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  • čas přidán 30. 06. 2024
  • Ramit Sethi of I Will Teach You To Be Rich talks to Jack and Christina, both 33 and born in Russia. With two young kids, they’re looking ahead to number three and to buying a home. But they have $0 in savings, too many expensive vacations, and $87,500 in credit card debt that they can only afford minimum payments on right now. Christina’s income as a doctor triples soon, can it solve everything?
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    00:00:00 - 1: Opening
    00:02:23 - 2: The moment Christina realized they might not have a place to live
    00:07:35 - 3: The Hawaii trip they're still paying for
    00:18:33 - 4: How much is Christina going to start making as an oncologist?
    00:23:43 - 5: What does "six figures" actually mean?
    00:26:26 - 6: Ramit reveals what Jack wrote on their application
    00:28:23 - 7: Ramit breaks down their numbers
    00:32:14 - 8: The single thing you need to do if you have credit card debt
    00:43:30 - 9: It's really hard to go down in spending
    00:53:33 - 10: Ramit breaks down what's really going on
    00:58:55 - 11: Jack and Christina's follow-ups
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Komentáře • 391

  • @ramitsethi
    @ramitsethi  Před rokem +130

    0:00 Please remember: These are real people who had the courage to come on my podcast and ask for help. Would you be willing to come on this podcast and share every detail of your financial life? Feel free to leave comments based on what you think, but remember that we are here to help in a supportive way, not to demean and criticize.
    Download the Conscious Spending Plan so you can use your money GUILT-FREE: iwt.com/csp-youtube

    • @mickeyakins232
      @mickeyakins232 Před rokem +5

      I am not any different from any of your guest. I have my own debt but no where near the income of most of your guest. I to have a whole in my bucket and I am working on getting it patched up. That is why I didn't understand why you would promote a credit card to people who have issues with spending more than they have. Just curious. I have learned a lot from watching you and your guest and I will continue to watch and learn.

    • @ericgomez7118
      @ericgomez7118 Před rokem

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    • @mickeyakins232
      @mickeyakins232 Před rokem +1

      Maybe I should have worded my question differently. Saying "most of your listeners" was unfair of me. From what I see when watching your pod cast is that a lot of your guest have credit card debt as do most people. But my question was not directed to anyone but the host. It just seems to me poor taste to endorse a credit card. When you're trying to educate people on how better to manage their money. Also I thought pod cast were about talking getting involved and asking questions. I guess that depends on the question. ❤

    • @TheDoglover1970
      @TheDoglover1970 Před 8 měsíci

      While we can all agree that they have areas to improve on, that is of course the reason they came on the podcast. It takes an amazing sense of courage to put yourself out there for the world to see. I understand it is human nature to critique the decisions others make (and do it myself) but for anyone here to demean others is unacceptable. As if any of us don't have our own demons. I personally wouldn't have the courage to share every detail of my financial life with the world. I appreciate every one of these couples for the work they are doing to change their lives!

    • @linnachapa2410
      @linnachapa2410 Před 7 měsíci

      Is Torres a way to do a personal audit?

  • @johannamiller527
    @johannamiller527 Před rokem +521

    When I was three years old, my parents took me to Disney World. I don't remember a thing from that trip. (They took me twice more, when I was six and nine, and it was wonderful.) If you're looking to build lifelong travel memories for your children, you're not going to do it when they're three. But I get the sense that the Singapore trip was never for the children in the first place.

    • @anakitasmiles3261
      @anakitasmiles3261 Před rokem +27

      Agreed. I can't remember anything before 5 years old😅. I have 1 vague memory of taking a photo with Cruella DeVik at Disney World, but that's it

    • @barbaratozzano6364
      @barbaratozzano6364 Před rokem +30

      I agree. If the idea is really to have a break from work and spend time with your child, there are many ways to do that closer to home and much less expensively.

    • @kelvinalexander4353
      @kelvinalexander4353 Před rokem +25

      100% agree. The child was an excuse. Extremely common.

    • @MrSteelermaniac
      @MrSteelermaniac Před rokem +19

      Take the 3 year old 7 years from now. So he or she can really experience the trip. A 3 year old remembers NOTHING!!!!

    • @nagarpoe
      @nagarpoe Před rokem +4

      Yeah three years old won't remember much about Singapore....it was just for the parents lol

  • @mmp495
    @mmp495 Před rokem +205

    They could be millionaires, owning properties, businesses, etc. What is frightening is they are so caught up in what others are doing and where they are going. Debt freedom is so liberating because when you have focused and worked at becoming free you see things differently, you don’t care about comparing or competing with others. You do what’s within your means, what’s practical and reasonable. There is so much safety, security and happiness when this happens. Stay off of social media and looking at hyper consumers…you will be glad you did.

    • @Seevawonderloaf
      @Seevawonderloaf Před 11 měsíci +4

      So true. And the lady's dad is an entrepreneur so i feel like that could totally learn from him and make a series of clinics too

    • @lombardo141
      @lombardo141 Před 9 měsíci +3

      @@Seevawonderloafyou can be an entrepreneur and bad with money. Probably explains where you got her experience with money.

    • @aushikm
      @aushikm Před 5 měsíci +1

      Can't agree more! You nailed it😊

    • @nikolasb8313
      @nikolasb8313 Před měsícem

      I like your comment a lot. I resonate with your words of wisdom 👊🏼

  • @LL-pq5uo
    @LL-pq5uo Před rokem +145

    "Which society? Which society is pressuring you to go to Singapore?" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
    Taking about booking a trip to Singapore 5 minutes after she mentions that just 2 months ago she feared not being able to afford a place to rent 🙄🤦🏼‍♀️

    • @Dan16673
      @Dan16673 Před 8 měsíci +5

      Yeah these excuses are insane

    • @haribhanujan8575
      @haribhanujan8575 Před 3 měsíci

      Cheaper tickets on Kayak

    • @lowlowseesee
      @lowlowseesee Před měsícem

      @@Dan16673 not necessarily qualify as insanity. Ramit proves that time and time again lol. Further to the point when she says society she means the pressure from commercials, her family and her very well off peers. its not as far-fetched as people who don't understand money psychology (you and LL-pq) think. we all bow to peer pressure to different degrees. She is a self-proclaimed motivated accomplisher type who saw her issues as a weakness AND she gets enabled by her father. she was bound to end up here feeling lost. Her identity is tied up to possessions and trips so the illusion and trying to maintain it got her in a bit of a pickle

  • @MissMiaAfroGoddess
    @MissMiaAfroGoddess Před rokem +151

    What. You can give a 3-year old a marker, a cardboard box and some bubble wrap for hours of fun

    • @jeromehenry4484
      @jeromehenry4484 Před rokem +28

      100%! With her 80-hour work weeks for the last 3 years, her 3 year-old would probably be much happier with snuggle time or playing in the park or hiking, not some long flights halfway around the world, then both parents exhausted from jet lag.

    • @cedarmanagement2343
      @cedarmanagement2343 Před 4 měsíci +2

      It's a guilt response with FTWM, and in masculine woman energy. He is not ambitious more feminine, and not MULTIPLYING money.

    • @Galworld761
      @Galworld761 Před 3 měsíci +3

      I could entertain myself with those supplies.

    • @iamjjeoreo
      @iamjjeoreo Před měsícem +4

      A 3 year old would not remember much, if anything, from that trip.

  • @balford2112
    @balford2112 Před 11 měsíci +50

    Debt affect children so much more than a cool vacation they won’t remember.

  • @blackchickadee1
    @blackchickadee1 Před rokem +81

    Wait until your children are older, 7-9 then go to a big trip like that where they will remember it all. Thanks for sharing, we are all going through these similar struggles.

    • @TonyCox1351
      @TonyCox1351 Před 7 měsíci +3

      Just wait until you’re out of debt. Nothing wrong with going on a trip with a 1 year old…if you can afford it!

  • @ezramullen4551
    @ezramullen4551 Před rokem +89

    Singapore.. every 3 yo's dream.

    • @deirdrekiely6187
      @deirdrekiely6187 Před rokem +5

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @melimakeupartist8777
      @melimakeupartist8777 Před rokem +1

      🤭🤭🤭

    • @Capycorg
      @Capycorg Před 7 měsíci +1

      😂

    • @Playingwithproxies
      @Playingwithproxies Před 2 měsíci +3

      He’s only going to be 3 once 😅 like every age he’s only going to be every age once 😂 he’s only going to be 18 once maybe he would appreciate having wealthy parents then.

  • @Hlonibooboo
    @Hlonibooboo Před rokem +607

    *Caleb Hammer voice* YOU ARE NOT A CREDIT CARD PERSON😅

  • @elenagonzalez3781
    @elenagonzalez3781 Před rokem +62

    There's this saying in Med school and training that's often ignored: Doctors can buy anything, but they can't buy everything. Awesome if they, indeed, got some insight into this. Being an employed physician can burn you out in few years. Financial security may help her pivot her careers if she chooses to do so down the road.

    • @hammerradiology1470
      @hammerradiology1470 Před měsícem +1

      So true, I‘m also a physician in Europe and our salary here is much lower than in the US. I certainly don’t feel that pressure to fly to Singapore tomorrow. I‘d rather save to be able to scale back when I‘m older. My kids won’t benefit from me getting a heart attack from being burned out…

  • @barbaratozzano6364
    @barbaratozzano6364 Před rokem +107

    Getting a break from work, resting, and spending time with her child are all great ideas. Going to Singapore is probably not the best way to accomplish this. A three year old will not remember the trip, and it seems like it would be much harder taking a trip like that with a child that young. If rest and spending time with your children are the real goals, then there are many, many ways to do that which would be much cheaper and closer to home, and would be a better option with the children.

    • @tuttuttut7758
      @tuttuttut7758 Před 5 měsíci +1

      The trip is for the parents, notthe kids. It’s an excuse they’re telling themselves to cope with it. Happens very often

  • @GeoffStrickland
    @GeoffStrickland Před rokem +69

    "Mo money mo problems."
    The way Ramit connected their exercise mindset to money was powerful stuff. Makes me wonder whats "easy" and whats "hard" in my life and see if its just mindset.

    • @TheDoglover1970
      @TheDoglover1970 Před 8 měsíci +2

      That's why I love watching these episodes. While I may not have the income/situation/etc. of all involved, each episode makes me take a look at my own decisions.

  • @sindhun8028
    @sindhun8028 Před rokem +44

    I have a suggestion - I understand her urge for vacation and I would say instead of refraining from taking any vacation strike a deal. Out of 2600$ save 600 per month for vacation and plan a little modest vacation and still pay off debt using 2k. Thereby she don’t have to wait for 3years to plan her next vacation, end up frustrated and plan an extravagant trip and going back on debt accumulation.

  • @allisonmcconnell33
    @allisonmcconnell33 Před rokem +69

    I didn't realize that money issues were a reputation among doctors!

    • @TheGooglySmoog
      @TheGooglySmoog Před rokem +28

      Yes very much so. That impending pay bump is a curse and a blessing.

    • @kchh5387
      @kchh5387 Před 11 měsíci

      U have been living under a rock.. most doctors are broke..

    • @valerimacdonald5146
      @valerimacdonald5146 Před 8 měsíci +11

      Doctors often suffer from the same hubris you see from a successful business person. They think that, since they are successful in one arena, they will be successful in anything they attempt. I have a rule to never go into business with a doctor. I've seen too many try to start businesses that were silly, poorly executed, or just not properly funded so they all failed.

    • @penthousewhippit
      @penthousewhippit Před 7 měsíci +3

      I think too overspending is a bit of a burn out thing. It's part of the work hard play hard dynamic and "playing hard" is expensive

    • @drcatrinaking
      @drcatrinaking Před 7 měsíci

      ​@@valerimacdonald5146Understand the sentiment. But I don't think it's because they're successful in one area... the more education and expertise you have, the more you realize you don't know about other things. I think doctors suck at finances because they don't learn money management in training - they aren't taught finances in school, and aren't earning enough money in training to gain experience managing it. So they come out of training at almost 40 and start earning what most consider to be an astronomically high salary - the likelihood of mismanagement is high. It's very similar to the situation professional sports players fall into.

  • @1bluegreen2
    @1bluegreen2 Před 8 měsíci +33

    Thank you to this kind couple for helping the rest of us nuckle heads! I appreciate the honesty and openness. You are doing a great service to your peers. Also, thanks to Ramit for creating this space.

  • @blessings4life
    @blessings4life Před 11 měsíci +32

    The best for your children are calm financially free parents.

  • @aliciadrewlovecoach
    @aliciadrewlovecoach Před rokem +37

    Ramit- this is SO good. I love their vulnerability around spending & $ views. If you ever want to do a couple who started off rough, but are now in a very good place, lmk. I’m a therapist who owns a group practice, we adopted from Russia (which caused years of debt), but have changed our relationship with $, got educated, to the point I do a lot of financial counseling with my CEO, Dr. & Lawyer clients living paycheck to paycheck. It all comes down to getting knowledgeable, getting real & making small changes over time. We could’ve retired 4 yrs ago; but I love my job, & with Covid taking a toll on mental health, I feel there’s such a need for therapy.

  • @vgmijpn8ball
    @vgmijpn8ball Před rokem +21

    Thanks for another great episode. You probably know the quote, "All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way." It's interesting to hear from all of these couples with issues, but I hope you can interview a couple that's nailing it and show us one amazing example to aspire to.

  • @liveyourlife7367
    @liveyourlife7367 Před rokem +25

    Stop spending money on credit cards! Your kids won't remember or appreciate trips until they are about 9 or 10 and over, believe me I know. I have two daughters that we wanted to do everything with and now they say, I don't remember that.

  • @daebak_hana
    @daebak_hana Před 9 měsíci +22

    I traveled extensively before i had my son. I didn’t really go anywhere again except local trips until he was 6 or 7. Now we travel together and he remembers everything. Big expensive trips when the child is really young only benefit the adults

    • @coffeeplease1103
      @coffeeplease1103 Před 8 měsíci +2

      Same here. We find the trips more enjoyable nowadays because the kids are old enough to participate in more activities while on vacation.

    • @Dan16673
      @Dan16673 Před 8 měsíci +1

      100% we leave the kids at home when we go overseas

  • @rachelhumphrey4721
    @rachelhumphrey4721 Před rokem +27

    This was a really good one. What a lovely and clever couple - they will have an incredible life and their children will be that little bit older to enjoy it fully too. Slow and steady x

  • @jefdby
    @jefdby Před rokem +18

    your kid will love it much more if you spend the vacation time at the park in town with him!

  • @amoua08
    @amoua08 Před rokem +8

    Thanks for showing the spreadsheet! It's nice to put numbers/visuals to the conversations.

  • @cliffordl.4022
    @cliffordl.4022 Před 11 měsíci +10

    I have faith in this couple. They need to use the same discipline that they use to exercise to be successful with money. All the best to them.

  • @cecileho1992
    @cecileho1992 Před měsícem +3

    I love that Ramit still knows the value of money. You can see his surprise when she says earning six figures is not a lot....

  • @ST-rj8iu
    @ST-rj8iu Před 9 měsíci +14

    It seems like they want everything at once. You cannot have lavish vacations, eat out all the time, buy nice cars, buy clothing, and save for house. Pick and choose what you value.

  • @FeisworldMedia
    @FeisworldMedia Před 11 měsíci +4

    These convos are so real yet so unreal. It’s so helpful for people to talk through it and listen back now or years later will likely drive them crazy 😂 yet this is so familiar and I know friends who are going thru this exact thing

  • @Nick-pd2yo
    @Nick-pd2yo Před rokem +17

    this vid made me pay off my credit card debt

  • @muhammad-bin-american
    @muhammad-bin-american Před 11 měsíci +7

    Love these videos. Learn a lot. Also appreciate these people's willingness to share their life stories with us. There are countless number of people in similar situation that don't talk about it. Host is also very attentive and engaging. Thanks for posting.

  • @annam4313
    @annam4313 Před rokem +11

    The best for the child is to live in a responsible family, which include having financial freedom. The goal I set myself is to join the top 1% financially within a set timeframe. With my self-motivation I had no doubt of achieving my goal, which I did. I am now working towards my new goal. Right now, Today, these people need to forget everything they have done up to now and start living as grown up responsible adults.

  • @mamalovesthebeach437
    @mamalovesthebeach437 Před rokem +8

    If you want your kids to have the best experience that they will remember wait until they're older...10+. My 27 YO son says he remembers very little of the trips we took prior to age 10+. It would be so much more productive for couples to sit down before and get real. I realize that that is one big reason they are doing this with you...they struggle with getting real with where they are with their finances. It's painful to see them struggle. I imagine that it must feel so gratifying to finally have a plan they can work on together. I wish young people would realize that no one care if you have furniture from West Elm or that you take big trips AND if they do, they do not truly care about you. Living within your means, investing whatever you can, and little to no debt is the only way to live a rich life. You are providing such an important gift for these families Ramit.

  • @awb19892
    @awb19892 Před rokem +21

    Super small detail, but she mentioned expensive furniture from West Elm. When I moved last year, I needed a sofa, my previous one had been $800. Looked at local stores for something similar and it was going to be $2500, maybe $2100 with labor day deals (+ taxes/delivery charges). I know, inflation, but the prices seemed crazy to me. And all the items I saw I didn't even really like. West Elm is even more expensive. I also saw at some stores "open our credit card and get 0% financing for 72 months!" People are literally taking out "car loans" to get furniture. Anyway, I found a labor day deal at a store I knew a few states away (with 0% sales tax) and got a couch I ended up loving for around $900. Burned some miles to fly up, rented an SUV and drove it down the east coast. Still saved tons of money doing that. Part of this was lack of supply near me (supply chain issues) and part of it was finance, but so many of these furniture stores charge prices that are just out of this world.
    And yes, the couch I got is just as nice (or nicer) as the more expensive ones I looked at. And the store I got it from likely has my future business. Price is a silly game where people look to buy the more expensive thing because they assume high price = superior quality. This is often a convenient filter, but not always.
    I also don't buy quite as much furniture as a lot of people. It really weighs you down when you need to move. Moving it is expensive, storing it is expensive. Plus a lot of people just have such cluttered homes because they buy too much.

    • @sarthipatel6868
      @sarthipatel6868 Před 11 měsíci

      Can I ask what store

    • @awb19892
      @awb19892 Před 11 měsíci +1

      @@sarthipatel6868 raymour & flanigan. I forgot to mention a lot of stores near me were saying 6+ month delivery. which likely means you buy it, they never deliver, too late for chargebacks (I verified this is a common story unfortunately via yelp reviews of local stores too). was able to pick up from R&F pretty quickly.

    • @emilysha418
      @emilysha418 Před 10 měsíci +1

      I literally have a leather chesterfield i got on craigslist for $800.

    • @tamararoberson8060
      @tamararoberson8060 Před 2 měsíci

      West Elm is overpriced. If it's on clearance, it's okay but full price is way too much for what you get.
      Most of my apartment is West Elm because it was the cheapest that's passable for me but some of it is really low quality. My sofa is Room & Board because West Elm has poorer reputation for sofas and you want a sofa to last (if you don't have kids or pets who will trash it anyway).
      West Elm is the Millennial step up from IKEA but don't buy too much of it. Save for fewer, higher quality pieces and try to only buy things that are on clearance (my sofa was like $1000 off and was close enough to the one I wanted).
      Once I get my money better together, I'll pass the West Elm stuff on and get more Room & Board and maybe even local custom stuff or antiques (I had an empty apartment I wanted to fill quickly, which was a poor financial decision).

  • @BCTS
    @BCTS Před rokem +29

    Christina was debt free with the same total gross incomes of both of them. That was when she earned less, so she spent less.
    Now that she earns more, she feels that she can spend more, ignoring the other monthly expenses she has. She expects her husband to cover those monthly expenses.
    She doesn't realise on $ 87,000 credit card, she is paying about
    $ 23,500/- interest a year
    I feel she doesn't care about the debt. She wants to travel to have a status in her social circle.
    Every holiday they go on, ONLY SHE ENJOYS, her husband is tense about the money spent & the repayment of the money.
    I Hope she is, able to absorb Ramit's guidance on reducing her spending & paying off her debts.

    • @deirdrekiely6187
      @deirdrekiely6187 Před rokem +4

      AND she's never been responsible for money. Daddy paid for everything. She's spoiled and unwilling to tame her lifestyle.

    • @davab
      @davab Před 7 měsíci +1

      Probably won't learn

  • @terrahillman151
    @terrahillman151 Před rokem +10

    This was a really great, down-to-earth, yet profound episode! Ty to all of you for sharing your truth. #lifechanging

  • @nikkineal6431
    @nikkineal6431 Před 11 měsíci +5

    I LOVE your little rant at the 24 min mark.

  • @unknownt5391
    @unknownt5391 Před rokem +14

    I know this is rare, but I do take advantage of 0% APR for X months. I've done it twice to buy large ticket items for the home. However, to avoid any interest charges, I auto deduct the same amount every month until the month the fees kick in then cancel the card.

    • @Rangerlady
      @Rangerlady Před 6 měsíci +2

      I've used 0% offers numerous times to make larger purchases. "Free" money, especially when I get cash back points as well.

    • @IMBLESSED-oe6dl
      @IMBLESSED-oe6dl Před měsícem

      Same

  • @DonBrownII
    @DonBrownII Před rokem +16

    i know how easy it is to get sucked into credit cards. happened to me too. 32:00 i think most of us need a wake up call when it comes to credit card debt!

    • @Synostra
      @Synostra Před 26 dny

      It’s really not unless you’re a moron…

  • @felixg.7752
    @felixg.7752 Před rokem +11

    What beautiful followups. If things stay consistent with them they’ll be taking those trips from the interest alone in a few years.

  • @angelamueller8167
    @angelamueller8167 Před 3 měsíci +5

    “Whatever - people are weird. I love my job!” 😂

  • @IrnBruNYC
    @IrnBruNYC Před 11 měsíci +7

    These people are lovely. I was dumb about money when I was their age, I hope they get on top of their debt.

  • @abigailshaina8378
    @abigailshaina8378 Před 8 měsíci +7

    median household income in America was $74,580 in 2022. However, if you remove the top earners, it's much less. I hope this doctor understands the population she will be helping and has compassion for their living situation.

  • @DrDanny2020
    @DrDanny2020 Před 6 měsíci +5

    Nothing more relatable than being in medicine and feeling pressure to maximize those vacation weeks in residency.

  • @snailflowers
    @snailflowers Před 3 měsíci +2

    i really loved christina’s follow up. i feel like a lot of the comments are jumping quickly to judging her but she was so receptive to everything jack and ramit were saying, even taking notes and committing to making sacrifices. i wish the best for this couple! thanks for being brave enough to share your financial situation with the world, every episode of this podcast helps a ton of people so we appreciate you

  • @albert1558
    @albert1558 Před rokem +2

    Thank you for sharing
    Leaning a lot and a different way to look at money and life .

  • @albert1558
    @albert1558 Před rokem +1

    Thank you for sharing. Congratulations on your goals and I’m sure you’ll have a great aventures.

  • @dakine4238
    @dakine4238 Před rokem +3

    They seem so sweet. I hope they can create a plan together and enjoy the money and time they have.

  • @AmyAllways
    @AmyAllways Před rokem +3

    I would love to see future prgoress of this couples finances after they have been through the programme. Having the courage to open up on here alone shoes they care and want to commit.

  • @getinthespace7715
    @getinthespace7715 Před rokem +20

    My wife and I had the exact opposite mentality as these two. I'm earning 120k and she has graduated with her M.S. RN. So our income is doubling. We cash flowed her education, while paying off other debt incured from helping with a loved one's medicine care, when she starts working we'll be down to $25k debt except our mortgage. Our goal is to pay off the remaining debt before the end of the year and wipe out our mortgage in 2-3 years. Then we'll be debt free with a solid 160k net cash flow, plus our Employer matched retirement investments. Our last step is to supercharge our investments and set aside cash for purchases/lifestyle improvements. We want to take multiple international vacations a year and start investing in rental properties.

    • @SilentSzZ
      @SilentSzZ Před 11 měsíci +2

      Great work and keep at it - best of luck :)

    • @moimoi4725
      @moimoi4725 Před 10 měsíci +3

      multiple vacations a year...LOL!

  • @realdavidpayne
    @realdavidpayne Před 7 měsíci +6

    I know several doctors who speak the same exact way she does. You spend time through training, and once you get out it's the yellow brick road. It's a scary path because doctors are talented, but fail to see humility. I appreciate her for coming on, but some of these short term fixes can become a nightmare in the future.

  • @alejandrapardo5904
    @alejandrapardo5904 Před rokem +4

    Such a sweet couple. I wish them lots of luck :)

  • @openmind4153
    @openmind4153 Před rokem +5

    Hey Ramit ! you are soo good at listening and tolerant 😄you got to the point with this couple ..amazing job how you helped them make the connection between their discipline to exercise and non discipline to money matters👍

  • @blackchickadee1
    @blackchickadee1 Před rokem +12

    What a tragedy and a loss of resources from a lack of financial planning. It’s surly a wake up call for all of us. Live below our means, or be paying it all off when we are older. It will be taking away from my future and from my kids future if they continue on this way.

  • @DonBrownII
    @DonBrownII Před rokem +8

    I think that its common for at least one person in a marriage to be oblivious of the concept of money or not understand the value of a dollar. I think in this situation, that person is Christina.

    • @deirdrekiely6187
      @deirdrekiely6187 Před rokem +2

      Right. the husband seems to want to hold off on the trip(s). I think it's "Happy Wife, Happy Life."

    • @DonBrownII
      @DonBrownII Před rokem

      @@deirdrekiely6187 agreed. That’s such an overused and cancerous phrase that some ppl live by.

  • @BoldlyDream
    @BoldlyDream Před 11 měsíci +4

    The baby won’t remember the trip, it’s better the plan for the future for you and your family. Financial security matters for your children’s sense of security within the home. Thank you teaching is all about our emotions associated with money.

  • @Roccofan
    @Roccofan Před 8 měsíci +6

    38:41 Pay close attention to what she says here. She started to say “we will have money in the future” and then corrected herself to say “I will have money in the future.” If you think her husband didn’t pick up on that you’re wrong. He knows she has him be the short and curly’s. This is an interesting study in power dynamics.

  • @MrCleanOC
    @MrCleanOC Před 8 měsíci +5

    She should be shameful to blame her spending on her kids. My kid at three enjoyed more his time with me playing ball at the backyard than our trip to Cancun......

    • @Dan16673
      @Dan16673 Před 8 měsíci

      No trip will make your kids love you more

  • @talivato
    @talivato Před 9 měsíci +6

    To each his own. I'm a boomer and I budget my travels to $1500, whatever that may take me. $1500, all included. I splurged in 2022 for a month in La Paz, B.C., $2100, rent in a tiny bit cozy apartment included. I hope this couple come out on top, and everybody for that matter.

    • @barose1
      @barose1 Před 6 měsíci

      Are these trips just for you? Party of one vs four?

    • @Galworld761
      @Galworld761 Před 3 měsíci +1

      My silent generation, blue collar dad lived frugally. He is comfortable retired now. The man still wears pants from the 80s. However, as kids and today, when he travels…he does not penny pinch. His philosophy is that I don’t spend elsewhere to spend here. Same with my bro, he is really well off, he bucked the peer pressure to join a country club. He bought a beach house and takes one blow out trip per year. He also is not a shopper. His wife is not a shopper. Priorities. Earning it and keeping it are two different skills.

    • @talivato
      @talivato Před 3 měsíci +1

      @@Galworld761 That is exactly what I do, in a minor way. I pick my spending battles, hardly ever eating out, cooking most of my meals. I spend my money on concerts because live music is my thing.

  • @floyddaye9068
    @floyddaye9068 Před rokem +33

    I can’t believe this lady just blamed her son for a trip to Singapore that she can’t afford😂

  • @Tistheseason622
    @Tistheseason622 Před rokem +2

    Hey Ramit, Can you please update the link to your newsletter? It says it’s deleted/broken! Thanks 🙏

  • @sara7mk
    @sara7mk Před rokem +29

    Ramit, Love this program! Please consider adding single people, maybe once a quarter? Your show is the only program that does a deep dive and would be helpful to see also for single people. I'm single so yes my request is self serving. haha

    • @ramitsethi
      @ramitsethi  Před rokem +7

      Thank you for watching! Not going to do that, but I invite you to join iwt.com/moneycoaching where I do live Q&A each month

    • @zenlife321
      @zenlife321 Před 8 měsíci +3

      @@ramitsethi why won’t you address single people…Are only couples worthy of this advise/insight?

  • @user-hm1od2bj4g
    @user-hm1od2bj4g Před rokem

    Thank you for sharing 😊

  • @suleiibenomar3499
    @suleiibenomar3499 Před 2 měsíci +3

    I dont think she has the same respect for his man when she started making much more than him..and he does not feel good about it..She even considers his six figures has almost nothing...
    I expected more intelligence from a doctor not planning 25k trips with no saving... godness me !!

  • @cocomalonee
    @cocomalonee Před rokem +4

    When are we going to get the next where are they now?

  • @catgodfrey6451
    @catgodfrey6451 Před 3 měsíci +1

    Great episode I wish them the best. The kids would ❤ camping. Most campgrounds have full cabins. They could be so rich😊

  • @lanamichalski3208
    @lanamichalski3208 Před rokem +4

    Have either one of you thought what happens if one of you should die? I used to work in the funeral industry, and people of ALL ages die for no apparent reason....people don't have to be ill to pass away. You of course should've be where you are at, but to depend on each others income only adds fuel to the fire.

  • @derekwong3730
    @derekwong3730 Před rokem +1

    Is there any way for non-english speakers to listen to this podcast?

  • @JillGibbons-fw3tn
    @JillGibbons-fw3tn Před 9 měsíci +5

    The problem here is entitlement based on keeping up appearances...if they are worried about where they are going to live then vacations are a pipe dream. I wish them the best but they have to get over titles and make a plan for money and debt.

  • @lisanobel2496
    @lisanobel2496 Před 25 dny +1

    I am a resident and you cannot afford anything if you have children living in la on a residents salary. Most residents do not accumulate this type of debt durung residency. We all work 80 hours a week !

  • @Playingwithproxies
    @Playingwithproxies Před 7 měsíci +5

    You son is never going to remember if you went on a trip till he's at least 5.

  • @paulwall142
    @paulwall142 Před rokem +21

    Serious question: Can someone like Christina, who’s been a spender her whole life, actually change? I don’t mean a few months or a year, I mean long term? It’s extremely difficult and I find it not possible, the constant struggle to fight yourself to not go back to your default behavior, you will eventually give in

    • @irenekanel.ac.7721
      @irenekanel.ac.7721 Před rokem +20

      People change all the time- When you know better you do better. Hopefully they will in this area of their lives

    • @kiersten7989
      @kiersten7989 Před rokem +12

      I find it limiting to say bad behavior is just a default or "that's just how I am." Change is possible if you commit to it. Before you know it, good habits will be your new default.

    • @XelSlmlEX3
      @XelSlmlEX3 Před rokem +1

      I think so. If they find a saving strategy that fits their lifestyle where they can save and still enjoy their money, I think it possible. I say this from my own experience.

    • @ST-rj8iu
      @ST-rj8iu Před 9 měsíci +2

      I don't think she will change, but she can definitely get smarter.

    • @FireflyOnTheMoon
      @FireflyOnTheMoon Před 8 měsíci

      budget

  • @zoraster3749
    @zoraster3749 Před rokem +30

    All my experience and studies into relationships and finances leads me to believe never commit to or marry a “spender.”
    At least she is a big earner but it still seems miserable. I couldn’t imagine being the earner and the saver… a life of slavery and anxiety; no thanks.
    Edit: After listening further… both of these people are banned from credit cards. They need the Dave Ramsey system.

  • @AdleneH89
    @AdleneH89 Před 5 měsíci +1

    This was a difficult conversation, I hope they get their finances sorted

  • @FireflyOnTheMoon
    @FireflyOnTheMoon Před 8 měsíci +2

    Don't travel anywhere. Don't leave the house until the debt is paid off.. How can you ever consider travelling anywhere with that crippling debt hanging over you? Cut up your credit cards. Don't send your kids on guilt trips all over the place. Little kids just want cuddles and listening and affection, not trips to Singapore.. That's just off loading guilt

  • @queen.mama.slots.5977
    @queen.mama.slots.5977 Před 8 měsíci

    Learning so very much! You’re hilarious as well.

  • @anna297282
    @anna297282 Před rokem +3

    Like this couple! Positive energy they give out ….super

  • @sharonjenkins8388
    @sharonjenkins8388 Před rokem +3

    I am lost for words 😮

  • @danikeebler1662
    @danikeebler1662 Před 9 měsíci +6

    Need a vacation? Spend the weekend in Santa Barbara and call it good until you dig out of more than a QUARTER OF A MILLION DOLLARS of debt.

  • @lizp1010
    @lizp1010 Před 6 měsíci +2

    The fact is their son will never remember the vacations he took at the age of 3... it's better to wait and take him when he will actually remember it and enjoy it.

  • @chiefgalo
    @chiefgalo Před 2 měsíci +1

    " I want to give my 3 year old kid the best" so instead of cancelling my expensive vacation trip that he won't enjoy cause he is 3... I'm moving him to public school, which will save me the same amount my trip is in more than 2 years ..

  • @verb0ze
    @verb0ze Před 10 měsíci +1

    The commercial for the nest card couldn't have been better-placed XD. Ramit just blasted them for using credit cards, then promoted one right after lol. Not at it, just found that funny

  • @lisahinkofer2085
    @lisahinkofer2085 Před rokem +7

    This is just being completely unconscious about spending. They want to live it up without suffering from the mess they made.

  • @gigglegagaing5
    @gigglegagaing5 Před 8 měsíci +4

    Your kids not gonna remember the expensive holidays. Theyre gonna remember not having friends because they gotta move houses every year. The things ppldont think abour, seriously. Put yourself in your kids‘ shoes. Would you rather grow up with forgotten holidays or growing up in a house with no money fights. 55:13

  • @karanbeghi3909
    @karanbeghi3909 Před 11 měsíci +1

    27:01 her expressions killed me throughout this 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @ifeibitokun
    @ifeibitokun Před 6 měsíci +2

    53:05 The way you do one thing is the way you do everything

  • @missfroggie909
    @missfroggie909 Před rokem +2

    Can you make the spending plan much larger so we can see it better please, its very tiny. tx

    • @ramitsethi
      @ramitsethi  Před rokem +3

      I will share with my team and see what we can do! Thanks for watching

  • @Sailors30
    @Sailors30 Před 9 měsíci +6

    Loved this! If you ever get bored of wealthy American couples, I know a poor English woman who could use your wisdom 😂

  • @marlenakauer5262
    @marlenakauer5262 Před rokem +9

    Would you be willing/interested in hosting a family? Two adult daughters and a mom?

  • @annt9360
    @annt9360 Před 8 měsíci +2

    My son never remember any trips we took when he was below 5 years old

  • @Roccofan
    @Roccofan Před 8 měsíci +3

    25:06 He isn’t comfortable with it in the slightest. Listen to the way he stumbled through his answer. He’s scared to death of that woman. She’s making the money, she’s a spender, if he tries to stop the slide, she’ll toss him out on the street.

  • @steelsteez6118
    @steelsteez6118 Před 7 měsíci

    44:03 Watches. Definitely wrist watches. Getting that Lange & Sohne one day!

  • @pacer2165
    @pacer2165 Před 11 měsíci +3

    Kids don't remember much when they are 3 years old. I don't have any memories before I turned 5. And those memories have faded over time. The reasons for this trip make no sense. If it's for her to re-charge, then great. But if seems like this is more to impress her friends and kids. I hope they get their priorities strait. Western culture has a mindset of wanting things now and pay later. I've done this myself so I can't be too judgmental. .

  • @justinschexnayder8485
    @justinschexnayder8485 Před 24 dny

    This is the stuff I think about before I make purchases

  • @mariapadilla7501
    @mariapadilla7501 Před rokem +8

    WTH, I would rather defer a leisure trip and saving my money. Who the hell cares about keeping up with the Shallow Jonses!

  • @AccidentalCarnivore-ul3kg
    @AccidentalCarnivore-ul3kg Před 5 měsíci

    New Subscriber! ❤ I am so glad I found your channel…it just popped into my feed. Wow! 🙏🏾 I am learning quite a bit. I’m in my early 50’s and felt I was too late to being saving and investing. I realized that it is possible to change one’s habits and create a life that you want.

  • @gigglegagaing5
    @gigglegagaing5 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Live within your means people!!!!

  • @StorytellingHeadshots
    @StorytellingHeadshots Před 8 měsíci +2

    Lol… the timing of the NESS ad. He just said: “Stop it with the signing up for the credit cards with the points!!!” And then the NESS ad comes on. Lol oh the irony 🤦‍♀️

  • @DonjiKong
    @DonjiKong Před 11 měsíci

    8:48 had my dying 😂

  • @CharlotteRentals
    @CharlotteRentals Před 8 měsíci +4

    They’re totally out of control and a 3 yr old will NEVER remember Singapore so that’s only an excuse

  • @steezmonster92
    @steezmonster92 Před 6 měsíci +1

    I left medical school because I realized the only reason I wanted to be a doctor because of the societal reputation, respect etc but didn’t really connect with the work. While I was in school, I assumed money would never ever be an issue and I’d be raking in multiple 6 figures. While I took a year of debt with me, it was the kick in the butt I needed to learn and take my personal finances seriously.

  • @candecarro
    @candecarro Před 23 dny

    I LOVE this podcast, Ramit! I look forward to new episodes. I find it hard to imagine, though, how you decided to promote the NessWell credit card. It doesn’t seem like you to promote your listeners get a new credit card! Although I’m a Health & Nutrition Coach, I don’t spend “a lot” on health and wellness. I take classes, continuing education, whole foods, and some other things, the promotions that NessWell is offering (in your ad) seem to contrast with what you typically recommend to your interviewees-i.e., the extra points and money back for spending $6,000, using accumulated points for health & wellness items (it’s similar to my Amzn Prime card ).
    Anyway, can you address this contradiction?