday I am loosing myself but hearing quotes like that makes me feel better. You don't need a purpose, you just need to live.

  • @Nik-nh2xt
    @Nik-nh2xt Před 7 dny

    Wow, exactly what I needed to hear..

  • @bahadrcavus4957
    @bahadrcavus4957 Před 3 lety

    I actually was one those people who tells you that you have to figure out your passion etc until last week.Then it hit me randomly that what is my passion then? I had felt like I fully figured the life out back then.But after realizing shit and watching some of your videos I kinda feel alive,actually living.Thank you.

  • @wp3068
    @wp3068 Před 3 lety +1

    I literally cried, been perfectionist for 22 years, make me realize that I'm not good enough facing some 'crushing expectation' experience.

  • @notafascist3171
    @notafascist3171 Před 3 lety +3

    Cole grinding out these videos 🔥🔥🔥

  • @wilsonarifin
    @wilsonarifin Před 3 lety +1

    I feel like I have shifted from enjoying "luxury and party" type of entertainment to "self development" kind of entertainment. And the fact that you watched Banks, I feel like we are on the same path through finding clarity in life haha😂

  • @ArielBojorquez
    @ArielBojorquez Před 3 lety +2

    Sometimes I feel
    Like I’m less than other people because of what they have or what they do

  • @mrc7627
    @mrc7627 Před 3 lety +1

    Your content resonates