I Had to Quit My Job | My Toxic Boss Storytime
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- čas přidán 20. 01. 2019
- Did you guys like this story time? If you want to see more of these types of videos, let me know and leave your experiences down below! this situation happened 2 years ago btw.
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Okay aside from the negativity, can we talk about how the pores are looking GOOD at the end? Makeup Forever had my back.
*soulja boy voice* Pooorreesss?! Lmao your skin is looking awesome
👏🏾Honey👏🏾 what👏🏾 PORES👏🏾 😽
I honestly take notes from you because you just make your pores disappear like a magician.
Timaloveslemons Just flying by to say you are beautiful, inspirational and I’m glad you left that job to do something better. Many Blessings. Xx
I literally quit my job job tonight because I felt like I deserved better. I am no perfect person and did make a lot of mistakes but I felt like I was in a toxic relationship with my work
your pores made you more interesting. I just quit my job last tuesday, now rendering. hehehe
Work already sucks in general...Why do people have to make it worse?
TRUE, THAT IS WHY SOME PEOPLE ARE STILL HOMELESS EVEN THOUGH THEY ARE STUCK IN THOSE 9-5. YEAP, THEY REALLY SUCK YOUR LIFE OUT OF YOU.
Ivy S honestly
Exactly
I've always thought that. Work should be stress free at all times. The managers make it bad, especially if their the main problem
It doesn't suck for everyone. For some, it is their playground.
I had a toxic job for almost 2 years and they constantly spoke behind my back and telling me I was never good enough... When I quit they also kept 1 month of my money. To this day I wish I had walked away cussing at them but I ended up being quite polite.... anyway.. YES IT IS OKAY TO QUIT absssssolutelyyyyy!! I had rather had a money struggle than seeing my mental health deteriorating more. Money will eventually come back but your health might not
YESSS! I quit McDonald’s today I worked 10 months there! I just couldn’t anymore I wish I quit sooner! The managers were so toxic!
So true
I highly agree I quit my job of 14yrs and was bullied treated like crap my lead would fake pretend and talk behind my back on teams and smile in my face. All of my team members talked behind my back. My old bosses treated me like crap it was the worst company I ever worked for and glad I left. It’s hard but glad I don’t have to punch in for that job.
@@Lavenderlight1 same
I'm also in this position currently. I've only been working there for over a month and now it's hell. What do I do.
Oh no when a boss starts buttering you up talking about their "personal life" to you so you talk about yours, it could be shes trying to get info on you to talk sh*t about you later.
I'm sure she probably has honestly lol
I am not kidding, I was always bothered by an old fart who was the boss's dad. He had no business being there but he talked for hours. That alone was harassing. But he mentioned how his third wife was no longer the same in bed, that neighbours were gossiping that he slept with his own daughters, that his daughter in law was cheating,... Bla bla bla. Nasty stuff. And then he would try to leech info about MY love and sex life so I made up that I had a partner and made stuff up because I had told hjm before I was single but maybe he thought that put a stamp on my forehead that said "abuse me". When I said I had a bf now, I saw something in his eyes. A smirk. I wanted to beat it off his face. Old fart boomer then gave me sex advice, told me to smile more. I wanted to kill him. Fucking nasty old farts.
Your boss definitely sounded like a narcissist. All the "smack" that they talk, usually none of it holds water, they simply are saying those things because it gets them off to tear you down. These ppl are literally crazy. Glad for you that you got out.
My last narcissist boss was like that as soon as I stood up for myself from HIS mistakes he discarded me 😂
I used to work at a shitty shitty craft store and I'm not gonna name the store for legal reasons I had to work with fishing line and she wanted it a certainly way this bitch was kinda narcissistic more narcissistic then my toxic teacher of mine I call her miss m and that's a whole other story for a other time I always felt on edge during my time at that job which I feel like that's mind you this was a small ass business nobody worked that's before and from the get go I had really bad vibes from her she was really invasive wanting to know what I did outside of school I get wanting to get to know your employees but there's a certain way to go about it I had to sweep her floor and have chrip at my ear in a condescending way every five mins and she threatened to tell my supervisor at the time that I "wasn't" " working " hard" enough " I obviously said ill try to work harder cause I didn't want to get in trouble cause of her antics she would tell me your "slacking " I feel she was really unprofessional condescending and judgemental and tell I'm judging when she's the judgmental one judging me on how I live my PRIVATE!!! Life and that day that was sorta my breaking point I was thinking fuck this bitch fuck this job I really hope she doesn't speak to her family the way she spoke to me I left because I didn't feel like a fuckin person I didn't feel like an employee I felt uncomfortable I learned a lesson on how I deserve to work in a peaceful environment and a professional environment Im on my guard becuase of my former boss and she still is talking shit about me but I don't give a fuck and Becca if you see this 🖕 thats all folks
It was a shit show
I am so proud of you. I remember talking with you about this situation and I’m SO GLAD you got out of there. I understand your “singled out” feeling TOO WELL. Not to mention that sometimes, sweet/polite people find it so difficult to face confrontation and bullying. Again, I’m SO proud you recognize you deserve so much more and you took action!!! Go Timaaaaa!!!!!!
Just know that there’s always a better job out there that will appreciate your kindness, and hard work.
More jobs need to do exit interviews.
they dont care. they just want to treat ppl however they'd like
Yes let me do a exit interview with my supervisor (Big boss). I'll tell him how she gives that 1 white girl special treatment and call the rest of us animals
These don't matter, I just went through this. They don't care!
MilkTea my mom was just saying this because I would have so much to say. Like why on earth would you not have exit interviews is beyond me
Why? When u dont plan on going back
I just left a job I really loved this past Sept because of a toxic administrator...even though I'm not making quite as much money at the moment but the peace and mental stability I experienced after I left was well worth it. It was a very toxic and draining work environment and I had to GO
Exactly! Higher pay is definitely not worth that lol.
MizMookey The Recessionista .. goin through this rn. Waited a whole year for a job change and its finally here! I too took a pay cut but at the moment IDC lol. I’m feeling like a weight has been lifted off of my shoulders 🙌🏾
That could be a roadblock to your path. Just focus on your gifts.
Recently left a very toxic work environment. Although I miss the money, I know that greater opportunities are in store for me.
U will survive.
@@pickywolf2728 She will THRIVE
Its so satisfying seeing good people getting out of difficult situations. Hope greater and greater things come your way.
Can you please take the wig off, and give us A close up of the scaly, filthy, stinkin, greasy, mite infested, scalp......thanks.......please post the pics......by the way, you have nice eyes...
I left an environment like this a few years ago and although I was hesitant to do so it turned out to be the best move I ever made! I’m now in a position that I love. I would wholeheartedly encourage everyone in a similar situation to do the same, remember it’s just a job! No one should have to feel anxious to the point of depression due to their workplace. Be well
I’m struggling with a bad job currently and it’s not even the job itself it’s the people and the boss. I’ve been yelled at snapped at. I’ve gotten in trouble for things I never learned or didn’t even do. In their eyes I’m nice and weak. But realistically I’m holding it together so I don’t cuss at them or leave. It’s to the point that I get anxiety and I dread Sunday’s. I’m working on leaving. I will leave. I’m so prepared that I don’t keep anything personal at my desk and I delete any personal information on my PC. Hoping my confidence can be boosted when I leave.
What secretly gives me satisfaction is seeing the job posting pop up every 90 days or less because I know the true reason they can't fill the position. I see it as karma, revolving door.
I gave my two weeks notice and my last day was supposed to be in the next two days, but they told me not to come in on my last day. Definitely glad to be leaving, the most toxic work place I’ve ever been in. They didn’t make me feel welcome at ALL especially the manager. I love that you let your success be your revenge! It really is the best ❤️😊
I have PTSD from working at toxic work environments too. I got stories for days! Lucky the last toxic place I worked for doesn't exists anymore. Small business or not... new or old...there is no excuse to be nasty to your employees! Here's some tips...
1) Note every time someone is harassing you or making you feel uncomfortable on the job( boss or co- work it dont matter), put where it happened, date and time of the interaction. So keep a small notebook/notepad in your pocket,bag,or in your car if you are not able to have written material at your desk. Take notes when something happens.
2) Go to HR and report these interactions. If you dont have HR (red flag!) go to your local labor board! If HR doesn't handle it go to the labor board with your evidence and report!
3)If all else fails and you can't handle it LEAVE!
4) Speak to a mentor or counselor/therapists so they can help you avoid toxic places or help you see the red flags and better prepare you on the next job.
5)Always stand up for yourself and what you believe in. SPEAK UP and demand respect!
Your mental health is not worth staying in toxic environments, no amount of money will make up for the trauma it has caused!
I have PTSD now from my toxic job I got let go from simply because upper management didn’t like me. I could not trust anyone not even HR (who wasn’t even qualified to hold that title, they had no training in HR procedures). I was being bullied by my superior and told HR in confidentiality about my concerns and what does the idiot do? He goes and blabs about it to the president of the company. So she decided she needed to have a “talk” with me and proceeds to blame me for whatever I was enduring and said she didn’t blame my boss for doing what he did. She said she wouldn’t be surprised if my boss decided he no longer wished to have me work at that company and surprise surprise, I was let go a few months later.
I definitely need counseling after that and have lost my trust of people.
M Muss Thank you for your kind words. It wasn’t that people didn’t like me, I was hired by completely different people in charge at the time and all was well in terms of my performance. My bosses loved me! I learned the jobs of 3 people in less than 2 weeks and did them to the best of my abilities with the limited knowledge I had (I had to cover for 3 people as 2 of them went on vacation and one left on maternity leave when I started). My original boss quit due to the high levels of toxicity she was enduring from that same President.
Her doctors even suggested she quit. She was replaced by a girl younger than me who had no business being a director especially considering that was her first real job and her background was in cosmetology. She was a great brown noser and talked her way into getting a directors position. She began to hire her friends and family and put them in positions of power. To make room for their extreme salaries she was promising them, she was the one to convince the other unqualified managers (my boss’ background was in poetry to give you an idea) to come up with a list of employees they wanted to let go. My boss had hired a bunch of his friends so of course he let me and the other co-workers on my team who were not part of his inner circle. It took me a while to realize it wasn’t me. I’m not perfect but I have never had issues with superiors except for the ones at this company because they let favoritism get in the way.
@@Saturn890 Unfortunately, similar story. Was thrown out last week after 5 months because of a tyrrantical co-worker who belittles me and one of his bosses (female) who likes to talk sternly to me, almost insulting me. And don't start me on that CEO who's beyond stuck up. And a lot of people were very snobby from office to the subway and buses.
Drew Cox I’m sorry to hear you went through that. As awful as you may feel about being kicked out, at least you have the peace of mind knowing you are not in that toxic place anymore. Keep your head up and don’t let those vile people bring you down. Let them say what they will, only you know how good of a person you are.
@@Saturn890 And as an add-on, no 2 week severance package (particularly around the holidays). Then again, what do you expect when a arrogant CEO who's rarely around makes a gazillion dollars annually, while we slave for peanuts?
Yes. Quit if you need to.
Life is precious & short. Tomorrow isn't promised...don't waste it
whew chil the foolishness.
I had my first job last year but I ended up quitting because my boss was horrible. Some of her comments about me made me feel worthless. Even costumers hated her attitude. She was the definition of unprofessional. The last straw for me was when she posted on social media calling us stupid and how she hated her employees. I kinda regret not reporting her to corporate after that but then I realized that I wanted nothing to do with that company. The job really made me disliked interacting with others or even be around people. And now that I need to find a job, it’s hard cuz I’m really scared to be around anyone. I’m so glad I came across your video. It made me realized that I wasn’t alone. Thank you for sharing your story ❤️
ARMYx Cheshire HEY! This happened to to around 2016 when i worked in retail. It took me all of 2017 to regain some of the confidence i lost. Now I love going to work because my coworkers AND managers are respectful and encouraging. Trust me when i say it all gets better💙
There are a lot of crappy bosses out there, you just gotta keep searching for a better fit! I've experienced a lot of different shades of crap with bosses. Currently searching as well. :)
Gucci with Luv literary my situation at my first job last year. Everything you said is exactly what happen to me and why left.
Literally same I just quit my job my manager was very unprofessional and would tell other employees that she disliked me and cut my hours just shows how immature she was
I feel for you I left a major dairy plant because of toxic coworkers that undermined my training, influenced my boss to give me a below performance review even though my coworkers thought I was competent enough for them to disappear for 45 minutes, tolerated jew jokes( I am jewish) and a pervert man that said very personal harassing comments for 5 weeks and cornered me into a cooler...something snapped and when I knew I would be busting my ass for someone who was going on vacation that spread lies for months and was supposed to have my back...when I knew my boss was her future brother in law I just walked with the last bit of self esteem I had...if someone belittles and worst of all doesnt believe you when you are telling the truth...just go!! You deserve better!!
Also, it is very possible to simply outgrow a job. I’ve been at my current job longer than the majority of the people in the entire company, including my boss. I love my line of work and coworkers but there are some things about the direction things are going in that make the place no longer a good fit for me. (Also, the pay isn’t that good and with age comes more responsibilities!) I want more for myself that my current job can’t offer, so I resigned.
Girl I had such a similar experience. My boss made me so nervous it got to the point where everytime I showed up for a shift I thought I was going to throw up. She ended with her calling me a liar, lazy, and saying she had seen lazy employees like me before. She also tried to withhold my paychecks after I quit cause she she saw dust specks on my uniform when I was giving it back. I felt so scarred and still feel like its my fault because I lied but I really didn't. Just trying to move on now and become a stronger person.
Love this look 🤗 I had a few jobs like that. 🤨🤬Toxic bosses are the worst and they’re not fit for that position. Their treatment towards you does give you PTSD.
Thanks Charity! and yeah unfortunately they're common lol
I'm soo glad you're free! Toxic work environments are sickening. To this day I think about negative work environments and PRAISE GOD that i'm not working there now. It's true, as evon as you can get out. Nothing justifies the emotional and psychological damage that terrible people can do.
This vid just took a large weight off my shoulders i have felt so guilty quitting my passed jobs from unwanted experiences
OMG YES! I called my manager today and told him I quit! But because I got so nervous and guilty and started laughing but I tired to hold it in! I really am having difficulty finding a job now!
This is happening to me right now. My boss isn't a bad person, but sometimes I think that her emotions can get ahead of her and she'll project those feelings onto me. At first in the very beginning it wasn't a problem at all, but now I'm 5 years in and I'm sick and tired of her sh*t. I already have problems with anxiety, which lead to me clenching my jaw and grind my teeth. Just going to work and being in that office now triggers me to have tension headaches and pain in my face because I'd felt so stressed that I'd tense up my facial muscles involuntarily.
Just as an example recently, my boss blamed me for something that I didn't do. She thought I had let the business next door take away a (wealthy) client of ours. She didn't even ask me what happened... she just assumed that I drove away clientele, and so she proceeded to ignored me and gave me the silent treatment all day long. My coworker had to tell me that my boss was raging at me as I had no idea what I had even done.... my coworker then tried to explain my side to her, but she just wasn't having it and she was lost in a fit of rage. The next day she asked me my side of the story and straight up told me I was wrong and that it didn't happen. When she found out that it wasn't my fault, she didn't even apologize to me.... she just pretended like nothing happened and started talking and laughing with me again. I was at my wits end and I couldn't deal with this emotional roller coaster any longer. My last day is on Saturday and I can't wait to GTFO!!
Good for you. It sounds like your boss is a narcissist. There are far to many of them in positions of power. I hope you find a job you can be comfortable at.
@@aprilfisher3731I agree!!!!!!!!
Narcissists are on the rise in the workplace. I'm dealing with a whole team of them right now. I'm want to quit so bad however I don't have anything else lined up yet. I will get out soon!!!
THE D R A M A 👀
MilesJaiProductions too much!!
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I just quit a job because of the exact reason - a toxic, very hostile boss. She had no business being a boss let alone in HR. She treated me like dirt - yelled at me, cussed at me, talked about me to others, called other employees names to me and lied like crazy. After two years of her putting me down, having anxiety attacks, and being made to feel like I was incompetent,I called her out on her hostility to the CEO. Of course she denied everything and the CEO believed her. I resigned the next day and only worked a week, not two. Best decision I ever made to get out of that toxic, work environment. Shortly after I found out that at least 5 other people in the office thought the same way I did and couldnt stand her. No job is worth your health and wellbeing.
I Just quit my job after being there two years because of constant things going on . The icing on the cake was when I got sexually assaulted and they put me on the schedule with that some person and when I refused to go in they threaten to write me up until I threaten to call corporate I’m happy i left and work some where that’s easier for me because of school .
You should have sued.
Good for you
Red flags always gotta listen to those glad you were able to get out of that situation 🙌
I’m walking away from a toxic work situation now, thanks for your story time💁🏽♀️
8:08 how I feel right now... The last two managers I've had have made me feel so stupid, worthless, lazy and like a terrible person when I know that I'm one of the hardest workers at my job.
girl i just recently quit my job. management was horrible at my job. i had two weeks off for the holidays and the first day i cane back they scheduled me for a day outside of my availability then told me i had to fix it. so i told them i quit and walked out
Ugh going through this right now and was searching for videos to help me through the next 5 months (not in a position to quit until then). Your video helped, thank you ♥️
I just recently left a bad job a few months ago. I left because I realized 1. That the promotion I was working for was never going to come and 2. I was tired of being belittled and bullied at work. Like you, all of my confidence and self worth went out the window and it got so bad that I believed that I didn’t deserve better and that I didn’t deserve to live. My life literally imploded. I lost friends or people I thought were my friends I should say. I got evicted and had to move home but I feel like a person again. I used to get cussed out almost daily by one of my bosses and they often dared me to leave by saying that I wasn’t important to the job and I was easily replaceable. Objectively I know that’s true but I feel bad for anybody that has to work at a place like that. I was just trying to better my life and be able to make more money for my family. I’m still dealing with the after effects on my mental health. I felt like I had lost control of my mind. I found out that my boss got fired for having sex with an employee a couple of months after I left but it almost made me feel worse that that was the kind of person who the company let abuse me and other employees. I realize now that positions of power attract abusers because they only feel fulfillment through making others feel like they really do on the inside. I guess it’s a lesson that you really have to go through to understand it and to understand how to deal with it.
You are exactly describing my unprofessional narcissistic boss. Where she talked bad about some employees including me when i heard her once saying that my work quality is poor while everyone in the workstation encouraged me a lot and even the general manager once saw my work and approved it. Anyway, the unprofessionalism escalated when she started mistreating me infront of my colleages with undermining reactions and lastly accusing me of faults and misinformation she was the one who's done at the first place. I quit when i couldn't deal anymore with the stress and gaslighting she was doing to me.
Girl I thought I was the only one. Thank you so much for sharing your story, I went through the exact same thing at my last job. I have never in my life worked at the job so bad that it broke me mentally. I already suffered from depression but that job pushed me to the point to where I literally had a mental breakdown and I ended up committing myself into the hospital because the thought of going through that again made me want to just kill myself. I still suffer from PTSD and have some anxiety attacks when I think about applying for a job so now i have decided to just work for myself. I have been feeling like I couldn't do it but hearing your story and seeing how much you have grown on social media I know I can do it to. You have no idea how much this video has helped me, I can't say thank you enough.
Just wanted to say I'm sorry you had to deal with this, nobody should ever go through that. You are so strong for getting yourself free.
@@lovelyliv0079 Thank you so much 😊
I feel like this video came at a perfect timing because I myself am going through something similar. I have anxiety when I think of going to work and even on my days off I still think about the job. I don’t really have no one to speak to about it idk I feel so lost
@@hiboxxii yes girl I feel you I understand 100%. Honestly, I would look for another job asap, but instead of looking for just any job, I would look for something that revolves around your interests and passions. I hope that helps a little, if you need someone to talk to let me know.
Tiffany Le'charn oh hell no I am so happy you left girl.
Laaaawwed this whole story made me want to fight that manager smfh
First of all your foundation looks so good! Second of all I’m working at fast food and honestly that place is destroying me. I have a coworker who is really passive aggressive to me . And one of my managers is really hard on me and she’s always pushing me for more. There’s also a customer who comes in everyday and cusses me out and it’s just so frustrating and honestly when I see this customer I get anxious and I start shaking.
When u see those jobs where the people are mostly from one country and u get that "we look after our own" vibe?. Run. 🏃
We have loads of those in the UK. Don't bother.
Ami- lee So true! Especially jobs filled with Indians
Amen.
Yep had a job with mostly asains and they would ALWAYS stand up for eachother even when they are wrong.
I was in this same environment, the amount of exclusion and outright xenophobia (I'm brown).... Traumatizing
That’s what I’m currently in .
Before my current job I worked food service. I quit that job because one of my managers decided to scream at me in front of my co-workers. When I quit the head manager was so unprofessional and basically called me a liar. Before food service I worked retail and I had to quit that job due to the customers. They were brutal. I'm a very anxious person and become easily upset 😔. However God is great and I'm liking my current job. Hope it stays that way. No job is worth your mental health. And yes I believe people can suffer PTSD from jobs they've had. I really liked your video! You're super pretty! ♥️XO.
Glory Alyce I’m also an anxious person and by law companies are supposed to consider your mental health. I’ll definitely be writing articles about this in future because this is a problem.
What do you do now?? I was also in retail and quit to become a teller. But the customers can be VERY rude as well. I get anxious just thinking about it.
Thank you ! I needed to hear it today . ' I am important, my mental well-being is important'
Good for you, I feel similar anxiousness at my current job but I’m getting ready to leave within the next month and I’m so excited for this new chapter
Hey Tima! Your situation honestly sounds like mine. I recently quit my job (cashier) at a store. They were always busy and there was barely any other employees. I was literally the only one working the register with long lines. At times they would also make me do other things like stock/ getting carts. I had 4 managers and they were always rude to the customers and even me sometimes. I would always be stressed out and overwhelmed from all the work i had to do. They would also randomly change my schedule without telling me then get mad at me for not showing up that day and calling me a "no call, no show".. Yeah I had to leave that job. I am so happy I left, now I can focus on school and my other channel for showing my art to the world. Thank you for telling us!
It is difficult to persevere in these type of environments when everyone is a bystander. I hope your courage and perseverance spreads awareness for others who are like minded to find strength together :)
I work in a warehouse currently and although the pay is higher than minimum, the work is physically demanding and the leadership lack any kind of accountability. As time went on, I noticed I would be put into various situations that most of my coworkers had to deal with and some of them would even approach me and comment on it. I remember I left work for a couple of days to go out of town and a coworker told me it took multiple people to do the amount of work I normally had to do on my own. (We're already severely short staffed because the higher ups in the building want higher numbers) My passion isn't in the logistics industry at all. I make music and over these past couple of months have been making a conscious effort to make that a priority even though it's not where most of my income is coming from currently. I just don't know how much longer I can take this lol.
garrett. Girl I work at a warehouse too, a full 12 hour shift. Although the pay is really good and the staff is cool, it’s just way too demanding and strict. I’m also constantly tired and lowkey dread driving there. Just leave... you’ll find something better and less stressful.
I'm in a similar situation. I also work in a warehouse, but I get bullied because I do more work than the people who have been there for 15-20 years! They are always coming to me to figure things out, I want to tell them, how did you figure it out when I wasn't here?!? But I end up doing everything for them anyways, because I have no backbone. I need to quit this job, I have no passion for what I do either. I have serious Sunday Scaries and often get panic attacks talking about work with my boyfriend. I think this is our year to turn things around and find better endeavors. Good luck with your music career!
Yay, I’ve been waiting for this upload 😊
She wasn't just negative she was straight up racist. Sucks that you had to go through that, but it's an experience and you grew so I mean worked out right? ☺☺
Fighting Tima!!!
Always talking about race. Maybe she was just a shitty ass boss? My boss fits her description and we're both the same race
Great video sis!
I almost teared up. That's where I'm at right now. The toxicity is too much. You didn't DESERVE the rudeness and disrespect at all. Dealing with toxic coworkers/supervisors is draining period!!! I'm happy you quit and started to look at the brighter things. You have a new subscriber! Keep up the amazing work!!!
Your skin is looking so good! Pores? We don’t know her!
Thanks Brian!!
It's make-up 😴
I'm only a month in my corporate job and I'm already thinking of quitting. For the past weeks I have anxiety everyday, I can't focus, have no appetite, and no time for my hobbies. Since working from home, I work almost 15 hours a day and my boss is too focused on output that every day I feel pressured just to multiltask to the nth level. Despite this I'm told I'm not performing as expected.
I can relate to your feelings on your boss. I hope I'll have the courage to quit soon. Thank you
Girl you are the reason why I want to do this tv show/ podcast. I am listening to you and I must have been at our jobs the same exact time since you said it was back in 2017. I was going through the exact same experience a couple of times in my job. It was great money, it was a bit of a dream job, but I needed to leave that place. It got toxic when I heard certain conversations, people being fired in person out in the open, it was rough. It's amazing that people have to go through that. Any time you feel that several times you know it's not good for you. My boss insulted my weight, and even when I was eating certain food. Even people in the office. I killed it with kindness but some days it was emotionally draining. So I feel you leave immediately get a new job. It's not your life....and you spend the majority of your time. Your health, sanity, and well-being is always a priority.
ATM I am not going through something like that at my job tbh I work with a really chill company (I work at a Hotel) and today I just came from a interview with another hotel that really wants to hire me and all I got to say about that is God just works in mysterious ways because I was depressed and out of a job all last month of December but now it’s just been blessings.
Omg. Glad you did what’s best for you ❤️
Honestly thats the only way 😭❤
Lemons definitely thrown your way. Thanks for turning it into something positive.
This is so helpful. Thank you for sharing. There are so many bad bosses out there who hate capable people.
So glad you've taken yourself out of such a toxic environment god is going to bless you with better 100% great video Tima
So true! In a similar situation. Just left a toxic job that is a brand new business with someone who's never managed in a professional setting. Started out as a friend helping a friend, then turned toxic, unprofessional, and longer and longer hours & more and more expectations with no incentives. Don't be afraid to say you've run out of fucks and move on!♡ my mind is so clear this week!🥰
I totally understand your story and empathize with you. I left my last job because of a toxic co-worker, yelling and disrespectful comments. Got away from that negativity!
Your makeup looks amazing! Thanks for sharing your story. It was exactly what I needed to hear today!
Really happy for you to get out of that situation! 🙏❤️
This video came up randomly on my feed. I want to tell you (even though we dont know eachother) that I am very proud of you. Even as you tell us about this situation, you are composed and completely even tempered. That shows maturity and growth. You are destined for success my dear....you are professional and are strong enough to handle people that dont operate at your frequency. Please ensure that you share your talents with the world....we need more like you. Keep shining.
I am very disappointed that you did not have the opportunity to soar in the role you described, but am glad you do not have to stay in such a wicked environment. It's more discouraging to read the comments and learn that there are many women like you that are experiencing the same thing. To all of the commenters, please remain hopeful. You are all gifted and we need you.
Blessings.
i love the way you tell stories. it is so easy to follow you, you are good at staying in chronological order. and you sound genuinely you and authentic. you are just lovely. great video, very interesting & relatable story.
Gurl you are a inspiration to all, your confident and slay everyday. i love the way you handled the situation and didn't let her make you go down to her level. and you pores looked amazing, keep up the positivity
OMG SO EXCITED TO WATCH THIS!!!!
The topic and the creator ❤
Wowwwww smh that’s wild. Glad you’re outta there and doing ya own thang!!!
I worked at Shipleys Donuts and that was the most emotionally and mentally damaging experience I’ve ever had in a job. My boss was a very impatient and short tempered man. I didn’t satisfy his work standards so I remember him pulling me aside and telling me he’d fire me if I mess up. Or it was something like that. I was already anxious and at that point it all became overwhelming. I went to the back and I cried. I couldn’t even stop or control myself. It got so bad that I started breathing really fast like I was hyperventilating. The manager over there was pretty bad too. He was also impatient like the boss ( which is his dad) and did things like that to me even telling me one time that I’m worthless. I really hated it when he would gossip about everyone who works there.
You encouraged me to find a better an healthier job, an work on my mental. Thank you girl! I had a really toxic boss. She even clapped in my face. And would call me lazy as a joke.
Yay you hit 40K!!!!!! I'm so happy for you boo!!!!
Your skin looks like it's gotten so much better. The way your makeup lays on... it looks great!!!
Yes, these demons 😈will always test you to see how far they can bully a person. Unfortunately companies keep these people at their companies poisoning the well. Good ridens. I never knew there was such a thing as ptsd from a job until recently. I'm still scared to return to another job.
I can relate to your experience with your old job soooo much. I quit my last "9-5" job towards the end of last year to pursue my career that I am in now. I went back there recently and I had a closure moment and it was a sign that I did the right thing by taking the leap of faith to leave and go after my dream career. I'm glad you were able to leave that toxic work environment and grow from it. From my experience I have learned that most of the time it's not you. It's the person dealing with their own personal problems and for some reason you remind them of their problems or what their not doing with their lives that you are doing and/or some people are just not genuinely nice people. The fact that they have to deal with genuinely nice people all the time it disturbs their spirit for some reason. Your mental health is so important. When your in situations like that you don't realize how it's effecting you in that way. I do admire how you didn't let that person break you but let it motivate you and made you become greater. Even though then you didn't think you were a strong person. I would say you were because a lot of people have been in situations like that or worse and would have stayed and let that person break them or they wouldn't have been able to handle that tough job you had. How you described yourself reminded me how I felt about myself at one point. That situation at that time was preparing for everything your experiencing today.
Sometimes it’s because you don’t sit up and tell them your business!
And management believes every word and then has a vendetta against you i say all that because it’s something about people who just want to do their work and go home they can’t stand
@@leilaniible2743 Exactly
ok but ur mad pretty. like
so glad you've come such a long way
You are soooo much better than me with the 'N' word! I would have walked the first time no questions or conversation to be had. But we all live and learn. I too have the terrible job story as well.
Thank you for sharing this story. I went through something similar recently and it''s such an exhausting and mentally debilitating place to be in. It's nice to know that I'm not alone, then again I don't wish this experience on anyone.
Omg i've had a manager that liked to protect her favorite employees. And it bugged me so much. But she was nice to me doesn't mean i cannot point out what is wrong with the way she manages.
The makeup is perfect 😍
Great you get out of this awkward situation with your boss 😉
Work can be a big part when it comes to your mental health and it’s great that you left there and you bettered yourself. Only BUT success for you this Tima you work hard! 💕
I just quit my job yesterday and listening to this has put a huge relief on me cause I was feeling really bad for leaving since I KNOW I was there best worker.. but they took advantage of me and never disciplined people for mistreating me for 2 years so I had enough yesterday when they let 2 employees not come in, 1 other one leave 2 hours into her shift.. and the last employee with me to just rage quit walk out and not come back cause she didn't want to help me with the work. It was extremely busy.. and they were all okay with this cause "oh its she can handle this she works everyone's work all the time so this is fine." UH NO.. IT WASN'T. I had a 12 hour shift yesterday in the half that time in 95 degree heat with (family owned) corporate harping on me to work faster/better when I WAS THE ONLY WORKER WORKING 5 OTHER PEOPLES WORK ON A BUSY DAY and most days were similar to this but yesterday was the worst and my last straw.. so I said "okay guys this is my last day! BYE!" gave them my uniform and name tag and left.
I don't regret it.. I was getting dark thoughts from that job and becoming a horrible person from all the stress and depression.. so I took the liberty to save myself and gtfo of there.
Thank you for uploading it!
I'm a very caring person and also a doormat but I'm quickly learning to be more strong and stick up for myself as well! We got this!
There are so many toxic jobs these days that finding a bearable one seems like a unicorn. I am terrified.
Awww sorry this happened to you. That was one nasty witch. I went through something similar at my last job but this woman I worked for, the CFO, was very passive-aggressive and would smile to your face and then stab you in the back, quite different from your ex-boss, and worse IMO. She overloaded me with work and would send me very passive aggressive e-mails and IMs, and when I went to talk to her she would turn her back on me and act like she was too busy. She wanted me out but I stood my ground. Finally she fired me and gave me a bullshit reason, that the company was not doing well and that my position was being "eliminated", mind you there were 2 people hired after me with my same title. I held my head up high and was classy about it even though the Miami in me wanted to come out and curse her the fuck out. I worked so hard for them for over 3 years and they didn't give a shit about that. Don't trust people. Make your own money and invest and save and invest and save and invest and save. I am at another position now which is better but I still have to watch my back for snakes and vultures. A lot of jobs like the one I told you about are all about schmoozing and kissing up and backstabbing, those are the assholes that get promoted, even if they are lazy. Be careful out there sweetie. Cheers and please stay safe and healthy, wash those hands and stay indoors. I am subscribing!
Ugh that sounds so rough, I'm sorry and glad you are in a better place now.
Completely know where your coming from with this story. I stayed at my old bad job for 7 yrs taking that kind of nonsense smh. And they were racist, had horrible pay, bosses were nasty and they messed up my check while I was in vacation ugh... anyways R.i.P ugly ppl and bad jobs lol
Hi Reesie! I'm sorry you had to go through that for so many years :( At least now you can say you've become stronger from that, and you're able to better deal with ppl that suck =.=
Also them messing up your check is terrible.
@@timaloveslemons Thank you! And same to you. And most definitely. No more biting my tongue or settling.
I love how you did your makeup. I can relate so much because I’ve been in a job like that before myself.
I can seriously, relate planning on leaving my job soon like soon soon .Thank you for this video 🤞🏽
Skin’s looking good too!
Thank you Sheena
Yessssss skin!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm also really loving your new profile pic
what we gotta do for a bit of coin 😔☹. Happy you are stronger now! Go tima!! You've come a long way!
You sound like every black girl in my office right now- and I work for a black-owner business! Your story seriously hits home. Each of your examples mirror my own. The CEO and President of our company are related and the professionalism has gone out the window long ago. Our marketing girl has to deal with homophobia from the ceo and president. The women in production have to deal with sexual harassment from the president of the company that also is the sitting HR manager! I never thought I’d have to search CZcams for this topic, but it’s crazy how many people deal with this on a daily basis. Your story is insane and I thought my co-workers and myself were the only ones.
Quintessa Wallace and this is why a lot of people are having issues with mental health! It honestly breaks my heart to hear everyone else’s stories :/ I hope you and your coworkers are doing okay!
Timaloveslemons I can tell a difference in my work ethic because of how much anxiety I have coming into work each day. I really needed to watch this because I don’t talk about it to many people because they think it’s just workplace drama when in fact it’s literally causing so much damage to my mental health. I’m a bit late, but thank you! 🙏🏽
many of these so called bosses that are put in a manager/supervisor position are not taught how to lead thats when you get these annoying incompetent moments. Its like being around them lowers your intelligence
you talk from the heart .. thanks
The cutest 💕☺️
I'm sorry. I think you are very strong. Keep on growing. It's her loss. She's the one who's lazy for blaming people for her lack of ability to keep up.
Yo, your story is so interesting. I had to go through same situation. There were many ppl at my job that would use the n-word ( n still do) that DO NOT identify as black. It is so uncomfortable. I’m happy you got out . Sending good vibes 💨
Your voice is just so beautiful! I could listen to your videos all day!
Omg I feel like I have the derpiest voice sometimes 😭 thank you! ❤️
You're super pretty! Also, I have been contemplating whether I should leave my job or not because of my bully boss...
Glad that you made this video people really brush off poor working environment. Can’t wait till workers have rights against this.
I had an ex manager (who thinks she's the boss) at my ex job, she was honestly the nastiest piece of work I have ever met. She was just a mean girl in her 30s who just had a foul mouth and was disrespectful. I was super nice and hard working and I just let karma handle it. Trust me, HOW PEOPLE TREAT YOU SPEAKS TO HOW THEY FEEL ABOUT THEMSELVES AMEN. I let God handle it and I couldn't be happier
The boss sounds like a classic text book definition of a Narcissist, Borderline, or Sociopath . The talking to employees about other employees, shifting blame, racism, lying, breaking rules.
22:00 this part right here!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 YES!