The Dark Side of Social Media
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- čas přidán 23. 07. 2024
- Sharing my life online for thirteen years has taught me some key lessons, but in this video I wanted to open up about the mental traps that can appear from persistent social media use.
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❏ TIME STAMPS ❏
0:00 - Intro
0:49 - A “Perfect” You
2:43 - Compare & Despair
5:35 - Validation Vortex
7:21 - Everything Is Content
9:31 - Beware Of The Niche
11:07 - Application
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➥ Filmed and edited by Jenn
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I’ve been watching you since I was in middle school. Now I am about to graduate college. Thanks for being transparent. You always make my day Jenn🖤
WOW! FIRST OFF, congratulations!! Secondly, thank you for your continued support throughout the years! xx
Omg same with me 😳 I think from 17 or smth and in one week I’m 29🥲😄
@@imjennim Thanks Jenn🥺 You are a gem. Please take care of your health (physically and mentally). We love you ❤️
Love this Jenn! Well spoken
@@MichelleRodriguez-sj5cu Does Lizzo follow Jenns diet regime?
it always amazes me how you seem to discuss the exact topics i’m struggling with right when i need it 🥹 thank you for so many years of comfort & insights! ❤️
Awww thank you, Imane.
hi poki ^-^
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Thanks for making this video, Jenn! So relatable and I’m glad we’re talking more about what being on social media does to our minds. Everything was relatable esp the pressure to make everything content - for example even being on vacation was overwhelming bc there was so much opportunity for content vs. just wanting to enjoy the moment. I’ve let go of trying to make everything an “aesthetic” moment and my camera roll is now filled with unaesthetic photos that I don’t post & are purely for my memory 😂
I'm so grateful that you made this video ❤ Seeing creators that "made it to the mountain top" and come back to tell the truth about it is so beautiful. It helps us calibrate our mindset, habits, and content to withstand the long game. Thank you Jenn. Your videos always feel like a rich, warm, home-cooked meal 😋💕
Aww thank you for watching and for the sweet feedback. Sending you all my love! x
Wow. This video truly resonates with me in a way that I think will impact me forever. I've looked up to you immensely for years and oftentimes I feel like I'm following your footsteps - you always mention that at the peak of your career, your mental health and self-image were at their lowest. As my social media career grows and I reach so many crazy milestones, I can feel myself struggling more and more with all of the topics you touch upon: work/life balance, the desire for external validation, imposter syndrome, etc. Your content and insight always reminds me to take a step back and actively work on these mental traps before they consume me further. Thank you for this ❤
this was so eloquently said, jenn! as someone who's just starting out I struggle with feeling inauthentic in my life when I'm filming / vs inauthentic in my videos when I'm living life on camera, thanks for sharing your relationship with this so many years into your career !!
Jenn hi 👋🏽💫 love these project style videos on your life experiences ✨
Paused at 6:15: Social media inflates your self importance. It makes you feel like everyone is waiting on you…waiting for you to post.
Yessss, so true. I actually have loved your life commentary/ self-reflection videos lately. I think it’s my favorite content you produce. Beauty and Brains 😊
exactly the video I needed today, feeling all dull and comparing my ideal self with my current mindset. Thank you Jenn :) Have been watching you for the last ten years and grew up to you becoming this strong person you are today
Jenn! I'm a mom now (my baby's only a couple months apart from Lennon) and what I love about your channel is that I feel like I'm growing with you. Everything that you choose to share from your struggles to the highlights, I see you growing and it's inspiring! The lessons you learn in therapy, the boundaries you're creating, the meals you cook, the way you try to be a better partner in marriage, the books you read, the growth in your mindset and the way you view life, it's just all so great! You're peeling through your layers of who you are and just figuring it out like the rest of us! I genuinely feel like when I watch your videos, I don't feel like I'm watching content or watching an influencer but just feels like I'm listening to a friend talk about what's going on in her life. I'm sure there's so much that goes behind the scenes and we do appreciate that effort, but we love that you're being you as you weave through the complexities of life and deep questions like "what moved me?". Thank you for being you, Jenn! :)
Jenn, I've been following you since just before your viral "how I lost 10 pounds" video.. just turned 20 then, and today I just turned 30. I felt like I grew a lot with you - through your thrifting days, fashion days, then your journey of self-love and self-acceptance, through your relationships, then motherhood.. if anything I'm always very thankful you're so honest and transparent in your videos. I relate to everything you said in this video.
You make me feel seen, heard and normal. At the start you inspired me to dress better, and now you inspire me to just... be okay being me. To be okay with every aspect of me because we're just human, and humans are downright COMPLEX. Thank you for sharing your honest opinions with this video!
I completely relate to everything you said. I realized recently that my CZcams channels don’t reflect enough of my inner world so I’m going to overhaul my content. I’ve also had to work really diligently in therapy to let go of the negative comments about me online. It’s a rewarding job but it can also be incredibly toxic.
It's definitely a process to be able to create work that truly reflect what's inside our minds, so I hope you're not being too hard on yourself. Sending you my love! xx
Thanks for sharing this Kait! I just started putting myself out there online and the fear of negative comments is what’s stopped me. I commend you for putting yourself out there and taking the time to block those negative thoughts in your being… and know that for every one bad comment you get there are more likely hundreds if not thousands who truly look up to you, not the least of which is because you put yourself out there when not many will. Preaching to myself here as I aim to shoot and edit more video. Rock on sister!! 🤘🏽
@@checreates You got this!! Like Jenn mentioned, our brains have a negativity bias so we may get 300 positive comments in a day but 1 negative comment, and we'll inevitably focus on the negative. I've had to work REALLY hard on changing my brain through therapy and it's been massively helpful in processing hate comments and dms. You can do it! It's hard at times but so worth it. Ultimately, you don't want to look back on your life with regret that you didn't do something purely out of fear.
@@imjennim Sending love right back!
Wow, this hit right on time! I've been off from social media for 2 weeks now, and it has brought so much peace. However, I'm a business owner and understand the significance of social media and just trying to find balance. Thanks Jenn for your transparency on this matter and keep taking your time. Life is beautiful that way ✨️
Jenn. I’ve been watching you for over a decade now and I have loved seeing you grow and evolve over time. For many of us, it’s like we’re growing up beside you, you being the big sister and knowing what to say and how to say it in a way that perfectly explains how a lot of us are feeling. Thank you so much for being you and sharing all the different parts of what makes you, you 🤍
This video speaks the truth about downsides of social media and it means a lot coming from you as the content creator. You’re one of the few youtubers I still tune into and get excited to listen to bc you always have value add content to share. “You become what you spend your time on”
Jenn, I love the kind of "influencer" you've become! Nowadays, I find myself mentioning you more often when talking with friends because you're the only youtuber I watch, whose content, I feel, is actually relevant right now, and who is reminding me to be more mindful and reflective. I also recently got into reading again, partly because I read March's curlupclub book "Stolen Focus" :) Thank you for taking the time to share what you're passionate about!
You’re so real for this Jenn, thank you for sharing!! ❤
"Don't be afraid to take your time.. really simmer on it because depth takes time & patience... and honestly, in this digital world that's rapidly becoming this dumpster filled with ill-prepared processed microwave content, be that warm, nourishing, homemade meal straight from the oven that's perfectly seasoned and marinated because that's what humans crave."
my girl, that's a mfin BAR. *mic drop*
i am so appreciative of your analysis & thoughts on this current digital age and i'm right there with you.
Hahahahahahah thank youuuu! I MEANT EVERY WORD!!! x
❤I like this part best as well!
Such pertinent points! Glad you are shedding light on this, I feel like so many of us get "stuck" in the digital world and forget to enjoy and love ourselves fully without needing to post about it
I've been here since you were thrifting, and I have to say: THANK YOU! 💕 This is so important! It's impossible to live up to the online, edited version of ourselves & ofc most of the time we only show what we think is the best version of us, but tbh these are the kind of videos that really make me proud to be part of this community. Thank you for sharing this and for inspiring me to stop editing my online self 🙌🏼
Oh Jenn, you just have a way to articulate your thoughts so well, thanks for chatting to us on such an important topic. Just wanted you to know how comforting your words/presence have always been to me over the last decade, sending you lots of love
I remember copying your style when you were clothesencounters in my elementary school days, then living vicariously through your wild 20's in highschool, and now your 30's after I finished uni! It's been a ride growing up with you Jenn!
I’ve been watching your videos since I was a kid and you were (and still are) one of my biggest idols that got me into fashion. Even now as an adult, I can relate to everything you’re saying. Thank you ❤
Just wanted to say that you've been killing it with your videos lately (these thumbnails!!!!!), thank you so much for continuing to share your journey with us 💌
I still remember the first time I got a video suggestion from this channel. It was your pregnancy journey- I was instantly hooked, it was so relatable. It's been so satisfying to follow the channel cause not only entertaining but it's also so wholesome, yes I said wholesome❤
Love this as a commentary to consumption of online social lives. We all know it's not exactly or always the healthiest relationship, but the little insights into consuming it in a healthier way is always the bit I need to hear, or to be reminded of 😌
Yess, I feel like we all inherently know these truths, but just need a refresher! x
so eloquent and articulate; really enjoyed this creative video, thanks Jenn
Your videos are honestly part of my meditative practice and help me to reflect on my own life. Thank you for being so transparent about your life and struggles so we all can grow together :)
You are like my wise younger sister. I love your content and your evolving self. I learn so much from you. Thank you, Jen.
I’ve been watching you since my high school days and in a way I grew up with you . Seeing you come so far makes me happy and also I want to thank you for always being so transparent . ❤
This all resonated with me and I'm not even a content creator. Social media definitely has its dark sides and it's easy to spiral into these traps if we don't have self-esteem. That was my biggest takeaway. Like we truly need to wholeheartedly love and accept ourselves. Both the good, the bad, and the ugly. This also reminds me of the line, "I stood for nothing, so I fell for everything," which is true. It's actually better to stand for something, even though it may not be a popular opinion, but at least having principles helps us stay grounded, firm and resilient to whatever this world chooses to give us.
I think that’s why it’s so relatable, right? My hypothesis is a lot of people are in denial this applies to them because they’re not “content creators”. False!! Anyone on social media needs to hear this
I started watching your videos around 7 years ago and have grown up with you since. Thank you for always sharing what's on your mind and being transparent with us. We're all human ~
jenn, you’re such a breath of fresh air ❤ i adore you
I started watching you 8 years ago when I was at a really low point in my life, and your videos really helped to inspire me to keep pushing through and embrace life in all its ups and downs. Your cheerful spirit, your entertaining personality, I felt like I could relate to you. Your wonderful energy radiates through your videos. Now I'm living my best life 😊. Thank you, Jenn ❤
Thank you Jenn Im. Love this video. We need more content and honest opinion about this kind of topics.
this way lit jenn, thank you
Jenn!! Thanks for always being authentic. We are the same age and I loved coming into adulthood with you. You’ve always displayed authenticity, intelligence, creativity and have been relatable. We know the game and thanks for speaking out about this, especially people that are looking to get into social media. I’m too shy to get into it, but glad to see someone like you succeeding.
i love how you've reflected on this so much and matured as a content creator over the years!!! it's a very refreshing and real perspective i needed to hear since i'm considering creating content as well
Thanks for this video Jenn. Really really helpful and insightful to hear your journey over the years!
I've been watching your videos throughout the years (one of my faves is the shoe collection video) but I really love how this one came out 🥰 your transparency about this topic is VERY refreshing
Jenn, you are so brave and thoughtful person I’ve ever encountered on internet! I love your honesty and following your life progress ❤
I’ve seen and listened to a lot of content on this subject, and you’ve still made some really novel and valid points that I’ve never considered before! Thank you for this honesty and vulnerability! 😊
Hey Jenn💗I recently just deleted (like full-on deleted) my Instagram account because I felt like I was putting pressure on myself to be perfect and make everything about content. So hearing you talk about this makes me feel like I'm not crazy or alone. Thank you for opening up on this topic 💖
Omg Jenn. This was my favorite video of yours. I didn’t know you when you were doing fashion (not my thing) but deep insight 1000% is. I thank you for sharing the dark side with us - it feels so meta, in the best way, and no one is delivering this truth sizzling hot the way you are. I can’t wait for more of your thoughtfulness!! Also, my fav part was when you looked at yourself unfiltered and smiled… so sweet :) - ché
Thanks so much for the intentionality and thoughtfulness to prepare this video, Jenn!
I’ve been watching your videos since I was 11 years old in 2010. You are the only reason I visit CZcams anymore! I’m not sure how to say this without sounding naive - I don’t put people on a pedestal. I know what I see online isn’t the full truth and that people show you what they want you to see. That being said, I’ve always related not to your life really but more so your choices, your struggles, and your perspective on things. I’ve respected you as a person and admired what you did choose to show us. Even through the screen it is very clear that you are a real person full of soul and of higher-order intelligence and thinking. From where I stand the essence of who you are is beautiful, real, and just freaking human. What you have to say, edited or not, flawed or curated, is of value and many of us fellow humans continue to appreciate it. Much love to you and your family. x
I think what you said about the self-esteem/seeking validation/success part is really interesting and can be applied to anyone! No matter what career path or life choices people make, if they don't have the self esteem and love for themselves while always seeking only external validation, no matter what success they have, it won't be enough. People have to learn how to love themselves and believe in themselves before they can accept any validation from others. Love that you're sharing this side and hopefully more people can recognize not to idolize others' lives and can love their own path no matter what it may be!
been following you since the og days! thank you for sharing your journey
you are so well articulate and the word you choose to describe things are so accurate. I'm so inspired
I think this is an interesting and important conversation to have. Nowadays it is practically impossible to escape social media, and the implicit messages shared by those with bigger platforms aren't always the healthiest. I think you send a great point by encouraging people to be mindful in their social media consumption. There are way too many people with platforms who spread harmful messages, and it times even fuel their audience's dependence on content consumption. Great video, as always!
That microwave vs home cooked meal analog was so good!
The niche/doing just one thing convo is why I still enjoy your channel. Cause you don’t just do one thing.
Love this one, and the diversity of your videos. It's quality - and your positive, smiling spirit can save a rainy day. 😊 ♥
Thanks for being real and honest! This has been really helpful
I can listen to you talk all dayyy I love your take on everything and how eloquent and articulate you are. ❤
Eeep thanks Sandy! x
Thanks for sharing all your stories and insights💞
I can listen to these again and again especially when driving alone.
You’re always so smart and informative ❤️ I can’t relate to this post but I enjoy just listening in. 🤓 thanks Jen!!!!
Jenn, this is a really good salt of the earth heart-to-heart. I am not a sub, but I stumbled upon this. I think it can even be helpful for my daughters to see this. Thank you.
Hi Jenn, really love this video!! Thank you for the tip and reminders!! Also, Thank you for not "giving up" and still churning out videos and changing along the way! I have been watching since before you were married and glad to see where we are all now. Wishing you joy, happiness and health to you and your family! A-pa and O-ma included!
Thank you for your authenticity and interesting perspective, Jenn 🩷🫶
Jenn! Is writing a memoir or any book in your long-term plan by any chance? I love it when you create thought-provoking and reflective content like this, and I have always admired your communication skills. I would love to have a book in hand that contains more of your insights about life, arts and humanity
Thanks Edel! I write every day and would love to write a memoir down the line. I s'pose it's still being written as I live my life. (:
Jenn, you're love!!
It’s really helpful Jenn, thanks!
So well said and so amazingly edited. You are so articulate Jenn and even if u seem perfect on videos, you always have this genuine vibe that makes u authentic. Thank you for sharing this insight transparently 🥰🥰
I think the best part of this video was when you mentioned that you stutter. I stutter and I know how difficult it can be. Honestly, this was really hard for me to deal with throughout my K-12 education until I started college and pageantry. I always love watching your videos and I feel like I can connect with you better!
Filled with so much great advice. 👍
Thank you so much for always being so real 🥺 truly resonate
I appreciated this video so much. I think setting boundaries with technology and responses and being intentional with what we do is so key in today's day and age where we can spend our entire days reacting to life instead of actively planning and living it. Thanks for making this video, I connected with it greatly.
Also, the set-up/positioning for this video, thumbnail and overall editing is soooo *chefs kiss* 👌🏾
Great authentic video, Jenn
I just can listen Jenn talks forever 🫶🏽
Especially on this topic! You are definitely getting your thoughts resonate to many souls I’m sure 💖
Fantastic discussion Jenn. I hope you're well 🥰 💗
What an online journey you’ve taken Jenn! 😊😊 when I started creating my online “ brand” or presence, I became more intentional: focusing more on slowing down & the art process. My online “life” looks boring to some people but I don’t care because the ones that are on the same quiet journey are finding me. Totally agree with your messages on this video 🙏🏼🙏🏼🍄🍄
I like what you said about the viewers not seeing all the complexities and sides of a content creator. Over the years I started to unfollow contents that seem way too polished, too "perfect" because I realised that not only is it not them, it's definitely not their reality, but also because it feels like a robot posting rather than a human being with eccentricities, thoughts and feelings.
But on the other hand, I would totally understand the will to share content as a brand or not wanting to share too much of oneself to the world.
There are few content creators who can share constant wisdom and interesting reflections as you over the years. Thank you!
This was so so relatable and exactly what I needed, thank you so much for this video Jenn!❤
I absolutely loved this video! I’ve been a fan for years and have loved watching you grow and change and see what new or different content you create!
I also loved the tips you shared. A while ago I turned off my notifications. I realized how addicted I became to seeing everyone a notification would pop up if someone liked my photo or messaged me. I definitely want to try out your tip about taking a deep breath before opening an app to see if you really want to go on it!
Sending you all the love, Jenn!! Thanks for being so vulnerable and open and sharing what you’ve learned along the way! ❤❤❤
Your last couple of thumbnails are works of art, it really shows your whole vibe and atmosphere, I love them
jenn thank you so much for this eye-opening and inspiring video!
this video is gold!! thank you Jen, I definitely needed to hear all of this today 💗
Something that have always made me stay constant in you channel is the way i connect to you and what you stand for, thanks for being so open and speak about this things. Love you Jenn! ❤ following you since clothes encounters 🫰🏽
Thanks so much for your continued support, Andrea! Hope you have a great weekend! x
Wow, this video is a sign of maturity. Ive watched you change from your videos and its amazing to see how far you’ve come. This kind of videos is my jam and the teenagers should watch this!
Loved this thoughtful video, thanks for bringing me back down to reality for a moment Jenn!
love you so much jenn! i've been a fan for many years now and your journey into adulthood and motherhood is so inspiring. i've been on a similar self-improvement journey full of introspection, making big life decisions, and healing mental illness. it brings me so much hope to see you and your videos! sending all the love to you
also, i must know where that lace up top is from! lol!
This is very valuable. Thank you for sharing ❤
Love the video! I think it’s increasingly important to set boundaries with social media. One thing I think that was amiss when discussing the dark side of social media is also the deep loneliness it can perpetuate for those of us that don’t have a following. Putting yourself out there to an empty room is just tough, even if you love creating content just for the sake of it. People resort to drastic things just to garner this attention or following.
I really love listening to you, you always sound mature and genuine, you really sound like you made the homework on working on yourself and I really love seeing that in a content creator!
Someone who loves to document things, I've been finding myself trying to record every glimpse and moment and things that I do but I also somewhat miss the times when I would just enjoy the moment. Good for you for finding that balance. I'm still having a hard time doing so.... but yeah I just need to find my own balance.
Thanks Jenn for sharing this video, truly appreciate the knowledge and the opinions that you have on different things in life. I really enjoy watching self-development contents, feel like i can grow with u!
def resonated with this, thank you for being vulnerable once again
love this!!! we need so much more of this
Hiya, as someone how just started my own youtube channel, this video truly resonates with me. I think it's wonderful you are sharing these important messages to the young generation, exactly what is need. X
Thank you for making this amazing video, I love it, this is so helpful as a person who trys to fine a better way to use social media ❤
Great content! Very educational. Thanks for sharing 👏
Thank you so much for sharing your experience! I really needed to hear this!
I actually really appreciate the transparency in this video. I kept neglecting my yt channel because I was afraid the "quality" of my lifestyle was not living up to the standards of other youtubers but then I saw one of your older videos about not being afraid to post, to just get your content out there and I feel pretty good about it now! But I really admire this video as a way to keep me in a reality check and be careful of my intentions, but more importantly, to take care of myself. Thank you Jenn! ❤
all u said is true.. but the point that u bring up "everything is content" it became really genuine and sincere
Thank you for making this video!!!
Was waiting, so happy to see you. This is therapy.
It's so wild to have watched you for so, so many years and seen you develop over time - and having developed so much myself too!
"depth takes time and patience" this wisdom nugget right here!!
Your vibe is just the best ❤