My Wife Spends Money Like Crazy!

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  • @Zumcho
    @Zumcho Před 2 lety +1599

    10K on elective surgery?! That lady is already getting ready for her single life lol.

    • @andreahunter2471
      @andreahunter2471 Před 2 lety +71

      Not necessarily. Low self esteem or loneliness and feelings of not being in control is often medicated with spending, plastic surgery, entertainment, stimulating the dopamine and oxytocin and euphoric feelings one isn’t getting during emotional, psychological, spiritual personal crisis. Yes, fantasies of imminent singlehood is still also a possibility, but I think she needs to be in therapy before any determination of her real desires and status of the marriage are made. There are FOUR YOUNG children involved…she might just be having a mommy meltdown and her husband is the rock who will see her through if he can get courage, wisdom and good counseling

    • @Zumcho
      @Zumcho Před 2 lety +18

      @@andreahunter2471 totally. I can see that side too.

    • @kingartem
      @kingartem Před 2 lety +71

      @@andreahunter2471 Doesn’t excuse the overspending whatsoever, his wife seems to have zero interest in making it work.

    • @andreahunter2471
      @andreahunter2471 Před 2 lety +8

      @@kingartem pursuing appropriate counseling with compassion for a person’s condition is not the same thing as “excusing bad behavior” or even taking responsibility for it if you choose to take a patient, forbearing response to getting assistance rather than just judge,condemn, convict and cut and run or banish. If she chooses to do that, herself, there are still four children who need a mommy and a daddy to figure something out to restore a faith in love as the prevailing solution.

    • @dagobert1234321
      @dagobert1234321 Před 2 lety +47

      @@andreahunter2471 I think a more appropriate question is, what’s his name? That surgery ain’t for him..

  • @marcenelj
    @marcenelj Před 2 lety +947

    Dave calling another grown man honey always gets me.. 😆 🤣 😂

    • @mambofuego5101
      @mambofuego5101 Před 2 lety +40

      🤣Well… it’s pretty appropriate.. Simp IS a “honey”.

    • @samfuchs5863
      @samfuchs5863 Před 2 lety +4

      😂

    • @dasheffield5596
      @dasheffield5596 Před 2 lety +6

      Isn’t that kinda suspect 😳?

    • @TheCaligrown87
      @TheCaligrown87 Před 2 lety +2

      It’s classic.

    • @chrism70283
      @chrism70283 Před 2 lety +41

      I kinda feel like he is more used to having this kind of conversation with a woman about her husband and “honey” just came out 😂

  • @cristalcruzzin1756
    @cristalcruzzin1756 Před 2 lety +520

    She’s getting ready to leave you bro!!! Start separating the money and get a lawyer!

    • @grit2785
      @grit2785 Před 2 lety +62

      She already met someone!

    • @webfreakz
      @webfreakz Před 2 lety

      Elective surgery is a boobjob?

    • @Originalman144
      @Originalman144 Před 2 lety +45

      He's in denial. He's a weak man and she lost respect for him a long time ago.

    • @improvisedsurvival5967
      @improvisedsurvival5967 Před 2 lety +15

      Hide some $ for yourself. Get a lawyer and follow his advise he’s gonna help you in this divorce not her. It’s over bro

    • @pjf3837
      @pjf3837 Před 2 lety +15

      She is going to take him to the cleaners.

  • @carni4873
    @carni4873 Před 2 lety +738

    This dude is nothing more than an ATM for his wife.

    • @Originalman144
      @Originalman144 Před 2 lety +73

      And his wife's boyfriend

    • @stefancoban59
      @stefancoban59 Před 2 lety +9

      @@Originalman144 I'd bet my money u are right =))

    • @jordangarrick669
      @jordangarrick669 Před 2 lety +16

      Yup....And a lot of other men are in a similar position. I've been there, too. The situation always gets worse, not better

    • @carni4873
      @carni4873 Před 2 lety +1

      @@jordangarrick669 Yep.

    • @christophercolumbus8944
      @christophercolumbus8944 Před 2 lety +8

      isn't that what all we are to women ?

  • @gregorywhem
    @gregorywhem Před měsícem +717

    Same as my wife, yet she complains. My portfolio is up like $300k this year so far. That's $7k a day. My wife still gives me shit that I don't have a "real job" whilst she works 12 hours a day for $3k a month. I'm never telling her. I wonder where she thinks the money comes from.

    • @cloudyblaze7916
      @cloudyblaze7916 Před měsícem +3

      Haha, that's amazing. You trade or you have been holding all this while?

    • @gregorywhem
      @gregorywhem Před měsícem +1

      Oh, no, not trading. She would probably have appreciated if she saw me on a computer all day haha. I use a financial advisor whom I've been working with for some time now.

    • @mohican-jx6fx
      @mohican-jx6fx Před měsícem +2

      That's really great. I've tried doing some research myself to hire a financial advisor, but it's really overwhelming. Could you recommend who you work with, please?

    • @gregorywhem
      @gregorywhem Před měsícem

      Yes, it could feel overwhelming at first. I’m not one to make recommendations on the Internet, so still make your own research. I personally work with Sharon Lynne Hart, and she’s been incredible. You could look her up yourself; can’t drop a number here.

    • @gregorywhem
      @gregorywhem Před měsícem +1

      I have worked with a couple of financial advisors over the past few years. First started out with a guy that worked for Bridgewaters. Same wall street rippers. I then switched to an independent advisor, Sharon Lynne Hart and she's been really extraordinary.

  • @rolandoflores2806
    @rolandoflores2806 Před 2 lety +201

    $10k elective procedure? She’s getting her new body for her new boyfriend.
    Move on brother

  • @freshmex85
    @freshmex85 Před 2 lety +82

    Sadly this guy is still in love with someone who wants nothing to do with him.

  • @jamalparkinson6827
    @jamalparkinson6827 Před 2 lety +335

    This is beyond repair. He needs to hire a good divorce lawyer and brace for impact.

    • @da11king
      @da11king Před 10 měsíci +2

      There s always a slim hope for reconciliation 😅

    • @dummgelauft
      @dummgelauft Před 3 měsíci +1

      Pun intended, I'm sure.😅

  • @takeitback-financial2808
    @takeitback-financial2808 Před 2 lety +358

    Being on the same page with money is a must before ever getting married.

    • @kingartem
      @kingartem Před 2 lety +8

      💯

    • @mambofuego5101
      @mambofuego5101 Před 2 lety +6

      Men should not get married… and if they do… they MUST get a hard-core prenup…

    • @juniorgod321
      @juniorgod321 Před 2 lety +9

      Yes, but sometimes the garden tool you marry turns to the next page:)

    • @TheJozuaSmit
      @TheJozuaSmit Před 2 lety +12

      Yeah when I started dating my wife, quite soon while dating she asked me if I had any debt. Thought it was a little bit of a weird question at the time. Now I understand how important that really was. Happy to say we were and are on the same page.

    • @Joenzinator
      @Joenzinator Před 2 lety

      @@mambofuego5101 Prenups only make sense for people who already have significant assets. If you push one otherwise, then YOU are the one saying you aren't fully committed to the marriage, and are condemning it to failure.

  • @ChristopherT1
    @ChristopherT1 Před 2 lety +321

    My ex stole thousands in cash and was in $15k in debt after we separated. We were debt free with a large emergency fund. I was the only one working. This advise is 100% accurate.

    • @rebeccaoprea9917
      @rebeccaoprea9917 Před 2 lety +11

      This is the case with many exes especially when they’re the ones earning less or nothing at all . One of them always spirals out of control .

    • @thelastfreshwaterfish
      @thelastfreshwaterfish Před rokem +12

      Yeah, similar thing with my soon to be ex wife. Relationship fell apart due to her insane spending which affected the whole family - when she realized divorce was coming, she stole my credit cards and ran them up. Nothing I could do because we were still married. You think you know someone...

    • @howlbeast
      @howlbeast Před rokem +4

      Sorry to hear man.. you should’ve filed a theft fraud report! No sympathy give them the jail time they deserve

    • @racebannon96
      @racebannon96 Před 5 měsíci +1

      @@thelastfreshwaterfish Sorry you had to go through that. I hope you can recovery. Nothing is worse than a betrayal.

    • @Mark-qv4bn
      @Mark-qv4bn Před 3 měsíci

      ​@rebeccaoprea9917 I wouldn't even consider anyone who wasn't working. Not going to happen.

  • @trent797
    @trent797 Před 2 lety +106

    The wife is hitting the self-destruct button on this marriage. She is trying to sabotage this relationship from the inside out. Get a divorce yesterday.

    • @improvisedsurvival5967
      @improvisedsurvival5967 Před 2 lety

      She already has another simp lined up to pay for her spending.

    • @RearviewMirror-ij2pr
      @RearviewMirror-ij2pr Před rokem

      Yep. And there is a good chance that she is already coddling the kids against him. And the courts will side with her. Plain BS

    • @adipratapsinghaps
      @adipratapsinghaps Před 13 dny

      How much down and how much a month?

  • @mirabella2154
    @mirabella2154 Před 2 lety +125

    Stop marrying women that are not wife material. 🙄

    • @spidergirl7290
      @spidergirl7290 Před 2 lety +14

      Full stop!

    • @markg999
      @markg999 Před 2 lety +13

      This...women that all they have to offer is good looks...they aren't marriage material at all.

    • @skycaptain95
      @skycaptain95 Před rokem +4

      So... Stop marrying anyone altogether? Got it.

    • @grit1679
      @grit1679 Před 10 měsíci +6

      They pretend to be wife material long enough to get a ring on their finger. It's called a "bait-and-switch".

    • @GrgAProduction
      @GrgAProduction Před 4 měsíci

      @@grit1679just listen to the guy in the call. He is in DENIAL. Everything she does and he still tries to rationalise it and ‘get her back on track’ .. she is GONE!!! He is blind!! And this is how most men are. All this internet theory keyboard warrior talky talk, but let’s be real… most men are suckers.

  • @rolandoflores2806
    @rolandoflores2806 Před 2 lety +186

    I’ve been listening to Dave since 2017, I don’t think I’ve ever heard him say someone’s marriage was over (outside of domestic abuse situations)

    • @michaelhigh8348
      @michaelhigh8348 Před 4 měsíci

      “For better or for worse “ is why

    • @parkwood6334
      @parkwood6334 Před 3 měsíci +1

      The husband is not listening when he's told his marriage is in crisis.

  • @spidergirl7290
    @spidergirl7290 Před 2 lety +354

    Wife in this call: "I do want to make this marriage work."
    Wife in this call actually means: "I do want my husband to continue to work to finance my fairytale spending. The marriage is the only way I can force my husband to keep wasting money on me."

    • @adamseidel9780
      @adamseidel9780 Před 2 lety +30

      “I want to make this guy pay for my new chest so I can get a different guy shortly after”

    • @andreahunter2471
      @andreahunter2471 Před 2 lety +3

      Even if this is exactly what’s going on, with four young kids involved, there is just still so much more to unpack than anyone here, including Dave, can do with the very little details known. It’s all guesswork, now, and they really need a counselor to help guide them to the reality of their situation so they can pursue viable solutions.

    • @spidergirl7290
      @spidergirl7290 Před 2 lety +9

      @@andreahunter2471 I won't play devil's advocate for this woman or make excuses for her, when the caller made it clear that his wife behaves like she's single. It's even worse that there are kids involved. There's counselling, but some things can be taken at face value, too.

  • @BrianaBudgets
    @BrianaBudgets Před rokem +101

    I’m assuming this 10k surgery was an augmentation and that is soooo textbook. Getting an augmentation on your husband’s dime right before leaving him is the oldest trick in the book.

    • @formula112967
      @formula112967 Před rokem +5

      Correct, but if you read some of the comments from other women, they are justifying the wife getting the surgery.

    • @BrianaBudgets
      @BrianaBudgets Před rokem +7

      @@formula112967I don’t see how you could justify that.

    • @virginialangford6257
      @virginialangford6257 Před 3 měsíci

      Oldest trick of the boob…the only real boob is hubby

    • @GDuncan8002
      @GDuncan8002 Před 3 měsíci +2

      ​@@BrianaBudgets Low quality women choose low quality friends and they can justify anything.

    • @formula112967
      @formula112967 Před 2 měsíci +2

      @@BrianaBudgets It's called The Sisterhood.....women justify bad female behavior all the time, because the women defending the bad behavior usually do the same bad behavior themselves eventually.

  • @Lon1001
    @Lon1001 Před 2 lety +153

    His wife is spending all their money making herself pretty for the next guy. He needs to stop the bleeding by lawyering up and starting the divorce. I'm glad Dave can say it when he sees it, when a woman (or some men too) check out they are done for good. BTDT paid much for the tshirt. The guy is in the denial stage of grief right now and doesn't even know it, even when being told straight by Dave.

  • @Saiyijon
    @Saiyijon Před 2 lety +228

    I get where the guy is coming from. He thinks he can fix the marriage by limiting spending to less than they make. Admitting that his marriage is over is a hard thing to say out loud.

    • @robertschaefer5459
      @robertschaefer5459 Před 2 lety +1

      @@caliopeknows844 exactly, getting into heaven is contingent on staying married

    • @elkellenhabla
      @elkellenhabla Před 2 lety +1

      So when a couple has a bad day they’re no longer married? That’s silly. There are healthy marriages and there are unhealthy marriages. A marriage doesn’t cease to exist the moment it turns for the bad. It just mean you’re in the middle of some mess and you need to fix it.

    • @LaCrux
      @LaCrux Před 2 lety +11

      @@elkellenhabla I’ve been married for 10 years and I love my wife. But I don’t love anybody enough to allow them to steal from me. Essentially that’s what she’s doing. She’s stealing from him and stealing from their children’s future. I’m not letting anyone do that. I’ll leave you before I let you bankrupt me, regardless of how long we’ve been together.

    • @elkellenhabla
      @elkellenhabla Před 2 lety +1

      @@LaCrux I hope you included that in your vows. “For better or worse, sickness and health, unless you steal from me. Then I’m OUT!!!”

    • @Sheryl777
      @Sheryl777 Před 2 lety +1

      @@robertschaefer5459 Not always ...the bible does say there are certain stipulations where the couple doesn't have to stay married. No, I'm not going to look them up so I can post them, but there are plenty of sites online that have those scriptures to look at though if anyone wants to.

  • @claudiacanales2662
    @claudiacanales2662 Před 2 lety +267

    I feel for this guy! 😢He sounds like he is genuinely nice and trying to make it work. I hope he finds a good woman that appreciates and respects him!!!

    • @icelandic_mughal2223
      @icelandic_mughal2223 Před rokem

      Nice works only in books. He’s a cream puff and has no spine.

    • @williamhodges3941
      @williamhodges3941 Před rokem

      He's a sucka!

    • @ruthirwin8222
      @ruthirwin8222 Před 11 měsíci

      That would be adultery

    • @Mr24MT
      @Mr24MT Před 10 měsíci +1

      He also being delusional

    • @Chet_24
      @Chet_24 Před 9 měsíci +1

      Better look in Asia or South America then. Very few good women in the US.

  • @alisagraham6513
    @alisagraham6513 Před rokem +32

    She doesn't care. No respect, no restraints, selfish, don't want to communicate. She has the audacity....

  • @muhammadalavi2913
    @muhammadalavi2913 Před 2 lety +271

    What a nice guy, doesn’t deserve this at all! Dave straight ripped him, but he needed to hear it.

    • @xix967_5
      @xix967_5 Před 2 lety

      Agreed completely

    • @alexnadon6999
      @alexnadon6999 Před 2 lety +1

      @@jamesjodon7038 wow. I'm Canadian. And that is further from the truth

    • @waflletoast11
      @waflletoast11 Před 2 lety +8

      he does deserve it he let this go on long too far.

    • @sonojon0
      @sonojon0 Před 2 lety +8

      Agreed. Men need to show other men tough love to understand and move forward

    • @mitchhedberg4415
      @mitchhedberg4415 Před 2 lety

      of course you only hear his side of the story

  • @Winston0Boogie
    @Winston0Boogie Před rokem +28

    Is anybody else embarrassed for the poor guy? This call is just painful to hear.

  • @girlmom5580
    @girlmom5580 Před 2 lety +334

    I’ve been married over 21 years, and you absolutely have to be on the same page when it comes to money. You’ve got to work as a team. I hate when people think it’s okay to make big purchases behind their spouses back, or just spend tons of money in general. So glad that isn’t how my relationship of nearly 30 years works. We’re in a good position because we work as a team. There is no “I” in team.

    • @arnycazaz2126
      @arnycazaz2126 Před 2 lety +2

      DONT SING VICTORY

    • @SubaruKtm
      @SubaruKtm Před 2 lety +2

      Than Kobe said :” yeah but there is a me in that motherf….r”

    • @amydoran9987
      @amydoran9987 Před 2 lety +3

      Yes

    • @andrewcross8244
      @andrewcross8244 Před 2 lety +1

      That’s why 75% or more marriages end in divorce

    • @Dahmer_Jeff
      @Dahmer_Jeff Před rokem

      Why bother getting married. It seems like you have to constantly work together. I'd rather do my own thing and not have to get permission or have to consider their opinion on matters. I'm confident in my decision making so I don't need any idy else's input unless it's from an attorney

  • @spencersmith312
    @spencersmith312 Před 2 lety +219

    My goodness! That dude was in total denial! I’m glad Dave hung up on him! Wow!

    • @1lespaulfreak
      @1lespaulfreak Před 2 lety +17

      Dude's a simp, I couldn't stand listening to him.

    • @scottlee38
      @scottlee38 Před 2 lety +25

      LOL
      Cant save a Simp!

    • @cozetteoconnor1289
      @cozetteoconnor1289 Před 2 lety +2

      So funny to see you here! I was just listening to your Disney teachings on how it’s antichrist, which I definitely see especially living in Florida. Pray for the church, that they would not corrupt their mind watching that satanic garbage! It should be something that is absolutely clear in the church.

    • @waflletoast11
      @waflletoast11 Před 2 lety +3

      @@scottlee38 Amen women will always be crazy its up for the men not to be simps.

    • @herbalhypnocoach6987
      @herbalhypnocoach6987 Před 2 lety +2

      @@1lespaulfreak That's exactly what his wife said too!!

  • @Originalman144
    @Originalman144 Před 2 lety +53

    This dude is weak, she lost respect for him a long time ago and he refuses to realize it. She's walking all over him. He needs to wake up!

    • @GrgAProduction
      @GrgAProduction Před 4 měsíci

      No wonder. He is a fkn sucker and she knows it. During this call it is totally clear why she knows she can milk him dry. He is a pushover in total denial. She is just bread crumbing him until she has him completely dry.

    • @dummgelauft
      @dummgelauft Před 3 měsíci

      And he could be flying one of the people here, on an airplane..

  • @heathj7794
    @heathj7794 Před 2 lety +75

    You know it's over when even Dave says it's over. Listening to this guy still try to cover for his wife is sickening

    • @katemiller7874
      @katemiller7874 Před rokem +2

      Dave is not the gospel for marriage or finances. Grow up

    • @mgnoodle2589
      @mgnoodle2589 Před 4 měsíci +2

      Covering for his wife because he loves her.

  • @milsy8154
    @milsy8154 Před rokem +37

    As a Canadian myself, you can tell hes one of us

  • @turtels6764
    @turtels6764 Před 5 měsíci +18

    She is Actively trying to get rid of her husband without being the one to call it off herself. She wants him to snap so that she can blame him for their marriage not working. He should seek counseling and calmly leave her behind. He's just not getting it.

    • @smoothy569
      @smoothy569 Před 2 měsíci

      yeah strategically plan it out

  • @dp4kallday
    @dp4kallday Před 2 lety +104

    Shes getting ready to leave you lol

    • @KEANUWHITE
      @KEANUWHITE Před 2 lety +52

      Reason for the surgery, need to tune up for the next guy in the future

    • @johnpichla9557
      @johnpichla9557 Před 2 lety +13

      Dude getting red 💊 pilled. 🤣

    • @I_like_turtles_67
      @I_like_turtles_67 Před 2 lety +7

      She went and got the bolt on and got a tune up before she rides on the the 🐓 🎠

    • @saintfrancis9619
      @saintfrancis9619 Před 2 lety

      @@johnpichla9557 no it’s just common sense

  • @iBryanDBrown
    @iBryanDBrown Před 2 lety +151

    He’s been too nice for too long. If he tries to man up now she’s just going to resist. “Happy wife happy life” is a horrible marriage quote to live by.

    • @autumnjerene
      @autumnjerene Před 2 lety +28

      "Happy spouse, happy house" is the new saying. It's more effective if both partners are trying to please the other.

    • @iBryanDBrown
      @iBryanDBrown Před 2 lety +6

      @@autumnjerene now that’s a quote I can get down with! 👌🏾

    • @johnpichla9557
      @johnpichla9557 Před 2 lety +5

      That's what beta simps keep telling themselves 🤣

    • @angelasepi657
      @angelasepi657 Před rokem

      She's definitely playing him as they're crashing together.

    • @mjs805
      @mjs805 Před rokem +4

      He's Canadian. Being nice is all they know. Seriously though, he's dealing with a little girl, not a woman. I feel sorry for the kids.

  • @itsbkinthemix
    @itsbkinthemix Před 2 lety +170

    I love the aggravation Dave exhibited when he muted that guy 😂

    • @tvrao878
      @tvrao878 Před 2 lety +9

      6:25

    • @gcromer903
      @gcromer903 Před rokem +4

      You saw that too!

    • @fade2black244
      @fade2black244 Před rokem +22

      That was hilarious. Because he doesn't STOP talking and LISTEN.

    • @n121pp67
      @n121pp67 Před rokem +18

      Took him too long he should have muted 30 secs into the call. Some people will talk and talk to justify the wrong things, this is that guy.

  • @NomadicRVLiving
    @NomadicRVLiving Před 2 lety +72

    I've been married twice. Single problems are so much easier than married problems!

    • @gmarie3053
      @gmarie3053 Před 4 měsíci +1

      You didn’t lie. But relationship happiness beats single happiness every time

    • @GDuncan8002
      @GDuncan8002 Před 3 měsíci

      Amen brother. I'll never put a woman's name on my assets again.

    • @formula112967
      @formula112967 Před 2 měsíci

      @@gmarie3053 Who told you that? .....most women can make you feel lonely. I divorced a cheating lying women 26 years ago, and haven't felt lonely since.

    • @smoothy569
      @smoothy569 Před 2 měsíci

      @@formula112967 sorry for that, but there are good women out there

  • @blackworldtraveler3711
    @blackworldtraveler3711 Před 2 lety +47

    The most dangerous woman to divorce.

    • @maretvilla1531
      @maretvilla1531 Před 2 lety +2

      And he knows it. Reminds me of a celebrity blind item website who recently said actor Jason Mamoa is trying to fix his marriage because he can't afford the divorce. Most men would stay just for that.

    • @shalzsoulz3656
      @shalzsoulz3656 Před 2 lety +1

      Its cheaper to keep her

  • @seanrybolt3136
    @seanrybolt3136 Před 2 lety +107

    I literally couldn’t finish watching this. This guy is a total push over.

    • @llallogen7380
      @llallogen7380 Před 2 lety +25

      He's scared of losing someone he loves and has convinced himself that there is a chance she loves him. It's heartbreaking

    • @kadeemleslie2988
      @kadeemleslie2988 Před rokem +5

      Pushover = being in love huh?

    • @MikeyPaper
      @MikeyPaper Před rokem

      @@kadeemleslie2988 found the simp.

    • @binks3371
      @binks3371 Před rokem +4

      its not just about his wife but kids as well

    • @truthtelleranon
      @truthtelleranon Před 4 měsíci +1

      @@kadeemleslie2988Yes. Men are in love. Women are in business.

  • @nic_ccc3366
    @nic_ccc3366 Před 2 lety +138

    Very sad to see this, even sadder when it seems like the guy has no idea what to do or is in denial. If your wife doesn't think you have any say in how she spends $10k, there's a serious problem. I fear Dave's right though, the wife is done with the marriage.

    • @improvisedsurvival5967
      @improvisedsurvival5967 Před 2 lety +15

      Dave is wrong about the marriage counseling. He needs a divorce lawyer immediately and follow your lawyers instructions. He’s gonna build a case on your behalf to get you the best deal.

    • @Sunmoonstars976
      @Sunmoonstars976 Před rokem +1

      He's completely in denial.

    • @robertdebakey2870
      @robertdebakey2870 Před 10 měsíci +3

      She probably got that surgery for another guy.

  • @BetYouHateMeNow
    @BetYouHateMeNow Před 2 lety +49

    this is so sad this guy is fighting so hard to defend her, she left the marriage before him like 80% do. This man is used to flying planes and acting calm even if they are going down.

    • @thelastfreshwaterfish
      @thelastfreshwaterfish Před rokem +1

      Ain't that the truth.

    • @GrgAProduction
      @GrgAProduction Před 4 měsíci

      This is not sad. This is a fkn grown man that doesn’t know simple human psychology and is in total denial. He is a total sucker. He is getting baboozled by her bread crumbing until she has all the money. I have zero sympathy for this. He needs to grow some balls and sink the ship.

  • @St4ked
    @St4ked Před 2 lety +36

    Sound like u got a trophy 🏆 wife, my boy

  • @elmarsupial6483
    @elmarsupial6483 Před 2 lety +28

    He is in denial big time, marriage is over.

  • @hannahhelton3789
    @hannahhelton3789 Před 2 lety +203

    I watch these to make sure it’s not my husband calling the show 😜

    • @KEANUWHITE
      @KEANUWHITE Před 2 lety +42

      Get it together girl lol

    • @Raec123
      @Raec123 Před 2 lety +4

      😂

    • @Crew4Life
      @Crew4Life Před 2 lety +5

      🤣😂😂

    • @ilai7893
      @ilai7893 Před 2 lety +6

      @Hannah Helton I gather you forgot to write "again" 🙃

    • @djpuplex
      @djpuplex Před 2 lety +3

      At least your honest.

  • @deborahjackson6108
    @deborahjackson6108 Před 2 lety +18

    She gives him just enough to keep him holding on….

  • @user-qk9ro8rp8t
    @user-qk9ro8rp8t Před 3 měsíci +302

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    • @user-qk9ro8rp8t
      @user-qk9ro8rp8t Před 3 měsíci

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      @user-qk9ro8rp8t Před 3 měsíci

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      @user-qk9ro8rp8t Před 3 měsíci

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  • @MrNiceGuy500
    @MrNiceGuy500 Před 2 lety +45

    I’m fortunate my wife earns like crazy and saves like crazy

    • @katemiller7874
      @katemiller7874 Před rokem +3

      Is she a good mother or us that all that’s important to you.

    • @angelasepi657
      @angelasepi657 Před rokem

      You are.

    • @carojames6776
      @carojames6776 Před rokem

      You chose well.

    • @EadsB7002
      @EadsB7002 Před rokem +1

      exactly...and if she did spend a lot, at least she is bringing in her own income! I cannot even believe the lunacy of some of these people... allowing the other spouse (who usually doesn't even work) spend crazily while they're living on one income. SMH.

  • @fauxbro1983
    @fauxbro1983 Před 2 lety +68

    Time to sell the wife. The foundation of a relationship is respect and trust. She doesn't respect you, therefore there is no relationship

    • @GDuncan8002
      @GDuncan8002 Před 3 měsíci

      There's a third foundation for women: assets.

  • @atdepaulis
    @atdepaulis Před 2 lety +39

    Wow… that line at the end Dave.. I was just listening for background noise and tidbits of financial help… but that was like a message from God I needed to hear. “You have to stop being scared that you are going to cause the marriage to end by pushing it to succeed “ 🙌

    • @annasimons389
      @annasimons389 Před 2 lety +1

      yeah the guy has some good hillybilly wisdom :)

  • @choicemeatrandy6572
    @choicemeatrandy6572 Před rokem +27

    It's always hard when someone is told a relationship is over and he knows it but his heart hasn't caught up-to it. Happens to the best of us. Happened to someone I knew, the wife stopped working, got him to pay all her loans, get her a good job at his company, then she filed for divorce in December.

  • @Rashaadthegr8
    @Rashaadthegr8 Před 2 lety +31

    Marry a Dave Ramsey fan. It's really no other option.

    • @kingartem
      @kingartem Před 2 lety +6

      Agreed!

    • @AdriannaIX
      @AdriannaIX Před 2 lety +2

      I showed Dave Ramsey to my husband, and he said, "Debt free is pretty much what I've always done." It's such a blessing to be on the same page.

    • @nildabridgeman8104
      @nildabridgeman8104 Před rokem

      😄😆😂.. my sides hurt

  • @kingartem
    @kingartem Před 2 lety +20

    Respect is completely broken, this woman has zero interest in making this marriage work- it’s time to make the hardest decision and admit it’s over.

  • @lawv804
    @lawv804 Před 2 lety +14

    She getting ready to divorce him.

  • @Madoriko
    @Madoriko Před 4 měsíci +4

    I don't think I've seen Dave hit the mute button like that before 😂

  • @relentlessenterprises9238
    @relentlessenterprises9238 Před 2 lety +30

    I would hope this guy listens to this call again and sees his pattern of finding excuses and "potential possibilities" in order to not face the reality of what his intuition is already telling him. I get it, it's hard, and I've been there myself.. but when you know the future. Putting it off is just going to make everything more complicated and harder.

  • @danak4064
    @danak4064 Před 2 lety +60

    Lol at 6:25 Dave turning off the excuses

    • @millsathn
      @millsathn Před 2 lety +3

      🤣🤣🤣 thank god

    • @kurtjames9487
      @kurtjames9487 Před 2 lety +2

      You can actually hear his hand slap the desk!

    • @treeroofgrass
      @treeroofgrass Před 2 lety +3

      The guy doesn’t know when to shut up 😂😂

  • @1lespaulfreak
    @1lespaulfreak Před 2 lety +24

    This caller personifies the "Nice Guy" described in Dr. Glover's "No More Mr. Nice Guy" - He gives to get, he makes his wife his emotional center, and he lets his wife's mood & feelings guide what he does - he's always reacting to her. When he makes her happy, then he's a good boy.
    Over time, the wife begins to resent her husband being afraid for voicing his own preferences, since he acts like he's in constant dread of losing his wife's affection. And when she doesn't show reciprocal appreciation for all the nice things he's done for her, he gets mad & resentful towards her, and the downward spiral continues.

    • @CeeDss
      @CeeDss Před 4 měsíci

      wow the accuracy of this!

    • @GDuncan8002
      @GDuncan8002 Před 3 měsíci

      Been there. Never again!

  • @JSM.
    @JSM. Před 2 lety +93

    Dave: Dude, she's done; she is screaming in your face she is done. Man, it is over. It has been over !
    Gorge: You should have not gotten married

    • @Emophilosophy
      @Emophilosophy Před 2 lety

      Although Dave is viewed as the cynic or I guess the critic in most situations, as well as makes use of being straight to the point, I feel like gorges comment is more of the type of millennial cynicism that I and many others have. Not to mention the baby steps and Dave’s companies advice in general sorta comes with a lot of premises that only apply to his generation so much; such as marriage.

    • @terryrose4804
      @terryrose4804 Před rokem

      George's comment (and most) are not necessary. A child jumps in like that.

  • @BallAintLife123
    @BallAintLife123 Před rokem +4

    Very rare that Dave suggests divorce

  • @jtlegionnaire6310
    @jtlegionnaire6310 Před 2 lety +16

    Wouldn't shock me if shes cheated too, blatant disrespectful behavior.

  • @hjsimpson
    @hjsimpson Před rokem +5

    Lots of men don't realize their woman doesn't respect them (and never has). Total lack of control of their marriage and their own life. Tough to hear.

  • @charlesagnew3801
    @charlesagnew3801 Před 2 lety +28

    She’s for the streets!!

    • @samantharcregan23
      @samantharcregan23 Před rokem

      Streets don’t want her

    • @tubenachos
      @tubenachos Před 3 měsíci

      Yes and/or he completely stopped courting her for several years

  • @michaeldalton8374
    @michaeldalton8374 Před 4 měsíci +7

    Dude is about to be DESTROYED.

  • @ramonaearnest4709
    @ramonaearnest4709 Před 2 lety +18

    I wish I would have known this years ago! Lucky I finally figured it out and got out! Life is good! Absolutely the best advice ever! I see many people go through this and never figure it out!

  • @alexisjankowski3281
    @alexisjankowski3281 Před rokem +8

    This woman better wake up and hold onto this guy for dear life. He said, “We are spending too much” when it clearly is her, he’s still connected with her. Her selfish behavior isn’t going to land her a better guy. Her future is bleak and she doesn’t want to face reality.

    • @OtisFlint
      @OtisFlint Před 4 měsíci

      She thinks shes going to return to the single life and options she had before marriage...10 years and 4 kids later. She'll be a pump and dump at best.

  • @Fishsticks187
    @Fishsticks187 Před 2 lety +8

    This call reminded me so much of my ex girlfriend. The problem doesn't always manifest itself in the form of frivolous spending, but when someone refuses to see a therapist, they are admitting that they are not mature enough to take responsibility for their shortcomings and work on them. Until someone decides to look in the mirror, they will never have a healthy relationship with themselves or anyone else.

  • @sydizzle5212
    @sydizzle5212 Před 2 lety +25

    Whew it’s not my husband calling the show 😅❤️

  • @luisriba8082
    @luisriba8082 Před 2 lety +8

    “A wise woman build her home. A foolish one will destroy it. “ Bible proverb.

  • @mrkadiz1244
    @mrkadiz1244 Před 2 lety +58

    I'm surprised they didnt blame him for her recklessness

    • @ilai7893
      @ilai7893 Před 2 lety +14

      That's what I thought given it's Dave's show

    • @pjdurkin8582
      @pjdurkin8582 Před 2 lety +3

      Right

    • @LittleMopeHead
      @LittleMopeHead Před 2 lety

      Why?

    • @joeb1522
      @joeb1522 Před 2 lety +9

      @@LittleMopeHead Dave tends to blame the men rather than the women as it comes to finance/marriage issues.

    • @terriesmith2616
      @terriesmith2616 Před 2 lety +4

      Maybe the thousands of comments from the viewers pointing out they're SIMPS finally got through. Lol 😂😆

  • @jennyberger6688
    @jennyberger6688 Před 2 lety +13

    Oh man…… she doesn’t care about your respect honey.

  • @linhaton4957
    @linhaton4957 Před 2 lety +14

    2K over budget each month! Crazy.

  • @DisabilityExams
    @DisabilityExams Před 2 lety +17

    This guy is out of touch with reality.

  • @daelkolwitz3509
    @daelkolwitz3509 Před 2 lety +9

    Can one arrest a spouse for "theft" if they behave the way his wife is?

  • @mycaddigo
    @mycaddigo Před 11 měsíci +4

    Dave is so gifted that he has a 2 min conversation and knows all details future past etc ..

    • @createone100
      @createone100 Před 5 měsíci

      Yeah, well I’m not entirely sure about that.

    • @mackeejack6731
      @mackeejack6731 Před 3 měsíci

      LOL. People aren’t special. Everything thinks their situation is so special and no one can possibly understand because it’s soooo nuanced. Please

  • @ScottyLu
    @ScottyLu Před 2 lety +25

    Dave Presses that mute button hard asf 💀💀💀

    • @makeupviews
      @makeupviews Před 2 lety

      😬😬😬

    • @BRExteriorPro
      @BRExteriorPro Před rokem

      Lmfao people just won't stop talking to listen. I wish I could slam my finger on a button for a lot of people in my life 😂

  • @YummyFood454
    @YummyFood454 Před 2 lety +5

    Man loves her too much and she is using him. This is hard to listen to and I hope the best for this man

  • @mitchellgrand3724
    @mitchellgrand3724 Před 4 měsíci +2

    I love it when dave gets fired up! That guy was pissing me off too! Just not listening. The way Dave pushes the cut off button shows hes pissed off. Lol that lady is getting ready for her new toy boy

  • @Stanthemilkman
    @Stanthemilkman Před 2 lety +5

    I bet this didn't come out of no where. He never said no, terrified of her wife's emotions. She hold him in complete contempt.

  • @tomdrummy4984
    @tomdrummy4984 Před 2 lety +8

    No ………..is a complete sentence.

  • @kaelaleedaley
    @kaelaleedaley Před 2 lety +6

    Oh Gosh, praying for this family xx

  • @untouchable360x
    @untouchable360x Před 2 lety +11

    Dave is giving less simp advice now. Did he just get red-pilled because of all of the comments?

    • @motoryzen
      @motoryzen Před 2 lety

      Well maybe...regardless... GOOD for Dave on realizing.." yes...the female CAN be the problem here too..infact in matters of betrayal MOST OFTEN she is the core problem these days"

  • @angiehache6010
    @angiehache6010 Před 2 lety +7

    The most canadian call ever

  • @sethwilson6321
    @sethwilson6321 Před 2 lety +6

    In the words of dave him self, " a child's mentality is i want it! i want it!" she has a childs mentality and she needs her own reality check. dont let her pull you down.

  • @willelliott5052
    @willelliott5052 Před 2 lety +13

    Also, that "elective surgery" is almost certainly for the amusement of other men.

  • @jennifershray4962
    @jennifershray4962 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Some people are to scary to pull the plug on the relationship themselves. They act out until the other person is forced to do it themselves, even though they are the ones who are holding out.

  • @GrumpyCat-mw5xl
    @GrumpyCat-mw5xl Před 2 lety +17

    My ex her hobby was spending money even though she has never held down a job.

  • @mtnmann72
    @mtnmann72 Před 2 lety +3

    Elective surgery is to attract someone else. Walk away and save your own future.

  • @ClaxtonBay123
    @ClaxtonBay123 Před 2 lety +22

    You're calling Dave Ramsey but what you need is marriage counseling.

    • @De_BOSS95
      @De_BOSS95 Před 2 lety +2

      trying to treat the symptom and not the real issue

    • @Lon1001
      @Lon1001 Před 2 lety +3

      Caller said his wife won't go. He needs a divorce lawyer.

    • @leadinglady2194
      @leadinglady2194 Před rokem

      Ummmm..no a DIVORCE LAWYER!!!

  • @ImDahDude
    @ImDahDude Před 2 lety +10

    You know Dave is mad when he starts calling men “honey”

  • @coscarov
    @coscarov Před rokem +2

    Poor guy... That's devastating...

  • @brianpitsilides5337
    @brianpitsilides5337 Před 2 lety +25

    Being a nice guy simp is what got this guy in this situation in the first place.

    • @murraybeachtel8585
      @murraybeachtel8585 Před 2 lety

      It weird though how she was all in for paying off the debt and building the emergency fund back on 2017. People don’t really change when it comes to money stuff hence being more careful to marry right in the first place. I want to know what is going on in this case.

    • @LaneDenson
      @LaneDenson Před 2 lety

      @@murraybeachtel8585 she got bored, that’s what happened.

  • @herbalhypnocoach6987
    @herbalhypnocoach6987 Před 2 lety +48

    She knows it is over and she is spending what they have saved TOGETHER because she doesn't want to have to spend it on divorce lawyers. She is getting some cosmetic work done so she can level up and meet a better man, who is much wealthier and generous. She is preparing for her exit. If it were me, I'd buy jewellery and stash it somewhere. Then resell it later.

    • @Lon1001
      @Lon1001 Před 2 lety +3

      Yeah, sounds to me like she's fine letting her doormat soon-to-be-ex fund her hypergamy as long as he can. It's hard for a man to accept that level of deliberate financial and emotional abuse but it happens all the time.

    • @Timetrae
      @Timetrae Před 2 lety +1

      Yes yes and YES!!!

    • @herbalhypnocoach6987
      @herbalhypnocoach6987 Před 2 lety +2

      @@Lon1001 Well - HE shouldn't have 'financially and emotionally abused HER' then. No reason at all for her to accept that. :) After all THEY got themselves out of debt and he said 2k over what WE make not I make. WE make good money. Not "I" make money and she doesn't, nor did he say that she earns less than him. He definitely didn't say it was her fault. She is wise to PIVOT on her stilettos and get out. They didn't say they were actually broke, just that he felt they were "heading that way". It takes a lot of savings to cut through 2k a month, over a 'couple of years'.

    • @angelasepi657
      @angelasepi657 Před rokem +1

      The next guy needs to be a bigger pushover.

    • @RearviewMirror-ij2pr
      @RearviewMirror-ij2pr Před rokem +1

      'Wouldn't buy jewelry, decreases in value more than cash piped in the ground.

  • @princessjen99
    @princessjen99 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Why did this guy even call? He’s already made up his mind to let this woman do whatever she wants

  • @rayhill5767
    @rayhill5767 Před rokem +5

    I married a pilot and had 4 kids
    WHY AM I NOT HAPPY?! Whaaahh!😢

  • @miketakla8641
    @miketakla8641 Před 2 lety +3

    Thanks Dave and team watch you guys daily and agreed 💯 debt free and attacking mortgage 💸 as quickly as possible feels amazing keep up the great work ❤️

  • @wadeharris348
    @wadeharris348 Před 2 lety +6

    I've been divorced and I can tell you it's best to just talk it out and be open and honest. It's always how you say it to each other. Just say you're stressed and you could really use her help. If she still says **** you and doesn't want to work it out it's best to part ways. I'm trying to give good advice because knowing what I know now, it's always good to just be open and honest. Everybody has needs and wants but it's best to keep it out in the open as far as what you want out of life.

    • @wadeharris348
      @wadeharris348 Před 2 lety +2

      This same thing happened to me and I should have been more open. Just keep a clear line of communication.

  • @BrettABarker
    @BrettABarker Před 4 měsíci +1

    We need an update! Call him back please!

  • @lanaj1107
    @lanaj1107 Před 2 lety +18

    Get a legal separation at the least! That limits your financial losses.

  • @NoName-jm4ev
    @NoName-jm4ev Před 2 lety +9

    She knows what's she is doing ,, she is done witht he marriage and is taking every penny she can knowing that you have retirement and other money that she will get once she leaves you. She will also ask for spousal support based of her spending now ..you need to leave before she buries you

  • @dznArro
    @dznArro Před 2 lety +3

    I knew this guy was Canadian when he said " aboot"

  • @roadrunner9622
    @roadrunner9622 Před 2 měsíci +1

    He needs to cut off all accounts immediately. She's executing her exit strategy, and milking him dry in the process.

  • @bufftammy735
    @bufftammy735 Před 4 měsíci +1

    She's getting ready to leave and is draining everything first.

  • @boredoreos
    @boredoreos Před 2 lety +13

    My wife makes more money than I do and spends less than I do. And I thought I was frugal.

    • @motoryzen
      @motoryzen Před 2 lety

      Well...so far...she sounds good to me and definitely a rare gem.
      I wish you well and hopefully she doesn't change for the e worst against you someday.

  • @marcanthonyrodriguez3636
    @marcanthonyrodriguez3636 Před 2 lety +6

    My FEEDBACK: I like the OLD jingle better. 🤔

  • @raebean6018
    @raebean6018 Před 2 lety +2

    Oh man. Poor bloke is in total denial. She has ended it in her head. You need to take the lead and leave mate - put your kids first. Don't be concerned that you push her over the edge - she's already over the edge!

  • @AL-yk9on
    @AL-yk9on Před 4 měsíci +1

    The caller seems like a good dude....he deserves better