Steve and Shirley misunderstood what she said, she didn't say the money didn't matter to her, her friend said she makes good money and it shouldn't matter to her. I don't care if it was a $1... Once you say BORROW I'm expecting my money back!
I know I don't care how good my job is. If I loaned you $600 I want my money. $600 to Steve is like $20 to us. I don't play about my money that's why I don't make loans to anyone. Especially ones I know I'll never see the money again!
Steve and Shirley you couldn't be more wrong on this. Steve you asked the lady, who by the way is the victim, if $600 worth their friendship unfairly. Apparently it was worth the friendship to him because he took her as a fool and called himself using someone he saw doing good for herself. I work everyday and I have children. When my husband and I were struggling, we didn't spend $600 on our children for Christmas or any other time. This man is a user and a manipulator. If I was this lady I would question the integrity of our friends and really consider dropping them. In the meantime, I hope you took him to court and asked the judge to make him run you your money. I hope you taught him (and your shady friends) how to treat you. He thought he found himself a fool. NOT! Please lady, I hope you didn't listen to Steve, Shirley, nor your friends on this one.
A friend did the same thing to me. Why lie to me and tell me you will pay me back when you have no intention to do so. And you do this to a friend? But I had to teach her a lesson because she begs from everyone we know. And I wanted her to stop begging from me. Talking to her about it wasn't working. But as soon as I turned the tables on her and started asking for my money back, she didn't like it. But at least she stopped begging from me. She can't open her mouth and ask me for a thing. I forgave her but I shall never forget how poorly she treated me. A lesson learned.
One one point, you should consider any money loaned to friends or family to be a loss.. But on the other hand, when someone you borrowed money from fronts on you like that, it cant go unchallenged! They are basically telling you "Yeah, so what?" and punking you in the process. If you just let it go at this point, you're asking for it or similar things to happen again! At some point you MUST stand up for yourself.
No he needs to pay her back. Shirley and Steve gave really bad advice! Shest not in the wrong. The guy is crazy for saying forget her. Her friends her crazy too because it's not their money. Yes 200 times is alot. But he should have paid her back. She looked out for his kids on Christmas.
That's not a true friend because if it was, getting your money back wouldn't be a issue. Don't abuse help but don't embarrass either. No We cannot be friends anymore and the other friends are wrong for siding with him when they should have been telling his tail he wrong. Especially after he got rude. I wouldn't go to court but friends is something we''ll never be anymore. He targeted her and did what he had in his mind to do.
They are wrong. It is not that he said that he can't pay it back but that he said he is not paying it back. That man had no intention whatsoever to pay iit back. Why act like she is the villain. She wasn't a villain when she loaned it to him. Give her back her money.
Steve and Shirley is wrong.. I don't agree.. if we friends and you say you going to pay me back then don't break your promise.. see if it was me I would unfriended him without him even knowing about it.. once he call me up and he say what's up.. I will be like do you have my money and if he say no, I would be like ok good bye big fella.. where I come from your word is your bond so it's all about the principle of the thing if you can't keep your word then no more friendship
I'm surprised and disappointed by Shirley and Steve's answers ! That man targeted her and had no intention of paying her back! I'll bet he wouldn't do that to a man! Yes, take him to court!!
Surprised at Shirleys response, yes it’s the principle of the thing. She was nice enough to loan the money and should get it back, her making a good income has nothing to do with her wanting her money bk. Pay her bk.
Christmas comes every year, the date hasn't changed once. The fact that he didn't plan enough to start putting some money to the side to save for shopping would have been enough for me to know he wasn't going to be able to pay me back anytime soon. She should be patient and wait for him to get back on his feet before expecting him to be able to throw money her way, BUT on the other hand, he shouldn't have offered to pay her back so soon if he already knew he had other obligations. I wouldn't be surprised if the money went towards something else and he used that as an excuse not really wanting to let anyone in on his business, but she really needs to slow her roll. Whatever the reason he needed the money, she gave it to him. Don't loan what you can't afford to lose, and she even said she wasn't hurting without the $600, so what is she tripping over?
Jaquari Bass it's not about what you can afford and what you can't afford to give it's about the principal of the thing you see if somebody ask you for money and they can't afford to pay it back then don't ask for it.. he made a promise to do something to do something but then when she asked him about it, he was rude about it and said I ain't a paying nothing.. heres what I would do.. I would unfriended him without him even knowing about it.. on any social media unfriend, when he call me up and say what's up, I would say do you have money yet and once he say no i would say ok good bye and hang.. friendship over because you gave me your word that you would pay me back and then when it's time to pay up and you say I'm not paying you nothing.. you broke said promise and that's when you let me know not only can you not be trusted but I can't count on you.. so even if I'm doing good I want my money back on the date we agreed on you paying me back..
I’m sorry I have to disagree with you Steve and Sheryl. If you ask to “loan money” or “borrow” except to pay it back. It wasn’t a “gift” that she gave him. That’s like if you loan/borrow money from the bank, they will call you 200 times a day/everyday to remind you, you need to pay them back or deal with the debt collectors. It’s no different in her case. It’s the principle
My two questions when I'm asked for money: 1. Is the person my family/friend? 2. Is it money I will miss? If they're worth it and I won't miss it, I give it. Because if its money I will notice missing, I could very well be like this woman. And I'd hate to send 200 text messages to anyone. Much less file a claim.
Nope Shirley I'm filing a claim. The 200 text messages is excessive buy he got smart and said forget you!? Nope now I'm a out to prove a point...in court!
First of all I ain't letting nothing go.. If you owe me money, pay me my money or you going to have a problem with me.. It dont matter if I have a lot of money.. The point is you owe me money and I want my money and I want it now or I'm going to have to open up a $600 ass whoopin on ya and thats the bottom line because I said so
200 texts is a bit excessive but I don't think this person is crazy. Dude said he was going to pay her back with payments in the future. And that hasn't happened. If I loaned someone money and they said that he/she would pay me back then yes, I would expect my money to be returned. This so called friend gave her his word of giving the money back. The OP is awfully generous because MOST people would have charged interest, the person writing in not only didn't charge extra but deducted the amount of the funds owed. The person who asked for the money didn't even have the courtesy to reach out and say, "hey times are tough and I really can't pay you back right now" instead he brushed this aside and got upset because he didn't want to own up to his word. Maybe filing a claims is a bit far, however it's the principle of the matter and I disagree with Ster-ley on this.
Steve and Shirley misunderstood what she said, she didn't say the money didn't matter to her, her friend said she makes good money and it shouldn't matter to her. I don't care if it was a $1... Once you say BORROW I'm expecting my money back!
So she's wrong for wanting her money back? Steve and Shirley need to slow down and read their letters -- they often misinterpret them.
I know I don't care how good my job is. If I loaned you $600 I want my money. $600 to Steve is like $20 to us. I don't play about my money that's why I don't make loans to anyone. Especially ones I know I'll never see the money again!
I Agree!
Nope. If you owe me money, I want it: don't be rude telling me I can't get my money smh
Steve and Shirley you couldn't be more wrong on this. Steve you asked the lady, who by the way is the victim, if $600 worth their friendship unfairly. Apparently it was worth the friendship to him because he took her as a fool and called himself using someone he saw doing good for herself. I work everyday and I have children. When my husband and I were struggling, we didn't spend $600 on our children for Christmas or any other time. This man is a user and a manipulator. If I was this lady I would question the integrity of our friends and really consider dropping them. In the meantime, I hope you took him to court and asked the judge to make him run you your money. I hope you taught him (and your shady friends) how to treat you. He thought he found himself a fool. NOT! Please lady, I hope you didn't listen to Steve, Shirley, nor your friends on this one.
If he didn't have it, $600 shouldna even been in his spending budget!
Wrong. That's her money and he should pay her back. She needs to get away from him and the rest of her loser friends.
There’s a saying: “Don’t loan any money that you can’t afford to lose.” There’s a risk every time you loan someone money.
A friend did the same thing to me. Why lie to me and tell me you will pay me back when you have no intention to do so. And you do this to a friend? But I had to teach her a lesson because she begs from everyone we know. And I wanted her to stop begging from me. Talking to her about it wasn't working. But as soon as I turned the tables on her and started asking for my money back, she didn't like it. But at least she stopped begging from me. She can't open her mouth and ask me for a thing. I forgave her but I shall never forget how poorly she treated me. A lesson learned.
One one point, you should consider any money loaned to friends or family to be a loss.. But on the other hand, when someone you borrowed money from fronts on you like that, it cant go unchallenged! They are basically telling you "Yeah, so what?" and punking you in the process. If you just let it go at this point, you're asking for it or similar things to happen again! At some point you MUST stand up for yourself.
No he needs to pay her back. Shirley and Steve gave really bad advice! Shest not in the wrong. The guy is crazy for saying forget her. Her friends her crazy too because it's not their money. Yes 200 times is alot. But he should have paid her back. She looked out for his kids on Christmas.
$600 for Christmas? How many kids does he have?!?!
Kenric D that’s low
@@kaye4338 very…my nine year old son gets that amount for Christmas just from his parents lol
Who in the hell says somebody ain’t gotta pay you back when you loaned them some money?? That’s stupid af for their response
That's not a true friend because if it was, getting your money back wouldn't be a issue. Don't abuse help but don't embarrass either. No We cannot be friends anymore and the other friends are wrong for siding with him when they should have been telling his tail he wrong. Especially after he got rude. I wouldn't go to court but friends is something we''ll never be anymore. He targeted her and did what he had in his mind to do.
They are wrong. It is not that he said that he can't pay it back but that he said he is not paying it back. That man had no intention whatsoever to pay iit back. Why act like she is the villain. She wasn't a villain when she loaned it to him. Give her back her money.
Steve and Shirley is wrong.. I don't agree.. if we friends and you say you going to pay me back then don't break your promise.. see if it was me I would unfriended him without him even knowing about it.. once he call me up and he say what's up.. I will be like do you have my money and if he say no, I would be like ok good bye big fella.. where I come from your word is your bond so it's all about the principle of the thing if you can't keep your word then no more friendship
HELLO THE DAM PRINCIPAL OF IT ALLL....COME ON NOW SHE NEEDS HER MONEY...STEVE IS U PAYING UPPPP
Rich ppl say let it go. if I loan it, then I want it back. (But personally I would never gave the money for non emergency.)
600$ is a lot of money, file a claim!
I'm surprised and disappointed by Shirley and Steve's answers ! That man targeted her and had no intention of paying her back! I'll bet he wouldn't do that to a man! Yes, take him to court!!
Surprised at Shirleys response, yes it’s the principle of the thing. She was nice enough to loan the money and should get it back, her making a good income has nothing to do with her wanting her money bk. Pay her bk.
She was the good friend that loaned it to him. If he wasn't trying to pay me after all this time I would too.
Christmas comes every year, the date hasn't changed once. The fact that he didn't plan enough to start putting some money to the side to save for shopping would have been enough for me to know he wasn't going to be able to pay me back anytime soon. She should be patient and wait for him to get back on his feet before expecting him to be able to throw money her way, BUT on the other hand, he shouldn't have offered to pay her back so soon if he already knew he had other obligations. I wouldn't be surprised if the money went towards something else and he used that as an excuse not really wanting to let anyone in on his business, but she really needs to slow her roll. Whatever the reason he needed the money, she gave it to him. Don't loan what you can't afford to lose, and she even said she wasn't hurting without the $600, so what is she tripping over?
Jaquari Bass it's not about what you can afford and what you can't afford to give it's about the principal of the thing you see if somebody ask you for money and they can't afford to pay it back then don't ask for it.. he made a promise to do something to do something but then when she asked him about it, he was rude about it and said I ain't a paying nothing.. heres what I would do.. I would unfriended him without him even knowing about it.. on any social media unfriend, when he call me up and say what's up, I would say do you have money yet and once he say no i would say ok good bye and hang.. friendship over because you gave me your word that you would pay me back and then when it's time to pay up and you say I'm not paying you nothing.. you broke said promise and that's when you let me know not only can you not be trusted but I can't count on you.. so even if I'm doing good I want my money back on the date we agreed on you paying me back..
Owe Capital One $600 and don’t pay…
And sadly that money was probably used on a side piece for Christmas and NOT his kids. He clearly isn’t an honest man.
I’m sorry I have to disagree with you Steve and Sheryl. If you ask to “loan money” or “borrow” except to pay it back. It wasn’t a “gift” that she gave him. That’s like if you loan/borrow money from the bank, they will call you 200 times a day/everyday to remind you, you need to pay them back or deal with the debt collectors. It’s no different in her case. It’s the principle
My two questions when I'm asked for money:
1. Is the person my family/friend?
2. Is it money I will miss?
If they're worth it and I won't miss it, I give it. Because if its money I will notice missing, I could very well be like this woman. And I'd hate to send 200 text messages to anyone. Much less file a claim.
Again, don't listen to Shirley.
Nope Shirley I'm filing a claim. The 200 text messages is excessive buy he got smart and said forget you!? Nope now I'm a out to prove a point...in court!
First of all I ain't letting nothing go.. If you owe me money, pay me my money or you going to have a problem with me.. It dont matter if I have a lot of money.. The point is you owe me money and I want my money and I want it now or I'm going to have to open up a $600 ass whoopin on ya and thats the bottom line because I said so
200 texts is a bit excessive but I don't think this person is crazy. Dude said he was going to pay her back with payments in the future. And that hasn't happened. If I loaned someone money and they said that he/she would pay me back then yes, I would expect my money to be returned. This so called friend gave her his word of giving the money back. The OP is awfully generous because MOST people would have charged interest, the person writing in not only didn't charge extra but deducted the amount of the funds owed. The person who asked for the money didn't even have the courtesy to reach out and say, "hey times are tough and I really can't pay you back right now" instead he brushed this aside and got upset because he didn't want to own up to his word. Maybe filing a claims is a bit far, however it's the principle of the matter and I disagree with Ster-ley on this.
Yes 200 texts is crazy, but we have been messed over in this situation lending before and will NEVER lend anyone money again. Besides maybe our kids
The 200 texts was too much
My kids are like me they don’t loan people money they worse than a loan shark
You guys REALLY FLIP FLOP and give bad advice
It should not have taken that may text to get her money back. He should not have have said I would pay you back. They both got it wrong 👎